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@okaygworl26 күн бұрын
This was good! I don’t disagree with a lot of well-off men being toxic & narcissistic, but I’ve experienced a lot of poor men being this as well 😭
@barbwiretwinkie26 күн бұрын
FELT. It's a matter of choose your hard, ig.
@samkeefer719326 күн бұрын
True! Patriarchy is to blame
@Bullet-Magnet24 күн бұрын
The well off ones are just subtle.
@dlc247921 күн бұрын
Exactly, both rich and poor men have the capacity to abuse and unfortunately both groups do so at an alarming rate. There are reasons to not date transactionally but this argument isn't one of them.
@deadcell120 күн бұрын
You are right, men are the only people in the world who are narcissistic and abusive. Women are angels and capable of no wrong.
@user-do1qf8rm7b25 күн бұрын
I can’t have a kid with someone I wouldn’t marry.
@Myraisins120 күн бұрын
Agreed. Luckily "single mother by choice" is available. Luckily egg or embryo freezing is available today. Luckily we live in a different era.
@mindset_olympics22 күн бұрын
Same only with my husband ❤ or else I’ll adopt
@rdkirk383424 күн бұрын
If a person happens to find a mate outside their race as a serendipitous matter of common circles and interests, that's one thing. But when a person seeks to marry outside their race because "the men of my race are all bad" or "the women of my race are all bad," that's emotional damage that they're just foisting on someone who isn't also damaged.
@MsCouve21 күн бұрын
And the conversation has been had …hence more White/Asian women becoming single mothers
@kevinc334221 күн бұрын
@@MsCouve WW and AW are irresponsible with their wombs. Got it.
@melinated249720 күн бұрын
People who do that are setting themselves and the people they wind up with for disappointment.
@ohanaohana884419 күн бұрын
No, that's using your common sense. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
@catmouse288214 күн бұрын
Bw outnumbered Bm 2:1....END OF DISCUSSION. Bw NEED to explore their options outside Bm because the math ain't mathin.
@chinyelundubisi998524 күн бұрын
I LOVE the smile while truth telling. Keep dropping these gold pieces sir, because women ALSO need partners that encourage them to become better ppl.
@RD-zj6vc20 күн бұрын
Lil' Kim got that line from Phife Dawg "I like 'em brown yellow, PR and Haitian".
@DanDan-z7e8 күн бұрын
Proves his point even more. Black men have been swirling 🤷🏾♀️
@mindset_olympics22 күн бұрын
Everybody stole that line 😂
@SolCareMimi26 күн бұрын
What a lovely duo I didn’t expect at all just when I was watching old content yesterday(black women doing harm)!!! Thinking I miss Jouelzy but I know the challenge of balancing mommin it so I ain’t mad. ❤
@r.walker798620 күн бұрын
All relationships are transactional, the goal should be to find one that is not JUST transactional. In order to do that, you have to really know YOU and what you need/want/what is important/ and in what order. When most people do that work, race is not that high up, it's just a preferred packaging.
@deadcell120 күн бұрын
My mother once told me "The man that you need is a totally different person from the man that you want", Very few women today realize this and thus why they make poor choices when it comes to men.
@lumen803924 күн бұрын
Dating a Korean man now and I appreciate that I can be my full self with him. For some reason I’ve never felt comfortable to be my complete weird self with Black men although I’m most attracted to Black men. Having dated men of different races, if I ever found myself single again not sure I would return to Black men unfortunately
@deadcell120 күн бұрын
I'm a BM and my personality type is unorthodox compared to the norm that BP are portrayed to be, I'm into Anime, Video Games, traveling, and sports and I am more attracted to BW. I find in order to find someone you can truly connect with you have to change the circle of people you associate with. Last year, I went to an comic-con event and I saw a few BW there who had the same interest I have. I would never find that type of BW by going to a night club or a bar.
@catmouse288214 күн бұрын
Sis...I let Bm go in high school and I ain't never looked back❤ I'm currently married to non-Bm❤
@Syren90...Aka926 күн бұрын
Is that The Fairy God Brother!? ❤😂🎉 OK. Let me lock in.
@AshleyJeffersonAshleyJefferson25 күн бұрын
Anwar & Jouelzy? What God allowed this to happen? I need to worship now. Like, my two favorites actually crossed paths…in my lifetime! Haha! I love it!!
@kunichiwax323 күн бұрын
What is the difference between finding a person to parent with vs. Finding a person to marry? If you're gonna have a child with them then you're gonna most likely be around that person for the rest of your life.
@design40125 күн бұрын
The marriage discussion is really cultural. Can you expect to get married in a place where marriage isn’t valued? Especially in black Americans… I’m seeing more interracial relationships more than ever. It’s not surprising. 🤷🏾♀️ It has nothing to do with the value of black women.
@kyrathedestroyer_25 күн бұрын
where do ppl get this idea that black americans don’t value marriage ? marriage is seen as extremely valuable in the west. whether or not it’s attainable is different.
@design40125 күн бұрын
@@kyrathedestroyer_ It’s lip service…. If men valued marriage they would be marrying. Believe it or not hook culture and playing the field is a direct example of not valuing marriage. Black women around the world enjoy the benefits of having a husband. Only about 30% of us get to be married. That’s clearly a cultural phenomenon. You see what people value daily…careers, earning money, and friendships. There definitely needs to be some cultural shift’s happening.
@rdkirk383424 күн бұрын
@@kyrathedestroyer_ A statistic of >70% of unwed births say that black Americans don't value marriage.
@catmouse288214 күн бұрын
@kyrathedestroyer_ Blk males do NOT value marriage....the data and stats backs this it up. And because Blk women prefer/worship Blk males...the marriage rates in BC is extremely low compared to other races.
@zan75200023 күн бұрын
This content is gold, more please.
@TruthNloV324 күн бұрын
I've never clicked on some thing so fast! Two of my faves!
@adams883019 күн бұрын
If you truly want marriage and a family, forget about race. Forget it. Women only have a certain amount of years to bear children and you don't want to waste those years waiting for the perfect man of __ race to come and choose you. Date the best man of every race who wants to date you.
@catmouse288214 күн бұрын
That part 💯 Bw are causing harm to themselves when the ONLY date Bm. Date for character. Not color.
@brandond19477 күн бұрын
@catmouse2882 same goes for blk men. I do know alot of us who have tough relationships with blk women and how blk women can be rude as well
@catmouse28827 күн бұрын
@brandond1947 Bm are the number 1 predators to Bw...you want kindness go get a pet. Bw don't owe bottom tier males s***.
@adams88306 күн бұрын
@brandond1947 Statistically, black men date out of their race four times as much as black women. For the most part, Black men don't seem to have too many reservations about dating out of their race. Black women on the other hand are race loyal to the point of dying single and childless because they didn't find a black man. But yes, at the end of the date who wants to date you. Race doesn't matter.
@mininininini25 күн бұрын
I made an IG story about this!!!! Right on time Jouelzy
@Ethereal-Flower25 күн бұрын
I just love love Jouelzy. Your face, your voice, your mind, your interests are everything girl! Totally my girl crush! (yes I’m a Black woman lol)
@b.lachelle775526 күн бұрын
Loved this video... so so so good!! Thank you for sharing. I 100% agree with everything Anwar said... he was so spot on. Great interview :)
@mindset_olympics22 күн бұрын
Ive always dated EVERYBODY. Thats never been a problem for me. I just need to focus on myself rn
@TheBadDoll23 күн бұрын
🥰🤗 YOU’RE BACK 🥳🍾🥂
@Snicklez8925 күн бұрын
OMFG YOU GOT ANWARRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know that’s right sis!!!!!!!!!!
@psychodellicFaubio25 күн бұрын
Amazing really hit home❤
@psychodellicFaubio25 күн бұрын
Disempowered state! Exactly!
@javawatson135020 күн бұрын
So good
@aeh2004aeh21 күн бұрын
I love him 😍
@brandond19477 күн бұрын
3:44 bro we dont even know who u r 🤣 . He dont seem like a bad guy but i can tell his convos with blk men r very limited
@kingofenigma953420 күн бұрын
This is so funny you cant even make this up
@dcme911719 күн бұрын
I really find taking dating advice from a feminine man
@outdoorgq25 күн бұрын
BW have "evolved" passed BM? This is not even logical. Most people from stable communities are going to assume there's dysfunction in the home if the boys are consistently failing and this just make BW look bad as mothers. It's a narrative that's totally unnecessary so why go there? Don't be so dismissive of culture because most people prefer someone that they identify with culturally, this is not a black issue.
@Lala-eo4eq21 күн бұрын
There are stats that support this. Education rates, graduation rates, rate of black women entrepreneurs...take your pick. So funny how bw and bm can have the same “evil” black mom (no smoke for the most likely nonexistent dad unsurprisingly) and yet bw are still pursuing higher education and completing degrees at record rates compared to their counterparts even despite life circumstances they could be using as excuses. The typical excuses to rid bm of accountability like the blame on the black moms who stay and raise y’all is laughable at this point. No other race is experiencing such a disparity of women outperforming the men in this way and we as a whole seem to be unbothered by this or pretend it’s not happening. You may not like the word “evolve” but that doesn’t negate the truth.
@outdoorgq21 күн бұрын
@@Lala-eo4eq Data does not support what you are saying. You clearly haven't looked at data so I won't waste my time with that, but I'll clear up something you seem to not understand. Education, money, etc., are means, not ends. if BW are doing as well as you say we should see black children outperforming other races of children in school, among other things. My original point was that a BW should highlight her positive attributes instead of comparing herself to men and talking negative about men if she's trying to maximize success while dating. I'm not sure why any BW would disagree with this.
@deadcell120 күн бұрын
@@Lala-eo4eq Your statement is conjecturous. The education desparity between men and women is happening across all racial groups, not just BM. Also, since you want to go there BW do indeed hold the most degrees but also are the most indebted women across all racial groups. On average, BW also earn less than AW and WW, they are the largest group of women who fall into poverty in their golden years, have the lowest marriage rate and the highest divorce, the highest mental illness rate, and the highest crime rate amongst their female counterparts. You want to parade BW as being far superior than BM but despite all your advancements you still fall behind other racial groups of women in this country. That's not something to celebrate.
@Onebillionnow17 күн бұрын
Lol...."evolved passed BM". Bro is projecting. Alot of LGBT Men do not like straight black men. Because lets be honest 95% of straight BM are not feeling the LGBT community unless it involves a threesome with women 2 girls one guy.. These are the men that bullied them in high school and beyond. So obviously they are going to feel a way about straight BM.
@catmouse288214 күн бұрын
@@outdoorgq Blk males have failed as fathers. That's why the Blk boys are doing horribly and the Blk girls are excelling... Your beloved Kangz are failing their sons. Hope you are having the day YOU deserve.
@j.baldwin301219 күн бұрын
Total BS. Tons of black women date out with no backlash. The reality is non-black men don't approach black women nearly as much as black men. Black women act like they don't have dates with Brad because Tyrone either scared Brad off or shamed Keisha when he saw her with Brad. The reality is Keisha didn't go out with Brad because Brad likes Becky and Mai Ling.
@doshpits18 күн бұрын
if you want people to take your analysis seriously drop the incel jargon.. designating all black women as “keisha” is nuts
@suzyque127914 күн бұрын
Black women have spent a long time telling Brad she don't want him. The "nothing but a black man for me" trope. So she's going to have to work hard to drop her guard and let him know she's interested. Just like Asian women have, they don't keep it a secret.😊