Hey guys! I’m a faithful listener and love gleaning from your wisdom each week. Y’all are a true blessing to so many! This one took me longer to listen to because it’s more sensitive for me, and I know it is for many of your other listeners too. As some mentioned, a lot of us listen to y’all because we did not have the upbringing you have, and so a lot of what you share are ideas we are learning for the first time. I know for me personally, the knowledge I am gaining from your podcast has been invaluable! That being said, I know I’m not alone in saying that I did experience actual abuse growing up. And it was generational, both of my parents were terribly abused (sexually, drugs involved, etc.), along with their siblings and their cousins. And that had bled over into the lives of all of my siblings, cousins, nieces and nephews, etc…as you can imagine. I have 7 brothers and I sadly only see one of them now around the holidays. God has transformed my life and I am so very blessed that he has given me a loving husband, and beautiful children I get to homeschool. I did need therapy from a clinical psychologist (a Christian). I needed more after my dad committed suicide 3 years ago. It is an ongoing journey for me. I know there have been a lot of millenials complaining about their parents when they shouldn’t. It really takes the credibility away from those of us who have hidden actual pain for decades and are finally seeking healing and understanding. I am not complaining about not learning about financial strategies or college opportunities. I have, however, needed to be able to be open with church leaders about my circumstances. Hopefully this talk will help everyone differentiate between actual childhood abuse and petty complaining. I have forgiven my parents, as Christ had forgiven them, and hold a lot of compassion for them. I need to be able to love and honor my mother from afar at this point, though, to protect my family. My children know she needs healing and we can only pray, but we can still love her and I can tell stories of good times I had with her as well.

“My Home, My School” also “Mama, why am I homeschooled?” There are a couple others I can’t think of the titles right now.

Hi! How do you get your kids to stay at their room at 7:30? Do you lock the door?

Pick up the treasures! Love it! Our 3 year old calls our babies diapers “presents” and he always throws them away (we never used a diaper pail) ❤️

I hope they have a lot of family members that by gifts. One piece of gum. Not even a full pack. Santa wouldn't do that.

As a young mother of two videos like this a are so so helpful. Even if I don’t implement everything you guys do sometimes you’re just at a loss of what to try next. People being vulnerable and sharing what works for their home is super helpful, so thank you both!

If you want to be exceptional- you’re going to be abnormal 👌🏻

It’s PROJECTING 😂

I have started praying- “dear god please never, ever let me treat these blessings you’ve given me as a burden”, i had caught myself really throwing a pity party bc i was having a hard time keeping up with everything & felt so convicted & I’m not going to lie- i may have to repeat that prayer 10 times a day but i just do not want to slip into that habit & pattern & spit in his face bc i know so many people who would do ANYTHING for even A child, much less as many as i have. ❤

Charlie the Ranch Dog is about their dogs adventure but the family in the story is homeschooled

Im on aussie , qnd maybe im frok a different type of church community. But sunday school is done before the main worship at 11 am. Sunday school starts at 9am and whooe familes comes. The kids get sunday school and the adukts do their own bible study together. There is no child minding during the main worship. I feel its a better structure than what seems the norm elsewhere. Youth group happens on a sunday afternoon.

Good and Beautiful offer books that talk about kids that are homeschooled in their stories for kids to read

THIS THIS THIS!!!!! I LOVE that Katie is happyyyyy after giving birth ❤️ I LOVE how much family tips to give and all of the real life thaaangs that happen as a larger family. SUCH great tips and aspire to be closer to your family ❤️

I have to push back on Katy a bit regarding acknowledging the hard moments of motherhood. I actually had to tune in out and stop listening to katie and her mom in particular for a season because I just felt like there was this crazy high standard portrayed and all these magical systems and principled intentionality being talked about and I found myself feeling sssooo discouraged. Obviously I have come back around but I found a lot of encouragement in M is for Momma content during that season. Abby acknowledges the hard but not in a negative way. I hear where Katie is coming from, but for new mothers who just don't understand that literally EVERYONE struggles at some point, Katie can really worsen feelings of inadequacy... And this is coming from sometime who hears all the time from other mothers, "how do you do everything you do and make it look so easy!?" "You are so intentional", "you are supermom", "You are so impressive" etc etc... even I just had to tune out for a time.

Jonathan Bean This is Our Home, This is Our School is GREAT!

I always say if you can do 3 kids you can do any amount! It’s the newborn plus two toddlers that often causes the intense dynamic.

"If you're vanilla about him, just break up" 🤣Hilarious, but truer words have never been spoken.

31:29 Rebekah Merkle wrote a book called Classical Me, Classical Thee. It's not for little kids, but it's along this line for older kids.

It's very interesting, I do not view the youth group as isolating In the least and you can still have people over even when your kids go to youth group or children's church. But I would say our church youth group and our children's ministry is never just a time to hang out. It is always a time of teaching and singing and always supervised. It's not just like fun and games for sure as many churches are now. The leaders the are definitely people that I would want pouring into my kids. I want my kids to have other trusted adults that are walking with God pouring into their lives.

So you wash Lucy's hair once a week? Is she able to keep it dry during bath or does she just bathe once a week? Very interesting idea

We were only engages 6 months and did on “vacation” in that time (trip with his family). We intentionally stayed very busy and I stayed with his sisters. We both wanted to honor his parents so it wasn’t even a question.

Public school in America is only about 150 years old. From wiki on the 1 room schoolhouse: One-room schools were used only in rural areas. [7] As late as 1930 half of the nation's school children lived in rural areas. About 65% of the nation's school buildings were one-room, and they were attended by 30% of the rural students. Consolidation rapidly reduced their numbers in the 1920s and 1930s. They had a place in popular folklore, with one fondly recalling a, "little house, on a little ground, with a little equipment, where a little teacher at a little salary, for a little while, teaches little children little things."[8][9]A less romantic view by sociologist Newell Sims reported on the majority of rural schools of all sizes in the 1930s:

I think going on vacay with your fiance's FAMILY could be fine, seperate rooms, see how you communicate in unfamiliar circumstances, how that person deals with things like sudden changes of plans, how aware they are of danger and how they handle that (in a foreign country) etc.

Hi Y'all! I really love your Podcast. I'm wondering how you manage children of opposite genders playing in each others' rooms? You mentioned not being alone with the opposite gender. Does this training apply to siblings as well? Thank you for your perspective!

You guys these are my favorite videos the Q&A’s I hope all is well with your family and new baby! God bless love your channel❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Great episode. I will definitely use this tips for if we start kindergarten homeschool this year.

I agree that you shouldn’t put yourself in compromising positions and it’s good to keep a certain image in front of others, but practically, how do you do this? For example, I am in a semi long distance relationship with a girl and we are considering going to a concert together a few states away. Do we just not go? Or, go and get separate rooms?

Instagram. Young Christian couples post their road trips. Very sus that room sharing is going on.

I just woke up my sleeping baby from laughing so hard about your “policies” remark. 🤣

Yes! I know a book about homeschooling. “My Home, My School” by Jonathan Bean!

To Project

I guess I don’t understand why you don’t allow your kids to go to children’s church? It’s geared to their age and a lot more fun for them. I feel like you have very little trust for anyone. Part of teaching your kids is to give them confidence away from you. You cannot control every little detail. It has consequences! Look at Jinger Vuolo as an adult. She was very isolated and controlled as a child. She has had to work very hard to figure out her own belief systems. You cannot live always in fear.

The highest calling is surrendering your life to the Lord. Pursuing Jesus Christ as your savior overshadows marriage and making babies. Fundies put parenthood on a pedestal when it shouldn't be.

Even going on vacation as an unmarried couple and staying pure, you could cause others to stumble that are observing you.

dont put yourself in a position to fall into sin or be tempted to

You are beautiful Katie! Congratulations on a new baby boy! I have three boys. But how do you get all your kids to stay in their room until 7:30? My four year old has always been an early riser. My husband gets up early for work at 5 am and he is sometimes up and in our room before he even wakes up. Bedsharing with my 6 month old and this is not fun. Im exhausted. We have tried the alarm clocks with lights. He does not care. Anyone have advice? My first just slept natually from 7 to 7 for years, no issues.

Any reason the names all start with L ?

If possible, Please share the systems from that lady you’re talking about who shares it to her like 30 friends/emails…..

I wanted to watch this one again, but I really had to pray..... glad I did. such a differenct perspective today than when it first aired. Some of what Dwight shares is so interesting. The other thing I love about watching these Katie, is how you watch Elisha talk, the admiration you ave for him as you focus on him is very indearing. You guys are blessed.

Such a powerful episode! I enjoy watching the love of a God Fearing Man being explained. as men I think it’s so easy for us to be direct but it a rude way, and I believe love your wife like Christ love the church is similar to being direct and honest but in a compassionate and loving manner. This is Still something I’m working on being newly weds i appreciate the wisdom given in this podcast! For you both!

Does your daughter get to have a baby doll?

Elisha I have something for you. A pantheon I think you should look at. I think it will help you. And make your wife feel more connected to you. And help you overall. God Almighty God Dus Dem The Holy Father and Holy Mother of Heaven All the best brother

Do you have a video explaining how your body feels after having all your children? Or how you maintain your health during and after pregnancies? I'm hoping to having more then one baby and wondering what u can do to prepare my body physically and mentally

Me and my husband just had our first baby 💙 I would love a large family. I loved yalls advice and hope to apply it to my growing family.

Check out shut the door game - it’s great for multiple ages

This podcast was really helpful for me as I gave birth to our second child in early December. My husband and I found out we were pregnant with our son the day that my grandmother passed away in March. The contrast of life in death is one that was and continues to be difficult to process. Even when our son was born, I was overjoyed at his arrival, but felt very sad remembering my grandmother and just how intertwined their lives were together. Thank you for sharing about your son’s birth and the passing of your loved one. It has really helped me be able to process all of this and trust in the Lord’s sovereignty. May God bless you and be with your family as you grieve and enjoy your newborn!

I have a toddler and a baby and I'm physically and mentally exhausted. I'm glad to hear some of this lets up as your older ones get older.

The beard is back

This is a great testimony on grief. I am a catholic and I know death is part of the equation, my husband has a disease as well. Nonetheless when things like this happen my first question is always why. Trusting God of his timing surely is a great gift of the spirit. Thanks

I appreciate your points and have no doubt this proactive approach has helped your family. Wanted to add that sometimes children go through difficult seasons. My oldest went through a season of stubbornness and she was pushing back big time. She was also quite emotional. She’s 6 years old and we sought counsel from parents’ and older friends and stayed very consistent in our approach. We’ve seen God working in her heart and thankfully she’s much softer now to our teaching and correction. We can’t control our children’s hearts. We can be taking a Biblical approach to discipline and training but ultimately God has to produce growth and sometimes that happens in difficult seasons when they don’t behave the way we were hoping they would.