Nurse Bullying| WHY I LEFT ICU, MEDSURG & Quit MY FIRST BEDSIDE NURSING JOB

[@AyesatuG]

Hey My loves ❤ 𝙋𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙗𝙨𝙘𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙚 𝙄𝙁, & 𝙞𝙛 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙚𝙣𝙟𝙤𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙡 💕. 𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬 𝘺𝘰𝘶🤗

[@smilinjoe23]

As a traveller in the ER and always get the worst assignment, learn to say no! You can get fired but you still gonna have your license

[@AyesatuG]

So true 😊💯!! Saying “No” to unsafe situations is something I now practice religiously!!

[@froggybug]

You can also clock out before taking any report. Let them deal with thaT!

[@myimperfectdiary890]

I validated your experience I had the same experience. Also nurses of color have worst times in the ICU bc of gate keeping/racism

[@AyesatuG]

That’s so truee 💯

[@onthebeat9583]

My thoughts Exactly 💯

[@wealthandwellnesswithGrace]

I agree, had the worst experience in one of the ICU’s and actually quit ICU

[@KendraRN]

I enjoyed your story and I commend you for knowing your worth. I love how you got out of that awful 3 year contract that is essentially a trap. You described perfectly what a lot of nurses go through, the gaslighting, horrible managers and colleagues. Looking forward to more of your content.

[@AyesatuG]

Omg!! Thank youu🥰 for stopping by and watching “THIS VIDEO” you inspired me to tell my story…and for that you are a role model & more!! I truly appreciate your comment & support 🫶🏽💕

[@mistermilkman]

@@AyesatuG Awwww! ☺☺🤗

[@hottopmodel1]

Girl this is me RN I’m quitting tomorrow! Bullying and toxic culture. Racism and all.

[@AyesatuG]

I can relate to it 💯. I wish you the very best 🙌🏾. Keep going girly 🫶🏽

[@cheryljanzen6468]

43 yrs. total floor nurse. 11 Lpn,32 RN. 1/2 Hospital's, 1/2 NH. Travel 5 yrs. It was undoubtedly some very bad experiences. I remember a County Hospital in Denver.I had the worst 😫 assignment. All others reading paper or magazines all 12 hrs.

[@Bellaxo11]

Yeah, I’m ready to leave nursing all together. I’m sick of the bullying and incivility. It’s not worth my mental health and tears.

[@NotToodayy]

Hugsss you made it out safely! always protect your health/mental health, and your license.

[@AyesatuG]

Awwww…..Thank youuuu 🥰

[@KendraRN]

Hi!!!! Thank you for the shout out! New sub! I’m catching up on your content❤

[@AyesatuG]

Awww 🥰 you deserved it & more!!! Your contents are inspiring and top-tier 🫶🏽Thank youuu & 𝙒𝙀𝙇𝘾𝙊𝙈𝙀 ❤️!!

[@mistermilkman]

1 of the biggest problems I'm seeing when new nurses r precepting is, they r focused on getting task done b4 their shift is over. If they feel like they're getting behind, they panic & get flustered. That is not the type of experience a new nurse should b around. All she had 2 do was go thru ur checklist & use that as a guide. They r not confident n teaching. I like 2 eyeball my patient b4 I take report. That way I know they're alive & what they look like. Then I either look @ orders or do my initial assessment. There's no wrong way 2 do it. The 1st thing I would let a new nurse know is we will b here past 7:30 to go over documentation. That way, they understand how important documentation is, & how important it is get specific things done on time. Whatever I don't know, we'll figure it out & learn 2gether. Nights is a different beast. People pretend nights is easy. It's not fast pace, but u will run around all night if u get the right patients, esp when those admissions come n during ur med pass.

[@AyesatuG]

Well said!!!💯 eyeballing pt before taking a report is something I hold highly in my practice. Indeed nights is different kind of beast!!!

[@Cherellecoaching222]

I'm am so sorry you went through that awful experience of nasty people. Your still a beautiful person and they could never break your spirit. I'm so glad you got out of there and stood up for what you believe. Protect your mind, spirit and license. They don't deserve the great Nurse you are. Your so Blessed ❤️ Congratulations on your new position. Continue to be a blessing to yourself and others.

[@AyesatuG]

Aww thank you so much girly 🥰🫶🏽❤️

[@adlenaijomah3646]

My Dear, what you were Experiencing was Racism from people, who HATE to See Black People having a Position in a hospital Unless it is cleaning. One of the Junior Colleges here where I live, people running the Nursing Program try to do Everything they can to STOP Black Students From Becoming Nurses !! I Am So Happy You Got Your Dream Job, Success is the BEST REVENGE !! To Heck with those Fools at that other job !!

[@AyesatuG]

So very true… thank you so much for the supportive words 🫶🏽greatly appreciated :)

[@adlenaijomah3646]

@@AyesatuG You are quite Welcome

[@elf1845]

I've been a nurse for 43 years. Your story makes me feel so sad. Over my career I have been a witness to and a victim of lateral and horizontal violence in workplace. Your story is powerful. This is a major problem in Nursing. Nurses eat their young and their old.

[@AyesatuG]

Thank you so much!! 💕

[@patsycruize3233]

Good grief girl! Those people were horrible to you !!! I’m glad you found your place. ❤❤I had all kids of experiences as a new Rn, Some Good and some horrible . I had toxic colleagues and good ones. I promised myself never to loose my kindness and be nice to our newcomers. I always tell my trainees : you’ll meet horrible peers and some good ones. Never become a bully .

[@AyesatuG]

So true 🫶🏽💕thank you so much for the kind words ❤️🫶🏽

[@JR-oe6dw]

I know the types of nurses you are talking about. I have been a nurse for 2 years now and traveling for a little under a year. I have seen so much mess and it is ridiculous how new nurses get treated. However, I love being there for the newer nurses as support for them when they need it. Nursing is toxic and I soooooo wish I could have worked with your to be by your side. Don't let these rude and miserable nurses get to you at all, Queen!!!!

[@AyesatuG]

Nurses like you are gem 💎 Thank youuu🥰🫶🏽

[@wealthandwellnesswithGrace]

Sorry you had a terrible experience working with those nurses. I’m glad you have a union

[@AyesatuG]

Aww thank you so much 💕

[@Whitney_]

Girrrrrlll!!! I thought I had it bad, I’m gonna stop lying- because you definitely got it the worse. This is insane! But it’s great that you landed a better position!!🎉

[@AyesatuG]

Haha 😂 thanks girly 😍

[@catmom1322]

I'm a retired Master's-prepared nurse who left the bedside & taught nursing at the university level while working on my doctorate. Academia was no better. The bullying was unbearable. Take care, my fair nurse!

[@AyesatuG]

Thank youuuu 🙏💕. Congratulations on ur achievement 🎉🎈

[@cynthiadickinson5434]

I enjoyed your story and you’re right, you don’t have to put-up w/ a toxic environment. I am glad you found a better job.

[@AyesatuG]

Thank youuuu so much 💕🫶🏽

[@margaritapadilla2503]

Hang in there. Educate yourself , you’ll be ok🤗🙏and the lesson is don’t be like them! Use them to fuel your future.

[@AyesatuG]

Thank youuu 😊

[@patsycruize3233]

Im sending a virtual hug ❤❤❤❤

[@AyesatuG]

Thank you 🫶🏽💕

[@jennifertaylor8683]

Absolutely awful! So sorry you had to go through this!

[@AyesatuG]

Thank youuu 🙏

[@Whitney_]

Ain’t gonna lie I was screaming a few times during this vid, you were sending me🤣🤣🤣

[@AyesatuG]

🤣🤣🤣

[@lilpinay7973]

I’m feeling this as a new grad. I want to leave bed side so bad too, I’ve been so stressed, depressed and anxious on my unit. What did you end up working as now? I’m thinking of trying home health/hospice, case management because I like the 1:1 ration and being able to provide care without rushing to get all these tasks done for 4/5 other patients

[@TheKrystee]

Consider GI/endoscopy!

[@AyesatuG]

I felt the same way with pre-shift anxiety and depression so I get what you are going through 💯🙌🏾. Honestly, when I left bedside I ventured into different avenues which I’ll go more in-depth on, but currently I work for a private practice. Nursing is a diverse field and the possibilities are endless so you will def find something you love and doesn’t affect ur mental health 🥰. Keep going girly 🫶🏽!!

[@mistermilkman]

I travel & am finding they're not making assignments by acuity. I find that 2 b crazy & dangerous. I try 2 support nurses that experience what u've been thru. I feel bad when my contract is over & I have 2 leave them. They try 2 give me the worse patients, but I'm built 4 it, so it doesn't phase me. That doesn't make it right either. I never felt like my license was @ risk bc of the way I document.

[@AyesatuG]

I had a travel nurse who help out greatly during my residency program. Her words of encouragement kept me going 🙌🏾so I can relate to this!!! Thanks for watching 🥰

[@mistermilkman]

@@AyesatuG My pleasure! 😊

[@HeavenlyFaithful]

So how do you document when you have a heavy assignment? I'm thinking about leaving bedside because of the increase patient load. I get to my location 45 min-1 hr early and start looking up orders at the 30 minute mark if pt assignments are available. I've found it harder to do my job and care for my patients like I want these days. With not having techs (or when there are techs they don't really do their job) and no real teamwork. I'm running around crazy and most are just chilling at the desk. So I'm trying to be adaptable with my current method of doing things. I know for a fact some of these nurses aren't physically doing assessments... but are charting they did 🤐.

[@mistermilkman]

@@HeavenlyFaithful I usually ask what is required my 1st day on the floor. Whoever precepts me 4 that day, I'll write down what is required as we go thru documentation. I keep a folder & organize it based on things important 2 the floor. I come n 15 minutes early 2 get my assignment. I don't come n extra early bc assignments change last minute. I don't like wasting my time. I go 2 each room & eyeball my patients & let them know who I am & that I will b back 2 assess them after I get report. When I'm done with report, I do a quick look up, meds & all. I do my assessments & address any concerns. I focus on documentation after I do my evening meds. I may squeeze 1 or 2 n after I do my physical assessments. Depending on the day, I don't finish my documentation until I'm done with hand off 4 next shift. I've seen nurses complete assessments b4 they even look @ patients. I can only document what I observed myself, which is y I don't leave notes. Most charting systems contain areas 4 u 2 input ur findings & any care provided. It keeps me from having 2 explain anything extra. If nothing significant happened, keep it moving. Over-documenting can hurt u.

[@mistermilkman]

​@@HeavenlyFaithful When my assignment is heavy, I input total assessments & only what is pertinent 2 the patient. I cut out the extra stuff that may b repetitive. That's when knowing the charting system is important. I also only chart the necessities on high acuity patients. If the patient is walkie talkie or require only set up assistance, I may skip portions of ADLs. If a patient has wounds, I address the wound/dressing appearance or if I changed the dressing. I focus my documentation on what's important n the plan of care of the patient. I don't think twice about it. U can also document according 2 the orders placed n ur patient. B mindful 2 overlook old orders. They can b confusing & have u doing unnecessary work. I also document n the patient's room as I do task the aide is supposed 2 do. I'll roll my WOW as I provide care & document output or vitals as I do them. Sometimes u have 2 switch up ur routine. Let them do what they do. Only doc what u c.

[@lisagardner903]

That is so sad of how you were treated by your preceptor and the hospital. That makes all the difference in the world of how a new nurses will perform. The medical system is broken! I hope you find the job that you will like.

[@AyesatuG]

Aww 🥰 Thank youuuuu🫶🏽

[@AdvancedNursesEdConsultant]

Wow those ppl set you up by giving you a known bully. The problem with these systems is that they protect their bullies,

[@AyesatuG]

So trueee

[@froggybug]

As far as notice…. They can notice for that extra week that you’re not there😒😒😒

[@AyesatuG]

💯💯💯

[@rae7269]

I support you sister!

[@AyesatuG]

😍😍🫶🏽

[@pmarie2003]

Please always look out for yourself, and your license, because no one else will! Your experience sounds exactly like the "orientation" I received in the "world famous cardiac center." Nursing teaches you to be a category 5 A-hole, because of the constant conflict, psychos, manipulators....

[@AyesatuG]

It truly does 💯!! Thank you for watching 🫶🏽💞

[@hottopmodel1]

Whew watched the whole video sis. How long did you last in bedside as a new grad?

[@AyesatuG]

Awww thank youuu 🥰!! I did a year as a bedside nurse.

[@RNScrub]

straight facts

[@rae7269]

I experienced the same exact thing!!! Stay strong. Try woundcare

[@AyesatuG]

Thank youu 🥰

[@rae7269]

@@AyesatuG yw sis!!!❤️

[@wealthandwellnesswithGrace]

New sub here!!!

[@AyesatuG]

Awww thank youu 💕

[@lauraconnolly663]

Ayesatu. I worked in aged care as a ND AIN. (Assistant in Nursing.) across three different aged care places. (I did my education in the height of the pandemic and as a result? Only got one week (40 hours) of Vocational placement at the end of the course... instead of 3 weeks (120 hours.) The place that I (along with 4 other students.) were sent to to complete that week? was within an utterly appalling state work culture wise. I swear, If I had gotten the full 3 weeks of placement? I never would have proceeded to get into the industry at all. My first two AIN aged care roles (doing afternoons/evening shifts.) were literally hell (bullying from co workers, management etc.) on top of co workers not wanting to mentor me. (Luckily I am fully switched on and never ever did unsafe practices at any time regardless of backlash from the lot of them.) Then I thought I finally made a breakthrough at a facility literally 2 minutes walk from my house. (I saw it being built and knew what was there prior etc.) Yet One RN had a real go at me on my first training shift.. I put her firmly in her place and told her to go shock some sense into herself with the nearest Defib.. and refused to work with her for future shifts (which the management agreed to.) (This RN ended up suffered a heart attack after a night shift ((15 minutes after they got home from work.)) They started having symptoms on site throughout the previous night but heavily verbally abused every single member of their team who were concerned for them and were swiftly attempting to organise paramedics to get them to hospital for help. I don't know the outcome. (they left the company in the end.) I usually do not wish death upon people... But I did for them. No one liked them. All was going well until I suffered from a partial dislocation of my left shoulder (caused by underlying bursitis as a direct result from manual handling strain in regards to heavy/dead weight residents during rounds.) The injury happened at home.. but it was ruled by my physio and my GP that it was all work related. Attempted to get onto work cover for financial compensation --- It fell through. That was the last straw. I had had enough of it all. I resigned and it was a bittersweet reality. The management fully understood and wished me the best. I miss the residents and some of the workers who I made proper connections with..... but... It is not worth getting more injured.. How am I to care for people... if the system in place does not care for the carers? I can't.. and I won't. After all that hard work and effort I put in... all that crap I copped... It frustrates and angers me that it did not work out. But now? I see that it is not worth my physical, mental and emotional states of being. I don't regret it really.. I now have the skills I need to provide care to my parents when they get old (as I am an only child.) to keep them out of residential aged care for as long as possible. I'd rather have them with me and I care for them... than to ever subject them to the flawed and flatlining system that is filled with failures. I actually wanted to get into the hospital sector (I hold a cert 3 in heath services assistance.) but due to lack of experience? No hospital (even the one I have been in as a patient for more times than I'd like to count in the last 5+ years.) would give me an ounce of a chance. My cousin is an RN and she gave me ample amounts of advice.. yet I never did get to interview stage.(I got one offer... in my second aged care role... but my parents wanted me to stay in said job I already got instead of suddenly switching routines and such... I do regret not taking it. -_-, Yet hospitals aren't that much better.. so... Who knows where that would have led if I did take it. Ironic isn't it? That healthcare... is riddled with unhealthy people.. and not the ones we are trained to take care of.... Cancerous co worker and management natures will continue to metastasize until the sectors snap under the strain of it all..... unless we de tox the workforce and weed out such workers who cause such systemic decay. ... How to do so? Your guess is as good as mine. -~-, I am now set to study Photography and I am working on learning 3D Printing~ ❤ I would rather work for myself than ever work with anyone else in any other sector ever again. Good on you for prioritising your health girl! All the best for the future!

[@AyesatuG]

Thank you so much!! You going to do great things in photography 📸💕

[@lauraconnolly663]

@@AyesatuG I hope so. Anything is better than nursing. It saddens me... But I was never there to attempt to carry the failing system. I was there to help those who really needed me.

[@CYRINTHIA212]

good evening

[@AyesatuG]

👋hey

[@clairealetha4274]

Those are the preceptors nursing facilities adore sadly because they’re yt

[@AyesatuG]

So Truee….

[@galaxyamber8001]

Where you from? I like you accent