20 Years Later: What I Wish I Knew About Marriage...Before Marriage // The Nona Jones Show // Ep. 12

You have probably heard the statistic that 50% of marriages end in divorce. It’s a grim number, but that doesn’t seem to be stopping people from getting married.
Instagram is overflowing with photos of stunning weddings at exclusive locations, featuring couture gowns, and opulent parties. But, after the fairy dust settles, research shows that 72% of couples run into difficulty in marriage because they didn’t understand what a lifelong marriage really requires before tying the knot.
Today I’m joined by my husband to share what we’ve learned after twenty years of marriage. The good. The bad. The ugly.
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[@agatharankin3376]

Relationships need so much ongoing communication.

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[@ElonWilson77]

Great great conversation. This gives me hope for marriage. Something is wrong with all of us. But being found and being found by an emotionally mature person that is willing to work through trauma is so important. Thank you for sharing and this platform. Yes 🙌🏽 part #2

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[@mikat7365]

This was so good! This year, I believe the Lord instructed me to prepare for marriage. I have been clueless about how to do so as a single woman. I’ve been praying that He would show me and believe that this video is one of the means for me to do that; to gain insight from others. Thanks for your transparency. Can’t wait to watch part 2. Some take aways: 1. Take the time to self-reflect. What areas need improving? What are your likes and dislikes? 2. Partner with God as you seek/wait on your spouse. 3. Let God know what you want and how you feel about whatever you are struggling with. 4. Give yourself time to heal AND actively participate in the process. 5. Communicate expectations with the person you are seriously dating/married to. 6. Understand that your background and emotional needs play a role in what you expect from the marriage. 7. Once your expectations are communicated, be willing to wait for your spouse to come around or ask the Holy Spirit to fill that void. Change may not always happen overnight. 8. Be open to discussing moments when you feel the relationship or connection is off track. Take steps towards producing a better outcome. 9. Actively listen to what the other person has to say. 10. Consider therapy. It gives you the opportunity to step back and see the situation from another angle.

[@user-mu3tm9zx2c]

Well Said ❤

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[@lawandabritt3303]

Married 28 years and a bonus parent. It’s been a beautiful challenge. I was reminded marriage isn’t a contract, but a covenant with God.

[@tjarrett7]

As a woman in waiting, this has been such a great and transparent conversation. I would often ask couples who've been married for 10, 20, 30+ years how they made it as a way of preparation for the future marriage I am believing God to fulfill. Thank you for this and I am looking forward to pt. 2. - HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO YOU BOTH

[@BrittanyDanielleVKG]

Well said… I completely agree with your response!

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[@grcbass8494]

This was a beautiful conversation about marriage. To me the church doesn’t dive into our childhood traumas enough to prepare us for relationships and or marriage!…I’m a 60 year old African American woman and been married for 36 years! We both have been in the church since teenage years! It’s been very challenging and I can relate to this conversation! I can’t wait for part 2 ! God bless you both!..

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[@amatwa4328]

Thank you so much Nona for a REAL marriage conversation and NOT reel 😊, I would rather listen to this because it’s the truth and the truth sets us all free. You are such a great couple! Your father in law was Right you are the good thing 😊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

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[@shenquejames7598]

I love the transparency every marriage couple has to pass the test.

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[@iamcharity]

Praying for pastor nona and Tim Jones ,may the Lord continue to protect this union and may your love for one another never grow cold.

[@tonikastricklin1629]

Loved the comment from the pastor about being the example to your future kids so that when you do have them, you can share openly and unashamedly how you treated other daughters of other families in a respectable way🙌🏾

[@TPark-ho1lq]

This was so very good! Can’t wait for Part 2.

[@mjhennesy02]

Really enjoyed this conversation. Thanks for sharing with hubby and happy 20th Anniversary!!🎉🎉

[@shimmeringnickol7495]

Thank you for always being transparent, Nona. Keep doing what you do!❤

[@simplyshantellsmith]

Thank you for such a profound conversation! As a single woman, desiring marriage, I love that this conversation is so transparent and insightful.

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[@peggyburgess3637]

This was a powerful real conversation 🙏💯 Thank you,looking forward to Part 2😊

[@mahaliajoseph9076]

I LOVE your sharing that leads to growth for so many others. Thank you!

[@thembisambo]

We need this as a series ❤He definitely needed in this Chanel.

[@jessicaredding5144]

Wow, this was great. This has helped me a lot. I will let my husband watch this with me today. We have been married for 20 years this November and have been together for 23 years. We are literally going through the same thing, and it's so similar situation. I pray that my husband will consider therapy soon. Thank you both for doing this video. I am looking forward to part 2. ❤

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[@clementinabusayo]

This conversation is so so good. Plus, it came with an unpaid therapy session from 53:00, In effective communication it's important to deal with 1) Criticism 2) Contempt 3) Defensiveness 4) Stonewalling Thank you Pst Nona and to your husband Pst Jones

[@BrennonOne]

This was a GREAT conversation. Very necessary, and helpful.

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[@preciousrushwaya4640]

Now now you two are such a breath of fresh air!!! This was such an annointed, needed conversation. Thank you so much for your vulnerability. Got so much out of it.

[@peacemakergg7239]

This was such a great episode. I felt like I was in therapy!! lol Keep it coming!!

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[@delightnegedu7654]

Thank you so much for this! The value in this is so deeply rich... thank you for opening your hearts

[@courtneyshannon8827]

Happy Anniversary! Thank you for your continuous transparency. This conversation is a blessing. Looking forward to Part 2.

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[@ronnieking7413]

This was so good!

[@MrsCelinaDelacruz]

Can’t wait ! Love all things marriage especially hearing from those with more experience than me ❤

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[@nesha50421]

This is the most genuine/realistic marriage video I have ever saw with a beautiful black couple ❤❤❤❤❤Omgosh!!! I enjoyed watching this!!!!!!!!! Thanks Nora for uploading !!!!!!!!! You two need to do more!!!

[@delightnegedu7654]

This is so deeply refreshing and encouraging God bless you for this❤

[@KenyataTucker]

This was a blessing to watch...ty for sharing❤

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[@maubanda5341]

This is a great conversation!! Can't wait for P2. God bless you ❤

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[@lillie9051]

Whew!!! This was such a great conversation piece...extremely eye-opening!!🙏🏾🙌🏾💯‼️

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[@bettyburr5427]

Awww, heyy Pastir Jones! So good to meet you. Happy Anniversary 🎉

[@saundrabusby9906]

Great episode. I received so many nuggets of revelation and hope.

[@DP-lx1jn]

This was powerful! Thank you. God bless you both.

[@PicturesofHealth-POH]

This was great and so needed. Few know how to get honest like you sis and your husband's character is even more rare. Saving this for my daughter.

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[@go2yourself]

Thankful for this conversatiom, thank you for doing this...😊

[@tumuhamekihembo]

The closing words were so beautiful and heartwarming This was an insightful conversation. Thank you for sharing. May GOD continue to bless your marriage and all marriages

[@nwanyibuifeobiako162]

This was great to listen to - thank you both for your honesty and encouragement!🙏🏾

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[@clivannerahming2328]

Love how rich this conversation was. Looking forward to part 2😊

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[@Chanfb915]

Great episode, so many nuggets from this (definitely will replay)

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[@rosinekamanzi1218]

Thank you so much for your testimony! I felt it was in my marriage in every way! Next step: faith! God told me that too❤. Be bless yall!

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[@tiae1543]

Great conversation. Appreciate your candor and transparency. You both provide hope for marriages and those seeking to be married. Thank you 🙏🏾

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[@carlington4081]

Amazing couple and story. I absolutely loved it. Part 2 definitely! Your love for each other is real and authentic. Thank you both for being real and transparent. God continued blessing and may he keep you both together forever 🙏🏿

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[@DMGDwelling]

Amen. Bless you both. This was absolutely beautiful

[@annettehill3514]

Very good honest conversation from you two!! May God continue to Bless your marriage! Can't wait until Part 2!!!

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[@ginagreene5668]

Dr. Nona! You blessed my whole entire life. Blessings

[@visionyouniversity]

Great interview! Such a reminder that we ALL have some kind of childhood trauma that impacts our relationships and why it’s important to be aware of it so we can respond accordingly. ❤

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[@jlatham8442]

I love how you both communicate in such a loving manner.

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[@tee4ChristJ]

Ooh wow. This is beautiful Nona and i thank God for your marriage. You give me hope for my almost 15years of marriage and i am trusting that God will keep me and my husband as well. I learnt a lot from this video, I enjoyed watching it, while doing my hair at the salon, so there was no distraction to go cook food etc. I had my earpods on and cud rewind as many times as I wanted to hear again what you or Pastor Jones had said. I am soooo looking forward to part 2. It is encouraging to hear that I am not alone. I was also like Nona before i got married - if it doesn't work out, i leave - yet my parents were married and together till my mum passed over 2 years ago. I am also working on myself, declaring positive things, to think right, so that i see right things unfold in my marriage; and to use the power of my tongue rightly. May God bless all marriages. It is indeed the oldest institution, older than sin. God is good. I love you both. God bless your marriage and ministry ❤ 😊 🙏🏼

[@cenecedixon4724]

Beautiful. This is assisting me so if the Lord wants me to remarry. I have forwarded this to 10 couples. Blessings.

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[@asithandilenozewu5339]

This was soooo GOOD! I am so appreciative of your transparency and vulnerability. Thank you so much!!! Praying God continues to keep you strong and grant you grace in this journey of marriage.

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[@blessingdiliyah8722]

Interesting It's so funny that after all these years, there are certain stories about the other partner you've never heard before. 😊❤

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[@marydupree9312]

Happy Anniversary 🎉!!! Love u Nona!! ❤

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[@kea-anncodner7191]

This was beautiful ❤

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[@memeMac]

This is beautiful, love it

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[@starpostell6570]

This is AWESOME Nona!❤ Congrats on your anniversary 🎉 My hubby & I have been married 18yrs & we feel ya! The struggle is real when you’re navigating past trauma… BUT God…. AND therapy!🤣

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[@Urbanairegypsy]

Happy Anniversary❤️!!! Thank you so much for sharing and being transparent about the realities of marriage. I love how much your husband loves you and the way he expressed his love for you. This episode has truly blessed me and I pray that God continues to bless your marriage and family!!! Looking forward to episode 2, as I feel am being Prepared for my forever marriage ❤🙏🏽❤️

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[@MrsCelinaDelacruz]

Looking forward to pt 2!

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[@msgenevajb]

Appreciate the transparency and love Dr. Gottman❤❤❤

[@joannetawwab]

Loved this powerful and honest conversation between two loving adults who know their role that God has set for marriage ❤❤ I heard your podcast on this interview!!! 💯

[@lovetr720]

Thank you both for being soo transparent.

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[@lashawnw.]

This talk thoroughly blessed my entire soul. Thank you for your transparency and sharing your story with us. I learned something about communication. Y’all are such a beautiful couple.

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[@tetwanagiddings-dover7181]

Thank you both for sharing, God bless.

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[@the_kimberlyclark]

Bless U both for your transparency. 🤗 Your obedience is greatly appreciated. ❤️‍🔥

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[@faithwoods4143]

I just LOVE this!! 22 years in for me and hubby ❤️

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[@smartbibliotheque]

Thank you for sharing 🙏🪷🪷🙏

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[@rosatorres4181]

lol I love y’all ! Thank you for sharing your story. You give me hope for my future husband. May the lord bless your marriage and unity 🙏😍❤️

[@michellerose9966]

This was so good. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability/ God will honor sacrifice of to share so openly. All shall be well with you both.

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[@vickieholmes3026]

I've truly always appreciated your transparency Nona. Thank you for following God's calling on your life. You have blessed so many of us 💓🙌🏽 now bump a 2nd episode, see if he'll do a whole series! I loved watching y'all together and learned so much!

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[@user-cb6gp5lt7w]

This is so beautiful Nona❤❤❤❤❤I thank God for your marriage and as a single lady ready for marriage, I'm going in with so much knowledge and awareness of a godly marriage. Thank you so much Pastors❤

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[@prescieouesangel6071]

Glory to God for using the both of you. I smiled this entire episode 😊

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[@MrsCelinaDelacruz]

So good !

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[@briannabridges518]

Happy ANNIVERSARY 🎉🎉🎉🎉 what a blessing 🙏🏽

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[@frankluke6834]

Can’t wait to hear this one.

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[@LlewellynScholtz360]

The husband is speaking some valuable truth here!

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[@elisheabounds6410]

amen, sis. keep speaking the truth

[@tamuenelson5178]

Thank you for sharing and being transparent. I too have been married for 26 years this coming August. I believe God allowed me to stumble across this video to help us. Thank you. May God help us all and what he has joined together let no man put asunder. ❤

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[@mamikalista2684]

God bless you for being authenticité and helping real couples

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[@lauraannfranklin3612]

Okay Pastor. That closing comment got 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

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[@stacyrone-brown7723]

Thank you for sharing

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[@twilamorrell5870]

Loveeeeee this episode it was so refreshing to see honesty and realness between two married believers living this life and walking it out with the Trinity..Father-Son-Holy Spirit

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[@cherylhayes3105]

This was a good conversation ! Thank you both for your transparency. I am single, never been married ... but I enjoyed this conversation- I am in my 50's and after seeing this ... all I'm going to say is my poor husband is going to have his hands full 😄

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[@MuzoN-tc2fi]

Couldn’t watch this without crying

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[@docd2026]

This was so so so good. Not married yet but I wanna focus on my triggers that cause the 4 horsemen to come up for me now!

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[@michelepurkett3305]

Amen! I thank you both for your transparency especially since you are Pastors. Unfortunately so many things in the Christian community is based on appearance vs reality. So I appreciate you presenting reality 😊

[@jacquih8804]

They are SO FUN and FUNNY!💯🤗💯😂

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[@CurvyWithClass]

This inspired me so much, even as a single woman who desires to one day have a husband and be a Godly wife. However, I was a little bothered by how far apart you were from each other on the couch. I would like to see the two of you together in the camera lens for part 2.

[@lawandabritt3303]

Beautiful

[@bettyburr5427]

I'm lmbo @ Pastor Tim version

[@lillie9051]

CONGRATULATIONS!!! LOOK AT GOD❤✝️💍🎉

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[@nesha50421]

Where is part II !!!?????

[@laurawharton2836]

Prince of Zamunda! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 That goat herder was a hustler!

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[@auntcookie9163]

That was good. Thanks for sharing, betta kiss that man.lol Thanks for sharing, i wish my husband and i had gotten counseling .

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[@recipebandit3563]

Beautiful segment. Congratulations and continued blessings in your healing, marriage and walk with God.

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Beautiful 😍 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

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[@ngulubeprincess5009]

I would love to do this with my SO, but they just have this idea that people who do this, do it for show.

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[@marklabranche8045]

Black Planet! Wow... 😅

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[@jessicaramos2804]

Thank you for being real and honest about your relationship. 🤍🤍

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