Oh no! Submissive woman in perimenopause!

Whoaaaa.... hot flashes, low libido, gaining weight, brain fog and mood swings are suddenly part of life, and it influences your D/s relationship. How do you deal with that as a submissive, or as a Dom dealing with a perimenopausal sub? that's a challenge. It is my current challenge and in this video I love to share with you about it, including some tips on how to make it bearable lol.
Links from the books: Of course my own book Sex, Truth and Freedom: www.amazon.com...
and the book of Stacy Sims: amzn.to/3P64dBt

[@rachelharbour1695]

Hey Sam, i’m a 60 year-old woman who has been through perimenopause, and now am on the other side of menopause. The great news is theScience on hormone therapy has been increasing at a rapid rate. There are bioidentical hormones, there are herbs, and there are other modalities that you can use to soften the transition through perimenopause and menopause. Please please please, see a naturopath, or a doctor that is trained in women’s hormone treatment. You do not need to go through this kind of suffering and just let your body sort it out. And for the record, my sex drive now is orders of magnitude higher than it was in my 20s and 30s. So there is lots to look forward to! And as a sidenote, I have so much gratitude for your channel. It has been super helpful for me as I stepped into my submissive self in my 50s. Blessings to you!

[@KinkyAssignments]

wow Rachel thank you so much for sharing this! I know it will pass, and I love it that you found help with my channel... I am seeing a homeopath and that makes a lot of difference. I'm totally fine! It's just that I think that when you don't know what's gonna happen, that it can come as a bang and then it's good to have this video out. there is lots of help, but I think it's also ok to realize that sex drive is much lower and that you shoudln't try to push it- not as the sub and not as the dom. And I can't wait until it's back! :D

[@atw98]

I'm going to get my wife to follow your advice. Question. We've been together 27 yrs and my wife's asked me to be her master 24/7 she is 49. I've been dominant sexually for our entire relationship. But I don't know how that looks like in daily life. I'm keen to get information from a sub who may be able to tell me some tips on how to do this outside the bedroom. Thanks in advance.

[@dianneking5348]

I have been menopausal for 3 years. My marster has been wonderful he understands. He gives me assignments that help me . Did have very dark thouths at times so can understand how you are feeling so glad you are able to post again have really missed your posts thank you for taking about this so many women hide how they cope with the menopause it should be talked about more x

[@KinkyAssignments]

ohhh Dianne thank you so much for sharing! I was wondering if it made sense to post, and I realise now that it does. Well... who knows... and yes I definitely hope this started somethig, I totally agree that we should talk about it... hm... I'll think about it...

[@dianneking5348]

Thanks for the answer. I really appreciate it. I can't wait to see more posts from you. I hope posting about the menopause will help you and all your followers who are going through what we are x

[@dianneking5348]

The sex side will come back .me and my master have been in play this weekend 😊

[@theperry9819]

Dear Sam, This must be a hard moment but remember that me and all this little comunity you created will continue supporting you. All this is quite new but, like you said, you will soon realize that it is just a new season of life and there is nothing bad about it. Keep in mind your beautiful relationship with your dom and all the good things you have around, focus on what you have, not what you miss. I wish you the best for next days/years. A big hug from Italy🇮🇹😇

[@KinkyAssignments]

aahh thank you so much!! I am not suffering guys, just sharing what is happening haha. That's the thing with low libido, it's not that I miss sex, it's more that I wonder if I shouldnt want it more:D it's what there is and I'm fine with it... we find our way... hug!

[@anguishanonymous2759]

Happy birthday! This is a topic my aub and I am not dealing with yet (but we're getting there and the years are passing by). I've made it very clear to her from the very early days when we started out power exchange, that yes, sexuality will be a part of it, and we'll enjoy it as much as we can. But if there is supposed to be a future, the D/s dynamic can't stand on sexualioty alone. If that's all that defines you as a Dominant or submissive, then the dynamic will be doomed the moment one partner no longer can perform as before. That can be her getting into menopause, as you described here, but it could also be me, suddenly suffering from severe ED or impotence. Of course, there are many other ways to satisfy your partner, but you get my point, I hope. So the point is, that the power exchange needs to be rooted in something of value throughout your entire life, and only if there's variety, then there's a long-lasting perspective. Jeez, I wish I was 20 again, no doubt. But I also enjoy looking back at how kink was for me 20 years ago, and how much I have learned since then. Each submissive taught me something that benefits me to this day. And as strange as this may sound... the things I value the most from those experiences are not the sexual ones. It was that deep bond that (perhaps) only a Dom and sub can share, and the hard times we've pushed through. The sub stepping up when I wasn't able to lead the relationship. Once you've been there, sex is a nice bonus, but it no longer defines you.

[@KinkyAssignments]

sooooo true what you are saying! Thank you SO much for sharing... I totally agree! And still sex IS a nice bonus haha

[@anguishanonymous2759]

@@KinkyAssignments No doubt about that. The thing is, if the power exchange is on point already aside from the sexual aspects, the kinky fun in the bedroom, if and when it occurs, will just be divine! But I always say, that if you do power exchange 24/7, then it's unlikely to hump each other 24/7. I've yet to see someone who can last that long without any serious medical issues following that. Let's be realistic and say 1-2 hours a day is reasonable. That leaves many more hours the relationship needs to function without any erotic pleasures. So it's wise to have a good mental connection with your partner so that even when there's a dry spell, or life gets in the way, the dynamic can still thrive.

[@christianwesp719]

Hey Sam, Thanks for sharing - this is something that somehow is still a taboo in our society, so good that you are talking about it so openly. I am a men and very interesting video for me to hear. Hold tight, hope it will become better for you again!

[@KinkyAssignments]

Wonderful Christian thank you so much for sharing! I certainly hope this will create more understanding and hopefully something to start good conversations...

[@cindyloomis-torvi3396]

De Sam, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Secondly, the women both sides of my family live to their 100s, so often they start menopause in their late fifties. I am 58. Two things that helps immensely: I had an IUD that had a bit of incorporated hormone relief, as I never had consistent menstruation cycles. If you are able to have one inserted, it might help. Women need birth control until their mid fifties or later. Two, ask your doctor about mental health medications, such as Bupropion which will help you not cycle up and down emotionally, and balance what you are feeling. I have complex auto immune disease and I take Bupropion for another purpose, but that’s been a great addition to not having the symptoms you are experiencing. Low libido: I’m sorry about that. Yes, it’s part of the issue. I have hard sensual massage between both partners helps immensely with this issue.

[@KinkyAssignments]

thank you so much for your tips Cindy! I think there are many ways to deal with it but point is that your life, your body, WILL be different, no matter what you do. And that's ok! It's part of life! I enjoy it tremendously, it's a new phase in my life, I am transferring into the "wise woman" age... and I love it... and to be honest, it also helps so much in discovering totally new ways how to experience dominance and submission. And there is soo much to learn still..

[@TTbelis]

Thanks for sharing, For me as young male dom. It is helpful and giving me so much emphaty to relationship. Im gratful for you discussing menopause/perimenopause.

[@KinkyAssignments]

ah that is so good to hear @ttbelis. Thank you for sharing...

[@Nicoleliestsogerne]

Happy Birthday and thanks for sharing!

[@KinkyAssignments]

Thank you!

[@atw98]

Thanks for your videos. My wife has asked me to be her master 24/7 and control her life. Weve been together 27 years and Ive always been dominant sexually. I just dont know what that looks like outside the bedroom any pointers?

[@francethejoy3754]

I m almost 54 big big libido and i m scare to lost everythings.....😢😢😢😢

[@raehankumar8998]

Hie I am dominant ( not experinced yet ) , I love your videos to educate myself. As I am looking for female submissive there is days of mensturation in a month for every female and there is no specific video or blog or anything realted to how to take care or best ways to take care of your female submissive during that days in D/s power exchange realtionship (24/7). love to have a video on this topic specific in 24/7 power exchange dynamics

[@KinkyAssignments]

Brilliant topic. Thank you for asking. Very caring! I will think about it and come up with a video about it!

[@francethejoy3754]

I m going to have a surgery..... hystérectomy.....ovarectomy the 19 mars.....😢

[@KinkyAssignments]

Hey.... I only see this now!! How are you doing now? How was the surgery and how did it effect your libido? I can't wait till I'm 54 because I heard it's all coming back again, after the hormones circus is over;) (and 54 is 8 years from now by then it should be over. But besides that... not all women get it hard, some hardly experience something, maybe you are one of the lucky ones (they're scarce)

[@dianneking5348]

How are you doing looking forward to more posts

[@macmanmanny3983]

Happy B-day! Je bent zo jong als je je voelt. And you are feeling fine, by the looks of you. Jij eerst, dan de rest. (you do you)

[@KinkyAssignments]

I do feel fine!! THanks you so much:):):)

[@jlord9638]

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