OCD Isn't What You Think It Is - A Conversation with Bonnie Young

[@BrookGardner]

As I'm listening to this I'm also realizing we have some parents and church leaders that have some OCD which doesn't help those they lead, and which has gotten them the leadership they are in because they were so obedient. when these types of leaders are counseling our kids, this can be a challenge...

[@lorettadailey7532]

Thank you so much! I have been waiting for someone to talk about this. This topic is so needed for so many!

[@stevenparkin6486]

I so-o-o relate to Aubrey's account at Video Time 11:00. The teacher asked the child, "What is your favorite Doctor Seuss book?" Please see the dynamics there. It's a loaded question, which the teacher did not intend. I see several key points: (1) Teacher has authority over the student, and holds power to grade that student on accuracy, (2) asking "What is your BEST anything?" presses the student for the absolute, first-place answer. Compare this with swimmer, Michael Phelps, who won Olympic Gold by one-thousandth of one second. In the adult world, we press for exactness at select and specific times; and the World Olympics is one of those times. Yet a child does not know the Time, Place or Manner to be Exact verses when to give a casual or inexact answer. (3) Webster's Dictionary affirms that words have exact meanings. Children, especially ages 5-17, absorb exact meanings to words spoken by adults, especially Parents and Teachers. In Aubrey's example, the teacher's casual question actually means, "What is one Doctor Seuss book you like?" The teacher intended to prompt a thoughtful yet non-exacting response from the student, to invoke conversation, express opinion, and possibly, to advance a discussion on Reasoning skills. (4) A religious child carries an added burden: a belief that God will assess the child's truth and accuracy, possibly convincing the child that a different Seuss book should be favorite, not the one cited.

[@beverlycluff807]

Oh my gosh this has been wonderful!!! Thank you so much. I'm sure I'll watch over and over there is a great deal of information 💕

[@Cameron4077]

This is amazing! Thank you! my mission was a catalyst for my social anxiety disorder, scrupulosity, excessively demanding, rigidness etc. long story but I've been home now 21 years and I still deal with-been to counselling and trying to get better-Great podcast

[@stevenparkin6486]

I relate to Tim's life summary at Time 1:04:00. Years ago, I recall a Boy Scout who was Scrupulous about completing every listed requirement in the book with exactness before accepting each Merit Badge. His effort was similar to other boys yet his Scrupulosity blocked him from meeting rigid standards, accepting key badges or receiving the Eagle level. Later, he could not participate with other Eagles during various ceremonial rights reserved for Eagles. Internally, he accepted that conclusion yet found it hard to absorb parental and other external disappointments.

[@Sayheybrother8]

I am overwhelmed and feel this is such an important discussion. Learning that the Savior understands we are depraved and that is why we he came to the world and overcame our sins for us. The organization of the church could spend more time helping all members remember they can’t overcome sin without the savior. Those of us who struggle Understanding this are not trusting in the atonement the way the Lord teaches us in the Book of Mormon and the Bible.

[@ShepStevVidEOs]

Tim, I almost hate church music because of what you described. I don’t like listening to it. If I listen to rock or something, at least it’s secular and not supposed to be perfect and make me “feel good.”

[@TimChaves]

Totally feel that Steven. Thanks for sharing your experience. Wishing you the best.