Opening up about Relationships & Dating 🌿| Nika Erculj

[@Emila1695]

Dear lord, I feel like I'm listening to my own story. Constantly attracting the emotionally unavailable type, ending up time and time again with 3 month relationship crushing down. Finally I realized it's all me. I chased after the emotionally unavailable type cause my belief was that that's the only thing that I deserve and that these type of people are entertaining and I can "fix them" which is soooo wrong.

[@follow_the_fox9432]

Saaaaaame!

[@jasmine3403]

This is totally me.... now I m scared to being alone..

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

To ❤❤u

[@couch_philosoph3325]

I attract the "oh i am so in love with you, let's build a future together" type while i am still unsure and trying to take it slow or casual. Then i get swept up in all the love and start trusting them and more and more love them. Then they decide they want to leave while i am left being the one that wanted to work on things. It's like i take a long time to trust and when i do i am very loyal and want to work on it. Apparently many people aren't like that. I give so much in romantic relationships that i don't want to be in one anymore. I got my heart broken 3 times in less than 3 years. I am burnt out. I will love me and my friends and family.

[@OllieSmiless]

Your experience is so relatable to me. I've also been emotionally neglected, therapist to people, never had anyone truly care about my emotional needs. I too have jumped into relationships way too quickly thinking they are the one without knowing much about them, because why wouldn't they be if I'm looking for them?! So much of your experience is so similar to mine and I'm still working through my patterns. Hopefully one day I'll get to a place where I feel I've finally developed healthy relationship dynamics with people around me, not just in a romantic way. Because all these patterns still show with family and friends. BTW, I've also been a doormat most of my life not having needs, feelings, boundaries. It's no surprise every person in my life always reflected that back to me.

[@slaturhan9325]

oh my god nika im pretty sure that you have access to my brain? like???? whenever i have issues about something you upload a video about that topic in the SAME DAY???

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

Haha that’s so cool! The Universe works in mysterious ways 😅

[@coraldiffy]

This was really helpful thank you. I've just got out of my first relationship, and it wasn't obvious at first why I wanted to break up or what was missing as we loved each other, but I've been slowly learning what was wrong and what I was missing so that I won't make the same mistakes again and let myself be hurt for as long as I did. These prompts really helped clarify some stuff for me so thank you, I'd love more videos on the topic, or even just self introspection in general, I think it's so interesting and important :)

[@matisia007]

ok nika, so you’re the king of cups (i saw the other day in cards) coming with a love lesson for me to finish a chapter, thank you 💕

[@katha1993]

This is so beautifully put together, Thank you so much for sharing, I am definitely gonna use this to self reflect. I've been reading a lot about attachment styles and stuff like that but haven't really taken time to get clear on everything.

[@dani.vanderkamp]

I only discovered your channel today, but already watched a few of your videos and absolutely love them. So great how openly you talk about things in this video as well!

[@andreiasillva95]

I’m going to a therapist every week and I’ve been discovering so many important things about myself. Things that explain why I behave the way I behave, my thoughts...I’m learning so much and want to keep learning. Loved this video ❤️

[@nina.namaste]

I love how honest you share these lessons from your life. Do you have any book tips for someone who wants to dive deeper into that relationship stuff?

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Hi ❤❤🌷

[@rociogomezgarcia2075]

More videos on this topic please, it´s really helpfull to listen to you speaking about relationship issues and ideas to write and go deeper into yourself

[@activeselflove8613]

This speaks so much to me. Thank you, Nika. Great video as always

[@francescaj]

ahhh I resonated with this so much, I feel like I reaally learned this lesson last year

[@KeiiLiix3]

more videos like this please!

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

Will do! So glad it was helpful✨☺️

[@KT-cs6hq]

You’re an angel. The fact you’re sharing this to help others is truly angelic. Thank you . This is true and authentic. Please do more videos 😍

[@hhttpmoonlightx]

i know im super late to this video but, i really needed this. i used to think that once two people has that chemistry and emotional connection, their relationship would be complete. after going through some events, it made me realised that soul connection isn't really enough. in fact, they would have to be able to attend to your needs, which is something that i feel like alot of couples are struggling. this video made me realised that too. i guess i never admitted to myself for the fact that we deserve what we need, till i watch this video. and also, would definitely love and appreciate it if you would talk more on this type of topic. sending love

[@anamarija2598]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, you really helped me! Something that's been on my mind lately is this friendship that is becoming incredibly uncomfortable. I developed huge feelings for this boy. We were super close friends in the beginning. But deeper feelings weren't mutual so I kinda fell out of love (it was the hardest process ever). I eventually told him that I feel like I have to keep this distance between us because it hurts when we get super close again and it brings so much memories and then I don't feel okay. We talked about that and he asked me do I want to end our relationship because he doesn't want a friendship where he's holding back most of the time. I said yes. He told me that no one hurt him like this before because he thought that I wouldn't want to loose something amazing as this friendship to "my current emotional state". The next day we talked again and he asked me do I want to continue this friendship and actually try to keep it alive and I said yes because I thought I did a selfish thing and that if I wasn't happy in some way I could've just said so. I apologized. We continued the friendship, but it's not even close as it was before because I realized that if he doesn't hold back, I won't either. I'll do what I feel is right. But it's really weird and tense now becaus everything is slowly dying and I can't say anything because I don't think he'll respect or understand me. I don't think he ever did. But I don't want to hurt him, I just want to end things normally. What should I do?

[@startaplin9680]

I had the same issue than you with my best friend. The very same one. She didn't ask me if I wanted to stop our relationship, but I had to ask her to hold back on certains things and I had to do it too. It was a rough year, honestly. We talked everyday, we always have. I had the same feeling as you : as if my friendship with her was slowly but surely degrading and...at some point, things started to feel okay again. It took me a year, it was long. But I didn't want to give up on our friendship. So I had to ask for some time, put my boundaries. In consequences, she couldn't tell me certains things and...It was so hard, for us both and it had negatives consequences as positives. But I swear, it was worth it, to me, at least. Because if I didn't do that, I wouldn't have healed and felt better.

[@anamarija2598]

@@startaplin9680 thank you for sharing your experience. Today I finally decided to say everything that's been in my head for so long. It went so much better than I imagined. In such close relationships, the key is honesty and setting boundaries. This miracle we call life hahaha

[@mici7306]

Uhh i relate to your experience deeply. Ive been emotionally neglected by everyone around me my whole life, which has led me to surpressing my emotions and now i basically dont feel anything anymore. Im so touch deprived that i jump when someone tries to hug me😅 it feels so unnatural. Ive put up so many walls and im trying so hard to bring them back down..

[@hemar7543]

Hey Nika I have been following your content for sometime now & I absolutely love it. It is practical nd relatable. I love the way u understand and simplify things in life. Could u please make a video on getting over life failures /reset your life/how to start afresh I have searched things on the net but they r mostly not helpful if things have been bad. (It's easier said then done)!!! Thank you so much for all the content 💛💛

[@christinaa.4903]

Your videos mean so much to me 🦋

[@bernah2735]

So many nuggets of wisdom! I love this

[@Lili-nm5mt]

I can relate to everything you said, it fits so perfect to what I have experienced. Thank you for sharing this, most of the things I didn't realize but it's so obvious and it makes so much sense. Thank you! I have to be more conscious of all of this.

[@amalieknotova8492]

This was such a helpful video! You showed me a mirror of myself and my past. Thank you!

[@nicoleiriondo1694]

great video nika! so important to talk about this

[@waytofreedom]

Thank you for such an amazing video!! You help me discover so many things about myself

[@dipalimech6660]

You just spoke up my mind😊 love you so much as a person.

[@klarajovanov2011]

You pattern is so relatable, it felt like you were digging into my diary damm

[@Amelia-ot1ow]

I love your expresions in this video!♥ "It's really fun, huuuuh?"

[@blue_boulevard4429]

This video was so so interesting and mindful!! Thank you so much for sharing, this really helps 🖤🌙

[@paolatoaquiza9584]

love this! thank you...saludos desde Ecuador

[@qiongyunguan4121]

Really enjoyed it. I will contemplate this. I want to keep the relationship I am having right now.

[@quintin3871]

Nobody is perfect, perfect

[@danieladianova9225]

Omg, this video is so helpful !

[@thelifeofMati]

Beautiful video, thank you... I realized that everytime I talk to a possible partner I feel like I'm not really grounded, I'm not really muself, and so I quit haha

[@suisreading]

thank youuu so muchhh Nika ❤️

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

My pleasure✨ thank you for watching❤️

[@petrabolta574]

thank you for this video. could you please explain the fear of being too much in a bit more detail, particularly where does it come from? also, love the aesthetics.

[@elenamacian5640]

I would really love to have you as my friend💕 I would live for conversations like this

[@josefinalarachsoto7494]

I loved this video! 🧡

[@biannkbya]

I really liked this video it was very insightful I actually wrote 1 page with your advices. These are super important things that we should know about us and be aware of them, speaks a person who isn't clear about them but I want to. Thank you ❤ I look forward to your next vids and topics like this, but dont get me wrong I enjoy all your vids :))

[@الهنوفالعيسى-ص5ث]

Thanks it’s so helpful 🌻

[@kajushik66]

That 10:46 hit hard : “ ....by chasing them you’re trying to prove to yourself that you are good enough... and so if I finally get this person that must mean I am loved “ Yea I certainly wasn’t ready for that 😅😏 #exposed

[@andreamorales8129]

Amazing advice!

[@bq419]

This was very helpful! Thank you

[@Zoeyelizanelson]

I feel like I'm looking in a mirror! You said you're a gemini rising, what are your sun and moon signs? I am a gem rising and have struggled with abandonment issues as well. Great video:)

[@__chebella]

2 million people living in slovenia and i have just discovered the first downtoearth lgbtq+ vegan with similar values to mine. where are y'all hiding?!

[@lilitpotter4839]

Oh no, finding a vegan partner is already hard enough... Actually a great video, it definitely makes more sense to me now!

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

Hahah I love this comment

[@lilacue118]

Love this!!!! Thank you

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@jessiecarroll1187]

I just broke up with my bf the 29th time and I still keep trying to hold on

[@jjjjjjj212]

Didn’t she post a video about the fact that she was stopping youtube ?

[@jjjjjjj212]

she doesn’t even answer the comments like wtf

[@emilyamin-rambarran9062]

She has a whole video on why she came back to youtube. :)

[@mariakalle9881]

She's been uploading for 4 months now

[@amirasafwat7101]

Never saw a video like that so it must be old one.

[@jjjjjjj212]

Amira Safwat no it’s not... it was like a few months ago and she deleted it

[@hirkolo]

Who knows shes slovenian

[@andocando8734]

I’m surprised you don’t promote Nika watches.. seeing as your name is Nika. But hey Nordgreen is cool too.

[@mariakalle9881]

I wonder if you'll practically do all these things, we will need an update! 😂 But I hope you do

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

Hahah I will make an update for sure! 🤞🏼😅

[@quintin3871]

Sunny day

[@myrtila]

I’ve never been in a relationship but I’m still watching this video just in case😅

[@mrx-od3ji]

I never been in a relationship for 36 years.

[@alishasingh1805]

This is me EXACTLYYYYYYYYY one - o - one

[@sruthiramesh4817]

Hey Nika, how old are you 😊

[@NikasInnerBeauty]

Hey hey✨ I’m 22☺️

[@sruthiramesh4817]

@@NikasInnerBeauty omg ❤️ you replied, damn. I cannot begin to tell you how much you have helped me navigate through the tough times in my life without feeling like I'm the only one. I love you and keep doing what you do for we need it❤️

[@danielp1130]

IDC... I miss you...

[@happeness6081]

❤

[@jessiecarroll1187]

Dang,I can think of the list without writing it.

[@MartaVitto]

❤️❤️

[@quintin3871]

Oh, clouds, puff

[@quintin3871]

O You who put in the heart of the maidens the Kvlt for the Wounds (great band) and the love for the rags (terrible band) ... o Satan, have mercy on my enormous misery! Charles Baudelaire, great singer :)

[@SheIsTired]

Thank God for Islam and arranged marriages. Otherwise, I'd be stuck in failed relationships and get my heart broken. Love comes after marriage. Just saying.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

I think you are very beautiful but you have tattoos. I don't like tattoos. June 17, 2021.

[@quintin3871]

Little Helper, terrible band