Nokulunga and Thandi ON sharing a boyfriend and later co-parenting his daughter

[@YvonneMofokeng-b9k]

Hi Promise, I'm one of those people who used to consume your content without suscribing. But this is one of the best sessions ever, and because of these two ladies, I subscribed. You know what "good conversation"❤ I loved it so much, and it is not far-fetched. Our mothers and fathers are/were a living proof. In this case, I am Shakina, and my mom and stepmother used to get along like the house on fire(may their souls rest in peace). At that time, I grew up not knowing that my stepmother was my father's ex-wife and only found out about it when I was 14/ 15 years old. My stepbrothers used to visit my house, and they got along well with my mom. I was the only one who didn't know that they were my brothers, I thought we related, but I never knew it was that close. One day, a friend of mine asked me how are we related, and I just said to her their father and my father are brothers (she laughed at me, like she knew something) later that day I asked my mom how are we related to my stepbrothers and she said ask your dad. My dad came back from work, and I asked him. He stood up and said to me, "Sit here, I'm coming just now." He went and took a file from his wardrobe with photos and started explaining that he was married before and things didn't work and he had 4 kids with my stepmother who I thought was my Mamogolo (who was really nice to me, not even once I saw her shouting) he showed me photos of their marriage and photos of my step brother when they were young. Then he said to me, "I am now married to your mother, and you were born. I didn't even know that my mother's kids were my half brothers and sisters. I grew up in a big warm home, my brothers from my father's side, and my brothers and sisters from my mother's side got along so well. Even now, with our parents not around anymore (may their souls continue to rest in eternal peace), they get along so well. When there's a gathering, you would think they are from the same mom and dad. They love each other, and I am also happy to see them loving each other like that. I don't have to choose a side, I know either way I'm loved from both sides of the family. Even my stepmother's sisters are so nice to me. I love your podcast. Keep doing what you are doing and let SA grow and get healed through your content. Let us raise a healthy society, not angry kids and unstable families/ people. It is up to us now as parents to be subtle. Situations happen, but we need to heal from everything for the sake of our kids.

[@Yeye__]

I never leave this channel without learning something. This also just made me send my husbands baby mama a message 😢😢❤️❤️❤️ Let love lead 😊

[@mphosetlogelo8275]

😮

[@coco6875]

Heal and let love lead your heart. I wish you well ❤❤❤

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

​@@mphosetlogelo8275why the face??😂😂😂😂😂

[@annienai]

I'm tempted

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

This touched my heart😢 Let love lead.

[@kgomotsomokwena1025]

This is maturity to the highest level. God is in the center of this relationship

[@Lee_mo1]

Now everyone is crying!😢 it is so beautiful to watch ladies really feel for each other❤❤❤

[@tintswalomabasa565]

I also share a tear seeing them crying

[@lebogangmametja1890]

Both of them are so mature, and the wife is so graceful wow! I was so skeptical at the title but this episode was filled with so much wisdom!

[@Tiisetso_Kgomo]

I love these ladies so much! Thank you for this conversation. Nations will be blessed!

[@DiseboMtsweni]

A time has come for women to unite ❤❤

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

I absolutely believe it. But we are not leaving men behind 😄

[@DiseboMtsweni]

​@@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh No men are our air 😂😂😂

[@lifewithvivy]

Oh yes

[@NtuthuM-J25]

lol Amandla💪🏽

[@mabiyela429]

If we as w9man start to respect each other above the man and we heal we can create beautiful families. Kudos to the ladies

[@patienceikombele9161]

Beautiful story, I love it💯 This little girl is so lucky to have 2 beauty matured moms.

[@ttsatsa]

what a prominent conversation that's also eye-opening for most of us. I wish you ladies well.

[@tshegofatsontabane584]

Blended families are not easy but this is proof that its possible ❤.. goosebumbs

[@boledimoroasui4661]

Heiiiiiiii😢

[@tshegofatsontabane584]

@boledimoroasui4661 😀😀 life now is blended families shm but this episode mma Letsoalo one are informative

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Ncoohhhh🥰🥰 look at two beautiful women bonding over an unfaithful act of a man. How sweet🤡🤡🤡. I love how men just go ahead and disrespect us and then us as women become matured and take matters into our own hands for the sake of the kids ❤❤❤ we should really learn from men🙂 those people don't give a rat's ass about us. But....this is beautiful. I commend you both for your maturity. May this sisterhood continue to flourish❤❤❤

[@zinhlesmiley3589]

You missed the point. This is about the child more than about the guys .

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

@@zinhlesmiley3589 That's exactly what I said though. I got the point. I'm just giving you the other side of the coin.

[@pri_254]

I agree. It was an interesting interview but all I saw was 🤡🤡🤡

[@Tshifaro_WarriorPrincess]

"Don't force anything" this is true because situations are always different and people really need to heal on order to be okay with the dynamics of blended families. ❤

[@nickypieters5278]

God bless all of you 3 ladies hearts. Promise this is for your healing journey as well. My Father God Almighty works in mysterious way. His thoughts are not our thoughts but His plans for your lives will always prevail. May God continue to use and bless all three of you. I love you but Jesus loves you even more.

[@leratokobedi1034]

This was such a mature conversation. Thank you for sharing your story, there are alot of woman who could learn alot from this.

[@dineoseoke5758]

This level of maturity is soo amazing...

[@bofeloomolemo4503]

What a conversation, i wish many women can come to terms with being graceful and have peace so that kids grow in a beautiful set up ..this is possible

[@jabulilemlaka6253]

Children of God Mara 😢...hayi man woman that pray 🙏 this is beautiful.

[@NsikeSibisi]

Thank you for such a profound conversation, 2 beautiful & mature women showing us that this is possible. I would really love an episode with the husbands, baby daddy's that are in similar situations, to hear their perspective, how they feel, what emotions they go through & what outcome they would like to see because as much as we as women go through the hurt surely they are impacted just as much (referring to a decent man that knows & acknowledges responsibility). I really enjoyed this, Mara you are so toxic Precious 🤣🤣 . You made me laugh yaz. Thank you girl 😍

[@promisekomani]

Man! This is so wholesome 🥺❤️

[@leratomokatse2276]

We need to repent Promise. The kids are being made to choose sides and lie. They are extremely stressed Bana ba shem. 😔 We must do better tlheng

[@khangwelolivhadi7779]

I enjoyed every minute of this episode. Kudos to these women they are doing great❤

[@NdivhuT]

What a beautiful conversation ❤

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

Thank you for having us Sis...my very own tea

[@ameliamolapo7825]

I really enjoyed this episode and as a stepmother I'm willing to do better ❤❤❤❤

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

Then everything Lunga and I went through was WORTH IT. Thank you.

[@portiashava3023]

Waaaal I am in awe it is only God that can facilitate this kind of healing, thank you ladies for sharing your journey with us❤❤

[@FezyMN]

You are all so adorable right now ... with the whole crying and all😂❤❤❤... and I'm crying too😅

[@naledindlovu976]

What well spoken and dynamic women of God ❤ I love them God has His own ways of ministering, imagine how many hearts this story is going to change...so heart warming 💖

[@thusomugwena6436]

Beautiful and amazing 👏 big shout to this ladies,it takes matured people to put their differences aside and focus on the child .

[@nthabisengmoshana8589]

What a lovely episode, really enjoyed it. Love their maturity

[@ConnieLeburu]

This is so beautiful.GOD is really bringing family together thank you so much ❤❤

[@lethabomaupa]

Your mission is big Promise! ❤❤

[@tumelomoeketsi5949]

iyoooooo promise go bokete maaaan, re kwenya mare ga bohloko, to be this matured it really takes God to intervene cause wow

[@qaqambafuzile5967]

What a mature conversation ❤❤I love it . Could listen to these ladies all day OMG. The greatness that comes with woman who are holding hands,for each other . 5’the world would be a better place I tell you ❤❤

[@tintswalomabasa565]

This women are so matured. How i wish God can help every woman (Baby mamas) & wives who are experiencing pain bcoz of situations like this heal and be at peace with each other. ❤❤❤

[@amahKebonang]

Your journey ladies can change the world to be a better place, Iyooo so so heartwarming ❤😊

[@learnwithme322]

WOW! Just WOW! These are the stories we need to see and hear about! This truly helps restore my faith in humanity! When you allow the process to unfold organically, in partnership with God!❤❤❤💫💫 Thank you ladies!❤ Bathong, it's a lot easier to love than it is to hate!

[@GrowingwithFaith_]

Oh I love these 2 women 😍😍 if you include God in it, everything just comes together

[@tshidimanamela7953]

This is so beautiful to watch ❤😢❤😢

[@mpumimg6000]

The maturity in this room 🙌

[@xolilenene3816]

Well done ladies with this episode 👏 this was very insightful ❤

[@nkhen_c357]

They need to do sit down events about this. They educate and monetise this....

[@SannieThipe]

Ijooh you ladies are a great examples❤

[@SindisiweMpofu-g3v]

Thank you for this beautiful lesson ❤

[@darealvirgo86]

These co parenting things work when your roots are similar, they both have the same belief system.

[@unathiphama8967]

Truly God is a game changer! The kind of healing the world needs. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️

[@poppy03-m4v]

I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR AN UPLOAD !!! ❤️ thank you !!!!

[@lesegolegoale2522]

Beautiful episode ❤❤❤

[@tembezelanilubatapela3116]

Tjoeeeee this was an emotional,fruitful conversation for me,l deeply can relate longing for the same outcome now

[@ZeeInterpretationz]

Thandi's voice is so soothing.

[@zanelemaboea7196]

My favorite girls right there ❤❤❤ I truly adore you ladies, Apostles, and anointed women of God

[@motselisimokhachane1799]

What a beautiful conversation.

[@MantsebeRaps]

Woow, I am speechless. Beautiful hearts. God be with you ladied❤

[@Togetherwethrivepodcast242]

The best episode 🙌🏼 👌🏾. Thank you so much.

[@SganandaZ]

Such an amazing relationship 🎉

[@MphoRatiro]

Such a beautiful conversation ❤

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

Thank you

[@sharoonlungilehlatshwayo9598]

I love your conversations dear Promise...keep up the good work my dear❤

[@sibongilenkwana8835]

Jah neh....baliphethe kahle ivangeli labosisi! Talk about true kingdom representation....in a world pushing toxic femininity, they chose to be salt and light

[@matimbabaloyi2585]

I'm not skipping any adverts I love this talk I hope other people can learn from this series..... Guys I beg you not to skip the adverts that's how they get money to give us good shows

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

@@matimbabaloyi2585 we appreciate you

[@ditopanchachi4876]

Next week we want the man himself please

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

😂😂😂

[@nokulungamoshime9732]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@victorioussisters3307]

Oh yes I support this suggestion actually both men.

[@sharoonlungilehlatshwayo9598]

Highly supported please and thank you 😂

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Please😂😂😂😂😂

[@selmamukwiilongo3206]

Beautiful to watch ❤

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Mhm you know as someone who grew up in a born again Christian family and is a Christian I struggle so much with how often our faith & the word is used to enable patriarchy and how Christian women are somewhat always manipulated into letting so much slide all in the name of being Christian. I wonder if it were two Christian men in the position of these ladies would things have played out the same way.

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

I hear you Sis. I don't know what 2 Christian men would have done and I honestly don't care as I do not base my obedience to Christ on societal norms. I wouldn't advance the cause of Christ that way. Also forgiveness and living in peace are what Christ offered us. We accepted His offer and live a far peaceful and purposeful life because of it. We pray for men and women to look unto Jesus.

[@nthabisengnkabinde2518]

I love you ladies. I am also a Christian was married to this man having 3 kids. He introduced only 2, I know the other 1 when we were already married. I accepted the children, my man refused me to have relationship with kids only to find out that, he is still dating them even lies to them that he is not married.

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

This must have been such a challenging experience. I pray you got your beautiful wings out of the pain in that season. God continue to heal and strengthen you in the name of Jesus.

[@nthabisengnkabinde2518]

@@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh I am healed dear.

[@akhonamajova6818]

The power of a Prayer 🙏🏾

[@Semakaleng__]

Co-parenting takes a lot. Whether things happened in the dating phase or in marriage. Everyone needs to heal and come to terms with the fact that it’s not about the parents, but the child. The healing takes time and some just never come to that point and it’s sad.. So sad that some parents are still hurt to a point where they just can’t heal for the sake of the child..I wish people could just let go and raise their children in healthy environments. It’s not easy, but it’s doable if you are willing. This was beautiful to watch❤️

[@nokulungamoshime9732]

The truth in this🙌🏾. It really is about the child/children and if we can go through pain and not dwell or stay in the place of pain and hatred.

[@Semakaleng__]

@@nokulungamoshime9732 Exactly, because at the end, the one who suffers is the child. They end up having a bad or no relationship with the other parent. They eventually grow up thinking the other parent hates them.

[@IamLungo]

Yr back ground is too dark

[@tebogoramokgobedi2309]

I love promise thle😂she says I am toxic

[@boipelokuju6704]

Ijoo Promise, u always leave me speechless but knowledgeable and amazed. Thank you girl for this show. Hope this will help a lot of baby mamas (esp Mandy , cause I love that girl & would like to see her happy). I hope it helps you too in your marriage cause I can see you have a good heart but was not given the opportunity to express it on ur stepchild. Love your show but this really is the best. I am not in this situation but know it can help a lot of women. Guys, let's give Promise her flower while still alive. Love you girl...big time. Continue to do the good work❤❤❤

[@harrietndlovu6531]

Aaaaa two good ladies, bayahloniphana wawuuuuuu😅😅😅 i clap for you

[@mantelekhitsane8935]

Wow basadi batshwara thipa ka bohaleng ❤

[@mashadimokgata871]

Beautiful 🥰🎉.

[@Reset_With_Louisa]

I love them please.💕

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

Hey Louisa. We receive the love❤

[@madialemotsiri586]

Woow God is indeed in control

[@UnathiManyamalala]

Beautiful episode Cc

[@connymontsho]

So proud of these ladies.Cos ladies fight thats where a man gets an opportunity to jump between us.

[@thatogix8259]

When everyone cried ❤️❤️ mommy feelings

[@DiseboMtsweni]

God is intentional about your situation 😢😢

[@MapulaRamokgopa]

Genesis 50:20❤❤❤

[@leahokonkwor3161]

Ka nnete ho monate ho tshepa Modimo

[@connymontsho]

I am a strong believer in blending families guy.Put anger aside tlheng.The peace that comes with making peace in so healthy amd good for kids

[@tebellomotabaaletta9988]

Will be there. Where will it be in Lesotho

[@nokulungamoshime9732]

It will be in Maseru in town will confirm the venue. But definitely in Maseru.

[@flowerlindz]

"Tsamayang counselling banyana baka, le ka se be di best friend after dating the same guy". Ha e kgonege🤣

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are. You see an inability of human beings to co-exist in peace simply because they once shared a man. That's limiting. We see the world through the unlimited lenses of growth, living in harmony, learning functionality from our mistakes and forgiveness. Also, we never purpoted to be best friends. It's a greater relationship than that. Thank you for watching and may God heal any part of you that has remained stunted.

[@flowerlindz]

@@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh Lmao at you wishing me healing 🤣 whatever puts you to sleep at night ke bheyps.

[@thatohope9223]

@Flowerlindz You are the one who need counseling here 😂😂!

[@flowerlindz]

@@thatohope9223 takes one to know one🤣 and I'm very much pro counseling. You should go too❤️

[@keotshepileplaatjies8424]

Please tag along as you are failing to see the log in your eyes

[@Tiisetso_Kgomo]

Mel la Vie!!!!!

[@sarahndaba1254]

Women power wow 😢

[@gugulethukhoza9208]

Stepmom 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@nokulungamoshime9732]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@MaphefoSeabi]

Ke leboga pipi ke leboga pipi ke leboga pipi,,singing maredi's wedding song😅

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

😂😂😂😂😂😂STOP

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

Bathong!🤣

[@nokulungamoshime9732]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ruthmokwena2340]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@thanyie_heiress]

Ok I'm not a fan of the dark mode lighting . We can barely see the guests.

[@Queendollar83]

Then start your own podcast with the lighting you prefer 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@thanyie_heiress]

@@Queendollar83 LOL grow up!

[@Queendollar83]

@@thanyie_heiress that's the advice you should have taken before writing that stupid comment to begin with

[@thanyie_heiress]

@@Queendollar83 OK Bubu 😘

[@ongezwa_siyamthanda]

Lord, I see what you are doing for other kids. Please do for me also ♥

[@keotshepileplaatjies8424]

I am the Nokubonga in my blended fam.

[@lucinda_mohale]

Wow❤

[@ngobeniboledimaggie]

❤

[@neontseno340]

Si within!!

[@flowerlindz]

Yho, men stay being the hill🤣

[@MmeChuene]

I'm astonished

[@flowerlindz]

@@MmeChuene Yho! Same

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

I think you missed the point and that is that JESUS remains the hill we die on.

[@flowerlindz]

@@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh That man remained the hill. Did y'all date and marry Jesus? But it's okay. I'll be just here in my little corner missing the point 🥹 when we disagree with y'all then 'we missed the point'🤣 always.

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

@flowerlindz your takeaway from this entire interview was the man Sis. He is actually the least part of our story, but to you he is the greatest point cause according to you, it's impossible for us to be friends because of him and I'm trying to show you that our perceptions are not similar. Where you see a man, we see beyond the man. We see Jesus. We see our child. We see our family. We see nations healed because of our story. We see babymama's and stepmama's healing and focusing on what matters most, our personal healing and the healing of our families. So my point is, the man is important to you and should have remained directing our paths and cause us to hate each other, which is obvious according to your comment that, that's what you would have done and stood for if you were in our situation. We choose civility, healing and the prosperity of our souls through Jesus, that is why Jesus is the hill we chose to die on. Had we chosen to die on the hill of a man we would have hated each other as you suggest. Your very comment suggests that for you, the hill you would have died on when it comes to a choice on whether to forgive and love another woman, the fact that you would have once shared a man would have made that decision easy for you. You would have allowed the man factor to decide hatred or distance from that woman. Between you and us, who then actually is the one who dies on the hill of a man? Do you see what I meant when I said, we see the world as we are? No man will make me hate or distance myself from another woman. Jesus does not advocate for that and Jesus is the hill we chose to die on.

[@babeskjo]

Good for them …but I could never trust a man that played me like that..Never

[@noxiek]

Promise fix things wuth baby mamas Stop being proud of not being in g😂terms with them

[@nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369]

And ke sana men always choose themselves. Very easy for a man to marry the girl from a well known family (PKs)..... Men Amadoda😂🤭

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Let me you...men wouldn't have even bothered to do this🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️ men don't have time for maturity, peace and harmony. Because women take it upon themselves and therefore women will forever remain as clowns🤡🤡

[@Lizzie_Nghitu]

You guys are crying🤔 sorry, sorry, sorry all of you🫂

[@MasetheNurse]

Yhooo Promise this hits so much close to home… I’m 51years old and experienced the same thing from a 15years relationship…The heartbreak 💔 Yhoo🥹🥲

[@ntshesetshepe396]

❤