OPENING UP.. GET READY WITH ME

[@michellesharon80]

I'm 42. I just started my first semester of college in 2022. I left an abusive marriage, I was with him almost 20 years, in 2020. I got wrapped up in a situationship that was going nowhere and left me feeling inadequate in 2022. Decided to focus completely on me. I wish I hadn't so desperately wanted to have a serious relationship so young. Don't put so much value on having a relationship. Put that value in yourself, and anyone who enters should add to the value, not become the value.

[@angijansen4243]

I just want to say this is amazing for you 👏🏼 Having been in an abusive relationship myself I know how hard it is to walk away and start living your life for you. Congratulations! ❤️

[@xoxoNicholeLove]

Congrats on starting college🎉 and for doing what’s best for you!❤ sounds like a brand new amazing journey

[@teodorapetrova8397]

This is so brave! Congratulations❤

[@J.A.00]

Truly inspiring

[@juliaraygorodsky1434]

Oh wow thank god you’re doing much better & are happier. Did you have any kids in your marriage?

[@juanderuano8969]

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her..

[@juanderuano8969]

@jay pritchett wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@juanderuano8969]

@jay pritchett Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@katie8802]

I don’t think men get enough attention when it comes to these situations, because baring your emotions is very vulnerable and sensitive and for some reason, our society ignores the men that get abused or cheated on or mistreated. So if I can say anything here, it’s to remind you men how wonderful you are and deserve so much more! And there are amazing women out there that will value and appreciate you for who you are. Just believe in yourself and know your worth. You deserve the best!

[@christinekim4056]

I really needed this Carli, thank you. I’m turning 31 and not married. I’m surrounded by friends who are married and I’ve been feeling so behind and worried that I’m turning 31. But you’re so right, don’t settle until you find the one who you want to be with. It’s better to be alone than be in an unhappy relationship. If you could talk more about that, I would really appreciate it because I need to hear this. ❤

[@imaginator13]

Hey Do not feel that way that you are behind just because you aren't married and turning 31, I gets the pressure and hope to have loving healthy partnership with someone ! But You are living your life at your pace and also it's okay to feel down now and then because we are human! Here I'm turning 33 with one serious heart break in my early 20's and that lead me to be strong enough to broken up 2 engagements because those were kinda made in the pressure "oh i am turning 30 so I should say yes even though I didn't feel connected with the person" ! Now I am happy and feel so grateful that I made the right decisions! It's better to be single happy rather than a relationship you aren't happy or toxic or even worse. PS. Sending love and peace ✌️

[@mayrapozos3259]

32 over here and not married, no kids! We are not alone ladies! Lets not settle! ❤

[@xkarenxv]

So many women settle for any man that doesn’t even make them happy in their mid 20s because it’s the “right” thing to do / society pressure to get married even when they have that gut feeling not to just to end up divorced by 35. Take your time until you find the right one ❤ it’s better to do it right the first time.

[@Lucy_f831]

I’m in the same boat lovely 🙏🏻 we’re in this together! Everything you said I felt deep in my soul! But I know my worth and won’t settle for any less! 💜

[@CarliBel55]

Amen Sister!!!! Believe me I hate to say it but some people rush in because they want marriage and they end up unhappy. So its best to wait for the right person. Work on yourself and build the life of your dreams!!! Your soul mate is out there

[@leahbeabadia1]

I have the same issue with being too nice and being a people-pleaser. I have finally started sticking up for myself and saying no to things and setting boundaries, and I am feeling so much better and empowered!

[@CarliBel55]

YOU GO GIRL!! It's so hard at first but each time is gets easier! Proud of you!!!!

[@cokebottlebaby1]

I went and got my nursing at 30! My biggest thing is trying to let go of what I thought I should have by 33. I’m 33 this year and I’m not married and I don’t have kids but I’ve learned to just appreciate where I am in life and my accomplishments and if it happens it happens

[@ye23.]

Great mindset

[@simple_naildesigns]

Amazing, love that - good for you 🥳🥰

[@cassafrass7928]

Book suggestions: Atomic Habits: James Clear Set Boundries - find peace: Nedra Glover Tawwab (so important to set boundries in every relationship) The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle Atlas of the Heart - Brené Brown (any book by her really go crazy and read her stuff! Watch her Ted Talks she is amazing!) Crucial Conversations- 2nd edition :Authors: Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Al Switzler, Ron McMillan (seriously life changing for me as a nuerodivergent person!) I could list more 2022 had been my year of heavy duty healing and self help books have been my savior - trauma therapy (EMDR) and meditation and hypnosis. Happy New Year Carli! Hope my suggestions are helpful to you!

[@aubrie_morgan]

Another really good book is Extraordinary by John Bevere

[@sdmajesty]

power of now changed my life for the better

[@adymalv]

Ditto on the Power of Now. Everyone needs to read this book. Hope you read the book Carli and anyone else reading this - its truly life changing.

[@dzenitapuric1871]

Set boundaries-find peace is excellent..comes with exercises and a summary after each chapter.

[@erinam10]

Also journey to the heart is amazing for healing, the body keeps the score, and anything by mark nepo

[@rachelauraa]

Carli probably gets this alot but she’s genuinely my favourite KZbinr.. i know she has the purest heart and soul ❤ she has never changed ❤️❤️❤️

[@CarolineRoseAU]

I agree❤️❤️❤️

[@CarliBel55]

I love you so much! That means a lot tome. Thanks for sticking with me all these years!!!!! XO

[@Victoria-fz4oj]

THIS!!!!! so so so true

[@Cmizurieta]

@@CarolineRoseAUhv Iijov9i I o

[@anfbabe218]

I totally agree with this statement!

[@EricaaBrown]

The Bible is a LIFE saver. Not only do you find yourself and purpose in life, you find Jesus who then brings us to God. We can try to fill the void we have in ourselves with the things of the world, but it will never satisfy. I struggled with anxiety and depression my whole life and started reading my Bible and learning about Jesus and who he is. I still struggle sometimes with anxiety but God gives me strength and peace to overcome it all. 🙏🏻❤️

[@simple_naildesigns]

Amen 🥰🙏🏽

[@vanessarivera1453]

Honestly I read so many books like think like a monk, tried tarot, seeing psychics and honestly It wasn’t until I read the Bible that I truly healed. You’ll be amazed how it puts a mirror to your face and heals you ❤ for those that don’t know where to start, Daily Grace Co. honestly has been my favorite Bible study and community

[@1corinthians139]

Amen! Ur speaking truth sister. All of the tarot, psychics, new age will only get u deeper into darkness. We need Jesus Christ, He is our Savior, in Jesus’ name I pray for all of us to have His peace and love. Amen.

[@kellyroy7248]

Same! I struggled for years, read endless self help books. Finally I opened the Bible and that is when I was healed.

[@j_daena20]

Praise God ❤️🙏

[@ThUnitedTristarsChannel]

This! I’ve tried it all and only a relationship with God fixed my life ❤️

[@rachelcqart]

I agree, only God can put us on perspective when everything is a mess literally.Also when our minds are full of voices, specially if we work on social media, taking time to read the Bible is like start breathing again, is like a new beginning every day.

[@denissehozven8012]

Can’t believe I’ve been following your journey for the last 11 years??? Crazy! Thank you for sharing this today, I definitely feel like a lot of people are struggling silently, especially me. You are super brave for going to therapy… I hope one day I can gain that courage and start that journey. Love you Carli ♥️🫶🏼

[@CarliBel55]

Thank you for sticking with me all these y ears. Im honored!!!!

[@itsmagyy]

Start watching you when I was 13 & now I’m turning 23 this year can’t believe how far you’ve come I’m so very proud of you & everything your doing now ❤️

[@holly_kalae]

felt this in my soul. your so right about peoples different timelines in life, im 31 and feel like I should've been married with kids by now but I just haven't found my person yet and the baby fever is so real but in gods time. when you were talking about social media and how we never know what people are going through I kept thinking of Twitch from the Ellen show and how he seemed like the happiest person, so gifted blessed with a beautiful family and on the outside looking in we all thought what could be so wrong in his life- but u just never know and even the happiest of people can be really hurting on the inside.

[@arielpatrice]

I tell my clients all the time that whether someone is drowning in a puddle or drowning in the ocean, they are both drowning and they both need help. Trauma and hardships are not a competition, whoever needs help should never feel bad to ask for help. Thanks for this video! So proud of you!

[@KaushalBeauty]

Hi my sweet Carli, I've followed you for yearsssss and watching this really filled my heart up. It's so important to work on yourself and allow yourself the grace to take time out and give yourself the love you deserve in the way/ways that work for you. Without being biased I would 100% recommend my husband's book 'Good Vibes Good Life' by Vex King - I really hope it helps and wish you the best healing journey 💜

[@147munchkin]

I love that book! ❤

[@debbienyce3452]

I will definitely check that book out based on the feedback and it’s not the first time I’ve seen or heard someone bring it up so your comments is also helpful to others thank you 😊

[@badjocy]

i swear, in these past 3 years, i’ve also gone thru similar circumstances as you carli…especially in the 14:39 part…CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY! i wish i could go back in time and never have met those who are “friends” but are secret enemies, but i definitely learned from that lesson, and once you let go of that negativity in your life, you are finally free and genuinely happy! life actually starts to move so much better! sending you love and light carli…🫶🏼💡🤍✨

[@carolinebucalomakeup]

I love this video. I’m 34, single, failed abusive relationships and my life changed a few years ago from finding out I had Lyme disease. This is such a good message and very validating to anyone struggling, lost or feeling behind. I hope you make more videos like this! Thank you ❤

[@lenalombardi841]

Being 24 and hearing this is so helpful. I feel lost and alone and like everyone around me is thriving in a happy relationship. I love you Carli thank you for all your love, it radiates through the screen

[@ye23.]

At 24 you are a child you got plenty of time

[@emz_xo]

Girl don't worry You got plenty of time to figure it out!!! Maybe just start with writing down things you Love that you would happily do for free and see if you get inspiration from there :) Also any good healthy relationship starts with You!! Take yourself out places, TRAVEL it's so rewarding * you can make life long friends & start to read, You'd be surprised how lost you can get in a good book or how much a self help book actually helps 💜

[@intuitionsbyniko7537]

@@ye23. calling someone only 6 years younger than you that has already been an adult for 6 years as well is goofy behavior. Just bc you feel insecure doesn’t mean you should call other adults a child to make you feel better. ☺️

[@lauracarinakraus3100]

​@@ye23. a child At 24? What?

[@newleft2254]

Carli’s comment section feels like group therapy for me. Your fans are intelligent and kind like you ❤️ love the vulnerability xoxo

[@lindseykuehl6247]

Social worker here 🖐️. I always tell my patients, your problems matter even if others have bigger ones. You are 100% validated in how you feel. And I use the courage ladder to help accomplish goals. The lowest step on the ladder is a small goal, and we build up to the biggest thing you want to accomplish.

[@namz0x]

Love that. I'm not a social worker but I'm quick to react whenever my friends talk about their problems and say like "ugh I know there's worse stuff"

[@krissymcglotten5835]

Girl, I have so much trauma from relationship issues to being pregnant and losing my mom to my baby girl becoming so ill and still dealing with it 3yrs after her diagnosis. I have not been to therapy or counseling and the toll it has taken on me is insane. I just want to feel normal again and happy. Love all ur vlogs since the days in ur first place. 💓

[@user-qx4iz9gd8c]

You will get better ❤️

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

😢😢😢 Awwe I’m so sorry my dear. I’ve been thru so much too and healing takes time for sure . I feel like therapy and getting closer to God was what has been helping me thru this ongoing journey. I hope you find some way to take this heavy burden off your shoulders and start healing

[@CarliBel55]

Hi my angel,. Im so sorry to hear about all you're going through. Life is so unfair. but You're not alone

[@krissymcglotten5835]

@Carli Bybel Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Stay beautiful Carli inside and out. 💜

[@krissymcglotten5835]

@Rock your Natural Thank you very much. I appreciate this and sending positive vibes to you.

[@katie_kate88]

Thanks Carli. I was just texting my sister venting to her that I'm struggling a lot lately. I'm on a new life journey. Left a 12 year relationship in August of 22, and tomorrow would have been our 13th year. So I'm very much struggling. I'm starting new, going to beauty school and making it work, but it was refreshing to hear u say the things in this video. I wish healing for u, me and everyone else🙃🙂 xo.

[@CarliBel55]

I do the same thingggg. She always has the best advice for me when I'm feeling low. Just know it all happens for a reason and one day you will look back and be like "ahhhh that's why". I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. XO

[@grisel1215]

@Katie I can relate to you. I've also left a 12 year relationship in '22. Holidays were a struggle and just starting to feel better. It's definitely been a roller coaster of emotions and likely to continue but I remind myself as much as possible, I deserve to be happy. Starting over is so difficult but knowing I'm finally taking care of me and allowing myself to heal in a healthy manner is worth the difficulty of this new journey. Wishing the very best for you in your journey!

[@brittanygood7285]

I really needed this video. I always put myself down for feeling like I’m not where I’m supposed to be in life at 25 years old. Your totally right there is no time line as long as I just don’t give up ❤️

[@martamaboo]

I feel you..I'm also 25 and put myself down. But everyone will find their path in their own perfect timing. I always have to remind myself of that. Everything will fall into place for you when it's meant to be, stay strong and positive ♡

[@HallieQueenie]

Same here

[@taylorah6409]

I'll be 30 this April, please know that here I am looking back at 25, and I feel like I was still a baby!! I know it's only 5 years difference, but I STILL feel like idk what I'm doing. And I'm a mom and wife lol. I feel like nobody ever really knows what they're doing, we all out here just winging it!

[@user-qx4iz9gd8c]

Same here!! 25 and still dont have anything figured out!! Wish it was easier to just live the moment

[@CarliBel55]

You are SO young!!! You have so much time to figure it out. You got this and I'm rooting for you my girl!!! Sending all the love & light

[@fansfirstsports6227]

I can relate to this SO much. I used to give sooo much, and be so ride or die for my friends, and family and partners, and eventually you get to your 30’s and you are drained, and you are not used to accepting or asking for help for yourself. I felt like I lost who I was because I was burnt out and couldn’t keep ‘doing the most’ for everyone. Balance is such a basic word and it feels so obvious but it’s soooo hard! I’m either all in or all out. It’s beautiful to be so giving, its just sad when you feel so empty from giving more than you have spare, mentally, physically emotionally. Watched you since the starttt girl! Years and years and years and it’s amazing to watch you on your journey ❤

[@fairyuhhh1]

My baby is almost 6 months old & as a first time momma, I really needed the reminder to pause and reflect that I should actively work to make myself happy & ask myself what brings me happiness

[@mariakontos8535]

Carli you have the purest heart and the most kind words for EVERYONE! I love listening to you all these years you are a true inspiration because you are just REAL! I deal with the same thing, trying to always please others and not looking after myself first. It’s just one thing I’m working on as well, but it sure takes time and lots of patience! I love you! ❤

[@AlexandraSanchez]

I loved this and it was def a good thing to hear. i’m over here 34 years old and i used to panic so much with timelines like i should be married and having kids by a certain time frame but everyone has their own path honestly. People used to ask me and my husband when you guys are going to have kids and what not, that they thought we were never having kids. We didn’t have our first child until last year and we been married for 11 years. I originally wanted to have kids in my late 20s but that didn’t happened because i lost my mom and we went thru some financial struggles so it wasn’t the right time to settle and have a baby. But we made that decision on having a baby boy last year and it’s been such a blessing. he has filled our hearts with love and joy. I did things too like go to a trade school for medical assistant which i was miserable on doing all because my parents wanted me to go to college or do something for myself in life. I don’t even do medical assisting anymore after 10 years in it i quit! i been so happy since then.

[@torifrench0827]

Oh girl! Jesus gave me purpose and identity in every way. I used to feel lost and purposeless but met Him at 18 and am now 30. As soon as I met Him my life changed in all the best ways. I’ll never look back. You are amazing! Any books by heather lindsey are bomb! Hugs

[@jesusgrl11]

Amen Sis! Jesus is the answer! He saved me 8 years ago and I've never looked back. I'm such a different person than I used to be. Jesus is my EVERYTHING! ❤️🙌🙏

[@milkenzi1]

i can't remember for how long i've been subscribed to this channel, but it must be at least 10 years... love your dedication and honesty

[@Siryn78]

I’m currently 44 and was a nail tech since 2002. I had to stop because I developed arthritis in my thumbs, which is common in that profession. I’m now tasked with figuring out what I want to do from here on out. I feel defeated and am truly lost on what to do next. But you said a lot of great things in this video that help make me refocus and get on track to figure out what I want to do. Thank you from this girl in Ohio😊❤️

[@angelmaze30]

God bless you ❤️

[@LilLizzyLuv]

I’m so proud of you to break off your relationships even when they were not beneficial to you. I think a lot of people just want someone to love and to love them, and hanging on to something dead seems better than letting it go. Kind of like a plant the dead leaves and limbs need to be cut off so the plant itself can flourish. It’s not easy being a single mom and that was huge for you to do. ❤️ you’ll find the right people that you need soon. I had to learn the hard way that relationships are like seasons, they come and go. But others are here for a life time and those are who you should put your focus on.

[@ggabbzz]

@carli I am 33. I have been single for years, 4 cats, no kids. I’d much rather be alone than settle for something I’m not really interested in just to be with someone. I feel like as I get older, the pickier I get bc I’m not wasting anymore time. I’m so thankful that I am able to care for myself and be happy alone! I have SO many codependent friends, it’s crazy to see honestly.

[@Sarah-tk1py]

My Dad just passed away 2 weeks ago and he was my best friend and the nicest, strongest human being I know. I’m devastated, I really appreciate this video 🙏🏾 May their beautiful souls Rest In Peace

[@gretadiosy4939]

my dad passed away 9 years ago this year, it gets better. give yourself time to heal ❤

[@bludbarbie]

I lost my dad 3 weeks ago also. I completely understand how you feel. I hope you’re doing okay

[@simple_naildesigns]

So sorry for your loss 🙏🏽

[@evarose9323]

You should do a sweet memory of your dad somewhere in your beauty room in memory of your sweet dad!! I loved watching you two together ❤

[@CarliBel55]

Definitely

[@chocolatepumpkincurlygirl8340]

Im 48 years old and just went back to college. Still finding myself. Life is hard. Ups and downs for sure. Good vibes and Love, Carli!

[@xomandix3]

Hi Carli! I’m 31 with an almost 2 yr old and I feel like we’ve gone through our journeys together and I appreciate how you’ve always talked about working toward positivity despite going through real life struggles that jeopardize that. I struggle with basing my happiness on others around me & their approval. I’m trying to work on that in my 30’s. You are such a positive light in the online community and want to thank you 🤍🧡

[@DHARMAKARMA1915]

THIS IS THE FIRST VIDEO OF HER, THAT I CAN FELL SHE IS TALKING FROM THE HEART 💖🙏🏻💞

[@kirstyhibbert3119]

So need this right now am truly lost. I had my babies young 21+23, bought my house engaged to my amazing partner but now moving onto my career. I work part time have done for 8 years now I feel like I need to be more significant I don't know why am only 27!!! This is my sign to start my self improvement journey thankyou so much!

[@theoune2501]

I love how natural and grounded you were and still are Carli. You truly deserve the best ❤️❤️❤️ I’m sure you’ll find your inner peace one way or another like we all are trying to find❤️

[@CarliBel55]

Thanks my angel

[@simple_naildesigns]

Appreciate your honesty. God has always helped me navigate through the ups and downs ❤

[@lovesyorkies3395]

Amen! He sure does!

[@Tina-ec5lt]

Thank you for posting videos like this. It’s so easy for people to look at you and other influencers and think your life is perfect, you are perfect and just feel less than. But then when you put videos out like this it really puts things in perspective. Like you are a real person with real problems, just like everyone else. You said that some people’s problems might be smaller to someone else but a big problem to that person and it’s nice to always listen to them. Very inspiring video. Thank you!!! Really beautiful inside and out❤️❤️❤️

[@carlyriley4144]

Oh Car! I have followed since the beginning.. and you’ve always had a heart of gold. I’m in the same place.. it’s so hard showing ourselves as much love as we want to shower the ones we love with! So much love and light to you and Renz💜✨

[@Jods222]

Carli, when you said on your Instagram story that this was important, I knew we were in for something special. I'm only a few mins in, but I appreciate your vulnerability in this video, and sending you the most love 💘💗 happy new year angel ✨🫶🏾 I hope 2023 is better for you x

[@CarliBel55]

Sending you all the love in this world!!! Happy new year to you too gorgeous angel.

[@GG-py2qr]

It’s crazy i’ve been watching you since i was 10 years old. You taught me how to do makeup when i was finally allowed to start wearing it. When you said “aspire to inspire” just know you accomplished that! You’ve inspired insane amounts of people!! I wish i could make an impact on people one day just like you have ❤️ As someone that’s 11 years younger than you, I look up to you! I love watching you grow from coming out of the hardest times to being a mom & more. You’re motivating for me to keep setting goals and growing as a person!! My favorite & most genuine, down to earth person ❤️

[@mallory8809]

Love this; thank you for being so genuine and helpful to others with your kind advice! I'm turning 33 soon, and the biggest thing I have to tell myself on a VERY regular basis is that we are all on our own path. No one has the exact same journey as another, and it's so easy to compare where we are at in life to others, but we really shouldn't! This has helped me to feel so much better about where I am. I started medical school after taking almost 5 years to get some health things figured out, work in another field, and travel after finishing my undergraduate degree, and in the beginning I felt bad/unsuccessful because I was older than my colleagues 🙄 Seriously? I felt bad about myself for getting a MD and making my way through training, just because I didn't follow the "traditional" path. All of this to say, my advice to anyone is to be PROUD of where you are, regardless of where you thought you would be at this point in your life. You've worked hard and had to go through things others haven't, and your path may be different than what you initially mapped out for yourself, but it's still a wonderful journey and something to appreciate. Sending everyone so much love ❤

[@Michaelax1041]

I’ve been in therapy for a year & honestly it’s been a journey. I feel like you have to find the right therapist that fits with your personality & listens. It took me sooo long to find the right therapist. I have Chronic PTSD due to DV. I also suffer from anxiety& panic attacks, severe depression & OCD. So daily I struggle. I could just imagine how it is putting your life on camera and being in the lime light. I can’t keep up with everything daily so I give it to you! Keep fighting, I did and it’s had a drastic impact on my life in just a year span! I’m here to support your journey 💪🙏🙏🙌🏼 you got this mama! ❤️❤️❤️ #StayStrong

[@mercedesmartin7022]

Your heart never goes unnoticed Carli, sending you love, healing, the right things and people that are meant for you 💗 I appreciate your vulnerability and you’re right in that we are all struggling with something. I hope this year is so special and positive for all of us 💞 Hugs

[@gskoning920]

I’m actually crying. You always have a beautiful way of speaking to so many of our souls and for that I cannot thank you enough.. I needed this video so much. Going through some changes and a time of transition. Saying no more so far has been difficult but I’m not giving up. Thank you angel. Your one in a million ❤

[@craftedbyminerva]

I really resonated when you said you always downplay your problems because you say to yourself other people are dealing with worse. I do that a lot and end up not working through what I’m feeling. It kinda eats at you. So yes other people have problems but that doesn’t mean yours don’t matter. You have to keep yourself healthy! ❤

[@Tinabeautyllc]

It's people like you who inspire others to truly to take a path they love no matter if the support is there or not. Following your heart and dreams is really what fulfills you in life. Also creating memories and spending time with loved ones matter!!! Do it more before its too late. 💗

[@whitneywilliams3995]

What a moment for you to release this video. I just lost my mom very unexpectedly on 12/27. I cannot explain how helpful this was. Thank you ❤

[@simple_naildesigns]

So sorry for your loss 🙏🏽

[@claudiacanales2662]

Whitney I am terribly sorry for your loss. Sending you a virtual hug 💕

[@mariap9381]

Hi Carly, I’ve been watching your videos for like 7+ years now and I really like how real you are! I’ve recently lost my dad right before Christmas so it’s made me feel down and less inspired but I’m try to be as positive as I can. Thank you for opening up about your struggles and how you can move past them. Lots of love xxx

[@SarahMarc_]

I truly needed this video✨ the part when you said “ choose your friends wisely”, earlier i was literally having a small convo in my head about this. I’ve always been bubbly, super optimistic. Still am. But sometimes being around certain people could dim my light or energy you could say, I always felt sensitive to energy so I usually pick up on it. Im now learning to be more selective with others. I now rather choose to be alone and be happy in my own company or with people that truly love me for me❤ thank you for this video and being open with us, love you !✨

[@keniaherrera6008]

Thank you for just being so honest and so relatable. You’re so right about the new year. This time is always hard for me because I’m trying to be perfect when i’ve never been perfect but instead of getting overwhelmed I will take it day by day ❤️ and so right about rather being happy and single than in a relationship that is not for you!

[@priscillanajera2552]

My goodness, you are speaking my language 🥺 I hate that I understand what you are going through. I love that you have had a breakthrough, you’re learning and growing. I’ve been trying to get to my breakthrough and learn these things too. It’s so hard to take care of yourself first when you’ve taken care of everyone else for most of your life. It’s so hard to unlearn. Thank you for sharing and being as vulnerable as you could 🤍

[@AhjahWalls]

Been watching you for years, I love your content but I love your personality and obvious resilience. you’re a strong person and I know it can be a lot but a book that has really helped me is called “The courage to be disliked” and it really put things into perspective for me as far as setting strong boundaries and doing things that many may not agree with but that ultimately fill me at the end of the day. Will be praying for you to find the answers you’re looking for and live in the peace you truly deserve. God keep you and sustain you in all His ways, you’re amazing Carli

[@lexxx59]

I feel like I needed to hear this! I'm still in my 20s (last years of it) and my main focus to is to give myself grace and to stop putting so much pressure on myself to do or attain things that I *think* will make me happy. Thank you for being open about your life with us!

[@jesshenderson2903]

I NEVER comment on videos, but I definitely resonated with the putting everyone else first and feeling taken advantage of in many situations: work, friendships, love; and taking on others energy, it’s hard to do put I’ve been trying to be more selfish lately. Selfish with my time, with my energy, and not giving myself to other people as often. It is definitely easier said than done and I feel like I will always be an extremely empathetic person who wants to serve and help others, I feel that with you as well, but it’s important to be selfish sometimes, focus on yourself and what truly makes you happy and fills your cup, first. Those genuine relationships you have with friends, family, and lovers will continue and the ones that aren’t I think you will truly see. I hope your life continues to blossom and be as beautiful as you are on the inside and the outside!

[@vietnameseprincess3515]

Your words of encouragement truly resonates with me carli. I myself am going through a lot with how I've been feeling and me having no self-esteem whatsoever and this year I really want to love myself and try to encourage me and to know that I am enough, I am pretty, I am smart, I am me. I also want to work on my health and to start exercising twice a week and take baby steps and push myself to do more and stuff like that. Carli, you truly inspire me to be the best that I know I can be and to not always put myself down and think negative thoughts about myself and to always remember what my late mama always had told me in my head and to never let anyone disrespect you or be mean to you and to always love yourself and that I am pretty and strong and stuff like that. I hope that you have a wonderful new year 💖 carli.

[@Lia-qp1xd]

Momma, you’re doing wonderful and be proud of yourself. Give yourself some credit 💙👶🏽 that love you have for your little one is such a true love, isn’t it? My faith and my little son fulfills me more than all of the worldly ways. Doesn’t it do that for you? I’ve been watching you for 10 years, and well… you should be proud of all of the trials and tribulations you’ve persevered through. You’re doing great girl! 💕

[@laurenblackmon2056]

My favorite book I’ve ever read is “The Bible”! I love how it gives infinite Godly wisdom on any and all problems we face and that God is the one who gives us the strength to make it through! ❤

[@simple_naildesigns]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@eliciac4984]

all such great pieces of advice. I am currently reading " When you are ready to heal, this is how you do it" and really loving it. People pleasing and self sacrifice is something ive been doing my whole life, and just now at 29 am I really coming to terms with the implications and how much of a choice I am making in those situations. Happy New Year Carli, cheers to 10 years of watching your videos and following your journey!

[@oliviaplant7259]

I love you Carli! I’m so happy I found your channel a couple years ago. It really stuck with me when you said We ask so many people about what they think we should do in different situations in our life, without first sitting with ourselves and focusing on what will make us happy. That is so true. Loved this video❤

[@nessilla.godzilla]

Thank you so much for this and opening up.. my fiance broke up with me yesterday after our 12 year anniversary... I needed to hear this.. and its made me cry even more in a good way.

[@ForeverYours0727]

With you 100% on everything you said Carli. I think as we get into our 30's some really big things come into realization. We are always learning about ourselves of course but the 30's are completely eye opening!

[@shannon150]

Carli will always be my favourite KZbinr. She’s so sweet and I love how she’s opening up more and she’s so honest and real. A true angel. ❤

[@neanight222]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences with us, Carli! I am almost the same age as you and grew up with you, I've been watching your videos for so many years and I went through a LOT of change over all those years as well, just like you did. One thing always remained the same, though: the fact that you inspire me and milions of other people everyday. You gave very important advice in this video and all of the things you mentioned here that you realized over the years, are lessons I also learned while going through my twenties. You are a true inspiration and living proof that you can do and reach everything when you're following your heart and your dreams. I wish you a wonderful new year, all the best in the world and that you become even more confident in yourself and loving and kind to yourself! You are amazing! ❤️✨🙏

[@iveygreen9014]

I usually never comment but I swear you were speaking directly to me with this video. Carli seriously Thank you for doing this video! I’m 26 with constant anxiety about losing friends because I put them before myself and they usually end up taking advantage of that. As well as anxiety about when I’m gonna have kids, etc. but I have to remember things will happen when they are supposed to. Love you ❤

[@CarliBel55]

I was

[@breenarva98]

Thank you for sharing these things you’ve learned throughout the years. ❤️ I can feel the amount of peace you have gained just by the way you speak. This was so needed!! ❤️

[@nancymassiattie3892]

Hi carli, I’ve been watching you since I was 16 I’m 26 now and you taught me how to contour and I still have your limited edition BH cosmetics palette 😂 of course I don’t use it anymore but it’s a piece that I won’t ever forget. You were the reason I wanted to even do makeup and I just want to thank you so much for always going and uploading and looking your most beautiful even in your hardest times. I appreciate this advice and I couldn’t relate more to listening to yourself and not feeling stuck in certain situations. You helped with this video so much I needed this now more than ever it was my theme for the past 5 1/2 years. Thank you and much love to you and your baby and journey ahead! 💕🫶🏼 xoxo

[@Beachybooo]

Carli you covered things that I've been going through to the exact. And your wisdom and encouragement is huge. Thank you for being real. Thank you for being an inspiration to so many including me! I appreciate you and I just love all of your get ready with me vids. God bless you ♥️

[@angeliquealamer]

I really loved Welcome Home by Najwa Zebian. It’s about “building a home in other people” as we seek outside validation in loved ones, etc, and how to build your own home within yourself, and value and know YOU. Gold.✨

[@headchangee]

Love you Carli ❤ been watching you since I was 15 , im 26 now !!!! Thank you for being so bright and honest

[@francesbermudez2648]

Omg I am also 32 and agree 100% with all this advice! I love this video soo much and it's a good reminder that your happiness and mental health is everything! 😍♥️♥️♥️ been following you since you started KZbin and you've stayed the true genuine person I watched back then! Love seeing you grow in every aspect of life!✨✨✨

[@raecat90]

Thank you so much for being you. Things I wish I had realized sooner is not too stress constantly about things I can't control and to try and do more stuff for myself that makes me feel fulfilled and happy regardless of other people's thoughts on it.

[@MinhMinhD]

Loved this! Resonated with so much of what you said. I know it's not possible for you / your career, but I deleted my IG in December and I'm so much happier. Last year, I also stopped hanging out with my best friend of over 10 years. I realized how mean she was to me, and you're right - the last thing we need is a friend who doesn't have our back. Keep it simple, and hang out with people who you look up to, who inspire you and bring out the best in you

[@chloeberger10]

Carli!!!! Ugh I can’t thank you enough for remaining a bright light in a world that’s not always so. I don’t even watch KZbin anymore (same generation so as you know it’s not what is used to be) but I always come back to just watching you and one other. It’s refreshing. Also that you’re a Jersey girl and I’ve just truly loved following your journey over the last 12 years. I was lucky enough to meet you way back when in 2014 I believe at your pop up in NYC and while you’ve grown, your kindness and generous/ genuine nature has always remained the same! Cheers to our 30’s and the amazing things to come!!

[@emmadustin8033]

I feel like I’ve grown w you over the past few years and you never fail to make just the video I need at that point in life. Thank you babe❤️

[@roxymang1]

Carli I found what you said about New Years to be interesting because in Persian culture we celebrate the new year on the first day of spring. it always feels more like a fresh start because the weather is changing and flowers are blossoming 🥰

[@brittanimel3270]

I can relate so much to the filling everyone else’s cup before mine, and I don’t think we should regret any of it because we are here to teach and learn from eachother. We just have to learn from the downfalls and hold the beautiful times in our hearts. At this point, my happiness comes from watching my kids grow and have the memories I wasn’t able to have and the love I was missing as a child. Makes my heart full. I’m 32 and I have a 3yr old and a 1 1/2 yr old; I’m still in no rush to be with someone new, nor do I trust anyone enough to allow them to meet my babies. I’m content with my little family and focusing on being the love and teacher they need so they know their value comes before their willingness to give their value up for someone undeserving. 🫶my love goes out to you and your family. I hope you have an amazing new year with your cup completely full🎉

[@ebd22]

A book that change my life for the better: ''Women who love too much'' by Robin Norwood Hi Carli, I've been following you since a long time...I can relate to the things you are saying and going trough...I'm 35 years old now and I remember going through a really bad break up on my 30th birthday...my world collapsed and I felt like a loser because everyone around me seem to be able to achieved their goal and living their happy life...I took some time to heal and to reflect on what happen and I saw a therapist...it helped me a lot...but the book that change my life is the one mentioned up ⬆. It is literally a therapy in it self (if you don't have a lot of money or insurance to cover therapy session read this book!!!) I want to share this precious information with you and your community because you always put, in the beginning of your videos, positive affirmations! It is important to share good advices with others. I have now a new boyfriend...we celebrated 3 years together already in November! I can now understand that what seems to be the worst thing happening to me at that time, was in fact the best thing! I like this cote a lot: '' An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it's going to launch you into something great. So just focus and keep aiming.'' Sending love from Canada (sorry for the mistake, French is my first language)

[@seannyhennry3241]

I just finished reading this book amazing! Thank you for this

[@michellequinn3842]

This video randomly came up and it was just what I needed. Thank you Carli for always being true to yourself and true with your followers.

[@valeriaarcos1716]

Thank you for this Carli! I recently broke up with my boyfriend , I’m 29 and I started panicking because most of my ex school classmates are already getting married and having children, but you are so true about everything you are saying , it’s better to wait for a good man that will add value to your life

[@BetaniaCosmos]

Thank you so much Carli for this video and everything that you give us. I know that it's no easy for you, but I just wanna say that it's nothing wrong with you and as soon as you learn how to put yourself first, you will attract someone that does the same. I love so much, I watch your videos since the beginning. Sending so much love to you and Lorenzo

[@rose-angelapizzuto7773]

Thank you, Carli, for always being such a good role model. I've been following your journey for nearly 9 years now, and what an amazing ride it has been. I hope to meet you one day! ❤

[@andreaeversole6330]

Absolutely love this video and it's message. Such a beautiful soul to help uplift other women. We need to understand that we all have different paths and try not to stress over age and time-lines. The pressure woman have to endure over every little thing is unreal....especially marriage and children. I too have stressed over so many of the topics you covered. I hope 2023 provides us all with lots of self love and clarity.❤️ ❤️❤️

[@roxieladuchess]

I'm 42 single, no kids and just got my Bachelors degree and I'm totally ok with it. I'm working on getting my Masters degree and credentials to become a teacher. I know what I want and not settling to just have a label so do you, be happy and figure out what you want and what makes you feel good about you!

[@suzan7161]

Love you Carli. I liked how you peeled off your layers and opened up to us in your vlog. I will keep you in my daily prayers during my meditation alone time. I am in a similar situation as you and I feel I can talk with strangers better than my family. This new year im being "Peaceful & Positive ". Its helping so far. What makes me smile & bring joy to me , is when I hear your son Renz say HAPPY. It makes me happy too. Take care, your doing amazing on your own. Love ya Suz

[@lowtoxxivette]

I totally agree! Genuine sisterhood is so hard to find. Hoping this year I can ride along & stick together with people that support & love me 😊

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

I have trauma from my past but my more recent traumas are from being pregnant, then came postpartum and then I had COVID couldn’t smell my brand new baby or taste I literally had panic attacks. I’m working thru these traumas now with a therapist but getting closer to God is what is keeping me sane .

[@francescamorin5258]

carli, i admire everything about you everyday. youve been my inspiration and someone i look up to for YEARS. this means so much hearing the realness and all of this from you. a book i literally cannot live without is “the 8 rules of love” by jay shetty. i hope this finds you well, and in healing 🤍✨

[@cafepr]

One thing I wish I knew before my 30s? My self worth/value. With this i would have avoided so many mistakes & wrong turns but I'm back on track & it's never too late to start ALL OVER again. Girl, I'm 50 & single since 2015. After a 22 yr marriage in which he NEVER added value I finally left. Doesn't matter the age, yes you're right, we are ALL going through something. Carli, you are young, beautiful, smart, independent & we your fans love you & love to hear your advice. We love Lorenzo & from the bottom of our hearts wish you nothing but health, wealth & happiness. HNY!

[@cynthiawadolowski2544]

This was so refreshing to hear and watch. I’m at a crossroads with my career and it’s scary to make a move at this stage in my life but I have to for the sake of my mental health. Thank you for reaffirming that I’m headed in the right direction! 💜

[@madisimonne]

I’ve been watching you since I was 14 and I’m turning 23 this year - I feel like I’ve literally grown up with you, Carli ❤️ 20:03 I needed this convo when I was entering college. Knowing what I know now as a senior in college, it’s soooo true

[@erinbeth128]

Hi Carli, it’s so good to see you again❤ there are so many things in this video that I resonate with. I’ve been going to therapy for just over a year now and it has completely changed my life. I’ve spent so many years of my life horribly depressed, and even antidepressants don’t make me feel as good as going to therapy does (they do help tho). It is such a validating experience learning why you are the way you are, and also there are so many people out there that have gone through the same things. Also last year I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years. It was so hard but I’ve been so much happier and have flourished so much since leaving that relationship. I came to realize that some of the issues we had were not fixable and that I was often being gaslighted/manipulated. I deserved better and someone who supports every aspect of me. It’s so so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel sometimes, but although it may be dim and far away, it is ALWAYS there. I try to remind myself that everything is temporary and that it’s important to practice gratefulness every day ❤️ at one point I never wanted to wake up in the morning, now I go to bed and look forward to the next day ❤

[@leelee2925]

this sounds so much like me! can i ask you what kind of therapy you did that helped so much?

[@AcePhoenix13]

Hi Carli! Been following you for years and I really needed to hear this ❤️ lost my job two years ago that I had been at for ten years and I’ve just been lost ever since trying to figure out what to do with my life. Been hopping from job to job trying to find something that works for me now, and been struggling with my mental health in the process because I can’t find someplace that I’m comfortable. Thank you for sharing and being a lovely inspiring light 🥰

[@hannafelisha]

I’m on this self discovery journey, too!! I bought her workbook, also and have to get started on it

[@Itsviktoriya]

Love you carli! Been watching you for probably 12 years now and just turned 30 yesterday and this all makes sense! Thank you for always sharing you’re knowledge!

[@ItsMe_Yasel]

I feel like this is the most I've seen you open up and grow. Not saying I haven't seen all the progress and growth but this is a different kind of growth and I hope that this new self discovery journey leads you to where you WANT to be in life! ❤️.. Keep working at it Carli you are doing amazingly great!

[@mirandahoule8377]

I needed to hear this and the timing is unbelievable. You're right about New year solutions and nature also with astrology it says the first two weeks you should test and take time to reflect. I'm turning 30 next month! I feel pressured and learning to be kind to myself. Thanks so much Carli 🙏 your advice so on point as always you're a beautiful soul! Love you!!!! ❤️

[@stellabayley8224]

Love that you're on this journey, I began 5 years ago and now only book therapy when needed, which is rare these days. The road less travelled is a wonderful book that set me on the path of healing, would definitely recommend 👌 love you're work 💜