I was wrong, success doesn’t bring happiness.

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Timestamps:
1:02 - Part I: I AM A SINNER
2:24 - Part II: AN IMPORTANT CHOICE
8:10 - Sponsorship (Headspace)
9:17 - Can there be a healthy version of ambition?
14:20 - Part III: MAYBE IT'S ACTUALLY KINDA SIMPLE
16:46 - A trip into the mountains

[@carmeng2982]

Happiness is not having everything you want, it’s loving everything you have.

[@anikaya157]

This right hereee

[@ic2063]

It’s giving to those who don’t have. It’s sharing. It’s not always about you. Doesn’t mean you give everything away..the joy of sharing is incredible.

[@holembac]

The same thing bro just different ways to phrase it

[@brentpeddy4223]

💯 Agreed

[@LoveLaRieXO]

Happiness is a choice. With or without things.

[@anja7787]

The goal is to be content. Not to be happy. Happy is an extreme emotion like sadness. Happiness is a moving target. Practice gratitude daily and your life will be better

[@birdlover7776]

Agree💯

[@luisdaprodigy2208]

Yes

[@janebaker966]

A life of felicity. (Its not just a girls name). Sadly a lot of people looking from the outside don't get it. Because they're uneducated and stupid and think Felicity is a girls name.

[@aehong7332]

Exactly!

[@usernotfound55555]

EXACTLY!

[@hashirunowasuki]

The last part reminded me of one of my favorite quotes, by Paulo Coelho: "Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place." Your videos always manage to give me hope in humanity (because you are obviously such a deep person and I often feel like most people are pretty shallow - even though I hope that's just my perception). Thank you for sharing these thoughts and your journey with us ❤️

[@donnawoodward3163]

❤️

[@srouc69]

Un-becoming everything that isn't you 👏

[@Milow_Running_Wild]

It's a journey with a destanation that can only be approached but never reached, you will never reach the golden pot , why care about the gold when you are walking on a beautiful rainbow ???? 🙏💪💖™️

[@rafamuttoni]

❤️

[@lexiesanders929]

Omg this quote just struck me. So accurate

[@InnerResearcher]

You summed up my feelings from the last year in an 18 minute video. I feel the same. I lived in nyc and had a business in Manhattan, then moved to the netherlands, worked for awesome companies, i’m super healthy and fit, meditate, journal, just got a fully remote job for a health tech start up (i dreamed for years of being able to work from anywhere in the world) and..... Here I am. Feeling the same as i felt 8 years ago, just after high school, dreaming of what I want to achieve. I’ve achieved so many things yet don’t feel any different. If what, at times i feel less happy than BEFORE achieving these goals. Sigh.

[@michaelgiako]

Sisyphus has entered the chat…

[@Drenius]

I feel you, and I'm serious on this message: Please watch Andrew Huberman's scientific youtube/podcast episode on Dopamine, it has a bit over 2 hours but it is truly helpful to guide us on the process of learning to understand more of how our behaviors are influencing or not our happiness (among other areas). That understanding might help you a lot.

[@InnerResearcher]

@@Drenius i’ve watched it! 🙏🏻 i listen to his podcast when commuting at times and yes - brilliant stuff, especially about dopamine

[@damianr98]

Because life is not about achievements, it’s about the journey leading up to them. The growth and anticipation is what makes us happy :)

[@Mysteri0usMem0]

You guys are trying to always achieve something, you will be unhappy as long as you desire those things. It’s not your fault its the conditioning we all have due to our upbringing. Remove yourself from this. Listen to Allan Watts he has the answer your looking for. Good luck.

[@LighthouseSun]

My opinion is that you're pretty wrong from the very start about happiness. Its not a perfect state of mind, non stop euphoria or something, not the perfect ostacles in your life, or right "perfect/loyal/you name it"people in your life, perfect work, let alone any material stuff. Its almost always small moments, waking up feeling good, calling your family/friends, good weather, joyful meal, pleasant day at work, or not that pleasant, but you moving through it that makes you realize how much stronger you've become bc of it, moving towards your goal, or finding it, NOT RUSHING IT, just movie towards, in your own speed. And yes always learning from your mistakes, pain, loss. Accepting ALL of the aspects of life both good and bad, pleasant and hurtful. That's true happiness. Its never stable, never 24/7, but what is stable these days anyways? There is no formula. Just you now and here.

[@user-of5mj5nl6r]

Yes so true!:)

[@elenagarcia3466]

This is basically the conclusion he came to end of video lol

[@MochinoCherry]

You can't feel true happiness without experiencing sorrow and failures. Only being happy and not experiencing any ups and downs in life we would just become numb in it all.

[@sliceofpie1741]

happiness is overrated. One who's always happy will never want to look beyond. That doesn't mean you must stop feeling happy but the thing is to not chase happiness. Because in chasing it we're only fooling ourselves. In the end all the business we build friends we are attached to, travelling that we do, are all an escape to avoid seeing our inner existence. Like Eckhart says, Life isn't her to make you happy it's here to make you conscious.

[@LighthouseSun]

@@sliceofpie1741 I can't see why you can't be happy and conscious. These two aren't contradictory. We are here for a very small amount of time,. People, art, travelling, joyful work and etc are important parts of human's existing. And for most of us "seeking your inner self" isn't even a thing. But I personally agree with you. If you aren't satisfied with your inner self ,nothing from the outside world can make you happy.

[@valentinapenta2715]

My Italian grandmother always said, "who told you you were suppose to be happy?" I figure if we were happy all the time, we'd end up taking it for granted. One thing I try to do is not take the people in my life for granted and cherish our happy moments together. For me it seems hard to deny that any individual, no matter how important or successful they are to human history, will be insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

[@flatterdd]

Hello! Your grandmother is a wise woman 🥰

[@valentinapenta2715]

@@flatterdd Yes she was. I'm almost 70 years old now and will always be grateful for my grandmother's wisdom and guidance. She embodied the saying a person was ,"the salt of the earth," + she was funny as hell.

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

That last sentence always bothered me. It makes me not want to achieve anything because it will die in the end.

[@jcfontech]

I love this kind of content. I don't see people around me questioning these things and that tends to make me think there's just something wrong with me. But then I come online and find this and it's very relieving to see you (or other people) relate to these feelings. Thanks for sharing, Nathan.

[@fulanito1532]

That happens to me all the time, even when I try to have this kind of deep conversation whith people around me, I feel like they don't understand what I'm talking about because they just try not to think too much 😕

[@miriamalonso3959]

You are not alone

[@ralfnyberg3264]

I feel like so many are merely afraid to even begin to question their personal bubble and the societal norms they were brought up with. Personally i feel like it's the saddest thing ever, to be so afraid of reform and change that they'd rather sacrifice better life and eventually even happiness for it. But we, however, are ready to take that leap and let us celebrate ourselves for that! We--you are not alone!

[@TheMusic29Lover]

It is nice to see these sharings. Internet also can bring beautiful things like this 🤍

[@misskoool]

I totally relate! I have people in my life who call me weird for asking deep questions and pondering the meaning of life, etc. But I love this kinda thing! It just seems to be how I'm wired. I can't NOT think about these things. Some people seem content to not ponder life and are even opposed to it. People are different but that's really foreign to me. I'm glad to know there are others who think like me.

[@MishaElRusito]

For me happiness is 1. knowing what you love, what drives you, 2. being able to do that everyday for the rest of your life and 3. you and your family are healthy.

[@exceldesign]

I've had a theory that many people that build an audience on youtube seem to have hypomanic tendencies (the algorithm seems to reward that kind of personality). I think people that are hypomanic experience happiness in a very different way than most other people. They have so much more energy that it's easier for them to rely on accomplishments to feel happiness. People that aren't hypomanic don't have that same energy, so they just can't rely on constantly accomplishing things. They have to find happiness in their current reality, instead of their aspirations for the future. It's an interesting dichotomy I've noticed, especially as I've seen it play out in the trajectory of many "successful" friends over the years.

[@jesusmaryandjoseph1]

this what ive been thinking. I can think of countless YTers like it.

[@rizfree]

the more I try to chase happiness, the more I stress about it, the more unhappy I am. the key is just flowing and enjoying what's in front of me 🙏🏻

[@warren1126]

Your filmmaking skills can't seem to stop getting better!

[@ewrockford]

Happiness: Designing a life of purpose, meaning and significance in the service of others.

[@hannahdigitals]

life should happen in rhythms, moments of focus and striving for goals, and moments of slow enjoyment. I get stuck in the same paradox you described when the balance between the two is off

[@khalilahd.]

Wow this is so well said. I think I’m in a moment of focus but I was recently lost but I believe it leads to growth

[@carmeng2982]

Very well put. The balance part resonated with me. Thank you.

[@sirensong2302]

exactly! wonderfully put.

[@eliontheinternet3298]

This!! I feel like I need to have a routine in order to be able to break it. Sometimes I need to go faster and do more, sometimes I need to rest and do less, and sometimes I need to just relax and coast through my days on autopilot.

[@aleahappling7914]

Happiness to me is heavily linked with gratitude. It’s about feeling happy and grateful everyday, not all day everyday, but at least once recognizing and enjoying what you do have and who you are at that moment.

[@Matias-op3nv]

Having a religious faith (Catholic) has helped me immensely - I’ve learned to accept sufferings / hardships which in turn has lead to true peace and contentment.

[@ilcondottierocartografo6770]

Me too

[@banzy3]

Happiness is just a fleeting emotion, it's better not to chase it, but enjoy it when it's there.

[@JalynShorts]

It almost seems that from my perspective the people that want to achieve happiness and achieve something great are the ones who aren't happy because they are too busy trying to be happy instead of actually being happy, That's why people who don't think too deeply on this tend to be the happy ones

[@lukashollenbeck6452]

The storytelling, videography quality, content, it feels like I should be paying for this. Incredible video!

[@Ihavemadeit999]

3:07 -3:20 in arabic the word ”human” is ”insaan” insaan has another meaning which is ”forgetting” So arabic the word human also means forgetting. When i speak arabic (my mother tongue) and say human i’m subconsiesly also reminding myself i’m a being that forgets by nature.You connected the dots super well. Super interesting how non-arabic speaking human can sense that they infact forget and remember again. Super fascinating.

[@donnawoodward3163]

❤️

[@euscieu4246]

Nisyan نسيان (forgetting) and Insan انسان (human) are totally different words and are unrelated. You’re just connecting them because of the Arabic saying “الانسان كثير النسيان” which just means “Humans are forgetful”. But I get the point you’re trying to make.

[@magdawu8239]

Someone way smarter than I am once told me that happiness is a constant within yourself, not just a moment or a highest swiniging point. It's all about having peace inside yourself that allows you to float during harder times and appreciate the great ones when they happen. I find this video to be very in the spirit of that person and the conversation I had. Great job, I really loved your story!

[@annescholl420]

Thank you for sharing this video Nathaniel. As a 52 year old woman, what I have learned, is that I was not created, born, to be happy or to make others happy. I feel so much joyful when I love and serve people, when I have deep and meaningful relationships with my fellow humans. Most of all, walking with my Lord daily brings me tremendous peace. Praying that you will find Joy. Love you and your fellow “Yes Theory” team members. 🙏🤗

[@jesusisking3814]

True happiness is not found in world but in a relationship with Jesus Christ. Biblical explanation of the Gospel: God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23) The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell. Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him. For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ - for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day. None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned. No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin. Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures, He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4) For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16) We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ. ''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9) Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins (past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him. This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him by reading God's Word. So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13) ''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15) ''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19) Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8). Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin. While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10). Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6) (John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again." If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually. When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14) Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36) ''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7) If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes - to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God. You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son. ''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17) ''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10) You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ. As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so. In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.'' ''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19) ''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41) ''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body, but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21) ''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4) ''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God, who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12) Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left! "But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32) Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you! Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Nice to see Nathaniel Drew have his Liz Gilbert from ‘Eat Pray Love’. To quote from that cinematic masterpiece: “I’m just through with the guilt.”

[@dj_wilson]

hands down, bro…this is your absolute best video. Ever. And that is saying a lot. You consistently produce phenomenal content, and tell engaging stories. You’ve inspired me, a man years your elder, for years now. But this video, sir. This video is cinematic and engaging on another level. May this find you well and encourage you to continue to push the envelope of your filmmaking journey.

[@lancelotdufrane]

The revelation that happiness is illusive, is a lesson in its self. You’re doing a brilliant job of living fully and noticing your experience at the same time. I think you’re doing it right.

[@LJStability]

It's easy to get stuck in life thinking that misery has to be normal. I had a really great mentor that recently passed away that helped me a lot through this. I think the main lesson I learned was to embrace being normal. It's okay to want to sit back, drink some coffee, and turn off my brain. In fact, I realized that pursuing other things besides my goals really served to shut off my brain for a bit to help me focus on people and other activities that help rejuvenate and keep me balanced. Overthinking things can be as toxic as being simplistic. Not everything in life needs to have an immediate answer and it's okay to stumble. I'm still learning myself, but I've found embracing life beyond my goals, even if it's simple stuff, makes me happier than always trying to prove myself or achieve some unrealistic expectation. Most of the time, we kick ass more often in life than we realize.

[@kellymcdaniel6272]

The realization when I’m watching 9:56 contently drinking my coffee at home seeking a fleeting beautifully peaceful moment between my six kids’ school drop offs…🤣💜

[@jensentung]

How I see it, achieving happiness is not a constant state of smiles, but the acceptance of frowns. It is in fact necessary to produce smiles. You can then see the beauty in the struggle.

[@jessemessi27]

I had a corporate job I hated for years and one day I had the epiphany for my own happiness formula: Gratitude = Joy. I kept that on a sticky note above my monitor so I would see it every day, and realize that there are always moments to appreciate, and ultimately, get myself to a place where I'm emotionally healthy enough to pursue my dreams, and value them from a grounded reality, not a far flung fantasy. Love your content dude. Thanks for sharing!

[@aushafwidisto7658]

“Meglio essere felici in questa vita, che aspirare a esserlo nella prossima." ("Better to be content in this life, than aspire to it in the next.") - Ezio Auditore

[@williamgarcia1995]

I think the key lies in being able to distinguish a difference between happiness and joy. Saying that happiness is external and joy is internal begins the correct path to understanding this. I always wanted to live a happy life and BE happy but the thing is that happiness is momentary and conditional. I get to hug my mom-I’m happy. I walk up to get my diploma-I’m happy. I spill coffee on my favorite shirt-unhappy. I lose a loved one-unhappy. Now, here’s the difference; joy (or living a joyful life) is a decision you make that translates into a constant state of being. I can experience and be joyful through the loss of a loved one even though I can only cry instead of smile. I can be joyful when things aren’t going my way and I’m stressed. On the flip side, I can NOT be living a joyful life while out on an adventure with my friends laughing and experiencing “being happy”. The formula of time + space I think is an awesome take on understanding what it means to live a joyful life because I 100% believe that it begins when we decide to step out of the river rapid that is life. Life is mostly pulling everyone through it, so fast and occupying of our time that we forget to stop and breath or even appreciate the simpler things in life. I believe that stepping out of this state of hurry that we live in is an essential part of understanding how to live a life of joy. But an even more important piece to living this life of joy is HOPE. The reason we can experience joy throughout the ups and downs is because we hope and have faith that a better tomorrow will come and that any pain or suffering we may be experiencing is momentary and better days will come. However, the key thing to this is making sure you put your faith and hope in the right thing because it will be the thing you lean on and trust wholeheartedly when you are faced with life’s challenges. This something has to be powerful, personal and never changing.

[@diegolima5805]

It’s great to see young people like yourself searching for what’s real , when you fine your true self it’s the greatest feeling in the world . Keep in mind that the sooner you find it the longer you will live understand what we all are looking for. Life is very very short so make it count .

[@bethstratton3391]

The Buddhist philosophy that life is suffering resonates here within this video. Searching is painful, knowledge leads to struggle and awareness that everything is achievable but that the more we learn, the greedier we become and the more self absorbed our mind sponges get. We eventually realise that our love emanating is what makes us whole, as it is the journey not the achievement that quintessentially fulfils us and others. ‘Attainment’ alone in and of itself is a hollow master. Simplicity is key!

[@NelsonQuest]

I think the insight you shared into life being 'forgetting and remembering and forgetting and remembering' is fantastic, and is in a way the price we pay for pursuing excellence. That being said, by becoming more self-aware, I've found that while I've embarked on most of my personal journeys for the *wrong* reasons (I started my business to get rich, salsa to meet girls, boxing to impress people) as I move through the journey with self-awareness I'm able to course correct and pursue those things for more fulfilling reasons (my business is now about giving value, which has made me rich. Salsa became a way to express myself through movement, and in doing so I attracted women. Boxing has taught me discipline and the importance of prioritizing application over theory, which people tend to find impressive). The real danger in the pursuit of things seems to be the lack of self-awareness.

[@DudeitsLandon]

Ive had this realization about myself too. Important to do things from a place of love. Not ego.

[@Catthepunk]

My man watching Nathaniel's videos. Based.

[@TheDoomerGoGetter]

Inspirational, this is exactly the type of content I want to make when I have the money for it, travel vlogs mixed with self analysis plus self improvement advice, for now I'll keep grinding making self improvement content in my local city

[@nahomededeya7286]

Yesss I was saying that to myself the exact thing

[@KayKayBayForever]

And do you think you’ll be happier when you get to the place where you can do that?

[@tulinbeyduz920]

i drove trucks for 5 years earning really good money . you know what happiness was for me ? it was walking through it the fields of grass , with my two dogs and a coffee . Don’t need anymore than that .. That’s when i felt the most happiness . Also just cooking for my daughter and reading her a book . everything else is here or there .

[@null33334]

I feel that as Nathaniel progresses through life same do I. It was definitely interesting following Nathaniel's growth through years and observing my own growth too. Such a fascinating thing how we humans evolve physically, mentally and spiritually throughout the years. Such a great content on this channel. Well done, Nate!

[@yangana4099]

Listening to this while rearranging my room and decluttering my mind to the ambient sound of raindrops on my window is doing wonders right now

[@pippistyles]

sounds wonderful!

[@flamemax91]

I totally agree, i've been doing the very same thing! Feels truly calming

[@sarakelleher3590]

This hit the nail on the head today. Me being late fifties. I feel as if I have it all but internally that is not what makes us happy. It's more being happy with the little things. I love being simple and mediocre. This large house we have , yea it provides shelter and warmth but we really don't need it to be fulfilled or happy. Great conversations 👌

[@EricHrahsel]

I'm in my 20s, what lesson would you give me to feel better?

[@MarisaPecoraro]

As someone who tells people I'm trying to master "doing nothing" I was very shocked to hear sitting around just drinking coffee is boring to a group of people who pride themselves on building community and genuine connections. Is it inevitable that when we are searching for happiness, success, and adventure that we loose a bit of ourselves and are distracted by the flashy titles and attention?? Is that part of the journey?? Universally I believe everyone needs to take a break and not always be asking what's next.

[@rhonaridley3579]

When you have done almost everything got married had children worked 43 years same place travelled the world now it’s time to sit on the porch and enjoy your coffee enjoy time with friends and sometimes just do nothing from Rhona I am there in Florida

[@dr.michellelavigne1410]

I think the biggest error we make is thinking something will feel different (often better, more intense and more meaningful) than it actually does. At the end of the day success and happiness are meaningless without having peace at a fundamental level.

[@juliacamerongowens2025]

I feel so grounded when I am in Italy. That engrained American feeling of "keeping up with the Joneses" just fades away. Incredible video as always!

[@ChristinaMorassi]

Yes! Love this! So much. Great equation. From my experience at 51 though, there is one more element: Savoring. It is the savoring of the joy that truly brings us the nutrients... Just like it's the digesting of the food that brings us the true nutrients, not the mere act of eating it. Thank you for sharing your journey.

[@yeremycuevas3064]

I’m 1 min in the video, in a cold gray day in Massachusetts and with the silence of my room and I say to myself, men, I enjoy this guy and his weird ideas, his strange transitions and his unique way of doing art. Keep it up Nathaniel

[@elevate5136]

When the guy said success isn’t just monetary or business, it’s being a good father or husband etc, literally changed my life ! Thank you 🙏 honestly thank you for that ❤️

[@userzquid]

Relate to this 100%! As I've gotten older I have learned what keeps me happiest, more-so level with my mood or where I am in life, is being okay with having "one of those days" and acknowledging that it'll pass

[@shayma95]

the answer is in one of your videos when you tried fasting in ramadan, perhaps try reading the quran whenever you get a chance and you will find alot of answers to your questions

[@matkapolka762]

Life is about LOVE. Spreading love to the world, especially people. I understood this today, that the simple acts of kindness makes the life worth living. That's the Truth.

[@vunguyentr5561]

Unhappy people often tell how happiness is not a destination and fantasize about what is and what is not happiness. But the state of perpetual happiness does exist but not as most people thought, it becomes unlimited when you manage to integrate such quality into your core character including courage, honesty, willingness, generosity, acceptance, compassion, gratitude

[@loupisani236]

Your editing skills are amazing, from the image (stunning videos and fonts) to the sound (the fx, the clarity of your voice and great choice of music). Congratulations!

[@carolineA56]

Maaaaan I feel you so much 😄 I love how introspective you & your friends are, you guys are definitely asking the right questions! Happiness is such a big topic and my measure is this one: how comfortable are you when you sit down, close your eyes and do nothing? If you are agitated, nothing in your life will ever calm that agitation. If you are calm and serene, truly enjoying your pure “beingness”, then you can go anywhere and you will always be joyful, satisfied and at ease. Then you naturally take life one moment after the other, appreciating it without rushing. Blessings 🤗

[@jeng5591]

I love how reading your comment made me feel the groundedness of that stillness in meditation. I agree that when I allow myself to stop and meditate, everything changes. I don't feel that I'm run by my ego, instead I have more clarity, insight and focus. When I have so many stories running in my head, it helps me to take distance from them.

[@nataliegates16]

100%

[@miguelbinnios]

I resonate with this a lot. I, too, feel like the more I achieve, the less fulfilled I get even thought the whole point of working towards something is to get that sense of fulfillment… a paradox. Amazing movie as always bro.

[@romigoletto]

12:46 "Accettare che non si può avere tutto è quello che ti rende felice. Semplice come concetto". Loved it.

[@christiandaniel4993]

Listen guys I think this is important and I hope at least one person reads this, I have been there in my early 20s where most people that watch this channel are at, young, hungry, looking for meaning, looking for purpose and adventure and ultimately happiness. I’ve been there and now about to be 30 I’ve learned this turning point. There’s only a few primal truths that have been the reason for humanity to continue since the beginning of time. Those primal foundations are building with our hands, marriage and reproduction. I know it’s super unpopular now in days but it’s the foundational truth to why we live and have purpose. I’ve been the creative, adventurous, traveling, abstract, deep type. But a common thing amongst these type of people is feeling unfulfilled. Because here’s the truth in this focusing on “our” happiness tends to be a selfish desire if we’re being honest. The thing is humans are made for each other and community and family. So what we think in this generation is going to make us happy which is “finding ourselves” is actually hurting us why? Because we’re ignoring our primal needs to care for others. I got married, started having children and let me tell you I have almost no time to think about “my happiness” now in days and somehow I’m at the happiest I’ve ever been, depression, anxiety are almost nonexistent. There’s two stages in life, before becoming a parent and after. It’s true what your parents always told you, one day you’ll understand, i consider myself a extremely deep and critical thinker and some call me wise, and I couldn’t in my wisdom ever fathom the feeling of being a parent, it’s something that has to happen for you to understand, it’s like almost every thing you ever thought about life becomes foolish when you have to keep a tiny human being alive, when you see your child develop you understand the purpose of life and that is to keep life going. It’s that simple, your calling is to keep humanity moving and provide and build for you family and your generations to come. One day you’ll be a old man or woman and sit there and see your grandchildren and understand this is what life is about, this is where happiness lies. Anything else is just not enough, money, status, power, careers, travel, all that won’t measure up to reproducing and building your own family tree, that’s what my grandpa says and now I believe it. Guys believe me we need to go back to our primal reason to exist, modern life has us thinking way too much and drowning in depression and anxiety. Hope this makes one person think and change mentality about what they’re chasing. Peace and love

[@Pezerinno]

Did you struggle making the decision to have children and get married? I'm a massive over thinker and just end up going round in circles when it comes to having children. There will be a time in the not too distant future where biology will make that decision for me. I'd rather make it myself...

[@christiandaniel4993]

@@Pezerinno I struggled to get married, I was young wild and free and I liked it but still didn’t feel fulfilled, I committed and though it’s not easy it def mans you up and I delayed having kids for a bit but I realized that it’s just the next step in marriage and there’s no point in delaying you’ll never be fully ready but let me tell you, it’s like delaying true riches in life, very fulfilling and motivating to conquer in life go for it brother!

[@Caniii_]

As someone coming back from a month long journey and even revisiting Italy since the last time i actually lived there aswell ~ I slowly and painfully started to accept how much im running away from myself while running towards something ~ Slow down and listen as a great friend of mine kept telling me over and over and seeing this video on the same day that i finally decided to search for actual help felt good so thanks for that !...

[@chrisward5689]

"success can be measured by amount of joy you allow yourself to feel"

[@ic2063]

Serenity is what you are looking for. Adrenaline rushes are excitement. After living a full life and experiencing the highs and lows, your learn what it means to be content and serene. You will find lots of contentment comes about by giving. Most people are in love with themselves and their work and yet are still not content. Give, give freely to people you don’t know; it’s easy to give to those you love and know.

[@yvonnebirch6026]

I feel happiness comes and goes. Since I am in the last years of my life I am on the inner journey and hope to be content with that. There is no chasing after happiness. It is about being isn’t it ? Love your conversations ! 💕🌷

[@sparklej1142]

Nathan, count it all joy. I'm elderly and I can tell you that peace and love and contentment come when you do as James, the brother of Jesus, suggested: Just count it all joy. Where's the starting place? A little meditation (Headspace is a good start) and prayer in the faith that works for you. The rest takes care of itself. And don't worry--that's just fear, the opposite of faith. You're gonna be just fine. Blessings.... (Just subbed. Your videos will get better. I want to watch the evolution. Remember Carl Jung and how we all are the heroes of our own narratives...I suspect his work might help.

[@TaavP]

Sometimes if I need a boost of Joy, I'll go watch a sunset at the beautifull portuguese beaches. Seeing and hearing the waves crashing while the sun sets in the horizon, feeling the breeze in your face... For me there is nothing like this, one would say "appreciate the small things"

[@val9351]

so true! life is an infinite cycle of forgetting and remembering

[@soy__drea]

I'm going to a really hard time health wise. And just earlier this afternoon I was writing something in my journal about some parts of your video (without watching it yet), and other parts of this just helped me validate my feelings and perspective on life. Is good not to let the noise of others stop you, at some point in your life you need to become who you are, for real. Thank you for this :)

[@khalilahd.]

I love that you notice the higher moments in life and the fact that it does come and go and needing these ebbs and flows. Very powerful message 💜

[@noritapatterns]

This was such a beautiful video, thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts💕

[@Anastasiiia_an]

This was a beautiful short film! Thank you for creating it and for the useful pointers on happiness ;)

[@offelambrechts]

I’m always really fascinated by the visual style in your storytelling 🙏 great video Nathaniel! Both content and production :) thank you for sharing with us

[@judyconstantino7035]

Nathaniel, I truly enjoyed watching this and hearing your, and your friends’ perspective on happiness. Thank you for posting such great content. How lucky we are to have friends who we are willing to discuss such introspective ideas. I am fortunate this way, also. I appreciate that you share trials, as well as triumphs, in your life. Let’s face it. That is reality. Sending positive energy out to the universe for you.

[@ikammel]

I absolutely love your vulnerability with us. It really touches my heart. Thanks for sharing your creativity with us while being honest with it. This is worth more than gold!

[@organicallyme]

It is always a breath of fresh air whenever I watch a video from you!

[@rebeccagutierrez1960]

1 John 2:16-17 The Message Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world-wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important-has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out-but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.

[@EmilymarieTovar]

3 minutes in, wow Nathaniel. This video looks amazing. The editing, animation, the b roll. It’s BEAUTIFUL.

[@rubinagomes2950]

Wow! I needed this reminder. Thank you Nathaniel 💖🙏

[@OcularAMVs]

The production on this video interwoven with your thoughts is absolutely amazing. I have a problem where I don’t start projects because I try to make it so perfect and it’s been a hurdle and seeing your content for years makes me so inspired to chase and create

[@101hamilton]

You are such an insightful young man and I love watching your videos. I also have been watching your parent's channel and see that amazing story telling/presentation skills runs in your family. Thank you for making the world a better place with your amazing content!

[@deandrademari]

I just came out of a therapy session on this very topic. It was beautiful to continue this flow of thoughts here in this video. Thank you!

[@s.alexander8157]

This was beautiful art and thought provoking. It's clear you put great time and care to craft this piece!

[@anagabrielateran]

You’re videos are always so great. Thank you for sharing this Nathaniel. It’s really inspiring and the reminders of what is delicate and important are always nice to have. Milan holds a special place in my heart since I lived there 3 years ago as well, your points and story really resonates with me.

[@sandrapopovic2494]

Nathaniel, every time I watch one of your videos I am reminded of my ambition to live a life true to myself and values. It tends to die down when I get so caught up in the modern world, and this video in particular was refreshing. I couldn't have seen this at a better time, thank you from the bottom of my heart

[@fakename4683]

I feel the paradigm offered here is fundamentally wrong. There is no one “thing” you can spend your time on that will bring fulfillment. Success is usually chained with anxiety reduction. I have noticed a lot of people chase this feeling of reduction. But that’s relief, not happiness. Fundamentally, we are asking the wrong things from our actions. Relief from boredom is not the search for happiness. It’s the relief of boredom.

[@springwater9981]

I met someone the other say who said - happiness is finding the peace in the boring moments inbetween

[@AbelKleinblatt]

What an amazing film, Nathaniel! It's crazy how you can conclude it in such a simple formula. And I agree it's hard to wrap my head around it as well

[@lamarthisse9400]

I couldn’t agree more ! Mate , you’re a kind of modern philosopher. Love your channel , the most inspiration- resonating and beautiful place on KZbin 🌺

[@ryancxe]

Your accomplishments may not have made you happier but they gave you something to work towards and feel fulfilled through meaningful contribution to the world?

[@khalilahd.]

Couldn’t agree more!

[@flyingroses]

I read a book this year on this topic. It said that (internal) happiness begins with self-acceptance. It's a bit different than your message, although much is the same. THe book said that once you accept that you are good as you are, that you don't need to change or proof anything in order to "deserve" your existence, you can start your way towards actual happiness. You need to let go of all desire for "success". This doesn't mean you can't strive for things anymore, you still can. The difference is that you are no longer driven by fear and distress, so that what you do becomes the most enjoyable, and that when things don't work out, you don't experience it as "I failed, therefore, I should make up for this or else I don't deserve to exist." I thought this was a very encouraging and powerful message and I'm gonna try my best at self-acceptance and happiness this year. Not by doing things and accomplishing goals, but by simply taking more time to appreciate myself. ✨

[@mursalrizaey4777]

How beautifully said, exactly the reminder I needed right now. Thank you. ♥️

[@Diane_Roberts]

This is so beautifully filmed and edited ❤

[@BeTheEnergySteve]

HOW!! How are you creating masterpiece after masterpiece!! Super inspired brother! Truly incredible work and love watching you expand! 🤩🤩🤩⚡️⚡️⚡️💛💛💛 thank you for shining!!

[@yanis2800]

Your storytelling is just on an another level. keep going, you continue to amaze!

[@mariahfrare]

I learned that happiness will never occur, but moments of it, so we can never search for happiness because it is a abstract concept, no one can actually define happiness but we misuse the word but what we mean with happiness is comfort.

[@eliseeichler7943]

Book recommendation: “The ruthless elimination of hurry” by John Mark Comer. It’s written from a Biblical worldview, but anyone who is open for new ideas can get some really cool wisdom out of it. 10/10 recommend!

[@joefelcui8241]

clicked so fast HAHAHA love you Nathan 🧡

[@jitkadrahotska7880]

Thank you for making these videos! I have recently started journaling in a completely different way to help myself ask these questions. Instead of weekly reviews or ad hoc entries about all the troubles happening in my life, I try to reach for my journal anytime when something triggers me to reflect on what happened and how to help myself. Having this instant response has accelerated the change in finding what makes me feel happy and fulfilled. So thank you for reminding me once again of the importance to ask these big and difficult questions. Can't wait for your upcoming videos :)

[@marinastoyanova7009]

I needed to hear this and see that we are all going through the same! Thank you! The quality of that video was beyond magnificent! Thank you for the beautiful landscape in Italy! Stay blessed!

[@evanopilismithjones214]

Happiness... It's not found at the end of success but the process of pursuing that which you want to do. I suggest you to check El Camino de la Felicidad by Jorge Bucay. This Argentinian psychologist makes a good comparison between what we think happiness is and what really is. It's not material, is not the end of something... It's the process of doing that which we like and love.

[@shukrmessage7640]

"the ones who believe and their hearts are peaceful with the remembrance of The God. Listen, the hearts find peace only in the remembrance of The God.” (Quran 13:18) Even if you are not religious or never plan to be religious I believe it's worth reading or examining some of the religions especially Islam. Islam is the religion that most people brush away for last. Yet it has the fastest conversion rate. Even if you never agree to accept it, it is always worth learning about imho.

[@fairydust3493]

I can’t even express how much i love your videos. I found them very comforting and relatable.

[@VickyDIncecco]

YES! Love this SO MUCH. I love the topic and wholeheartedly agree. I also thoroughly enjoyed this film visually. I really appreciate how much you've grown as a filmmaker. Just a joy to watch. :)

[@YesTheory]

Loved this story Nathan!! The blonde dude didn’t seem know much about what he was talking about though 🙄

[@amandal8404]

You hit the nail on the head. I'm someone who gravitates toward slow living, while my partner is more active. After lots of experimentation, I learned that everyone is wired differently with different needs. The key is knowing how to rebalance when you're feeling off kilter. For example, too much doing can be balanced by slowing down and just "being". Similarly, too much "being" can lead to feelings of boredom even for someone like me, and it can be balanced by intellectual pursuits/more action.

[@LaurenOliviArt]

Silly billy that’s you! 😂

[@extremefilm]

lol

[@sloowed_reveerb]

Haha :)

[@louisdewit4429]

I found him very profound. And gorgeous.

[@bellec4556]

Hi, I always love your videos, but I just want to say no perspective on life or no accomplishment will fill the void you have for Jesus!! He’s the best and He’s not trying to boss u around He’s loving you by guiding you on a path that the world will say the opposite of freedom. But following God is freedom!!! Ok just leaving this here💕😊 😘He loves you ❤️

[@TristanSharman]

I think this might be my favourite video of the year so far. Beautifully told, great conclusions, and it really resonated. Thank you for sharing :)

[@TilikaVispute]

Joy is literally core of my current life and YT journey. And even then I soemtimes stumble but having it as my North Star (along with Love) has made me happier. Thank you for your beautiful visual storytelling… such a magician you are, Nathaniel. Thank you for sharing your world with us. 🌸🧚🏻‍♀️✨