PAM | Omeleto

[@pandabrain]

My biggest respect to anyone who even tries to change themselves for the better. Be it obesity, an addiction or just a character flaw. It's always hard to work against your habits.

[@sadiestoltzfus9798]

Overeating is an addiction and easy to maintain everyone needs to eat to survive. I've been overweight all my life. Lack of self control is my problem. It's something you decide on your own when enough is enough like Pam.

[@michelleusher2499]

I am a type 2 diabetic but I have to watch what I eat.. I'm still losing weight slowly.. I fluctuate between 100-105kg, I have gotten down to 101kg

[@nalianalianalia]

If this is so hard, why isn't it so hard for so many others? Or maybe it is equally hard - or easy - also for non-addictrd ones, but it is just that addicted people don't want to find will to change? One more thing: as per psychology, if one is addicted, say, to food, than it is not food that one is craving. It is most often either love (self-love), or self-consciousness, self-attention, or any combination of those three. Psychotherapy will help you. Personally I know only one person who is obese, and this is due to her heart disease and side effects of medications - but I don't live in the US, I've heard it s a huge issue there.

[@sadiestoltzfus9798]

@@nalianalianalia In my case it has nothing to do with my self-perception or lack of love. Do people smoke due to lack of love and affection. It is a habit that is hard to break. The best exercise is walking if I missed a day of not taking a walk I felt a bit off. It was a good habit. Overeating makes me feel lousy but I do it anyway the same as a junkie uses a drug.

[@nalianalianalia]

@@sadiestoltzfus9798 People smoke due to lack of love or affection. The "outer" Reason is because they want to be with someone, they don't want to be alone, and smokers have many chances to meet with others. Nobody likes smoking because it is bitter, makes your throat dry, irritates your tongue and oral cavity and essentially if one looks at children who start to smoke, they hate it - and it makes sense. People smoke afterwards only because they feel advantages they gain by smoking (easing their loneliness) are bigger than disadvantages (bad smell, anxiety, coughing etc).

[@grlygirl1264]

She actually had two toxic trainers. The man, and her mother. Luckily she was strong enough to see how toxic they both were and she made the best decision for herself, and her mother saw the light.

[@aryan7767]

One was being paid and it was their profession, but yes there were 2 toxic influences

[@Luckylukeproduction]

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[@rituparna6133]

I was thinking the same.

[@grlygirl1264]

@@aryan7767 You don't have to be paid to be a trainer. Her mother was training her to accept being obese because she's overweight. Misery loves company.

[@Boxerr54]

Insightful. Nice video. Not preachy, just real.

[@Bombadillio]

That trainer was so demeaning, and then downright creepy. I love how much dignity and quiet strength Pam displayed. The ending, with her and her mom sharing their healthy and “unhealthy” food and then going for a pleasant walk, was such a nice balance. She didn’t need to torture herself or put herself down, she just wanted to start making healthier choices.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for the nice comment! From Writer & Director of Pam

[@jzwalz51robin45]

That is why this is called fiction...

[@oriannastarace2064]

I especially was feeling uncomfortable and angry when he didn't have consent to take revealing pics of Pam, even if it was to show progress. Really it was creating a toxic image on her and it's never ok to push someone past their limits.

[@kt1pl2]

Creepy....good word for him.

[@champion6995]

​@@oriannastarace2064I don't know about that. As my trainer did that too. Although i didn't have to strip down my pants as I was uncomfortable with it

[@Sergio-l7e4g]

Massive respect for the actress, she putting herself out there. Making this type of content cant be easy.

[@vince7735]

What? That's every actor/actress . Their job is to put themselves out there.

[@liv2dreamc.848]

I agree with user, it has to hit her in a personal way because she actually has the issue she's acting out. Usually people acting terminally ill for example aren't.

[@zoyadulzura7490]

Agreed. Overweight people face so much scrutiny and judgment. It was nice to see how in the film she switches her focus from hating on her body to forming healthy habits.

[@jadorekymori]

She's actually a dancer. I believe her name is Lizzy Howell

[@windywhistlesmlp2230]

@@jadorekymori I was wondering if the actress was that same dancer, Lizzy Howell. She reminded me of her

[@DecayedIIX]

To anyone going to the gym, no one’s going to look at you disgustedly because usually when gym ppl see you they honestly feel proud of you because I felt proud of anyone like that. Edit: Yes there might be people who look at you weird or mock you, and joey swoll calls out people for it. Not everyone is always good or bad there are going to be a variety of people with different opinions. Don't let peoples comments or opinions get to you in the gym. Is what i was trying to say. I'm always going to be rooting for you all.

[@Memento_Mori_Morals]

People usually watch me a bit concerned as to any trained eye I'm clearly disabled, I'd say gym peeps are usually nicer and more helpful than other strangers I interact with! 😊

[@borednurse907]

I always get excited inside when I see anyone who’s morbidly obese at the gym. I always think f*cking get it girl/guy! It also motivates me to go harder.

[@Memento_Mori_Morals]

@@borednurse907 yeah not surprising to me hehe. I also feel similar. Bad nutrition and obesity killed my mother.

[@grace09272]

@@borednurse907same with me! secretly cheering them on for putting in the work!

[@mrstiffanyalexandrashain4489]

Any time I see 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 exercising I get SO excited. I’ve had a six pack. I’ve weighed 200 lbs. I’ve had an 8 pack, I’ve weighed 220 lbs, I could run for 15 miles without stopping, I could only do 2 mile walks. I LOVE seeing people just moving their bodies with intention. Health isn’t weight, it’s caring for yourself and gosh it’s beautiful.😊

[@VeretenoVids]

This one hit hard. I'm shocked by the number of people dismissing the trainer and immediately jumping on the weight issue. Yes, her weight is a topic of the film but the greater focus here is the fact that she got the courage to walk away from that awful trainer and continue on her own journey.

[@rappernight9391]

Ikr!

[@rosajimenez7777]

yes, he's a psycho manipulator.

[@Yep123Yep]

In real life she has a medical issue, she needs medication to save her life but it causes weight issues, she's a famous dancer/ballerina

[@scottsmith5623]

God bless that girl…

[@chetbaker83]

@@rappernight9391 what does "Ikr" mean ? 🤔

[@BrownsdragonStudios]

Pam's mother eventually seeing the error of her own ways and joining her daughter to support the weight loss goals was such a heartwarming thing to see.

[@laressa4994]

Taking a before and after picture isn't bad... if that's what SHE wants to do. Taking the picture in her underwear to see every detail of the progress isn't bad... if that's what SHE wants to do. The problem with the trainer is he TOLD her to do things instead of asking. He never asked what HER goals were, he assumed. He never asked if SHE wanted to share her progress in such a vulnerable way as taking before/after.

[@switch1237]

Facts!

[@gemstar7286]

That's why it's clear he had bad intentions .

[@blanchemackey-williams1835]

Right!

[@charlottemadadi]

He used the same manipulation tactic that groomers/s3xual abusers use, to the point I started to wonder if she wasn´t gonna end up finding her pictures in a BBW forum or something (cause guys who wanna be as jacked/lean as possible but behind close doors like big women sure exist)...

[@BluBarbie95]

🤌🏾

[@myfairlahey5738]

It broke my heart when the trainer made her take off her clothes. She just nodded and didn't argue. She was powerless. that was so sad. That's not a trainer. He was a bully.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

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[@Thereal5_1]

I’m confused on how it was a bully

[@SaxyLament]

@@Thereal5_1 My understanding is he was more of a pervert.

[@muskat22]

@@SaxyLament that's more accurate or at least unethical.

[@bethclark9319]

1st. first-class jerk. I couldn't believe the things that were coming out of his mouth and then taking her picture was just awful.

[@rosepetal6345]

I like how her mom gives her support towards the end of the story.

[@trenthammer4127]

i know right? nice touch.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

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[@hollyperrin7353]

Maybe I’m cynical, but that mother did not support her. She even made a nasty comment about the size of her jeans. She was probably fearful that her daughter might leave her.

[@blanchemackey-williams1835]

@@hollyperrin7353 She did in the end. Perhaps she was struggling with her own weight demons.

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

Because her mom was HELPED by her daughter. The mother had issues too. It's where Pam's came from.

[@hoofgripweightlifting6872]

This was moving. I have been a trainer for over 10 years. I once helped a good friend lose 100-lbs in one year. He got so much compliments and it made both of us feel good. I loved this film because in the end it hit the message I always share with others. Gotta have balance. Gotta have realistic goals. Gotta have support from your loved ones. This film was brilliant.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you so much

[@hollyperrin7353]

I love what you have done and I agree with what you have said… and I appreciate that you have helped people instead of judging them. However, I didn’t get the same message from this short film as you did. I saw a lonely mother who did not want her daughter to ever leave her, thus, relegating her to unhealthy habits that would make her unattractive to others. Then, there was the good-hearted trainer that turned out to be a creeper. If I can criticize this lovely short in any way, it would be here. (I accept if it was a cinematic choice, but…). Anyone who is suffering from self-esteem issues and gets a mentor to help them in their goals would be devastated if that mentor was predatory. We don’t see her cry? It’s like a happy ending that her mom un-asses the couch to go for a walk with her daughter for once? I felt like this central character really deserves better.

[@vintageprue8728]

@@hollyperrin7353 mother and daughter co-dependency

[@lauriefaithprescott]

I have a trainer and he calls me a beast because I'm killing every workout he throws at me. Nothing but positivity. Body shaming and hate had no home in my life.

[@vince7735]

@@hollyperrin7353 It's a short film. It's not supposed to capture every emotion. We can imagine she probably did cry.

[@seattlered3018]

I commend the people who are like pam and giving their best to live healthier. It's really hard to do if you live with someone who doesn't support you or keeps an abundance of unhealthy food products around. I was glad to see in this film Pam's mom coming around to join her in her weight loss. Great short film.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you

[@yolandagrabowski6043]

My mom spoke to some woman like Pam's mom about me crash dieting. That woman told me to be happy as I am. Crash dieting was making me feel like I had vertigo. My dad butchered me about my weight. But I was chain eating two lbs of spaghetti in a day. Not anymore.

[@krisblunt6293]

It still broke my heart when she threw that fried chicken away.

[@kathyveltsos4150]

So very true

[@kell_checks_in]

Her mom wasn't joining her in a weight "loss" attempt? Where the hell did you get that? Fatness has nothing to do with food (except that weight "loss" attempts -- and they're all nothing more than attempts -- are great for raising setpoint.) Do you harp that much on food choices when talking to average size people?

[@katierojas8066]

She’s the dancer I always see on Instagram and KZbin. She’s phenomenal

[@homebody61]

Yes, that’s her!!!

[@milk.5216]

omg yes, thank you! I knew I recognized her from somewhere

[@lavenheit]

Yes! She is so amazing.

[@cowgirl_406]

Lizzy or Lizzie I’m not sure

[@pinky-ud1rt]

Yes shes brilliant

[@Kate303x]

When the trainer told her he had his own private gym elsewhere, I knew something was up. He was at that gym to look for someone to manipulate.

[@enyalord3807]

“he wasn’t that toxic” yeah no he was lmfao the first time he approached her was fine but after that he motivated her the wrong way with the whole “dont you want to look like those girls” and even after that he got mad creepy 💀

[@Zoe-tj4ld]

yeah i was confused since he seemed decent at the start then he kept pushing her too much and then telling her to take her clothes off when she clearly felt uncomfortable was the worst part. pushing someone can be good but he went too far.

[@PinkBaphomet]

Ikr

[@z.6480]

The way he was looking at her gave me the creeps

[@Leonidas1014]

The only way he would have known about her wanting to look like "those girls" is if she told him 😑 He reminds her of what she told him, which was probably her motivation (right or wrong), and he is the problem...

[@zoyadulzura7490]

Yup. The guy was a predator, and she had trouble seeing it at first because she was in a vulnerable spot, of hating herself. It's much, much easier to make positive changes when you don't hate yourself.

[@kimmyles444]

This is a great video. It shows the importance of having support in the home. For instance the Mother seems to discount the young girl in the beginning and at the end of the film she embraces the girl’s desires realizing how important Pam’s wishes are on her weight loss journey.

[@andrewhancock2451]

I agree completely. Somebody that matters to you cares about what is important to you and is willing to spend time accompanying you in your journey and in fact sharing the journey with you. Starting out walking in the bright sunlit park is *way* more realistic than someone strung as tight as a wire trying to elbow you on. That works only if your personality is predisposed to that kind of motivation. But for most people I know, even if they can get into such a mind space, it is temporary. Sustainable habits are ones that you are comfortable with and can adhere to even when things aren't so perky. Maybe the trainer wasn't evil or ill-willed -- just that he's for a certain type of person.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

@@andrewhancock2451 Thank you for the nice comments and your viewpoint on my film. I really appreciate it. "It's a marathon"

[@kimmyles444]

@@Luckylukeproduction thank you for taking the time and replying to my comments. Very appreciative and again excellent video.

[@HumanimalChannel]

​@@Luckylukeproduction is the Lead Actress the girl who dances? She's great!

[@allclassallthetime4739]

yes, like essentially saying "that's a YOU problem!" in a demeaning way to someone whose problem is hearing that sort of motivation in the first place is going to benefit anybody.

[@evetko]

Love her smile at 7:15 when she sees hope! ❤️

[@trublu2556]

And Hope Floats even though your boat has holes in it

[@tiffanytrippeer5401]

I was just getting ready to type the same thing 😊. She does have a beautiful smile and all this girl wants is to dance. I hope she goes far in life

[@Transbambidoll]

IK!!! Her smile and dimples are sooooo cute

[@thetaekwondoe3887]

That was the best part. When she saw she had made progress.

[@kizpaws]

I felt so bad for Pam for not wanting to be in a public gym due to her shyness over her weight. Gyms aren't just for the fit people trying to maintain themselves. Gyms are for every body type and no one should be body shaming. Go to the gym to work out, not spectate. Poor Pam, but this story had a very hopeful ending, and I liked that a lot!

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching from writer and director of Pam

[@thehoneyeffect]

You're describing a utopia that does not exist. In reality in the Western world, unfortunately, Gyms are for thin or muscular white people. In real life fatphobia is normalised and there is an expectation that everyone should want to look like the Eurocentric ideal of beauty = thin or muscular. In real life, the main character is a dancer as she is. My take from this film is to have the courage to accept yourself regardless of the fatphobic/ignorant/ creepy/neglectful people and things that you encounter. Do whatever you want to do, if you want to exercise try to find a fat-friendly, woman-friendly, diverse and inclusive gym or class out there. Cherry-pick your circles and cultivate a nourishing community around you.

[@viviannichols3582]

@@thehoneyeffectMost gyms are not exclusive to any “type” of person. (But that can’t necessarily be said of everyone who enters the gym.)

[@MG-ol8hs]

I agree the gym shouldn't be a place for fat shaming but it happens sadly. A bit like how bullying shouldn't happen in schools but it does.

[@bluebellbeatnik4945]

@@viviannichols3582 it is mostly a certain type of person in the gym, though. that's like in the uk when they say 'pubs are not for white men' - yeh but it's only white men in pubs. it means walking into them can be uncomfortable and you WILL stand out.

[@Amr_Cinema]

I love how she made a change and took both extreme opinions her mothers and her coaches opinion and adjust them to build the right attitude

[@sarahmccollum3694]

I have grown quite fond of the actress 'Pam'. She really has talent and i mean that. With her amazing dancing skills as well, this girl is going to impress and inspire many! Bravo.

[@seasun7745]

There is another short film with her as a protagonist in which she is an excellent dancer. Believe it or not, she actually flies through the air with great agility. The performance where she does this is the 'punch line' to the film after most people at the academy make fun at her. She turned out to be the best and knocked them dead.

[@nataliezementbeisser1492]

everybody who goes to the gym deserves respect!

[@HARBHAJANSINGH-zy1wx]

You chubby

[@yankee2666]

“If You’re Overweight, it’s YOUR Fault,” is the name of a little weight loss journal on Amazon.

[@That_Christian_Girl1214]

Or just works out lol

[@coolbluelights]

you don't have to go to a gym to get fit. i'm not overweight and I still get self conscious and don't want people looking at me while I work out. I do it at home.

[@laurad1487]

Any time someone says, like her coach did, "Just trust me," I don't.

[@nicholasderemi8493]

2 years ago I decided to start PT sessions. I was about 185 lbs (84 kgs), 5,9 ft (180 cm). The PT guy was so friendly the first day. After the second session, he started criticising the way I look. The fact that I had body fat excess. He even compared me loudly to other guys in the gym. He started say phrases like "Man should not have fat here and there. What are you, a woman?". What he did is to keep reminding me of all insecurities I had and brought it to the surface. He made me hate my body. 2 years after I found a PT that respects me. He encourages me to keep up and it works so nice and smooth. Be careful you PTs out there. People trust you literally with the souls. Be gentle and empathetic. THEN you will be proud of you work.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for sharing! Writer & Director of Pam

[@zoyadulzura7490]

What an awful person. Glad you found someone who is supportive. No one should be made to hate themselves, whatever size. Change is hard, and it's harder when you're treated like that.

[@adamamaya1541]

That's awful I'm so sorry I am a PT and I always stress the importance of my clients having a healthy relationship with food and their body. It's so important for everyone new to the gym to have a positive experience with it. I'm glad you found a great pt who respect you, keep up the awesome work man!

[@JacquelineRosenthal-km7mx]

I know the filmmaker personally and not only is he incredibly talented but he is one of the kinder people you will meet.

[@mapleext]

That makes sense. It’s a sensitive and realistic film. It was so hard seeing her being basically shamed by that trainer. I’m glad she made this film. I also have seen her dancing.

[@paula_bessfren]

Another big production Lizzy Howell is in. She's doing really well. I wish her the best for the rest of her career. Literally I see her EVERYWHERE. She's an amazing dancer aswell.

[@qxy7440]

Yes!!!!

[@kootenayjoel]

I loved this short movie. That girl is so strong and inspiring, and I love how her Mom came to understand in the end and support her.

[@annestell1765]

Big respect for 'making a change' as a short film for those with obesity. How much better it is with two people genuinely supporting eachother which goes for so many things. I often see groups of two women doing fast walks early mornings to overcome weight gained and you see the improvements both mentally and physically. Hope this film inspires and helps friends and family support others doing this.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you all for watching! Please share and like!

[@gaelsdottir5046]

"To exist in a shape not honored by society". What a wise, kind, and true way of putting it. This phrase brought tears to my eyes, because of the love that shows through it. The bravery of both actresses did as well. Kudos to them, to Luke Harris, and to all involved.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you so much for the kind words 💫

[@LiftingwithCate]

As a trainer this makes me so mad. Any trainer that makes there client this uncomfortable and is this unprofessional needs to be fired immediately. I have never once taken before and after pictures of my clients .

[@Alabanza.Musicversity]

You are what you consume - and that’s not only what you eat, but your thoughts and what you see. Her battle was not with food as much as it was a toxic environment as many of us have experienced in our families. So glad she made the first step in recognizing that something was wrong, trying to address it and being un afraid to rebel against it for her own self preservation. In the end just her persistence paid off with her mom gradually being won over. Lovely story!

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching - Writer & Director of Pam

[@johnnybongo5077]

That toxic trainer is an example of how some try to do the right thing, but go about it all wrong. He was hurting Pam more than he was helping. Her mother wasn't any better, either. But, losing enough weight to fit into her jeans taught Pam that she can accomplish something if she works at it and is patient.

[@krisblunt6293]

I still don't see how the trainer was all that bad.

[@NiaG34]

@@krisblunt6293 Pushing her to go hard when she’s just starting out is not good and a personal trainer should know that. Work smart not hard. Progress is progress and she didn’t need to overwork herself. Also she did not need to take off her clothes for before and after photos. It should be a choice of her own.

[@krisblunt6293]

@@NiaG34 It's that progressive, "everyone gets a trophy" mentality that is weakening our youth. Fat is the enemy and you are supposed to mercilessly meet your enemy head on. I was a trainer and clients appreciated my harshness because they knew it wasn't towards them, it was towards the fat they were carrying. If they wanted to be coddled I could accommodate, but it would take longer and my prices weren't gonna change. As far as the underwear thing, the story didn't go deep enough to make a call on that. All she had to do was say, "no". That part left a lot of unanswered questions. Was he a pervert or did he feel like he absolutely had to see all her curves? He still took the pics. So, what did he do with them? I don't think the short villainized the trainer enough if that's how he was to be portrayed.

[@NiaG34]

@@krisblunt6293 Regardless, that type of training leads to gaining back the weight and them not wanting to work out in the long term. And maybe he wasn’t a perv but it’s still weird to ask someone of that when it’s not only Unnecessary but she looks uncomfortable. Read body language.

[@Anna-MariaOttchitch]

@@krisblunt6293 because you're not a woman

[@zyrosqrd2552]

As an endocrine specialist, treating diabetes and thyroid issues and related obesity, people ask me what's the best exercise; my answer is always the same: "the one that you do". If there is no positive association and feeling of well-being with the activity itself, a person won't continue. Feeling the difference between moving your body versus being sedentary is the only motivation to keep moving. Same with eating habits, identifying healthier options that fit the person's palate, slowing down to feel the difference between how your guts feel after a moderate meal versus a large meal or binge of more food than your guts can process. The only person you can compare yourself with is yourself, to get any benefit from comparison.

[@Petsura]

This comment meant a lot to me. I have Ehlers-Danlos and I can't exercise like I did before. But I try to move at the best to my ability, its not much but it's something.

[@fredie820]

I've lost 100lbs in my lifetime and I would say the most devistating reality shocking I ever faced was how I realized that my weightloss alone wasn't going to solve all of my problems.

[@lvelez1999]

Yea. True. I've learned that weight gain and over eating are only symptoms of a much deeper problem, too often.

[@NiaG34]

I knew weightloss wasn’t going to solve all my problems before I lost 75lbs so that’s why I learned loving myself at my biggest weight so I wouldn’t be so disappointed later.

[@browniepoints5227]

Yeah but at least people treat you better and you get more job opportunities it’s all about appearance idc what anyone says

[@xra.kam01]

How i need to lose the exactly same amount to be average I'm obese

[@kell_checks_in]

And it's a year later so you've gained back about 60 lbs. and counting, right?

[@WeggieQueen2005]

The hell I went through as a child for my weight. I look back at pictures and I was strong, athletic and muscular. I was taller than most of the girls and got my period sooner. And I'm 53 now and the shame, self hatred, self loathing, anger, fear, a failure...the fing list goes on. But I now know it was all the adults in my family with an obsession of weight, calories and...damn I'm getting some PTSD right now.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for sharing.

[@PrachiSinha-tr7dj]

Same here...still facing it daily..

[@WeggieQueen2005]

@@PrachiSinha-tr7dj You look in that mirror and you take care of that little girl still inside you. You are worthy to take up space on this planet and dont' ever forget it.

[@marcellaoreilly2730]

You’ve nipped it in the bud. People need to focus on strength and feeling powerful rather than what size they are. As long as you feel good that’s really all that matters xxx

[@thehoneyeffect]

I believe that many if not most women and femmes who grew up being deemed 'fat' have PTSD as adults. Hugs to you all, I'm glad you stayed on earth with us ❤

[@Trypyyyy]

I used to work at a gym (as a receptionist) and when i used to see this client who was obese consistently attend and just made the best transformation we've ever seen, we were super proud. We were rooting for them the whole way through and we got insoired to do more. Saying this, I met a lot and I mean a looot of toxic trainers who mocked their clients and people who came into the gym. My advice, just do you! Focus on your goal and nothing else and if you meet someone toxic, make them aware you will not have any off it.

[@skinwalker3953]

as a patient for most of our life, we never really thought about just how intrusive some settings can go, regardless of professionalism. it is within reality that there are people that mean well - but the execution is ... detrimental. self image is no joke, there is no greater enemy than one's own mind full of doubt.

[@amyhamilton8304]

I would like to see this actress, Lizzy Powell, in additional roles. I was deeply impressed by her emotive skills.

[@davidcanatella4279]

The Pam character is such a sweet girl. How can anyone be unkind to her? I totally love the ending! Fantastic

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching! Writer and Director of Pam

[@allclassallthetime4739]

yes, I'd be friends with her in a snap and have her back. at least suffering to those who maturely endure it brings out the good inside and in turn the person influenced will do the same to another one day.

[@ooops4064]

The fact the she even changed and wanted to change in the first place at first with zero motivation, zero help from her mom, and a toxic workout environment is just amazing. Go off Pam !! So glad her mom turned around at the end as well.

[@AB-pp1wx]

Brave actress! Vulnerable and relatable! Very glad the filmmaker didn't disrespect her in the same way as the trainer. By revealing to us the viewer her body as the pix were being taken!!!!

[@vintage1950]

Love my personal trainer. I went to to 21 stones and he’s been fantastic. It was not about losing weight, it was about my goals. Now down to 13.12st and the clients at the gym have been amazing. Love this short.

[@WeedMIC]

Awesome

[@lastmanstanding2622]

👍

[@sarahthomas7452]

Most trainers never had to experience obesity and don't know what it feels like. They don't have empathy and think it is easy. I love this short film it is very inspiring.

[@augiedoggie1820]

This film is so powerful. I know exactly how she is feeling. I ended up losing about 70 pounds. I have always been overweight. I just went to the gym by myself and just started moving my body. Little by little, not too much overdoing it. I just 'adjusted' my eating habits. I didn't want to be unrealistic and just radically change my diet. I love that moment when she was able to button her pants. I know exactly what that feels like. It feels like you're conquering something and it inspires you to go on. Kudos to all involved and to all watching. Great job!

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you so much! From writer & director of Pam

[@troubletime8684]

If I saw this young lady at my gym I would have to befriend her and support her 💪🏻😊

[@FrostSoul-qs6kq]

Hah that's actually good advice . "Weight loss is a Marathon , Not a sprint"

[@irrevenant3]

It is. And did you notice the hypocrisy? He told her that weight loss is a marathon not a sprint (good advice) then had her run at intensities she clearly wasn't ready for and could potentially even injure her at her weight.

[@ilyulia_]

​@@irrevenant3running can actually be quite dangerous when you're obese. the pressure on the knees is insane and puts one at high risk of injury, immobilizing you and making weight loss harder. walking is definitely safer, slow and steady wins the race

[@thewhiterabbit7402]

This hurt my soul. I just wanted to give her a big hug

[@pinky-ud1rt]

Me too x

[@benjamingoldstein9156]

I think that she wouldn't have gone to the toxic trainer if her mom had been like, "you're beautiful, but if you are concerned about your health I'll support it."

[@sidneyboo9704]

Proud of Pam and the mom at the end. I absolutely loved how the mom shut off her TV and to sit by Pam. Such a strong signal right there. Great clip. Wish there was more.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you! From writer and director of Pam

[@brooklyngal6334]

I love how timeless the production was. I felt like this could've been me as a teen in the 90s, with magazines of 80s/90s supermodels and actresses taped around for 'inspiration,' The old school TV. The show featuring slim girls having a blast seemed very early 2000's. Then they whipped out the current day cell phones later. The attention to detail, Pam's depression, and messy room were so on point. I love how Pam and her mom came to an understanding at the end. If there's anyone you'd want to have on your side, it's your mother or family.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for the nice comment from the Director and writer of Pam :)

[@seatherny_y]

The fact my man approached nicely and then turned toxic is crazy 😭, but to be fair, personal trainers usually are very harsh.

[@Kristie27]

That male trainer had his heart in the right place but he was being overstepping boundaries by making her strip down to her underwear so he could see her progress. Instead he was pointing out every little “flaw” she had. I’m glad she found some balance with her mother.

[@quinnethyy]

one of THE best short films i have ever seen. it covers a topic that millions, if not, hundreds of millions of men and women, of all ages, struggle with. self image. weight. bodies. sometimes it does hurt to even look at yourself in the mirror. thank you, omeleto, for capturing a normal, ordinary problem that MANY different people face every day of their lives.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Wow what a nice comment ❤❤ from the writer & director

[@beckymitchell6363]

This reminds me of the people in my teens when I was struggling with my weight and obesity. The most frustrating thing was it seemed like dieting and exercise helped some, but I noticed I had to work and sacrifice harder than most to get similar results. In my early 20s I found out I have a hormone problem, as well as vitamin deficiencies from the crazy diets. With the medication I needed, combined with the efforts I was already making through diet and exercise the weight came off. And I finally felt like I had a fair chance like others. Now that I'm in my 40s, some of it came back. But it's just a few vanity pounds, and I'm not worried about that. I'm happy with myself and so is the man in my life. I still workout and eat healthy, and in good health. Even after all these years, I still feel rage at the people who were so ignorant and cruel to me then. They were always blaming me. I'm surprised they didn't accuse me of having bootleg snacks in the closet, that was their attitude pretty much. When I found out what was wrong, all the sudden they didn't have anything to say.

[@yiea5754]

Those kind of people will always tear you down but be kind to your face, to lure you to their wolf pecking order. They're insecure & jealous bc if you can't handle failure, you can't handle success or failure. Not that weight or stubborn eyes bc of never eating in my case, is failure. But that's just those types of ppl. They are afraid of they'd weight then see your confident & bully you. Today they're probably been in your shoes after they passed their 20s, but can never have the grace to admit they were jerks. You are way above them, & you are above such people. I hope you never stop for those ppl again, you don't have to stop for every dog that barks

[@stephenwalker5253]

This is very moving, it also shows what people should be helped with instead of influencers promoting people who are overweight and calling it healthy, really well done. Kudos to Lizzy Howell for playing this part.

[@coolpapaspizzeriagamer]

Omg Ik her! I always see her on KZbin short. One time I showed her videos to my mother who was a ballerina, and she said that her moves where so graceful and her turns were mesmerising!!

[@Brooklynlife1000]

She decided to make a change for her health she gravitated toward someone she thought would be a healthy solution, someone to guide her and realized very soon after he is toxic and quite abusive! The way he treated her was dehumanizing , but it didn't stop her! She continued on her path of positivity looking out for her health and making that change and even tried to take her mom with her though her mother was very toxic and wanted her to stay in that unhealthy place with her . The daughter is going to try to help her help mom anyway.

[@aiydazra]

I love the ending. I've lost 30kg+ within 1.5 years and still trying to loose a bit more. I didn't go to the gym, I just went for a walk at the nearby lake, enjoying the nature. And watching what I eat everyday, while still enjoying my food. There's no shortcut really, just enjoy the journey. 💗

[@abhilashachoudhary7249]

Exactly. I also lost 9 kg weight without any gym. Just minimal exercises and avoiding junk food. I still enjoyed my favourite food now and then. I wasn't on a strict diet ever. It did work out without any hassle.

[@drumsalive]

Sometimes it’s just about moving at first x

[@seitanbeatsyourmeat666]

Diet is the key, good job

[@That_Christian_Girl1214]

Slayyyyy

[@KoiAi_]

I love seeing Lizzy, she's an incredible dancer and person all around. This was a hard hitting short.

[@jennifer7648]

That's who I thought this was, I love her she is AMAZING!!!

[@KoiAi_]

@@jennifer7648 ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I hope she gets all she dreams of

[@chocolatety130]

I'm extremely impressed with Pam. Change is never easy, and it doesn't happen overnight. Mom was right about one thing...She is beautiful

[@Tamingsouls]

This is the second time I have watched this movie. Treating any type of addiction requires harsh self-determination...Like he said, "It's a marathon." I was so relieved to see her mom tagging along this new journey towards health and embracing life! The before pictures are a great implementation of facing your fears, recognizing the issue closely, and trusting those who really want help!

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you! From director and writer

[@intangiblyeternal]

As someone with a very emotionally unavailable and codependent mother, who I have completely cut contact with, I started crying as soon as Pam's mother turned off the TV at the end. All I've ever wanted was to genuinely connect with my family members, in a healthy way, and to feel supported and loved by them. And seeing Pam's mom join her at the table, share food with her, and take a walk with her just broke me. In the best way. Thank you.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Aww I love this comment Thank you so much! From the writer & Director of Pam

[@Ella_Propella]

Same with me. I broke with my mother because she didn't care at all and wanted me to be as unhappy as she is. This mother didn't like any change in her life, even while watching her daughter getting more and more unhappy. In the end she feared loosing her and changed her mind. My mother never had any fear of loosing me, because she never bonded with her children. There was nothing between us.

[@littlemontanalady]

it's so hard to know what healthy boundaries look like when you don't have any self worth. This really showcased that.

[@hcutter]

Her mother caused how she became but together they can change their path more than any trainer ever could.

[@Catherinzsl]

Nice film - well done - and I'm really glad it ended before things got any creepier with the sketchy trainer. 👀

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you

[@agreedydragon]

Yeah the guy seemed to be pouching people by going to other gyms and convince them to go to his private (empty) gym.

[@muhammadirham9345]

of all these short films that make me touched, the actors are amazingly natural in their roles. best short movie👍👍

[@HappyChildlessMindset]

For everybody who's out there changing their lifestile (weight, confidence, mental health, etc.) NEVER be ashamed of who you a currently being, the important thing is to forgive yourself and start! I became a gym rat and I can assure you we don't look if you are fat, skynni, or whatever. At first we see someone new (we are often the same ones day after day) and after a while we see the commitment you have, and we see our commitment to ourselves in you. Please, don't think all trainers are like that, and if you encounter one, just change that person, not yourself. Just like Pam did :D Be careful with the food, it isn't healthy either for you to just eat fruits and vegetables, DON'T starve yourself. I'm happy Pam's mom could stop being toxic too. Change isn't always easy but it's worthy for the ones you love and/or yourself.

[@swetajh9008]

Going to the gym isn't easy, the people there judge you and make fun of you. Trainers don't want to help unless you keep them as personal ones. But I have so much respect for everyone who is working on themselves. You guys are angels. May God bless.

[@Flyingwithoutmings]

People at gyms definitely don’t make fun of you

[@Rosa-c2t]

No one judges , ignore whatever bothers you and keep working out ❤

[@glen7228]

That poor girl, I'm glad she realized that guy was not the way to go, at least not for her.

[@vble2337]

If the trainer didn’t push her she would’ve ended up right back where she was before. No pain, no gain.

[@yukononun]

@@vble2337It's not one size fits all. Obviously he was completely incompatible for her and what she needed.

[@nalianalianalia]

@@yukononun yeah, but the problem is that she came back to her toxic mother who is certainly much worse for her than this clueless trainer. So she ended much worse now than with the trainer

[@ThatBlackGirlMagic]

@N K Her mom was lashing out bc of her own insecurities (not saying it was the right move) and the two making a change for the better, walking together to help their health was a beautiful moment.

[@Zoe-tj4ld]

@@vble2337 pushing someone can definetly help some people but he went too far, if you make someone work too hard then it can scare them away. ive recently started going to the gym and if i feel too tired or really dont feel like going i wont, i do enjoy going though but if i make myself go when i dont feel like it or try too hard it might make me not wanna go at all.

[@ReviewBoard-uy5nv]

What performances. Great raw acting. Lizzy Howell as Pam & Lori Wilson as her mother were phenomenal

[@yashvimalik1735]

beautifully made video capturing a moving story ! i could feel the emotions in the scene when the trainer was taking the pictures and how each time pam took a pause and each time the flash went off stirred anger as well as sadness in me. most of all i loved the ending , with the mom supporting pam and both taking walks. it gave out a sense of hope and peace . loved it !!!

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for the kind words on my short film!

[@heathercrumpler5353]

Mom wasn’t being toxic. When she saw her daughter eating a fruit bowl, she sat down next to her. They shared both dinners. Then, they both started to walk together for exercise.

[@leah-michelle5872]

It was the mother who was toxic, but she came around. The trainer was a full blown pervert.

[@SuperCHERISHED]

This was a great short film overflowing with authenticity. Weight loss is a moment by moment process. We have to make the best choice one moment at a time. There is no easy fix. Changing the mind and unhealthy habits are required moment by moment. Many people appreciate the before pictures to compare at the end of the weight loss journey. I appreciated the young lady fighting the sabotage from love ones. It was beautiful to see her mother make healthy changes. The actors did a super job.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you

[@homecoming_maniac]

shes honestly such a good actor

[@DanL604]

That trainer had no charisma or empathy. No way can a trainer with that type of personality make enough to open his own gym and on top of that he was creepy AF. You don’t make clients take before/after photos unless they feel comfortable doing it let alone asking them to strip down and take a picture like a creepy photo session. I pray there is no trainer like this out there.

[@rachellesawyer6523]

I believe this actress is also a ballerina in real life - Great job Lizzy Howell powerful acting - I found this moving and I relate I hate the whole before and after photo culture it is so toxic and harmful and not a useful metric at all Thank you to the whole team who produced this film it means a lot to me - My favourite scenes are when she doesn't return the trainers phone call/drops him and with her Mum at the end at the table sharing food - Lizzy Howell though I haven't met you I think you are so sweet and though we haven't met you have had a positive impact on me and moved me on the inside so thank you so much from AUS

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for such a nice comment! From the writer and director of Pam

[@rogersmith7525]

We all start from somewhere, nobody jumps out of the womb perfect. At least she is trying for the better instead of just eating her life away at her house

[@lvelez1999]

Yep. Only God, is Perfect ✝️

[@eugeneel1]

Getting to be morbidly obese is not a "start". It takes time an a huge number of aweful decisions.@@lvelez1999

[@daryapeppo2359]

Some people are overweight not because of unhealthy lifestyle, but for different reasons, hormonal issues, physical trauma or stress. I am glad to see her acting, I know this girl is a dancer and her condition is not because of her lifestyle.

[@pandaamachine]

Putting on an item of clothing you couldn’t before…I know that feeling. It’s the biggest trophy

[@R3cce]

You don’t choose to be overweight. Food can very addictive, trust me. It’s like drug or alcohol addiction. You can’t just quit out of nowhere. You need the motivation or get professional help when required.

[@laudmit]

She needs a trainer to understand HER and work with her individual needs. And do so on her own terms. Hope she gets to where she really wants to be.

[@kaylagray6191]

It seems so many of these comments are focusing on the weight loss aspect instead of the main issue at hand which is the abusive trainer taking advantage of an insecure person

[@veyuki]

hes not taking advantage of her. thats what its like losing weight in the gym i dont see a problem

[@aram00001]

he's not taking advantage of her he's just rude and doesn't know what he's doing

[@veyuki]

@@aram00001 how was he rude. you want him to let her limit herself? you need to be harsh and push yourself

[@agreedydragon]

Agreed

[@Im_Nier]

I think the trainer is BEYOND creepy personally.

[@lastmanstanding2622]

I wish this film would fast forward 6-months so we can see and cheer on her results. Much respect.

[@jimbopaw]

I lost a lot of weight when I got rid of toxic people in my life. I was stress eating over years and that's how I picked up the weight. Then I started jogging, became fit and lost even more weight. None of it was thanks to a toxic trainer telling me that "this exercise is not suitable for my type" or that I should workout more and be less lazy, etc. All you need is motivation to keep going and self-forgiveness for the setbacks.

[@caroh3158]

I didn’t know Lizzie Howell was an actress too. She’s such an amazing dancer , so much talent 🎉

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching! Director and writer of Pam

[@jimflask1164]

Anyone out there struggling, keep it up.. Once you see progress, enjoy it. Get excited. Set a goal to beat it. Let people in and it becomes easier to stick to it. If they flake out switch it up, stay motivated. Making it your hobby and you'll end up meeting other people doing the same thing. When you go from "my pants are to tight" to "I need a belt". It's a great feeling.

[@Fidi987]

I would not set the goal on weight or a certain way to look, but on progress. Five squats the first week, 7 the second week, 10 the third week etc. Always going in small increments and steady e every day, until you make it a habit. Always increase when the former set seems too easy. Most first graders would be discouraged if you presented them with a college entry chemistry textbook and said "after 12 years of learning, you will understand this". But we don't do this, we more one small step to the next. But often, when we do things on our own, we try to move first to 200th step, fail multiple times and are then discouraged.

[@donmiller2908]

@@Fidi987 - I agree, and I've found that what really works above number of reps and calories counted is consistency. Every day, day in and day out and you're guaranteed results.

[@jimflask1164]

@@Fidi987 Yeah, I mean like if you see you lost 2 lbs for the month. Try to lose more the next month. The amount of weight does not matter, heavy weight is for big muscle. light weight with a lot of reps builds tone and definition. The most important thing is to just keep moving whether its a jump rope, a ball, or nothing at all. These days I only use my own body weight.

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

I thought this was gonna go in SUCH a different direction. When he said he had his own private gym off the highway I thought he was a serial killer & was gonna kill her I watch way too much true crime 😂

[@katelynnbailey15]

Lmaoo same guess not wrong genre ig

[@hustle2muscle]

As a former personal trainer, we gotta be ultra careful. I always kept it respectful, especially with women. If they don’t feel comfortable with something, never force them.

[@hannahfoltz399]

So glad she got a positive support system at the end.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching - Writer & Director of Pam

[@annabelleroma2336]

What a powerful film! The struggle is real, whether it be weight or some other aspect of life we are striving to control in a positive way. Trying to change one's mindset is the major part of any battle. Beautifully filmed with stellar acting. ❤ 🎉

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you! From the writer and director of Pam

[@AntonioAlves-wm8ie]

What I like about Pam that she is hungry spiritual and wants to change . I’m so proud of Pam and millions and millions of men and women who wants to change , not for others but for themselves and they can be future role models to help others . I’m myself a vegan for 26 years and 55 years old and I never Ben overweight , but Pam you are a wonderful wonderful being and listening to her goals and taking actions . You are an example of a winner Pam 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🥲

[@mizzteareacts9397]

I’m so glad her mom started supporting her at the end and walking with her. ❤

[@tanayamohanty3058]

Lizzy is so talented. I had no idea she’s acted in this. Much love you her ❤

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching!

[@philomath5984]

Pam's happiness at the end is infectious ❤.

[@zippydodahquirk9039]

Man I can relate to this, always getting exploited.

[@scottjohnson6455]

Congratulations to the actor who played Pam. A tough role to accept but an important message.

[@MegaHellzero]

Had a friend whose whole family was overweight mom, dad siblings. She was working out and loosing weight but her family was giving her such a hard time about it. Her brother who's a fat creep, told her if she thinks she's better then them. With no family support she got back to her old habits i hope she's ok and doing well

[@mardigrasqueenofthesouth8847]

i so respect her, she could be sitting on the sofa eating chips and she is exercising, amazing!!

[@neurocosm]

She didn't need a trainer so much as she needed her mom.

[@grace09272]

to anyone watching this that is anxious about going, don’t be, ik it can be a bit nervous, but if you are overweight or obese, there’s a very small likley that anyone will comment on you, most will just have a quick glance and be proud of you, i always am proud of anyone who comes to the gym trying to better themselves.

[@Luckylukeproduction]

Thank you for watching! From writer & director of Pam