On the Sofa: Coping with Stress (plus making new habits/breaking bad habits).

Did you make any New Year's Resolutions? It's definitely that time of year when many of us are trying to break bad habits and start some new, good habits.....I'm no exception. Some of my new habits are also helping me to cope with a deluge of stress at the moment....I'm sharing today as some bits may help others. I hope so. Plus some reviews of things that have been entertaining me. This isn't a 'doom and gloom' video! 😉
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[@jojo683]

So many times I've tried to explain this and deleted my comment. To me Vivi is a magical lady. From a far away place. When she talks about her life. Feels like I'm reading a book about this busy, and so exciting different world than I'm from. Still now continues to persevere even when its not easy! Vivi you are amazing to me. Just know someday I'll be at the store and see a Vivi doll with a book set and mini garden, shed and sewing machine. It would have been a dream to have someone like you to look up to as a child! Magical lady know that you're a treasure to me!

[@WhatVivididnext]

Aww, that's so lovely....thank you so much for your kind words. ❤️

[@TheCornerLot-t8r]

I can so relate to what you are going through. I'm a night person too. My doctor has tried all different kinds of meds and nothing helps. They either don't work or give me nightmares or restless leg syndrome. I always get afternoon appointments whenever possible. I'm not lazy either. My circadian rhythm doesn't follow society norms. I just sold my house, finally, and bought another one across two states (USA) away. Believe me, I know that stress. And if one more person asked me when I was going to get moved, I swear I was going to throttle them. Nothing was in my control. There was nothing I could do to speed up the process. I wasn't dragging my feet. Also, I love Shetland. I ordered all of the series on DVD's to date, from England. Same with Vera and Trapped. When I get settled in and get a TV hooked up, I'm ordering Brit Box and Acorn. My guilty pleasure. If I had it now, I wouldn't get anything else done and I never would get any sleep. I know me. Hang in there friend. You aren't alone.

[@karenbransome6978]

I've started the same kind of thing. I was diagnosed with long covid not long after moving to Leicestershire. Trying to cope and manage the chronic fatigue and anxiety along with the crashes that land me in bed for hours or days depending on what I've been doing. I've started keeping an events diary. I have put in the things I need to do, and then I write what I actually did in a different colour pen. I've also started a small morning and evening routine. Even if all I do that day is my morning routine, it's a win. I completely get the waking your legs up part. I have what I call my bed exercises. These help very much with coping with the pain. This all sounds promising as I have scrolled down and read others' comments. ❤️ 😊 ❤ Very encouraging video Vivi xxx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely....and good on you for establishing your new routines (love the journal with two colours of pen!). You're so right...even if one can only manage getting up, dressed and breakfasted that, on some days, represents a win! Keep it up lovely. X

[@charlotterydz6343]

I have what I call ‘getting out of bed’ exercises too!!! My physio suggested it a few years ago and I said yup I already do them. I also use a cbd and magnesium massage bar every night, paying close attention to my offending areas/ joints. It’s so kind of Vivi to share Vlogs like this, helps to remind us we are very much in this together, even when it feels like we aren’t. Much love, Charlotte 😘 x

[@carolwhite6979]

Henry V! My favourite! I got into the habit of keeping a journal many years ago at work. It helped me keep track of home and school and work and kids and bills as a young overwhelmed single mom trying to do it all. I always felt like I was failing miserably...... at everything. Those journals kept me sane even when I was drowning and not knowing if there was enough to buy milk and bread..... now, retired, My journal still supports me knowing when deposits will be made, what scheduled payments are due and how much, and appointments and the occasional lunch or dinner with my now middle aged children. This is a horribly stressful time for you, made doubly so by the staggering uncertainty of your pending sale and move. Here, 🇨🇦 you would have been long moved and settled. it seems a tortuously long business... and needlessly so. That said, Fingers crossed, you will soon get the official closed date, hand over those keys and notes to the new owner and take yourself off to a wonderland of paint, and taps, and fabrics with a new set of keys in your hand! 😁❤️ Just think, a few more short weeks and you will be getting up at 7:30 to putter in your garden or just feel the sun as you sit on the back step enjoying a hot cup of spicy apple tea!

[@WhatVivididnext]

Yes, yes, YES to that!!! Thank you so much lovely. X

[@lisafenn4238]

Hi Vivi. I have had to step back as the Foster co-ordinator for the cat charity I volunteer for... my memory is so bad now I am unable to make and retain new memories.... I survived HSV2 Encephalitis in 2005 but I think the prolonged severe emotional distress from losing the Granddaughters has further impacted the memory issue. My boss has no sympathy or understanding and says things that make me feel like I am nothing... so.. I have stepped away but still fostering. I have decided that I need to look after me for a while without any unnecessary pressure so I am making sure I am getting enough rest and my goal now is to give myself good food... making a meal every evening, which I have not been doing. So far so good. Sending you lots of love xxxxx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Good on you lovely, keep it up! 😊

[@lisafenn4238]

@@WhatVivididnext xxxxxx

[@beverley1539]

🐝🇨🇦👋🏻

[@pensivepensioner1244]

I'm so sorry to hear you've not been supported in your volunteering role, Lisa, as volunteers are the backbone of this country. Time to look after yourself now for sure and remember that you are valued as a person. Sending hugs Angie ❤

[@lisafenn4238]

@@pensivepensioner1244 Oh my goodness.. Angie that is so kind of you. Sending hugs back xxx

[@RedLentilYellowLentil-g8y]

Vivid you have done so much over the past few years that have impressed me. Give yourself credit. Most of those powerful rich guys can't even tell a weed from their own bum and you kept yourself fed on next by your own wits and grit.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely.

[@cynthia57169]

Lovely turn of phrase. I’m smiling

[@ShoestringJane]

@@RedLentilYellowLentil-g8y I think we should all call her Vivid from now on. It suits her! 😂

[@joannelandriault7715]

The only time I use an alarm is for early appointments. Like tomorrow morning! The window for my gas meter replacement is from 8 to 12 and I usually get up at 7:30, hence the need to for an alarm tomorrow. Very important to wind down before bed. I read for a couple of hours so glad to hear you are figuring out what works for you. Stress is usually about things that will happen in the future so focus on the present as much as you can and stay in the moment. I also find working with your hands gets you out of your head…like hand stitching. Sleep well. 🌟❤️ 😴

[@WhatVivididnext]

Hahaha....if I didn't set an alarm I'd sleep beyond noon......ahhh, that would be delicious! 😉

[@Patricia-ii9md]

Añn Cleeves books turned into dvds: Shetland & Vera. Hugh fan of both series. Listening to you today brought back my life in my 50s. I am now 77 and would never go back to what you are going through. A therapist started me on light therapy, easy to do & changed my life for ever. It was the greatest gift I ever gave to myself. I hope you find your way so every day struggles are manageable. 😊😊

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. 😊

[@katypillinger1593]

It’s a challenge being self employed and working from home. It almost feels as though it’s a process one has to go through to eventually come out the other side, with some sort of epiphany. I worked too hard and like you, long hours that blurred and essentially I was having no time for myself or others. I became consumed by what I did. I eventually suffered burn out. It is serious. Mine lasted 3 years, and if I’m totally honest, I still haven’t recovered, creatively. What I have learned and stopped doing a long time ago is to stop measuring my day by productivity, but to measure it by how present I am. My mornings are slow, just for me. I cook my porridge on the hob and sit watching the garden birds feasting on the fatballs. I slowly brew a pot of coffee and let my mind wonder wherever it needs to. I shower, then begin my working day and finish by 5pm and have weekends off. I can now look back and I see that I felt as though I had something to prove, but to who? I equated busyness with success. However, I have now learned to care a little less. I will sit with my cat for an hour and not feel guilty or potter in the garden for 20 min. My whole outlook on ‘work’ has changed and I now see it as less of a priority. Of course consequently I have a little less money, but I make just enough… and that is enough. That is my choice and I’m relaxed and more content for it. Sending you a hug xx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Good on you lovely and I totally get what you mean.....but it's tricky when I don't earn enough in five days. Getting my evenings back is a big plus though. 😉

[@katypillinger1593]

I understand that, especially with expense of the house move on the horizon. Thankfully, like you, I was a saver and squirrelled away to pay off my mortgage, which helped enormously 🌰. You’re definitely listening to instincts and your body and I love that! Good luck with the change of sleep routine 🤞🏻 xx

[@bloodmoon1956]

Vivi,like yourself,my daughter is a KZbinr and she says it can be 24-7 .So now she sets her alarm for exactly 1 hour to read and answer comments etc. She’s been more settled and freed up some extra time for herself. 👍

[@CherylAnderson-mo1nk]

Hello- I am also from Canada. I am starting a whole new chapter of freedom as I retired Dec 31 st and I too am trying to start a new schedule now that the stress of work has finally been removed from my life. I plan to rekindle my love of music and teach. It has been about 10 years since I last played. I also garden and that is how I found you. 😊

[@sheilanorthwood547]

I.m in Canada also, gardening, sewing and singing in a choir. We are kindred spirits lol.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Yay for your new 'free' chapter......have fun getting back to playing music. 😊

[@CherylAnderson-mo1nk]

@@sheilanorthwood547 very nice I also sew and used to sing in choirs and plays. Gilbert and Sullivan Where in Canada?

[@sheilanorthwood547]

@CherylAnderson-mo1nk I live in Petawawa, Ontario.

[@CherylAnderson-mo1nk]

@@sheilanorthwood547 nice - my son trained there. 😊 stay warm. ❤️

[@katherineb6102]

"Much Ado" is a pure joy to watch.

[@charlotterydz6343]

Sorry to hear you are feeling stress, but also thanks for chatting about it. It’s something many of us will go through, (or are) and talking about what you’re doing to help yourself will have certainly helped others 💕. Love the ‘to done’ list and so pleased to hear your setting yourself a shut off time 🥰. I’m trying to build new habits, started last year with reducing caffeine, (never felt any issues with it, but learned how it effects your bones) I think it’s probably sensible to do all I can to protect my bones, given my joint issues and age. I also learned alcohol reduces bone density too. I don’t drink much, a couple of beers a month, but I found it so interesting reading up about it. The sleep tea is lovely isn’t it? I got it for my sister when she was struggling with sleep last year and have started getting for my hubby the wind down collection, it has two versions of sleep (one is orange and valerian) and other calming/ de stressing blends too, (with b vits to support neurological function etc) Lots of love, Charlotte 💕 x

[@WhatVivididnext]

I like the sound of the 'wind down' collection......I'll keep a look out for that next time I'm shopping. Thank you. 😊

[@isobellaf1226]

These sound like realistic changes/boundaries you are setting for yourself Vivi, like somebody else commented, I also hope that your bedroom might have potential to be a separate space for you in your new home in 🙏where you can really wind down in your sanctuary. Do you have a bolster or extra pillow to raise your legs in bed? You will know better than most how leg pain and raised cortisol make it v difficult to wind down of a night time. I set myself two hours every night of study for my pt degree in French as that is as long as my head can handle with language acquisition and after that I catch up on watching any favourite shows or KZbin . Stroking my cat at night helps me sleep as the purring is v relaxing! I only read for fun on the bus to work but I did buy the book you recommended about the female explorers, really looking forward to getting stuck in! One day off a week for our Vivi, yayyyyyy! You've put it out there now!

[@WhatVivididnext]

Cheers lovely. 😊

[@maxinemcivor4974]

You need to be kind yourself. Yes, changing your sleep habits sounds like a plan. Good luck 🎉

[@ninaoaster8039]

I pray strength for you until all is worked out. You've taken on a lot in a short time. Not that it helps much, but we are all here for you, praying for you and routing you on to the peace that you so much deserve. Blessings to you.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. 😊

[@tonisaylor1507]

Hi Vivi, this conversation made me think of a podcast you might consider for your relaxing time. Not sure how it works there but there are numerous ways to get podcasts - and they’re free! My favorite is called The History of English Podcast by Kevin Stroud. He starts at the beginning with Proto-European to pre-Germanic to Anglo-Saxon all the way to current (I’m still in pre-Viking England). It’s full of interesting history and especially how that history changed our language.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you. 😊

[@charlotterydz6343]

I’m not massively into podcasts, but kind of listen to Vivis Vlogs as if they were, made me think @WhatVivididnext maybe a podcast is in your future? 🥰

[@maryfennell9672]

Moving house is one of the most stressful things you can do Vivi, so much to organise, dealing with solicitors etc. Especially when you are doing it on your own. At least you know you are stressed so can try and do nice things to relieve it a bit. Take care lovely xxx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. 😊

[@maryphillips864]

Moving house is one of the most stressful times in a person's life, along with divorce and bereavement... and I blame working shift patterns for sleep problems. It's taken me ages since retirement for my sleep pattern to adjust... so stick to it Vivi it will all come right in the end. But both of these things for you must be so stressful at the moment... just remember it won't last for ever 😊

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. 😊

[@greeneschickenfarm]

Vivi, Here I sit in extreme northern Pennsylvania (it’s up to 13° f at mid day!) smiling at how much you enjoyed Shetland. Absolutely ! I’ve been away for a bit so maybe you’ve already mentioned Broadchurch at some point, but I found it to be in much the same vein as Shetland. Both are very Agatha Christie-style. About the sleeping thing… a doctor who visited patients on our floor dealt with complaints of trouble sleeping by instructing us to make sure the patient was up by 7:00 or so. And usually a couple mornings of that and they were ready to hit-the-hay early. To deal with this cold, I’ve been taking a 5 gallon covered bucket of very hot water out to put in the coop with an ancient little bantam hen. I change it out as it cools and she has learned to snuggle up beside it. We do what we can for the elderly…I hope someone brings me a hot water bottle! Oh, I just thought of Tony Walker Classic Ghost Stories. You might like his narrations. And thank you for letting me know about Far From The Madding Crowd DVD. I downloaded an old copy of the book from the Gutenberg Project complete with wonderful old illustrations. Good luck with the “habits”! Rick

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. Here's hoping for that hot water bottle! Mine is on the go all day. I didn't see Broadchurch but may have a look at it if I can find it on one of the free to view hubs - thank you. 😊

[@helenhawkins4054]

I’m definitely way off track, doing way more than I should. I found out recently that l’m on acute downward track of loosing my sight. So I seem to be packing in as much as I possibly can. Gardening , sorting ,trying to streamline wherever possibly . Overall it feels OK. It’s just another of life’s challenges and it has is funny moments. Truly I would be stressed out if I had to contemplate moving.💐😊👍

[@WhatVivididnext]

Oh my goodness, your attitude is amazing, good on you lovely. Take care. X

[@janegoodfellow1529]

Oh Vivi. Hold on, hold on (well, I know you will). Keep thinking of Happiness House (or whatever you call your lovely new place) and all the ways it will make your life easier and happier 🏡 You've already done brilliantly. You've got this, but are doing the sensible thing in recognising that you are experiencing stress and working to address and relieve it 🍵🤗 You have also helped US to think through how to manage challenges in our own lives, by adopting your methodical approach and positive mindset 🌱🥰

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. 😊

[@sarahkennedy1481]

If I am tired I do not stress re housework. Very little in life matters but peace and health and roof over head, heat and food is the most important x

[@WhatVivididnext]

Absolutely.

[@janegoodfellow1529]

I am trying "cognitive shuffling" (new to me and suggested by a friend) to help with insomnia. Mixed results but has improved a fairly dire situation of 5 years duration which I thought I'd have to live with. I also use it during the day for when my mind can't stop racing with mixed up, distressing thoughts.

[@WhatVivididnext]

That's great. 😊

[@charlotterydz6343]

I’m going to look this up 👍

[@hellowildflowerstories]

Keep your spirits up Vivi. Moving is like wading through treacle! It will resolve one way or another:). You are amazingly steadfast. You will get there xx Definitely recommend some escapism through books, creativity and great series like Shetland :) Try Hinterland set in Wales too xx Love your musings on stress and the things you have been trying xx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely......thank goodness for fantastic stuff to escape into. 😊

[@kathymc1863]

Sounds to me like you’re on the right track and taking good care of yourself Vivi 😊 Well done and keep going 🤩

[@WhatVivididnext]

Cheers lovely. 😊

[@ShoestringJane]

I agree about the difficulty of switching off when you are self employed. I’m often feeling I should be doing something instead of relaxing in the evenings. Luckily Justin makes me stop! I think we have to slow down as we get older. Life isn’t just about doing jobs and achieving things. The tea sounds delicious and your new habits are a brilliant idea.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Haha......I need someone to make me stop. 😉

[@leighwiseman8389]

OMG Viv, I'm exactly the same as you! An early night for me is 1am! I don't know how I got into this ridiculous unhealthy situation but I have. Keep on, plodding Viv, All the best Leigh xx

[@WhatVivididnext]

I've been like this since I was a kid......it's hard to change! 😉

[@marilyn9155]

Thank you for your much needed , cozy, warm company on a frigid day here in the northeast USA . You bring quite a lift ! ❤xx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Awww, thank you lovely - I really appreciate that. 😊

[@dawnedgar5681]

I had exactly the same problem with my sleep pattern, including the stress of an upcoming appointment keeping me awake. I found that it was getting up at the same time in the morning that the most impact. I also have R&R in the evening, regardless of what else is going on. These days, I tend to wake before my alarm and I'm tired much earlier in the evening. Good luck with forming your new habits x

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely. X

[@grumpy_poo]

I love those teas... As I am watching I am drinking the digest..... delicious. and I double dip.... ( I use the bag twice ) .. I really hate it when all the problems that cause us issues are made by others...I have to remind myself of the serenity prayer at times like that... No use fretting if it's something you can't change ... I never make resolutions.... then it doesn't upset me if they fail... take things a day at a time. The appliances are a hiccup in the scheme of things.. and you are using them so enjoy their newness while you can. Sleep is a big issue I have lived in tiny apartments with the bed in the living space it's so difficult to switch off ...... I can't remember when I got more than 3 hours sleep in a night ... mainly due to pain..had more injections in my hip this morning maybe it will improve things including enabling me to get back in the garden.... but I do need a hip replacement so it's a temporary fix ... Chins up... It will all pass...🥰😘

[@ShirleyBonner-Jones]

Hi vivi. You might find it easier if when you move you have separate bedroom from living space. Set a routine,

[@WhatVivididnext]

I hope so. 😊

[@rough-hewnhomestead5737]

I'm with you on the positive changes! I have the exact same sleep issues. I am a night owl...always have been...and it is SO hard for me to go to sleep at a "normal" hour. I understand that stress you can have when you have a scheduled appointment as well. If I know that I have an appointment at noon next Wednesday, I immediately start stressing about having to go to bed early the night before, sleep, and try to feel human for the appointment. It is brutal! The stress normally makes me not be able to go to sleep the night before and I end up either taking something to help me sleep, which give me the "hangover" feeling the next day...or not sleeping much at all and feeling horrible the next day. Lose-Lose. I hope you can get your sleep schedule worked out to suit your needs! I am trying to de-stress my life. I am in the middle of a 14 day "semi-vacation". I have to do a certain amount of cooking and cleaning, etc., but I am working on a "must needs" basis. I am trying to sleep more and get a better quality of sleep, stop obsessing over every single thing in my life, etc. I am trying to spend more time reading and taking care of myself. I've begun to have some health issues and I think they stem from years of loads of stress and resulting high cortisol levels. I hope both of us succeed in achieving our goals!

[@WhatVivididnext]

Good on you for taking the semi-vacation! And here's to you reaching your goals too. 😊

[@CandaceWalt-qi3up]

A 'to-done' journal! Brilliant, I am going to do this.

[@WhatVivididnext]

😊

[@lulucly]

I started the gym last May and have been (mostly) faithful with going, but can't seem to lose weight. Glad to hear of your new "me time" and sleep patterns! So glad you're choosing health! You are always an inspiration!!!

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you so much lovely. I've often heard that focussing on weights/strength training for the first year can help.....

[@sandrabryan9106]

I am the same way especially when I have an appointment. Last night I went to bed at 1 am, slept until 2:30, got up made a tea, read for 2 hours and then slept until 8 a.m. I was off all day. Going to bed at 9 pm tonight because I have an appointment with my surgeon tomorrow. I am nervous about what my surgery results are. I really hope I can get a few proper hours of sleep tonight. 💤

[@WhatVivididnext]

Oh I hope so too. x

[@cherylprice1790]

I developed a habit of waking at 3 am, and being awake til half five. I am trying to go to bed at about 11 or 1130 and wake up around 6.30. Well done, Vivi.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Here's hoping we can both crack it! 😊

[@dawnpetteford6726]

Well done on your routine Vivi, sounds like you are doing great. I simply cannot function without my daily to do list which is in a journal type book. Everything gets planned/written down even the simplest things and it really makes me feel organised and accomplished. x

[@WhatVivididnext]

Hear, hear! 😊

[@yvonneevie5926]

i hope your move happens soon vivi and goes well 🤗☺ i moved 2 weeks ago 😀 and good luck on all your new habits and sleep pattern 🤗😘

[@WhatVivididnext]

Yay, I'm glad yours is now done and behind you. 😊

[@yvonneevie5926]

@@WhatVivididnext thank you and you next 🤗😘

[@gailgulliver8970]

Morning Vick have a look into grounding sheets to sleep on they are the best like you my sleep was a few hours a night but now I'm getting a good 7 hours it's great I feel like a new woman I haven't slept right since I was 50 but now it's brilliant my friend told me about the at first I thought mmm I don't know about this but I went on Amazon got one and even the first night I felt a difference just thought I would share this with you xxx

[@helenhartley6904]

Hi Vivi, I'm sorry you are stressed. I just heard today, apparently humming for 15 min a day is great for reducing stress and getting to sleep. Writing down what you are stressed about might help put things in perspective and a gratitude journal is helpful too. Cheers!

[@60th60th]

Thanks, Vivi! This was very encouraging and very transferrable and. I hope you continue to do well by yourself! I'm starting the new year slowly, adding in new things gradually. Lots of anxiety where I live, but I'm trying to keep myself in good shape mentally and physically in order to deal with it the best I can.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Good on you lovely......look after number one and try to ignore (!!!) the 'outside' world. 😉

[@Kight213]

The journal is brilliant. That, I do believe, is exactly what I need. Thank you for the suggestion. Best of luck with your new habits. You can do it. No doubt at all.

[@WhatVivididnext]

The journal is working really well for me.....it's also helping me to track my energy levels and days when I'm slower make more sense now when I look back and see a frantic few days preceding the slump. 😊 I hope it works for you too. 😊

[@Sunjoy1]

Yes...old habits die hard... Love a good mystery book..what are your favorite authors?? Oh just LOVE Shetland, we are big fans of ALL the British crime/mystery shows we get on Brit box and Acorn 🤣

[@WhatVivididnext]

Sorry, can't supply you with any favourite authors as it's not my usual genre (I just have one at Christmas).....I far prefer non-fiction. 😊

[@coastaljan6193]

Shetland is one of my favourite series. Another is Vera. I highly recommend both.

[@Janlcoyne]

Same!

[@beverley1539]

Both recommend but only watch on KZbin so a bit behind but worth it. 🇨🇦🐝👋🏻

[@soniarose1387]

Dear Vivi, this was very inspiring, thank you 🙏. I have wanted to do the same, as my days have become a bit unstructured for the past year or so. I have had some health issues and haven’t worked in 16 months (with no gov support), but I am finally starting to feel better and with more energy. I have started getting up at 6, instead of 8 (since Monday). What a difference it makes. I have more time and energy to do things. Not to mention the improvement in my mood. Thanks for your video, perfect timing (not the first time this happens). Hugs to you 🤗

[@WhatVivididnext]

That's great hear.....I'm delighted for you. 😊

[@charlotterydz6343]

Vivi has a way of saying what we need to hear at the right time ✨ 💕

[@cherylprice1790]

You are doing great with your new routine. Fab ideas, especially the journal. We have to look after ourselves in our fifties. Goals, relaxing, journalling. Reaaly well done Vivi. Inspirational as always. Wont be long, girl, and you will be off to pastures new, routine done and in place and lovely adventures setting up the new abode.

[@WhatVivididnext]

I can hardly wait now! 😊

[@JennyGunston-uh5og]

Well done Vivi, I like the idea of wrk a journal to keep you on track,.

[@WhatVivididnext]

It is proving really helpful. 😊

[@Deb-wp9bp]

3 weeks, that's great, good for you! I am relating; I have also been a non-sleeping night owl for years, and I retired on the new year, and have started a few new/better for me habits. Trying to sleep before midnight and shooting for a solid 6 hours! I'm doing fairly well, and I do feel better! Hope you keep it up! I don't want to be "one of those" comment-ers, but I'm in America, and I don't understand the time it's taking to buy/sell a home, it would be so extremely stressful.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Ugh, it IS stressful......the whole system needs an overhaul!

[@lisasprite3322]

Something on my “to do” is reading more. “Red skies at night.” It was on your bookshelf. When I have breakfast I read a chapter. Lovely read. You are doing great Vivi 🩷 Thoughtful suggestions X

[@WhatVivididnext]

Oh what a lovely way to start your day. 😊

[@kerrybyers257]

Viv, I think you’re very prudent to consciously reset your daily routine now you’re without an allotment directing you 11 of 12 mo each year. Most of us need a few boundaries and a routine to flourish.😉❤️

[@WhatVivididnext]

Most definitely! 😊

[@barbaraallan5954]

Stress is the worst thing, take care xxx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you.

[@mae9064]

Stress police on their way 😂😂 ha ha you’ve not lost your sense humour Vivvi 😂😂

[@WhatVivididnext]

😉

[@beverley1539]

Tee Hee🐝🇨🇦👋🏻

[@Anita-q1z2n]

Hi Vivi, the Shetland series was excellent. You would probably enjoy Vera with Brenda Blethyn x

[@WhatVivididnext]

A few folk have mentioned it.....I'm going to keep a look out for it at charity shops. 😊

[@Janlcoyne]

@@WhatVivididnextBob and I love Vera!

[@9FatraBbits]

Hi friend….don’t we always feel a bit better with some habit adjustments?! It’s a perfect time to do this. I enjoy Thomas Hardy but haven’t read that one yet. I may give it a go when I’m finished the book I’m in now (Circe). One day at a time. Take care.♥️🐇

[@sophiawolthof1238]

👍👍👍

[@kateshawk5141]

i think we are kindred spirits!! I could swop places with you ............- be your understudy! I know all the script! Its very hard isn't it? regards from NZ where we try to sleep many hours ahead which, come to think of it, time zones would make role swapping worrisome - I would be always late which would be stressful for you!!

[@WhatVivididnext]

😉

[@cherrypie8796]

My new habit was getting unfinished knitting projects completed. But then the flu absolutely floored me for 3+ weeks. Best laid plans and all that jazz.

[@WhatVivididnext]

I hope you're on the mend now.

[@oneviewcornwall8200]

I can relate to those current sleep patterns. I might sleep a bit and then get up and make a cuppa tea then watch / listen to KZbin, generally waking in morning just as tired. But generally my circadian rhythm does kick in around 11pm. I find taking hrt especially the progesterone helps bring on deeper sleep - best wishes

[@cherylprice1790]

Soory to hear you've had all thee stress Vivi. Hinterland, as someone else mentioned, is brilliant. Looking forward to watching your upload

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thanks lovely.....I'll definitely keep an eye out for it in the charity shops. 😊

[@MoonSpinners]

Great video Vivi, feel like we’re almost the same person! 😂 on my “to do” list for this year (and it’s a big list) is to go to bed earlier than 3.30am. Like you’ve said, It’s so easy to get into bad habits when you live on your own. I’ve kept a diary since I was 12, I’m trying to get into the habit of writing down 3 good things a day, that’s supposed to reduce stress within two weeks. Also, Far from the madding crowd….one of my faves, I love that dvd. I think you might enjoy Line of Duty, it’s seriously fab. Not too fast paced, unfortunately no beautiful scenery, but it’s one of those “can’t wait for the next episode” series. 🤗

[@grumpy_poo]

Terence Stamp in his hey day.... in full colour... or Shakespeare in love...Joseph Feinnes in full colour... does it for this old girl!😆

[@WhatVivididnext]

Good luck with your 'to do' list! Going to bed earlier has been easier than I thought......but getting up at 7.30 is still hideous! 😉

[@WhatVivididnext]

Oh yes!! ❤️

[@marianne8280]

Love Shetland, he is so handsome.

[@AlisonGreenValleyCrone]

Love Shetland - enjoy

[@alisonwheeler8929]

Shetland is tops! I just started a new crime drama based on Harris with lovely landscapes, Gaelic conversations… lovely. Winterwatch is back to Arne in Dorset with gorgeous filming of spoonbills and avocets. Sends me off to sleep with the nice feelings you get from watching some wildlife. You are making some good changes for health and happiness .

[@WhatVivididnext]

Yay for Arne! I haven't seen any yet but will try to catch up. 😊

[@fkoen1881]

Reformed night owl here too, well mostly! Since watching you over the past few years, I've started reading again every night to wind down (thanks to your non-fiction recommendations💞) and waking up early, I found changing my mindset really helped, I really love that hour to myself in the morning before the kids get up, a slow start to the day with my cup of coffee and there are so many things to enjoy at that hour, it just took me 46 years to realise 😏. I love the done-it list suggestion too.

[@WhatVivididnext]

I'm so delighted to hear that you've started reading again.....one of the best stress busters. I can't imagine bed time without a story. 😉

[@fkoen1881]

@@WhatVivididnext, your love of literature is infectious Vivi, and you reminded me how much I missed it. Plus, your taste in books is very similar to mine, I've always read nonfiction. I won a cash prize when I was 13, and all I wanted was a subscription to National Geographic; every month, I received, by post, to a remote middle-of-nowhere farm, a beautifully photographed slice of the world. You helped remind me of that joy💓

[@WhatVivididnext]

@@fkoen1881 Oh what a fabulous prize!!! I'd have chosen the same.....I love NG but it's too expensive for my current wallet. 😉

[@sarahkennedy1481]

I am 58 and all of a sudden I need a sleep routine and bed early up early. I try “do not sweat the small stuff” x

[@pennythompson4790]

I've had the sleep one & it really helpsxx

[@charlotterydz6343]

And it’s so tasty, have you tried the wind down collection? There’s another version of sleep and a few more calling/ de stressing varieties. They were on offer in Sainsbury’s recently, well worth a buy if you enjoy Sleep tea 💤

[@pennythompson4790]

@@charlotterydz6343 no just the sleep ones but will look out for the othersxx

[@sarahkennedy1481]

Sorry you have stress. Love and hugs.

[@suegreen940]

I can highly recommend a Welsh crime drama called Hinterland, fabulous scenery, great casting and some of it in the Welsh language! It's on iplayer. I love Shetland too ❤️

[@WhatVivididnext]

Thank you lovely, I'll keep a look out for it in the charity shops. 😊

[@hellowildflowerstories]

Absolutely agree. It is a wonderful series !

[@suegreen940]

Yes, I love all of the Welsh dramas ❤​@hellowildflowerstories

[@KerryBernard916]

I adore that show. When Douglas Henshall leaves after season 7, I was afraid I wouldn’t enjoy it anymore but I love the new character DI Ruth Calder. Have you ever watched the series Vera? It’s also adapted from Ann Cleeves novels. I really like that series too.

[@WhatVivididnext]

I've never seen Vera but am going to keep a look out for the DVDs in charity shops. 😊

[@cherylprice1790]

If you can find Bergerac in charity shops,that is a lovely escape. The scenery is good too. ❤

[@WhatVivididnext]

Hahaha....I remember that was one of my Mum's favourites. 😉

[@sarahkennedy1481]

As you are ex NHS like I am we have witnessed illness and life is so short, so we chill. Take pain killers at night if legs hurt. Perhaps sleeping tablets for a few weeks and just go to bed early even if you do not sleep. I was up all night long but now I love bed early and set alarm. You need to be consistent 7-days a week with sleep hygiene x

[@Debbieanne51]

I'm not a good sleeper either, I'm retired now so can wake when I want. I prefer to rise before 9am. I started to take magnesium glycinate which I read was good for anxiety and sleep. I have to say it does help me . I just thought I'd share if it helps.

[@WhatVivididnext]

I'm so glad it has helped you. I have recently stopped taking it as it made no difference for me.

[@Debbieanne51]

Aww that's a shame....Pumpkin seeds help sleep too.​@@WhatVivididnext

[@ellieb3930]

I worked permanent night shift for 15 years as a nurse and that seriously messed up my sleep pattern. I've tried doing morning shifts but I can't fall asleep until 3-4 a.m. and then I would need to get up at 5.30 a.m. I felt unsafe driving to work on so little sleep, let alone holding lives in my hands. These days I work a mixture of afternoon and night shifts which accommodates my insomnia. I can't wait to retire though so that I can try and train myself into sleeping better hours. At the moment the best I can do is to switch off the computer and my phone a couple of hours before bed and do something like reading my book to let my mind calm down before attempting sleep. I fell in love with Shakespeare in my early teens. There was a British production of all his most popular plays and they aired here in NZ every Sunday afternoon. They were true to the bard and the Emma Thompson/Kenneth Branagh adaptation would have slotted into the series seamlessly.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Ugh, yes, shift work has been shown to really screw up people's sleep patterns....and worse.

[@ellieb3930]

@@WhatVivididnext Yes, I try not to think too much about the "and worse" 😬

[@amandaj2888]

I got Murder After Christmas in a charity shop (25p) I know what you’re saying, I felt the same, literally ploughed through (all that snow) and it got a bit better towards the end. I read Wilding after your recommendation and loved it, started I Contain Multitudes, absolutely fascinating! X

[@WhatVivididnext]

Oh I'm so glad you enjoyed Wilding......and the Multitudes book is such an absorbing and thought provoking read. 😊

[@beverley1539]

Hiya Vivi, nice visit with you tonight much appreciated 1: 56 am and -25 here in Southern Ontario Canada 🥶. Relate with sleep issues all my life likewise tried anything and everything over many years , found bits and bobs to help but alas noo magical spell. Will see if I can find the films you watched on ytube. Take care. 🇨🇦🐝👋🏻

[@WhatVivididnext]

Ach, the sleep struggle is awful isn't it! I hope my latest attempts will settle into a more manageable routine....

[@beverley1539]

Tis That 🇨🇦🐝

[@kathleensmith6200]

I loved watching British crime shows, Midsomer Murders is at times hilarious and you get to see a lot of actors before they became more well known. I also loved Vera. I did find it funny that they had so many murders in tiny little villages, though. ( :

[@WhatVivididnext]

Hahaha....yes.....friends of mine moved to the Midsummer area.....I warned them. 😉

[@mandymaxwell3249]

Sorry for your stress Vivi,I can’t shake this chest thing going around stressing me lol xx

[@WhatVivididnext]

Ach, that's horrid for you. 😢

[@dianejordan9286]

Shetland is a good series but the books by Ann Cleeves that Shetland is based on are fabulous much better than the television production give one of the books a try you will be hooked

[@wendyshanahan2652]

I'm not usually a reader, but my internet went off due to a faulty cable connection, so I pulled out a book by Australian author, Kate Morton, "The Secret Keeper". Set in London primarily, during the WWll Blitz and present day, flashbacks and researching of her mother's past, was not able to put it down. Wonderful characters, intriguing mystery, and twist at the end, I do recommend her to you. I think I will make it a part of my self change for 2025 to read a book a month, as I am busy otherwise. It will offer me some 'quiet transportation' away from the everyday. A first step to self care...lots more to assess and process, lol. Not perfect yet...Thanks, Vivi.

[@WhatVivididnext]

Yay, good on you lovely. It's so wonderful to get totally lost in a book. 😊

[@ShoestringJane]

Oh I love Kate Morton! I found her last year and have read several of her books. Really great storytelling

[@robertazuver2270]

If you're enjoying Shetland maybe you'll also like Vera set in Northumberland.

[@WhatVivididnext]

I reckon I would......looking for the DVDs in charity shops now. 😊

[@sarahkennedy1481]

As we get older, life gets harder and diet and rest is very important.

[@milda0820]

💖💖💖

[@CandaceWalt-qi3up]

❤

[@BrookMaiden]

Do you do meet and greet ? me and my friend are in Lewisham in the next weeks coming would love to stop for a tea and chat

[@WhatVivididnext]

I have, in the past, but the next few weeks are a bit of unknown territory for me with the whole move thing being so imminent....

[@kathrynhall4775]

💜💜💜

[@poolfield2]

I record my daily steps and what Pilates class I have done each day (and have for 2 years)but I’m still not managing to get to bed as early as I would like. More to work on!

[@WhatVivididnext]

...but good on you for getting your steps in AND your Pilates session. 😊

[@gailgulliver8970]

Should read Vivi x

[@DonnaLatty-kh6db]

25f and I'm being a lazy person still in bed and oh my old aching bones😮but I am retired so I can stay in my warm bed all snuggled down and just enjoy 😊

[@WhatVivididnext]

Yay! Make the most of it. Happy snuggle time. 😊

[@sarahkennedy1481]

Get an updated NHS pension quote. You may be very surprised if it was final salary. Will help you to retire even if just pays gas and electric and c tax x

[@WhatVivididnext]

As I've explained before I won't get much of one as I only paid in for a couple of years. It won't even pay one bill.

[@sarahkennedy1481]

I respect what you say but I was in 6 years and a lot of different little jobs but mine will pay as it stands monthly c tax and heating 😊

[@WhatVivididnext]

@ I only paid in for about 18 months.

[@jenniferchapman9645]

I feel your pain we have been selling late mother in laws house got a buyer in June its just gone through phone call on Friday then should be sorted . Your not going to believe this while typing solicitor rang nows its Monday !!!!! X😔

[@WhatVivididnext]

Ugh......it's the most frustrating, stressful thing!

[@kitchenworker446]

I cannot believe that moving house would take so long...it is ridiculous! Solicitors...they are laughing all the way to the bank...!

[@WhatVivididnext]

Ugh, yes!

[@beverley1539]

Guessing back up due to the holidays? 🤞🐝🇨🇦👋🏻

[@kitchenworker446]

@ Na...they are like this about everythignall year round...IMO

[@sandrapreston7016]

Man hrs for your shop pricing

[@sarahkennedy1481]

Loved that film so beautiful. Who would you have chosen to marry?

[@WhatVivididnext]

None of them. 😉

[@fern4550]

Perhaps your planned routine is a bit to rigid.. ?... x Take care Viv...... x

[@WhatVivididnext]

I don't think so. 😊

[@sarahkennedy1481]

How would you like me to pray for you ie to Jesus?

[@trishadams2427]

❤❤❤