What makes OCPD OCPD?

[@saurav3047]

I took my OCPD lightly and I now realize that it's pretty fuckin hard to live with it. It did significantly impact my life. I somehow wouldn't wish OCPD even on my worst enemies.

[@OCPD_support]

Aashish Makhija I did as well until I started this channel. You can't get back all the years you may have lost to the fallout from OCPD. But there are many paths to happiness once you start to seek out help. It is possible to get yourself out of your current situation. If I can do it, you can do it.

[@Missy-j4i]

VIDEOS BY PEOPLE WITH OCPD Darryl: youtube.com/@OCPD_support/videos Taiese: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lWTGcnuPZcuDpZI Eden: youtube.com/@EdenV Emma: youtube.com/@emmanxiety5850 Mark: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jX7TXoOFeaeih6s (see timestamps) Andrei: kzbin.info/www/bejne/imLCnZR3lNxop5o Natalia: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oIjciYGOeM-obtk May: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eXjceqaEhrebfaM Nicolasa: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sGTdhqN9f69giZo Jacob: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6HUeIKgd72Ze6M Desiree: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnm2foWAj7Wtqa8 (trigger warning: SA) Molly: youtube.com/@youseemnormal Shannon: youtube.com/@TheOCPDCoach Jose: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWGlp318eb2Xq8U Olivia: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qZ-UlYaAnpygra8 Abbey: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYGykmB4g9SLadE (brief mention of OCPD), kzbin.info/www/bejne/mWS1eXl8ncppo5o

[@OCPD_support]

@Missy-j4i 🙏🏻

[@FlowerGrl20]

I live with someone who has OCPD. It makes me crazy.. and I’m about to move out.

[@OCPD_support]

R A it can be tremendously difficult to live with someone with OCPD and it's important to always put your own mental health first in your life.

[@LarsLondian]

Thank you for the update, hope you are doing well & I will be looking forward to the E-Mailed Questions. Hmmm what shall I ask?

[@OCPD_support]

Lars Londian hope you're doing well as well. Looking forward to your questions :)

[@caramel3027]

I'd love to see more videos about therapy! I quit therapy after 3 months because my therapist was helping me in the "wrong" way - everything she was saying and suggesting was so wrong to me. I'm scared I'll never find a new therapist because I want them to be 100% perfect at their job. That's me being rigid then I guess haha.

[@OCPD_support]

Caramel I'll be doing a few more videos on therapists and even more on therapy. And I've been where you are now. I kept having bad experiences for years with different therapists. If I had kept looking, I would have found the right help years ago. But the bad experiences kept me from trying to find the right therapist for a long, long time. And as far as finding the right therapist, they don't have to be 100% perfect at their job. What they do have to do is care. And what you should be concerned with is just finding a therapist that's a good personality match to you. You're never going to respect someone you don't like. And you're never going to get help from someone you don't respect.

[@OCPD_support]

Caramel I have produced one video on therapists so far. It doesn't really cover what we're talking about, but it's a starting point. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bZaYcmx6lNSdh9k

[@LeticiaCuenca]

@@OCPD_support thank you for your channel, it’s really helpful. Looking forward to the video you mentioned you’ll do about all therapists not being created equally. I’ll check your older video on the topic for now while we wait for the new one. As for options, CBT is so prevalent and seems to be pretty much what most therapists offer, still not sure it’s a helpful approach. Thanks again!

[@OCPD_support]

@@LeticiaCuenca I’m so sorry for the delay with the videos. I’m currently trying to put together The OCPD Foundation and that’s taking up most of my time. But I will be back soon.

[@caramelchocomalt5852]

I came to a psychiatrist and was wishing he would guide me because i didn't freakin know what is going on with me, but that session traumatized me ;') so here i am still confused with myself and looking for help online

[@im19ice3]

the amount of time i waste researching the condition even knowing it's unlikely i'll come across any new information 😅 i admit it does give me some relief to hear we're all scrambling for a way to make sense of this thing, be that patterns or whatever, the irrational fear inside me that everyone has everything figured out and i'm the only one soaking in willful ignorance is momentarily silenced 😜

[@OCPD_support]

im19ice3 there is far more unknown about this disorder than there is known. Nobody else has it figured out and we are all scrambling just as much as you. Thanks for watching.

[@monicasahagun1268]

Have you considered making a discord server for this community? I think it might be more interactive than emails and we'd all have a space to share experiences, content ideas, etc. + It could serve as support.

[@OCPD_support]

Mónica Sahagún thanks for the suggestion. I had a bad experience with Discord a while back, and I'm also overloaded with projects to the point that I wouldn't be able to manage that. However, once the new website launches in a couple of months, there will be multiple forums for everyone impacted by OCPD. I will be moderating those along with additional people I'll be selecting.

[@korypedersen9768]

Glad to see more content. Keep up the good work.

[@OCPD_support]

Kory Pedersen thanks for the encouragement and for watching.

[@PS1956m]

This Christmas I watched A Christmas Carol with George C Scott. At the end, after he's cured of his OCPD, he's talking with his nephew's family about the "metaphor game". He points out the proper answer to "as tight" is "as a drum". (Presumably, not "as Uncle Scrooge", the answer given by some in the past.)

[@OCPD_support]

PS1956m very interesting. I will have to rewatch that scene. Thanks for sharing.

[@PS1956m]

@@OCPD_support Here's the video queued up at 6:15, goes for 30 seconds, check it out! kzbin.info/www/bejne/mGi4nmlmaKdloqs Appreciate you sounding the alarm about OCPD. Keep up the good work.

[@petersalt]

rigidity and inflexibility are cornerstones of OCPD, and it is key identifying the issues you may have. I went through radical openness therapy and it has helped me better than regular DBT.

[@OCPD_support]

Peter Salt I'm so happy to hear that. Therapy is definitely not a "one size fits all" solution. It's good to keep an open mind until you hit upon the therapy that connects best with you.

[@petersalt]

@@OCPD_support it’s still plenty of work not to have rage episodes and all of the other OC symptoms. Thanks for the content.

[@safwanjebat1713]

Hello, I am new follower. Glad that I found your channel after struggling managing my rules and standards related to life. Thank you for saving me though

[@OCPD_support]

Safwan Jebat I'm so happy that you're enjoying my channel. If you have any questions, you can always leave them in the comments. Thanks for watching.

[@jeregamm]

"Please don't obsess over every little symptom". Great advice.........as I'm obsessing over the fact that I'm not miserly. (in fairness there are some bad videos on KZbin with psychologists stating all people with OCPD are miserly)

[@OCPD_support]

Jeremiah Gammond yes, there's some interesting content on KZbin when it comes to OCPD.

[@EclecticG]

Thank you for the update about the algorithm too; I def want to watch the vids we have missed. I am starting a med on the 22nd called Luvox... For OCPD. Does any one have experience with this? As much as OCPD is debilitating it is also my personality... I'm nervous it will dampen my qualities as well as the symptoms/behaviors. I am trying. To compare and contrast myself from my past to my future. But I don't know, I appreciate my quips. But I do see how it effects my family and coworkers. And they often have to remind me to let go of something I'm obsessing over and move onto the next task.

[@OCPD_support]

G Siciliano I have taken Luvox. But everyone's experience with it is different. The most important thing is that you trust the person that is prescribing it to you. As long as they are monitoring any and all changes in how you feel, I'm sure that together you'll be able to figure out if it's a good fit for you. I spent years worrying about the idea of, as you put it, 'dampening my qualities' as well. I was more concerned about the changes that might occur in general, than specifically with the meds. I was very wrong to think that way. We are who we are and OCPD is a fog. Once the fog lifts our potential to be happy becomes much more attainable. Life becomes far more enjoyable. And we can be the fullest version of ourselves.

[@amitgawde8194]

How do you deal with decision making ? It takes a lot of time in OCPD. And it's really hard and frustrating.

[@OCPD_support]

Amit Gawde thanks for the question. It's a bit of a tricky one to answer because it depends on the decision. Some are much easier than others. With OCPD, research tends to play a big part in our decision-making. Sometimes too big of a part. Having someone you can consult with that isn't involved in the decision can help you to gain some perspective, and that can be very useful. I think a combination of working on prioritizing decisions and setting a time limit within which to make them could work for some people. But the thing you don't want to do is to catastrophize. Do not only consider the bad outcomes of a decision. Focus more on the potential positives.

[@eclecticgi23]

Hope ure well. Its been really rough for a lot of ppk lately

[@OCPD_support]

Tainxi.Lil. G I'm doing ok. I've talked with many people lately that have it much worse off than me. I hope that we can all start coming out of this bad time soon and I hope that you're well.

[@karineroumache9124]

Hello, what about therapists who refuse to give a diagnosis ?

[@OCPD_support]

Karine Roumache excellent question. It would depend on how you're using the word "refuse". Does the therapist not believe that the patient has OCPD? Does the therapist have no experience treating OCPD and therefore is not comfortable with giving a diagnosis? Is the therapist willing to treat someone for OCPD without giving a formal diagnosis? My current therapist did not diagnose me with OCPD, has no experience treating patients with OCPD, and yet is the best therapist I've ever had. So it really comes down to their attitude. There can be both good and bad reasons for not giving a diagnosis. What does your gut tell you about this therapist?

[@karineroumache9124]

@@OCPD_support I understand that. I don't know if it's cultural (I'm from Belgium, the French speaking part, which means we share a lot with the French. In France, psychoanalysis is still very powerful. So there are different influences, obediences, whatever you may want to call it). Good reasons : not to put yourself into a box, not to be put in one. And as you say the relationship with the therapist almost makes having a diagnosis secondary. BUT having a diagnosis also gives you Intel, leads, and it better be the right one. I'm not asking for myself but for someone close who has spent years in therapy without really moving forward and who from my perspective might suffer from OCPD - I know, you said rightfully to be careful not to make a wild diagnosis of other people but read, research, and this is what I'm doing. Just like you say if I am doing this it's because I want the relationship to last, to progress, but also to become less exhausting for the both of us.

[@karineroumache9124]

My gut tells me that the therapist is one who you cannot cheat with. But you probably also know how some with OCPD will not open up spontaneously. So I'm starting to wonder if he cares enough, if he understands he has to dig deeper, of course I'm not there so I don't know what they really do. They see each other every three months. I don't feel any investment or commitment but I don't know who to blame.

[@karineroumache9124]

Thanks for answering by the way :)

[@OCPD_support]

@@karineroumache9124 you're welcome :) Do you mean to say that they see each other in person every three months but that they are having virtual sessions because of COVID or other circumstances? Because once every three months would not be considered therapy in any professional circles. It's kind of you to want to help your friend and it sounds like you are taking the situation very seriously. Yes, a diagnosis can be valuable when it comes to being able to research your own diagnosis and it allows you to seek other types of treatments that people with OCPD have had success with. It's not the most important thing, but it definitely has value. There is so much I would need to know in order to speak about this much more than I already have, but it doesn't sound like it's a great situation. For me, the first thing it would come down to is who is making this once every three months decision? Is it based on schedule, finances, an unwillingness on the patient's part or an unwillingness on the doctor's part?

[@luisangelsanchezolmedo9409]

Can you show an example of rigidity

[@vivianfreitas6179]

I believe I might. One can be rigid, for example, with schedules, times and activities. Like someone who goes for a walk everyday at precisely 5PM and go through the exact same route. I have a set of clothes for each day of the week, and breaking that routine is not an option. One can also be rigid regarding morality. Like being radically against lying, no matter the context. It's basically about seeking perfection through control and order, and flexibility often means divergence from what we consider to be the best attitude or plan.

[@OCPD_support]

Luis Angel Sanchez Olmedo say for example I'm working on a home project. Maybe installing a shelf. And let's say I don't know what I'm doing and someone else tries to show me. I'm going to want to do it my way no matter what. Wrong or right. Being rigid is being inflexible. Not willing to compromise.

[@vivianfreitas6179]

@@OCPD_support That's a very good one, it adds a lot!

[@eenwieleraar]

The mail questions after only for non-OCPD people? Our can I just also ask something (not now maybe in future) .

[@OCPD_support]

eenwieleraar sorry if how I presented the information was confusing. Anyone is free to ask anything they want, now or in the future. So please email me your questions whenever you feel like it.

[@eenwieleraar]

@@OCPD_support could have been me, thanks! Thanks for making all these episodes, your one of the few OCPD resources I could find.

[@nicknorizadeh4336]

Am I the only one who gets muscle tension when letting go of my rigidities? I get it in the face, neck and shoulders

[@OCPD_support]

Nick Zorizadeh I absolutely experience the sort of muscle tension you are talking about. However, I think it might be due to ignoring your rigidities as opposed to letting them go.

[@mport09]

Are you an entp or maybe intp?

[@OCPD_support]

1111 I believe I'm an ENTJ. But I can't say for sure.

[@whifflingtit9240]

Everybody's personalities change over time and under different circumstances, so it seems odd tome that people want to have one definite, strict label with which to identify other people. Nobody is JUST one personality type or the other. A lot of people trick themselves to believing they're just naturally introverted and there's nothing to change, when in a whole heck of a lot of cases the "introversion" is actually untreated mental illness and they could be much happier if they'd let themselves change.

[@mport09]

@@whifflingtit9240 People can develop other functions and adapt behaviors and even significantly change, but at the core everyone is wired with their way of thinking and processing. People with high Fi for example are naturals at feeling out other people.

[@gracemangum]

Well now I'm doubting my ocpd diagnosis. If you can't have ocpd without being rigid then......idk if that's me.

[@OCPD_support]

Grace Mangum where did you receive your diagnosis? And what behaviors/thoughts are you having that led to that diagnosis?

[@whifflingtit9240]

It's very likely that you have rigidities that you don't quite recognize. Everyone has things they're inflexible on. A rigidity will be anything that you have a strong preference for, and that the idea of diverging from that ideal causes you discomfort to the point that you are compelled to reject alternatives, even if they'd be acceptable alternatives. Like food preferences, colors, the type of pen you use, when you do certain tasks, the routes you take to and form different places. Moralistic ideals are a huge point too. As well as superstitious beliefs.