Noisy Neighbors Pt. 3: how to deal.

[@opiumdensRus]

I subscribed because you deserve it. I am into recovery and struggling with noisy nieghbors, drug dealing loser loud nieghbors. Even a dead nieghbor who was decomposing and my repeated complaints to management about smell. They didnt investigate. I called Board of Health who made them check nieghboring apartment. Cops came to talk to me and said he was fully decomposed in there.

[@opiumdensRus]

I need a therapist like you that gets it. Fkin noisy neighbors will totally rob your sanity. Retaliating just starts a war and doesn't work your right.

[@boyv4667]

And yes, regarding what you said on the end - how, in the moments when you were banging on the floor, you did not like that kind of person, that you have became in that moment, i can say that, after months of suffering, i actually did not care anymore of "what kind of a person i became 'in that moment' ()ie when i was banging on the wall for instance) as I only cared of getting some peace from noisy fck** and that was an ultimate thing i wished and cared about, and also because inside myself i knew that I am actaully not that 'kind' of person, i am very lovely person but i had to fight for my basic right to have peace, from people who did not give a toss about anyone. So no, i did not feel bad even when i was banging on the floor with a stone :D but actually i felt finally with some power and even deciding that I don't even care about impression i make, as long as I get peace, was empowering thought (it gave me a freedom to act, regardless..) Hope this makes sense.

[@eugene1197]

Excellent video. Thoughts create feelings and you can deal with that...

[@boyv4667]

Great video! And you are awesome! I learned a lot - thank you!

[@JasonSheppardArtist]

thanks for the help.....

[@Mitch-A]

This is brilliant, thank you! Exactly what I needed to hear. Much respect on your self-development!

[@SandyRocker]

❤️❤️

[@jumptoit3812]

I have shitty neighbors, I choose to take actions, make the situation better. They will be evicted due to their lack of consideration, due to their actions and poor decisions.

[@MrSnoopydupy]

thx for this video. I got depression cause on my noisy neigbours. But you gave me a clue what is wrong with me. I always pick something to chew on and being angry about it. And in time of Kovid where we all being locked down, and my noisy neigbours were waking me all the time at nights it was my perfect bone to chew on. Your info in this video will be a key for me I suspect in my future dealing with my problems. Thank you.

[@boyv4667]

Ok but instead 'pushing against' as i wrote on previous video - you are on higher floor - so that is already a great advantage - as they hear you as much as you hear them. I would figure out when they are sleeping themselves/ maybe if they are playing music really late at night they are asleep till noon or something. So.... I would, in very enjoyable way, for instance put my best make-up on, tie my hair in a ponytail and think of beautiful things to do in my day, and than wore a pair of hardest shoes, with high heels or wooden clogs and would be walking 6 hours every morning while doing anything in my apartment, in those clogs, cooking dinner, making coffees just walking arround.. That in the apartment bellow would be heard sooo loud!!! That would drive them crazy for sure after while. Not that I am evil or anything but after few weeks of hell, they will be ready to nagotiate. :D

[@boyv4667]

I am writing all this as I greatly suffered as lived and still living near assholes neighbours who did not care about anyone around (shouting, banging loud etc etc late at night etc.. so after months and months of feeling powerless and victimised, feeling so stressed and overwhelmed, my life actually changed when i made a decision that I will fight it back. It actually worked! to quite large extend/ after they saw that I am ready to revenge and disturb them in return/ and i showed some teeth and that I am dangerous :D they actually did pull back a bit (enough that now i get a lot more peace, and it is bearable) and that only happened because I showed that I can be crazy too and dangerous. Of course, I am not, but that is the only thing that they understood, no asking them nicely or showing them I suffer worked, only returning it equal.. :D

[@lindatalbott7974]

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