Nomad’s Random Thoughts

[@Outdoorgypsy]

Such a great point . I think we have all been guilty of hearing a persons thoughts and not truly LISTENING… compassion and love goes a long way💜

[@jimstamos5672]

Thank you for hanging in there Phyllis. Love your videos. Know that you have loyal fans out there and I always look forward to your new videos. Hoping you can reconnect with your son. Family is everything. Ready for your next journey to share with us. You don't have to have a ton of viewers to be appreciated.

[@lind5180]

Take care of yourself. Being real is refreshing. Wishing you the best... I predict a better future.

[@garbcgirl]

I heard something lately that I appreciate. Talking is Silver, but listening is golden.

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

That’s perfect

[@sarahpierson6937]

I've been estranged from my daughter for 6 years missing 3 grandchildren too. I understand your pain and agony. See you in January. God bless!

[@catspece4933]

Glad to see you posted again. I was a little concerned after the last one. Sorry for the issues you are having with your son. I think it must be especially more impactful when you are out on the road by yourself. I am an introvert and tend to be a loner but sometimes it can be a prison. Not too often . That is when I have to change up the program. I imagine being a nomad could magnify those feelings when they occur. Part of my solution is having my fur babies. The bottom line, is just to be yourself. I think you offer a balance of your experiences and passing on info, your travels and events, your personal sharing of real life. You don’t need to apologize for yourself. People start following you because of you. Maybe you will express something differently that someone might need. Glad to see that wound healing. It was not a pretty sight and don’t want to imagine what it was like to go through that mending process. I will be looking forward to your next video.

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

Thank you for your kind words

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

Thank you for your kind words

[@terrydukette3911]

Nice to see and hear your smiling face. You definitely brightened up a dreary afternoon up here in the Adirondacks. As an old "Coastie" myself, I wish that there was something I could do about getting your son to touch base with you. Unfortunately, when the ego is completely "running the show" and the intuitive is totally stifled by it, this is the typical outcome. Like the "not listening" that you were talking about. There's a lot of "All about me" out there in this current world.

[@EfficientRVer]

My heart goes out to you over an adult child estranging you, not even telling you about grandkids, etc. I can't claim to imagine what that's like. Your somewhat ominous mention of health issues, was a bit of a shocker to me, and makes me want to follow the advice to your son, myself. I'd say that the chance of my postponing an October trip until Xmas/Jan has gone up to 95%, partly for that reason, and partly for unrelated reasons. The difference between balanced and engaged conversation, versus taking turns (or worse yet, unilaterally) spewing, is a lesson I had to learn several times before I managed to both stop doing it and stop allowing it. There are different levels of doing it, some of which I've been guilty of myself. There's a fine line between temporarily putting up with it to get someone past a pent-up need to spew, and putting up with it when it's not something which is not temporary, but habitual and ingrained. I have anecdotes about it, which are both sad and hilarious at the same time. If I am ever beatified or sainted (rather unlikely) it might be from never having ended a date early with a dysfunctional conversationalist, despite many times when it required a lot of patience and resilience to hang in there rather than offend them. With family, and with dates I don't really know yet, I err on the side of giving them slack when what they really need is a shrink. With others, I use a variety of techniques and levels of politeness vs frankness to shut them down or escape them. I have no doubt that you were right and the guy was wrong, but the one thing to think about, is whether from his perspective, you simply dropped too big a bomb for him to engage on without knowing you better. While it's more likely that he's a spewer and/or narcissist, the other possibility is that he just didn't want to engage on something so emotional to you, and used "me me me" spewing as a way to escape it. In which case, your telling him off, was "mission accomplished" from his viewpoint. I've never done that, but I've done similar things regarding a couple of breakups, when I felt they might dangerously explode if I just announced an intention to break up. If dumping them was really risky, it was safer to just lead them down the path to deciding they wanted to dump me.

[@LeadmeUniverse]

I always look forward to seeing how your doing, just heard you mention your son, sorry your hurting 💐

[@Outdoorgypsy]

So sorry for your pain!

[@paulmatthews9873]

#1-Glad you decided to keep posting! #2-Praying you find peace. #3-If I run into you again, I will be glad to have a proper conversation with you.

[@Jake-yx7ct]

In my opinion you are a breath of country air. Tex just keep doin your videos as the roll out of you imagination. I hope that you are around for a long time..

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

🤠

[@GoodenuffCollective]

I love your view on conversation. Beware of the energy vampires. You should watch a show called What we do in the shadows. Its a great laugh.

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

Love “energy vampires”. Perfect.

[@brianmoore4552]

I hope your son attempts to return to your life in the near future. Sometimes we say and do things that we shouldn't and that sounds like what happened in this case. Thanks for feeling comfortable enough to share the hurts along with the triumphs.

[@bethcloudsandsky]

It’s nice to see you. I’m sorry to hear of the issues with your son. Thank you for your honesty and for doing this video.

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

I appreciate that

[@alfierobson127]

Phyllis Phyllis keep up the good work 🙂

[@angelajenkins]

Precious Phyllis, some people can't handle nor know what to do with real life so it becomes about them. Pray for your son that he won't reap what he has sown out. Seek God love one. Reach out and you can talk to me anytime you want

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

❤️

[@GinnyPrice-g5b]

Your channel...you do you. Haters are gonna hate. Thats their problem. Shouldn't be yours. You cannot control what others do or say, you can only control how you respond.

[@wjpugh]

As a mother of a son, it breaks my heart that your son doesn’t talk to you. People do eventually forgive so I pray that he speaks to you soon. I like the reality of your videos and your honesty. Take care

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

I appreciate that

[@MerinaWilkinson]

it hurts like hell,

[@RanmVel]

If your estranged son showed up tomorrow, what would you do?

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

Interesting question. If he apologized I would want a relationship.

[@JanenesAdventures]

I'm sure there's more to why your son won't talk to you. I'm not trying to blame you for it, just that he might have his reason or maybe someone else's influence. My daughter's father abandoned her then over 18 years later contacted her thru another family member. She was conflicted on if to meet with him. Her feeling was, you didn't give a crap & waited 18+years, why the hell now. She knows quite a bit about him from her 1/2 brother & how abusive he was to him so she was hesitant to give him that opportunity to her & her children. Totally different situation than yours BUT the feeling of why did you wait so long might still ring true with him. Yes he cut the tie but that doesn't mean you can't extend the olive branch. You also stated in another comment, if he apologized. Maybe he needs to be heard & maybe no one needs to be wrong. A simple post card just saying that he's on your heart. No expectations. I hope things can turn around for you both.

[@phyllisfindsfreedom]

I have tried other ways to contact him over the years. That’s why this message in a bottle. Maybe it will float in KZbin seas and find him.