I just want to be loved.

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[@AlburyShaffer]

“Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.” -Steinbeck

[@98Zai]

I think it's also about confidence. Not the shallow "I look great and have the right posture" etc, but the idea that if someone leaves you - forgets you, that's a fault *in them.* This is something you gradually acquire with age. I wish it had come sooner.

[@AdventuresOfValene]

The more you love yourself, the more love will be reflected back to you. It truly does come from within. I wish I would've learned that lesson sooner, but later is better than never. ❤

[@mn37]

The desire to feel loved also connects to the fear of abandonment and therefore to the fear of death, as many things in life tend to do.

[@philoki]

well said

[@cristopherdasilva2503]

the lack of something we can't really understand... This feeling lives inside most of us and can hurt a lot, but also leads to deep reflection about human beings

[@erickasingson3797]

Same thoughts. Life is hard and I use this as a reminder especially when I encounter hard people to deal with. I’d like to remind myself that at the end of it all, we just want to be loved; seen, heard, held, and accepted. Thank you for sharing this, it makes me feel less alienated haha

[@Imblakeimblakethatsrght]

Algorithm boost!!!! Dude I swear, this concept might stem from the Bell Hooks "All About Love". Currently, I'm still listening to it, but I eventually want to read it on paper. Great concept.

[@MsGuitars666]

Nathaniel this was fantastic. Can’t you put this on your main channel? I think the world needs this.

[@noreenn6976]

Main channel?

[@TheFinalGamerRN]

@@noreenn6976Nathaniel Drew.

[@Kat-fw5jo]

​@@noreenn6976his other channel is Nathaniel Drue

[@Kat-fw5jo]

​@@noreenn6976his other youtube channel is Nathaniel Drew

[@HarrisonKing]

Love these short videos, thanks for taking us along on your journey

[@asterx7123]

I needed this so much right now! Thanks Nathaniel :)

[@BATgirl57]

Hey! I had this same epiphany at about the age of 50!! Born here now to learn that I am totally and unconditionally loved! Always have been! Can’t not be!! Don’t have to earn, just accept it! Wow, what a feeling!! !Loved this video!! And I love you, Nathaniel and your parents!!❤️💖💕💜❣️

[@eliskavitu5462]

Oh wow! This is exactly what I have been thinking about recently. You have articulated it perfectly, thank you for the video.

[@Vilhelmnilsson]

Well put. Something that also gives me space is to remind myself that it’s often very easy to confuse a need and a strategy to meet that need. That’s often where we lead astray and adopt really bad empty meaningless habits without knowing why we do them. Connecting with your deep inner need for love is very different from for example joining a gang to have a sense of belonging, respect and meaning. Learning to differentiate needs and strategies can be a key to inner freedom.

[@TilikaVispute]

Recently, even though I love is all every one needs, I am focusing on loving myself in this season rather than trying to make everyone feel loved. 😌

[@yossef-hailevitas5233]

Beautifully put.

[@Ms.Irod2024]

Man, if I was in my 20s Nathaniel lol you are loved your fan base respects cares and adores you very much you are by far one of my favorite humans can't say enough about you sir ! ❤

[@katiemisk]

This was a great little video to start to my day. Vulnerability is courage. Thanks for sharing Nathaniel!

[@ValQuinn]

I recently experienced the thing I feared most, I felt like a total failure and was going to withdraw from society out of shame and embarrassment... Then I realised something wonderful: no one else cared. No one cares whether you failed in your goals or are the most successful person ever. No one is going to despise you OR admire you. It's so freeing. Now I can work on projects for me and ironically I'm getting more done than ever.

[@98Zai]

That's great! Yeah we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we end up feeling like everyone is watching. But they are looking around feeling the same thing.

[@ValQuinn]

@@98Zai Indeeeeed. The thing is I intellectually have known this for ages. I think I've always known it. It seems like I had to go through something in order for it to sink in.

[@98Zai]

@@ValQuinn I think it's an age thing. When you're a kid you feel like you're the center of the universe. But then it turns into what you expressed. Finally you start letting go of the ego and it's a huge relief. It's just something that takes time to reach. I generally think it feels like true confidence, but in reality it's probably more like a physical development of the brain.

[@ValQuinn]

@@98Zai Could well be. Plus experiences.

[@TheAMP711]

I think a lot about people’s advance/regrets as they are passing. They always consist of I wish I had connected with friends, family, and loved ones more, I wish had taken that trip or adventure or I wish I had just slowed down. I get stuck a lot on the desire to have deeper and truer connections and I question how we authentically and fully do that in the current systems and societies we have set up. Oh to be loved and to love is the beauty of being alive💕

[@slocrowth]

I love myself and I get love from others. I don’t have need to chase it, but I kind of want to be able to love someone else. I want to have relationship where I can give as much I naturally want to give and other aspects it, values it and of course loves me back in her own way. ❤

[@koumidoucette6871]

What if the thing is to realize that we ARE love instead of chasing it outside? What if we are not what we think we are?

[@timwilliams7079]

I love the content matey keep it up

[@electrictao5180]

Love is as love does. Thanks for sharing.

[@loisthiessen9134]

Yes. I see and feel the same longing in my own heart. Like Jesus says: "The Kingdom of God is here. It is among you." So don't look for it out THERE, or HERE in a specific material place. It is in your heart, if you will take the time to be still and know..

[@marr-rie4448]

yes!

[@TheFinalGamerRN]

Love is not looking for acceptance and validation, how true. Edit: You made me think so I'll complete my comment with my thoughts in case someone finds it useful: I dont relate the two concepts you mention: love and your job. I think, like you say in the video, that the reason any of us should do a certain job is to feel satisfied and fulfilled with one's work, and there is no external validation or love involved. That being said, then we have the love part, in which I find two types of love: interpersonal and intrapersonal. The interpersonal is the one you mention in the video, the "I'm still here" for the rest of the world (which IMO should focus only on friends, family, and your partner), and the intrapersonal is the personal vision of ourselves, how we treat ourselves, etc. Of course, these concepts are related, but are not the same; by this I mean that for example doing your job because you love doing it and receiving love and appreciation from other people as a result is great, but the moment you start doing your job mainly because of that appreciation, things start to fall off. This was my take on the video, I hope I somehow said something related to the video and not just strayed jajaja.

[@ShafferN]

What an epic two minute banger to kick off my day. Love you man 🖤

[@kingsparrow4096]

You are just me from a distance... Thanks for always sharing...

[@danyearick1484]

I suspect that you are dearly loved.

[@andreasecin7709]

right on!

[@lovefoodandbeingfood]

i miss him and hes the one i always went to about everything. now my relationship with love is shattered. the idea, the energy. it hurts

[@LivingwithLuca]

Yeah bro. Same

[@annastayziaa]

more talking videos like this please. keep them coming! ^_^

[@marcelayumimenezes6992]

I loved your sincerity, brave video.

[@Lifebyclairevlogs]

I’m loving the look of your thumbnails. Can you share how you achieve that look? Thanks

[@ZyvaYa]

beautiful words🤍🤍🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@xingxing85]

He is such a handsome man… how can he not be loved ? 😅

[@mastandstars5869]

It would so so great to see a video of you & Jessica Rose Williams (while still in France) I think you have similar sentiments ❤️❤️❤️

[@MYoung-mq2by]

True "love" ensues from a deep appreciation and caring of and for the other, regardless of conditions or circumstances. That can only come from a place of being at peace, and acceptance of, self. Otherwise there will always be conditions attached to "love" and "caring" of and for others. Unfortunately, (subconsciously) many people need others to fill a void of some sort. First be okay with oneself. The affection or "love" from others is lovely but no longer a necessity. It is then easy to recognise and actually experience the affection from others. I think we often misread because the expressions of affection do not fit the definition we give it. I've been divorced for 14 years now, and had a few lovers since then. I'm alone now and am happier and more at peace than I have ever been. Also during my marriage. I sometimes see the interest in the eyes of others. That in itself is validation for me. A strange answer, I know. But love is not something to want. It's a way of being. I can give appreciation and love without even thinking about it consciously. It ensues.

[@nikole9640]

I love you Nathaniel ❤ You are loved from afar….Hello from South Carolina, US. 🌼

[@esraalrashed6867]

Missed your content

[@imdannyj]

We keep chasing for something we already have, but in the stranger we don’t know and who doesn’t know us. It’s a cycle. Maybe it is inevitable ? ahah 😅

[@fatmanadjahmanda698]

You are so insightful for your age

[@lillianedwards11]

I love you! 💚

[@jesse4689-o2l]

Do you still selll your beanies (Coeur) and other clothing? Thanks.

[@jessicadana561]

Love you

[@ronjakatariina]

I understand the concept of "true love is only found within" but what does it mean actually? or how can I prove that to my brain? I get it, just accept and allow yourself to be who you are but... how? but also it is something so fundamental to the human experience to crave and desire and yearn for a love that's "outside" and when you really love it all there is no more "outside" or "me" it's all one... and from that oneness somehow everything comes back to "two" where is something that is internally experienced and externally observed and that is the whole meaning of this human experience... idk

[@Uneagle1]

If you need love from an external source outside of yourself, then it's not love. You will never be complete looking for something outside of yourself. Because the truth is, love has always been within you. Always. Love is unconditional. It's an absolute. And most love nowadays whether from your own parents or your boyfriend or girlfriend is conditional. Your parents may love you because they live vicariously through you and are biologically attached to you. Your partner may just love you because of the way you physically look, money, or because you temporarily fill a void in them. That void in you can only ever be permanently filled and completed by realizing you always were complete and never needed to chase after anything or anyone for validation whether it be money, academics, or outside love.

[@andreamussi]

👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

[@gedr7664]

what is that sweater?

[@TilikaVispute]

I have the same in white and literally wearing the one in yellow rn heheheh.. I got it from Vero Moda in case you are looking to get it too ☺️

[@ruthbanon6049]

The secret is: self love. See yourself. Approve of yourself. Everyone out there is too busy doing them. Seeing and appreciating you is not their job so dont give it to them. You are searching for parental unconditional love. All of us have not-perfect parents. So what? Grow up. Be less self-absorbed. Besides your parents, I have never noticed you being overly interested in others. More obsessing over how much they are interested in you. Like a kid. Grow up.

[@cosmic_user]

[@noname2010ify]

Yes, we are relational beings, loving beings. I found your podcast through Beneath the Surface, and I've been listening. I keep wondering... have you read The Four Loves by C. S. Lewis or You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit by James K. A. Smith? They've expanded my thinking to a new dimension. Perhaps it's a bit off the beaten path for you in terms of book selections, but consider looking into them. 🖤

[@JessaJayVlogs]

“The love that I’m looking for is already there.” 💜💜💜

[@JasonMcLay]

I love you

[@CiaranRKelleher]

Nathaniel, I wonder how you might define love?

[@neelo821]

You should collab with Matt d'Avella someday. 🙂

[@Talkinbooks]

They made a video together.

[@neelo821]

​@@Talkinbooks I found out few hours ago but I couldn't find their collaboration video, I've only found few videos of Nathaniel and Matt talking about each other. Do you the exact name of the video where they talk to each other on video call?

[@tobias8870]

As a Christian, I find so many things you said in this video resonate with the Christian faith as what your saying is basically the essence of the it. We seek for love in so many places but ultimately we can only find it in God eho loves us just as we are. And this is not based on our performance or cause and effect (grace)

[@marr-rie4448]

I wanted to say exactly the same. There is this longing, this question - and then, there is the answer. (And God also shows us love through other humans, then)

[@patriciacashman5553]

Sometimes we are unconsciously afraid to feel love. There seems to be a barrier, and we feel numb. It’s helpful to slow down and feel the love we have now: the love of our cat or dog, a beautiful sky, music, free time to rest…there is love in places you didn’t realize. Let it shine upon you, like sunshine, warming you. Kindest thanks for the posting.

[@ibisriver]

🫶🏽🤗

[@cantbendknee]

Life is meaningless Nathaniel, hell awaits us all! :)

[@foodsupply5071]

That’s a rare form of nihilism

[@cantbendknee]

@@foodsupply5071 I'm joking.

[@kamidsjournee]

I’ve prayed for you. It’s incredibly astonishing to see the fruit of that prayer. ☺️

[@Xeronimo74]

lol

[@MulliganGabriel]

I don't mean to be pushy at all. I think, from a Christian perspective, if you read the book the Cure, you might begin to understand that desire for love a bit more. Has a fish on the cover.

[@vdkrslr]

16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. 19 This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. 20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. 21 But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.

[@jaceallred]

This is why the insight of the book of Mormon is so valuable... The most sustainable motivation is to serve other people as if those people were God himself. As you help someone, they may not reciprocate, but that shouldn't deaden your momentum or your desire to do good. But God always sees the good we do, and so shifting that priority to him has been impactful for me.

[@foljs5858]

KZbin views, having to come up with a "profound" and interesting looking subject every week for a video?

[@ketima6812]

1st

[@DiceDecides]

Jesus loves us so much he suffered on the cross for us... rest in him

[@benjamin.misantone]

Have you ever considered much in the way of faith? Personally, I have found answers to many of the questions you're asking--there.