Dinner Party (1945)

Dramatized presentation of proper table etiquette for teenagers, heavy on criticism and guilt.

[@proud2bpagan]

Bob tried to use his salad fork to eat the Baked Alaska served for desert. He was dragged outside, summarily executed,and cannibalized by his peers.

[@Radio_Jingles_55]

Don't be like Bob in 1945, his very life is at stake.

[@miniena7774]

His skeletal remains were used as table pieces at the next gathering.

[@NoName-vq3zo]

😀😃😁

[@2007cgarza]

:P

[@goodshare8565]

🤣

[@Lepord257]

now imagine this commentary running through your head any time you do anything and you know what its like to have anxiety

[@finni-h2x]

Bob developed social anxiety and never left home.

[@JunaidWolf3]

Legends say after developing social anxiety he became so violent that he was sent to a mental hospital and never recovered

[@sabinevandenakker346]

😅😅😅

[@LuisaD93]

🤣

[@tjlovesrachel]

@@JunaidWolf3 he was fine after his partial lobotomy

[@Jackie-dm1ye]

Lol! Yes, he went home and ordered pizza!

[@kenny6643]

The best part about throwing a dinner party now is that no one will know if you’re doing something wrong.

[@JP-ve7or]

The best part about throwing a dinner party now is no one will show up 😕

[@SupremeViola]

In case anyone's wondering: 1. For each opposite-gender pair at a dinner party, the male half seats the female half (something that can be difficult with full skirts to do on one's own). The male counterpart to the hostess ends up taking a long walk to the other end of the table. 2. Napkins are placed folded in half in the lap not tucked into anything. 3. Bob's errors are: eating before everyone has soup, holding the edge of the bowl unnecessarily, and angling his soup spoon towards him while scooping (which is more likely to cause splashing). 4. Floyd could serve either himself or Dorothea first; neither is inherently an etiquette error. Generally, the demonstrated method (the male half serving the female half before serving himself) is preferred for heavy dishes, in which case a less-strong person might struggle to hold the serving platter and serve themselves at the same time. 5. For each course, no one should begin eating until everyone has been served. With the exception of the meat dish or a birthday cake (which are dishes not served by the hostess), the hostess is always served last, hence why she gives the cue to start eating. 6. Relish items will slide under the edge of the soup bowl so they can be difficult to retrieve; if they are on the bread plate, they are easy to access. If there is no bread plate, one can use the dinner plate. 7. Eat around the pit if the olives are large. If small, eat whole and gently spit out the pit into your hand (do not use a fork, as this is likely to end up in pits flying everywhere). Place the pit on the side of your plate. Define "large" and "small" according to your own mouth. 8. Do not break celery before eating; it is loud and unnecessary. It's the host's responsibility to cut into convenient lengths before serving. 9. One can tip the soup bowl to get the last few mouthfuls, but one should not do so before it is necessary. Tipped bowls with too much soup in them are a spill hazard. 10. If the serving platters for the meat course will be left on the table, give everyone moderate servings of each item unless you KNOW a person cannot eat a dish; diners can ask for seconds to be passed later on in the course. Assumptions on how much a particular person would want to eat could be wrong and thus embarrassing. Err on the side of too little per plate; anyone may request seconds, but it gets awkward if there isn't enough left for the last few plates. 11. Salad should be served in a moderate portion with the components in a balanced assortment so everyone gets to taste everything. 12. Unless there's an allergy concern requiring a guest to be served out of the natural order, don't state the name of the person to get a particular plate as it's unnecessary (as stated above, all plates should be filled equally). The server should pass the plates to their neighbors alternating right and left, and each guest passes the plates down the table until there is no one to pass it to who does not already have a plate. The server (as stated before, usually the hostess) serves themselves last. This passing method is part of why unbalanced tables are such a disaster in Victorian novels. 13. It is correct to cut salad with a knife if you can't eat a piece in one bite. This is an extension of the general etiquette rule: your fork should always contain exactly one mouthful that is eaten as one mouthful. 14. Always move butter from the communal plate to the side of your plate with the communal butter knife, then use your own knife to move the butter from plate to food. You may use a fork to mash butter into a potato, and if the potato is baked you may use your fingers to press it open to allow steam to escape. 15. In America then as today, both the "zigzag" and "continental" method are equally-correct options. 16. Germs are unavoidable with blowing out candles, so putting them around the cake does nothing. 17. Generally, helping cut the birthday cake is incorrect, but if the birthday boy/girl is struggling or has physical difficulty serving, it is the hostess's responsibility to assist. If Bob had been able to serve the cake without difficulty, it would have been more correct for Bob to help Betty back to her seat after blowing out the candles (because birthday candles don't last forever) but before cutting the cake. 18. With multiple cake cutting implements, the knife is used to cut it into slices, and the triangular "cake spatula" moves each slice safely to the plate. One may use the knife to stabilize the cake slice on the "cake spatula" so it doesn't fall on the table. 19. Remove candles and any other inedible components on the top or sides of the cake before cutting equal slices; for a multi-tiered cake, treat each layer as its own cake. It is generally best to use the knife and "cake spatula" to lay the slices on their side so they are unlikely to fall off the plate during transfer, but it is not required. 20. The cake forks may be passed on the table, but they may also be placed at each person's setting on the table as the dinner plates are cleared OR may be placed on the table at the beginning of the dinner if there are no more than two other forks required earlier in the dinner. No more than three of any type of utensil per setting should be on the table at any given time to avoid there being too much clutter on the table (the exception being the oyster fork, which is not counted in the fork total and is the only fork to be placed to the right of the plate).

[@firstlysecondly1035]

Wow

[@sharid76]

Excellent, clear, and reasoned explanations of each item. Thanks for sharing. Etiquette rules may seem complicated and tiresome to those who aren't willing to adjust themselves to make things pleasant for everyone, but also employed is a healthy dose of common sense. Things have changed a lot since then, but some basic common sense and respect for others in general always is a pretty good idea.

[@KnitHappens]

Interesting, but just eat!

[@micmac99]

Remind me not to attend your party.

[@sharid76]

@@codekey74 - Since you'd never ever be invited, you really have nothing to worry about on that score, or find out what kind of party it would be. I bet you'd be surprised, but since it's not going to happen, there's nothing for you to be concerned about. And I see too you never learned how to be polite or respectful to your elders, or anyone else for that matter, so your parents have something to answer for on that score. It's a real pity too. Because in order to be respected you must first be respectful - it's not something you can just demand. And don't bother to respond, because I won't be reading it.

[@jfchonors8873]

Watching this at 2am I will never get back to sleep worrying about how to take the pit out of the olive.

[@bethburch8218]

Good thing you can buy them pitted these days; one less thing for Bob to worry about. Geesh, it's "all about Bob".

[@AprilShowers560]

This is the first time Betty has given a dinner party all by herself. **Housekeeper steps in and corrects the table setting** 🤣 Bob, I don’t think it’s ever correct to shove something down the front of your pants during dinner.

[@FirstFallSnow]

Yes, neither shoving things down your pants or removing your pants during a dinner party is proper etiquette. Learned that the hard way :(

[@manuelkong10]

as bob's meth wears off, he becomes a Wreck lol

[@chocoboasylum]

Party rule no.1 : Have fun Party rule no. 2: Mind everything you're doing and worry endlessly about how it makes other people feel

[@christyogle_thedinnerbell]

It's almost like half the people commenting don't understand that a formal dinner party is not the same thing as a casual one with passed dishes or buffet service, let alone the same thing as a family dinner on a Tuesday night.

[@paulengstrom432]

such a formal dinner should have hired help to serve the diners. sheesh.

[@Therese100109]

I don't see how such an occasion could possibly be enjoyable. It's so neurotic in every respect.

[@Chrisoula17]

My mom was 18 in 1945, she was living in Greece and was helping my grandparents rebuild their lives after WW2 ended. Table etiquette was the last thing on her mind.

[@Mike-pj1kv]

Wow. what a train wreck. That napkin was misaligned. And bob didn't pull the chair out right. He ate first. The relish placement will give bob PTSD for years. Wow wow wow. Golly.

[@estherhooker697]

I feel like the point could be that the two who were not paranoid about their etiquette and were confident and focused on having fun were the two who enjoyed themselves the most and looked the most put together.

[@argonwheatbelly637]

Why be paranoid about your etiquette? It's second-nature. I'm never spun up at a function -- well, I no longer attend them, but this was BC.

[@Me-wk3ix]

I think the main thing is to think about everyone's comfort. If everyone does that you'll be in good shape.

[@carolesmith4864]

I want a housekeeper.

[@oldchannel3536]

“There is no denying that Bob needs help.” - 13:27 lmao

[@fembotprincess1]

"A dinner party should be fun"... Says the rule laden, strict to the point of anxiety monotone announcer

[@adamgregory5274]

Accompanied by Liberal quantities of milk

[@lisaherrling6880]

The most popular condiment on this table? Paranoia!

[@Dolxe_luna]

Hahaha yes looks so stressful

[@luisreyes1963]

This needs that dinner music that played in the 3 Stooges short "Termites Of 1938".

[@dmscaine]

Poor Bob, he can't win no matter what does

[@Mr.SLovesTheSacredHeartofJesus]

You need serious help, Lisa Herrling. Go get it ASAP.

[@AprilShowers560]

If Bob is such a disgrace at the dinner table, what the heck are his parents like? Was he raised in a barn?

[@cikotan6994]

Bob was living in 2020 while all of his friends still living in 1945

[@princessj624]

Well, of course. Apparently Ryan Reynolds is either an immortal or a time traveler, I'm not sure which.

[@LaurieEggleston37]

Bob and Betty lived under a rock and then decided to have a fancy birthday party. Bob finally figured out how to cut the cake without help, and "once again, the party was fun."

[@Kelle0284]

Betty left Bob and married Barney.

[@lisadunn4171]

They probably would rather have pizza or hamburgers

[@mikedumas822]

Bob was never invited to another dinner. He opened a chain of successful burger joints which have no dining requirements whatsoever. He became fabulously wealthy and left his previous dining guests entirely out of his will. Though he did manage to leave each a copy of this video.

[@kendallweaver6386]

I was born in 1944, grew up in the 50s and my parents taught us kids simple manners at the table : sit up straight, don't wolf your food, use your napkin, don't talk with your mouth full. ask to be excused when done, praise the flavors, always say thank you to your mother or dad for cooking, and take turns washing the dishes. It was a simple and comforting routine throughout childhood and adolescence. Glad of it! Grandkids carry the tradition today but must be reminded sometimes that media devices must be silenced.

[@carlsenlifeafter60carlsen11]

Me too, I was raised the same way…❤️🇺🇸

[@Mau66634]

It's great to see the family together having lunch together. Today it is very difficult to see this. It's everyone in their own corner...😥😥

[@AlGreenLightThroughGlass]

Meanwhile, on Okinawa, Billy cracks open a K ration with a blood-soaked bayonet - should he have wiped it clean first? Have his squad members noticed the error?

[@2007cgarza]

LMAO!!!

[@Mr.SLovesTheSacredHeartofJesus]

You need some serious help.

[@dianagruver5767]

Omg! 😂

[@valeriebellomo3573]

You're ill. Get help

[@jlex1049]

I LAUGHED TOO DAMN HARD AT THIS.

[@bumblebee4024]

I have only four rules at my table: No belching, no elbows, don’t talk with food in your mouth, & no cell phones. Beyond that, I’m good 🙂

[@deboraholsen2504]

Are you sure?

[@bumblebee4024]

@@deboraholsen2504 - Yep!

[@mikezylstra7514]

I have one rule: Do not serve or order clam chowder! I vomit at the smell of it. Ugh! Puked in a restaurant a couple years ago when 2 people ordered clam chowder. Can't stand the smell of it.

[@jeffkrebs]

The narrator never actually gives the answers to his questions. I'll wait for the sequel to figure out what I am supposed to do.

[@albertj7]

"serving the meat course upset Bob" LMAO. These kids would be taking selfies at the dinner table these days.

[@danalingerfelt7428]

Sadly...

[@michaelcolfin8464]

Why isn't the maid serving the meat course and the salad. The whole meal actually? Didn'y she server the soup?

[@Mau66634]

one important thing they didn't do: pray before the meal 🙏🙏

[@NoCatStrangling]

The place settings were missing whips, for the diners to flagellate themselves for their aggregious breaches of manner.

[@E.L.RipleyAtNostromo]

After the tortured dinner, Bob excused himself to the den and came back with his war trophy rifle. He spared Betty, and post-carnage they sat around naked and ate with their hands...

[@proud2bpagan]

🤣

[@justanotherotaku7081]

Yes, my party would be ruined if one of my guests would place the relish on the wrong plate, HOW DARE THEY! 😂

[@johnbockelie3899]

After the dinner party, " Wow, that was the hardest time I ever had eating anything.,

[@capt.obvious4487]

Ikr

[@indigothecat]

Simple solution to the portioning problem. Ask, "How much would you like?"

[@witchofstonycreek4550]

Wow! The stress to be perfect is palatable. The only thing missing from this dinner is the queen saying, "we are not amused"

[@Zva26]

If MY family behaved like this, I'd think I was in the Twilight Zone!

[@blane6592]

You would be! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@NWinnVR]

_How to give yourself endless anxiety by simply preforming mundane everyday actions._ ftfy

[@rebeccalankford2652]

Mundane, earthly world rather than a heavenly or spiritual one. Enjoyment and gratitude to be able to vs humdrum.

[@watchgoose]

pre- forming?

[@cinerama62]

When we were kids our mother would set the table even for McDonald's.

[@JP-ve7or]

Actually, I wonder what it feels like eating McD off a real plate? I might try this!

[@Mau66634]

one important thing they didn't do: pray before the meal 🙏🙏

[@redwingfan9393]

This is made in 1945, how did Betty get past all of the ration rules?

[@lazyhomebody1356]

Betty is psychotic about her perfect dinner parties...and you really don't want to ask!

[@sharid76]

Since the end of the War, which had first ended in Europe on 15 May 1945, followed by the Japanese surrender in principle and declaration on 15 August 1945, and then followed by the signing of the formal documents of Japanese surrender on 2 September 1945 on the USS Missouri in Tokyo Bay. This put the end of hostilities of WWII, and the end of food rationing in the US, which took place in various categories of food stuffs, depending on its availability. Sugar rationing didn't end in the US until 1947, but most all other types of foods ended by November 1945. The types of foods seen in this video were generally available in quantities sufficient to feed a small dinner party of young people, particularly since the movie was a demonstration, not an adequate amount to feed a large dinner party in a quantity of many hungry adults. Many other nations were STILL dealing with rationing for many years beyond the end of the War. Great Britain, for instance, didn't "go off the ration" completely until 1954. Various types of foods went off rationing at various times - they weren't all rationed completely at the same times. And there were even some categories of food stuffs in the UK that were not rationed during the War, but WERE rationed after the War. Bread was one of them.

[@becpurcell6773]

I was thinking the same thing. Only idea I came up with was maybe there were hints WWII may be coming to an end and so these films were made to remind everyone of etiquette rules once everyone was back home and rationing was a thing of the past?

[@johnegbert8536]

Betty murders all of her dinner guests and takes their rations

[@c.harlotte]

@@johnegbert8536 oh god

[@arshiamishal4278]

No wonder everyone is so skinny, spending all that energy on where to put this and how to pass that!

[@fjtjgaming]

yeah had nothing to do with war or lack of money obviously

[@Steve_1999]

I can totally relate. A couple weeks ago I went to Purim dinner celebration and I kept whispering to everyone at the table about how the napkins were wrinkled up inside the wine glass like it was some decoration, and the butterknife was nowhere to be found... We each had to use our own butterknives. Ugh, what a disaster. My panties have been in a bunch ever since and not to mention my night terrors from it..

[@rainwatcher9114]

Steve H You wear panties?

[@Steve_1999]

@@rainwatcher9114 Of course... Don't you remember you stole all my boxers for sniffing purposes? I have to borrow my gf's panties now. Thanks a lot.

[@Steve_1999]

@Mick Philpott Ahoy there weirdo. I'm guessing you're in a different time zone since most of the crazies come here during the night.

[@algerhiss8142]

A disaster? It’s not as bad as being shoved into a gas chamber.

[@genericname321]

Real enjoyment--that's what a dinner party is for! Then everyone went home and threw up from the stress and anxiety over rules of etiquette.

[@yeldarbarrow3172]

Some barely made it to the shrubbery alongside the house in the front yard....

[@DaRkHoRsE-_-]

Yessss . I still struggle not to bolt my food do I can get away from the table !!! May I be excused?

[@friendly76]

Bernie and Helen were the real MVPs

[@Me-wk3ix]

Phew! Glad that relishgate was handled. That party was almost ruined!

[@kayehartfield9892]

Interesting video, and the comments were the funniest! I enjoyed reading them far more than the party goers seemed to enjoy the party!

[@wendywarrelmann1743]

Are they 14 or 40? Betty most likely started 14, but the amount of stress and anxiety the dinner party caused aged her significantly.

[@comfyoldchair3771]

2021 Dining: Just throw some napkins, paper plates, cups and plastic forks down on the table and don’t worry about it. Although then you have to worry about the landfill. And maybe your guests having Covid.

[@kloop1948]

Oh the horror of zigzag eating!

[@paulengstrom432]

do you prefer the English way, with everything pushed onto the backside of the fork? THAT looks gross.

[@danadoozer9990]

Oh dear, putting the relish on the wrong plate! SCANDALOUS and killing the whole vibe of the dinner! I would rather eat paint chips then attend this dinner!

[@danalingerfelt7428]

This may be excessive, but I wish people had better manners!

[@rollandjoeseph]

4:15 Betty's elbow is on the table, the horror..lol..I used to get a fork in the elbow when I did this growing up🤣

[@ranjapi693]

Thats one of the few table manner etiquettes we learnt, too. No elbows on the table.

[@karenfieker7329]

Dinner party and drinking milk.

[@user-ih6xt8mw7b]

OMG, I know, wtf is the WINE???

[@edlbryant2007]

The housekeeper had to correct Betty. I wish I had a dime for every time my housekeeper saved me from screwing up the napkin placement.

[@yeldarbarrow3172]

Back when a dime actually had a bit of purchasing power!

[@ranjapi693]

You got napkins?

[@proud2bpagan]

less than a minute in,and the housekeeper is already throwing mad shade at Betty's attempts at setting a proper table!

[@billm4330]

Do these rules apply eating on the couch in front of the TV? That's where most American families eat these days.

[@sharid76]

Of course not. If you'd take a second to check out the time frame and the event involved, it would be extremely clear that what happened here has nothing whatever to do with contemporary family life in the 21st century. Especially since it happened about 80+ years ago! Sheesh....😒

[@NoName-vq3zo]

@@laurlicia Great! Now please remove that big broomstick from your nether region, politely and discreetly of course!

[@iamamousee1182]

Not my family, we still eat at the dinner table

[@danalingerfelt7428]

@@iamamousee1182 Good for you!

[@blane6592]

Right…which knife do I use to cut my frozen pizza?!?

[@fizzby.c8938]

Oh Bob you did it again

[@gaborkopena]

Gosh Bob, so many mistakes

[@woofiedog7452]

For holding his knife incorrectly, he's going to be arrested or socially ostracised for the rest of his life. He may as well jump off a cliff. Life is not worth living when you don't know whether to sprinkle pepper or salt on your food first.

[@Me-wk3ix]

Seriously though, I do kind of like the point to just do your best, learn, and don't let small errors in etiquette ruin the event. Also, look around at what others are doing if in doubt.

[@Mau66634]

one important thing they didn't do: pray before the meal 🙏🙏

[@spartaeus]

No wonder I never wanted to come out of my room when my mom had guests over for dinner...

[@momof2momof2]

She has a housekeeper???? She is like a teenager. This film shows so much stress! Basic table manners are fine in most situations. I'm glad things have relaxed some over the years. As far as the food in this film, the salad should have been prepared in the kitchen in bite size pieces. The meat should have been in smaller slices....Looks like Miss housekeeper was lax on her own duties in the prep of the food. Don't serve foods that are awkward to eat like unpitted olives, over sized celery, or other veggies Making your guests and yourself comfortable in all areas is key.

[@sharid76]

"She" doesnt have a housekeeper of her own. The family has a housekeeper - She worked for all of them. It was a very common situation 75 years ago. Most middle class and all upper middle class families had "hired help" in the form of maids, cooks and/or housekeepers in general. Even gardeners, and upper class families usually had chauffeurs. Housekeepers frequently acted as cooks, and food was prepared according to the style of the day. If that meant unpitted olives and full length ribs of celery, and salad that required a little cutting with a fork and a salad knife (Yes, there was a knife just for that then in most silver sets) then so be it. Properly trained adults, aware of etiquette rules, would be able to handle all these things easily. But, becoming that properly trained adult took time and lots of practice. Which started as a youngster. At the time. And since the time was about 75 years ago, and things were very, very different then than they are now, there's absolutely nothing to be concerned with about today's world. I too am glad that things have relaxed a good bit, but sometimes I think that things have relaxed a bit too much. It just bothers me to see things like when my husband and I have taken the time and put out the effort to be clean and decently dressed - just clean, well fitting, and coordinated in style and color, nothing clashing but nothing fancy - to go out to eat in a relatively decent restaurant, and see others coming in to dine in dirty overalls and ripped up T-shirts, dirty jeans, etc., and obviously not bathed since coming out of the garden, or working on the car. It only takes a bath and a change of clothes to be decently dressed.

[@lazyhomebody1356]

@@sharid76 I agree! How someone can go to a restaurant (ant public place, really, but esp a place where people are eating) without making any effort at all--! Miss Manners is correct, in that having good manners indicates your respect for others.

[@zaker721]

The housekeeper outclassed them all.

[@swingman5635]

@@sharid76 Thank you! My wife and I were beginning to think that we were the only people who were concerned about dress and manners when dining out. We frequent fine dining restaurants, mostly,and are disappointed in the number of so-called "comfortably dressed" patrons, that we've seen in recent years.

[@deboraholsen2504]

This was over 75 years ago. Were olives available pitted back then?

[@janinedear-barlow]

I wish they answered all their questions.

[@wendywarrelmann1743]

That's how I felt after the clip finished, too. I mean, IS ZIGZAG EATING OK? Should he of taken an extra helping of the jam? We need to know.

[@paulengstrom432]

@@wendywarrelmann1743 zigzag is fine, and beats shoveling into your mouth like the English do.

[@dprice9985]

this party doesn't sound fun at all. I'd have anxiety through the whole meal

[@Mau66634]

one important thing they didn't do: pray before the meal 🙏🙏

[@user-ih6xt8mw7b]

Where is the WINE..???

[@manxkin]

We had a housekeeper too. Her name was Mom. Looks like they're having loads of fun at this "party". Betty, pick up your spoon already! ...and Bob, putting his celery on the wrong dish! I think I would rather stay home and eat by myself, carefully breaking my celery in half. Doesn't look like they're enjoying each other's company at all. Yikes.

[@maunster3414]

xactly

[@user-pn4pp8hu2u]

Bob's just vibing.

[@bridgebum826]

Such tension!

[@lenisbennett8285]

Don't worry bout what you don't know. Life is a game you learn as you go.

[@dianagruver5767]

It’s actually a “dance”. Great song!

[@FrankietheLawDog]

Housekeeper is judging you....

[@SandraSoapbox]

holy crow, this was supposed to be birthday party? Why is the birthday boy being criticized to death for his table manners?

[@pkmnan00bis]

Wow. Where/when I grew up a formal dinner party was one where we ate pizza and store bought cake while playing Nintendo on the floor in the den ...

[@poetcomic1]

In the middle of this I wanted to yell FOOD FIGHT!!! Like John Belushi in Animal House.

[@janupczak5059]

Etiquette at my family dinner table consisted of saying "Excuse me" when loudly passing gas, instead of blaming it on your brother.😁

[@Kelle0284]

BRRRRRPPPPPPP!!! OH MY BAD.

[@christyogle_thedinnerbell]

A family dinner and a formal dinner party are two completely different things.

[@swingman5635]

@@christyogle_thedinnerbell So true! At a formal dinner,proper clenching of the sphincter muscle, is an absolute must!

[@MsSwwood]

Betty should just relax.

[@adrielcruz4272]

Saundra Waller ...this is why you are probably single.

[@MsSwwood]

@@adrielcruz4272 I'm not single, troll.

[@robertpeter3550]

+Saundra Waller yes you are single! You are a loser! Get a life!

[@mbraendlein]

that dinner party needs some serious alcohol

[@proud2bpagan]

or weed..oohh..chicken pot pie..my 3 favorite things!

[@laurlicia]

Thanks for posting this video. It's clear by some of the comments why our society is brassy, arrogant, aggressive and overbearing. Such disdain for any type of etiquette or living with any type of refinement or class. I, for one, appreciate the reminders.

[@cikotan6994]

The Narrator won't leave Bob alone... Bob just want to eat

[@MiserysFence]

As charming as a lot of 1940s-50s habits and rituals are, I'm glad to see this type of rigid standard fizzle out. If someone loses their shit because the water glass is in the wrong spot, they don't belong in your house.

[@MiserysFence]

@@laurlicia I said nothing about "manners," or about going to the White House, or about visiting the Queen. I do not give even one half of a flying rat's ass if my water glass is in the proper spot, because I find good company and good food to be far more important than what the damn table looks like. And trust my long experience: nothing, but nothing, "breeds contempt" as much as snooty-ass posers.

[@laurlicia]

@@MiserysFence You clearly overreacted to my innocuous reply that was not directed at you, therefore, I have deleted it. I am sad that you misunderstood and decided to personalize my comment, you sound like a very frustrated person. Either way it's none of my concern. Be well.

[@CK-op7ho]

I wish more people practiced etiquette today.

[@capt.obvious4487]

We already have to much social anxiety as it is we do not need to add more.

[@AskALibbieist]

Crippling Anxiety: The Motion Picture

[@moderndaechristine]

Watching this as I stuff a full sheet of nori into my mouth

[@travisjay43]

What a wild party. 🤭

[@deboraholsen2504]

I can’t see teenagers of today, or even when I was a teenager in the 1980s, acting this way when only teenagers are at the table, nor them caring to! Maybe they’d act with such proper manners if either they’d been specifically trained and were practicing for “fun”, or if they were eating with adults.

[@lyndacoles]

Schools don’t help...when I was in school in the UK, back in the 60’s and 70’s, you had 3-course meals, on proper plates, with proper silverware. You had 1 1/2 hours for lunch break, so you had plenty of time to eat and then go and play. There were no packed lunches, you either had a hot meal at school, or you went home for lunch. The dinner ladies would parade around the tables and chastise you if you were talking with your mouth full, or had your elbows on the table. This wasn’t in a ‘posh’ school, just a regular school in a rather poor, slum-part of town where most kids lived in 2-bedroom terraced houses with an outside toilet. Compare to nowadays, where according to my own kids, you get 10 minutes to wolf down junk food served on a plastic ‘prison tray’ with a plastic fork and spoon. My kids were 4 and 9 when we moved fo the USA, and their table manners went downhill from that moment on. We tried to encourage it at home, but they picked up ‘rushed eating habits’ and bad manners from school and it was almost impossible to counteract that influence.

[@AislynMatias]

This stuff is actually really important if you want to not look like an idiot when dining with international people. The narrator is right too, manners are designed to make everyone feel comfortable.

[@tensugarcubes]

are we all gonna be having dinner with the queen? i doubt average europeans have dinner like this

[@Therese100109]

It's definitely comfortable to be worrying about a couple dozen picayune rules while you're trying to enjoy your meal and the company of others. I personally think it's way more rude to make other people uptight than to put a butter knife beside the plate. Geeze, people, perspective!

[@Brap-pl2me]

@@Therese100109 If you learn to eat like a civilized human and not like a cow, then you don’t have to worry about the rules because they are ingrained habits.

[@Lisa59]

If anyone fussed because I didn't fold a napkin on a clean plate, or left the butter knife next to the meat knife, or didn't eat an olive properly, they'd be kicked out of my house and not invited back!

[@deboraholsen2504]

I’ll remember that.

[@Lisa59]

@@deboraholsen2504 Hahahha. but seriously, would you actually fuss? ;)

[@marklauzon186]

Wow....so uptight. I couldnt wait for it to end. All those rules...for what? The pace of the meal seemed to drag. At least if they could have had wine it would have made sense. I never cared for being so pretentious at something so relaxed like eating and enjoying a meal with friends. They lost me at jelly for the rolls at dinner and having to butter your own vegetables. And to be honest,with the exception of the Birthday 🎂, the meal looked pale and uninteresting.

[@johnmarlow5007]

Bob developed a severe duodenal ulcer caused by the stress of the Dinner Party which turned carcinogenic. He died. Betty hung herself in the Garden shed, after being convicted for Crimes Against Humanity. The other members of the Dinner Party were arrested, Beaten and sent to Alcatraz for Dinner Party Etiquette Crimes. Horrific Story.

[@haroldnunezhn]

All that's missing in this dinner party is a guy standing holding a shot gun if anyone dare drop a cramp of bread or spill a drink will get shot what a stressful situation god

[@Yungnrstles]

This must be the peak of human evolution...and after this point we've been on a reverse course ever since. I think this was the day before our grand- parents stopped sleeping in separate twin beds.

[@zethraelofteldrassil3149]

And, when is the fun supposed to begin? Or is that regimented too?

[@ranjapi693]

Its 1945, so I guess that is answer enough..

[@zethraelofteldrassil3149]

@@ranjapi693 That's the answer. Betty is happy her dinner party went so well.

[@jweb2se]

American had no issues with Obeastity back then. Because eating was too darn complicated.

[@deboraholsen2504]

They also had few issues with obesity.

[@ginamcknight8115]

I hate dinner parties! There I said it!

[@twobrokeguyz1214]

Oh my!

[@paintinganimalsonrocks7633]

Gimme a break. No wonder we rebelled in the 60's. 😵

[@NoName-vq3zo]

Thank you and yes! Ugh, this was nightmare inducing but hilarious af!

[@Snuzzled]

Imagine having to worry about if you're eating an olive correctly at a party.

[@bassethound1]

What an ordeal.

[@wendyjones6077]

I must be a hick. I have never eaten anywhere when the host and hostess made your plate for you. It seems a bad idea to me. Passing the plate works just fine for everyone I know.

[@dianaw5100]

My mother raised 14 children, 8 of which were cousins whose mom passed away. One day a neighbour stopped in while we were having dinner. She remarked to my mom that she shouldn't allow her 3yr old to pick up her slice of roast beef with her hand to eat it. That it was 'bad manners'. My mother's response was quiet but to the point. "Fingers were made before spoons". We ate well and we all grew to adults who care about others not getting enough food. Live life, not some bored persons idea of how to be socially acceptable.

[@deboraholsen2504]

Your Mother earned her place in Heaven, I’m sure!

[@dianaw5100]

@@deboraholsen2504 That's very sweet of you to say.

[@davenjahtisan]

Why has no one mention serving pitted olives instead of olives with pits. 😂🤣 Seems like that would of been better etiquette.

[@yeldarbarrow3172]

Perhaps this was in the days before the industrialization and widespread use of mechanized olive pitters.... (jk)

[@codekey74]

WTF???? this is the most uptight bs ive ever seen,these people were insane

[@deborahsojourner6755]

Crap like this is why Rose tried to jump off the titanic's stern. Good manners are important but c'mon

[@Mr.SLovesTheSacredHeartofJesus]

I bet your fun at dinner parties, aren't you?

[@ChrisStargazer]

Bob should just dump the main dish into a trough and let them have at it.

[@bunnyfoofoo9695]

Everyone shuts up when Gramma brings dinner to the table.....lol...

[@haryjockstrap8526]

Or everyone can just take some Valium before they get to the party 🎈

[@cindyoteri1895]

And smoke a joint

[@tjlovesrachel]

Ludes

[@Leafygreen123]

This video stressed me the *#&% out. Should I be worried that I am huddled in a corner, endless questions coursing through my brain? I do, however, feel safe in my way of eating a roll. As it were. So to speak...

[@luvz2reed]

Bob could simply ask if he's using the right fork. So much silent judgement.

[@minecachair]

"there is no denying that Bob needs help...." thanks to this horror meal,Bob developed deipnophobia as did Betty.Mealtimes were spent in their own bedrooms,she silently agonising over whether leaving her cutlery at 3.41 on the plate instead of 3.40 would mean instant social ostracism while he,knowing the only time you're allowed to leave the table to visit the lavatory is just before pudding,wears diapers due to his bladder infection.