OP's Abusive SIL Trying to Force Reconciliation with Her Estranged Twin After Going No Contact Bu...

I need help with my SIL that tried to force a reconciliation with my estranged twin. (u/TheSleepyEldest/ in r/JUSTNOFAMILY)
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[@garasu29]

"yes, we own that many flamingos. My husband was in a fraternity" from 0 to complete understanding in .5 seconds

[@adyashanayak7958]

I didn't get it. Can u explain?

[@garasu29]

@@adyashanayak7958 fraternities have a reputation for doing wild and weird stuff, so something like having a bunch of flamingos probably meant they were used for a prank in college, and the husband held onto them afterwards

[@willjones455]

I didn't go to college and got it immediately 😅

[@tipr.999]

Honestly, why not have that many pink plastic flamingos?

[@donnarichen9313]

Lol I'm doing distance learning for college and I knew

[@helenasouza9196]

I'm sorry but I lost it at the husband. True boss power move. Dude is a effing legend and def a keeper. I cant believe he actually answered the door naked with a beer in hand😂😂😂😂

[@spheres0082]

Def a keeper for sure lol. Found myself in applause when I read that part xD

[@R_W_Goodson]

Don’t visit my home without calling first.

[@DonBoy22]

He's the yardstick that all boyfriends & husbands need to be held to for dealing with extended family. Pure legend.

[@shadowsnake5133]

Bro wins, I'd never be that confident, god damn!

[@ChinchillaQueen]

How else do you answer unsolicited visitors? That's how I got rid of the jehovahs witnesses and Mormons that would come knocking. Husband was beet red but I answered in my bra and underwear. Haven't seen them for four years now

[@Thaddius0]

4 maniacs in one story. OP just trying to exist while the world around her is on fire

[@igotmyapplejuice7094]

Her life is basically the "this is fine meme"

[@connormclernon26]

@@igotmyapplejuice7094except it did eventually get better when karma came for their collective asses

[@willambonney]

Seen enough shit like this happen.....you cant write this stuff...few cops told me worse shit then this even...

[@cototototorra7106]

@@willambonney luckly she actually managed to squize past all these jerks, hopefully op's twin gets the help they need

[@rainbowmeowmix]

Man that husband is the friggin GOAT for how je handled all that, the flamingos were a hell of a power move

[@tegantalks9612]

The man answered the door naked, he clearly dgaf!

[@MamaMargie]

I hope my son is that amazing of a husband one day. So awesome

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

"I'm gonna overstep my bounds and bring back a trauma for INTERNET POINTS!" SIL needs a damn hobby. ETA after everything: husband is a keeper

[@cereirn2471]

womp womp

[@epimetheaus1214]

Husband with the power move, fuckin' legend. "Talk to the dong, cause the face ain't listening."

[@nightworrior721]

Oh the face is listening alright. Listening to the wind as the flag pole rises.

[@cujo1786]

Hold on I gotta ask my second head lmfao

[@inacook2285]

​@@cujo1786😂

[@TheFlashyLucario]

I have to say: OP got the best husband ever! I hope they are doing well :)

[@SSFighter1701]

The husband is a wonderful and whimsical human being. Going naked to the door, the whole flamingo deal, and his deft management of the family by simply canceling the holidays.

[@49erGuy]

I'm a 70 year old man I personally would never put up with any of this drama I've never had drama like this in my family before but I'm glad for you and your family I'm really very happy that you moved to another country and found a new life for yourself just cut off all these idiots any one of them who wants to be against you all of them you're only family you need to be worried about is your husband and the little babies you're going to make that is the family you owe your obedience and loyalty too, remember when you took an oath to your husband at the altar that was not your mother or your father or to anybody else that was to your husband and your future family, and I think you've got a good handle on it right now with what you did just go with your gut and thank God for your husband with a shiny spine, he's the best

[@dragb9284]

Man your lucky am barely a third your age and I’ve had tons of insane shit like this. Hell the most vivid had to be when my aunt went nuts when people weren’t doing what she wanted because she abandoned everyone when we were taking care of my dying grandmother. She came back and expected it be in charge and got violent and tried to actually bite my face when we told her off. So yeah I can easily see this happen, most family’s are messy.

[@49erGuy]

@@dragb9284 I think the only reason people don't mess with me and my family is because I worked on the docks for 25 years and I'm really really strong and I used to be a bouncer for 10 years, so the people in my family don't give me crap they don't dare and now that I'm the oldest person in the family I'm the patriarch so the few family members I have left they tell their friends don't mess with my cousin Jean because you won't like the consequences well at a party one time they told us to a girl and the first thing she did was mess with me I looked at her I gave her one chance I said, and then I said don't do it again and she went ahead and tried to mess with me again so 5 minutes later she's crying her eyes out running out of the house because I can be a really Gruff mean person when I want to I never touched them I just say things that make them cry which is pretty easy seeing as when you working on the docks you've heard a lot of crap it's not hard to make people cry especially women

[@Plexxis_SugarPom]

Hey man, I saw this comment, and I personally hope you have a nice day, you seem chill and that's pretty cool. 😊

[@CG-yb6zj]

Wtf is with folks who have NO EXPERIENCE in living with trauma and abuse to tell others how they should feel/deal about it??? The utter audacity and entitlement to outright refuse to clearly see the divide od victim and abuse and that there's NO grounds for neutrality in this. All their "healthy" raising and they lack so much Empathy/compassion/ and logic. SIL and her supporters are DISGUSTING

[@rebewtinydino2572]

She did do drugs wastthinking rationally

[@CG-yb6zj]

@rebewtinydino2572 That may be the case for SIL here, but there are plenty other instances of others not under the influence of families/friends trying to act as 'mediator' between victim and abuser blatantly ignoring how selfish they sound arguing "It's been *insert time* can't you move past it by now?" , or the case of others with "Well, I talked to *insert abuser*, and they said you were lying/exaggerating" like someone would really outright admit to being an abuser, not even bothering to look up the paper trail and just go off word of mouth like SIL here

[@Zminator1986]

​@@rebewtinydino2572 Oh she knows what she's doing. Chasing those social credit (clout) points.

[@SnowyWolborg]

Privilege. These people come from backgrounds where they have absolutely no experience with dysfunctional families, abuse, or struggle, so from their ignorant POV, the problem should be solvable with some communication and a hug. It's naive at best, and insulting at worst.

[@Zminator1986]

Good to hear this story again after years of searching. I find this situation funny that all this drama, jailings, and karmic justice all started because of a junkie SIL chasing social credit (clout as the kids call it)

[@morganleanderblake678]

People have GOT to stop taking advice from the comments section and applying it at a high stakes family meeting. It's a bad call.

[@hue_lord_4208]

Sometimes it's helpful to hear an outside opinion, it's only a problem if you treat it as an objective fact rather than advice. Hear other people's opinions, consider your options, and decide what you ultimately think would be best for you.

[@adyashanayak7958]

SIL posted half truths. And took the advice of commenters who knew only half truths.

[@monkey-man7430]

She purposely left out very important details so I think she wanted people to ask her to reunite the twins so it could seem like she reunited two long separated twins so she’d seem like the heroine so she did it for brownie points

[@BaeBunni]

@@monkey-man7430 Seeing that Op didn't want to give any kind of letter to avoid SIL being praised despite failing makes me believe that.

[@M_IAWIA]

People on the Internet also have a problem with you not taking their advice without question. Asked reddit for help once, and when I asked follow-up questions (as I didn't feel they took everything into consideration in their answers), I got called out for not accepting help.

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

Child abuse is absolutely disgusting, i ,like many have seen ut first hand. But a forced reconciliation is just wrong, the abuse is brought back up again. The twin it evil , her mind is warped, enjoying giving pain to other us sadistic.

[@lindah3803]

So,OP wanted to know if she would be evil by wishing those ________ to be stuck on an island and waste away. That's not evil. That's a vacation. That's alright. OP isn't the vindictive scorched earth type.

[@SummonerOrthan]

Its so insane how so many people only bank THEIR relationships with their siblings and so think it has to be the same with everyone.

[@dym6464]

8 years in prison for SIL XD

[@BaeBunni]

Yea sounds like drugging your brother's wife and grand theft auto gets you in hot water.

[@acujenpete]

Feeling lucky my crazy sister stopped her nastiness years ago. The stress OP and her family are dealing with is horrific. Waiting for the revenge.

[@Yllamse]

Holy smokes. I hope OP and DH have a good life together considering the drama that just keeps unfolding around them! They freaking deserve paradise after all of this. 🥺

[@daaaaaaaaaanay]

Omg poor OP got the Harry Potter childhood I just realized that

[@WaterChicken27]

Their poor attorney 😭 I feel so bad

[@thefiretailedweasel6206]

I love a happy ending 🥰

[@Jasonfallen71]

How is it that all these people who are animals, at best, know where OP lives and works and have her phone number? A person in this situation would be a lot more aware of the fact that they are under major threat and need to be unreachable. This is what can be so messed up about “family”. Unless you take the power away from them to abuse and harass you, then you are giving them an invitation to screw you down to hell. All family are cut off if there’s any possibility of sharing or stealing that info. OP could’ve been their own best protection but fell prey to the wrong adage that you never abandon family.

[@MikeSVZ]

That was possibly the saddedst story I have ever heard in my life.....

[@PrismCasillica]

1:21 That went from 0 to 100 really fast!

[@VoiceOfTheEmperor]

20:58 okay, wtf? I get throwing your other kid under the bus, but this? This is some Auschwitz level stuff.

[@karenmariewalker143]

Her family is freaking INSANE 😮😮😮

[@darkkurama5651]

What the actual f@$# did i just read....

[@dokuganryu1565]

A car-crash of disfunctional people and one normal person trying to pass off as a family

[@tazzercat969]

"A beer in one hand and his flag pole in the other" Damn I wish I could buy that man a drink for making good on his threat.😂😂😂😂😂

[@atouchoftrouble]

I have tried to facilitate a reconciliation between my BIL & FILbut its mostly asking if one would be interested in texting the other Merry Christmas. I gave up around the 2nd Christmas. (No abuse, just money disagreements) It is insane to take it that far & try to force a meeting!

[@thelightedghost]

It's a shit show out here..

[@RelationshipUpdates08]

Wow, the moment when your husband stood up and immediately called the police was incredibly intense! I can't imagine how terrifying it must have been to see your twin sister brought to your doorstep like that.

[@ChefRye1]

Influencers are right up there with vegans and cyclists as some of the worst non criminals people out there. Also good on MIL and FIL, outside of Husband true studs of the story.

[@SnowyWolborg]

Cyclists?

[@ChefRye1]

@@SnowyWolborgcyclist are people who think they own the road, doing Jesus’s work saving the environment by not using cars, and have this we are in better shape and better athletes than everyone else. Again on the same level of vegans and cyclists

[@CionJSBJJ]

Honestly, you’re my favourite Reddit channel on KZbin

[@SecretVoices25]

Thank you brother, thank you so much for those kind words. I'll try to entertain you with great stories

[@danacarter9147]

​@@SecretVoices25 Your reddit channel is like comfort food.

[@edgarcortes5368]

man that husband answering the door naked infront of his grandparents😂😂

[@TheCodeHunter]

this is a messy one pretty sad too

[@yeayea115]

Bro is ripping and tearing, fighting for his life through those caves in the minecraft gameplay

[@pastelicious5422]

Fr it was almost more captivating than the story

[@lbeard7661]

Did they move the flamingos? Inquiring minds want to know!

[@vidaapplebee8388]

Lol, ya'll I used to think my family was the only crazy one!! Op I hope you live your best life!!

[@denisebrown7680]

Blessings to OP and DH!

[@amberluppens3292]

“I’ll never ever come home until DH divorces OP!” Well, I guess the trash took itself out

[@callnitid]

Some people are so deep in lala land and there no hope

[@unclelink]

God has nothing to do with those evil people.

[@saundrahuff5870]

Wow. I had a difficult pregnancy, so I ended up getting multiple ultrasounds. Each person doing it told me I had a boy. Unless I have razor blades up there, they got it wrong. Instead of my baby being named Joshua, she is now Kendra. And, I got over it in one day. Now it’s just a funny story on why you never trust ultrasound to pick the gender

[@hoapham7389]

This story was very hard to follow, there were lots of unfamiliar initials and suddenly there's egg donor and spermdonor?

[@RylieRiddle]

OP is the wife of DH(dear husband in this case), her parents are egg donor and sperm donor because they hate her being a girl instead of boy like they were told. Mil, Fil, obvious what these are and they're good people. Sil is a wannabe influencer and ruined her following for posting about OP and abusive family. GG is the husband's grandparents, JNgrandpa is OP's bio granddad, JN means just no. JMaunt is just maybe aunt, meaning she's helpful to OP but she's not quite close as the rest of the people in OP's life.

[@rogueninja4719]

​@@RylieRiddle or "JMaunt " may mean "Just My Aunt".

[@jamesmyles4540]

Jy is "just yes" (good guys) Jn is "just no" (bad guys) Pretty sure Jm is "just maybe" (unsure, possibly changing sides)

[@WeirdGuy_Gamin]

The egg and sperm donors are her parents, she doesn't consider those things her parents.

[@theubiquitouspotato]

Yeah non of this story makes sense, she's telling people to watch out because she controls access to grandchildren and yet then she has her tubes tied years ago?

[@RylieRiddle]

They're using IVF to have kids, could also use a surrogate if they need.

[@BrianWalker93]

Pretty sure it was a case of "I'm not ready to tell people yet that this has happened". But while they were unaware she could use that as a threat

[@lawsonallen7741]

Call the cops on them. Or get a Lawyer. Don't let them get away with it.

[@harleyquinn5774]

They have.

[@beverlyarcher3744]

Wish op would update on how treatments went

[@Starbean89]

I wanna be friends with Op and her hubby. They sound like my kind of people

[@trashotaku]

Everybody’s talking about how awesome OP‘s husband is (and rightfully so) but can we also talk about OP in-laws? The way they immediately came to her aid and absolutely REFUSED to allow the SIL to potentially talk her way out of anything/rightfully punished her? Hearing that OP’s MIL was a former DV advocate makes me wonder just how stupid the SIL was when she thought inviting the abuser of a DV victim to their house while said victim was also there was supposed to fly with her parents ESPECIALLY the mom?

[@josephgrube]

And I thought the Griffin family was dysfunctional

[@shanewoody4232]

8 years for drugs? That seems like an injustice.

[@KarlPHorse]

Usually depends on the amount found. Not always, but usually. I’m guessing SIL got caught with an ungodly amount of drugs. Above a certain amount, you are charged with possession with intent to distribute, and above that is a charge of trafficking. For example we’ll use Cocaine: a little baggy of coke = possession. Several bags of coke = intent to distribute. And bricks of the stuff = trafficking. And naturally the sentences get more severe the higher up you go. Including life in some places. These laws are intended to target dealers and syndicates. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that it’s how it is.

[@NoobRedd-ph9fi]

A chaotic family😮

[@cancertourmaline6798]

So many nutjobs in this story! While probably very awful for OP, I’m glad that whole bs is over with for OP.

[@MegaNumberXIII]

I may be a little dumb, but can someone explain the jyaunt and jngrandfather thing?

[@BaeBunni]

I think it was just to differentiate the people that were helpful and hurtful in her life.

[@meghanbrooks3990]

A Just Yes person is someone who’s on you’re side/a good person, while a Just No is is someone who’s often abusive/narcissistic and just not good for you. Useful Reddit terms.

[@MegaNumberXIII]

@@meghanbrooks3990 Thank you. Makes so much more sense now.

[@jonb2911]

this was a very satisfying story. feel like I need a cigarette

[@user102030400]

I can’t stand by and watch my sister get murdered by somebody else but me!

[@spamachuchan8824]

200 plastic pink flamingos? He was in a fraternity? That explains very little to me! Did he and his brothers buy a large quantity for a prank, and just kept what was left over? Or did he buy only 200 for a prank and when it was done just kept them? Why 200? Probably for the reaction I'm giving. Seriously who has 200 plastic flamingos just laying around their shed? Yes, I am very stuck on those dang plastic birds.😂😂😂

[@RunnyBabbitMom]

If you are old enough to drive you should be mature enough to not force an abused person to see their abuser, which makes you a co-abuser. Also if you are old enough to drive you technically are not a child because children don't drive.

[@dananab140]

You confuse sister and sister-in-law a couple times that or the story just doesn't make sense

[@STAYATINYARMYSIN]

I do feel bad for MIL and FIL 🙁 they won’t get to watch their potential grandkids grow up all bc their drugged out daughter decided “you’re lying , I don’t believe you” 😒

[@Jamiegrl3]

There is so much going on in this. Hope OP is doing okay now and that therapy helped

[@johnronald9767]

This made my head spin holy shit

[@RiderEpsilon]

The parents in law are real goat

[@rugr82day]

Saved just for the story.

[@petebock7021]

Wow. Both E.D and Twin are both cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.

[@LODintheshadows]

It's a long one, so I am a bit confused about a few things. First op says she's only one that can have baby, that's why they got in contact, then said when younger had medical emergency which ended with her tubes tied so she can't have a baby, but then says she's on ivf treatment to have a baby? I thought the medical emergency meant it was impossible, so why would they be on ivf? Also, why is younger sil getting 8 years in a fed prison? So mid bil gf caught her using so told people and left bil, so like she's using, got stole so non expensive things and her mums car, but that got her 8 years in fed? Were the mil and FIL alright with them at the end, kept saying most family angry with them, but didn't specify how they felt, even though originally was saying how much on their side they were, agreed to distance themselves from sil for her actions. Did they know about her using?

[@harleyquinn5774]

Her tubes are defunct, but IVF treatments exist that can get around that.

[@burger8493]

What a nice mining trip.

[@shawnwebb4594]

That was pretty hard to follow

[@AddisynDurocher]

Holy shit the first minute into this was like me telling it. I'm fraternal and was supposed to he boy and parents were disappointed. But I'm 6 minute younger

[@denisebrathwaite8259]

Read the one where the inlaws wanted to get rid of 2 of their triplet grandkids

[@Translate_The_Guardian]

Whats the modpack playing in the background.

[@memnochLasher]

What does jn mean?

[@robynw6307]

So confusing and hard to follow. I give up.

[@RunnyBabbitMom]

Okay. Story is fake. In one part they posted they are the only one who can have biological children and then she posted she can't get pregnant.

[@blender4464]

Amazing how she got all these restraining orders based on nothing, and people showing up to her work. Whew, gotta love reddit.

[@harleyquinn5774]

Saved tangible and electronic correspondences, voice messages and eye witnesses. Definitely not based on nothing.

[@jackwright-c7k]

W husband

[@PLCTheCd]

What does JNG stand for?

[@runyoufool2856]

Am i stupid? Why am i the only one who doesnt know what JY, JN and JM means,m

[@rubycelica]

the storytelling in this one is completely not understandable. 10 minutes in and leaving since i really still don't get what the situation and the problems are.

[@pippiecarr9378]

The amount of people that believe this is a real story is insane. And, now I have no faith in humanity.

[@harleyquinn5774]

Crazy stories like this get filed in courts everyday.

[@bulruq]

A waste of 32 minutes of my life! The pronoun changes in this FICTION make it difficult if not impossible to keep track of which players are good guys and which are bad guys. It's BALONEY!!

[@bowie3503]

Fake

[@pippiecarr9378]

Why are there so many stories where a woman marries into a family and then causes complete destruction of their husbands family? It's creepy. Are there reallly women walking around fantasising about their husband and some of his family members destroying their families and placing her in the centre of their new family as some kind of queen.

[@harleyquinn5774]

That doesn’t sound like the story told at all. You sound like you are selectively listening.

[@Karen_thatbish]

How can they not understand that OP wouldn’t spit on her twin if she was on fire & for good reason? I would have went NC with all of them forever as soon as I turned 18. OP should check into the statute of limitations to see if they can still be prosecuted for for the abuse while they were still a minor. Definitely lifetime NC with the Manson family.

[@MizzShortai]

I always wonder why these idiots who know ALL the abuse a person went through end up talking to the abuser amd believing them instead. With no proof or anything. Just take their word for it. Its disgusting.

[@Chonts]

It really is crazy. That happened to me, my father was a pathological liar and abuser, we begged our family for help but they said they wanted to "talk" to him first. Then they told us we should stay and work through it and that they'll pray for us 😂

[@MathildaFlow]

I think people have a tendency to believe what they want to believe. If they want to believe that a situation wasn't as bad as someone said they will believe the person who says it really wasn't that bad.

[@MathildaFlow]

@@Chonts I bet their lazy asses just didn't feel like dealing with it.

[@bredaisy4001]

They love the drama

[@Zminator1986]

In the SIL's cause, chasing that social credit score and make her audience happy. And probably make more money for drugs.

[@tartlynerdy]

This was wild from start to finish. Op just can't catch a break. She left one trash family and married into another somewhat trash family (minus her husband and her mil and her fil). Why do I get this feeling that op's twin is just losing her mind at the idea op is living a much happier life despite being their parent's favorite child and led to believe op doesn't deserve to be happy. Twin sister just wants to ruin op's happiness. Op's parents sound like shameless psychopaths.

[@nick-brothwood]

I wouldn't be surprised if that was the case. the twin is a scumbag.

[@djdomain]

If there isn't a term for it yet then I nominate Golden Turd syndrome. It's where the golden child is less talented/successful/attractive than the scapegoat despite everything handed to them, thus the animosity towards the scapegoat is escalated by the parent(s) and/or the golden child.

[@nick-brothwood]

@@djdomain I just call them Pyrite brats.

[@cereirn2471]

womp womp

[@deusex4905]

I fucking lost it at the husband showing naked with a beer. Amazing man.

[@nick-brothwood]

Gigachad move.

[@petebock7021]

Salute that flag.

[@verakrot]

He said and he did👏

[@macylouwho1187]

Oh look, a family as messed up as mine 😂. Poor OP, I know how it goes.

[@karinefonte516]

8:47 - Now that's what I call a good answer to clueless relatives! Way to go sir!

[@buttholesurfer3213]

The way OP’s sister basically re-wrote reality in her eyes is scary accurate to how abusers behave irl

[@BaeBunni]

It's pretty typical narcissistic behavior. From experience they will legit gaslight not only others but themselves and basically rewrite memories because "I was happy then so everyone was too!"

[@EduardoFlores-bt4fo]

It was confusing at times becuase they kept mixing who was who

[@FroggyGirlDreams]

Yeah I wish OP gave them names instead

[@pamlew338]

You are saving your child from the childhood you had

[@dandymaiden]

God , what a fucking nightmare

[@Mendel97]

I can’t be the only one who got so lost while listening

[@RylieRiddle]

I had to listen to it a couple times to really understand

[@katie_jeanes]

Wtf is this?! I can’t even watch/listen to this whole video. I’m at 14:35 and I’m tapping out ✋🏼 😳 🤚🏼

[@SecretVoices25]

Why😭😭 what happened

[@celticwolfvapes127]

damn that was a wild ride

[@Z1pZ1p3r]

There are so many abreviations I lost track. Who are all this people with a "J" in them.

[@RylieRiddle]

JN- just no, so her bio granddad is JNgranddad, he's not someone she wants in her life. JM- just maybe, JMaunt is someone she cares about but holds her away for her own peace of mind

[@Mr.toxic117]

You got to love that man

[@ireniaks]

The 'funny' thing is, OP has done exactly nothing. She literally just stayed calm, collected, logical, gone through legal channels and acted like an adult. She hasn't hurt anyone, hasn't behaved bad, said anything bad.

[@LODintheshadows]

What a lovely sil, choosing to believe a complete stranger over her brothers wife she grew up with 🤦‍♂️