Ongezwa ON being a mother of 3 with 3 different baby daddies

[@Ongezwajiyane]

I’m here for the comments 😂I love you guys and no I don’t want my second baby daddy 😂😩 Thank you baby for having me really enjoyed shooting this

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

Most welcome mama❤

[@MLM424]

You're such a likeable person ❤ I think the problem we have issues with a lot of baby mammas is their cockiness, there's a certain sense of entitlement they have which is confusing and triggers a "defensiveness" from wives for lack of a better word. So to see your humble and mature nature is very refreshing.

[@Hlumelo_K]

You are such a gorgeous lady Ongezwa! 🥰❤

[@MLM424]

On the topic of wives being intimidated 😂 not the word I would use but I get it, especially after you broke it down. But like Promise touched on, as a baby mama when you brag that my husband wants you/you could get him back if you wanted - that is usually what causes a rift between women, you are literally shooting yourself in the foot because now the wife will also want to flex their muscle; and the person who will suffer will unfortunately be the very child you claim to be trying to look out for. Otherwise - genuinely enjoyed this episode, going to follow your channel ❤

[@nthabisengnkabinde2518]

@@Ongezwajiyane I heard you. You were just explaining about your past with 2nd baby daddy. People they are not mature enough. Love you dear. Please stop begging for the 3rd baby daddy. God will take control of it❤️

[@leratodigoamaje9741]

...almost at the end of this session and I must say (not necessarily a podcast person) but I had my teeth clinched the entire time because the host makes it super easy to tell she carries with her a very vain sense of superiority over her interviewee just on the dry basis that she is in a marital institution and her interviewee is not. Her constant interjectory comments are so clear, she feels she gets to hover a better position over Ongezwa, because she is married and Ongezwa mothers three children outside this institution. Her judgemental and superiority complex cap was on the entire session 🫤. Anyway, Ongezwa carries with her such a beautiful and authentic spirit.She was able to be vulnerable with so much poise and authenticity.She seems like a really beautiful soul.Wishing her love and light.You will get what you want 🙏🏾

[@malindimahlangu744]

I share the same sentiment with you.. promise is judgemental 😊.. she fails to be neutral yet her podcast is “own narrative”.

[@Queendollar83]

Not a podcast person neh🤔yet you go on to write a whole review😂. Mxm, ayi nina you are just ridiculously silly on these social media platforms.

[@leratodigoamaje9741]

@Queendollar83 weeeena, what on earth are you on about?YES, I did type out I don't necessarily consume podcasts, and that's on a normal day. And yes, did go on to give "my experienced" review, having sat through this one.Wena o bua ka eng yanong???what's a "whole interview"?where?....and what "sillyness" are you referring to ? ...you literally went out of your way to comment nothing. You are making zero sense and you are logically completely off! What's it to you what I chose to express with data I'm fully responsible for ?

[@Queendollar83]

@@leratodigoamaje9741 eish here you go again with short story writing🙄🙄. You do know part of good writing includes being clear, concise and getting to the point, in order to avoid waffling and repetition, right? Yoh, hayi, Novel engaka to a stranger on the internet. Kahle wena!

[@leratodigoamaje9741]

@Queendollar83 why are you bothering with any of the stuff I "story wrote" when it had ZERO to do with you?who started with the "stranger on the internet"??And if I was "waffling" to begin with, why did you find it so hard to just IGNORE??

[@PRUDENT05]

Oh Ongezwa😢 from your mouth to God's ears you will find love ❤❤

[@luncumowithlove]

Definitely she will such a lover woman of God❤❤

[@joaquinadomingos5656]

Definitely my City mom will be so loved ❤, she deserves it. May God bless you Maki wa Lubanze

[@malonndi]

surely I also pray for her on behalf. She's a wonderful woman

[@MinisterDelly]

Very true i am friends with my baby daddies wife even though at first we used to fight like cats and dogs but now i fully trust her with my daughters life I even refer to her as her mom , she recently had a child i told her its time i meet her child because her child is my daughters sister , it is not easy but very doable

[@joaquinadomingos5656]

I love how Onguezwa owns her story, she owns it with no shame. Congratulations 👏 for being inspirational in the sense that it ok, there's no shame on being a mom, for being a stay at home mom, for fighting, for survival mode activation. You'll be ok

[@jacksonmpala7870]

THERE IS SHAME, THIS SHAMELESS GENERATION THAT JUSTIFY EVERY NONSENSE

[@asivegaxa9788]

​@@jacksonmpala7870 I've seen most of your comments... Don't you maybe wanna see therapist? You have alot going obviously based on your level of reasoning

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Amen.... She'll be OK and she'll get married and I believe wholeheartedly that Lubanzis father will one day take responsibility for Lubanzi cos honestly that kid is so yummy hle 😂❤there's no way he'd meet him and wouldn't like being a part of him. Nizobona!

[@Queendollar83]

​@@jacksonmpala7870😂😂😂😂

[@SimplyHer_Lusiwe]

Finally, a solid episode with no drama. Whichever way you come at this (baby mama or wife) you have to admit that this was balanced and allowed me to understand better all perspectives ❤❤❤

[@reabetsweimanmoabi7911]

I lived in China, and there are no baby mama's there... The Chinese government does not tolerate such - you can't register a child without mom and dad both being there, also a marriage certificate is needed or your child can't get any identification.... Why are we glamorizng baby mama culture in South Africa? 😢

[@lulufierce01]

The UAE is just as strict. I don't know what's going on in SA. Honestly!

[@5thdimensio284]

People are reckless and toying with kids lives.😢

[@kwakha6103]

Someone might fight me for this comment and its okay. What I've observed with our Black SA brothers (generally) is that: 1. They love the kids of the woman they are with and/or are intimate with. You'll see this when a man leaves his kid, to go support 4 kids that are not his. Or when he wants to snack with Baby mama as a condition to support the kid. It's not right, people should put the kids first. PS: this doesn't apply to ALL people.

[@stateofeuphoriah]

yes, that's boy math 🤣🤣🤣

[@Success_Masondo]

100% however every man who has children should take care of them, regardless of how he got them . We need to be honest about this. Everyone who has children should put them first and this should apply to EVERYONE😢.

[@kwakha6103]

@@Success_Masondo Absolutely 💯

[@Oh_Yes_Asi]

This is very true. I think it also applies to women. I know a lady with two kids from two different baby daddies. She’s still in love with the eldest child’s father and treats that child like gold. She hates the 2nd child’s father and treats that child like an annoying inconvenience. Both fathers don’t consistently support their kids and both left her and married other ppl. However she still loves the one child and still chases after its father.

[@1123Momo]

You said nothing but the truth

[@nosisamohlakore5455]

Ongezwa is beautiful and has good aura and energy.

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Kakhulu ❤

[@malebomaleka5802]

I stopped begging my baby daddy to be in his child's life. And its the best thing i did for myself. It was emotionally draining.

[@Nabolanga]

It's wild how they're evil enough to reject our children in order to punish us. I say good riddance to such desperately insecure behavior. Our children are better off not seeing such brittleness of ego.

[@Leratolekola]

You're so beautiful Sis Onge❤️ & you'll definitely get married in your 40's. I think this thing is a Spiritual attack, you need to pray against it. Nonetheless, God trusted you with 3 beautiful boys❤️

[@CheriAurora3605]

Ongezwa this is spiritual my dear, tackle it spiritually my love. You are a sweet person. Smart, matured 👌

[@siniecat]

Ongezwa...you have a beautiful name...in Swahili...it means 'To be increased'.....I pray to God ..for your healing....and for a great man ...who will be a great addition to your life ...who will cover you....with love....peace....and more positivity..etc ..thank you for sharing your story.....I hope it will inspire many single mum's to learn to be more mature....despite the negativity/toxicity going on ....❤🇰🇪

[@kitsontuli2713]

It means the same in isiXhosa

[@luncumowithlove]

Here because of my Mama ka Lubanzi❤❤❤

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

I love her too and she must give me uLubanzi hle... This boy is super cute 😻😻😻

[@MoskwaMoskwa-p3x]

Promise is growing hey,,,her reasoning capacity has drastically change and she is maturing...

[@machemomatlala2163]

I wish promised will visit house of lubza and teach her what she's learning. Because hai😅

[@adelaidesisasenkosi6361]

@@machemomatlala2163who’s lubza?

[@NsikeSibisi]

I totally agree hey!! I used to get so mad at her, manje uyakhula.

[@NomvelisoNtsinde-hi6zf]

Umhle ke uOngi sana! Such a lovely lady! 😍😍😍😍

[@mphomashego6252]

I watch her on her channel I thought she is way younger, No she is definately aging fine❤❤❤😊😊

[@nthabisengnkabinde2518]

Girl please don't force him. The Grace of God is Sufficient. Please you are beautiful.

[@siphokazimbelu1035]

I dont know where people go the impression she wants baby daddy 2 andiyiboni tu unless I cant read between the line.

[@DM-rm5ec]

Same here hey, there's no indication whatsoever that she wants BD2. 😢

[@MoskwaMoskwa-p3x]

You won't see it because uhlakaniphile wena....this people who says she wants baby daddy number 2 don't have logic and they just commented before even listening to the whole episode

[@siphokazimbelu1035]

@user-ci4dz9uk6i I thought maybe I couldn't read between the line sana.

[@siphokazimbelu1035]

@DM-rm5ec imagine, women love pinning other women against each other. Imagine if the wife is watching this and see things that aren't there.

[@DM-rm5ec]

@siphokazimbelu1035 Now they have planted a seed of doubt without realizing the negative impact it may have☹️

[@tshadimlangeni5388]

Ongezwa literally wanted a relationship with the wife so that their children have a sibling relationship from what I've heard. angazi why some ladies here in the comments are angry and projecting negativity... not everyone is miserable hle

[@nonozi4147]

I get where she's coming from

[@tshadimlangeni5388]

@@nonozi4147 same, it was so innocent.

[@siphokazimbelu1035]

@tshadimlangeni5388 hayi sana some women are miserable.

[@No2HeartStoppingClotShots]

Some women have unresolved agendas😅

[@vusmuzimasilela2358]

wena how do you thats only what she wanted how do you know, you taking her words for it? ayyyy woman.

[@janekhumalo9201]

Honestly listening left me with Nozi 's words from the Mommy Club.The plan has changed and this is not what we agreed on. Plans change .We from marriages and became Baby Mamas and the dynamics changed from both sides. Thers no formula unfortunately

[@gisellethebunny]

There is a formula, vet a man and his family thoroughly before getting married (the red flags will always surface) and don't give him kids out of wedlock. With all the birth control we have in this world (in SA birth control is free like hell), one still became a baby mama.

[@LangelihleNgema]

@@gisellethebunny Well said!!

[@JulieGumede]

This lady is beautiful❤❤

[@mfundisozuma5810]

What a refreshing interview. I really loved this!😍

[@Nonkosi_M778]

I'm here to make sure the comment section is in order.

[@luncumowithlove]

Nam sanaa andifuni nova ngo Onge

[@Ongezwajiyane]

😂i love u please

[@Ongezwajiyane]

@@luncumowithlove🧚🏾‍♀️🧚🏾‍♀️

[@missjones9737]

Thanks so much cause am drinking a mimosa and am failing to can whilst trying to be demure😂😂

[@tembezelanilubatapela3116]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@zinhle__z]

MakaLubanzi. I enjoyed your segment doll. UThixo will fight for your battles, kuzolunga

[@sphiwemotha3212]

Such a beautiful lady, I'm happy that she has support from her family some of us don't have such support. We can't even send kids for visits 24/7 they're with us.

[@preshantimassie9240]

Thot I was alone in this

[@MadamTMT]

Bathong how i wish Ongezwa was my hubby's baby mama?😂😂😂😂😂😂she is soo wise and matured .

[@vusmuzimasilela2358]

Don't be that blind please ayihambi kanjalo read between the lines don't be fooled by the words of a human being. people are waaay dangerous than you may think. but I don't blame you Abafazi bakhohliswa ngamanga now you wanna khohlisa yourself that this woman is upto something good?

[@MadamTMT]

@tshadimlangeni5388 haiboo sisi ska nkgafela nna, sound bitter ya mogwete? 1 simple compliment got you all worked up? Haai wa phapha man, chill. I love her for her maturity and no drama. She is peaceful ✌️ too.

[@tshadimlangeni5388]

@MadamTMT I was not even replying to you ke unless you're all of a sudden a man and qualify to be a baby daddy

[@tshadimlangeni5388]

@MadamTMT I was not even talking to you ke kuphapha wena coz how did you turn from being a woman to Indentifying as a baby daddy? You need to read with comprehension.

[@tshadimlangeni5388]

@vusmuzimasilela2358 Are you the enstranged baby daddy number 3???😂😂😂 you sound so bitter!!! Geeez you have no peace in your life😂😂😂

[@CarolNgobese]

This is spiritual, there's no way... Pray sisi

[@rosegold6209]

Ladies, marry before you carry. Let a man take you seriously first because theres no turning back from this. Ongezwa was irresponsible!

[@Nabolanga]

Irresponsible in whose unsolicited judgement? How crazy of you. Would it have been more responsible if she'd stayed in an unhappy relationship to end up dealing with the expense and aftermath of divorce while single parenting? The nerve to think you can morally prescribe how another human should deal with the curve balls of real life...!

[@preshantimassie9240]

I only have “Voetsek” to say to you rose

[@lisasbeadwork]

Judge Judy welozwe

[@prettyaf2512]

Hamba RoseGold you guys don't know ..life will surprise you😂

[@bathandiwebingwa214]

Promise, when these guys want to hurt you, it’s so easy for them to neglect the child. I get what Ongezwa is saying

[@khomotsoduduzile8295]

Same here hey, because sis promise you have never been there you won't understand,not wanting a man who drops you off like a rotten potato around your child.

[@mampoiapathiamopeli5500]

Promise has no clue, a man will leave irregardless there is a baby or not

[@babalwandamase9509]

No baby mama will ever intimate me ,that's no true

[@zanelethulimtshali9165]

I got pregnant while finishing my second course in varsity and when I graduated he was 2month old , my dreams never stop me from achieving what I want, now i have 2kids altogether as a single parent I have survive through it all

[@beewest5704]

We want you to thrive not only survive. Do some introspection before adding another child out of wedlock.

[@JoyPersonalFinancespf7tq]

​@@beewest5704Khuzeka 😮

[@mamofranco]

Another baby mama making impulsive decisions😭😭🤦‍♀🤦‍♀ . I knw contraceptives have the possibility of failing (e.g implant shift, taking the pill at the wrong time etc.) but yoh aowa with all the courses you have you didn't see yourself worthy enough of getting lobolad before giving a man babies outta wedlock? Sorry for my harsh comment but pass it your kids so that they don't make the same mistakes.

[@zanelethulimtshali9165]

@@beewest5704I am in my forty now, working for 15yrs and own double storey of a house marriage it's a blessing not a requirement

[@zanelethulimtshali9165]

@@beewest5704 if you are lucky in your marriage then do not judge me and MyLife it's not perfect but it's not yours to understand since yours is perfect marriage

[@zamokuhlezandile1703]

Ongezwa is such a beautiful soul

[@Ongezwajiyane]

Thank you sis 🥹

[@masandefuzile2261]

She is not

[@sajobleads]

@@masandefuzile2261haibo wena

[@BlaqpantherMelanistic]

She’s amazing

[@Yassmiinn.]

​@@masandefuzile2261get lost

[@Mss_Muthoni]

The host is abit harsh on baby mamas she profiles them alot. AS LONG AS YOU ARE A WOMAN WITH KIDS, YOU ARE A CANDIDATE TO BE A SINGLE MUM/BABY MAMA

[@kholiswaconny2265]

That's exactly what I picked up

[@Queendollar83]

Promise is not harsh. Baby mammas don't like to hear the truth. When asked difficult questions they get sensitive and equate that to judgement. Have watched some seriously harsh podcasts and this is mellow compared to them.

[@gisellethebunny]

@@Queendollar83 They don't want to take accountability for their lack of thought decisions, with all the men in this world who are potential suitors, you decided to be a baby mama? Like is that lack of self- worth or what.

[@nompumelolo]

dream on

[@ElmienMalgas]

I'm 30 years old pregnant with my 3rd baby, with baby daddy number 3. I can really relate on what she is saying . im here for it.

[@highandmightyqueen79]

stay strong mommy 😍

[@Jabu-w7j]

Yhoooo😮, Thixo wam😱

[@LangelihleNgema]

How is the relationship with the 3rd baby daddy?

[@ThembaMthembu-r2z]

Yohh😮

[@Otto_HighTower]

3rd baby dady ? 😳 Thixo wase George gorche

[@Yeye__]

I already like her im gonna subscribe to her channel too 😂😂😂

[@ntandokazimanqele9462]

It's an amazing channel I tell you❤

[@sibongilengcobo2850]

beautiful Content keh Sana

[@missramz207]

I saw her once on Mandys channel and i was like im following her.. shes such a beautiful human being

[@BlaqpantherMelanistic]

Please do, she’s amazing.. she’s authentic

[@Mihle09]

Ongezwa, You are cool. You have a beautiful soul.

[@On_PointwithN]

Oh I love Ongezwa, she is so pretty and I follow her religiously. Omgezwa is so so so beautiful and I hope she knows this. She is stunning, her eyes are everything.

[@theresamegalane3606]

Umama ka our adorable bafo, you are so lovable mommy.

[@phutegorebone7948]

I love this woman, may the Lord bless you with what you desire❤❤

[@darealvirgo86]

My baby daddy got married after our break up, and ever since then my three exes got married after our relationships. I gave up on dating.... I have one child by the way

[@LangelihleNgema]

Do not have more unless the next man you decide to go out with marries you first.

[@beewest5704]

Did you require marriage from them?

[@theemapsmash]

If you want to get married and avoid ur time being wasted since you have one child, try to go for men that have at least one child, or divorced men, it may be hard to accept but it's also hard for a man with no kids to accept u regardless of him loving you. A man with a kid/kids will understand you better.

[@nompumelolo]

at least you gate kept your womb. Congrats

[@simonmahlangu923]

I'm sorry to break it to you but YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! Stop it, get some help.

[@mphomorongwe6655]

Comment section is really stressing me out😢 Women will always stay losing. I have nothing against lo sis, sis is a very beautiful woman and probably a good mother but 3 kids, 3 father's, still looking for a man. She said it herself that she might have sabotaged her own relationship with baby daddy 2 because she chose the party life. That's whats wrong with women nowadays...motho wants to be a wife but also wants the street life and you can never achieve both ...one is always going to suffer. And issue ya baby daddy number 3, why have a child with a man who already has 5 kids with different mothers...did she think was different or special I don't know. With all respect but men nowadays treat us how we treat ourselves. I hope this time around she has really worked on herself and learned.. even with 3 kids she can find love but she needs to be very mindful of the men she decides to date and lay down with.

[@vusmuzimasilela2358]

Yhoooooo Mamakhe ohh wow with this comment I pray that life treats you well wena you understand life waaaaaay better than other woman who think they know better. Blessings from my family tou yours❤❤

[@nefefefulu9760]

But babe daddy 3 never ran away from his five kids.. she does not want a relationship with babe daddy 3 she wants him to have a relationship with his son

[@mphomorongwe6655]

​@@nefefefulu9760 women seem to forget that we have control over our wombs and who we choose to give kids to. That man already has 5 kids with 5 baby mamas ..as a woman that should tell you that the man is not a type to settle down but the thing about women you want to change umunto or maybe you think wena you are better than the other baby mamas. Trust me you..that man had his reasons for not wanting to be in this lady's life and the childs life ..maybe he ran because he told her he doesn't want any more kids or he saw the way she is with her baby father's. Men shem they don't want a woman with multiple baby daddies even if he has ene but that's the honest truth...men love innocence in women not a woman who has been around (I'm not saying she has) I'm just saying...Men don't want experienced or promiscuous women to settle down with and marry...thats why in most cases side chicks don't get married.

[@mamofranco]

@@mphomorongwe6655 True🎯🎯💯💯you couldn't have said it better. We as women have so much power, act right and a man will do right by you. Don't give him an extension of his legacy until he has shown respect to ur family by doing the needful. But guess what the smart ladies will listen, the baby mamas will continue living in their delulu world saying "wives are intimidated by baby mamas" and blaming men not understanding men and women are not the same (the consequences to our actions are different).

[@LangelihleNgema]

@@vusmuzimasilela2358It’s not about her understanding life better truth is women have the power to not fall pregnant,she had no business having 3 children with 3 differnt men and let alone the last baby daddy who already had 5 children that’s setting your child to rejection.

[@hitekanikanibaloyi6922]

Let it be the last time you speak isiZulu 😭😂😂

[@RatoMogane]

Its so sad that people think because you have different babby daddies then there is something wrong with u It simply means i had failed relationships with these men and got blessed with kids in the process Im a proud mother of 3 from different fathers and im still looking and deserve love We cant all be blessed the same

[@lifewithtshidiedza381]

There is something wrong with u. ..yes...think about not just yourself but those kids...how they will grow up knowing they have different fathers...and they will not see you as a role model Imagine if one dad is supportive and others are not. How do u think kids will be

[@beewest5704]

You definitely need introspection. You are overcomplicating you & your kids lives & heightening their & your kids chances of adverse affects.

[@LangelihleNgema]

@@RatoMogane Yes you do deserve love nobody is disputing that,you did not get blessed with kids you decided not to use protection when laying with men who had no intention to commit to you.

[@mamofranco]

There something definitely wrong with you. It shows you have no shame(as a result of lack of self-worth) and u dn't give a damn abt ur kid's mental & psychological health (their future nje). If u can give a man a baby/ babies(different men for that matter) without them paying lobola for you shows u dnt care abt ur value as lady and don't care abt ur family name (the one u are representing). Ur choices are a representation of how u see urself. But like u said, we can't all be blessed. We can't all be blessed a high sense of self-worth.

[@mamofranco]

@@lifewithtshidiedza381 No accountability at all, I bet the next man she'll date, she'll also give him a baby without him doing the right thing. 🤦‍♀🤦‍♀

[@ntombenkosimamani4805]

Here for Ongie 😘😘😘😘

[@lussylupindo1093]

My favourite Colleague Ongi 🥰🤍

[@thembekaroniccahamca1749]

One thing about Baby mama’s they will want to be known to the wife. Why do you feel the need to do it for him.

[@t-bazzmuzikproductions4667]

@Ongezwa you are so cool, calm and beautiful I love u very much❤😊

[@lesibamashaba3898]

Don't mess things by trying to behave like a second wife

[@xolilemazibuko4390]

Your baby daddy was right do not involve the wife it complicates things honestly

[@tshephomanyothwane1916]

That's very true. Let the parents parent their baby. See now she said wife blocked her, now she screen shots baby daddy. If it's woman to woman why dosent she find out why she did that from her. 2 is better, 3 will involve drama, so and so said this.

[@No2HeartStoppingClotShots]

If the wife is also not sincere, yes don't involve her

[@SibsM93]

She needs to know there's a child outside of her marriage. But she doesn't need to be involved in the co parenting between the mom and dad. The truth needs to be known, that's what Ongezwa was saying. He shouldn't be co parenting in secret

[@nthabisengmoshana8589]

@@tshephomanyothwane1916how would she find out if she is blocked? They don’t have each others numbers

[@nonkolo_faith]

Love you Ongezwa!!! My daily fix la on the red app ❤❤❤ Maka Lubanzi wethu omuhle

[@siyasangaleonorah1792]

The host should’ve watched a couple of your videos in preparation for the interview. That would’ve helped.

[@DuduM27]

What was missing? She asked all the relevant questions

[@siyasangaleonorah1792]

@@DuduM27 I mean the information is readily available, she has a KZbin channel. That would’ve helped to better understand her situation and thus ask more relevant questions. You are correct, the interview was great. That was just my opinion

[@DuduM27]

@@siyasangaleonorah1792 It was going to be hard for her to ask about things that she already know.

[@siphokazimbelu1035]

@@siyasangaleonorah1792 I think it's better when she doesn't know cause when she knows she always leads the conversation.

[@siyasangaleonorah1792]

Fair.

[@leratomokatse2276]

I like it when u say "what what" it's two words that explains anything in any given context🤞🤞

[@hitekanikanibaloyi6922]

“He does have 5 other kids”😫maybe he is used to this kind of behaviour.

[@thandiwejambawa7827]

Massive red flag

[@GrannyRamela]

I think my story is the same with Ongezwa's. 43 years old single mother of 3 with 3 different man and a very loving baby mama. Getting along with my X's Wifes for the sake of ngwana.

[@siyasangaleonorah1792]

Here to support Ongi 😍

[@bahumimatebesi8000]

Onge is so mature… period. 🌷🌷🌷 very wise beyond her age..

[@SthokoK]

Yazi guys I think if there was an award for the most unproblematic baby mama I'd get it😂, even my baby daddy said it one time, yet I don't have any relationship with his wife, my daughter is 14 years old today, she 100% part of his family, she goes over there all the time ever since she was born, she's got siblings etc, I only speak to the baby daddy, never even once have I ever spoken to his wife in 14 years, she has also never called me about anything,, I speak to my daughter's grandma, they know I'm not bitter about anything, so I really think it's necessary for the wife and baby mama to have a relationship, but ke each situation is different, do what works for you.

[@lolokhoza603]

The different opinions on this post should be an eye opener to Ongezwa that we do not see things the same way and we cannot judge a person by their intention but rather their actions and our world view. This therefore means babymama and babydad can/will/are interpreting her actions ( any of them, even an instagram post) through their own lense.Equally they have rights to decide what they want for their own kids and if thats to not have a relationship with their sibling or to leave the co-parenting triangle ( for the wife) that is their right too. It doesnt make her unreasonable - a wise man changes his mind.

[@ZandileNinzi]

Im here for my fave,such a beautiful soul kesana❤

[@anitatumeka1466]

I love Ongezwa and her channel the city mom❤

[@allthingsgaone7439]

Love her so much❤

[@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035]

She is such a lovely lady

[@princessskosana1372]

We are here 🎉

[@Bonangish]

Many relationships are destroyed by black and white. I once forgot my charger at work and my phone was off from 8 p.m to next day when I got at the office. My hubby was away. If situations were reversed, they would have said he was cheating/lying.

[@ModikweSentso-gr7nq]

"Taking my man back"😂😂😂 bathong Ongy

[@Ongezwajiyane]

😂😂he was once my man I beg

[@sibongilemaphuthoma8820]

Two gorgeous ladies ❤

[@lolokhoza603]

I dont think as some do that she wants her babydaddy back....but seems to be a bit pusht about how she wants things to happen. As if her way is the only right way. What if baby dad said take the child and not leave them kokwenu because he needs a closer relationship with you as his mom? Point is you cant 'dictate' as long as baby daddy is showing up for his child - take.that. things will evolve organically, if they do.

[@JoyleenDzingirayi]

Exactly, why dictate the relationship?

[@angelgqweta78]

Oh may God bless Ongezwa, joy for her tears.

[@matsedisolekgotla5818]

How I love Ongezwa ❤️

[@claudiamolebugi981]

Man abandon children cause they have their own personal battles with themselves. Eishhh, life can be miserable sometimes. and most issues, which cant be resolved are very spiritual., other than that, this is a good woman who deserves a good marriage also.

[@karabogorewang3511]

The Host and inviting only beautiful guests, samewhats app group😍🥰

[@zuzuh5755]

I really love Ongezwa for being honest,I also appreciate Promise for not being judgemental.She is neutral and understanding. Whatever negative things pple are saying on comments ,its not Promise's views.I really like how Promise is handling these conversations especially with baby mamas.

[@ayandamagubane7211]

Wise Woman❤

[@Nana_Magongwa]

Shame man,,,i dont know what is wrong with our SA brothers honestly,,,i relate very well with her story,,infact it took me back a little,,but just be there for your son,,if he comes back,he comes,if he doesn't, he doesn't, i went through similar route and sadly my daughter is 17 now,,babby daddy never bothered to this day,,,,Only God knows guys❤

[@faychakaunya8709]

I agree with you 100% let's think for our kids ❤

[@ThokozileMkhabela]

She is so mutured and she is so pretty

[@keletjopheladitema]

I enjoyed this Podcast😊

[@asivegaxa9788]

😮😮 the amount of bitter n scorned wives in this podcast😂😂😂 funny how people think they've clocked life by being married yet most of them are raising kids alone in your so called marriages! Wake up and smell the roses marriage is not everyone's goal and bcoz you're married doesn't mean your life is rosey... Be realistic

[@nompumelolo]

delulu

[@mamofranco]

If marriage is not your goal, don't have kids then, denying kids a two parent household is the most diabolical thing a woman can do to her kids. How will they view love, relationships, if they want one in future? It seems you're bitter that marriage passed u by.😂😂😂 Count your losses my sister.

[@GhostedLadyMzansi]

Ongezwa’s explanation bout me here,had to watch this first ukuze ngi understande

[@nthabisengmoshana8589]

Love Ongezwa so much, I enjoyed this

[@lungile_mabhuma7337]

Ongezwa❤🎉

[@ZisandaJ]

Here for my big sister, love you loads

[@michellemoreana1938]

I closed shop after baby daddy no 2 left me pregnant i was not ready for this to happen to me again and again and like her my baby daddy no 1 got married after leaving me 2nd baby daddy i heard he was married when I was pregnant so ku bird

[@bofeloomolemo4503]

"Taking my man back"😭😭😭johhh hee

[@siphokazimagaya9113]

I don’t even understand why this guy did not tell the wife he had a child, I get why the wife somewhat mad because she got married thinking they will start their family kanti guy has a firstborn child already.

[@leratosebetoane8333]

Mara "Spouse" is mad at the wrong person

[@pileshongwe7827]

Then wife must be angry at hubby not baby mama

[@leratosebetoane8333]

@@pileshongwe7827 axactly . Shame woman hate each other no doubt.

[@JoyleenDzingirayi]

@@leratosebetoane8333 I think it’s the baby daddy who hates Ongezwa here

[@nompumelolo]

​yup like she said, she was a city girl while he wanted a church girl. He was embarrassed of her

[@DM-rm5ec]

I love uMama ka BabyLu 😊❤

[@Tumi-gv4nn]

She's beautiful❤

[@tsholofelomokoena]

Ongezwa love your aura sisi.. definitely subscribing to your channel.

[@tshenogotswai7283]

I love u girl bcos ur not angry u move on n keep going u r beautiful ❤❤

[@malindiqongo947]

And your story is mine but only first baby daddy that is married, mara they came back apologizing,.. Interesting podcast 💝

[@pulengphatedi8153]

❤keep it moving....

[@ncedolugedle8180]

Our own ke sana, Mama kaLubanzi

[@masego3152]

I'm sorry, but 1 child I completely understand that can be a mistake BUT 2 other babies!!!!😮 Mam, that was just a poor decision! Especially in a country that subsidizes birth control😳 But I'll keep you in my prayers and all the best 🫶🏽

[@thandiwejambawa7827]

I'm also a single mom of a 30yr old. What we should do after baby number 1 or 2 is to withhold sex until he marries you because a man can be sexually attracted to you but not in love with you that's why the moment you mention pregnancy, they leave.

[@mamofranco]

Mama, have you heard of contraceptives? No man is going to accept such unless he's a fool. Would u allow ur son to be denied intimacy bcoz of that reason especially by a baby mama?

[@NoloM-de4zh]

I related soo much to this episode ❤❤…

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

❤Ongezwa♥️

[@undjizuvamukueuva2323]

My favorite KZbinr..❤

[@JoyleenDzingirayi]

But why force the relationship between baby mamas? If your child is taking care of your children there is no need of forcing these extra relationships. How about each to their lane?

[@vusmuzimasilela2358]

very good question shame, woman think they are very clever there's a reason why she's forcing a relationship with the wife you a woman you also know she's forcing it.

[@Athini_Myataza]

Haha 😂 this happened to me. I started my periods at 16, i started dating when i was turning 19. Slept with my babydaddy and got pregnant right there and there. On the spot. Imagine breaking your virginity and getting pregnant 😮😢 So i didn't know i was pregnant until November 2010, and i gave birth in March 2011 to a baby girl. She's 13 years old now. I'm not dreaming of having any more babies shame.