Do Not F***ing Touch My Wheelchair

[@BRACE_The_Ace]

I used a cane in highschool. There was always this kid in my English class who would grab it (when I was already in my seat thankfully) & pretend it was a machine gun. Every. Single. Day. I hated it, especially during flu season.

[@libraryoflilylol199]

omg yes this! People need to stop grabbing me and messing with my service dog. There was a guy who almost completely ruined ALL OF MY SERVICE DOG'S TRAINING because I told him he couldn't pet him and he skateboarded up behind us and SLAPPED my dog's HEAD! It took a YEAR for his training to get back to what it was before that incident and he STILL flinches every time he hears skateboard or backpack wheels freaking 6 years later. I also get a lot of strangers physically grabbing my arm and dragging me places or placing me "out of the way" with absolutely no comment, announcement, warning, or introduction. When I ask them what the FUCK they're doing, they tell me they assumed I was blind. Yeah my question still stands. What the FUCK are they doing??? What makes them think it's okay to grab and drag blind strangers to wherever you want???

[@yokaipinata1416]

If anything, someone being blind sounds like even _more_ of a reason to not push or drag them against their will-- I'd imagine it would be very disorienting, you know?

[@lexylunamoon]

Do these types of people just not have the ability to relate to other people? It's just curule

[@laartje24]

Just wanted to add that this also counts for service dogs. Yes those "innocent" 2 pets can actually leave me with a panic attack if they come unexpected or at the wrong moment, and guess what you might have also distracted my service dog too much from coming to my aid and doing her job at the same time. And shame on the man who started petting and actively dragging her off of me when she was already tasking and trying to get me out of a panic attack. That encounter still haunts me.

[@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023]

That sounds horrifying. If appropriate, please hug your dog from me. And FWIW I will sacrifice some tomatoes for that you won't ever have to experience something similar again.

[@laartje24]

@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 Dog hug has been delivered ^^ and thanks, let's hope so.

[@SillyNep]

I didn't think mobility aids were an extension of the person before this but it really does make sense when you think about it. Thank you for making this video I can only imagine how scary that must've been.

[@cathycat4989]

The only time it is OK to touch someone without their consent is if their life is in IMMEDIATE danger. Choking and turning purple? Assist. About to be hit by a vehicle? Push them out of the way. Unconscious person? CPR. Someone having a seizure? Check that they are not injured, possibly putting a pillow between them and any hard surfaces they might thrash against. Severe wound? Apply pressure to stop bleeding Unless it seems that the person's life is in immediate danger, do not touch them or their possessions without consent.

[@KiraNightshade]

We even say to at least engage to make sure someone is unconscious first, so, yeah. Agreed.

[@lahlybird895]

This happened to me all the time too I'm not in a wheelchair but I can't count the number of times people have just seen me walking in a direction assumed I needed help and come up to me and like taking my shoulder or arm to guide me without asking first Or move my cane from where I put it without telling me until after or when I start looking for it And so many other little moments like that Disabled people have just as much right to personal boundaries if anybody else including not being touched without permission There's something a lot of people including sometimes with families really need to learn

[@douglasparkinson4123]

i used to not be able to believe people actually do this. until a few days ago some prick at my school grabbed the steering controls for my friend who is in a motorised wheelchair and drove the chair straight over someone elses foot, crushing it and leaving the poor kid stuck on crutches and my mate in the wheelchair stuck with the blame for "not stopping him".

[@DepoverS]

That is so fucked up. :(

[@laartje24]

That is absolutely disgusting. Both that he did that and that adults put the blame on the person who was actively pushed aside and had no control anymore.

[@morningstarcollective4671]

As someone who only recently started using mobility aids (even though I've needed them for most of my life), this really helped me change how I think about them, I haven't been taking my cane seriously enough. There are days I cannot move an inch without it, and I've been mistreating it under stress, when I really need to treat it as part of me to keep it lasting as long as possible.

[@moonbeam714]

same here!! i do my best to personalize mine, the stickers on there are like tattoos to me.

[@kiriki4558]

I'm not a disabled person, but it sound so similar to experiencing SA. The sense of danger and powerlessness and the realizaron of how easy and quickly someone can get away with harming you.

[@Summer-uq1vr]

Throwback to a friend of a friend hitting me because i was 'being stupid' by 'overreacting' when he found my notebook, my only aac form at the time, right beside me on a wall and he wanted to sit a meter away on the same wall so he picked up the notebook and threw it in a muddy puddle😬😬

[@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023]

WTF is wrong with some people?! I am so sorry that you had to experience that.

[@SuperUmizoomi]

murder

[@booigipoo]

I remember I had to get those drops in your eyes that make your pupil dilate really wide and it left me nearly blind, so my mother had me in a wheelchair while she went shopping. I has to sit outside the aisles most of the time because the wheelchair wouldn't fit. then all the sudden this man grips onto my wheelchair and started to push me to the front desk to "find my caretaker". Luckily my mother stopped him, and we left the store shortly after. The experience was terrifying, especially when you can't see them coming or where they are taking you. Yes I did have those shades you put over your glasses, but I dropped mine and I didn't want to ask for my brother's since his eyes are more sensitive to light than mine

[@moonbeam714]

i'm a (relatively) new wheelchair user. today was my first day of junior year and while looking for my next class i rolled past a few offices and this woman i've never met comes out and is super super insistent on helping me. i did need directions so i accepted the help and she asked if she could push me. i was deeply uncomfortable but she pressured me and i gave in. for me at least, i want to be the one to ask for help. when it's offered so immediately i feel like there's an assumption that i can't be trusted to be okay on my own without the assistance of an able-bodied person.

[@thefluffyaj4119]

1. really really sorry that happened to you, I'm looking into getting a wheelchair and i can't imagine someone touching shit like that 2. I really like your voice, it sounds friendly and makes me comfy :]

[@coopi1481]

Oh god, I hate that so fucking much! So with you and yes, it happens so often!

[@DarkRelm22]

I don't know what this is about. I'm 15 seconds in. and YES EXACTLY. DONT TOUCH YOUR SHIT. Thank you. As an autistic person please never touch anyone ever for ANY FUCKING REASON without being given FULL CERTAIN permission.

[@Sly-Moose]

I certainly sensed your panic in your voice and oh god. I already struggle with anxiety. No thank you!

[@brookgordon1793]

I'm not an emotional person but I almost cried. Granted if I was around I would've helped that's just who I am but I would've asked. I help ppl all the time just my nature. Ikw ur not an LP (little person) but remember a misunderstanding I had wen I work in store cafeteria. It was buffet style food. A LP women was reaching for the surving spoon. I politely said hag on let me get that for u. All I did was move the handle away from the hot lights. Saying it should cool a minute. The women kinda yelled at me. Say oh because I'm a little person I can't serve my own food. I pointed out that wasn't my intention. I just want all my customers to be happy and safe. She apologized and we moved on. I think I may have also scared her.

[@notoriouswhitemoth]

You can't just grab someone like that, that's assault. He absolutely should've asked if you needed help first!

[@appleoxide4489]

Aro flag!

[@saladcaesar7716]

Aro gang !

[@autumnboards2911]

Hey new to the channel and gotta say you are awesome and this video brought up my own experience with this i am 30 Year old woman with cerebral palsy and use a wheelchair or walker but this incident happened in my chair I when out to a fun fancy evening with my mom and siblings and it started as soon i left the limo and got in my chair the limo took it upon himself to grab this back of my chair yank it hard backwards up the curve never saying a word to me mind u also knocking me completely out of my chair like was literally clinging to it to stay in it and just leaves my family shouted at him but he was already gone after they helped me calm down and right myself it it got much much worse in the theater/playhouse we get to our accessible seating and settled in it gets dark suddenly someone is unlocking my chair moving what y stop no no no HEY it's an employee ignoring me completely i am not a person to them i am furniture to be moved because they say when my mom said wtf are you doing ahole f off don't touch her! Mama other people need to sit u can take up space with this chair and continue to move me and i say I'm a person stop it I'm a person nothing no reaction my mom and siblings have to physically yank me back from the employee who was going to put me in a random corner this happens 3 more times with 3 different employees to the point we are on guard throughout the play jumping when someone passes us and wait there's more when we leave that place my siblings and noticed something no matter where i am even if I'm directly in front of someone everyone is ignoring my existence to not get separated from my family i have to scream at the top of my lungs GET OUT TO WAY MOVE I CAN'T GET THROUGH it doesn't work my siblings noticed and join in with FING MOVE AHOLES MOVE OR WE'LL RUN U OVER! Finally after some stranger steps over my lap yes LAP i can get in the car and go home i vent to my now ex bf how i felt like furniture something to be moved stepped over ignored and explain after all that he said that isn't a thing it was just a bad day stop being dramatic and I signed off of Skype curled up in a ball laid down and sobbed all night touching our aids is touching us and is over looked too often

[@kiraerickson472]

I am so sorry that happened to you, people suck sometimes. I’m glad your family was able to help you. I haven’t had that problem before, but many people don’t understand that when I set my white cane down, I know where I put it, and when they move it or try to help me find it. They’re just making it harder for me. I just want to yell sometimes, just stop touching my stuff.

[@autumnboards2911]

@@kiraerickson472 thanks and that sounds endlessly frustrating because if U know where it is u obviously want it there and are comfortable with it in it's place

[@kiraerickson472]

@@autumnboards2911 Exactly!!!!

[@autumnboards2911]

@@kiraerickson472 and you feel a little mean saying stop it but it feels like the only way to get your point across ppl say I'm just trying to help and it's thanks but please unless I ask nooooo

[@Lolo_225]

I can definitely see why this would be extremely terrifying but I can see why the guy did that, he shouldn’t have but I can see why.

[@shmelvampire]

he probably freaked out, that the doors would close and the train will start moving as a person is halfway there but he should AT LEAST have talked to Viktor afterwards

[@shmelvampire]

My best guess of why the man pushed you, is that he might have freaked out, because thought, you were in danger (if the door closed and the train started moving, as you were hakfway there), but that doesn't justify the lack of communication. If he really was acting in the thought, that you were in an immediat danger, he should have AT LEAST talked afterwards

[@artemisaprita1947]

I often describe someone grabbing my wheelchair as them grabbing my spine and puppeting me like a fucking mech. It's fucking awful.

[@vanessakoehler5686]

Your digital art looks amazing great job on this.

[@myaltaccount4438]

*noted*

[@Turai12]

Hearing someone call themselves by my deadname will always feel weird.

[@joelsytairo6338]

Sounds like something I would do tbh 😫… Im a nurse in a nursing home with dementia pts. … it’s super instinctive for me to see someone stuck in a traffic jam and pull them out.

[@cabbage-soup]

i think they're aren't saying that you can't help people, just that it's polite to communicate w people first xD

[@jadelinny]

Even if you're patients are unable to respond/seem unaware of their surroundings, it would probably still be good practice to narrate what you're doing it you're touching them. For at least some of them it would likely lower their internal anxiety.

[@DarkRelm22]

anyways, that said. that is a lovely art peice! who are you drawing here? is that you and a sibling or S.O.?

[@Oakwyrm]

Thank you so much but no. These are two of my OCs and they're queerplatonic partners.

[@DarkRelm22]

@@Oakwyrm Oh lovely!! I think their neat!! I hope to hear more about them! i was very happy to find your videos as an autistic disabled person, positive representation is rare but always pleasant

[@bdariamihaela]

May I ask, how come you aren't comfortable with speaking finish? Didn't you spoke it at home?

[@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023]

Oakwyrm is a Finland-Swede / finlandssvensk / suomenruotsalainen / Finnlandschweden / finlandais suédophone / finlandés suecófono. He has told and demonstrated in at least these videos some things about the roles that different languages play in his life: Accent Challenge, Nov 22, 2018 How Do I Pronounce That? (Sick Day Ramble + Speedpaint), May 31, 2019 A Week In The Life Of Delphi | Dog Vlog, Jul 15, 2021 Reading With An Accent | Speedpaint, Aug 30, 2021

[@bdariamihaela]

@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 Thanks, I only got to see the "reading with accent" video untill now

[@adamdahlstrom2095]

You are MOLD!

[@teamtatters5237]

Yaaaaaaaas

[@ruthiecorbyhenry]

so am I the only disabled person on earth who would've thanked someone if they helped me like that even if they did do it without consent?

[@spartan7021]

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[@realhuman4879]

Imma touch your wheelchair