OP Suggested His Girlfriend To Stop Seeing Her Creepy Friend; She Took It As Controlling Behaviou...

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

"Put the fork away. Don't stick it in the outlet, you'll get badly hurt." "You're not the boss of me!" *stucks fork in electical outlet* *gets horribly shocked and winds up in the ER* "Why didn't you stop her! Misogynist!" "I did. She didnt listen and she did it to spite me." "What, you tried to control her?! Misogynist!"

[@SnowyWolborg]

The simple fact of the matter is, some people are just too stupid to know what is good for them.

[@low-keydrama1260]

The fact that this girl STILL HASN’T LEARNED and STILL thinks OP is controlling is just frustrating. I think OP made the right choice to end things

[@MinisterManDan]

Too immature to be in a relationship. She doesn’t want a partner she wants a father figure to rebel against and be defiant of for no reason other than whatever unresolved issues she has with her actual father.

[@Sludge_]

Banger pfp

[@zerofate9669]

Whats worse is that she still holds op at fault for being controlling partner and constantly not taking his concerns and feelings into consideration. She is way too immature and childish to even be with someone. She was ONLY lucky she got groped by the creep, it could have escalated to where she was actually r@***, and then she have no one to blame but herself, becuz she got drunk becuz she was mad at op for being caring and worrried for her well-being and went with the creep anyways. The signs were obviously there, op even tried to tell her, but like an idiot, she went anyways. Op is better off without that childish baggage girl. She is a whole ass mess for someone to babysit.

[@igotmyapplejuice7094]

Moral of story 1: "don't save her, she don't wanna be saved" On a serious note I'm really tired of the "mens boundaries and preferences are controlling" narrative.

[@yaoilover0]

Idk yall tend to have some unreasonable boundaries. So do women. But instead of just calling out the unreasonable boundary, some of y’all like to make it a personal attack on your whole gender. Weird.

[@cipher5150]

​@@yaoilover0 you're not wrong. but the "boundary game" is kinda one-sided. women can have pretty much any boundary while men's boundaries are often labled as being insecure, controlling, etc. tho, mainly in certain circles, communities, at least from what i observe. but besides that, what's an unreasonable boundary or not is often subjective, it can vary from person to person and also bei influenced by certain circumstances.

[@andynorck2389]

@@yaoilover0 women can also have very unreasonable boundaries. So that’s a moot point. Also in this OP’s story his boundary was correct and she should have listened.

[@Zyart]

@@cipher5150 Literally just got out of this life. Everything she wanted had to be followed, every "boundary" I tried to set was immediately ignored.

[@robwebster1098]

🎵 Imma introduce me, Project Pat, i keep it real 🎵

[@WereMike]

Enough with the "controlling" trope please. OP's girl acts like a lemming and somehow only finds the backbone to push back against OP and not every other person in her life.

[@erickaennis2738]

Sounds like she's going to get herself into worse trouble in her future. And holding a person accountable for bad, irresponsible decisions is not victim blaming just because something bad happens. She'll probably hang with this creep again because he said he was really sorry. Glad OP dumped her.

[@Riri_734]

There are 2 kinds of women everyone should avoid. The cheaters and the dumb ones. OP's gf is in the latter category. No matter how much you try, you cannot cure idiocy. So just avoid them or your life will be pure hell.

[@MistressSuki92]

Gf from the first post literally went threw a fit after OP warned her the guy friend was a creep and went "you can't tell me what to do!" and got SA'd because of it. Like I hate the 'blame the victim' thing people do but at a certain point you have to stop being shocked by the attacks you suffer after repeatedly walking into the lion's den out of spite.

[@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist]

I dont think thats the problem here exactly. Its not her fault she got SA’d, and sometimes we miss bad signs around people we think we can trust. The problem is what happens after, she is a woman who I think could benefit from couples counseling. As well as OP. She needs to try to understand that her decisions do in fact affect OP, when you are in a relationship every action you take affects your partner, you are a team, and need to try to work together, and take concerns about a partner seriously, and not resort to drinking out of spite. I understand the idea of wanting be independent, but people dont get to be independent when there is two of you, so if she cant learn to compromise for her partner, thats where the problem is. OP. I think OP said it perfectly, what happens when they get married and big financial decisions happen? Or they fight over how to raise a kid? Is she going to overrule him each time? I think these are the problems.

[@Otis56]

​@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist Yeah she's going off on OP about being controlling when she's the controlling one who thinks her way is the only right option in the universe

[@SSFighter1701]

Story 1: There is learning by carrot and learning by stick (metaphorically) - some people just do not learn without “the stick”.

[@REYCER0]

she already had the stick and didn´t learn, some just do not learn in general.

[@matthewbarabas3052]

and thats why people who only learn by the stick are permanently considered idiots.

[@rhaelfixer2584]

@@REYCER0 Maybe she didn't get the stick hard in her or she need multiple sticks to be in her hard then she would learn if not she is a lost cause.

[@mikelee990]

Story 1: Op's ex is a future Darwin Award recipient. 🙄

[@tarabryant2909]

Rightfully so. She’s a lost cause.

[@Otis56]

​@@tarabryant2909Yup,the western women got to her,

[@Maninawig]

Story 1: Sadly, she chose to believe the worse in her boyfriend and the best in her friend. He expressed concern about the guy who constantly hit on her, and she spited him, found out he was right, and still chose to tell him as an afterthought. This shows much disrespect and very little trust.

[@deejones0071]

I don't think it was an afterthought, I think she was just top proud to admit that he was right.

[@darrylblanch8463]

She ignores all questions & warnings, ignores her boyfriends requests & goes away with the dude for 4 days, ghosting OP, then tells a sob story on how he forced kisses? gropes on her? This happened early & she still ghosts him for 3 more days THEN comes back & tells him this but won't charge him? When OP goes to get him kicked out, videos WILL surface if she's lying or not.

[@MinkxiTes]

If this is true, well, she might have wanted to cheat with the guy, chickened out and now tells the attack story? Maybe she even didn't chicken out and went totally with it and now has a bad concious and tries to turn things around.

[@Otis56]

​@@MinkxiTesYeah won't be the first woman to preach assault after cheating

[@jackolantern147]

1st story. Roles reversed, he would not have given near as much hassle. When a woman expresses concern, its taken as such, when a man does it, he's a controlling misogynist. Dump her and move on, she's gonna make the same mistakes and even worse ones, then blame you. No man deserves that baggage.

[@stephenheffren4324]

Unfortunately, the stereotype of the "nagging, overbearing wife" is still common. It's thankfully not as common and is a discouraged stereotype. Unfortunately, this mindset of "my boyfriend/girlfriend is trying to control and micromanage my entire life" definitely goes both ways.

[@HauntedGalMars]

To me... i know I'm not conventionally attractive... but if someone loved me for me but doesn't think I'm super model material... so what? Looks fade. People age and plastic surgery will only slow down the aging process so much until it makes you look inhuman from overwork. You have to love someone for more than looks if you want a relationship to last. Like the guy said... sometimes, once you love someone for more than looks... you start to find that person to be the most beautiful person in your life.

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

the problem here is the deep insecurity the wife has, if she doesnt go to therapy all her relationships will face this dilema. also shows her lack of comunication and maturity

[@Maninawig]

The cue is in the second thing you said and her justification. You know you are not conventionally attractive, but she lived her whole life being told she was in the upper echelon. That's why the comment hit her hard, and Reddit supports her because men=evil. But I have ADHD, so will often put my foot in my mouth and do get what he was saying to his friend: when the beauty has no substance to back it up, the love is superficial. Then he doubled down with your quote that falling for someone's personality amplifies all their qualities. Between the quip about always being told she's beautiful, and the one about her kids, I am more inclined to think that the wife is one who has functional trauma... a fragility she was able to ignore as long as certain goalposts were met. But I might be adding too much of my own past fragility to this outlook.

[@RedM-lk6fk]

Your self awareness is an incredibly attractive quality.

[@JammKhon]

1st story seeing a guy her bf didn't like he was "just friends" had sexually inappropriate conversations with "just a friend" blames bf for being controlling "sick" when bf was leaving town for a bit went over to "just a friend" to "hang out" hid the hang out and radio silence for a short period just after started apologizing after seeing the bf I've seen these events before I just can't put my finger on where.

[@mr.halfright]

Certainly wouldn't be the first time a woman decided to scream "r*pe" to avoid admitting they cheated

[@CBNM1]

I would leave her. She didnt take His feeling inti consideration. It's sucks what happen to her. But imagine move on with her.

[@darrylblanch8463]

Story 2. Question asked of OP. Why is everyone getting an uncle who'se a lawyer? OPs answer..... I'm Asian...'NUFF said!

[@jjnix9517]

Its not victim blaming, the friend is trash but she put herself in the situation and made herself available to be assaulted and her actions are on her.

[@erinwessel2195]

Lol that is literally victim blaming

[@legiontepes3474]

​@@erinwessel2195 no, it's not. If you get mugged because you have 100 dollar bills in your hands and screaming I'm rich, you can't blame bad luck. You made a poor choice and took a risk. You put yourself in that position.

[@dokuganryu1565]

@@erinwessel2195 It would be victim blaming if it she hadn't had anyone warning her to her face of what was wrong and she hadn't acted out of spite.

[@Otis56]

​@@erinwessel2195Nope she was in no way a victim here,if a white guy(in the 60s) went to black neighbourhood yelling the N word and preaching about the reformation of slavery and the confederacy,him getting murdered wouldn't make him a victim cause he knowingly went into the face of danger and then suffered

[@peterfrancis8194]

Men know how other men are. Just like the same is true for women

[@sadiewashington2855]

I actually don’t think what OP in story 3 said was that wrong. He never said she was unattractive. To me it sounded like she had both looks and a brain, unlike his ex. Am I wrong?

[@SeniorCharry]

The GF in the first story sounds like a typical college feminist, and the people in the comments calling OP controlling and misogynistic are also poisoned by modern feminism. If your partner expresses concern for your safety that’s not controlling. You should have respect for their concern and work out a solution, not gaslight and retaliate.

[@jacearmor5274]

S1: The red flags were right in front of OP's girlfriend, but she willfully ignored them. Holding someone accountable for a bad decision they made is not the same as victim blaming. Disrespecting your partner will lead to a breakup.

[@Otis56]

Plus she was going off about OP being controlling while being controlling

[@beeniecat9411]

Reddit doesn't like stand up folks. Of course they blocked him from further comments.

[@ZariaTudor1]

1st story: at some point personal responsibility has to kick in, good for OP

[@artemislove2941]

third story is a reminder that the two people who tell their truths are children and drunks

[@juanhaines7295]

This is why when your boyfriend says that you shouldn't hang out you should listen. This is the second story I've heard like this.

[@littlemoth4956]

That’s a huge blanket statement that shouldn’t be applied to everyone.

[@juanhaines7295]

Fair enough.

[@ShadowknightEX]

Ore like if you’re bf doesn’t exhibit any other red flags that would peg him as controlling, then you should probably take his advice if he says he doesn’t trust someone.

[@Otis56]

​@@littlemoth4956Boyfriend not abuser,two different things

[@ceddavis7441]

Story 1 - spite is not a great way to live your entire life around. It's basically allowing others to govern your body, she may think she "won" or whatever. But he definitely had a very direct hand in what she did, the only thing is that it didn't go how he and she wanted. Not only that but she is willfully and stubbornly ignorant, don't bother educating those who don't want to learn.

[@mztweety1374]

I understand autonomy fully.. But sometimes a man knows when another man does not have good intentions.. I really hope she learned from this because something much worse could happen next time

[@devhxh1558]

STORY 1: You should walk away, she is unreliable and immature !!

[@hennigadient4265]

The girlfriend is just stupid. Falling into that trap of calling everything her boyfriend says "controlling" Being in a relationship is being one team! she us disrespecting him! he is right in everything

[@CG-yb6zj]

Story 1: So OP peeped something off about him, asked she not hang with him alone (didn't demand she not see him at all, just not alone) and in response PUT HERSELF in a DANGEROUS SITUATION then was surprised something happened.. OP isn't victim blaming, she showed him how stubborn and naive she is she can't be trusted and would only bring drama with her. He gave a opinion with reason and instilled a boundary she took personal when it wasn't and didn't need to be and would do it again in a different situation. NTA Story 2: NTA. That's beyond embarrassing, it's just plain disgusting to be doing that in blatant pubkic at your own sister's wedding and the enabling parents make it worse to demand OP apologize when she embarrassed herself acting that way that the husband had to raise his voice. **Sidenote - Looked up Young Delon and man's FINE!

[@tabicat.puccino7425]

story1) split NTA you tried to try to keep her safe but she wasn't respecting you at all, and didn't behave like a adult, story2) she nedes to go to be cut off story3) im sorry you for your lose in your marriage im glad you want her to be happy even if it was with you or not, i hope you can get back together but i think overtime it not going to happen just be you and hope she understands and loves you

[@johnpatricklim4509]

story 1: op is going to be blamed anyways....break up with her and move on op.....

[@timothyhansen6581]

Well, the first story didn't end as well as I had hoped, but at the very least I am SO glad the "SA" wasn't THAT kind of "SA." And that the woman cut the stuff off, considering how many of these I've heard where the exact same situation would lead to a wife or GF actually cheating with that person.

[@kanteannightmare]

Gaslight in it's purest form.

[@ketienne1021]

Story 1 OP NTA, cut your losses if you aren't married or with kids. Not victim blaming, but she literally F around and found out despite warnings.

[@hotdogkid9015]

3rd story is wild she is really about to make her kids deal with a broken family dynamic cause their mom is a idiot and cant get out of her own head when her husband didn’t even say she was ugly and then it’s the fact that she asked a weird question like “did you think I was beautiful when we met” like no he didn’t cause you just met

[@kytheres379]

Right??? Like, did you expect love at first sight or what??

[@dokuganryu1565]

Fragile Female Ego.

[@MirzaVP]

This one feels like she is using this as a excuse to get out if that is the only thing said

[@MirzaVP]

​@@dokuganryu15651000% as soon he say that she completely changed to get affection elsewhere and is used it to walk out I've experienced this myself so not surprised

[@Kaziglu1]

Story 3: sounds like a BPD

[@FrogTheeKermit]

Why do yall love to diagnose people

[@devhxh1558]

STORY 3: Dont let her walk away. She want to leave you over the one comments ? Thats her choice but asked her to go in therapy for few month and couple therapy before making any final decisions. . If she still feels you both can't get overcome this then let her walk away

[@billcutting2681]

Definitely gave him all the space and opportunity he needed

[@loganblackwood2922]

He is evil for wanting to protect his woman. Well ladies, this is why we wont be protecting you in future from the other guys. Enjoy.

[@nicknitro86]

There are times where honesty is not in fact the best policy, therapy was one of those times. I would have just handed her divorce papers even before therapy, like you could see the divorce come the moment he drunk thoughtsed.

[@bloodalpha1170]

Story 1 She said you were controlling. Then didnt massage him for 3 days on the 3day he should have text its over then block her for good

[@sahxb.]

Haven't heard whole story yet but " jenna fell sick" seems like a setup for sure

[@diffsnicker]

I could tell this girl had 0 respect for op about 30 secs in.

[@diffsnicker]

"She's extremely loyal to me" OP you're delusional.

[@Magicnun]

For the third story, from the information given, I feel like she is overreacting,he never implied she was ugly, he basically said my wife has a great personality that is why I fell in love. A bad personality sours good looks. But opinions can change, if more information is around.

[@thor7219]

Story 3: Tell your wife to stop acting like a child. She knows what you meant, and I’d recommend going the other way. Tell her to cut this BS out or you’ll be showing her the door. Otherwise it will just empower her to keep acting like an AH and put her in the right. Women respect strength not weakness.

[@siegebreaker4120]

this is one of the situations where the victim is HIGHLY blameable

[@SnowyWolborg]

I think what makes the ex-girlfriend most upset is that she thought she knew what she was doing, and as it turns out, she was wrong. So instead of focusing on what's important, she's in defense mode, blaming OP for being right.

[@crawdaddy1234]

NO! A victim can be “irresponsible” or too trusting. But victims are never to BLAME. There’s a huuuuuuge difference. *** BLAME is reserved for those who were both responsible for the act AND had agency regarding outcome. Being “RESPONSIBLE” for something means that person is the cause of the incident. A person can be “responsible” without being blameworthy. If someone’s brakes give out, and they end up in a car accident, they are responsible. But they are NOT blameworthy. If you spill wine on someone’s carpet, you are RESPONSIBLE, but you are not necessarily blameworthy. *** A victim is never responsible, let alone blameworthy. A victim may have been unwise, but here’s the real kicker: If the perpetrator hadn’t been a r*pist, the victim wouldn’t have been r*ped regardless of the situation.

[@Otis56]

​@@crawdaddy1234She isnt even a victim in this situation if I'm being honest,she ignores any and all red flags,is stupidly controlling(abusive),and basically breaks her bfs trust all day,and I'm willing to bet she was cheating but had cold feet and decided to go for the classic "I was SAed"lie instead of admitting

[@GMWILD87]

Story 1 if I could tell OP anything leave she would never listen or try to see his perspective and then almost forgave the guy but guess what they'll be hooking up soon.

[@pharoahreyo9913]

I'm gonna be honest here. Sometimes, situations like S1 are prime examples of why victim blaming exists. I'm not excusing any actions, but the fact she basically chooses to ignore OP again is likely going to be the reason she may end up SA'd again. And it may not be with just groping. At that point, feeling bad is a wasted effort. If she doesn't learn from her experience and would choose to spite someone, can't be upset about what happens. She had an out.

[@curiousviewer72]

The wife is understandably upset, however there is something lost meaning wise in this. We’ve all become repulsed at the sight of an initially attractive/hot person, as we begin to know their nature. Or have been immune to an otherwise attractive person because they’ve been unlikeable from the start. From what OP has said this is a guy still in love with his wife - it sounds like she is NOW the only one he could consider on his sexual radar, or any other for that matter. In the full bloom of discovering her, all the pieces fit into place…even when we grow to like someone platonically, we begin to notice previously unremarkable features or gestures or facial expressions which, with affection and attachment added, have created a new perspective, literally, in what we see when we look at that person. Like you’ve come to have a GREATER APPRECIATION of what you perceive. The “attractive” thing is also fraught. When asked about attractiveness we go to a visual archetype (or archetypes) of what “hot” generally means, and often answer in that context. Hot is a singular characteristic; beauty isn’t. In that regard, a comparison of “hot” is one of surface level single initial measure, if that makes sense. It’s devoid of anything else. But it can turn ugly in a mere moment where you see what lays beneath. Suddenly the hot person is a fricken a-hole and a cascade of perception changes rattle through. And suddenly she’s got a b*tch face. Or he looks like a smug pr*ck. The aversion I think almost seems MORE, given such things aren’t expected from beautiful people…a bit to do with the positive bias…but quite a bit, I think, because of the disillusionment and potential disappointment. It’s like damn why did you have to turn out so UGLY? Whether they look ugly or whether out of self respect you get working on breaking whatever attachment you may have had in the situation and recalibrating if not retreating. Ha ha maybe it’s adaptive…it PAYS to see the ugly. 😂

[@NotDevilman]

Story 1: womp womp

[@joshuarobertsmasculine3191]

I had a thought 💭 once brother/friend told my mother I sa this one girl her brother and boyfriend told that they were going to K end me but I pop the man that did the sa he didn’t make it lucky 🍀 she told the truth to my mom a police this was back in the streets days she told her brother and boyfriend to stop because I had a reputation

[@Otis56]

Godzilla had stroke raednig tisg and fukcning deid

[@princessmarlena1359]

Story 1: She is a lost cause. OP should definitely end the relationship. Tom is the modern day “Mad R@p¡st of Hamburg”.

[@billcutting2681]

Lmaooo 6:15 leave her boy

[@FrogTheeKermit]

Guy in Story 3 definitely fumbled every single opportunity to fix things. Cant read the room, can't do "damage control" and probably needs to read a book on empathy.

[@rad8866]

Yes, women are strong until they're not. Zero consideration or benefit of the doubt to her partner. Zero communication. Zero self awareness. Zero desire to work on herself. Zero desire to work on her relationship. She is a mentally weak individual. With a mind of a child.

[@cameron765]

The third story is a typical woman moment right there

[@jcly96]

*western woman.

[@jadesorono6694]

Story 1 tell her parents

[@artemislove2941]

girl: gets sa’d campus: slap on the wrist

[@rmhartman]

"the wording is different, but the sentiment is the same" sorry, dude. but the wording is the significant aspect of what you said.

[@Lionwoman]

Story 2: NgL OP says he does not victim blame her but that's exactly what he's doing in that post.

[@unclelink]

Whoever invented the term "victim shaming" is either an eternal child with no concept of personal responsibility and boundaries or a perpetrator who's playing the long game trying to create no avenue for potential victims. Imagine being a Police officer warning people about crime and how to protect themselves but those same people ignore the warnings only to get assaulted?! Shame. Last story: dude, do you want some ketchup with that foot? Idiot, sometimes simping is a good thing, or let the lady go.

[@littlemoth4956]

“Victim shaming/blaming” is absolutely a real thing and is a real problem. We can acknowledge that an individual is being childish by taking advantage of the term without denying the term’s validity. It’s immoral to do the latter.

[@calebtsai3015]

Simping isnt good in any regard. It shows a power imbalance in the relationship where one is held on a pedestal by their partner. Id say the wife has issues and its a good thing she left him for his sake

[@RedM-lk6fk]

Story 1 this dude is a fucking boss.

[@MistressOP]

this love and relationship guy in story 3. I honestly think I heard the otherside from the wife about the same story. He doesn't have a chance and he's dumb.

[@filo4000]

Yeah he's either massively underplaying what he's or said to the wife, or the wife just had a psychotic break from reality

[@bangel5217]

14:26 his fucking what now 😂

[@wickedashley]

As the woman in the 3rd story. He told me for months how stupid everything I like is. And I’m just done. I’m leaving. I wonder what he’s done up to this point. 🤷🏻‍♀️ everyone jumps on the woman for leaving but I wonder I wonder what happened before that night to make her have a whole personality shift over something others don’t see as significant.

[@stupididiot4034]

Huh? First you claim to be the woman in the third story and then start referring to her as a separate person. What are you even saying?

[@kpopdisco2330]

That part! I see a few males in this comment section trying to hand-wave it away. Even his friend's reaction tells more than what Op is telling.

[@aenaen184]

@wickedashley So you're the woman from that story? Thanks for clearing things up. That story was so weird. Nothing added up

[@Otis56]

Women always going to defend women no matter what they did.Oh she cheated on you?what did YOU do to make her cheat? Oh she stabbed you?What did YOU do to make her stab you? Immediately blaming the man for what the woman does,no matter what she does its always the man's fault isn't it?

[@CyberianFaux]

@@Otis56 You are doing the exact same thing you are criticizing in the very same reply. "Women always..." is the same as "men always", "all of these men in the comment section are...", and "...what he's done up to this point". How about, instead of that, we just not stereotype all people based on their unchangeable characteristics like sex, skin color, orientation, height, health, family/ancestral history, etc.?

[@LadyKurta]

Talk about sex and spending time with another man.. i don't think she's naive.

[@erinwessel2195]

First story - I think the OP is controlling. The gf may not have figured out that her friend was dangerous, but she has the right to her own autonomy. But if we think she has a broken radar then what's to say the OP isn't also controlling? To me he sounds like it. He is definitely victim blaming despite what he says and he has no patience for his GF taking the time to process what happened to her - and yes for many women coming to terms that a trusted friend actually tried to hurt you is something they would need time to process especial when they are that young. His 'compassion' shifts way too readily into how this makes him feel. If all he can see is how upset it makes him feel and his only response is to get angry and scold her no wonder she doesn't trust him. And then he forces her to show him her texts. 🙄 I honestly think she is better off without both these guys.

[@oldfashionedstitches2378]

😐 He’s better off without her. 😒 She has a future Darwin Award waiting for her at this rate.

[@John-hi4sp]

Reading the post gave me the impression that OP is condescending to her. There's a big difference between thinking that someone did something stupid, versus thinking someone is flat out stupid. Effective communication goes a long way; and OP sounds like he was an asshole. Only part where I disagree is the part about "victim blaming." Toxic victim blaming is specifically blaming the victim to detract guilt from or to exonerate the assailant. It doesn't give people a pass from criticism for making bad decisions. It can be simultaneously true that the criminal is guilty and that the victim is an idiot.

[@Otis56]

Basically what you are saying is OP is controlling for not wanting her to hangout(alone)with a guy OP had a gut feeling could be bad news,mind you he didnt tell her to stop seeing him completely only to not do so alone,then when he was away she went to the creepy guy OP warned her about ALONE and then tried to blame OP when she was SAed.Then we see how she literally never took her boyfriends feelings into consideration and only did everything in the way SHE wanted without caring about what her boyfriend would feel BUT he is the controlling,istg women will do anything BUT hold a woman as a bad guy when she clearly is.She was no victim,she fucked around and found out why you shouldn't hang out with people who are bad news.But go on feminist about why all men bad,all women good,she= queen,he=satan

[@CyberianFaux]

At least from the way it sounds, he didn't stop her from hanging out with that friend. He stated he was uncomfortable with her being alone with him, being drunk around him, or doing actions that crossed a boundary of what he was considering safe with them. Maybe he is controlling, maybe he isn't. The reality is that we won't know as having the narrator be him means we get his perspective and can't assume too much outside of it.

[@annalee3996]

Doing nothing and being emotionaless is worse than hating!! Or over loving!! The person has checked out!! Give up!!