One Year of Fly Lady | My SECRETS to Success with FlyLady

After one year of filming Fly Lady, and many years of using the flylady system, here is what I have learned. I tried and failed the flylady cleaning system several times before finally sticking to FlyLady's Baby Steps (Free Baby Steps Tracker Printable: witty-knitter-... ) and truly committing to the system. Honestly, the Baby Steps were the biggest hurdle for me because I did not think it was necessary. The thing that you learn from FlyLady's baby steps is repetition, intentionality, and daily routines. Skipping the FlyLady Baby Steps may get the house clean faster but the lessons you need to keep it tidy for the long run are just not there.
Flylady's Daily Focus also helped me to see the value in planning my work, my menus, and setting myself up for future success. I loved planning before but I see it in a home management tool as well as to help me keep life in balance.
The biggest takeaway to following the FlyLady System for well over a year and filming for one year, is the change that it has made in my confidence. I no longer believe anyone is "just a tidy person". I think some people are not taught how to set up systems for cleaning success. Once the lightbulb goes off, it all gets significantly easier to keep clean!
One other happy accident is connecting with others about the FlyLady and growing true and lasting friendships. While we started out talking about the struggles with FlyLady, we now talk about most anything that is home and family and lifestyle.
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[@TodaywithTerriK]

If you are struggling with the FlyLady system, I strongly recommend picking up a free Baby Step Tracker at my blog todaywithterrik.com and walking through it. It was so frustrating but it truly changed my life. If you've been doing FlyLady for a while, drop a comment and tell me how long and what YOU have learned! Our experience helps new fly babies feel seen and heard during their struggles! Have you found a miracle yet? 😆 A special thanks to all of you guys who are praying for us and supporting us during this transition period. I am moved to tears by the love and support I get to see firsthand. How can I be that for you? What do you need? Praise Report: We just got home from a 3-day work trip for the hubs (nothing fabulous) and I was able to deep dive into designing my new planner! I have been wanting to do this for years and did not think I could ever figure it all out. Praise God, all of the crazy trials that I have faced in making this channel, learning all of the stuff, and personal trials have all combined to give me the drive to push past fear and just do it. I am excited and hopeful that it will be helpful. Please let me know if you are a digital planner. I need beta testers! Please continue to pray for my Mom who is in a season of struggle. Please bring Godly friends into her life.

[@user-yk1hn2zx2b]

I’m so thankful for you! I just subscribed. You made my day better when I stumbled on your channel this morning. I know you will be inspiring me going forward. I’m a busy mom with kids who have special needs. I feel like a tornado is going in around me daily. Thanks for grounding me. God bless you. ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I’m so happy to make things a little lighter. How did you find me?

[@Ch6rlotte]

This video made me start again after not being able to keep up with it. Thank you! I will come back to this video when i need the motivation to start again.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You got this! It’s a big concept and you will like it more when you make it work for you. If I can help in any way, shoot me a message!

[@maureenbullis1805]

I have customized the app to include changing filters, watering plants, etc. I don’t use her cleaning list because my house is usually pretty clean because if I see a mess I clean it. I laugh about her decluttering because I don’t allow any of that nonsense in my house. I have been doing her system for about 15 years and that is why. It works!!!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Congrats on getting things under control and working. More people need to hear that it truly works but you have to work it!

[@macyriddle2895]

So happy I came across your channel tonight! I’m 25 years old (no kids yet but I have 3 cats) and my husband and I have been discussing the possibility of me staying at home full-time to take care of the house within the next few years. I fell victim to the “women will rule the world and don’t need men!” ideals from my generation and it was detrimental to my marriage and my mental health. Over the last year I have made strides in relearning (through God) my true purpose in this life and to fully love who God intended me to be as a woman and as a wife. So excited to start learning from you and others and to become the best homemaker for me and my family! ❤️❤️❤️

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I’m no expert but I truly feel like getting out of the rat race and focusing on my home & family has been a gift from God!

[@macyriddle2895]

@@TodaywithTerriK I completely agree! I’m so lucky to have such inspiring women to look up to such as yourself! Most women my age don’t seem to get it… God will show them the way! 🫶🏻

[@lounaannajung4454]

@@macyriddle2895 I'm 27 years old and got married about a month ago. I'm currently not working although I graduated as a medical doctor but my husband and I don't really plan for me to stay at home. Although if I had to be honest I'd say that I'd love to. But I want to do right with my newly founded family and start on the right foot. I'll find ways to deal with other challenges later when they come up.

[@mwgrover]

Just make sure he ALWAYS carries adequate life insurance - my husband passed from cancer and his medical and life insurance lapsed when he was originally diagnosed. I carried it through my employer and had been laid off when that journey started, so there was a huge financial struggle once he died a year later. Trust me, there's not much worse than losing a spouse, but it's so much harder to grieve when you're worried about feeding your kids and keeping a roof over your heads. I would have been in a world of hurt if I'd been a SAHM with no employment history and no life insurance as a buffer.

[@genxx2724]

I don’t understand why a woman who has that “women will rule the world and don’t need men” attitude would even date or get married.

[@bouchralchkar8884]

I'm happy with your comment, darling. I'm in the first week of my Fly Lady routine, but idealism exhausts me and I get distracted. I have a question while working on my daily Fly Lady routine from the beginning. Should I leave the house in a mess? Just work on my Fly Lady routine. Thank you.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

According to the FlyLady, yes. Now, I realize that this is really hard so my advice is to put all your efforts into the routines and if you have extra energy later in the day you can work on other things. BUT...the routines are the absolute non-negotiables. You cannot skip them no matter what.

[@michellesimpson4125]

Thank you!! For being so brutal honest.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Always! I know I want the girlfriend's version, not the sales pitch. I try to be that person.

[@KathrineJKozachok]

I never saw your channel before but; being able to identify with most of what you said, I can tell you that this is some solid, honest, good advice! God bless you, and thank you for sharing this with us. 💟✝💟

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you so much for spending time with me and leaving me such a great comment. What are your favorite channels right now?

[@cindylouwho34]

So much of what your saying, I can relate to. I have ADHD as well, and I feel so much of the internal struggle you talk about. ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Cindy, I feel like there are enough “normal” channels out there but I don’t see myself in them. I’m really glad you can relate and feel seen!

[@emmer54321]

Who else needed that tough love talk 🙋🏼‍♀️!!! Girl you called me out and I needed that!!!! This is the first video of yours I’ve ever seen and I found it because I am completely overwhelmed as a SAHM with a messy house I feel like I’m failing my family and children because I can’t keep house, yet I spend hours numbing my ‘pain’ with social media. But today I said enough is enough and I put on this video to learn the fly lady system and started washing my piles of dishes. I cannot wait to see what I am capable of. Thank you ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I am super excited to help! After a traumatic divorce I was raising 2 kids alone. I truly felt like the worst mom and adult ever with my poor homemaking and low self esteem. The FlyLady truly was a blessing to find and over the years it has helped me step into who I really am. I will never be one of "those homemakers" that has it all perfectly together, slow living, and calm because it just is not my nature but I am content with my level of homemaking. My prayer is that I can help you find that as well!

[@estherj.walker8658]

Following you now! I absolutely LOVE Fly Lady...she is sweet, truly Christian, and just gives me the feeling of having a friend/mentor I deeply desire. I also am so overwhelmed with the website... I maybe need the app! ADHD as an adult is tough...but I think she has encouraged me enough to continue...and you are streamlining the details for me thank you!! You are speaking to heart....and I came back to add this. I immediately felt understood and supported when you started saying stop making excuses and then you said you also have ADHD. You have been helping just by saying the TRUTH. Thank you thank you thank you ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

💃 That's me doing the happy dance. I truly struggled with accepting myself and making things work for a long time but FINALLY, it started to click. I never want ANYONE to feel alone in that place. So happy we connected. BTW, if you want to connect more, check out the FB group in the description!

[@carolpena5838]

I can identify with all your obstacles and solutions. I had the same experience that you did. I really felt so broken like why can I just follow a routine. Flylady was hard to follow but once I decided to stick to the process is so liberating.Thank you for your honesty dear sister in Christ!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

We need to let new FlyBabies know it takes time and not to give up.

[@jessatlife]

I’m not religious (though I’m spiritual, nonetheless!), yet I really think you’re a blessing. Thank you for your transparency, and for being vulnerable by sharing your journey with us on this platform. I started FlyLady back in July, and while I’m still not there with the decluttering habit or the zone cleaning, it has changed my life already. There are still many days when I feel the resistance building up, and I want to give up and go to bed without finishing my routine; but as you said, thinking forward to what I know these routines are going to save me in terms of stress and overwhelm, that’s usually what gets me back on my feet. Your channel has been a huge part of this success, as well. I love the FlyLady, and I see her lives on KZbin sometimes, but she can be difficult to listen to at times. Your content and experiences that you share, such as the fact that you’re ADHD, are far more relatable to me. :) I’m also ADHD-as well as autistic! I strongly believe that laziness does not exist. Laziness is a concept that is too charged with negative moral value, and people who are deemed lazy are often shamed, sometimes to literal death. I do believe in challenges with executive function, chronic illness, burnout, limited support systems, and the list could go on. We all need support and encouragement, and we find that through community, art, faith… Which is why I’m glad you brought up the importance of finding community with people who are in a similar place as you, trying to achieve something in common. Anyway, I’m getting rambly in the comments, now. :) If I would add one more thing, it’s that the most important thing I’ve learned from FlyLady, from reading her book Sink Reflections, is that taking care of your home is an act of love-of SELF LOVE, of all things. And that’s my main takeaway. Thank you Terri for this wonderful pep talk! 💕

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I never start out thinking I am going to get emotional but when I get real I am moved by how grateful I am that I found the FlyLady and God pushed me into doing KZbin. I felt so alone and so low and the small consistency that FlyLady teaches truly changed me. She drives me crazy sometimes but I will always love her for giving me the tools to finally take control over my own chaos. I don't care what plan you chose, I just want to pay it forward and help as many lost souls find their path as I can. Thank you for rambling with me. You get me and that is the best gift you could give! That is exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

[@hverdagslykke1897]

Thank you for the motivation! ✨ I have adhd and autism and housework can be so stressful and overwhelming, especially with 3 kids that makes messes all day everyday 😅 slowly but surely making progress to make the maintenance easier ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

My ADHD freezes me because I am overwhelmed by where to start but I am doing so much better now that the mess is less. It gets triggered when things get too out of control.

[@geepind9442]

I loved this so much. This may sound like the craziest thing ever, but I clean houses every single day for a living, and I do a really good job. I've done this for 24 years. When I get home the last thing I want to do is clean my house. It's the hardest thing ever to get started, and to think I have to do this all over again even though I want my house to be beautiful. It's not that I don't know how, it's at the motivation when you're tired because you've been cleaning all day is just not there. My house is not crazy awful, but I don't have a system, and I end up cleaning for hours and hours every weekend once it really starts bothering me. I love that you included a prayer at the end. Thank you so much. I'm going to dive deeper into your channel, and see what I can learn.☺️

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you so much for watching. I’m sure you could teach me soo much! Be sure to add ideas or tips anytime.

[@TheKatelinn]

This is similar to me, I work as a carer and do dishes, laundry, vacuum etc daily to keep other people's houses clean and tidy I am tired and don't want to clean even more when I get home. I do need to do a better job at home, so trying flylady once again.

[@lilalavendel3951]

Oh my goodness...I am overwhelmed with your sweet and wise kind to talk about MY struggle❤. I am 56, married, two adult kids (one at home) and two cats. We are living in a house with garden and unfortunatley I have to go to work for half time, because we need the money for our retirery in 9 years. I tried the FlyLady system so many times and never sticked to it. I read her book 4 times and it sounds so easy. BUT it drives me crazy when my home is cluttered, when I don't know what to cook, when to go shopping and so on. I need a plan. I always thought I can get a plan from others and use it for my situation, but that was wrong. I have to make my own plan. You cannot imagine what your words, your video today makes with me, really❤. I don't have Facebook, but to know there is a group with women who are talking the same speach would be great. I don't have anyone to talk to about my cleaning problems. I don't have a real best friend anyway. Never had it. I stopped looking for it, too. So I will listen to you and learn from you....of course while I tidy up. I thank you thousand times for this video and your prayer🙏❤! Greetings from Germany from Sabrina

[@TodaywithTerriK]

We have so much in common it sounds like. I am happy that my videos are helping. You are not alone. What I’m finding is there are so many of us feeling overwhelmed and isolated. My hope is that you feel like you are chatting with friends when you listen to videos and comment.

[@coffeelovingqueen4122]

Thank you Terri for your inspiring words, and for your message. I was so moved by your own uncertainties, as to me you are an example and a friend, and a very wise lady. A big friendly hug to you 🌷 🇳🇱 🧡

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I am feeling empty today--up too late editing this video--so a big hug is exactly what I need. Thank you!

[@amyoppenheim2711]

You just rocked my world! Just downloaded the app! I am starting today!!!❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Yay! I am here for whatever you need. I have a full video on how to customize the app when you get to that point. Message me @todaywithterrik on any social and I will answer any questions! Congrats!!!

[@beckyboo1433]

Thank you so much for this 😌❤️ It was just what I needed to hear tonight. Everything you said resonates with me ❤️

[@TodaywithTerriK]

That is the very best part of this, God can send you a video I made a while ago just when you need it!

[@bouchralchkar8884]

Hello, I am new to the Fly Lady routine. I suffer from years of movement disorder. It is very painful and I am distracted. I am really tired all day and I clean the house every day. I blame myself because the house is in a state of chaos and I cannot catch up. I lost charity because of the issue of cleaning. I really need help because I do not know Where do I start and I can't find the English language? Sorry if there are mistakes, just let the translator. I loved you and felt comfortable for you. I don't know why, but I felt comfortable writing to you. I suffer so much.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I hate that you are in pain and struggling. Starting today try this. 1. No new messes. That means you wash any dishes you mess up and put them away. 2. Keep trash in the trash can and don’t let it lay around. 3. Anytime you get up, take 2 min to tidy the area your in if you can-it’s fine to sit to do this. You will not see immediate results but by the end of the week you could have the area around your chair tidy, the sink clean, and no new messes to deal with. Don’t focus on all that is wrong. Really just live 2 min at a time, look at the progress you can make in 2 minutes. Don’t try to get up and down. Deal with trash and things you can get rid of first. That will help I think. Really work on your mindset. 1% better every day. A win can be just a clean sink or seeing the top of an end table. I’m here to chat anytime!

[@bouchralchkar8884]

@@TodaywithTerriK Sorry, Google translation is cumbersome, I'm moving

[@rettpanda6203]

The yard sale part....been saving for a period of years to have yard sale. Did it this past weekend. And made just shy of $200. And I have tons and tons and tons of stuff left over.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Sadly that seems to always be the case. Congrats on $200 though.

[@AnnellGibson-qg8cp]

You don’t have to use a system. I have created myself a chore chart similar to my daughter’s.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I agree. I didn’t even know where to start so flylady helped me get a good foundation started.

[@lauracragun]

New to your channel! What an amazing video full of heart! ❤️ I have just started with Flylady, and I am so excited. However, I do get down. When I was sitting in the temple yesterday, (I am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) I was praying and trying to ask God to have my cleaning not be such a problem anymore, and bring it to the point where I can do it efficiently. And Then go on and serve my family and others better. He has helped me in the past for my dieting and body image and I am now complete intuitive eater and happy with myself and it is not a stressor anymore. It took years but it was a miracle. that same thing I know can happen for the cleaning. God builds us one step at a time into a new creature through our savior! Thank you so much for the steps, and I love your personality!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you for a beautiful post. It is such a wonderful reminder that even the small things can be turned over to Him to work out according to His will. Happy Thanksgiving 🦃

[@lauracragun]

@@TodaywithTerriKthank you! You too! ❤️

[@Jules-740]

I think you are right about the importance of following her baby steps. However I strongly disagree that all HER baby steps must be followed. I think the MOST important thing is BABY STEPS periodt! What I mean is the principle of baby steps is of the utmost importance and critical and the TRUST in it. I will say that 2 or 3 of the baby steps are a good anchor point starting point that will lay the foundation are SHINY SINK/ DISHES. Checking the website is useless to me and total waste of time. Dressing and looking nice and ready for the day, am & pm routines. Those are critical. There are many other baby steps of hers that can be helpful to some but useless and unecessary to others. Her system is amazing but you can customize and choose what is needed and throw out what you dont need.

[@Jules-740]

Baby steps = 1-2 small habits. And being consistent and slowly building upon that foundation. BABY STEPS = HABITS. Habits are the building blocks of success or failure. Good habits will help you get what you want out of life.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I agree. I think baby steps in general are critical to no getting overwhelmed and setting up good routines. I also feel several of the steps could be combined. For example: a physical routine + a mental habit so that everyday works on building the cleaning routine and the mental process to stick to it. I keep thinking I should make up my own or something. Ha ha, the TK Way.

[@Jules-740]

@@TodaywithTerriK Yes combining them would be so good. It would help the habits reinforce eachother in a way I think.

[@Raych-]

6:09 I am genuinely snotty crying. I am so glad nobody can see me. You have literally just described the past 17 years of my life. I found the FlyLady back in 2008-09 and wrote everything out all pretty in my FLY journal. Then away it went. And I have tried picking the system up time and time again and ended up dropping it because I have illnesses that cause me to crash and I end up bed bound for weeks on end. I feel like I’m failing as a mother, as a wife, as the woman I truly want to be and just knowing that someone else has felt that too is reassuring to me that it will pass. As I already said in another of your videos, 2024 is my year for consistency. My routine will be up on the fridge for everyone to see and participate. I’m sick and tired of being the only one who takes pride in the appearance of our home when there’s 7 of us living here. Plus pets. Thank you so much and thank you Lord for bringing this beautiful woman and channel into my life just when I needed it.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Ok, now I am crying with you! I felt so isolated, so discarded, and so unworthy of love and it’s crazy that a cleaning routine, a planner, and a desire to find friends has changed my life forever. It’s never perfect, it’s never finished, but I’m different know because I know how to handle it. I’m pouring all of my love into you so that you know it is you that will be the true hero in this story. I’m here absolutely anytime. You don’t have to feel alone.

[@Raych-]

@@TodaywithTerriK thank you so much for this. You really touched me with your words. God Bless You Sister and thank you again for helping me to not feel so alone in my mental battles and my cleaning ones.

[@__.Sara.__]

25:45 I really needed to hear someone say this.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I love that a video I recorded like 2 yrs ago can still be exactly what is needed!

[@rachelfrght3841]

I’ve never been to her website but I’ve been using her app for two years

[@TodaywithTerriK]

The app is seriously so good.

[@carmenhastings9875]

❤ Girl, I am BEYONE BLESSED 😇 to have found your channel amd your sweet, Godly soul. I have already subscribed and I am definitely 💯 sharing you with EVERYONE I KNOW!! You are the best! Thank you for your down to earth 🌎 explanations, vulnerability, kindness, compassion, and PRAYERS!!! 🙏🏽 😇 I am grateful 🥹 for Gods Presence and Grace and Divine Intervention in finding you and your channel. Thank you 🙏🏽 May God continue to Bless you! You are Amazing!! 🤩

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I love how He works things out to put things in front of you when you need it. I’m just over here praying my struggles can be used to help others find a way that works.

[@charlabillington6273]

Thank you for the prayer and the kick in the pants. I have a lot of struggles besides cleaning. My husband is newly disabled and that has added a new stress for me. I appreciate your talk and the prayer. You are right about baby steps and routines. As long as I can keep those up, I can fit in the rest. God bless you.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I try to pray in all of my videos now because it’s the best thing I can possibly do for anyone.

[@MsCheesemonster13]

Well I’ve just kept it very simple, and adapted Fly Lady’s Zones to my needs. December 2023 Zone 1: room A, room B, room C (1st to 6th December) Zone 2: room D, room E (7th to 12th December) Zone 3: room F, room G (13th to 18th December) Zone 4: room H, room I (19th to 24th December) Zone 5: room J, room K (25th to 30th December). I’ve decided which rooms are allocated to a zone, and they stay in that zone, so every month the same rooms are tackled on the same days. If I want to take days off, I do, and if I want to do extra on a given day, I can. The only rule that I stick to is that I have to work on the appropriate Zone/set of rooms for today’s date, whatever that happens to be. I already had a morning/evening routine for everyday tasks, so I don’t really bother with the other stuff on the Fly Lady website.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

That’s amazing. Taking that freedom to change things is the key!

[@lanatebault8504]

Where did you get your clean magnet for your dishwasher?

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Isn't it cute! Here is the exact one I got amzn.to/3WzJryP and it's only like $8 which I thought was pretty good.

[@onshouldersofgiants9467]

That's how I clean! Listening to awesome KZbin like you talk about folding laundry while I'm folding laundry 😂 I appreciate the help!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I get so much more done with that kind of motivation/distraction!

[@Raych-]

I finished this video with my husband and he’s enthusiastic about starting the FLY lady system with me. Thank you so much for everything you do.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Wow, can you teach me how to get my hubby excited by it? 🤣

[@Raych-]

@@TodaywithTerriK haha he was only enthusiastic because he walked in and found me crying. So I explained my feelings to him for the hundredth time and I actually feel like this time, he really listened and saw where I was coming from. So again, thank you.

[@Ivana_Il]

Today I'm starting Fly Lady for 5th or 6th time. Like you, I tried so much in so little time and ending up being overwhelmed. This time I decided to go one step at the time without going too fast. Month ago I had a surgery and my house is a mess. It was one before- a war zone. Now it's a nuclear disaster. I can't do much because of my 26 time stitched belly, but i will try. I was struggeling before because of my lack of will and self love. I lost my morher, father, grandmother and an uncle in 2 years. I am depressed and in a downward spiral. This video had me sobbing. It was as if I was talking about myself... My mother was a hardworking woman and I feel like I'm letting her down every day. My kids are happy, cause they don't know any better. ...and I'm sobbing again... Thank you for this wakeup call. I will get up now and shine my sink. All the love from a little country in Europe called Croatia! Your voice came a long way! ❤️ P.S. you reminding me of my late mother is a bonus. ☺️

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I am really happy this connected with you and that I reminded you of Mum! The fact that it is bothering you means you are ready and this time you have learned from your past. Those same mistakes won't happen. If you need to relisten to the baby steps, here is week 1: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z3LUqpV-g9ChmNU and week 2 drops on Tuesday. Plus, I really want you to join the FB group (link in videos) for some support while you get going. We are ready, willing, and able to be your accountability partners! Anything I can do right now to help?

[@fcohen8296]

Thank you for your encouragement and your vote of confidence but no matter how I try, I still cannot do the home blessing in an hour. And no, I am not deep cleaning anywhere; I am rushing through the main things, but just changing all my linens takes almost half the time right there. What to do???

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Let the kids help with the beds. As little as 5 can pull blanket’s and sheets to the washer. I don’t wash guest room sheets every week. The floors take the most time for me. Dusting is quick with a feather duster and I polish in zone cleaning. Don’t feel discouraged, you’ll find your rhythm. Modify it to work for you. Maybe you’d rather do sheets another day?

[@mobilehomemama5]

You are amazing and I love you sweet friend! ❤ Thank you for your constant encouragement (and correction) and transparency. You are appreciated sister. 😘

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I was up all night editing this one. It's 100% from my heart.

[@suz6593]

I needed this! Thank you 🥰

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You're so welcome!

[@Lori..]

Thank you for your pep talk today... I needed that kick in the pants you talked about! 😊🌻

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I have been struggling with myself if I should cut the hard stuff but its the stuff in my own head. If we are friends, we need to say it sometimes. I am happy we are that kind of friends!

[@Lori..]

@@TodaywithTerriKI am happy for that too, and also what you share with us! 💕

[@cynthiacrumlish4683]

Read ORIGINAL BLESSING by Mathew Fox. Very helpful. A major shift in perspective.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I'll check it out! Headed to the library on Errand Day. Thanks!

[@TheKatelinn]

I found fly Lady in 2008 also, never quite got the hang of it. I do manage some things daily, but need to restart this thing. Oh watching more of your video..we are the same person 😮❤😅

[@beehappy58]

You are absolutely right about Flylady. I have been using it for 3 years now and I love it. I'm no longer concerned about people dropping by without notice. My house is always presentable. However, I am still trying to tweak Zone 2 cleaning the kitchen. It's just so much to do in the kitchen. I am thinking about assigning a day to it also. Not sure how I will do this. Do you have any suggestions on keeping the kitchen clean? I enjoyed this video.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thanks for watching! The kitchen is a beast and I usually end up doing a big "Push Day" which is how I phrase taking my 1st day Zone Cleaning and doing the worst things first. Usually that means I zone clean 30-60 min that day which helps knock a few big jobs out. Then if I don't get as much done the other days they are not the big tasks that I really needed to hit. You could also break up a few jobs to be done during a daily 15-minute declutter--sometimes I do the fridge quick clean out then so that it doesn't get so nasty. Maybe make a list of tasks that you never get to and include them on Anti-Procrastination Day?

[@berrypatch5583]

I assign Tuesday to kitchen...it does make a huge difference if you have children. It needs daily dishes and basics, weekly solid clean, and a monthly project clean. The kitchen is the hardest working room in your house, plus everyone is not as orderly or clean as you...thus more messes.

[@Jasmine-j4c]

Great job lady❤!!!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you! 🤗

[@Jasmine-j4c]

@@TodaywithTerriK 😃

[@sillybeeful]

Oh oh online shopping (for things I can’t afford and don’t need) really eats into my day/ time/ life and finances ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

SAME!

[@OUTDOORCOOKINGCREW]

Excellent video!! Love the way you lay out the program.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you very much!

[@christinecoleman2964]

Thank you. This was what I needed to hear today. So glad I found your channel. You are a blessing!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you for giving me a try. We have a good time and just do our best.

[@KNine417]

The app is great

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I relied on it heavily early on..now I track things in my digital planner which is my 2nd brain for everything!

[@bonnieinthespirit6373]

Listening to you…. I like to keep my surfaces cleared off at bedtime. My master bath I like it set up for morning . I’m practicing. Swedish death cleansing!!! To get to this point.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I really need to read that book!

[@littledove4984]

One thing no one has reviewed together is Fly Lady and Clutterbug. I have read the books and follow both. I think together they could work well together but curious about your take on this one. Have a lovely weekend 🤗

[@TodaywithTerriK]

It’s funny but i have been playing around with an idea involving the clutter bug. That is a great idea. Maybe I can do that!

[@pknicolaus]

Thank you for the pep talk! Your videos are so motivating and uplifting. I appreciate you putting the time and work into encouraging women!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

It’s a lot of work and I can beat myself up when I feel behind, but the encouragement I get keeps me excited to do more. Thank you.

[@aubreysmith71112]

Thank you for the video! What was the motorized brush you used to clean the tub? I love my rubbermaid power cleaner but I always wish I had a slightly bigger version to cover more surface quicker.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I can't find the one I have but this is the one my mom just got and seems to be slightly better. amzn.to/45EN34a The next one I get will be long-handled. This one seems really good: amzn.to/3EsApti

[@JazzyPeggy]

I love your videos So inspiring. I too have failed flylady so many times I'm giving it another try. Thank you!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Just commit to it for a few months and then tweek anything that just doesn’t work for your life.

[@NormaHenley]

I love your videos! I'm in a different phase in life than you (empty nesters), but I feel like I've traveled the same road you traveled. It takes years sometimes to overcome the trials I've been through, and I feel you've been there, too. Hugs, Mama! Blessings to you and yours! It's hard but we can do it!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Knowing we are not alone helps on the bad days.

[@SimplyInspiredbySheena]

💙 I like you…even though you called me out on some things lol 😅🤗

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Whoops, sorry!

[@SimplyInspiredbySheena]

@@TodaywithTerriK 💙 haha don’t be sorry! I needed a kick in the pants!! …actually thanks to you I just completed my morning routine, a load of laundry, AND I’m about to tackle my zone 😅

[@TodaywithTerriK]

go get it girl!

[@lovefortruth3414]

I just listened to this again while getting started c on my zone Cleaning for the day. I know I've said before I am not a Fly Lady (or baby lol). I found another system that I used for a foundation to start on. And, I found the Clutter Bug for a foundation to learn how to start organising my home for me and my organisational style. That being said, I have come to discover that I have had to adjust my cleaning routine many times to fit my home, my household's needs, and my own physical and mental capacity. I am still a work in progress. However, every bit of insight you give in this video, rings so true. I DO get dressed from head to socks (we don't wear shoes in our house) every morning, no matter what...no matter what time I get up, how I feel, or what. That means, that no matter what happens after that, I'm dressed for it lol. I don't have to worry about opening my door for any reason and have people drive by the house and see me in my pj's lol. Showing up imperfectly for my cleaning and other daily things is still showing up. And yes, even if 6 months or a year goes by and your house still has a long way to go, if you've been showing up every day and doing a little bit each day, you DO see big progress over time. I am now proud of my kitchen. It is now organised about 99% the way I want it. Even though I still have alot of things that I use on the counter (they have to be for me), they are logical, neatly arranged, and my counter space is compartalised. I have my beverage station, my washing station (sink, dishwasher. Etc), prep station and cooking/serving station. And for each station, the contents of the cabinets and drawers are associated with the purpose of that station. And I actually was able to create just enough space on my counters to actually work on. Getting rid of my microwave and a big multi function oven and replacing them with a multi function pressure cooker really created more space and eliminated tge need for alot of extra cooking appliances. Also, I discovered (finally in mid-life lol), that being left-handed means that I can't look at other people's kitchens and think that I need to arrange things the way they do in order to have things neat and organised. Nope. Most people arrange their things dor a nightie, because chances are, no one in their house is a lefty. But when it finally clicked in my brain that I am the boss of my kitchen and that I needed my kitchen to be functional for me and my scattered brain, I started arranging it for a lefty. And all of a sudden, not only does my kitchen stay tidy and organised, but I'm not scatter-brained or stressed out when I'm trying to cook, feed the animals, and clean up while I cook. And I'm less mssy and clumsy when I do prep work or cooking lol. After about the first week working in there the way It's set up now, I said to my husband, "So THIS is what normal feel like when you're cooking?" 😂 Anyway, I just rambled lol. My point is, all of your bits of advice are so true, no matter what cleaning and organising methods people are using. They apply to ANYONE who struggles with maintaining a clean and tidy home. And, sometimes, we need to hear a little hard truth. But it's better to be hit with a hard truth than kissed with a soothing lie. And when a hard truth is given in love and with a humble heart, it makes the truth so much easier to swallow. You do just that. You encourage me just as much now as you did when I started out about...ohmygosh; is it 1 year or 2 now? I can't remember how long ago I started out lol.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

My heart is so full from your message! Thank you for sharing. I’m so imperfect but learning that I need to see myself as perfectly me. We were never supposed to be copies of each other. There is beauty in uniqueness. Thank you for rambling because I loved it!!!

[@lovefortruth3414]

@@TodaywithTerriK yes! And, I just signed on to Fly Lady's free app! And, I am now brain storming and coming up with my own Weekly Home Blessing and Zone cleaning schedule, while still using TOMM's Zone Cleaning as my main break down. I'm adding my weekly rotating Focus routine to my weekly home blessing (30 minutes), and then adding other quick and easy weekly tasks to add up to another 30 min. So my Weekly Home Blessing will be an hour. Then when I do my other Zone Cleaning through the week, I can focus on the most important weekly and monthly tasks

[@galejohnson8086]

i believe playing video games, spending hours on you tube, etc can be avoidance behaviour

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Exactly. When things are done, do what you want. On a short reward break go for it. But if things are out of control, use a timer and at least alternate work 15 then fun 15.

[@isnach3014]

This is exactly what has been happening to me by following Fly lady system 😅 I'm glad I'm not the only one. I didn't understand why I can't follow the system, while others can😢 That makes me feel incapable of taking care my home. Thank you for sharing this struggle with us ❤❤❤

[@isnach3014]

That's so true, I also feel the routine is stupid 😅 Now I know, I was wrong 😊

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I still use it as my foundation but I truly feel everyone needs to customize the routines for their life.

[@loriolsen5785]

Thank you for this video! I am on my second month of FlyLady, and I am struggling hard to get the program down. But I am still determined to get ahold of my crazy house! Thanks for the encouragement!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You got this! It’s a big program but once it clicks…How can I help?

[@loriolsen5785]

@TodaywithTerriK I've watched several of your videos on Fly Lady. I am working on customizing my own schedule because my family has a very strange system. We work and do homeschool on Friday thru Monday (and church on Sunday.) Our "weekend" is Tuesday thru Thursday, but we must do errands and sometimes some schoolwork, along with doing some fun things. It's an unorthodox schedule so my cleaning routine must fit me specifically. I've decluttered a lot, pretty much down to my clutter threshold now. Just struggling with the daily routine needed to keep a 5000 sq ft home clean when me, my 2 sons, and 3 dogs are always home and doing stuff. PLUS my husband works NIGHTS so he sleeps during the day. That really puts a kink in my daily routine! 😳 But I am working on getting the steps down in my own special way! Already, my husband has noticed an improvement! Certain areas are starting to make me smile. We moved into this house 2 years ago, and I think I just haven't gotten the hang of it yet. On the plus side, my husband and I are both "crickets" so we have harmony in how we organize stuff, except that his clutter threshold is higher than mine! He wants to keep too much, but it's a small thing since he keeps his stuff out of my way. It's getting better though, everyday! Thanks for making your videos! I am learning a lot! I appreciate your prayers at the end of each video! We certainly need the Lord to manage all that we do! God bless you!

[@nanasloves]

You are so encouraging! AND you don’t need to lose weight!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Oh my goodness, thank you. I’d love to build muscle. Since turning g 50, my muscles are shriveling up.

[@sibongilethwala7080]

You tearing up shows you really get it. I also feel defective.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I felt so alone in it but we need to show the world that it’s normal and take our power back.

[@mayatenshi]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thanks for watching. Have you started FlyLady?

[@mayatenshi]

@@TodaywithTerriK Yes ! it's hard to do everything because of my disability but i'm doing my best !

[@ladydonna37]

Wow! This was SO inspiring! Thanks for being so real! ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I just know I want to watch people who have a normal house and not that instagram in debt at 21 perfection I see so much of.

[@steffanyavalos]

Thank you so much for your words this is exactly how i been feeling for the last month... worst mom worst wife worst woman... because i just dont seem to be able to keep my house clean and that gets me behind on anything else related to my home... you're such an inspiration for me❤ thank you i will be starting tomorrow woth this fly lady method and baby steps program 😃

[@steffanyavalos]

Wish I could give this video 1000 likes thank you so much!! Already sent it to a friend who is struggling with this too 🌻🌻

[@TodaywithTerriK]

I have a baby step tracker that’s a free download listed in the description that might help get started. I’m seriously here cheering you on! Are you in the Facebook group @Today’s FlyBabies? That helps too.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Yay, that actually makes my day!!!

[@steffanyavalos]

Thank you!! I'll be downloading it 🙂 and I don't have any social media so no Facebook 😅 but I'll follow your recommendations from your channel 😊

[@nancybryant6647]

I so enjoy your channel. Keep up the good work!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you so much! Going through motherhood and mom life feels so isolating sometimes. We need to have girl friends who do life with us!

[@kristidavids8470]

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Good, to be honest I did not intend to talk so openly but I felt so strongly that it needs to be said more. We all struggle but too often we try to hide it.

[@jillianminor5476]

hi thank you

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Welcome 😊. what would you like to see more of?

[@MzEllaful]

Thank you for that ❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Any time!

[@tiffanyadair5634]

Thank you 🙏🏻❤

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You are so welcome. Are you new to FlyLady?

[@dbishop7802]

Great video!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thanks so much! I try to be super honest about things.

[@crystalkeefe9103]

Thank you 😊

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You're welcome 😊. Are you new to FlyLady?

[@lindahines6061]

Amen

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you for your support.

[@rodrigov2475]

Amen to you

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you so much for watching.

[@dinahcastellano115]

Thank you.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You're welcome! My pleasure.

[@gabs190]

Great, great video!! Subscribed!! ✔️

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thank you so much. I love FlyLady but strongly feel like customizing it is the key!

[@marthaosborne9625]

🥰 The app is all I use! I went in and changed it to exactly what I want for me and my house. I NEVER go to her website or especially not the emails!!!😂 But, in the very beginning, I worked through it all and got the strong foundation. Great advice!

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Thanks for watching! It really is so good.

[@candicek.4659]

Terri, thank you for sharing your thoughts and encouragement in today’s video. I got emotional too when you were talking about the ways we beat ourselves up, how you were trained to feel you were not enough, not smart enough, not a good adult , not a good mom. I believed all those things too. But I learned and now know that those things are not true. I started with Flylady in earnest about three weeks ago. I’m not doing all of it yet, but slowly establishing routines. Did my first home blessing last week. Didn’t get through it all but Wow, I can’t believe what a boost it gave to my motivation! I owe my getting started to you. I watch some other ladies as well, but I love your warmth and caring nature and that you’re so relatable. I’m a new subscriber! Thank you for simplifying her system and for being the lovely, heart-centered and authentic lady that you are! XOXO 🩷🥰

[@TodaywithTerriK]

Now you have me crying but in the best way. I am literally sitting here today needing to film and just feeling lost on how to help. Thank you for this! You have no idea how it impacts me!

[@candicek.4659]

@@TodaywithTerriK Oh I can say the same about you, that you don’t know how many people you’re helping and affecting so positively every single day. Even years from now. Isn’t that wonderful? I got chills when I read your response. I can be teary and emotional too in the best way. And I like it! You’re most definitely on your Path and such a blessing to all of us FlyBabies out here in KZbin land ! 💫🕊️✨❤️

[@bonnieinthespirit6373]

Hey! I ( think!!). I JUST FINISHED. PAPERWORK DECLUTTERED!! Now!! I’m looking !! Again!! Take it down! Currently 5 areas. Paper saved sorted special zEach. Stack is 2” deep! It started with 25++ years. Of paperwork.

[@TodaywithTerriK]

You are seriously crushing it! Way to go. Paperwork can easily build up. I now have mine under control but my husband's office is total chaos. I can only lead by example there...and close his door.