On the topic of Break Ups and Relationships

Nope, my fiance didnt leave me... yet.
Lots of folks asked me to talk about this topic today, so here it is!
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[@jelaienfinue]

I am talking to this girl on the Internet for like... 4 years now and we just met for the first time yesterday. I've always been VERY shy with girls and I never thought I would be able to tell her I love you, but I did and I was extremely proud of me. I felt great, tall and strong and then she told me today that nothing is ever going to happen between us. She doesn't love me at all and she would have prefered not to know that I love her. I watched this video before, but I watched it again and i'm not even sad now. What you are saying Boogie is true. She basically told me : It's a waste of time and i'm freeing you from this. Thank you Boogie for giving people strenght, courage and knowledge, that's what heroes and great persons are made of. Keep going.

[@yaboirebirthzzz802]

Yea

[@joachimvaara]

You good now?

[@jelaienfinue]

@@joachimvaara I had to come to the realization that I'll never be in a relationship. My love life is at an all time low to the point where it's non existent. I fell more and more bitter, angry and depressed every day. I'll have to learn how to deal with it though, because I have a whole life ahead of me. Thanks for the concern.

[@joachimvaara]

@@jelaienfinue Just go on Tinder, type in your description "Down for anything" and your love life will rocket.

[@jelaienfinue]

@@joachimvaara I spent a total of about 2 years on Tinder and got less than 10 matches. Only about 3 of my matches talked to me and none of them were interested in a date. Tinder is the last thing I'm going to use, it's a complete waste of time.

[@b.o.353]

Didn’t leave you.. yet. . Glad this is still posted. Still rooting for you.

[@Gotham_n_glam]

I always tell people that you need at least one bad relationship before you can truly appreciate a great one. Most people go through several break ups because early on you don't truly know what you want, and it's through all those bad times that you learn to really love a person and make them feel as special as possible.

[@freddiefrankling1360]

Spot on

[@gideona.dunkleyiii699]

FinishHerFilms sounds like a lesbian fem dom porn company 😂😂

[@lonestar6325]

FinishHerFilms can't have one of those relationships if you've never had one

[@spawncap9009]

I aways sucked at relationships. Most of my life very few woman found me "attractive". For those who want your relationship to work (once you get into one) is be yourself. I spent most of my life in my relationships trying to be someone else, or trying to be what "she" wanted. Got older, and wiser, and only found my wife after she met me during my "I don't give a shit" stage where I didn't try being anything but who I am and if they didn't like it "there's the door". Have been married now for over 13 years when before then my relationships never lasted over a month. There's one other reason why my marriage works. I use to always tell the truth to everyone my whole adult life, I found it easier than trying to remember lies and in the long run got into less trouble that way. I wouldn't be rude to people, and if they asked me a question I thought they didn't want to hear the answer to I'd act like I didn't hear them (to be nice). But if they backed me into a corner, I would tell them the truth whether it hurt or not. Soon after I got together with my wife, my wife came up to me and told me "honey, please lie to me" she said "if it is a lie just to protect my feelings then lie". Have been happily married ever since.

[@ihavenoname4139]

telling some ppl to be themselves is some of the worst advice you can give some ppl. what i mean is, it's like telling an abusive person to keep abusing whoever or whatever their abusing. but i'm just saying. sorry if that came out hateful. i'm just trying to give some advice.

[@newalbacore8352]

It hasn't worked out well for me, not a lot of girls are into sweet guys, the few times I've been in a relationship they always ended up leaving me for someone else so idk anymore

[@shawndugan205]

@@newalbacore8352 Girls don’t like nice guys man. That’s the honest truth sadly. It makes you come off as weak pushover and needy. I know this one girl who was always getting abused by her man. He went to prison for drugs and she still loves him. Now she has another boyfriend because she is lonely and needs support until her prison boy gets out. I suffer from being too nice also so don’t feel bad.

[@newalbacore8352]

@@shawndugan205 Thas the only good thing i have going for me tho, that I’m cute

[@TylerRocketPower]

My fiance just left me a few days ago. I just wanted to say thank you for the video boogie. It made me feel a little better.. and that's actually a big step for me since I've been in so much pain. The things you've said in the video make a lot of sense and helped put things in prospective for me. I wish you the best boogie.

[@calmpuffin]

It's been a year and I hope you are doing better man, been there

[@TylerRocketPower]

Thank you! I am. I appreciate your kind comment :)

[@robotraider]

TylerRocketPower dude that sucks, good luck to the future

[@acheron9515]

Same thing happened to me a month ago man it hurts fucking bad

[@TylerRocketPower]

@@acheron9515 you got this, keep your head up. I'm currently in the most caring relationship I've ever been in after losing the person I thought I couldn't live without. I understand the pain, allow yourself to be sad but don't forget to take care of yourself too

[@SuperRaedizzle]

Youre awesome!

[@Boosterisanicecat]

How was this NOT good advice? That was fantastic. Thank you very much, boogie. keep doin ya thing - you're good at it.

[@21undertaker21able]

hey boogie2988 ur an amazing person ! :)

[@21undertaker21able]

Lololol 😂

[@stanmarsh8032]

@@21undertaker21able lol

[@21undertaker21able]

@@stanmarsh8032 I meannnn I did write this 6 years ago lololol how time changes things..😂

[@remedwards8565]

My girlfriend broke up with me recently and told me she wasn't ready for a relationship and turned around and went out with one of my best friends and it really hurt me but your video was reccomended to me and it really helped thank you

[@tanos857]

Rem Edwards I've been through that before and it's a feeling that no one should feel. I hope you found peace, or at least a little of it. She didn't deserve you, it's her loss.

[@99hockey54]

Rem Edwards Hope you feel a bit better now that some time has passed bro god bless.

[@brittanyr9471]

That's literally the best way I have ever heard someone put what breaking up means. That's amazing. Boogie, you're the man.

[@The90sGamingGuy]

I was dumped by my last girl friend the day after Christmas last year. We didn't speak for a few weeks after. We worked together so not speaking to one another at that time was difficult. We went on about four more dates and at one of them my ex gf told me what i did wrong to her and i listened to her very carefully when she told me that so i can work on myself to better myself for my next relationship. I am okay with being single for a while. The best thing someone can do when dealing with a break up is accept the situation especially if the other person was toxic for you e.g. if yall argued and fought about everything and didn't share common beliefs and moral values. If you have a hobby focus on that so you can keep your mind off the break up and pain associated with it. Focus on bettering yourself in your job or career. Channeling those feelings into something else will help out quite a bit. I know because im doing my best to get past a break up.

[@o0julek0o]

Boogie, the problem is that I don't want to let anyone into my life. Everytime I do, I AM the one getting hurt. I'm sick of it.

[@Pwnicus187]

I feel the same way, top hat and monocle wearing Jake. cheers

[@Thequotequotequoteq]

I feelz ya bro... Unfourtunately. I can't even love someone... Heck I can't even try to get to know someone I like without figuring out she will never like me back... I'm just a hot mess and I'm pretty sure everyone would find me better off dead.

[@LiKeBuTTeR]

This is so spot on... You have an old soul boogie. I would explain what that means but I would get called crazy. Keep up the great videos.

[@LuisMejia]

Man, I have to say this: I was judging you before see any of you videos, I was thinking that you could be one of those fat guys that you don't want to talk to. But you are different, you looks like a great guy, great personallity, and a great human. I guess you have a character, like most of youtubers, you talk so sinceraly, that makes me feel like a want to huge you and say you: thanks for being you.

[@LuisMejia]

Harry Stiles Now I know that. I mean, before now the real person, I just knew about Francis character. That's what I meant.

[@cementsteps]

ive been watching this video every day since you put it up. im going through a break up and you showed me how to deal with it in a whole new way, i feel so much better about the situation...

[@karloli9455]

Thank you so much, Boogie. Going through a rough patch with my girlfriend right now. I feel like as if we're both in the final stages of the relationship and teetering on the side of an eventual breakup. Your advice really helps.

[@RazalasTrebla]

I wish every girl gave me a laundry list of things to improve. There were times where I had to beg for that list. most of the time I had to find it myself, and that's hard to do when you are in a lot of emotional pain. Thanks boog! You help me out a lot.

[@bmx687]

Boogie come back to this in your time of need. We are here for you

[@FreezeInfinite]

This is one of the outlooks on relationships I've ever heard. Real advice and a mature outlook.

[@gamingstaples5640]

I have trouble with this. When I had my heart broken by my first girlfriend (who I had a LOT of serious talks with about marriage, plans, etc.), I literally couldn't push myself to be productive in any way for a long time. I flunked a class and dropped two more BOTH of my first semesters of college after being an A student throughout my life. My work ethic tanked, I spent hours upon hours every single day feeling sorry for myself, binging on sad music, avoiding my friends because I just really didn't feel comfortable talking to other people. I'm still recovering. I still have trouble believing that anyone could make me feel as special as she did, and I still have trouble believing that I can ever feel that way again. I have my first job now, and I find myself smiling a lot more than I could for the past year and a half. I'm becoming more outgoing and more mature. All I can hope for is that someone amazing can enter my life. I've dated at least 10 girls since my heartbreak, and they all failed miserably

[@imlovedavepetab3374]

I've never been in a relationship and I'm already getting lots of great advice

[@KotetsuStunting]

Anna M Same :/, girls really aren't in to me

[@jda3comics693]

i was married before for 7 years too i guess im done for awhile im just going to focus on me and my family right now and wait

[@skottbeal]

I recently broke up with my girlfriend, first proper relationship and i’m just absolutely heartbroken. Loved that woman more than life itself. This video helped me so much, Ive watched it over and over and its a great way of thinking and its helping me move forward. Thankyou Boogie

[@XYtoTheDoubleG]

Going through all your old videos and really find them helpful! We really care about you Boogie!

[@FridaFergianni]

You should write a book! Your videos made my day!

[@Alterrius]

Boogie you're a great guy.

[@Bassface95]

The hard cuts at the end of these more heartfelt videos are perfect.

[@Hwyadylaw]

I love the way your videos end (and begin), no in/outro. It's simple and gives you space to absorb your message ;)

[@trippy5519]

That description is a nice foreshadow

[@kayjay1196]

I was just dumped two months ago.. We were together almost 18 months. It's so hard.. He is in a class with me and it's so hard to act like I don't notice him.. I miss him so much.. The reason we broke up was because I didn't trust him on something he used to do.. Now I keep thinking that I need to go out and do that thing to show him that I'm okay with it so that he will want me back.. I would abandon all my morals if it meant he would love me again.. I can't do this.

[@ChuloInYourCulo]

Yea abandon morals for ONE GUY. Because that always works out right?

[@kayjay1196]

ChuloInYourCulo He is way more than just a guy to me. And I didn't abandon my morals, because I knew he wouldn't want me to do that.

[@davidtata4866]

kayjay1196 (Y)

[@kayjay1196]

Christopher Petrovic ?

[@davidtata4866]

(Y) = thumbs up. Or at least i thought it would :P. (Y)=yes (N)=No Im guessing you never used msn messenger back in the day. What ever happened to you and your bf?

[@travterr6551]

u really helped me out with this...going through a bad break up..really loved her..but the last couple days ive been hittin the gym..being kinder and trying to stay positive fueling off of the pain..changing overall for the better for whenever mrs right does come along :)

[@Nathan_Zheng]

This is so much better than your newer videos. Please post more advise on life, going through a rough patch in life.

[@blackheartgamingonline]

This video speaks to my soul.. Thanks *****

[@hopelessclown]

That feeling when you realize you're more like Francis than Boogie...

[@Macasaur]

I just had a break after three years and you brought me to tears boogie, thank you. You my man... Are the man.

[@ImNeosz]

You are a fantastic person, time after time I can relate and understand most of what you've been through, one touching story after the other and I just love them, you are a great inspiritional source!

[@iamp0ptart952]

Feel like I'm always gonna be alone and idk why..

[@JudgeBane]

This caught my eye because I broke up with my girlfriend of six years almost four months ago. Still think about her everyday, even though I know we're not for each other.

[@purplepills3]

fuck man, this hits so close to home, the feels

[@JudgeBane]

+purplepills3 Sorry.

[@purplepills3]

+Doctor Bane no, dont say sorry. you'll stop thinking about her one day and we'll both be okay not now, but in the future

[@JudgeBane]

+purplepills3 Yeah, still really annoying though. Don't even love her anymore.

[@tonidjakic]

8 months later and I am still in shit because of her. This was very inspiring. Thank you bro

[@tomperegrin1558]

I'm a huge fan of you and I really loved this video! I recently went through one those and I have been trying hard to better myself from it. Keep doing what you're doing boogie you inspire a lot of people.

[@ColeMcCormackMovies]

Thank you so much Boogie! My girlfriend broke up with me and I was beyond depressed. I didn't even speak for two days. I briefly quit KZbin and filmmaking. I saw this vid and I improved myself. I made the laundry list. We got back together last Saturday on my birthday (10/24). We have been happy ever since. If it wasn't for you I would still be sad and depressed without any motivation.

[@vathican887]

+CSM Productions nice story. 5/5

[@sirderpington7704]

here is the thing. I dated seriously 5 times. And I dated someone for 3 years on and off. and it was like sinking into a pot of venomous honey. I hated her and loved her and could not give up and she did the same. and in the end I just felt burned out and gived up. And what I learned it was bad investment. my work was suffering my study was suffering and I will not do that again. besides I seen my dad and mom fight most everyday I grew up. No way in hell I would turn into him or be in that. NOT A CHANCE IN HELL.

[@AllThreeWitches]

The part you mentioned about submerging yourself in a video game really stood out to me. I too do that exac same thing; everytime I hit a point in life where I'm severely depressed, I disapear into a video game for months. Just one game everyday, distracting me.

[@StevenRecknagelMusic]

I needed this.. just had a bad break up. have been really really down for a little over a month now. You gave me a new good way to view things :)

[@tpolarbeart]

Dude you seem pretty cool, I would totally want to be your friend

[@disabledchode4452]

I miss this boogie

[@Argman50693]

Honestly, this is one of the best videos i've seen in a while. Very strong message and I completely agree with your advice. I'm going through a recent breakup, and my mindset on how to handle it completely corresponds to the statements in this video. Thanks buddy, and thanks for giving us lonely people a positive and hopeful message.

[@henshooten]

taking from a starwars saying "the wisdom is strong in this one" , Boogie you are a very noble and wise person, ill admit I suffer severe anxiety and a few months ago hit my lowest when my wife and I lost a baby, you have honestly helped me to take step by step back up the ladder . every day I strive, I strive to do better not just for myself but for every person around me, I wont lie and say it gets easier, because it doesnt, but I will be truthful in saying it makes me stronger thanks mate

[@jonf5620]

I'm a loser and no girl would care to love me. Whenever I get close, they stop talking to me. Luckily, these types of videos, especially boogies videos help because he's been thru definite shit and knows what he's talking about.

[@hotrod271ftw]

Jon F not the only one, I abosultely hate Valentine's Day

[@kubinho2957]

Me too

[@mekonggiantcatfish202]

never had a girlfriend

[@Thecowofmanycheeses]

join the shitty club

[@dmassou7699]

Harry DiCaprio damn sorry about that man. one will come along soon just keep wishing and be confident in yourself. being yourself and a boost in confidence will get you any girl you want!

[@jasminehetherington158]

I love your wisdom and honesty. Best inspirational speaker I’ve ever listened to.

[@MrHaywardSon]

Boogie, your videos have helped me so much over the past months, without them idk where i would be right now. You've given me the best advice anyone could give, and for that, i thank you kind sir.

[@taylorroarkpayton]

This aged poorly

[@kieranmoore159]

Please stop calling him fat he is cool

[@suki3275]

thank you so much! i made the mistake of getting into a relationship with someone i liked a lot 5 months after a very difficult breakup (me and my ex were together 3 years). 5 months may seem like a long time but i really did love my ex a lot and the hurt still carried on. i can feel that hurt carry on into my new relationship. this video really lifted my spirits though. your right, we did ourselves a huge favor splitting up. keeping what you said in mind will really help me move on the way i should

[@APVHD]

I rewatch these videos of "storytime" to remind me of life, it's journey, struggles, ups and downs. I know that the struggle is just a part of life and if it weren't for these videos I'm not sure I would be who I am today. Thank you boogie. If you see this.

[@gnizz0021]

lol, am i the only one girl that actually thinks hes really good looking?

[@gutts4208]

Second time for me, 6 months and going strong! I am so lucky to have her

[@Laserwulf]

Thank you. Your unique perspective on this topic really helps right when I need it.

[@laylie4]

You're such a strong person. Im sorry you have to deal with such crappy people who don't take the time to listen to you and see how much they can learn from you. You are incredibly wise and I got more out of your KZbin video than I have ever received from my years on KZbin. Ill pray you go far in life because the world truly needs more ppl like you. Everything you said spoke volumes and I truly thank you for continuing to make videos and do what you love. Love you dearly! God bless:)

[@czarinap]

These are some excellent words of wisdom. Your experience has really taught you a lot and I love that you used this knowledge to get you where you are today. I think this is a fantastic way to look at break ups. Great attitude!

[@rzillaVEVO]

just went through a horrible break up. thanks for this video, it does give me a little more hope.

[@tatertot3819]

I absolutely LOVE your videos. there is a lot of real shit you say and bring up. Thanks for the videos man, keep em up

[@tastychicken5824]

Boogie came to my rescue again. Seriously ex gave me a poke and just felt like my world was ending again. Boogie you're very, very smart. Listening to you really helped me feel better and see sense again.

[@hoskinsmc]

Boogie, you're a complete inspiration. I love listening to you speak. I've recently suffered a terrible breakup due to some shitty mistakes I made... but what you've said here has inspired me. Thank you, bro. I'll take all of this to heart. :)

[@GMthunderbreak]

You are right, when I'm in trouble, and I mean depression tier trouble I resort to learning things. Whether it's to just simply learn about animals, about places, or about behaviors. The one thing that beats everything else, is history. When I'm mentally compromised, learning history really gave me perspective. I learn that mistakes, troubles, people I deal with had been dealt with countless times by people in history. It gives me tools to deal with life. And shown me how insignificant my problems, and myself is.

[@KidsWithGuns1992]

So thing is with relationships is a lot of people learn in one way or another that they are worthless if they are not with someone. See - the old unmarried woman, the person who moves out alone, the man who comes to a wedding without a date, etc etc. Fact is, everyone wants a relationship - sure. But to ever have a good one you need to learn that it is just a part of your life - icing on the cake if you will - but it is not your whole life or equation of self worth. If you break up with someone it sucks, but you need to feel confident you could live alone and independently at any time in your life, otherwise you are not free - and you are doing yourself a great injustice.

[@Justirius]

Very Very inspiring Boogie. When you let out your feelings like this, it helps others, including myself see the positive side of life, and how to fight those down times of a breakup.

[@devincarroll9490]

Thank you....really, thank you. I've been having depression problems because of a relationship and you've summed it up perfectly. Video games for distractions, pain, etc. y

[@echdareez]

Watched a lot of these motivational videos the last couple of months (same problem : I'm a social guy but I seem to be having problems with finding new friends and maintaining a relationship) but didn't expect that I would find comfort from a co-gamer/geek/nerd. Thanks Boogie, highly unexpected but sincerely appreciated! Favorited, thumbed and liked :-)

[@borgCube100]

Best tip for being in a relationship - Don't. People are scary. Trusting is scary. Pizza loves you. Always.

[@DrinkMorBleach]

Damn boogie you really know what to say about thing. I appreciate all the hard you put into this channel, and thank you for reminding me of how one person can make a difference in the lives of many. You truly are special and we love you!

[@XPLOSIVization]

The last break up made me not be able to do anything i couldn't eat sleep or think, i could play my favourite games for about 10mins before i became a sobbing mess staring into the nothingness then ended up watching how to get over a breakup and a broken heart videos for hours on end, i guess i was trying to put it all together in my head of what id had over the last year and how it all ended in a couple of seconds, The truth is no one is designed to be owned by anyone and being in a relationship still doesnt make us own that other person, imo its all a sharing process and respecting each other through to the end

[@southmcwow]

Boogie, I love watching your videos like this. I just feel everything you have to say is so insightful.

[@santermens23]

This is one of those perfect examples that every thing is possible,keep doing what you do man

[@DamanyWilliams]

This guy is a genuinely awesome dude. I've only just found him..and damn, if I don't feel like he has always been by my side and just bro'ing it up. Thank you, for being such a great guy.

[@ryanbashaw4513]

That's good man, you're right. I do keep learning from each relationship. My last lesson was to watch my anger.... sorry out there^

[@TheDoctaJS]

Definitely some of the most insightful and healthy advice about breakups that I have ever heard. I just got out of a 3 year relationship and I have the same mindset you talked about here after doing a lot of thinking but I still couldn't have said it better then you did. Much respect Boogie, you're a good person.

[@fresh876]

Boogie you speak the trust and we all respect you for that! This video has makes me feel much better about everything in life that is sad and depressing, things that hurt us will always go away and become something that will help you in the future

[@Marcorix2010]

I'm glad to here you've had those experiences boogie we can all clearly see why someone would want to be with you. Your personality really shines im sure many people would love to have your time and affection. Physically im fine and am fairly comfortable in my own skin particularly in the last year or so yet ive never had any kind of relashionship. Mainly because of severe social anxiety that's plagued me since i was a child and never going out being trapped inside.

[@omnivoid8963]

Such wisdom. I've never met a person with a perspective quite like yours. Thank you Boogie. =)

[@Saintofkillers85]

Thank you for this video. I can relate to a big lot of things you speak of here.

[@dukechewsmygum]

This is one of my favorite videos..It really helps me be optimistic

[@RoelfvanderMerwe]

I just went through a bad break up and everything you said makes sense. Love u boogie

[@uhavemooface]

I have been with my fiance for five years now. I have found my soul mate we will stay together for life. That is our goal. If we do fight or argue about something we try to just let things go. We don't waste away in the matter. We just let things subside and we allow ourselves to learn from the experience. If we didn't we would be miserable and keep going at each others throats. Awesome topic and video. Thanks.

[@DaisyExposer]

You're very inspirational Boogie. I love your serious vlogs. My 3rd relationship was the charm for me. We'll be married 30 yrs. in Dec., together 32. We married young - 21 & 20. I say that is young because most people still don't know what they're doing in life at that age. They are more mature in their late 20s and settled down with a career job, their own place, finished school, etc. We've been thru alot. Communication and respect are the keys to a long loving relationship.

[@allilh]

Well said. Thank you for taking time to care about others enough to share your awesome wisdom. It's weird when someone else says things how it finally makes sense. :)

[@roop298]

'the decency to beak my heart'.. never really looked at it that way before. Nice one.

[@spencerreynolds7233]

Boogie watching these vids makes me think if girls just break up with you your not with the right girl the girl you have now I hope y'all live happy with each other stay strong have fun with your life respect

[@PhysicalKontact]

Boogie, i love every single one of your videos, whether it's Francis or REAL you! i love every second! your voice is so calming and peaceful, you're genuinely like the father i never had. please keep making more advice videos, the love of my life left me last year, and i still haven't gotten over it, but your voice and words have made me feel just that little bit happier. so for that, i thank you

[@dredgenyorsrose4613]

I was recently broken up with, about 3 weeks ago almost 4. I've been finding it extremely difficult to cope with the heartache. When I was victim of a woman's insecurities and wild imagination. Being accused of something I would never ever think of doing is beyond heartbreaking. Being accused of being a low scum cheater when I know from the bottom of my heart, I never did wrong by my woman. It's devastating. I can't seem to hide the pain. I can pretend. But that's the thing about pretending. When you're on your own. You're only fooling yourself. Thanks boogie!

[@NortheastLure]

This video couldn't have come out at a better time, thank you dude you helped me see things differently

[@mknicley65]

Ive dated ALOT of girls. Even though I still am horrible in a relationship due to the model I had. I thought I knew it all and gave good advice on it. I recently decided to try and settle with a girl. She had gotten out of a really bad relationship and jumped into one with me. I thought for once in my life I am going to give this girl everything of me 100%. I did and it blew up in my face and I am still heartbroken. I have heard alot of advice and have to say this really made me think. Thanks.

[@Monsiemage]

I was in a four year relationship, and I got broke up with. We were a couple that everyone thought would be together forever, we never really fought, and that's a horrible thing. I'm not saying that you should fight all the time, that's just as un-healthy. You want a girl that can yell at you, and tell you when she doesn't feel right about something, that's good, but you both have to be able to get over fights very easily too. I was doing a lot of things wrong that I didn't even know, I understand now why she didn't tell me, she would always find the worst point in time to bring something I did wrong up, when I was already angry about something or up-set. I should had been more willing to listen even though I was already upset, but the best thing you can find, and I KNOW it doesn't seem like it, is a girl that can tell you what you are doing wrong. I thought everything was fine, until the night I got broke up with, our relationship wasn't the best, but I never even knew she was un-happy, because she never communicated that she was un-happy. It's just a learning process, and the wrong thing to do is to lock yourself up and not show any emotion because you feel like everyone is only out there to hurt you. I blocked off my emotions in the relationship something I didn't even realize I had done. I really doubt the next girl I meet will be "The one" but that's life, relationships are just something that you learn from just like boogy said, after a long while you will find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with, after I got broke up with I laid in bed the first two days, then I just hung out with friends after that, worked out more, I used all that negative energy for positive things, and It helped. I've been single now four about four months, and I'm perfectly willing to give my heart to someone else, you have to, you will be happier in the long run if you don't cut off all emotion. Yeah you can get burned and heart broken like I did, but eventually it will pay off, and locking away your emotions turns people away from you.

[@Codydecker114]

U touch peoples hearts the way u use words thank you for being there for us

[@AdonisOuranios]

Boogie, I've been struggling with my relationships for the past several years now. I'm gay, and I've been in many, but all lasted no longer than a month and many, looking back now, seemed too sexual. I've been trying to search for what was wrong as sometimes they would never tell me the reason, or the "real" reason, and it's been incredibly hurtful and sorrowful. You've reminded me that I just need to keep my chin up and improve on myself, and I thank you for making me smile.

[@12Alltimehigh]

Thank you so much Boogie you have really helped me going threw a hard time at this moment thank you man !

[@mrcrumpet001]

I liked the "learn to be a better you" and your introspective thoughts - its more than easy to pretend to yourself that there is something insidiously wrong with you and tell yourself that you are a bad person or people are bad to you rather than face the 'real' you inside yourself where the answer is already waiting for you to accept it with compassion towards yourself :)

[@Hensley_]

It's just as easy to do it. All you need is the right mindset, don't look down on yourself! Everyone has some good qualities, focus on them instead of the bad ones. Try to be confident, you are an amazing dude and you will find someone sooner or later. You just gotta believe in yourself!

[@Klawtika]

Wow. That was very insightful. I never thought something you would post would bring tears to my eyes. Ty. 3