Dakalo on struggling with her teenage daughter who is on drugs

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

Hey everyone, Dakalo would appreciate any amount of donations. Thanks. Account Holder: Thabile Given Ntai Bank Name: TymeBank Branch Code: 678910 Account Number: 51091499965

[@Sbongile962]

I donated, Mommy❤ Your baby girl will be fine❤

[@mrs.m1015]

@@Sbongile962 May God bless you.

[@Mapula_Reloaded]

For?? ​@@khensanebaloyi6835

[@marywangari2555]

Please inbox me the address of the facility

[@khethiwengubo8035]

When I get paid I ll contribute until Jan 2024, Am pledging.

[@lehakwemzima]

This woman loovvess her child. The deep sighs she kept taking kept punching holes in my heart because wow. 💔

[@poppymatroos4060]

A mother who stands up for a kids, no matter what,,, Dakalo you are one of the kind, most mothers give up easily,,, but you stood,,, through the strength of our most high...I'm so proud of you😊

[@KingMorena-fw7zw]

I salute her ❤

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

She's amazing. Heart of a mother. May God bless her, and he will.

[@noziphokhumalo2963]

She truly is a gem 💎 ❤

[@moshidimashego3289]

Please with all due respect, you should have let her expressed her self with a language she feels comfortable with

[@mduduzigama5511]

right

[@dineo.r_]

Her editor could’ve added subtitles. I agree with you!

[@briellagab]

And have the rest of the world miss out of the story, she did just fine.

[@dineo.r_]

@@briellagabif anything, we missed out now because she couldn’t adequately express herself. They could’ve added subtitles, which would’ve been more inclusive than “speaking” English.

[@guysmasemola8667]

Definitely

[@sallykenene5876]

Mommy you are indeed a mother.That is unconditional love. Your are a strong woman. May the good Lord strengthen you always.

[@noluthandomkhize6542]

Yho this woman 😢 I feel like everyone needs a mom like this. Waze wamuthanda umntana wakhe ❤ Hopefully she comes back better and stronger 🥰❤️

[@matodzindwammbi9898]

And I’m here with my 2% education running my own business at 25 and my mom doesn’t want me, let alone talk to me . I’d beg her to ask my 5 yr old baby sis to call me and she won’t even respond

[@khetaniqwele2861]

@@matodzindwammbi9898Be patience with her We living in a cruel word where devil is in control of divisions in families. Even the bible tell us about that. Pray to God for her healing. ❤🙏

[@leratoleseka3728]

Advice to Promise :please don't go to the rehab center for the interview...wait for her to heal and she can come to you. ❤

[@elizabethmahlangu4680]

I agree with you dear

[@pheladinare2876]

True

[@oneseipato6485]

I agree so she focus on the healing

[@maemakola5771]

True

[@zandilezondo2440]

👏yes

[@ApostleEdwardTapiwa]

I was a marijuana, heroin, crack cocaine, cocaine, crystal meth addict and alcoholic. I was saved by giving my life to Jesus Christ and through the knowledge from the Holy Spirit. Addiction is caused by demonic entities that's why rehab doesn't work for most people. Addiction is a spiritual challenge.

[@khanyamazkhali6949]

This is so true Bhuti.

[@leratomthethwa6045]

Praise the Lord🙌🙌

[@darlingraychel8790]

Such a smart and intelligent mother! Very patient and positive! MY God bless her May all her prayers towards her daughter be answered! Amen

[@_molebogeng6281]

Weed & hubly is a gateway to a lot of drugs, don't take it lightly the moment you find out your child is using it. Dakalo's story is a reality of a lot of families and it's so draining. she is such a strong mother. I'm so happy her daughter is finally at a safe place

[@thabilove3683]

The problem is people think hublly is not addictive. When you tell them otherwise they don't want to listen.

[@nenesibanda4171]

So true I don't understand why parents permit their kids to smoke hubbly even. God gave parents a responsibility to take care of their own, some situations are unforeseeable but we are to protect our kids as parents.

[@moe_ramz]

I’ve been saying this for the longest time. Shayani izingane when they smoke weed etc…

[@StarrGoddess77]

I don’t mean any disrespect but as an ex addict there is no such thing as an entry drug. Addiction is a mental disease and the problem with our community is we blame other things but really it’s a mental illness. This why I also hate the statement black women are strong, all that must stop. It probably explains why she got worse after she lost her bf, grief will eat you alive, if you don’t have a strong mind or support system around you, you will have no problem meeting death too. I’m grateful coz my mom is a social worker and the way my family negated the situation helped me face my demons and ultimately understand what exactly what I was grieving. I’m not saying weed and hubly are good just that there is more to it than just that. Like she said most addicts have this fascination with spirituality (sangoma part) it’s coz they constantly looking for an escape and most don’t even know what they are running from anymore because of the drugs numbing effect but with therapy there is nothing God cannot do!

[@VeliswaMa]

I'm here for Dakalo's courage, tenacity, determination, and, of course, her beauty. I pray that come January 2025, her daughter will be clean and ready to pick up the pieces of her life.

[@sarahphiri5365]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Deep pain ❤ please sis let please all the youth and anyone who in this deep problem of drugs 😂😂😂Sis i pry That JEHOVAH GIVE MATLA Name of the son JESUS CRIST AMEN JOB 1 END JEHOVAH WILL Correct the situation Amean

[@buhlenkomo3225]

What a touching podcast. Thanks, Mama, for the courage to share your story and for not giving up on your daughter. Thanks to Promise for offering to contribute towards the rehab fee. May I request that you don't go to the rehab and not even interview at all because it will make her more vulnerable. In the future, she might struggle to get a job, for instance, or being in a relationship because of her past online. This story is enough. You can just do a follow-up after rehab and find out from her mum how the experience has been.

[@reginahaphane159]

I love this mother hle...her resilience is unmatched

[@mantelekhitsane8935]

Yah to be a mother is something else 😢you fight even when your child refuse to be your child 🙏

[@rebotilekgweedi5627]

My God 😢 this statement 🙏🏾

[@kebam_]

😢

[@chamumafoti2657]

Well stated

[@NsikeSibisi]

Nkosi yami, it’s so hard ukuba umzali. I’m thinking of my own daughter. You can give your child everything but influence & peer pressure will show you flames. We need prayer.

[@GlitchinGamingforever]

Strength to you mommy Just please remember to give some attention to your little one as well...i really don't know how you will do it because older daughter is taking so much of your time but your little one also needs you as well.

[@modikiramaisa4619]

I’m not a parent but my heart bleeds for her 💔💔💔💔 strength to you mama

[@neomalete5832]

I’m a 21 year old trying to navigate this life thing and yoh I’ve never cried like this ,listening to this beautiful lady talk about everything she’s going through just makes my heart break and just seeing how she’s not giving up on her daughter is so heartwarming.I really am praying for my peers we really indulge in things that just open gate for other things .Love and light to mammie really praying for her I hope her daughter heals 🥺And can we as the young ones be a positive example to our younger peers

[@menniekumalo3276]

Normalise having subtitles, you can’t limit your guests and people express themselves better in their home language

[@makgoalemashabela6599]

Kodwa KZbin has that option nje, the boxed "CC" on your top right.

[@makgoalemashabela6599]

Kodwa KZbin has that option nje, the boxed "CC" on your top right on the screen.

[@KaraboLesenya]

​@@makgoalemashabela6599that thing doesn't really work

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

​@@makgoalemashabela6599Those subtitles aren't accurate which is why many youtubers insert subtitles themselves when their content is in vernac.

[@Shoni86]

Your right please

[@pulengphatedi8153]

The sad thing is that mothers are dealing with all these challenges alone 😢😢where are the fathers?

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

I'm asking myself the same thing sisi. Where are these guys. Do they move on and forget their children. My ex boyfriend left with no reservation. No regret. Thank God my child is not into drugs, but Ex failed us. He continues to.

[@tendanipelaelo6293]

The fathers are hibernating somewhere, just waiting for the kid to finish school or just about to finish, and they will show their faces knowing that now they won't have to take care of the child anymore since they are now all grown up

[@nomalungelongcete5875]

Good question indeed

[@juliamaloka70]

Most father's are absent, the present ones are very tough when coming to drugs and bad behaviour, so they give the kids tough love whereas as mother's we still one walk this journey with them. I've been there, my son was addicted to weed, he had 3 major drug induced psychotic episodes. The 2nd episode he was admitted at Rand Clinic, the ward had mixed race, blacks, whites, Indians, coloureds, Christians, Muslims, Hindus etc. All fighting same battle, drugs. During visiting hours, you only see mother's coming to check on them but not father's, why? Some are absent and some it's just black and white no grey area. You wanna be a child in my house, you obey my rules or get out of my house

[@robbylebotha]

Maybe the mothers left the fathers because the fathers were too strict, too serious, too many rules. It ONE of the reasons of course, other fathers were just nonsense or abusive ect. Theres many reasons, its better to treat the situations individually and ask the mothers, not make generalizations.

[@YourselfworthisinChrist]

You really are fighting for your daughter Dakalo, may God come through for you guys as she’s in rehab..💖💖💖

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Drug addiction destroys so many lives💔 Sending love & prayers to mommy Dakalo, she's doing the best she can🥺

[@confessions4043]

This was heartbreaking to hear. It was also so informative. Thank you mama for not giving up on your daughter. May God give both you and your daughter a beautiful testimony that will safe many people.

[@angelbhengu4881]

A mother's love knows no bounds.

[@lifewithvivy]

U can say that a million times yoh

[@sanelematong7724]

Absolutely

[@pushynko]

😅😂😂I didnt expect the Sangoma trip to turn out to be a Rehab😅😂

[@Bokamoso_Kaisara]

Me too😂😂

[@josephinemarejojoe2679]

😂😂😂

[@tshiamomahape292]

I have learned so much and very eye opening thank you mommy for openly sharing your story, God heal your daughter and bring her back strong, her purpose is above her but she is equipped

[@SteaksWaban2]

Kodw umuhl Ntomby❤ and you look mentally strong

[@darlingraychel8790]

Strongest mom ever!! Wow! Thank you promise for considering those viewers who don’t understand South African language! I am glad I get to listen to this! This episode touched me so much!

[@ZaneleMagangana]

Watching this made me cry ....it made me miss my late mother...this gal has no idea how lucky she is to have a mother like dakalo....ive been going thru things in life alone and i had to pick myself up alone😢Good bless this woman and continue giving her strength

[@Ashlynma]

Dakalo, you have spoken for some of us who are in the same situation as you. I see myself in your tenacity and spirit of not giving up on your child. Your daughter will be used by Our God to speak life and hope to other kids. You are being used to encourage us mommies to keep on living. God is our strength. You have done well, I am super proud of you.

[@Lerato_Lamola]

hi Promise, just a suggestion. maybe you should introduce ice breaker questions to help guests with nerves and get more comfortable. otherwise i love your craft.

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

Thank you will consider this❤

[@peggysue4201]

A brilliant child indeed .i thank God for a mother like you..she will be in my prayers and i love her so much.she is a star.God give you strength ma to fight and win...

[@ThatoMatsetse]

Thank you so much mmago Makunyane for your generosity🥹❤️. Mommy is a strong woman hle, sending love ❤️❤❤

[@zaneleluhabe8863]

Sad indeed,what a waste of an intelligent child😢.Drugs are a nightmare in our society.Sorry mama,keep the faith.God will come thru for you andyour precious daughter ❤️

[@thobilembasa8954]

I just came from tik tok here am I now wow I am amazed by this woman's love❤❤ may God bless you

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

God bless you Promise for covering this. Big up Dakalo for removing the shame and talking bodly my love. The nine months will change her life.

[@nwakhubayi]

You are such a great mom ❤❤. I am soo sorry you are going through this . Sending you so much love and strength.

[@KimmyR12]

Never have I ever seen a parent who loves their kids the way Dakalo loves her daughter in my life, even after putting her through all these, she is still putting her daughters feelings, she feels her pain and she empathise with her through and through. Now thats unconditional love

[@amosjournal649]

Honestly, as content consumers lets be kind and selfless..Promise tries to give content weekly, can we allow her to grow and do whats best for all her subscribers

[@patienceikombele9161]

Thank you 💯

[@mphodingiswayo3282]

My heart is not only bleed from the story but also at how MEAN people are. This lady is doing her best to express herself but of course private school higher grade youtube English teachers will always find fault in every single guess who does not have similar vocabulary and accent nje ngabo

[@motheowalerato701]

Amen❤ People can be so demanding yoh

[@moeledikgale2493]

I found myself crying throughout the interview 😭😭mommy, I love your fighting spirit. Keep doing it for your child. She doesn't have to like you now but she will love you more when she turns out well. Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️

[@mamotonarosemoloi7770]

Our justice system is fucked up. We have a drug problem in SA, a concerned mother asks for help/ assistance n they tell her shit. She's over 18, yes, but she needs help... What are they saying. It's OK to have drug addicts because they are over 18...

[@nonzwakaziprecious9507]

Our system has failed us long time ago and if they find you locking the child indoors you'll be arrested. Yoh it's a joke, kanti why kumele ilizwe lethu life kabuhlungu kangaka?

[@khutjoinnocentia4031]

As someone who works with both children and adults battling substance addiction, I totally understand your point. However, it’s very difficult to work with someone who is being forced to go to a rehabilitation facility. The inpatient treatment program consists of therapy sessions which require a lot of commitment from the client. You can use various techniques such as motivational interview as a therapist but if the client is not interested, the sessions will not be that effective. There’s a model that we make reference to when helping our clients which is called the change model which has about 5 stages. It’s very difficult to work with a client that is in the first stage where the client does not see anything wrong with their behaviour.

[@briellagab]

Yes, as a adult in any country on earth, he/she can do as they please including unfortunately drugs.

[@nezisanogumla9730]

Also shout out to your people in your circle who help u with those R200 that went up to R6000 those are real ones ,you are amazing mom God will see you through he has much bigger plans for you n your daughter you passed his test with distinction you will now reap .trust in him as he lives in you ❤❤❤love you mami, you made me 😢a lot though

[@thembisilemsiza942]

Wooo. how I regret reading this comment, I'm soo discouraged tyt now.....where will we end up getting help for our smoking teens ? 😢

[@AFitHealer]

We are crying with you mommy, I’m 23 years old and I have a rehabilitation home also in Limpopo where by we deal with such heart breaking stories on a day to day basis, i wish her a full recovery and please after the program there try to take her for therapy she still has a lot of underlying issues. Love & light❤️

[@thembisilemsiza942]

Hi,may u kindly mention that rehabilitation home in Limpopo please ? I am in the province

[@lillymmtimande6134]

Promise failed this interview, Hazel was needed here

[@KingMorena-fw7zw]

What a sad story, love and light to your daughter

[@nenesibanda4171]

What an incredible story...what a brave mother...❤you look so gorgeous and one wouldn't even say you went through what you went through. God be with you

[@amosjournal649]

The way she speaks ❤❤❤❤❤she has a commanding voice❤

[@lovelerato1]

As a mother…. You did the best you could have done. Do never ever feel like you could have done anything better. Life could not have prepared you for this…. You’re an amazing mom and you have and continued to do your best.

[@sibusisiwesithole6514]

Gosh I want to give her and her daughter a warm hug🥹😍❤️no Mom deserves such.

[@mahlogonolophokanoka7183]

This should've been a 2 part interview, my heart goes out for this mother ❤

[@khanyisilelioma6462]

For her to completely recover, she must undergo psychotherapy. She seems to have a lot of underlying issues that are making her more vulnerable

[@khanyisilevilakazi6786]

"Stay away from hubbly and stay away from boys they don't love us" 😭💔

[@MsLeeThing]

Well done Dakalo. Your story is encouraging a lot . All the best to Girl at Rehab

[@refilwe8382]

I saw your videos on TikTok last night, I never cried so much 😢, you are fighting for your child mama and big ups to you , we really need men to step up. Going through such hardships as a single mother can be a toll on your health too. I hope you and your daughter find healing.

[@THEVIRTUALBACKOFFICELULU]

She is such a loving mother ❤❤❤ she is doing a great job at being patient and compassionate ❤

[@RoyNgoreta]

Tjoh what a sad story may God heal you with your family

[@daphnetshepisosetlhong845]

You messed the story by not allowing her to speak her own language, she expressed herslf better via tiktok

[@thabelosuccess5863]

Right

[@matlhatsiitsitsii1420]

But ko tik tok people would say they don't understand

[@Lebz_Madux]

​@@matlhatsiitsitsii1420 bare she should add subtitles. I don't see myself reading subtitles for an episode that is over an hour.

[@banelesuccess3511]

Eish she did she took away the ability of the guest to express herself in depth in her own language, nd she said she will mix not only venac

[@nomfundoskosana1907]

Aaahhh promise bored me shame here wats wrong with mixing languages

[@preciousdiamond1387]

I wish you asked about Dakalos background. Where she comes from and grew up. Her parents. And not mention the part where she stays and work. You could have cut that out. All the best to the girl and strength to the mother.

[@pearlnyawoza7765]

True...Wanted to also know more about the child not just the problematic child ...So that we can get a picture what lead her to drugs .what signs we should look out for 😢😢

[@KgRamabu]

True, its irrelevant😢

[@lebohangm7252]

@@pearlnyawoza7765but mommy mentioned that she was doing well at school, no signs of smoking apart from the smell and unhygienic bedroom and lack of self care. Dakalo also mentioned that her daughter is smart and her behaviour was not of of her usual character. So basically there are no signs that she can really point out for you as a parent, children are different, you know your child and if your gut tells you something listen!

[@dikolizaskk5847]

Dakota please don't give up on your daughter, but please don't raise your hope too hard, drug addiction is very strong it needs mature minds

[@nthabee]

Dakalo hle

[@vulanishivambu7914]

@@nthabee😂

[@joannephilander6817]

Ohhhh such a true representation of a mothers love .❤

[@neliswaveronica2464]

😢u are very strong Dakalo, u teach me something. I wl always pray to God for your child n all SA child. Life it's not easy

[@andisani257]

Thank you for sharing your story. We will pray for her.

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

Such a beautiful Mom, Dakalo. I wonder where's the dad.

[@makhadzikhomolamuifhaglori4485]

What a strong and beautiful mom u r, thank you for sharing your story to help young mom. I pray for ur daughter so see light 🫂

[@lentshomakola1451]

I can relate to my childs behavior. You are so strong. You are the best

[@pulengphatedi8153]

Strength to you Mom, yiu are so courageous. Modimo a o fe mohau. Ngwana a fole..❤❤❤

[@Lungelo911]

Oh Dakalo you are so beautiful. I applaud you for not giving up on your daughter

[@prudencemmantuthulo5724]

Yoou Sis Promise, May God richly bless you. I hope when girl comes back she will choose the right path

[@bongiwezaca2721]

Such a beautiful mother❤️thank you for not giving up on your daughter, God will bless you sisi

[@loniamalatji5454]

Yooo Dakalo,you went to high length to support your daughter and you never gave up on her.For that,I am taking my hat off for you👏👏🙌🙌

[@thitikwaneflorah7282]

Yhooo batswadi💔😓 well done mommy🙌🏽God have mercy🙏🏽

[@naledindlovu976]

Dare I hear anyone say that Xolani Sizo'khola is wrong nywe nywe ...drugs are evil and look at the destruction it causes...and this is just 1 of many many stories 💔

[@nthabisengivy544]

Dakalo ure so strong and i wish to meet u one day when i am in Ficksburg. God bless you❤❤

[@ntokozoxaba6385]

May God give you strength momy thank you for not giving up on your daughter

[@adventuretimewithree]

Hi Promise, just a suggetion... maybe introduce subtitles for guests who feel most comfortable relating their stories in their home languages...might also help with nerves also

[@nelisiwetshabangu243]

Dakalo is such an exceptional mother. She doesnt make this about her and the type of parent she is or isn't. She doesn't sound like she's given up on her child. I hope people tell her that she's truly one of the best mothers I've encountered. Also her ability to empathize with her daughter's pain and loss. What a woman

[@nelisiwetshabangu243]

Also Promise needs to stop forcing English, I mean you don't transform your life 360°, this would mean that you get to the same point by the way

[@tebogoammonia4303]

The love of a mother😭😭😭😭😭. U just make me miss my late mum. The love you have for your daughter is priceless 😢

[@Sbongile962]

Thank you, Mommy. we are praying you❤ Baby girl, can still be a model, and she can still go back to university.

[@Nomathemba-yu8rg]

You are so brave,you really are a mother. We thank God for you. Keep on pushing,God is right next to you and both of your girls

[@RosaleeNrazi]

Shame what a sad story ,may God give you strength heal you nd your daughter. you are a strong women you didn't give up on your daughter .sending lots of hugs 🤗🤗

[@ms_ndlovusamue]

Unconditional love of a mother.May God give you strength, all shall pass

[@thusomugwena6436]

Your motherly love mommy ❤your very strong. May the almighty God give you strength

[@setshegomahlatsi9108]

Yhoo my heart broke watching this.Dakalomy God Almighty bless you and give you strength you are a warrior mum🎉😘🙏💫

[@sisandamabeka4567]

As a teen mom, am cringing hearing you tell your journey and struggles. Am in tears, this is a parents worst night mare😭

[@servingcant]

Eish this story touched me, I’ll be keeping you and your daughter in my prayers… My generation is in dire need of help 😢

[@nyambi_m]

strength to you Dakalo and keep fighting for ur kids. may God strengthen ur and ur family.

[@MphoMonyane-gi3su]

Strongest Mom i have ever seen❤

[@lungiletsukulu2791]

Yoh 😭 I’m praying for daughters complete healing

[@skmokanyane713]

The best Mother ever, beautiful inspiration. The drugs are destroying our world I'm praying for resolutions

[@Tee-mz9nu]

I really pray that she comes back alright , thank you for not giving up on her

[@sophiemmaatli9871]

A very strong mother may our good God give you strength and keep on praying ❤❤❤

[@jeanineainscough6698]

Just watched this podcast. This is a heartbreaking 💔 story. Dikalo, you are an amazing and strong woman. Thank you for sharing. Your story helps others. Promise your podcast is excellent 👌. Well done. 🎉

[@sbonsilecarol318]

She's such a v brave woman. I'm proud u momy❤

[@sandraphongo5976]

What a strong woman you are Dakalo,let God go before you and the Holy spirit do the rest

[@BeingMelony]

What a strong mother❤ I respect you so much

[@nthabimabuza1031]

New subscriber Sis Promise you are doing good job 👏👍🙌Sis Dakalo she is a strong woman 💪✋she tried everything to help her daughter im proud of you, you a mbokodo❤God protect your daughter and give her strength 💪love you lots.

[@ThuliSithole-hk5qm]

Dakalo you are a strong women may God give you strengh and daughter will be fine

[@mamikikgaditsi1684]

U are such a Beautiful lady for a starter and very polite I dnt know how would I have survived all this if I was the person going throu all that I would have went crazy😢😢😢 I really respect you for your strongest may ur Daughter get all the help that she needs and wen she comes back be that good child that u onced had and nt go back to drugs again and have that happy family again may God bless you and keep on giving u that strength to deal with all this for your 2 Daughters 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️♥️❤

[@TshegofatsoSewela]

I think we need the mother whose scared of her child on the show

[@zodwamohlabisi6089]

I love you mommy, thank u for giving me hope as a young mother raising two girls. I pray for them so much and for wisdom to bring them up well. God bless u and strengthen u for the role he's given you

[@mmaseramedinahmohoang2529]

Dakalo you are strong,I wish God can grant you the desires of your heart,you have so much love for you child

[@emeldasenoamadi3969]

Sending you lots of hugs❤ no one wish their daughter to go through this painful journey

[@kgolaganovilakazi4195]

That rehab is the best I don't know where is it but I know someone from there and I was impressed.... ❤ May God keep you strong Mommy and all the best Stay beautiful ❤

[@blackorkid4285]

Hi there Kindly pls assist with details of the rehab centre I have a family member who needs help desperately

[@BK-lf1nw]

The random party planning banners while the video was discussing drugs and possible sex trafficking was a little distasteful. Let’s save them for more lighthearted topics. A banner for a rehab centre or a helpline would’ve been better for this episode because it’s such a sensitive topic.

[@mduduzigama5511]

i agree