NRM How Do We Decide What To Keep

[@ellenherman9543]

Boy your doing your kids a huge favor decluttering❤

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@aflack1000]

After several years of dumping stuff and reading all the best books on the subject, I invented my own question when trying to make a decision about "stuff." While Marie Kondo asks if something "sparks joy", I ask, "If you saw this at Goodwill for $ .99, would you buy it?" If the answer is, "No", it's gone. Funny, 'cause I've been wanting a small ceramic kitty figurine and just a few days ago I found a vintage kitty "vase" thingie. It's very small and, guess what? It cost $.99 and I bought it. It sits on my kitchen window sill and "sparks joy." 🐱🤣

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Yea!! I love "thingies" too!

[@jobielifehappens7102]

I love that idea!

[@eileenlehonnyberg1576]

Yikes, I would have too much stuff if I bought everything for 99 cents.

[@lrx54]

This is a brilliant question. I’m on my own 35 year uncluttering journey. Thank you for your help 🌻

[@aflack1000]

The point is 99.9% of the stuff you wouldn't buy even for 99 cents. It was specific object I desired to have ( I have no idea of why.) My vintage kitty thingie makes me very happy while I'm washing dishes and it smiles up at me. It was a decision - not a need, but a want. Mean time I loaded up two or three boxes of "stuff" to go to the thrift store. Decluttering doesn't mean making yourself miserable. @@eileenlehonnyberg1576

[@michaelstiller8498]

Tim….subject furniture….heavy….dark…expensive furniture….starting 20 years ago …I started getting rid of fine China, glassware, cut glass, antique Swedish linen…then that enabled me to get rid of a very dark, very expensive, very heavy 4 section China hutch….I ended up getting rid of all heavy dark oppressive furniture….it made way for a lighter brighter look inside my house😊😊😊KCMary……

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@joanneobrien9186]

I sold our house three years ago. After asking my three children what they would like the answer was “not much”. Every time I went to donate another box I literally cried. there goes the 80’s- my doll collection, our girls collection, etc. my poor husband, I attached so much value to collecting things instead of experiences. Therefore, we promised to each other, we would travel and downsize our current situation. After the pandemic we moved from our daughter family home to a very nice adult community by the beach. We love the peace and solitude by the ocean. We’re still in driving distance to our friends and other family members. We now live with used furniture in our dining room. I will replace that. But, am I silly to think about how much money should we spend based on our longevity, styles and cost? I agree with you, less is more. It allows a place/room to breathe! You also feel lighter. Good luck in your decision making.

[@shodson314]

I say buy what makes you and your husband comfortable. No sense in spending less on furniture because you don’t know how long you’ll be here and want to get your money’s worth. Buy what you like, what feels good to your aging body but don’t let yourself crowd your new space💚

[@theoddityshoppe]

Don't forget the rental places! They will give you month to month leases and you don't have to purchase it or you can if you want...and you can swap out for new stuff when you want to redecorate if you rent. They will even do whole house/apt packages and they will include wall art, lamps, small statues/art. You don't have to commit and you can get really nice stuff!

[@wendyeskelin8765]

I think buy what you need and make it good quality. A comfortable couch/chair/bed goes a long way to how you feel.

[@aflack1000]

When my mom got divorced and remarried her dining room table was a round high quality folding card table. She plunked a floor length tablecloth on it and it looked lovely. After she passed away many years later the table became mine and I used it for at least 25 or more years in various applications since I had a dining table. I call that a good buy...😃

[@TRoseTheArtist]

Our priorities change. I understand your tears. You are letting go to go forward and that is good. Good luck on your new adventures!

[@simply.clutterfree]

I can relate. I've discovered after a few years of minimizing my home that my clutter is like an onion and as I peel back more layers - the feeling of freedom grows. Your experience suggests we add a question to the typical ones we ask when deciding if we should keep something... 1) Do I need it? 2) Do I use it? 3) Do I LOVE it? 4) Is it SERVING me in my current journey? I have become better at realizing that I can LOVE something. But it doesn't mean I need to OWN it. It's truly been helpful in my recovery from my past as an impulsive spender. ☺️

[@JasmineBrownOttawa]

I like your comparison to onions. To misquote Shrek, orgres (and clutter) are like onions. They have layers 😆🤣

[@simply.clutterfree]

@@JasmineBrownOttawa 😂❤️

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Can you give an example of #4 please? 😊

[@simply.clutterfree]

@@Good-DaySunshine Tim's Table. He loves it. He likes the look - but right now he's prioritizing the freedom that fewer things and more space gives him. So he let it go. It's not "serving" him in his current journey. ❤️

[@Good-DaySunshine]

@@simply.clutterfree Interesting! I see... thank you for the example! 💖

[@nancycerreta5629]

Feels better with the table gone. I think it could be a safety issue. A clear straight pathway is safer.

[@asinheaven]

Several years ago, my 6' 4", 230 lb husband had to be carried unconscious out of our bedroom by 6 firemen (he survived). This has made me realize how critical it is to maintain unobstructed pathways.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@berniea.3255]

I was in the antique business for years. As most antique dealers, my house had many good pieces and small antiques in it. When we decided to move out of state, I sold everything. I immediately felt like a weight had been lifted. I didn’t realize until then how much stuff was affecting my own mental health. Very freeing experience!

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Excellent thoughts! Also, is your dog part Beagle? CUTE!

[@berniea.3255]

@@Good-DaySunshine We don’t know for sure. He is a rescue but he is vocal, nosey, and a hunter and destroyer of toys so he might be! Thanks!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@brittaschormann4554]

I'm pretty sure I would've come to the same conclusion: The space is more important than the table. If something doesn't add to your life, it's time to substract. 😉

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@CraigHagan]

This is a struggle for me with my father's and grandfathers possessions that are the last worldly things of theirs and the last physical connection to them. These large emotional things can really block a fellow up some. In the end they are just things but that still doesn't seem right but probably is as it will be for my old things and I wouldn't want to burden anyone with my old stuff. I try to think of those times when I'm traveling and staying in a hotel or on the road camping when I don't bring these things with me and I'm quite fine without them.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@shirleyferber245]

I picked up a nice wooden, upholstered chair like IKEA has at the dumpster. I soon realized there was a screw holding it together but I only wanted it as a decorative item. Kept it a while, then put it back at the dumpster. About a year later, I saw a similar chair by someone's mailbox on trash day and took it home thinking it was a great find. It has been reupholstered. I got it home. It was the same chair. I guess it wanted me.

[@akontarini]

that's just great story. yes, the chair won!🤣

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

That’s such a great story!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@LiveItLikeLisa]

After dealing with my late MIL estate and also all getting rid of all my dads ‘stuff’ after him going into aged care. I have been getting rid of ‘stuff’ in my own home for the last few years and lucky for me I don’t have any attachment to ‘stuff’ so find it very easy to get rid of it. The empty spaces are so much more calming to my mind than ‘all the pretty things’. I am finally using my home in a way that makes it practical and makes my life easier rather than having it look pretty for Instagram. Less stuff means less work, less cleaning and less overwhelming and also less for my kids to deal with when my time comes to and end. It’s very freeing and you don’t realise just how much until you do it.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@arlenekeith6235]

I get the dilemma. But i prefer the open space once you get used to it. It is easier to vacuum also. 😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@theoddityshoppe]

Y'all ever notice when you clean out a space, later with the lights out, you can still feel the fresh renewed energy. It's really weird.

[@anxylum]

Yes! It’s like how your car drives better after a good wash. ☺️

[@fwebster6226]

Yeah, its like the energy stagnates with more clutter.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@pinkroses135]

That expansive feeling. Like you can float right into your future without a weightedness haha. I've been looking to cut back like this to simplify housekeeping routines. Those little lampshades, ledges and crevices on things and flat surfaces really add up.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@kzZnAT0r]

Big time! 😊

[@JasmineBrownOttawa]

Thank you for walking through this thought process of "it depends". Yes, sometimes the space brings a joy and lightness which is worth more than the item. Sometimes not. I'm enjoying watching and relating to your journey!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@deloreslowndes762]

Personally I prefer hallways unobstructed.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@akontarini]

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[@geekmomba]

Great post. While the table is beautiful you have to do what works for you. 12 years ago my husband passed away and I decided that living with others was more important to me than having a house full of stuff. As a result, i now live with roommates where we are committed to being "family by choice." This meant that i moved from a whole house full of belongings down to a bedroom of my own with common spaces filled with shared items. I am the only roommate who chooses to sleep in a TWIN bed so my room has space to breathe. Granted my floor space may only be 6 steps across, but it still makes my room feel bigger than it is.

[@mariah3654]

I love this!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@lockback]

Nicely said. Thanks for the video. I am in the early stages of decluttering. I am realizing that decluttering is going to take multiple passes. Per Winston Churchill: “Now this is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning.”

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@carolgroves4818]

Seems as though, even well loved possessions, have a shelf life.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Yes. :)

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@saleenahaffenden8292]

New subscriber here from Australia,,, I really enjoy your channel! I would have chosen to keep the table,, but I really liked your analogy about liking the space more,, as you like the other furniture pieces in other areas more than you like the space. I have been on our decluttering /minimalist/essentialism journey for about 10 years and as we think about retirement I am glad we started when we did. I do not follow Marie Kondo ideas about sparking joy and thanking items,,, i do tend to go my own way,, but we certainly are very close to only owning what we need, love and use,,, which is a minimalist principle. As time goes by we are only buying quality over quantity where we can afford it and its a much better choice for us.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@lauravasquez169]

We have lived at our house for 34 years. We have 2 hallways. One when you walk inside from the garage. You don't want any furniture in the way when you are bringing in groceries. Upstairs hallway youvdont want to stub your toe when you get up to gonto the bathroom. So my hallways are safe day and night.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@DG20556]

We sold our home and moved to another state 2 years ago. Up until then, I was the only one trying to get rid of things. My husband wanted to hold on to things. When we were in a time crunch for packing, and trying to fit everything in a certain size moving van, he was the one getting rid of things! When we moved into our new house, we continued to get rid of things, and now we only have items we really need/like. Our kids don't want anything we tried to give them!

[@bernadetteswanson3304]

My kids' homes are stuffed, and they would have no space for adding mine!

[@jesusnameaboveallnames7369]

09.14.2023 A large portion of younger people don't want things; especially items from their parents or grandparents. The thing now a days is living life, enjoying time with family/friends, enjoying experiences, making memories, having adventures, etc. I sure do wish that I had the same carefree outlook when I was a young adult. Am 65+ plus now, in relatively good health, but when I pass ... 95% of my stuff will be tossed by my adult kids. 🤷‍♀️

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@googlamonster5086]

You made the right decision. I shudder to think of all the furniture items I've purchased over the years that I've given away and paid to have taken away. I much happier without non-functional and/or clutter collectors in my apartment. Another bonus is that floor cleaning is so much easier.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@juliehoot3916]

Great video 😂! Love it without the table and lamp. Things just get dusty and personally I am sick of dusting and cleaning around items. They need to go! So many better things to do with my life than dusting and cleaning around stuff! 👍

[@Good-DaySunshine]

LOL! 😂 "I am sick of dusting.." I used to daydream a giant fan in the ceiling. You push a button and the roof folds up. Flip the fan switch and all the dust gets sucked out...except after that, now the tree leaves have dust all over them. Go outside and knock the dust off the leaves. The dust coats the grass, a big breeze comes along and the dust lands back in the house, coming through the open windows. I possibly, probably, definitely borrowed that idea from The Cat in The Hat. (The pink icing in the snow) 😁

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@obragg1]

Art galleries don’t need tables to showcase art. Now you have the freedom to showcase more of your photography without the limitation of a table.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Great point!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@librarynan4610]

Deciding what to keep is an individual decision. I decide to keep my 8 sets of dishes because I use them, but I have let a lot of other things go. It is really all about what you use and enjoy. I do like the hall without the table!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@VJ-ip1xc]

Great suggestion to do the test with and without the setting until the choice becomes an easy one to make - definitely my takeaway from this video. 🙂

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@hopesgrandchild]

I have noticed when I'm going through things I become more discerning about what I am bringing into the space. It automatically changes my shopping habits. I've discovered my fatal flaw is not culling my necessary former purchases when their no longer useful. Food is not the only thing with an expiration date. Who knew?

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@gimmecoffee2631]

I moved my family from a traditionally styled home to a modern new home. We sold or gave away almost all our furniture and home decor. I am furnishing the new house very slowly, making sure pieces work together and I love everything. If it arrives and I don’t love it or it’s not comfortable I return it. I’m also trying to find less expensive pieces. I picture everything going to goodwill in 10 years, because it might. I have 3 small kids, 2 of whom have severe autism. Whether I spend a lot on a piece or a little on a piece the results tend to be the same in about 5 years- either it is damaged, no longer works for us, or I no longer like it. So I may as well save money on it. I find I just love seeing blank spaces, our beautiful finishes and white and neutral wall colors, beautiful windows, etc. I don’t want visual clutter. I would far rather look at a wall and see one piece of wall art than a table or bookcase with decorative objects on it. I’m finding that I might even prefer to look at the blank wall. I’ll see whether I can find some soothing contemporary or modern wall art to sparingly decorate my home. Let me know any ideas, anyone.

[@SpeakTruthBeKind]

I’m wondering if you’ve noticed if your two children that have autism are calmer in a home that has less stuff? A empty wall that has been painted a favorite color would also be calming. I’m noticing when a person doesn’t have carpeting, the room tends to echo…carpet can help with absorbing sound as well as heavy drapes. It surprises me how much calmer I feel in a room with fewer tchotchkes. 😍

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Looking at greenery is supposed to be calming. A 5 yr study (Stanford) showed females who live where they view lots of greenery are healthy and happy.

[@gimmecoffee2631]

@@Good-DaySunshine I believe it. The windows in our new home are huge and uncovered now except the bedrooms and bathrooms. My family and I love looking out at the front and back yards. That’s another reason I don’t feel much of an urge to put stuff on the walls.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

@@gimmecoffee2631 Sounds wonderful!

[@gimmecoffee2631]

@@SpeakTruthBeKind They are calmer and so am I for sure. They have a play room with their toys where they can get them, play and put them back and the toy clutter stays there. Just not seeing that all over the 1st floor is a huge improvement. My 7 yo non verbal son used to stim a lot by making piles of toys. He still does that sometimes but now he spends more time in the family room watching movies and rolling around the house on a toy horse on wheels (wondee rides on Amazon), looking out the windows and interacting with us. My 4 yo with ASD just loves it too. No doubt it made a difference. And good point about the sound absorption. I should move forward and get more of the rugs, sofas, and sold things I planned.

[@sallieredman7349]

I loved my home and my style of decorating. When I married, my husband is a minimalist, we stayed in his home for a while. When we returned to my home, suddenly all my beloved things jumped out at me and caused me stress. I am now a more minimalist and I can really see the things we have. I am grateful for making that choice. (and for choosing my husband).

[@akontarini]

😅happy you are happy about choosing the right husband

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@gloriaedington3442]

Freedom! Freedom! Freedom from time consuming dusting, making cleaning sooooo much easier, should cause you to want to dance back and forth like those in the Freedom Flashmob at Boardwalk - Santa Cruz, CA. 🎉 😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@michaelstiller8498]

Tim after listening to your videos and reading comments I was able to get up…. and toss two floppy plants…put away 2 spring looking decor items….and relocate an arrangement to another room…at least I now have the ball rolling….Thanks Tim for inspiring me this morning…KCMary…😊🙏😊

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Glad I could help! :)

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@tarynsanmartino8930]

Ah, the essentialism for your soul. I like that description very much. One of the things that boggles my mind is how long it takes to make a decision on what stays and what goes. About 10 years ago, after my folks had passed, I moved my 50 years accumulations into the family home. It has been a long and arduous process that still leaves me with what I consider too much stuff. I've gotten down to where I consider the place quite habitable. However, I'm always struggling to find what else I can bare to part with. It's exhausting and often leads me to getting stuck along the way and not being able to move forward. I guess I've inherited both my parents way of dealing with too much stuff. One had the mindset of "just heave it" and the other was a saver. God help me. Lol

[@Good-DaySunshine]

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[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@michaelstiller8498]

Tim….after watching or rewatching several of your video’s yesterday… I went and did mainly kitchen pick up and clearing counters off…..less stuff gives more open clean space & lines…trying to think about you photo talk about creating space…the clearing of your small decorative table made such a nice clear clean look to your hallway…I did that same clearing to my hallway several years ago…it helps you to flow through your hall to your bedroom area with no distraction…stuff can really distract us…big stuff, expensive stuff, decorative stuff, old stuff we never use stuff….yes Tim, keep destuffing your stuff…remembering it’s only stuff…KCMary…….😊😊😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@thetackroomtx]

You have impeccable timing! As I am packing up stuff in the leaving room I turn on KZbin on tv and there you are! We are moving and I am packing up a house we have been in for 26yrs and full of "stuff" It is hard - I now look at everything and say do I love it, and do I want to manage it. A lot is going - finding a home for stuff is tough! I cant tell you how much you have helped me to go through this process. Big hug!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@denisekennedy3099]

I choose freeing up the space usually as well. I moved house in the summer and reconfigured two bedrooms, turning a tiny bedroom into my dressing room (sounds grand, it just means that it’s got fitted wardrobes!), which means that my bedroom has a bed, two bedside tables and a small chest of drawers. The serenity I feel from having such a sense of space is soothing and energising.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@kellywentling4549]

I agree with your decision. It makes the space lighter. I’ve never thought about moving something like that out and living with it bare, moving it back and really determining which way to go. Love this approach! I struggle with letting go, really struggle, but I’m ready to be lighter. I appreciate this video so much! 😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@janeberrisford8555]

The struggle is real ! This is just what I needed, thanks NRM 😊

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Did you mean "ARM" (Angela to Dwight, The Office) 😂😂😂

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@simini1837]

What you feel after removing the table might be Feng Shui, flowing air

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@TacoDale]

Tim, I think you are exactly on the nose with this one. We sometimes buy stuff to create a scene or aesthetic and we like the way it looks or feels at first but then it becomes heavy or in the way and we feel like we have to keep it because like you said "the table goes with the picture" but in looking at the space without the table I see an easier path to move up and down the hall and now I don't have to avoid bumping into the table or knocking the lamp off in the floor. If you really like the table find another spot in the house it can be of purpose that isn't blocking the way. I have found as I get older that I am constantly removing furniture that I once thought I had to have but now just find it to be in the way.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@nikkisue1715]

I think you made the right decision. I am grappling with whether or not to keep our area rug in the living room. We took it out to get it professionally cleaned and I noticed that not having it there opens up the space. I mentioned that to my husband, but he was not keen on the idea. We will see when we get it back and have that discussion on whether to keep it or not. Thanks for your videos.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@uddercharmsfarm8159]

I've gone thru my house twice now and it's so much better. However, I have 3 porches and a farm to work on. I've come to same conclusion as you - I love the space more than the things in the space. I've got so many things set aside for the October garage sale!!! Even tho I'm in a lot of outdoor space, hanging on to literally a bunch of junk in case you might use it someday is just not good!

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@A.Manishaa-nk9md]

Your voice is relaxing calm... whenever I listen, I am like, "Yeah, grandpa ya, and more cute stories."😊 Live long ❤

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@kimgregory1305]

What you said... about what's better for your soul completely resonates! I'm a 64 yr old workaholic single woman struggling with ADHD & burn-out in a position of authority in a high stress job that is starting to wreak havock on my health... at the same time totally craving a creative balance that nourishes my soul! I have joy in my heart but at the same time wake up with looming dread at just the thought of going to work in my current position one more day! I am praying for guidance to make the best decisions moving forward but find myself immobilized in regards to making the smallest seemingly almost insignificant decisions regarding whether or not to keep something or find it a new home! The struggle is real... thank you for sharing your insights.. you are inspiring me & giving me hope! ❤

[@Sharon-ud4ke]

I understand your struggle..I often cannot make simple decisions. Also burnout was a problem and so I took a holiday and a long break from work😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@bethmclean6740]

I’ll take space over stuff any day … light airy space = clear calm mind for me

[@michaelstiller8498]

Yes a nice clear calm mind…we can’t change the world outside our homes, but we can control what our atmosphere looks like and feels like inside our 🏠 homes…the more chaotic behavior we hear and see what is going on outside in our country and our world….I feel that drives us to want to have a clear calm mind inside our homes…KCMary..🙏😊🙏…

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@Busy-After-60]

I have been doing decluttering or Swedish death cleaning if you’ve heard of that term. I’m trying to save my son from having to go through so many things that I just need to get rid of now. At first first I was very sentimental about things, but when I asked my son if he wanted things, he was saying no to anything I would show him. He is an essentialist already and has very little. He could probably move into a tiny house easily and be happy. he has no interest in my parents stuff or our stuff so I have been trying to get rid of things for the past several years. Last year, my husband got very on board with it and we decided to clean out as if we were moving and that was a good way to look at it. we had a huge yard sale and got rid of most of the things then we donated or gave away by the side of the road many things and then since last summer we have been selling things on marketplace. I try to do a few things every day even if it’s just a decluttering moment and not a box for donation. Our house is not going to be difficult for my son. The biggest problem is going to be my mom and dad’s house because through the years they have accumulated many many things. My dad has Alzheimer’s, so we have already kind of started in his workshop and shed to just keep minimal tools there. But that’s going to be a big job when the time comes. The house will belong to my son so we don’t have to do things in a hurry, but it’s still going to be a big job. We were able to take the spare room and completely transform it from an office/library/catch all room to a beautiful guest room that I escape by to for a calm alone time. We would not have been able to renovate it without getting rid of a lot of stuff. There is nothing personal in this room and it is very minimal. it’s like a hotel room.

[@analogkid28]

Thank you for your videos. I really appreciate them. After my divorce about seven years ago, I ended up moving in with my mother back in the small town where I was raised because she was alone and experiencing dementia. So I basically live out of one room in her house. But I will say that I constantly struggle with decluttering. I have a storage unit that is full of stuff I don’t need. In my small town I have very little access to a place to donate my things and they are only open half a day one day a week. I work full-time and I have two part-time jobs teaching in the evenings. But I digress. I still need to Declutter and I have always struggled with it. Hanging onto things is due to a feeling of scarcity. At some point I’m going to need those things because I won’t have enough money to buy them again. Even if I don’t really need them in the first place. It’s still a mindset. So thank you so much for sharing. Your videos have really helped me. I appreciate them very much.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@nancymillet8210]

I agree with you. The space is nice without the table. Keep what you live and let the rest go.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@teresacryer5872]

I think we get used to how we think things "should" look instead of what actually makes us feel good about our space. Decorate with what gives you peace. Don't let the space define you - you design the space to suit your current lifestyle. Life is change, and we change with it.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

I love that! Bumper sticker- or coffee mug!

[@akontarini]

with you...

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@farmyourbackyard2023]

I don't know that I want to live a more minimalist life, but I'm a recent widow and I've struggled with getting rid of my husband's things, and the things that no longer serve me since I'm a single woman. Your videos have me thinking.

[@juliehoot3916]

So sorry about your husband 🙏. Please consider all the people who really need that clothing. Times are hard and you can help. When you are ready, please just think of all the joy your husbands clothes will bring to people who are really struggling right now.

[@sct4040]

Get rid of the stuff that doesn’t serve you first , then it will get easier.❤

[@johnhaller5851]

I'm in the opposite situation. Most clothing was donated, but I am still not sure what to do with her wedding dress. There's a connection of depression era glassware which I will never use. A baby grand piano and an accordion I will never play. I will eventually need to downsize, and finding a good home takes time I would rather spend doing other things. Perhaps I'm better off taking the things I want, and having an estate sale for everything else.

[@farmyourbackyard2023]

@@johnhaller5851 Ouch. The wedding dress is a tough one. If there are no daughters or granddaughters to take it, there are places that take vintage wedding dresses and restore them. I think HobbyBobbins is one channel that does this.

[@juliehoot3916]

@@johnhaller5851 How about a consignment store for those items? You could also donate piano or accordion to a church or school and use the tax write off. Maybe notify a piano store what you have, bring in a pic and they could sell it for a small portion of the sale? Perhaps musicians who can't afford a brand new piano may be looking for a loved piano, slightly a little less expensive. Depending on your financial situation on selling versus donating. If I lost my wife, I would probably pack the wedding dress in acid free wrapping and keep it. We are all so different. Follow your heart. Take all the time you need. So sorry! 🙏

[@LV12800]

No table and all the paraphernalia onit...Love the open space, so much more freeing! ❤

[@RitaVernoy]

I have the same feeling about open space. But I do enjoy certain prices that have meaning for me. I love the word essentialism.😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@exploringnewhites]

Yes I loved the extra breathing space created in our bedroom when I decluttered and got rid of the big furniture. Feels so good. I did a video on our bedroom redo too!

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Are you sharing the title? Please?

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@Yeshuareigns1234]

In many cases space is my preference. Great tips to think about.

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[@heyjude5027]

I love the free space in the hallway😊

[@loveiskindwalling7352]

It's a beautiful table, but.... I agree with you about the flow of the empty space being better. A hallway is for walking and subconsciously it should be open and spacious for said walking. lol

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[@olivemaycards]

As I think I said in the last video I watched, I’m a big fan of clear, open space in hallways, especially as folks get older. I can see why this table worked as an anchor and resting spot for the eye, but the best test was what you did, removing and replacing it a few times to see what felt right for you now. It can take time to get used to clear space, but it’s easy to try removing something for a while and seeing how we feel when we bring it back.

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[@beankeys8812]

I think Marie Condo said to keep what you love, and if it brings you joy. I’m trying to adopt this mindset. And it’s easier =faster to keep things clean.

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[@limonade2684]

You are a photographer and you have a trained eye. Trust it. Music without pauses is noise and we don't like busy pictures. Before I get rid of the table I love, I would check, if I can switch it with a table I love less. Sometimes it can be a funny twist to put it in a modern bathroom or kitchen and really use it. I admire people who can mix styles and express their personality. Today the design style is not to be so matchy-matchy but more eclectic.

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[@carolemetz380]

I enjoy spaciousness and light. It’s where I feel the calmest but have the most energy. I have always loved Psalm 18:19 He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me. Other versions say a broad place. Broad and spacious places give us room to grow. When we don’t have that we wither. ….at least that’s true for me.

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[@pattypatterson9751]

Space is gold!

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[@TraceyBergum]

I just love listening to you speak

[@janet5123]

“Good for my soul.”Truth! Excellent video.

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[@grammienoob2997]

“Freer” is an excellent way to describe the feeling. Perhaps with a hint of joyful lightness.

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[@kzZnAT0r]

Love the thought process

[@jaccroft]

I’ve learnt as I’ve got older , that I need less stuff . It’s all just stuff ! We keep things hoping to pass it down to our children etc , but most of todays young ones , want their own stuff and not hand me downs which they think they should take , cos we are more sentimental about it than them. Swedish Death cleaning teaches you how not to hang onto the past and not leave the mess to your kids . We all have far too much stuff . It’s just stuff . Thanks for sharing

[@tinglestingles]

When we moved to Portugal - we decided on 2 suitcases each, that's it. We knew they have stores and shopping malls - also, Amazon, Spain is available. I cannot imagine how difficult it would be to deal with Portuguese customs etc.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

@tinglestingles How exciting to pack suitcases and go! I know two families that did that and the move is permanent. The couple with children are living in Italy, the other couple is in Germany. I hope your move to Portugal is everything you wanted and life couldn't be happier for you and yours!

[@tinglestingles]

@@Good-DaySunshine thank you. We’ve been here 17 months now and yes it’s great! No place is paradise but we are extremely happy.

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[@peggyj7243]

I have had similiar situations with furniture and decor. I have a few pieces that I really love and can not depart with ( yet)...but just storing. Over time I am starting to disconnect and donate to somone that will enjoy them as I have. One barrier for me is the value in things...but the question that helps me most times is not do I use it or love it ( yes, yes)...but " if someone stole the item, would I want to go out and buy it again to replace it"? Downsizing is definitely a process! Thx for the video and inspiration.

[@Mo.Vintage15]

That is definitely one way of deciding if it needs to be replaced! And I am going to use it 🙃 been going back and forth on a few things but I know I wouldn’t go out and replace them so into the garage sale next month (neighborhood has 2/yr so best to wait for lots of buyers ~ my garage will look huge after the sale where it is all stored 😂)

[@stephaniecranston8134]

Very interesting observation. I want to remember this for my own decluttering. Thank you.

[@stowie7733]

My first experience with minimalism was when I realized I hated my mismatch of dinnerware (plates, bowls, mugs, etc.). I bought a serving for four, of plain white dinnerware and donated all the old stuff. The feeling I had opening the cupboard was beyond words and pretty soon I was getting rid of extra glasses, utensils and even my mismatch pots & pans. It is such an awesome feeling to only have what I truly need and nothing more. I’m still working on other areas of my home but I know I got rid of 50% of my stuff so far (plus gave my adult kids all their stuff!). Clothing…Ugh…my nemesis!! 😂

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[@PenniP]

More space, uncluttered is always very calming to me. I think that is why I always love the aesthetics of hotel rooms! Ahhhhh

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[@michaelstiller8498]

Tim…Beth stated a light airy space = clear calm mind…..I believe she is so right on, with this statement..thanks Beth….I wrote this is my notebook. I will use as a help guide to clear and clean…I will look at an area and ask…does this stuff give me a clear calm mind…I put it on a 3x5 card and will read it looking at each area in my 🏠 house….this is what I needed for inspiration to get me out of bed and move my muscles today…😊😊😊

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[@Theresa-jq3dw]

Bravo👏 I love the decision you made. less is more☀️

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[@luckysuzful]

My dad died back in 2019 and my mom had died 7 years before that. So as we were cleaning out the house and identifying what we wanted, we came across my dad's foot locker from his Navy days. Inside it were some photos of him that I had never seen, so of course we're keeping those. But also inside was a box that contained his dress uniform and hat. I have absolutely no use for these items, but I couldn't seem to part with them, knowing that they had been important enough for my dad to hang on to after all these years. So now I have the uniform in the same box, not on display or anything. I know I have no need for the uniform, but the sentimental nature of it keeps me hung up. We also found pictures of him in his dress uniform, which should be enough to commemorate the item, but I still find it hard to part with this item that I will literally never use or need. I find myself feeling guilty about the prospect of giving it away. Any thoughts?

[@patriciacarlson4206]

You might contact your local Navy office and see if they might have a local museum or other suggestion of how to honor your Dad's uniform. I have the same issue with my Dad's medals. It isn't easy!

[@JasmineBrownOttawa]

@@patriciacarlson4206 That is a great idea that would honour his service. I will tuck that away in case I ever know someone facing the same issue.

[@bernadetteswanson3304]

My MIL made a teddy bear for my husband out of his uniform. OR: Is there a theater group, costume shop, or historical organization that might want it? What will happen to it after you are gone? If the material can be recycled in some way, that would be better than trashing it. Letting go can be so hard emotionally!

[@almamartinez3377]

Keep it for grandchildren to keep and so on.

[@TraceyBergum]

You can reach out to a museum or the branch of service he was in and ask if they would like them. Take a picture of everything and keep that for yourself...

[@heidic1398]

I think in our modern life, with screens and constant visuals, loud and bombastic, an empty space is restful and quiet. We can just enjoy the space and the architectural elements.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@flyingsaucer1268]

wow, what a spacy and "calm" bedroom.....now I have something to strive for

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[@colettenewell4634]

I thought it was a great idea to try the space a couple of times with and without the table for a few days each. The other thing i have done is take a picture of the item to retain those memories before giving the item away. I did this with a bunch of concert shirts that i can no longer wear. I get to see the shirt snd have the memory of the show without taking up space

[@Gretchen-vh9xt]

I like your thought process to make the decision.

[@Franciso-so1bg]

One day, half-joking, and half-serious, I asked my son what would he do with all my 'things' when I died. I reminded him of several 'things' that I thought might be worth a few bucks. His response was to let me know that he preferred that I sell those 'things' to enjoy any money I might acquire and find new homes for the rest of it, because he would be pulling up a dumpster for what's left. I was a little shocked, but not surprised by his honesty. I realized my 'things' meant nothing to him outside of my existence. The process has been one of if/maybe/but often. I live in an 868 sq. ft. home and it's still too big for me, but I manage to find something to recycle or donate or just plain ole get rid of weekly. And I like the hallway without the table also. I have to be careful of random flat spots. They are my nemesis! You're doing a great job making those decisions. No one said it would be easy and quick. You are inspiring and helping me rethink a lot of my space as well.

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[@joanndaprile9076]

For me, at some point I think I will have to work in reverse to get rid of things. Find another place to live; a small home or something similar, then go back to my too big of a house jammed full of things and pick out things I need and/or want at the new place, and stop when I am set in the new place. Then, go back to the big place and get rid of things. However, I realize that I may find some things that hold sentimental value and I wish to keep, or find something I realize I can really use or want at the new place. But I think I will find it so much easier for me to let go of things working that way. Achieving that in reverse will not be an easy task since I'll have to be able to afford paying for two homes at the same time, and the new place would have to be close enough to easily accomplish the back and forth with the old place. For now, I will plod through and take 2 steps forward and one step back every day. I am (somewhat) inspired by your bravery!

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[@patriciastuart8079]

Your decision-making process is resonant with that of Marie Kondo: "does it spark joy?"

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[@salliemorrill2671]

Tim, I know where you are coming from about the hallway. Yes, there is a balance that exists, & finding that comes w/ trial & error. Great vid. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@paulap7366]

I know exactly what you mean! I’ve felt that same way after moving - temporarily, I thought - furniture that I had placed very intentionally some years earlier. And - I also experienced it recently after changing the wall colors in a few rooms. After painting, I replaced the same furniture in the same places, but the rooms felt freer somehow. Like I could breathe again though I had not been aware of anything before other than it was time to repaint those rooms. Thank you for your videos - I feel like maybe I am not crazy after all!

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Paulap, you aren't crazy. :)

[@akontarini]

If you are crazy, you got company in me...:)

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[@ravenmccall5486]

I have learned that I have to be ready to release a loved piece, or look. If I am do not feel ready to let it go, I don't. Then, later, it feels right. I have to be ready to let it go! My parents died young and I think that is why my process is what it is.

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[@Alis-Nicola]

I like the open feel of the hallway. I think you made the right choice.

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[@mc5366]

I like the hallway without the table. The open space looks great and you can enjoy the picture much more.

[@nancyjohnson2070]

Hello Tim. I just recently found this your channel. I’m in the beginning stages of downsizing. I like how you worked through the transition from table and lamp to no table. It does open up the hallway. I look forward to more information and idea on this channel. 😊

[@powlperc]

Good show! I prefer the unfettered hallway.

[@suewilkinsonmorrobayca6590]

Well said. Thanks

[@lrx54]

This is really refreshing to me. I’ve never heard a male talk about these types of issues. These are the issues that take over my brain waves on a regular basis, an ongoing dialogue with myself. At first glance I Loved! that table/lamp and hallway btw. I rarely like anything. But, less is always more.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@jacki838]

Table could easily become a tripping hazard. It's good to let it go.

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[@lucindawilson5510]

very helpful....glad its not only me ...who has to make those decisions.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@sharonsweeney4709]

Great video. I have always liked a cosy cottage vibe, my sofa and armchairs all had little side tables as well as a coffee table in the centre. I started subtracting furniture and have discovered, like you did, the joy of space. I now only have the coffee table, the side tables are all gone and the space it has freed up is wonderful. I can walk around easily in my tiny cottage for the first time. Whilst I am still drawn to the aesthetic of cosy cottage, I now know living with it is not for me. I choose the space.

[@brandonjordan_]

As always, great video Tim ! - I appreciate the "struggle" of letting go of the table but realizing the freedom aspect.

[@kzZnAT0r]

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[@PeacefulGirl-lf1ys]

Interesting! I like your thought process.

[@evocationart8370]

Wow I’m going to reflect on this you are so right though there is a freedom when you create a space, it allows energy in. I’m trying so hard to let go , thank you for helping me. 😊

[@wendyeskelin8765]

I had the same situation with some bar stools. They were rarely sat on, collected dust and when I moved them it felt so much more open and better.

[@sivsuikki9428]

Can feel the struggle! I want to get rid of my books. Eleven bookcases, am I nuts?! Half of it is my first goal.

[@paisley8519]

I feel your pain. And yes, we book lovers are crazy! I finally realized there weren’t enough days left in my life to read all of the books I had collected. I was always thinking I’d have plenty of time to get to them after I retired. Hah. Not a chance. Five years retired and there are MORE books, not less! So this week I started filling boxes. I thought it would hurt, but instead - it felt liberating. I’m finally down to one short bookcase of books that I either cherish or haven’t read yet. My goal is one shelf. One shelf! Excuse me while I go read now.

[@peggyparsons5003]

Yikes. My downfall, too. I have reference books for art and Bible study and travel. Can't toss those out.

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[@marciahenry3893]

This table arrangement has gotten its share of to save or go away. Hallway looks open and nice. The whole living space will open-up with less stuff. I'll hope you don't miss it too much. Sure offered another tabletop for pictures of recent travels. 😊

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[@valerie718]

I like the hallway much better without the table and lamp. Good choice Tim.