171: When Your Spouse Is Keeping Secrets

[@emilybrown599]

I'm just watching this now and am cracking up at Katie's comment" "Do NOT look at another woman under 400lbs." TOTALLYYYYY felt this exact way in my pregnancies too. My poor husband 😂

[@nic7761]

Katie your decision to be present and leave the phone behind is inspirational and challenging to me. Thank you for this conversation, so relatable!

[@TheRembisFamily]

I so appreciate your transparency. Podcasts’ like this can’t be easy but knowing that we aren’t the only ones navigating similar challenges - is priceless. It means so much to my family & thousands of others as well. Thank you both for sharing & for showing us what biblical instruction looks like in a healthy marriage 🙌🏼🥰

[@rachelg3235]

My favorite episode to date! I can relate to all of those same things in the beginning of marriage too! This was relatable, thought provoking, and hilarious! What more could you ask for?! 😍

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Haha, right on! So glad you enjoyed it!

[@123lauraashley]

I appreciate the honesty about the little irritations and challenges in marriage because it helps me to know that my own marriage is normal! I love the encouragement to assume the best about the other person’s intentions and to bring up confrontational topics with a more neutral tone. Hard to do at times but so helpful in the long run in keeping or building trust!

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

So glad you enjoyed this episode! Thank you for the thoughtful comment.

[@fabhairwithbritt980]

I related to so much of this. I struggle with being sneaky and deceptive because of the way I was raised and my desire to avoid conflict so I completely understand where Elisha is coming from! But he’s so right there’s still no excuse. And it has damaged the trust in my marriage. I appreciate this episode and really the whole podcast. Gives me great encouragement for the future of my marriage.

[@sarahdrury2729]

I just love your transparency and bring things up that are so common to marriage. Marriage is not always pretty. Thank you! Also, my husband and I went through a time a couple of years ago and continue to occasionally as well. I am adopted and it took 4 years into our marriage for me to understand that my adoption story had planted seeds of distrust in our marriage. I was just waiting for him to fall for someone else. And I would react to pretty normal circumstances as him talking to a female member of our church as there was something going on. But I found out that this is common with adopted individuals with the fear that they will be left again as they had been left by their mother. Knowing this information was so healing to our marriage. My husband didn't feel as if he was always on the defense and I could have more confidence in him know and seeking God's healing for these wounds from birth. I still have episodes but I know to bring them up to him and we discuss them and then the fear lessens. But it did take a few disappearances of homes and some very heated arguments and stress and strain on a new marriage.

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Ah, thank you for sharing, Sarah! So glad you enjoyed this episode! So encouraging to hear about the work God has done in your marriage. PTL!

[@laxel01]

Soooooo relatable!!! Lol this is spot on the type of stuff me and my boyfriend were going through and went to counseling to talk about!! Hahaha! I love it!

[@hibiscusgingerich7635]

My favorite episode so far. So many relatable topics! Thank you for being open n honest 😊 I'm always encouraged listening to your podcast!!

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

So glad! Thank you so much for the encouragement!

[@mari.r.365]

Great episode! It is so refreshing that y’all talk openly about your marriage.

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Right on! Thank you for the encouragement!

[@canadiana0982]

This episode had me in stitches 😂 Elija’s uncomfortable look and going “woww katie babe, we’re getting real vulnerable” haha. I love you guys and your rawness. This podcast is epic and has so much truth + valuable advice ❤️ keep up the awesome work you two!

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Ah! Right on! Thank you for the encouragement!

[@canadiana0982]

Also, Katie is me in the beginning of marriage also! Married 6 years this December.

[@toshistokes9277]

This was such an important and relevant conversation. Thank you for sharing.

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

You are so welcome! It was fun and helpful for us too.

[@megisalueders]

I just found your podcast and am loving it in general (just listened to your interview with your MIL) - But I just want to leave a positive review for the Voetberg Music Academy! We have one kiddo working through the Piano 1 and another working through the Guitar 1 and it has been such a huge blessing to our family! Totally agree that the overall price for a family’s music lessons is beyond compare to anything else I’ve seen. Plus we can do it from our home and it is building our kids confidence in and enjoyment of music! (We’re doing the courses along with some cousins and planning a family recital also!)

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Thank you so much Megan. That's a great way to use Voetberg Music Academy. We are so glad to hear it is a helpful resource for your family.

[@melissaguevara724]

This was such an amazing episode!! And my first episode! I’m so thankful I found you guys!!! This podcast helped me so much!!! Thank you!!!!

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

We are so glad you found our podcast too!! Welcome Melissa!

[@audreypichot8371]

I feel so bad for Katie in this episode! 😅

[@nffannow]

All of these issues were so relatable

[@allaboutacatholicfamily]

I love yall's podcast. It fuels a desire for my husband and me to do one! Would yall be able to share what yalls dynamic is with what you both do to make it come together? Also individual time involvement/expectations of eachother? God bless!

[@keischa16]

Loved this episode so much! Thanks for sharing!

[@NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@ELIZABETHmartinez-ft5bu]

Katie you are so cute.