Mel Robbins: This One Hack Will Unlock Your Happier Life | E108

This weeks episode is entitled 'Mel Robbins: This One Hack Will Unlock Your Happier Life'.
Topics:
0:00 Intro
03:28 What made you into who you are today?
12:10 The biggest flaw in the human design
19:05 Dealing with anxiety my whole life
25:51 The layers of healing
53:23 The 5 second rule
01:02:34 The high five habit
01:23:46 Manifestation and visualisation
01:36:14 Understanding when you’re ‘stuck’
01:43:29 The last guests question
01:45:18 Do you still struggle with everything you talk about?
01:53:29 Finally understanding why I do what I do
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Wow wow wow what an episode 🤯 Mel is one of the most wise and introspective people I have ever met. That revelation at the end was amazing and emotional, thank you Mel 🙏🏽…. hit like and subscribe for a new episode every Monday

[@Reamdemnati]

Mel Robbins is one of my favourite speakers, I love her books including the more recent one ‘The High Five Habit’ she is brilliant she keeps it real , honest and vulnerable as does Steven so this interview is just a match made in heaven, one of his best interviews in my humble opinion! Keep them coming Steven I’m so excited to see what you have planned for the next few weeks and for 2022 🤩

[@leahrenshaw4514]

Rssb

[@ciaranodonnell2494]

This is so powerful. I feel I need to write you a cheque! Honestly, the episode will change my life. Simple, easy and brilliant. Wow. Thank you.

[@shirleyburns4170]

Thank u to Mel 😢 & Steve!!!!

[@Gloryguidance]

You're excellent at making people talk.

[@mak_freeman]

"You are one decision away from the life you want to have" - This one hit hard. Thank you for this podcast

[@TheBoringGuySA]

Crazy how she said this as I read this comment 🤯

[@avishnya1]

?????

[@kirkkitchen9822]

I watch guilt ruin lots of people

[@denyor80]

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[@missselina7]

I agree. This was so helpful.

[@jckeddy]

"Being stuck and hopeless doesn't mean we're broken, it's our patterns of thoughts and behaviors that are broken." Such a powerful insight into where I am in relation to where I want to be.

[@TheBoringGuySA]

Crazy how she said this as I was in the middle of reading this comment🤯

[@2strokeorchoke496]

Power of positive thinking. It changed my life.

[@amyfernandes8211]

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[@JoanneMacVittie-pl1jm]

I really don't appreciate you interrupting this beautiful young lady who's helping people find their Joy to advertise your products you're taking advantage you know she'll have a large audience and youre being a little bit rude by doing that!!! 🤬

[@andreedwards9893]

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[@manishasingh2490]

I owe my confidence to you mel, I am a chronic procrastinator, in my 37 years of life always strugged with punctuality, discipline, waking up late kept hitting the snooze button 10 times. I hated myself, played the victim game but also wanted to have big in life, big dreams, but never really mustered the courage to pursue them. I never even shared my dreams with anyone coz always felt people are gonna laugh at me. People always thought and I think they still do that I am a fool, can't do even a small work without messing up and I believe d them that yes I really can't. Today after listening you I realized I also went through sexual and physical abuse in my childhood days. Which my nervous system has recorded . My parents also never took pride in me because they thought I am not pretty and smart enough. Rather they always pulled me down, discouraged and ignored and embarrassed me even in front of other people and I never raised my voice against it coz I thought this is what i deserve. I was ashamed of myself in so many ways. Even I was good at so many things I never really valued myself and always focused on what I didn't have. People always made fun of me, and always always always mistreated me made me feel small good for nothing and I didn't even realize d it because it normal for me. At times when I even felt bad didn't talk back because I was really scared of people that they will start scolding me in front of others which will add to my misery. After going through crores and lakhs of self help videos I watched yours and I finally got my answer which I searched for 37 years. I always knew thers something in me which needs to be addressed and corrected my overthinlinh, time management etc but didn't understand what was the reason behind. But today I understood there's nothing physical thing stopping me, but my thoughts. I am capable of so many things but because of my past experiences . I think I can't do anything right. Till now I had this false belief that I can't do the dishes every night before going to bed and also clean the kitchen every night. But after watching you u have been doing this since 15 days consistently Thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@crystaltharrell]

Loneliness is a psychological signal for connection, just as hunger is a physiological signal for nutrition. I loved this episode! ♥

[@vapeking466]

Loneliness also takes a toll on health. It may take a while but it definitely shortens ones life. I thought I was lonely just being single for yrs after my son's mom left me out of the blue but once my parents both died within a yr after loosing grandma a yr before that's when it got real. I'm an introvert so enjoy alone time but not all of it. I do have a son but only see him every couple weeks due to visitation rights. He will be 18 soon and plans to go to college in another state. The thing I miss the most is touch as that's how I feel love. I have improved myself all these years and tried the online dating thing. It's not what it was in the beginning. I've made no progress but I remember yrs ago when online dating was new it was very easy to find a date. I'm not sure why it's changed for the worst but for society I don't think it's good. I read an article the other day saying we have a mental health crisis coming and a loneliness one as well. They said it would be a few yrs but is fast approaching. God help us! 🙏

[@laisdonella2728]

I had a traumatic childhood and lived in constant horrific anxiety for 27 years of my life... hearing her was very impactful. This podcast will change my life. Starting now!! 🖐️

[@iriszoski4621]

High Five 🖐

[@hakunamatata7941]

😊✋ We see you. We reed you. God bles you! 💗

[@mirandaquinnn]

I would love to hear an update. Have a blessed life.

[@Jenna-Roo]

Amen!!! Love her explanations, humor and my sister lol very cool!!! 😂🙏🏻💕🌈🌠🦋🌷🌼🌺

[@oliviacharlottemortimer6498]

✋

[@thebluetwistie]

Anyone else tear up at the end? My first introduction to Mel. I was left with an impression of a woman who is is fierce and gentle. Loved this episode. My fave.

[@clarelwc2849]

Yup. 100% agree

[@Relaxwithnomes]

I can't believe I'm only just watching this!... What a woman ... She makes it relatable to someone even like me, who lives in a wretched part of South Manchester.... She is amazing, her wisdom is unfathomable... Watching this was like free therapy... We all have the ability... She makes so much sense... And yet she breaks it down into pure simplicity and doability...my beginning of change starts here. ... Thank you!

[@khushijain8264]

So does mine! Exactly the things I felt midway through the episode

[@tonyajackson2312]

How has your journey been? I’m in depression that I’m trying desperately to get out of.

[@Soulcleansing23]

the phrase "if i'm on the move, no one can catch me" strummed a chord in my body.. I thought I was the only one that felt like this.. your channel is really helping with my transition into a happier life

[@Hirsi4566]

This whole episode deserves at least 3 replays till it gets embedded in ones head. Before this video I already knew Mel Robbins and her 5 second rule and the high five strategy but her view point on manifestation, visualisation and feeling 'stuck' literally answered a years worth of my questions. I now understand why I've been feeling like shit and what I need to do.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Love this, thank you

[@sanntu9617]

YES

[@bilaljahi5364]

Yeah she deep and I felt like my time was spent really well listening to her.

[@now591]

How are you getting on now?

[@Hirsi4566]

@@now591 honestly I feel absolutely great! Been a solid good year of growth and consistency especially towards health and fitness. But I only feel this way because of visualisation and consistency. All I’m saying is that if you want something as bad as you want to breathe than you gotta put in the work EVERYDAY! These motivational speakers that come with strategy just chat bs. Be real with yourself. Find out what you want in life and be delusional confident and put in the work. That’s the only equation that I’ll ever follow

[@pinkdolphintotem]

“ Everybody’s purpose is exactly the same, I think your purpose is to share your true self to be fully seen “ Mel Robbins this really hit me hard. Thank you so much ❤ 1:39:23

[@SEP2922]

That is deep!

[@shanechang2015]

She just taught me more than I've learned in years of therapy for anxiety.

[@privateequityguy]

*19 ways to raise your vibration:* 1. Smile and laugh 2. Do what makes you happy 3. Eat a healthy alkaline diet 4. Working out5. Meditation 6. Let go of a grudge 7. Let go of something not serving you 8. Give to others 9. Retain your s3xual energy 10. Watch encouraging videos 11. Play an instrument 12. Start a garden 13. Spend time around uplifting people 14. Sun gaze 15. Barefoot grounding 16. Speaking positive affirmations 17. Learning to say “no” 18. Gratitude for what’s here and what’s coming 19. Learn to control nail-biting/nail-picking urges For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)

[@annee5582]

I had a brief moment in my life that I finally understood what anxiety attack was. Mel is telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Can’t believe some people live like this.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks for sharing Annee, glad you finally understood it

[@emeraldalice8388]

As someone who suffers from anxiety I got so many game-changing tips from this episode. What a wonderful guest ❤

[@thornyback]

Please have your blood checked for any kind of vitamin, mineral, iron, thyroid, diabetes imbalance - so many physical things will manifest as anxiety or depression. Walking outside in nature for 15 minutes a day has improved my life beyond belief, it's an antidote for vitamin D deficiency

[@mimig6511]

everyone i know suffers from incredible anxiety. we cannot meet as a family or friends due to riggers so we all live very separate lives. Most of us (about 80%) have now stopped working due to our anxiety and afraid of the triggers. It is dreadful. We have gone from a huge family of wonderful get togethers to the last five years of everyone having anxiety and no contact at all.

[@bsp5161]

@@mimig6511goodness…sounds like a lot of people I personally know. I don’t think you are alone, friend.

[@barbtaks4292]

Dear Mel, You've touched me. I've had a similar molesting experience. I came out after it experience and knew if I told my parents about it, I would be blamed for it because that is how my mother always treated me. I relate totally with you. I have been living in fear all of my 71 years of life. FEAR controls me to this day. Now I have the answers. I can now live the rest of my days better. I have spent my life trying to fix me. With you, I have directions to follow now. Thank you.

[@corryjookit7818]

I read your postsnd am hoping you are not so fearful now. I understand your experience , it has been mine too. I am older too. I just wondered if you tried to apply any of the discussipn and if so has it worked for you. Thanks in advance.

[@creativequeen8371]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@creativequeen8371]

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[@anamili1]

same here! and no remembrance until later in late and I felt so ashamed and not protected , was so angry at my mother for not protecting me and even when I told what happened I felt that I was not believed that was my imagination since I do have high IQ and photo memory so how the heck I put this out of my memory for so long and anxiety struggle has been so long Thank you Mel for opening your heart for ours to open

[@trishpoynot3938]

Yeah...meeee, too!!

[@szumsia]

What I love about your podcast is the fact that all your guests enjoy being there with you

[@sbIvanov]

Notes and quotes from this podcast: "Anyone is capable of achieving anything if they put their mind to" "The bigger the problem, the smaller the solutions are. The bigger the dream, the smaller the actions that you need to start taking. " " The window of hesitation defines your whole life, it is about 5 seconds long and that is where anxiety, hesitation and imposter syndrome live" " No Human being is born hating themself, we are wired for love and connection" " Being excited and being nervous are the exact same feeling, but the only difference is what your brain is thinking is happening" " Understanding what is the trigger for the bad feeling is what will help you prevent it" " Your brain learns pattern, which is where you should focus in fixing your patterns"

[@LizzieKristina]

Thankyou for doing this!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙌🏽 thank you simeon, appreciate you

[@sbIvanov]

You are both welcome, it is ny please to do that and to share my takeaways from the podcast. Looking forward to one day see it in person!

[@shrajaldubey7201]

Thank you Simeon, Just added few important lessons in my notes.

[@Gloryguidance]

Thank you

[@rupinderthind3781]

44:00: nervous and excitement same 49:00 kids - butterflies in stomach 52:53 business loss no job - being stuck in life - how you do what u need to do - divine intervention 57:00 - window of hesitation 5 sec rule 5,4,3,2,1. 1:04 Hi five rule

[@manifestationmaven111]

Absolutely loved that part "everyone's purpose is the same.. to be your full self and be seen". Powerful 🔥🔥

[@Sabeenist]

Just Amazing. Mel was so candid and the host allowed her to speak without interrupting her .

[@retired_early]

“The host allowed her to speak without interrupting her.” Steven Bartlett is an absolute GEM and I have no idea why he isn’t a superstar. Best interviewer in history in my opinion.

[@MrKbs56]

Amen!@@retired_early

[@MrKbs56]

Amen!

[@heatherturner5750]

I owe you both a huge debt of gratitude. My daughter has struggled with anxiety/OCD since the age of 3. After watching this podcast, the change in her overnight is beyond mind-blowing. Please continue the work you are doing because the impact it is having...immeasurable!!!

[@kikki2012]

Wow, that is great to hear, thanks for sharing! 🙏🎉💕

[@Lolipop59]

What did she implemented ? Thank you.

[@heatherturner5750]

@dita4911 High-five habit and the 5 second rule

[@Lolipop59]

@@heatherturner5750 thank you

[@mremington8]

i really love Mel, and Stephan is a great host who lets his guest actually talk... great combo

[@Gloryguidance]

This woman is a force to the world to make positive changes.

[@helentuckwell8767]

Holy cow! This has literally been a spiritual and mental awakening for me! I am 45 and have suffered with anxiety, depression and self loathing since a child. I had goosebumps listening to this podcast..... What an amazing human being! Thank you for inspiring me... thank you for helping me and giving me the motivation and the tools to move towards a better tomorrow.

[@angelaaltic7689]

Same here! 💗

[@user-to6jd1nc7m]

Same. Never felt seen as much, my mind actually stopped spinning and paid full attention. I 100% needed to hear this. Ws searching bloody Google for answers for hours and it lead me here.

[@belindaspoor3595]

I have listened to many episodes, this was my favourite so far. Like so many, I have lived the trauma of abuse in my childhood and at 60, I think I may have found someone who will help me process it. Thank you, Mel Robbins, and thank you Steven Bartlett for introducing her to me.

[@grizeldaxxx4568]

I so hear You!!

[@thecuriousprofessor]

"Hard work gets rewarded. It just might not be in the time you think or the way you think." Brilliant! What a fabulous interview! Thank you!

[@annalisafreschini6594]

“You’re one decision from a different life.” This woman is a genius!!! This is the most powerful message! Thank you for this!!!

[@thebandvia]

Tears are streaming down my cheeks. Im listening to you. Wrapping my little girls Christmas gift table-a make believe village-complete with people, music studio + stage, a home, a barn, horses, cows, animals, playgrounds, food trucks, cabins for all of our friends + family while listening to you. Fields full of wild flowers. A forest full of trees. Streams giggling nonstop. Rivers flowing against least resistance. Empowered People. Coming together. Thank you for being here to remind me who I am. Who we are.

[@Kathyaaybeauty]

You are an incredibly good listener and host. Thank you for these videos. You remarks back to Mel are wonderfully insightful. She is so real and so honest. A great mentor.

[@lisamarie4564]

I’m so grateful for these interviews and this channel. I lost my partner this year. We have a child together. This channel and these videos have really helped me when Iv been at my lowest points. I was so shocked by his death and when I lost him, I also lost my whole future and plans. These talks and interviews have really helped me. Thank you ❤ xxx

[@denasharpe2393]

♥

[@darnitthelma4247]

😢💔😘😘😘😘😘

[@muhanadhachem8263]

Steve, I've read your book and watched a lot of episodes of your podcast, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing my life, I was disoriented, lost, not loving myself, and depressed, but you inspired me and changed the way I look into this world forever, THANK YOU.

[@boraxadamlondon]

Great- what book you are referring to?

[@muhanadhachem8263]

@@boraxadamlondon happy sexy millionaire

[@user-vy8jd6rg6w]

Tank u man to see me and now u can help more People im so peoud of persons like u a and dont forget Who is going to love u if u dont leve u sellf I pass true alot to star laven my self and im still not don we have to live day by day 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊

[@user-vy8jd6rg6w]

Tanks to this lady thas the one that make the magic

[@laurataylor7103]

This is one of the best. Thank you! I started the high five this morning. I've started it at least 10 times over the last year and never followed through because I didn't feel anything. Today I felt something. Many important parts of this interview flashed through my mind. And when I finished my high five, I stood staring in the mirror. I saw that my handprint was very clearly there. I apologised to myself, for not being there for me. I was massaging my sore hands as I stood there. I looked down at my hands in the mirror and realized that this is another self affirming action. Soothing and comforting my joints that have gotten me through so much. Seeing that in the mirror really did something for me. It hit home. I was the observer. Observing that person over there, showing themself kindness and working to bring relief. High five is not the only thing that we can do in the mirror. What else? Suggestions?

[@yessumify]

"I am" affirmations

[@musicalbluff]

I remind myself of how amazing I am!

[@sherri-rook0220]

I write notes saying: “I have” it makes me stop and think about what I do have not what I want.

[@sammayo3068]

What a wonderfully vulnerable woman with the strength of a warrior ! Everyone has issues in their lives. Not everyone talks about it. Her honesty gives hope to everyone suffering in silence. Thanks Mel your a God Damn Super Hero x❤

[@karensalter1560]

I've used the "I'm excited" trick for the 3 job interviews I've had over the past decade and it really works, got all 3 positions. The mind is amazing. Great interview.

[@absta100]

being excited instead of nervous is so true. Life is all about your mindset. 🙏🏻

[@stephentrepreneur]

This is helping me become an improved person on so many levels. Love this line at 1:24:58 - "Act Like the Person You Say You Want To Be."

[@monibee1980]

Life changing. This woman is describing my journey to the letter ❤ thank you. I’ve learned so much.

[@mariaburneci5469]

❤Thank you for everything you are sharing!

[@dzihanahajdarpasicmisirlic5347]

I love Mel.. .Such a down to earth person, despite such a success... humble and loving

[@reedygypandme]

Indeed a beautiful soul

[@lucasgallagher8122]

This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it kzbin.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.

[@davidlakhter]

so three habits mentioned so far were: -trick your brain when you're nervous to be excited -the five-second rule -the high five habit -mantras/manifesting don't work unless their unique and tailored

[@susieboothby3487]

Great show- Thank you Stephen! Love you Mel. You have just described my life perfectly-I’m 63 yo and I have really been believing that I’m going crazy. I lost my son in 2020 right as Covid started up. I know I need to speak with a therapist; I don’t recognize myself right now so I’m reaching out. I’m mad & and I can’t do this any longer. I have to have peace. I am feeling like a can of repellant right now. So with the hopeless feeling, I can relate - so many other things you said, and I know in my case you’re exactly right. I already feel my confidence rising. Thank you for opening my ears ,heart & mind. I love listening to you and thank you for the research and the guests you have on your show and you don’t even know, I’m sure how many people you help across the globe even with your tracking service involved. THANK YOU BOTH! I love learning these things!

[@Lifestyle.RN.Coach.Annemarie]

i can relate - i dont recognize myself - i miss the energy, optimism and connections. I need grit, perseverance and looking forward to seeing myself in the mirror, trusting my Creator and Redeemer for each day

[@ppaulapayne]

I’m 71 and have truly enjoyed your videos. Enjoy your travels, openess in your mental journey. This chapter of your life has been beneficial to so many because of your sharing. Please don’t stop. This is your life path what you were born to experience and share. You have always been free you just weren’t aware. Now you are. The process to this to grow and learn was your chosen path. Embrace it and continue sharing. ❤

[@curiousgeorge7073]

Nothing hits like a rocket. Thank you Mel ! And Steven, please keep doing these the way you do them. You have the gift of leading the guest into themselves, and the courage stillness and grace to stay out of their way 👍

[@dopemusic6414]

I would love to see Anthony Joshua on this podcast. I've never seen an interview with AJ where he's really let his guard down and really said how he feels. I think Steven will do a great job and allowing him to be honest.

[@pitwell3026]

Yeah I would like that….would be huge for podcast as well!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Would be a great guest! We're seeing what we can do

[@shanethomson1448]

Couldn't agree more all we ever see is ' stay humble' but we all know that's a marketing ploy

[@feathermen1138]

AJ has let his guard a few times....🤣🤣🤣

[@jenko3917]

On I’ll c Ya kim O

[@CebiGreen]

I have heard of Mel and her 5 seconds rule for a long time, but never listen to her for the almost 2 hours. She is incredible. The last 30 minutes can’t be missed. When she said something like just do what you do, ignore the validation. One day you will be rewarded appropriately, this resonates with me so much. I learned a hard way you have to know where you worth most and be in that environment.

[@user-zj8gn9ol4y]

Absolutely Fantastic! Mel is so inspirational! I grow just listening to her. To you Steven, there isn't a single show you have done that I didn't like. Thanks for the great service you provide us all!

[@Theroses23]

Seriously, I’ve been watching Joe Rogan for years and have never even thought about watching or listening to another podcast... until Stevens. This is really great and I get excited to listen on Monday morning. Well done dude!!! Very inspirational.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙏🏽 thank you amanda that means a lot

[@gemsyification]

This was my favourite. I have watched almost all of your podcasts but this is by FAR my all-time fave. This lady is beyond amazing, so relatable. Every minute of the podcast gave SO much value. Thank you both!

[@geraldinehiggins6963]

It was truly inspirational. Every word was important to me anyway.

[@gillgitsham1976]

I really started having dark thoughts 3 days ago. Im so glad i found this video. Has change how i look.at myself thank you from the bottom of my heart.. love this pod.

[@lornasten3124]

What a relief to finally understand that I am not alone. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@plaisirdelanglais]

This is the deepest interview and video I have ever seen of Mel. There is so much more to her than what floats around the internet. Very refreshing.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you! Good to hear you enjoyed it

[@AV_AllYouNeedIsLove]

Wow! This information is so profound. The human mind is the universe. Mel you are amazing, I literally got chills then started crying when you were talking about your experience of the moment of day two and the anticipation of walking to the bathroom to high five yourself in the mirror. How beautiful🙏🙏Thank you Mel Robbins. Can you imagine our world a few generations from now with this type of self love and positive thinking patterns. So beautiful.❤❤❤

[@Mdubstew]

Loved the episode. At the tail end, she said she partook in guided MDMA ceremonies. As a personal connoisseur and advocate of psychedelics, so much of what Mel pushes (her healing) is a byproduct of those MDMA sessions. I can say with confidence so much of my healing is attributed to MDMA and other psychedelics, and that’s the shortcut ticket to the self love she preaches. To be fully okay with who you are and to accept yourself is the greatest gifts psychedelics have given me. I wish she spoke more on this!!! Love you Mel.

[@AIenthusiast687]

I have never in my life listened to a more life changing podcast in my life, absolutely sensational 😭

[@filizpetrignani3518]

Dear Steve This is the one, unforgettable and healing interview. Thank you.

[@oldfirelady4411]

High Fiving myself in the mirror felt like the weirdest thing to do...but I started to do it. LIFE CHANGING...the simplest thing but so powerful. This was the catalyst for stepping into change and the capacity to move forward after so much trauma and loss. I'm 71 years old - if this can work for me it can work for you! I have been doing this for about 6 months...and I will continue to do this. Thank you so much for this inspiration.

[@dracosrot]

I cannot express enough how important the first part of this interview is. People really need to know that it is up to us as an intelligent race of people to end this kind of thing. I would pay almost any price to have a few hours of to speak with you Mel.

[@Tom_murray89]

I’d just like to say this episode is so helpful for overcoming my anxiety attacks it puts my brain back into neutral.

[@Chris-xb6be]

I have had anxiety for around 4/5 years and put it down to one incident, watching the first 20 minutes has actually completely changed my mind as to what incident started it all for me. Really interesting podcast.

[@MM-yi9zn]

What utterly refreshing enlightenment! Mel is a rare gift to all of us. No one escapes the “alarm” that changes our nervous system & our behaviour.

[@katenicks9772]

Mel, I listened to this podcast as well as so many but this one hit home with me. I have tried my whole life to figure out what is wrong with me. I have lived through abuse and my father committing suicide when I 9. My brain has had an ah ha moment. Thank you Mel. Kati

[@asabentley9174]

Tip: Watch this one all the way to the end. Being "seen" is probably the most profound observation and realisation that I've heard and that we all need to hear. It's had my brain running in at 100mph since. It's a great self-reflection point.

[@anitawilliams22]

This was beyond helpful for me. I felt I had many aha epiphany moments that have lit up what I know and I believe we all know, deep down inside. We all have our own strength inside, given by God. Know that this is true for you ❤🎉

[@ur.p.]

This is the first interview with Mel after which I finally feel like I can understand her point of view on everything in life! Thank you, Steven. You are both amazing! 🙏🏽

[@BasutuEquestrian]

‘Stop looking for validation from old institutions’ ❤ - so great. The heart of a true artist.

[@kellie1473]

i've watched and listened to this episode at least 3 times since it's been out! There's so much healing that happens with your podcast, not just with your speakers but the listeners. Thank You

[@hansonel]

Love Mel and this was indeed my favorite podcast of yours. She has such an amazing backstory and is doing such amazing work in the areas of motivation, trauma, dealing with anxiety and psychology in general.

[@v.loveslaughter1968]

Holy poo Batman, this is awesome! The prospect of refusing to believe that my hard work and dedication won't pay off looks so logical to meright now, it's a no-brainer and a simple high five personal, positive affirmation seems like the natural order of things, like it was waiting for me for mffe all along, a simple key with which to open up the doors to where I'm going next. Today begins with the action of self love, the key that unlocks tomorrow. I rebuke you failure, be gone along with the brokeness of my youth,there's just no room for you here in this new world order.

[@sheilasmith1109]

I LOVE how she can come out on a video, TOTALLY CASUAL and a little bit unkempt 😅! She not only helps us UNDERSTAND our "Human Condition" but make us feel so comfortable it's like we're FRIENDS, sitting on the couch together.

[@rachealpike7986]

Honestly one of the best podcasts I've ever watched!! From one that's healing from anxiety.. I wish everyone the courage to keep going we've got this XXX

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

I'm loving the new feature where you get the guests to leave a question! It's very unique and such a nice touch ✨

[@tamarabella]

Thank you. You’re an amazing interviewer and I love that you let your guests talk without interrupting. Mel is so authentic and so generous with advice. Love her. Life changing

[@isJudgingYou]

I am so grateful for how much better our understanding of trauma is and how much better we’re able to treat it than even a decade ago. This is such a great interview. ❤

[@lauravsthepage]

I feel like I related a lot to what Mel was describing as her response to the traumatic event from her childhood. I have a really delayed panic response. When I get into a scary situation in a car, I don't have that nervous sensation that is being described but instead I go cold. In the case of a car, I do appreciate the extra control this affords me because I am actually really good at defensive driving thanks to this, but it also means I am always stuck dealing with the danger after. I will pull myself out of a scary car situation and then about 5 minutes after the danger passes, I will be hit with all those nervous feelings I didn't feel in the moment, and I do not get the "truck driving away" moment because the truck is long gone.

[@nicolamatthews2993]

Resilience and self care is what I hear with Mel love the honesty she brings to this ❤️

[@donalee2023]

So respectful. Such a great listener/interviewer. You allowed her to unravel and bring forth her vulnerable, beautiful self! Love her genuineness!

[@princesslizzie64]

This is the most inciteful and relatable podcast I have ever listened too and so needed this today! Thank you so much for sharing ❤

[@johnkendale]

Steven… you are genuinely talented and authentic interviewer. These talks go deep under the surface where I feel and we all live.

[@jordanmcgetchin6468]

Man I love these interviews, it’s comforting to here Mel talk about her life and how genuinely genius and curious she is at unraveling the human condition and all the amazing phases we go through from stages of innocence and love to moments of chaos that we simply don’t know how to handle and how we develop a sympathetic nervous system beast and only by learning how to control our nerves, and develop a parasympathetic system of being a calm peaceful tranquil being and allowing your body to come down from that place of heightened awareness and protective flight mode and that by talking about our lives we can almost see a reflective mirror of what’s safe but to overcome that barrier by love and accepting yourself for your base state like how we all were on the first day of elementary school to learning how to unlearn bad habits and dance in the dark and laugh through uncomfortablility even if to just make an exit but those that are maybe desensitized or live with a extremest stoic approach is to find comfort in the uncomfortability so as to know you can make it through anything. And it’s by being on a knowing and faithful frequency that sets your spirit free and losing your mind becomes freeing and in a way transformative and consciousness expanding. you should never go full retard but think for yourselves I love you all peace and prosperity to all you beautiful crazies

[@kellyfallon2499]

I love Mel. I've been watching her for years. A very inspiring lady. Great interview. 👏

[@charmgarland6025]

The video was so profound. I have fought debilitating anxiety for over 20 years and I also am struggling with how I treat/love myself. Mel was very candid and put the feelings in perspective by making it personal. I felt seen without being judged. I needed every gem dropped on this episode. I’m so glad I found it.

[@bonganimathebula5780]

Steven and Mel thank you very much for this interview, I see alot of myself in Mel's struggle with anxiety, I struggle a lot with it, I have so much hope now, thank you

[@Gary-mu1bu]

Mel is a wonderful example & great communicator. She really is a remarkable person

[@heavenlyfelicity]

What a deeply authentic, wonderful human Mel Robbins is. So refreshing.

[@genealthompson5146]

One of the most powerful podcasts I have ever listened to! With Gratitude for introducing this fabulous woman to me.

[@micksumo]

17 minutes in and I can already tell this is gonna be amazing.... what an insightful woman. Listening to Mel in 23 this sums up where I am and where I imagine loads of people are....

[@AnjuliMack]

Within the first 10 minutes I am shocked and cannot wait to learn more about Mel. I am so sorry Mel for all that you had to go through as a child, thank you for opening up and sharing this.

[@denasharpe2393]

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[@fighttips]

"If you dont know how to improve the situation you're in... Google it!" made me laugh, but it's so true. There will be step-by-step instructions to handle any situation. I've always done something similar to the 5 second countdown, but I ALWAYS go on "4". I just did it one day, and got a kick out of the "element of surprise," and it stuck ever since!

[@lvega5606]

I used to think that was true but I got a real doozie of a situation that wasn't on the internet at all. But with that situation, sit down, write down options, do a cost-benefit analysis, choose a route rather than get analysis paralysis, and take action.

[@brittc18]

except when its not about a choice its just how to deal with the impact something has had on you. i also have been "googling the answer to some issues i have" with no results back. so i was actually kind of offended at how easy she thinks some things are to overcome. i say this with severe ptsd and a therapist of many years and still no resolve to some issues. maybe one day ill figure it out-its not me being negative sometimes thats just the reality. @fighttips @@lvega5606

[@katieosullivan1852]

One of my absolute favourites, she's just awesome, humble and so easy to connect with, wow, amazing interview

[@user-fm1ti1du7e]

One of the most incredible talks I have ever seen! What eye-opening and life changing insight from an amazing woman. Mel you are a phenomenal human that is absolutely inspiring!... Thank you.

[@mekdesayene887]

So educational, so deep, so theraputic interview! Thank you!

[@toomylight2311]

Omg ! She’s brilliant! She has just answered all my questions . That therapy never answered . She really gets people . Thank you .

[@magorzatarios6713]

Thank you both Mel and Steve! This episode was so profound and I am grateful for the chance to listen to this interview! 🙏

[@clarelowtoxliving213]

There is nobody like Mel Robbins. Her authenticity and personal development support is amazing and I am so grateful for all she does 🙏🏼

[@shubrakochar453]

Mel this might change my life. Really. Thanks a lot Steven for posting this and getting Mel to the podcast

[@MarthaPopthecherry]

This woman is amazing! Her perspective and her courage to share her personal struggles is so inspiring! I've learned so much from her! #melisalwaysright💜🙌🏼

[@teethenugget]

This was beautiful. Been reflecting on my emotional issues alot lately and seeing how it all stems back to childhood, it really set the tone for every relationship in my life. can’t wait to heal these parts of me

[@sharonqaranivalu5152]

Wow, out of all the videos I've watched, this single video is so powerful. She broke it down when she said just because you have a daunting task doesn't mean that it calls for huge actions on your part. It makes so much sense. I now feel like I can do anything but this time with baby steps until I reach my goal.

[@larryguinee6344]

Mel, I had to pause at 15 minutes to say how spot on and articulate you are with the pattern lock and related issues carried over from childhood. It amazes me how many people are completely unaware of the patterned response they rely on, even though the patterns started at such an early age and certainly don't work as an adult. It also amazes me that most people cannot handle the first step of acknowledging that they are controlled, to a large degree, by the past and the flawed understanding and responses to things that trigger emotions. It did take a fairly recent, horrific situation for me to unravel and process some of the past as well as what I have carried over into my adult life. It seems that, with the changes I've gone through and still going through, it enhanced communication with some but it has also caused distance with older siblings that are highly intelligent but semi trapped by the past.