How To Stop Someone From Bullying You

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You probably got yourself a bully and you're wondering, what do I do next? How do you deal with a bully? How do you stop them from bullying you? Let's talk about 5 ways to get our personal space, preventing the bullies.
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[@lauriejeantzeitelliorabrow4412]

Some people are simply sadistic and they truly enjoy being cruel to others

[@sethcashman1011]

Very true. The once- (and still-) popular notion that all bullies are bullies because of self-loathing or low self-esteem is simply not always true. Some people are just, as you said, sadistic.

[@Paradox3627505]

@@sethcashman1011 Yeah,...until they start getting a taste of their own medicine.

[@lachlanB323]

@@Paradox3627505 Only fight back if this solution in the video doesn't work. Because if they aren't sadistic then your going to make the whole situation MUCH worse. And bullys being sadistic is much less likely

[@jojozepofthejungle2655]

They were once young scared and bullied by a parent or school children and they figured out how to play the same game. Bullies are cowards and it's that simple. Tip, if someone threatens you, tell them to do it RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW or pissoff.

[@jojozepofthejungle2655]

@@Paradox3627505 🤪😜🥳

[@coiledsteel8344]

Sometimes the Worst Bullies Are the Ones You Are Closest to.

[@timmywitty1432]

Sounds like a narcissistic family set up.

[@aryakeepsafe4142]

Like a family member

[@virginiamoss7045]

Like a parent.

[@1963christmas]

Very true because they know you best including all your vulnerabilities. They know where your weaknessess are and exactly which buttons to push.

[@bork4339]

Like my cousin

[@taylorpresley4604]

There needs to be a law against workplace bullying. It is ridiculous, we have a society of insecure narcissistic monsters.

[@k.g.m.254]

🎯

[@BaiQla]

It's called mobbing

[@kittycatshorts6313]

Yeah l have one every Second

[@emirturkekole]

L

[@arronstamp6734]

Generally the person you have to report to is the one bullying you, the manager or supervisor.

[@daisyrammutle2572]

I don't understand why this world 🌍 is full of cruel people like bully's 😔💔

[@TheLeslieMichelle]

I had a manager for a bully. It made me feel horrible. But one day another manager saw how I was being treated and said something. The next day, that manager wasn't there anymore. I'm grateful to this day for that other manager.

[@gertrudewest4535]

That kind of justice rarely happens.

[@chickedeedee292]

Rare occurrence.

[@Tubes12AX7k]

One of the first office managers I had in my first "real" job at a large company was like that. I'll be honest, I kind of set him up one time - I knew that he was going to act in a condescending or bad way one time and I made sure that it happened right in front of his boss. He got some minor discipline for it and I didn't have to say or do anything.

[@towaritch]

@@gertrudewest4535 sure didn't happen to me.

[@towaritch]

@always right not where I worked (Government). They might have called the 👮.

[@natalya1960]

People if you see someone getting bullied please... Stand up for them don't be part of bully's 😊😊

[@kntwing23]

that person would join the bully bullies that person ?

[@user-pe7nj3ct3d]

I just got this mercy thingy but i can fight the bully because i do taekwondo btw im a virgo

[@bobmarshall3700]

Why would someone post a video with such bad English grammar? The plural of "bully" is "bullies". There is NO APOSTROPHE!

[@user-pe7nj3ct3d]

@@bobmarshall3700 the comment or mine

[@Switzer1234]

Don't be part of BULLIES (not BULLY'S).😉

[@pertnear3372]

Family bullies are the worst!

[@Kim-wt2gl]

Yup, because they can set you up to be bullied out in the world.

[@heleneg525]

Bullying in school is different from bullying in the workplace. The former is more blatant and easily identifiable. The latter is more subtle and less identifiable; it’s passive-aggressive behavior.

[@Gk2003m]

The problem with bullies is they recognize each other instantly, and then team up to inflict themselves on others.

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Yes they surely do... they learn each other's tricks and they are extremely tenacious ☠️🕸️🦇

[@alyssaleatham8544]

Absolutely. I have a bully for a neighbor. Got his kids in on it and then the other neighbors joined in. I have my kids walk with me from the house to car and back. So ready to give up.

[@altha-rf1et]

it is not just one person bullying another it is two or three or even more bulling against 1 person

[@daniby9894]

That's ganging...

[@rod7177]

@Just Moi You're probably right. Being able to influence others to join the cause...

[@shaureee4400]

I am only 12 years old, and I get bullied by this 16 year old every single day. I only watched your video today but it is making me feel more confident already. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful advice sir, I am sure it helps many kids and teens like me🙂.

[@Vxllain]

shaureee Same, I also get bullied by older kids and nearly got my phone stolen today. They literally had me on the verge of suicide but i talked myself out of it. Be strong, my friend. Be strong.

[@3KeyElements]

Hey, it's me - Kirk. I wanted to tell you that you are strong, and you are powerful. I got bullied as a kid too.. they called me stupid and chubby and not good enough. Now I have a successful company that helps people all over the world. You have a great future ahead... Don't worry about what your 16 year old bully says. I believe in you! You can do incredible things - I just know it. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Remember that. :)

[@clevewestmoreland8265]

shaureee Dont listen to the bully. Your Awesome man. Bullies are just jealous of you. Your awesome and very brave 😎

[@theresaguilfoyle5795]

Bullies are cowards. They feel inadequate. It makes them feel big to pick on somebody younger or smsller.

[@isabellahamilton4562]

I’m 11 and I get bullied 😕

[@choward5430]

What worked for me is this. My father said, "fight him"! If you lose, so what! You'll gain his respect and he'll move on. Well, I fought him just like the kid on Christmas Story." Only he fought back. We fought for about 2-3 minutes and then, he walked away. I FELT GREAT!

[@choward5430]

@@najibullahghafori3739 You can! If a point comes of no way out but fight, stand your ground, pay attention! Keep your eyes locked on when he throws a punch. He will headhunt. Duck and counter with your strong hand directly to his gut. Punch as hard as you can. He'll either go down unable to breathe or he'll know he's hurt.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Sometimes I don't think I'm all that bad Other times I go down memory lane and Remer everyone I stopped talking sh or causing sh and everyone I beat up In conclusion 😁, in my defense, do not fn try me. Just bc I dont show sh or act enough of this and that, don't think I dont got sh in me

[@derekpascal3749]

A machete at your side creates peace. Keep it sharp. Use it as needed.

[@jamesjarrett52]

When you have a bully group, strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter.

[@grammyd8361]

No, not always! Sometimes it gets worse.

[@JonBandMiley]

@@grammyd8361 That's what a war is. The other side won't give up as easily either. But if you surrender it will just get worse for the rest of your life. The victim will deal with the memories and pschological damage for the rest of his or her life if he/she doesn't do anything about it. The bully(ies) will forget about it once it's over cuz for them there's no problem. Same thing with rape ... the rapists doesn't mind cuz it's not his problem, but the victim remembers it and remain hurt and develop comfort zones and have danger zones. Also they will have trust issues.

[@1zebracrossing]

Great

[@valleyechoes9334]

Amen

[@Stretching1215]

This is law 42 from Robert Greene’s “The 48 Laws of Power”

[@viknendranmahalingam3177]

Bullies are actually cowards, they will only know how to pick on people weaker than them. Don't be intimidated by them, once you stand up to them they will move away.

[@natureboy2396]

That’s the truth!

[@teafer4143]

wtf this kid in my school is like 30cm shorter than me and slim as a stick . he always just yell at me and insult me. i know its very sad for him but always when he yells something and i ignore or yell back like wazzup bro his friends always laugh. and thats the only reason why he continues. wtf im supposed to do

[@hannah60000]

Or someone they perceive to be “weaker than them”.

[@EmmieTuesday]

not adult bullies. they typically have deep pockets and are in it to see me decimated.

[@boxergirl84]

In most cases it's case the bully feels weak an insecure The person they pick on usually has something they admire or are jealous of

[@Krissy_K888]

I think today's bullies have evolved past these tricks. What they do now is lie to people that you are the bully and they are the victim and then they gang up on you based on that.

[@AJC-jo3ds]

You described Donald Trump to a T!!

[@cherbearbear]

@Flora GoodVibes what if it’s your child? You can remove yourself from the equation.

[@cherbearbear]

Can’t, i meant

[@midnightwitch606]

Like my dad dose, mum is just as bad as him most of the time

[@michelle20900]

@@rod7177 yep, they have been into msm way too much.

[@ladychatelaine697]

Thankfully, I've always stuck up for myself so have not been bullied. Don't let anyone intimidate you, ever! 🙂🙋‍♀️🇬🇧

[@angieliles8001]

🍀 Lucky

[@angieliles8001]

@Sticknodes Animations ❤️

[@thevagabondsageinthewoods]

As a child growing up, I had one best friend. We were like sisters. Always together. Then a new girl moved into our neighborhood and immediately latched on to my friend. The two of them ganged up on me every day after school. It traumatized me and to this day, I have issues w/loyalty. Bullies affect us, sometimes long-term.

[@harrietthespy2119]

Pleeeease seek EMDR therapy (+ IFS if possible) for your trauma, dear friend🙏🙏🙏 You can heal what these people did to you, and you totally deserve the healing (and DID NOT deserve the bullying!!!)❤️‍🩹

[@thevagabondsageinthewoods]

@@harrietthespy2119 Harriet the Spy, the book, actually helped me. I never got counseling for that. I have learned a lot about forgiveness however, walking the path that I do now. Thank you. 🙏

[@mygirldarby]

A lot of school bullies do it in groups though. It's hard when you're just one person and 4 or 5 people are bullying you.

[@altha-rf1et]

What makes me mad when it happens none of the other students who gets bullied goes to help the one that is,, you will have 15 or 20 kids just standing around watching 3 bully one kid, They all should step in

[@doctortimetv1577]

When that happens if you need to fight going for the leader disperses bullies if you take them down and to quantify this i mean if you have no choice but to fight

[@brianwalker1933]

Seek revenge on them...One at a time!!

[@altha-rf1et]

@@brianwalker1933 that is what I did, pour sugar in their gas tanks Flatten the tires on one truck one at a time, Then on Prom night asked a girl out that the bullies girl friends was picking on she said yes, we dance one time then got revenge on all of them that night

[@pam164]

Yes the bully always has is minions around him.

[@SatanenPerkele]

Bullies are narcissists and psychopaths. Don't feel sorry for them because they have no soul.

[@conserztasfia0078]

Don't be mean I know they are heartless but we are not We have humanity

[@annikalyssecooke1503]

To say the very least 🌸🌸🌸

[@ventail2912]

Hey your right

[@ghuxlhexxalot_]

50% of bullies have abusive lifestyle with their parents and they show their anger in weak people

[@ricebunnymoon4624]

@@conserztasfia0078 thats why they pick one you

[@jhanimalluvr5932]

I wish that teachers would spend some time on this with kids. Sometimes kids’ home lives are so unsupported, they need allies.

[@anne-rc2tl]

Some of us do. I believe teaching social skills, respect for others and themselves, how to handle social media, and how to handle unkindness. And I don't tolerate ANY bullying or meanness from my students. Most kids are not being taught at home, or seeing positive role models at home.

[@IngridWin]

We really do spend a lot of time on this! It helps most if parents teach them strategies. Mostly, it is standing up to them by developing yourself. Friends must be upstanders though.

[@triciasimon283]

Tried this with a hard of hearing, unhappy, negative narcissistic, 88 year old relative. I just decided live my life as if unaffected by her.

[@specialk2183]

I'm sure many do...but so many teachers don't.

[@kyleheart8580]

A lot of times it’s pure jealousy I use to wonder why so many ppl automatically acted like they didn’t like me although I was always very nice to them once I understood it wasn’t nothing to do with me people throw rocks at things that shine I won’t ever dim my light to fit in with the crowd like I use too if people don’t like me ok I like me

[@Kim-wt2gl]

That's right. People that are unhappy bully other people.

[@RPM11111]

Hurt people hurt people is not always true. There are hurt people who don't hurt other people and get no pleasure from it. Also there are unhurt people who hurt people because they have bad aspects about their personality.

[@xres1329]

Been there, done that. No more.

[@Unlike230]

Absolutely 👌...

[@pam164]

You find a lot of bullies have bad backgrounds! But why should other people suffer.

[@xres1329]

@@pam164 Shelters are full of hurt people. But only fraction of them pass on their anguish to unconnected others.

[@goodmorningsundaymorning4533]

Well said! Agree 💯

[@blackcurrantpop]

Don’t ever blame yourself once you’re bullied. Bullying is never justified. People get bullied because they stand out from the others. Because they look different or etc...

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Very true

[@mcmc8556]

Sometimes it is not your fault if you get bully but sometimes it's your fault if you keep getting bullied. You are allowing the disrespect. People will push as far as they can if you allow them.

[@YANAMization]

I was bullied because I look like Whoopi Goldberg. Now I say "I look like a living legend and you look like average____. "

[@Rich.Staples]

The bullies are to blame and they are the ones that need to change NOT the victims.

[@yuanfeng7266]

@@mcmc8556 True true. It's difficult for me to find a balance to stay a tough figure to the bullies at the same time not to hurt the feelings of nice people in general. Although I get bullied by others but a lot of people are still nice to me so I might appear a bit rude to them. But if I don't stay a tough figure I might get bullied by someone. In fact I don't even know now people are bullying me or just offended by me. I'm in a constant psychological conflict and don't know what to do.

[@aryakeepsafe4142]

My family have a lot of bullies . There's different types of bullying too . Sometimes it can be so subtle that you and others don't realise . But over a period of time you feel more and more degraded .

[@steveburgamy4262]

I think when a bunch of guys are beating on one guy, we’ve gone past the “bullying” stage

[@lorilewlewis4915]

I am 58 and recently got bullied by two old women in their 70's!!!! This happened at a Book Group!

[@wendyleeconnelly2939]

@Emma Hawke of course it does. why would it not?

[@jennytaylor3324]

I believe you. The world is only an extension of the schoolroom, and it a preparation for life. Old people can be formidable. My own mother, 80, has just last week had to block an 80+ age 'friend' from sending her upsetting emails (long story!)

[@sarahstrong7174]

Shock Horror!

[@kesheenpaul2998]

No way! I hope you managed to resolve the issue!

[@TheCandaceH]

So much for nice old people. lol

[@SarahSmith-nr2wj]

This is really all true, but if you are unwell, have unhealed childhood trauma, and a full blown narcissisist in your face, it can be way more complex.

[@NothingByHalves]

It's not more complex, Sarah, it's just incredibly tough and unfair. The only way to deal with narcissists as an adult, which you would have attracted through being an empath (narcissists are magnetically drawn to giving people) is to get away from their energy altogether. This isn't bullying, this is abuse... And this is a terrible trap to be in when you are physically and emotionally burned out. First thing is to appreciate how incredibly strong you are. I agree with this guy's suggestions but not if you are in the same space and/or dependent on a narcissist. Sending big hugs 🤗

[@k.g.m.254]

@@NothingByHalves 🎯

[@lauramakin834]

Sometimes bullies can be within the family : \

[@Kim-wt2gl]

A lot of time. They're all over the place.

[@eloyruiz2855]

When I was in high school I was all ready a black belt on karate so I was defending all the younger kids from the bullies & I gain a lots of friends by doing this.

[@agnia_qa7277]

that's cool :D

[@Pavithra8]

👏👏

[@herlindagarcia1150]

❤

[@Peter_1986]

That is awesome.

[@cassandro9445]

More people should do that! ❤😊 You're awesome!

[@teresacowles4189]

Grew up in a family of bullies. Later called them A-Holes. Now they are truly narcissists. The population of them is growing. As soon as you can get your heart and mind and trust back on track, the back stabbing and throwing under the bus starts up again. Go complete no contact and run as fast as you can.

[@kristinburton4953]

The best advice I ever took was, "Never look back". When you make a decision to leave someone in your past, don't start thinking it wasn't that bad. Yes it was that bad, never go back to the past and trust the A-Holes that made you want to leave them, because ...Fool/abuse me once shame on you, fool/abuse me twice shame on me. Don't give anyone, including relatives the chance to make you feel ashamed of yourself for getting abused/used/fooled again.

[@EmbraceTerror]

I've developed a simple way of quickly deciphering who to trust.

[@alicephoenixpoetryjournal9062]

@@kristinburton4953 wow thank you for the message!

[@cisvaughan6937]

Yep. Sometimes the only thing to do is to get away. When the death toll begins t o mount up, go missing person, even if you get disinherited. Just get the **** away.

[@ebony41441]

Same here

[@khazehigginz1244]

I'm focusing on myself I don't even notice if someone is bullying me, I don't care half the time. adults who bully are not adults, their children

[@flofedup982]

They're not children either...they're just bullies!!!

[@raymcmahan5080]

To be fair, even non-bullying adults are really just children on the inside. But yeah a lot of bullies are still feeling powerless like kids so they need to feel in control of someone else's status to not feel bad about themself.

[@billyjean7169]

Agree

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

Adults who bully aren't adults. They are like kids....amen I love it.

[@Meme-je5ps]

I Say game on to bullies. Don't allow another human being to make u live in fear.

[@polly1017]

If a bully says something that is negative about you, say this back to them, " sorry YOU feel that way. " it gives it back to them,it's their problem not yours. And this also makes you realise that person has problems not you ,which immediately boosts your confidence.: )

[@gelbsucht947]

Sometimes your bully is the person you’re married to.

[@NightinGal89]

Narcissists

[@noorr.8211]

Yeah right.

[@samanthabriggs5037]

Yep but 😆u don’t have to stay married to them we have choices in life and u can chose to leave.

[@gelbsucht947]

@@samanthabriggs5037 some of us did already.

[@Eli-dx5zr]

Divorce them then

[@theresaguilfoyle5795]

Thank you. I live in retirement block and we have bully in her eighties. True. She walks around all puffed up with her own self importance and carries on as though she is in charge. We had a manager leave because she made her life a misery. And yes she was an abused wife. All old people are not sweet and nice.

[@niaawn9319]

I’m dealing with a similar person in my apartment. Such a nightmare.

[@NoName-oy2km]

Old people are not always nice or respectable. If someone is a dirt bag at 30, 40, 50, chances are they will be dirt bags at 60, 70, 80. Theres no magical rebirth with old age. And yes, i do respect my elders, although not if they are dirtbags.

[@homodeus8713]

She has large personal space.

[@lorilewlewis4915]

I got bullied by two women in their late 70's, at a Book Group. I am 58. I wonder if they have always been Bullies!!!

[@sarahbrennan1342]

Lorilew Lewis they are jealous and narcissistic...

[@samk.4158]

You're completely right when you say the majority of bullies pick on those with a small "personable" bubble. They can sense it by your body language and other ways.

[@harrietthespy2119]

I love this! I’ve shrunk smaller and smaller when with bullies, falsely believing it would make me less of a target. It soooo doesn’t work! At times when I’ve had enough, I’ve let myself take up more space in the room and sit in postures which indicate I’m done placating the bully. It is ASTOUNDING how quickly this supposed brave person starts to look and act afraid of me! Bullying traumatizes us, at any age and we all deserve healing from it! EMDR/IFS trauma therapy is VERY helpful!

[@hanula59]

Ive never been bullied although people have tried at work. But they all only tried once and then they didn’t want to try anymore. I immediately would confront them. I would confront them in the crowd or at a meeting or where the big boss was present. They never wanted to try to bully me, or criticise me, or ask me to repeat what I said ( I have a slight accent) again! One time a bully even wrote me an apology letter because I refused ( publicly) to accept his apology, I was so pissed at them that I kept confronting. DO NOT EVER BE SCARED of these pathetic little characters and they will leave you alone. Because they are cowards.

[@LLastRose]

How did you confront them infront of an audience? Id like to know

[@hanula59]

littlesmiless_ they are cowards. Emanate courage and they will stay away.

[@itsallaboutthebenjamins2116]

I recently had a bully at work and reported her to management. She now sits quietly at her desk like a church mouse instead of me taking gut punches from her... I'm very proud of myself for standing up to her.

[@hanula59]

Itsallaboutthebenjamins well done! This is how bulling will be stopped. They are cowards and they try to find someone weaker to push around. They will run away if you show assertiveness. But the worse ones are the ones who plot with others who have been duped by them.

[@kristinamullen4066]

Many co workers attempted to bully me and I immediately pushed back .They stopped after that first attempt.But now there's a new boss who has tried to bully me several times.I don't like to be forced into confrontations over trivial matters.But I'm planning to report the person to higher ups if it continues.I did push back a few times but the boss keeps trying because I'm not as vocally assertive as some of my co workers who don't get bullied.

[@Darkscenes-jp4ge]

Making fun of someone and laughing at their face Touching someone ,hurting someone, calling them mean names stealing stuff from someone breaking or destroying someone's stuff ,following them when they don't want to be followed repeatedly talking to them when they don't wanna talk to you all of that is considered to be Bullying even if it happens on the internet too

[@user-co4yq1nr1u]

Hi,I’m 10 years old and I’m here to thank you, you made me braver because there was a bully,he always scratches me until I bleed,and he steals my food every day, he calls me names,also he says at least 2 bad words every day,and I don’t know how to fight back,he always makes me feel sad,so thank you,you changed my whole life,mister😊

[@Misha123andlpsProducts]

Back in sixth grade when I was young I was being bullied I finally had enough and stood up for myself. And I got the respect! Never was bullied again. You just have to stand your ground and speak up for yourself. Best device my mom ever gave me

[@bettttta]

What do you say then?

[@OVERxDxD]

@@bettttta uh attack their race or weight or religion. protip: threaten to bring AR-15 to school. step 3: ??? step 4: $$$$PROFIT$$$$$ i love the internet 😂🤣

[@petersteenkamp]

What happens is that the bully wants to play out a certain stage play in which he acts a certain role (the winning one) and you act a certain role (the losing one). He will try to find somebody to play the other role. And try to manipulate you to play the other role. And if you refuse to play that role, it also prevents the bully from playing his role, and that will mess up the bully's stage play.

[@Katrica670]

@Peter so how do you change the stage?

[@petersteenkamp]

@@Katrica670 Don't play the role assigned to you and learn to communicate under stress. Also: who gets bullied? Primarily those with the weakest social skills. Who has low social skills in elementary school? Those who got neglected as a small child by their parents. You can still get your social skills at a later date, but only if you don't shrink back from social activity due to the bullying.

[@JonBandMiley]

@@petersteenkamp No, they bully the weakest guy he can find. Either the weakeset or the one that WON'T fight back.. like the ones who say, "Violence is not the answer" or "Turn the other cheek." And they do this cuz girls LOVE guys who pick on other guys they know are weaker than them.

[@billybob4532]

I’m not gonna have peace with a bully even if they are going through something. You shouldn’t take anger out on people.

[@purityshallabide1645]

Learning to have peace with a bully doesn't mean you agree with them, it means that your own integrity and character have more power and influence, not only over your own mind, but also over them. You then are becoming the real Influencer and that causes them to lose their power over you. In the process, they might begin to change and become a better person simply because you choose to be a better than them now. Either way it's a win win situation.

[@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807]

Bullies should stay to themselves when frustrated. I go in solitude and that's what bullies should do

[@purityshallabide1645]

@Raghav Dinesh 😂 or insist on a Dance off.. 🕺hehehe they won't see that coming either.

[@Chrissywalters]

@@purityshallabide1645 😂😂😂 like Westside Story! 😂😂

[@hisnewlife3543]

Thank you.

[@g.montoya5658]

I'm 67 and get bullied. 2 teens and I were cleaning the church's driveway when the bully finally saw me outside. She came up to me and the 2 boys saying mean lies about me and we just stared at her and didn't say or show expressions on our face. After she was done repeating herself she didn't get a response so she left.

[@worzi3]

A "lack of ethics" by a medical professional is a form of "Bullying"!

[@noelgibson5956]

As a man with Asperger's, I was bullied at school and in early adulthood. Two solutions often worked for me:- the first where I just totally show that I'm unoffended by what was said to me, and just laugh, or just shout at, and frighten them, showing them you will stand up if need be, depending on the situation. One thing I realized I couldn't do was rely on other people to defend me, as they couldn't always be present anyway. The methods I used didn't turn these bullies into my friends, but at least they backed off from that point, on. I realized being nice got me nowhere with these people, so learned new approaches.

[@madeleinejones3972]

🙏🏼💛

[@Jay-vr9ir]

I know we should forgive people that trespass, but I went to Catholic school and we were punished and there was not much forgiveness .

[@saloni495]

Woah that's really great

[@marianamercedescava1441]

This is great because actually what you were showing was that you dont care what they think of you and are unaffected by it. This takes a lot of personal power and confidence. And exactly what they what to do is hurt and see your reaction and that's what you didnt give them. 👏👏👏

[@noelgibson5956]

@@marianamercedescava1441 Exactly. They want a reaction. If you starve them of that, they just get bored. A kid in high school once told me I looked like a serial killer. I said to him:- 'well don't tell everyone.......keep it our little secret' 😉 You can't change the bully. They're who they are. It's about changing your responses. I'm a huge believer in tackling the cause, not the symptoms. 😃

[@edgelord6215]

Well I stopped my bully by beating him up with a chair

[@lorrainewalters4640]

🤣🤣 thanks.

[@ajl2232]

Proud of you.

[@robertpinto9217]

Bart Simpson would be proud.

[@Idkifthisisavaliduser]

i stopped a person bullying me by throwing a soccer ball at there face

[@plerpplerp5599]

Yes. Works every time. 😁👍

[@denisejones1863]

So true. We must appear strong and capable to the world, even if inside we don't feel like it. Walk with confidence like you have a place to be, keep a slight smile on your face, and make eye contact with those around you. You need to blend in, don't stand out from the group. Don't be too smart, too pretty, too popular, too wealthy, too thin or fat etc. Find a couple of close friends and don't try to be part of the crowd.

[@bulletproof9766]

Because of the bullies I was dealing with depression Now I am in process of getting rid of my depression My mom says I am not enough old for getting bullied This video helped me thank you

[@janicemurphy7878]

A bully said this to when I was asked to be on a committee, he said, did not know they were looking for assholes; I said your name was never brought up. Awm

[@sweetmissypetuniawilson9206]

I thought awm meant, "Angry white man or male?" But your name says Janice. I'm cornfuzed!

[@cc-wy4bs]

Love yurself/ yru confidence will go up. He's sooooo right!!!!😁

[@cc-wy4bs]

I ment: there SHARKS- LOOKING FOR BLOOD TO FEED OFF.... U change/ .

[@janicemurphy7878]

Sweet Missy Petunia Wilson ,I never thought of angry white man, but no that's my name AWM! I am a man and I am angry does match my initials. Awm

[@goodmorningsundaymorning4533]

👍 great comeback.

[@johnwellingtoniii5734]

They get it from their parents. Most of the time the boys see their father bullying/ abusing their mother. Behavior is learned from your parents.

[@vladimirnoriega5793]

That's no excuse once you're an adult you have to be responsible for your own actions

[@sweetmissypetuniawilson9206]

@@vladimirnoriega5793 I could be wrong but I believe they are talking about bullies that are minors. ☮️💜

[@captainpinky8307]

simp. alot of woman bully their male members

[@annastarr2043]

How would you know that? Do you have first hand experience? In that case you must be one of those bullies

[@marianamercedescava1441]

Or actually they themselves are bullied by their parents. Parent bullying is really common though nobody talks about it.

[@hopeeternal6450]

Totally works with narcissism too ;)...as long as you are aware you cant believe anything they say.

[@deepanshunayar7934]

Accept yourself for who you are, that is the best way to overcome bullying.

[@rebeccabrear4456]

I have a 75 year old bully, who lives next door to my apartment:( , I'm 69.. I didn't know that bullies existed in the senior years, boy am I wrong, and shocked! 😮 She's terrible! Thank you so much for sharing this video, very helpful info:)

[@blancahumphrey532]

I have an in law who is a bully. 70 years old . I am 82.

[@paulleigh7792]

Nasty old people were invariably nasty young people.

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

Such numbers😂 Where’s 43???

[@raymcmahan5080]

Do you know their past? I wonder if your 75 year old bully neighbor was a bully when younger or if dementia is making her act badly.

[@clairek7462]

I heard about a school that encourages their pupils to shout "Bully, this is a bully" if they feel they are being bullied.

[@meenakshi_007]

Being a girl who has been bullied for 7 years STRAIGHT, I can feel this on a deeper level. Watching this to help a friend of mine who is getting cyber-bullied :)

[@mnear4521]

As an adult initially was like I can't believe I'm watching this bullying advice stuff feels very elementary but man was I wrong this stuff is amazing and I wish I knew it sooner. Thank you so much. Can't wait to try it with few miserable negative colleagues who seem to enjoy bugging me personally at work for no reason...literally throwing shades, mean teasing, personal characteristics attack seems like they really enjoy ruining my reputation. Which is total bullying even though it's very subtle...and its been pissing me off and stressing me out lately. I think the crazy thing is like u said this bullying stuff can happen to us at any age, I felt silly clicking on this video and had the wrong misconception of this being a highschool BS people deal with, glad to realize that now.

[@k9aussie898]

Thankyou but it's hard when nearly everybody at the school is a bully and you have no friends, but I won't give up!

[@vere9652]

I have it same

[@stenionet]

Life is short. if your school is so bad, try going to another one. One who has an anti-bullying policy.

[@LoveBeautyFun7]

Learn everything you can about Assertiveness.

[@4fingers527]

@@stenionet i know but im not telling my parents, just don't want to make them confused , i was actually want to move but i don't tell the real reason . Hemm I can't wait a year and a half that i can go to the next high schooler

[@4fingers527]

Yeeaa but i wont give up too🎉

[@katwatkins7567]

This is really unfortunate. People who were abused as children by their parents already have developed a small personal space making them perpetual targets for bullies later on in life. There's no let up. I reckon it would require professional help to develop self-esteem since the parents never allowed it to develop by abusing their child/ren.

[@1963christmas]

Very true Kat. X

[@relaxation-Corner]

My life story

[@42kellys]

That's true.

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

Manipulative

[@historiqueafricaine1225]

I have been throught that🙋🏾‍♀️

[@biblestudieswithdomlaf3310]

I just realized, I married a bully! My eldest son overheard the convo and told me he cried all night. I felt awful he had to hear it and he told me, don’t feel bad for me mom, I feel bad that you were being told those nasty things. I’m learning

[@redwoods7370]

The most difficult bullies I've had to deal with have been at work. Mostly bosses who were bullies. Very hard to manage that because of vindictiveness on their part if you stand up for yourself. It's always been such a headache. I have actually quit a few jobs over it.

[@wisdomislife8989]

Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay

[@wisdomislife8989]

Text him on WhatsApp

[@tommyinnitt]

Thank you so much 😊 I texted the bully saying how are you just want to make sure your alright and he blocked me 😂 thank you!!!!

[@mariaking4950]

That's excellent, well done! And it's very funny too!

[@EmbraceTerror]

Nice!!!

[@user-ob3gy3zo6y]

Lol, great!,

[@emayzing5210]

😆😆😆 That is great. Well done.

[@masada2828]

He has the problem, not u.

[@sarelito9202]

People with low self esteem are not always emotionally able to switch their view of themselves just by wanting to. We have a lot of people that come to us for problems of this nature, and they only manage to change the game once they have had psychological support that allows them to heal the issues that produced the low self esteem. It's important to point this out because the person's self esteem can go even lower when they fail to change their thoughts about themselves without help.

[@bonnieblood3983]

I know bullies who have been treated as though they could do no wrong. They are arrogant, and prideful because they have been told all their lives how special and wonderful they are. They haven't been hurt. They just feel entitled to think, say, and do whatever they want to do, and they don't give a flip about how their victims feel. I do not, for one second, believe "hurt people, hurt people." That's a cop out excuse for these jerks.

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

This makes sense too!

[@deer105]

There are situations- usually adult situations- where the stronger a victim becomes and the more effectively they resist the bully on a psychological level the more abusive the bully becomes. It doesn't happen in casual social situations. It happens when the bully has total and complete financial control of the victim through employment or marriage. Bullies with complete financial control are more like slave owners than bullies. The more confident a victim is the more distressed the bully becomes and the more the bully compulsively abuses their power to undermine and attack the victim.

[@loveearthspirit829]

It's so terrible to be in this position. I wish you all get through it and feel your personal power!

[@kazfleszar5899]

i was bullied all of my life .even into my teens then i started work and the bullieing started there i said to myself no way .so i stuck up for myself and they backed off if only i new this years ago.

[@JustmeSEVEN]

Sorry to know that bro :'(

[@JustmeSEVEN]

I hope ur happy with urself right now ;))

[@goodmorningsundaymorning4533]

Your parents never taught you to stand up for yourself? That's really sad.

[@MrzBadaBing]

Pray for them . Still treat them the way you would wanted to be treated . Never become bitter because someone else is. Bullies are just people who are hurt inside .

[@Kim-wt2gl]

You have to set boundaries with them.

[@its_max9306]

I get bullied, thank you 🙏 you make me not letting my life destroyed u have a warming heart 💖

[@jtdrexel]

I went to a public high school in Philly. I highly doubt expanding my personal space would’ve reduced the bullying I received. I’m not sure if inviting a bully to come sit next to me will have the same affect as what you described. What eventually did help, was that I started going to the gym and started getting strong and building self-confidence.

[@adshar20000]

Same thing he said

[@jaredloveless]

Doubt not, fear not, neither let your heart be afraid.

[@TheAutisticGeek206]

Sadly, bullying will never ever perish.

[@oldishandwoke-ish1181]

Only when humanity perishes.

[@Thagomizer]

@@oldishandwoke-ish1181 Humanity deserves to be destroyed and annihilated.

[@notbonald]

@@Thagomizer Yup. Our existence was never meant to be.

[@danielmccoy8553]

Identify something that the bully is self conscious about and counter attack. Make them mad, isolate them, make them attack you in public then you can either fight them (if you can) or they will be dealt with by the authorities and their power diminished because they will be socially isolated.

[@jimmyj3440]

Ignore them, unless it physical

[@ladysmith7747]

I worked with a bully. Everytime that he started his nonsense I silently prayed for him. Then I would write a short note on small slip of paper and put it in a notebook. At the end of the week I would take the notes out and pray for him. At the end of year I realized that he wasn´t going to change and I left my job. It was just too much of a downer to be around someone like that.

[@lookandlisten5740]

You'll always be a victim if you have that approach. Did you confront him, tell him to get off your back..or ask him what do you want ? If you're timid it's like a red tag to a bull to some of these people.... Praying for him ...when he's preying on you. !

[@becausehelivees4672]

@@lookandlisten5740 when you tell them the problem you have about them... guess what, you're fueling them... what he did was better and should also be our response to these slights...

[@ritahall2378]

Most bullies are adults and their children are afraid of them so they become bullies- That’s the trend I see- All my life I never met a bully as a child that didn’t have a parent that was a bully

[@UltimateForceMarketing]

I know one right now..and he is our landlord oh and his prick of a son doesnt understand that civilized people are "supposed" to naturally respect their elders? However, neither do represent themselves worthy civilized and especially respectful & honorable decent people!! However, i intend on "closing the gap" between us and findout whats on the other side of this sinister activity?? (@@)??

[@raymondpruitt3399]

“Bully’s “ indicates that which belongs to the bully. Bullies is plural - more than one bully.

[@Ujuani68]

I saw that too.

[@belladonna3249]

It shouldn't matter, but somehow it does 😂. I found it really distracting.

[@Spirit-oh8pk]

A lot of times people who bully you are actually envious of you

[@robertgibbs7513]

When I was a kid I dealt with kid bullies and adult bullies bullies failed to break my spirit they couldn't get the job done I'm a strong man today and I still deal with bullies out in public but I don't let them get to me they don't come at me physically anymore they run their mouth I don't give them the victory they are nothing I look at my bullies as insignificant worthless they got nothing better to do because they don't have nothing important on in their life so they try to bully

[@ravenel2]

This is excellent! Yes! There is something about when you get off of the bully’s wavelength, you are free. You get hooked into them because something about their abuse may actually be resonating with how you think about yourself. Have you ever noticed that when a bully does something so bad that it doesn’t affect you emotionally, that you are free? You think, wow, that person’s crazy and it has nothing to do with me. You’re not even upset by it and the bully disappears.

[@gsymmonds3487]

Yeah, I agree with this. I'd say that was Step One, to be honest. With Expanding Personal Space as step 2 - for damage control. Fending off the bullies is a long way from being respected by or friendly with them, but that is what's needed to control a situation, especially in adult bullying situations at work or education.

[@vittorianesse]

I did this. I smiled and walked straight up to the girl who asked me to meet her so she could bash me, and looked her in the eye and said hi Nicole and waited. Crickets. She walked away and never bothered me again.

[@EthanKhoo68]

I always get bullied by my friends in game as I’m “just a tool for them” and until today this day right now I’m just invincible to them.

[@sash4edits]

best way: ignore them but if they attack u beat them up

[@gailpaullin8842]

I sometimes find our children can be bullies. This not only stops the cycle but teaches them a better way to treat others.

[@Shortana]

The biggest fear of a bully is to totally being ignored.

[@jennyandthemachines]

The problem is that ignoring workplace bullying has negative consequences, as the bully puts people down in front of others; lies, etc. I like Kirk's approach. It fits really well with an observation I have had, too. I think it could be very effective.

[@ruthe71]

A lot of the time people bully because they’re jealous of you. Even when I’m feeling intimidated I don’t let them think they are affecting me. I smile and remind myself that things could be so much worse, I could be them 😀

[@riverofsocks6576]

When you appear as the most confident person in the school and always tried to befriend the bullies but still get bullied 🦆

[@ashuranero5721]

One doesn't befriend bullies

[@ellenj9969]

Inviting the bully to sit next to you will put you in the “power position”, which lowers the power of the bully. It puts the one who is doing the inviting into the one who controls, in a sense. And very true that approaching the bully shows you are not only unafraid, it goes beyond that. Love that idea! I’m viewing this for a friend who is being bullied. Thank you!

[@Stacyohama]

I always encounter bullies- it is really annoying

[@joephil9]

Great point but some of these bully are sick in their heads mentally

[@TwoPyramid]

Yup, they are sick. All this self esteem 'personal empowerment' stuff is cope.

[@lottesrensen8004]

It's TRUE they pick on someone who seems like an easy target but they have another victim too. If you stand up to them on someone else's behalf and in their eyes attack them then they will turn on you big time

[@andreakovacs3088]

And bullies from family members was forgotten...

[@Kim-wt2gl]

A lot of times that's where it starts and then you go out into the world and it keeps happening to you. People become attracted to what's familiar - what they know.

[@bluewaters1736]

That was excellent! I wish I knew this when my children were young and bullied. It was so difficult to face every day for them and me watching this and them being hurt. Glad you posted this.

[@kimberlydavis5034]

I went through bullying and sometimes you can be bullied by more than one person.

[@Kim-wt2gl]

Yes and also there can be "Mob Bullying", where a group of people will Scapegoat you.

[@williamlowe8734]

Was bullied as a teenager, but if I ever run into any of those bullies I will thank them. I used that stuff as fuel to become a stronger more successful person. Well I have to also admit that I beat up all my bullies at that time, or shortly thereafter so I guess I turned into the bully of my bullies.

[@BruklinBridge]

5 minutes in, I'm still being told what a bully is.

[@user-qf1wr3nu8t]

Make it 1.5 speed

[@MrBiffo1956]

I used to walk home from school with my bully. And tried to make friends with her. She was smaller than me but she still bullied me because her family were notorious bullies. But I guess I projected my lack of belief in myself and had a hard introduction to school life. It didn't improve until I was 12 and met some supportive friends who were as tough as they were popular and I could find my own strengths protected in the group.

[@Tiger_the_Gunner]

When a group of grown-up bullies together are close friends of each other in college/university, then that's a huge problem if you can't handle it personally 😑 Parents must have to give enough time to their children (esp. urban people) until college to build them mentally "strong, confident and calm" by sharing their life struggles how to cope/overcome 💪🏼

[@devyn9931]

Sometimes when bullies get physical then you should always stand up for yourself. Thanks to watching this, the girl who bullied me is feeling upset that she became a bully. She used to be my best friend until I started to study more and focus on my tasks. So she got mad and left me, people knew her as the “Popular girls” By girls I mean by her other friends who she treats like they’re minions. They got tired of it and they left the bully. People starting standing up for me and I felt happy! If I didn’t watch this video I would be getting bruises day by day. Luckily, she stop doing it all yesterday. I watched this video a day before yesterday. Thank you so much. I love the positive energy you spread and help out people!

[@3KeyElements]

I am so happy to know that my video helped you! Truly, If the only positive impact this video had was for you, it was worth it for me. Thank you for sharing. Continue to be a positive impact on your friends... You are amazing!!!

[@yugiwitastick]

But I’m small I can’t stand up for myself

[@homodeus8713]

DractoBoy Dunbar Start getting fit

[@ludwinasneka7587]

Literally the best advice I’ve ever heard on how to deal with the bullies

[@toniwardell1933]

Cyber bullying needs to be addressed. It’s not school bus

[@dreamer4765]

Thank you for your help and your support. I really needed to hear this today. Peace to All ❤️