Our Biblical Role as Wife

In this video I share what the Bible has to say about why we were created and what our biblical role is as wife.
Watch this Vid to learn ways to better help you hubby: • Created to be His Help...

[@silverlw1]

Your husband is really blessed to have such a devoted and God lovingly wife.

[@rachaelmiller3775]

Thank you SO much for pointing out how overwhelmed our husbands can feel with the pressures of being our home’s leader! ❤️ I feel that many women who object to the idea of being a suitable helper don’t understand the pressure our husbands feel because they don’t express with their words how difficult that role can be! Thank you for saying that 👏

[@AlanaL3]

I think we are often in a silent competition instead of just sympathizing with them and understand we both have a lot on our plates. It just looks different. :)

[@firebladeV]

@Rachael Miller. Beautiful comment. It give me hope.

[@spocktiberius2456]

A very insightful message. The whole idea of a helper is so underrated, but one of the Holy Spirit’s roles in our lives as Christians is that of a helper. So as a wife, to fulfill the role of helper is to be in alignment with the Holy Spirit. It allows the Holy Spirit to use you to carry out this function in your husbands life.

[@dee4174]

I have failed at many things in my life, but I know I have done my best to be a good wife and mum. We have a strong marriage of over 33 years. I love my husband and know he is the one God created for me. Ladies, be blessed in the role God has for you. Don't rush to marry. Let God find your Husband for you. Do not be unequally yoked to an unbeliever. Find a man you can pray with. 🙏🏻

[@livenowliveright8509]

Wow, I thank God that I had the urge to look at myself and see how God can make my marriage healthier and better for my home. Thank you so much. I will give this video to my teen daughters. It’s been my fault for so long for not bending to God’s will to help our life get better. Thank you so much for being a wise woman.

[@makewomanhoodbiblicalagain1295]

Amen amen and amen! 👏🏻 I think one of the best ways to know how to help one’s husband is to simply ask! As I always tell my children when they provoke each other by “helping,”😂 “It’s not really helping if he doesn’t want it...” 😉

[@robcandiani6355]

I love this lady,this is what women should be ,this is how strong your are,think about it ,we have roles to play ,man and women

[@september4877]

Your videos have seriously changed my marriage. I’m still waiting to see the full fruits of it but my mindset and the way I speak to my husband has already changed. Thank you so much for imparting all this wisdom 😊

[@moodswing29]

Wow! What a women. Think what our marriages and live would be like if we all lived biblically. You bring tears to my eyes as a man. You are the most prized woman in the world. Any man worth his weight in gold would give life or limb for you and go to the ends of the world to seek you out. God bless you daughter of The Living God, the God of Israel.

[@lovejoy4728]

You remind me of a girl I went to school with. She was on the track team & so perfect. I always thought she was just so perfect in every way. Thank you so much for this beautiful video. I wasn't raised on the bible, so learning how to be a godly wife is like going back to school learning a new language, but I'm starting to fully see the beauty behind God's design & why He gave these instructions to us ladies. God bless you!!

[@AlanaL3]

Awww 😇 I’m so not perfect!! 😂 but God has done a mighty work in me these 20 years of walking with Him. I wasn’t raised in the Word either. It’s never too late to commit your life to Jesus! God bless you

[@marvelousi9165]

Hi Alana. I know this video is old but I just recently found your content and it’s been a blessing! I’m 24 and engaged to be married. I grew up in a divorced home and although my mom did her best, she did not teach me how to be a wife and I had no true understanding of what a godly wife looks like in the context of a marital home since I grew up in a broken home. I’ve prayed to God to teach me how to be a Godly wife and He lead me to your videos. From the bottom of my heart I want to say thank you so much for being a model for young women like me♥️♥️♥️

[@AlanaL3]

Praise God:) women like you are the reason I started my channel!! God bless you sister:)

[@EmilyGrobler]

This is so encouraging Alana. Thank you for taking the time to strengthen us in our marriages and reminding us of the beautiful goals and possibilities. You are a jewel in our midst.

[@RomanticRomeoCasanova69]

Corno manso blessings to you as well Gobbler of great food, on this dark and stormy night, as the elders that make the berries listen to the birds that ring the bells. All the while, your skinny husband's dilapidated hair blows in the wind like an antiquated Spanish kite. For that is the way of the meek horn. Meanwhile, a strong man flexes his muscles for you in the distance. ❤️

[@kcee9111]

You always set me straight and bring things into perspective. I always do better when I watch your videos. Your priorities are right and you have been blessed with much wisdom 💕

[@Caroline-el8yw]

My mom told me that when she was my age (20) she had a group of women at her church that were good examples. I'm not currently plugged into a church and I miss it at times but I also find help from women like you on KZbin. Thank you for sharing your wisdom online. I am taking notes for when i marry someday!

[@sarahill4408]

The concept of extending my help in the areas that I perceive as shortcomings ..... 🤯. Thank you sis. That perspective spoke to me

[@livingunashamed4869]

Amen goes back to the beginning, I always say women are God's greatest gift to man. Adam had everything literally and still he was missing something.

[@AlanaL3]

So sweet!

[@kennethfok]

That’s what God created women for. To be a companion to the man and support him in whatever he does. To be able to satisfy him with sex and to bear children for him. A woman’s body is indeed beautiful.

[@LoveSharox]

I’ve been convicted Praise God! I am working on showing more grace to my husband as well as to myself because we are in this together! Thank you for sharing, God bless you x

[@rebekahedwards5667]

Thank you! It’s like you’ve taken the words right out of my mouth and heart. This is something I’m so passionate about. Blessings

[@theparttimehomemaker]

Yes! Each time I feel annoyed, I need to turn my mind to how I can help and pray for him regarding those areas. Thank you for this video- great advice x

[@SavedbyHisGrace22]

This year, I felt like I should start a KZbin channel to start spreading God's word! I'm finding it hard to know what to talk about! Maybe I need to pray on this more! I just stumbled across your channel, and I just want to say I see the Lord shining in your life. Very graceful!

[@kimberlymercado177]

I love your videos about marriage and the role of a wife according to the Bible. You don't see many woman talking about these things. It is so encouraging to hear! I'm a new mom of a 8 month old boy and I would love to hear your perspective and tips on raising children.

[@breenservin6698]

This was a great video. Crystal clear and to the point! Thank you so much for sharing this word 💕

[@JMarieTaylor]

Sister, my Lord your teaching has caused me to gut check myself. I know I am late but right on time (His timing) thank you for posting this. When you basically said we are not to make idols of the intimate marriage heaven on earth that we want in our marriage struck me. I KNOW THIS IS WHAT I HAVE DONE and have taken it out on my husband and not obeyed the Lord when my husband has not lived up to image I was shown. This has truly blessed me❤.

[@bezz5803]

Thank you sis, didn’t watch it yet but I know you always teach the right things. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@mdmdmdm7732]

What a woman, bless the Lord for creating women like you a true honourable woman

[@sommer8247]

such beautiful hard truth! THANK YOU for being willing to share!

[@madbornstudio]

I really like how you put your words. You have a God given talent. Thankful for helping us all x

[@AlanaL3]

Thank you:)

[@thlipsislamont1352]

@@AlanaL3 @Habits of a Homemaker By God's grace I need help? I can even talk to your husband to tell him exactly what's going on to see if he would allow you to talk to my wife please please. I'm begging you, please help if your husband would allow you to. I'm about to lose my wife. @Raquel H- Women Living Torah Hello I mean no harm. But I'm nearly in tears right now and I'm hurting badly. My wife is wanting to leave me because we had an argument and my voice didn't yell but it was raised more than the normal. And now she's actually wanting to end the marriage and separate from me and divorce me. I do have some flaws like all men. But I've never hit her, I've never cursed her, I've been faithful and our marriage, I provide, I honor her, I praise her out in the gates in the city, I compliment her I am home faithfully, I don't do drugs, I train my children up, I teach her the scriptures, we pray together, we read the word of God together. But I do have shortcomings. There are times when I do get angry, times where I am imperfect,. But her reason to leave me a divorce me is nothing biblical at all for no biblical reason is she wanting to separate from me. Could I get you to maybe talk to my wife or just a short while because I see that you are a lady that has learned how to be submissive. If your husband would allow it could you do it for me? I made mention of the subject of polygamy one time, to see my wife's thoughts on it to tell her that I've had thoughts about it. But at the end of the conversation I let her know that I can stay monogamous for the rest of my life. I think this offended her greatly at one point of time. But there's times where she's brought it up to me and ideas about it as well. But when it was all said and done I told her that I would stay totally with her to the end. Please help me please? Ask your husband if it's okay that you can talk to my wife please? This is a truly crying out for help man right here that is broken hearted and afraid. I can give you my email address as well and then through there I can give you my phone number so that I can talk to you and maybe you can call my wife. Please I'm crying out for help

[@elvislayfield1959]

I adore your words of truth in a relationship Mrs. Alan. God bless you for these deep truths.

[@christelpieterse5592]

Thank you, love my role and so Blessed to be a helper. Kind regars all the way from South Africa.

[@shelbyedward1617]

Yes!!! Even among my Christian friends who are married, they don't think this way, and I agree with you 100%!! I'm sooooo happy to have found your channel ❤️

[@joehouston2833]

You're a helpmeet

[@orangijoy9982]

Wow! You are a mind changer God bless this wisdom

[@florida1621]

Beautiful message! Thank you!

[@monicagudipati1642]

You're simply amazing dear!!😍 You speak wisdom!! Each and every word makes so much sense and must follow thoughts! Love all your vedios on being a Proverbs 31 wife! Very very useful!:) May God bless you abundantly and use you more mightily in his vineyard in the days to come !! :) Lots of love from India❤️

[@missnatalieOK]

So excited to put my headphones on when I go on my elliptical & listen to Alana! I'm on the same page as this lady..You really uplift my womanly spirit, (which makes my man his happiest) cant wait!🌹🕊💯💓💙

[@AlanaL3]

Enjoy that workout! :)

[@missnatalieOK]

@@AlanaL3 Thank you, just listened. God WILL absoulty guide me when I connect with Him..nothing is better, Amen! When I listen, things just always seem to work out for the good. You are 100% correct about Men and woman being wired differently..yes, I read that book a while ago, Men are from Mars Woman are from Venus.. and at the end of the day, I LOVE it! Chris is my best friend & my lover, which is pure bliss. We waited a long time for each other. God's hands were on this from the getco..and the Devil hates when we are on our A game. I feel it. Which is another reason to stay close with the Lord. My boyfriend is working from home during this particular time... (YAY, overall, im actually happy about it.. lol) so, my elliptical is nice so I can stay local If I want, instead of a outdoor walk. Its sweet. Thank you for posting this. Our relationship is on fire when we do what God EXPECTS from us as a Godly couple. Enjoy your day, walking our 2 65 pounds fur babies now..haha. bye for now!!

[@AlanaL3]

missnatalieOK so are you married?

[@AdisCandra]

watched this video a while back and needed to hear it again but i forgot which one it was so i watch and watch and watch almost all of your videos and im here. i needed this so bad.

[@AlanaL3]

Praise God. May he bless and strengthen you!!

[@aliviabailey9289]

wow this is so good!! i never heard this subject said like that. i love it!

[@BreezeeGreenz]

Very straightforward and honest. Thanks.

[@julieberseth7630]

Needed to hear this today!

[@juliefager9402]

This is so inspiring and uplifting.

[@robcandiani6355]

❤😊the perfect design, God bless this angel

[@Elisa_Alvarado]

Thank you for this video. I’m getting married in a couple of months and I really want to fulfill my God given role! And it fills my heart with joy to be able to do that soon💞

[@kennethfok]

Congrats. May you be able to enjoy your marriage and your new role as a wife.

[@DonaldGrahamJr]

Well said. I am thankful that has a healthy understanding of the word submission. Unfortunately, a lot of women believe that submission means weakness. Subordinates submit to management in the workplace, athletes submit to their coaches, and military personnel submit to their chain of command. Neither scenario denotes weakness, but a deference to an established order of leadership. We believe that God established an order for marital leadership as well, its just that society has done a good job of distorting it.

[@nathanielfitch1215]

I feel I need to express the message of the video to my wife but i dont know the right way to express this

[@TroubleActual]

I'm still glad to hear this from 2yr ago. I say that in a humble manner towards my wife. I want to be closer with her.

[@melissagiancola1314]

I came across your videos about 3 years ago when I was first saved. They made me so angry🤣. But now, over 3 years later after following Christ more and more, reading my bible and getting baptized, I have come to see and understand how beautiful being a wife is. Like someone else mentioned in the comments, I didn't understand what it meant to be a godly life while growing up. While I don't have a husband ( or boyfriend), God has transformed my life and I believe that at some point I will get married. Thank you for your videos!

[@bethanyhall1524]

I am SO glad you are doing marraige Monday again! I have loved every marraige video you have put out. They are so encouraging and exactly what I need and filled with godly truth. I have been struggling lately with my role as a wife. I'm not sure why. We've been married 17 years and have 4 kids. We've come a long way but I feel like I've hit a little rough spot. I'm very careful about which books to read for life struggles. I used to read lots of then but they started making me feel guilty about things I do wrong and their goals were always unattainable for me. I would end discouraged. That being said, if you were to pick one book that has helped you as a wife, what would that be? I'm a believer and read the word everyday and pray daily throughout the day. But I feel like I need some great suggestions for me as a wife today. I need a fresh perspective.❤️

[@AlanaL3]

The excellent wife by Martha peace hands down! :) I actually have a playlist going through it from a loooong time ago:)

[@Chasingthetruth123]

Wow thankyou so much for this video I noticed I have been really negative and complaining about having to keep picking up a certain mess. I'm trying to figure out how to be a better wife

[@clingcling8844]

Thanks for this wonderful video. Im struggling right now as a house wife. You made me realise a lot of things. God Bless. Please continue to make videos like this. Empowering womens 🙂💪👭

[@AlanaL3]

God bless you:)

[@einareinarsson8662]

🙂 So fantastic to hear you. God bless you 💕 🙏

[@TheFoppoli]

Thank you for this - such a needed message! Have you ever made a video on navigating difficult in law relationships? Or perhaps you’re aware of any other things that speak to this topic?

[@NessieRyan]

New to your channel and I’m loving it. Being my age and coming from where I have, a lot of other women can’t understand why I’ve chosen this life but you put it into words that I do not have. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤️

[@angelamoreno1428]

P T god has a plan and purpose for you! ❤️ god bless you in many ways stay strong 💪 I’m a new believer about 1 yr 1/2 ago turn to Christ it has been the happiest and joyful moments of my life I thank Jesus for saving me and calling me into his house!! We are his children the lord is with us 🥰✝️

[@ummizaansabir4869]

I am a Muslim and I agrees with 100%! I am a wife but you make me love it! I look forward and enjoy being the help of my husband! I really really love you videos!

[@chandrenchety2706]

Interested to hear what the Quran says about being a wife?

[@syedabbas5822]

@@chandrenchety2706 yeah as a Muslim very interested to implement the teachings of sharia to maintain the moral upkeep of the society that's getting degenerate due to soft simpy men

[@jonathansledge5790]

What you say is beautiful. I pray one day I meet a woman with your mindset.

[@mdmdmdm7732]

Likewise

[@childofgod1840]

Blessed by this video

[@carmelariley9491]

Good Wisdom! Thank You!👍👍👍

[@dianaw1813]

Love these marriage videos

[@jessicamonday7966]

Thank you for this advice

[@johnfoley9031]

Wow. Bless you.

[@lpereira7866]

I can only imagine a relationship like you described!

[@elijahwebb7167]

I ASK FOR YOU ALL PRAYERS, PLEASE! I sent my wife this video. Not sure if she watched it. I assumed not, as we are separating now. I love her but she is so disrespectful now. I come home to fussing, accusing, blame, others are better.....etc. I'm done. I work 6 days a week, allow her to handle the money, she has 2 new vehicles (Jeep Wrangler - Ford King Ranch), just gave her control of almost 100k that she blew, she had new everything. She doesn't work....but stated that I can only have sex a certain time of the day, and she does not feel that she should have to cook all the time for me. When I asked to have special time like coffee mornings with breakfast (and volunteered to help make it, she refused), when I get up to work, being very quiet, she gets upset cause she says she needs sleep. So I see all these wives, many who are not Christian, and they are humble and sweet. I think I deserve that. We all have our flaws and I've been praying, fasting & reading to be a better husband. But I listened to you and heard the songs "It's in God's Hand Now" by Anointed and "You Just Don't Want To Know" by Marvin Winans that's what's getting me thru. I'm tired. I want a Godly wife so bad....but I question. Thank you and Jesus blessed the women who listen to you

[@missing1person]

Amen to that.

[@angelabain7646]

God bless you Lady 🙏🏾

[@AlanaL3]

God bless you! :)

[@laurarobinson7682]

Loved this ❤ xx

[@nurturingwings3793]

How beautiful! God’s perfect design!

[@brittanygonzalez1282]

Love this

[@przemysawradosh5911]

What an inside beauty !

[@louisetooze6076]

Love it this. X

[@lindadonelson2662]

Great job!!

[@elizabethrose6853]

I found your channel a couple months before I got married. When we got married we where on the same page spiritually. My husband has now decided to convert to Eastern Orthodoxy. I know that the way I handle this situation could either make or break our marriage. I know I need to submit to him but I see several things in Eastern Orthodoxy that I don’t see in the Bible and possibly is quite wrong. I need wisdom to see where to draw the line in the sand. I know prayer is so important right now. So far I have decided to go to the Eastern Orthodox Church with my husband and to continue to have and maintain relationships with the ladies in my church and go to my Bible study and as many other gatherings that I can.

[@AlanaL3]

Wow...so sorry! I don’t know what Eastern Orthodoxy is. I think you are doing exactly what you should be for now. Keep praying and remain in the word for yourself. I will pray with you.

[@elizabethrose6853]

Alana L, thank you so much! This all has happened very fast.

[@nemoliberestquicorpo]

So sorry to hear that Elizabeth :( that sounds very difficult. My brother in law is Eastern Orthodox... I think the main thing there to ask would be the question of justification. That is, how are we made right with God? Is it solely because of what Jesus has done for us, or also on the basis of our works? I say that's the main question because of my understanding of the teachings of the Eastern Orthodox church and because of what Paul says in Galatians 1:6-9 (there is only one gospel). The Galatians were on the cusp of falling away from the teaching of grace and making the mistake of relying upon works (particularly circumcision and various Jewish days of observance) + what Jesus has done for them. In fact, Paul writes as if some in Galatia had already done just that (5:2-4). I have not researched the EO church in a while though, but see, for example, www.oca.org/questions/teaching/faith-and-works. Maybe you could read Galatians through with your husband and then afterwards research what the EO church teaches about justification, and then gently discuss your concerns with him? Just an idea for your consideration.

[@elizabethrose6853]

Nemo liber est qui copori servit, unfortunately my husband is not open to talk about this subject for the most part. When ever I try to it becomes all about what the EO has right. One of his main arguments is that the Bible does say one church and they claim to be it. My husband is a very smart man and he is well read and better equipped to argue a point then I am. I also just do not want to debate with my husband and that ends up happening.

[@tdb19872]

@@elizabethrose6853 He's not requiring you to engage in sin, you may not yet understand why he chose this direction theological but the right thing to do is submit yourself to your husband's leading of you and be teachable.

[@tinates7354]

Stay blessed

[@NikkiSchumacherOfficial]

Happy Monday.

[@StayingKingdomMinded]

Here watching now :-) ~Amanda

[@Teresa-ni7og]

I love Marriage Monday’s!

[@JCDFU]

Thank you for your video. As a men, I have to add something to this. When the wife doesn’t go after her calling to be the helper and supporter of her husband, he will definitely notice it and that way she will create a gap between them. When a woman gets married, she’s unter the “control” of her husband and just as I, as a husband, have to obey God, so she has to obey God as well by obeying her husband. When a man sees his wife is doing her own thing, it makes him very very sad and that’s where his ways get rocky, although she should be the one helping him getting away of the rocks. Anyways, thank you for your words the wo woman and wife’s out there. God bless.

[@stephanier1336]

I feel like since I had my 3 kids my marriage has becoming second. I am having trouble putting him/us first. I have a hard time looking nice everyday and I guess maybe it’s just a struggle with really little kids!

[@RosyRodriguez-rn1ty]

😔You’re not the only one!!! I thought I was the only one that was going through this...

[@SecretPlacePsalm91]

Amen

[@Justadudeman22]

You're a good woman.

[@homeschoolMom1973]

New wife learning how to be a better wife and help mate.

[@AlanaL3]

Cling to Jesus:)

[@homeschoolMom1973]

I am reading the bible with my husband almost every day .We found an awesome church.

[@AlanaL3]

@@homeschoolMom1973 that’s wonderful. Make sure you’re spending time with the Lord on your own as well. You are an individual

[@israelburri1]

So how do I get my Catholic wife to follow God's words and support me?

[@aSwayze]

The help your husband needs is to have his core needs met. Do you let him be your hero? Do you reinforce his authority and trust his judgement? Are you cheering him on and giving him room to make mistakes without criticism? Do you receive him well? Do you show appreciation in a way that makes him feel appreciated? Do you compete with him ? Have you let him earn your respect? These are all acts of submission and the way you help your husband. He wants a capable wife who treats him like a capable husband. He doesn't want you to do the work for him or with him, he wants you to be on the side with the kids making him look good, cheering him on, letting him prove to you that he's got it. Be spiritually, emotionally, mentally, socially, physically available! ❤️

[@SusanMorales]

This is good Alana. Do you think some husbands can struggle with this concept of needing their wife’s help and have a hard time expressing what they need help with? Or do you think husbands are always asking for our help in their own way and we are totally missing it as a wife and resisting helping instead?

[@AlanaL3]

I can’t answer that, probably both those things happen, or just depends on the guy. That’s why asking is good, but also watching and praying for guidance is helpful.

[@SusanMorales]

Alana L I find your videos of homemaking and the wife’s role refreshing. I feel it’s so different from what we hear all the time. Things like “you’re going to end up barefoot and in the kitchen” like that would be the worse thing for a woman.”

[@SladeMacGregor]

I believe that the creation of a woman was the crowning and final and the most glorified moment of human creation. That we start with light and dark and land and sea and we move through fish and fowl and the beast of the field and we get to Adam and it’s still not good enough. Only when Eve was created….this is what I believe that the crowning creation and the glory of the human experience came with the creation of Eve.

[@Sunflower1399]

Alana, what about when both husband and wife work? I genuinely struggle with this because I feel all the weight on me, I would love some insight

[@AlanaL3]

I’d say we gotta help each other. Communicate your needs:) you can keep it dimples urging the week and tag team on the weekend, or diva little every week night and do the rest on the weekend, but give yourself an “off” day.

[@BeatsVission]

very nice. from india

[@zachzorn9930]

Your husband is a lucky man.

[@Daisy.florina]

protector in the family where in the Bible state this? I want to know

[@sarahill4408]

Question...at this stage of life I'm actually the primary financial provider for our home (like 90% of our income). So I feel like in some ways we have traded roles at least temporarily. How can I honor God and my husband while still feeling like I'm being supported as the person supporting the home and gone working most of the time?

[@AlanaL3]

Is this temporary? I’d def make sure it is. You’re going to be locked in for life if you don’t switch back to man being main provider. It may be fine now, but you may not always feel that way, hubby too. I’d say do what you can physically, but get help where needed, but your heart/mind/ desires should be rooted at home.

[@sarahill4408]

@@AlanaL3 we want it to be. But probably for at least 4 more years. He's back in school. Where I struggle is that he is home most of the time but doesn't do much of the home responsibilities. I struggle trying not to feel resentful because I know we have switched roles but it's hard to feel like I carry both burdens

[@cassandrasan144]

Alana L as long as I r been married, i brought home the bacon. It can be hard sometimes with the main provider role being reversed. Luckily I work 6 shifts a month while he works a Monday through Friday job that is quite laborious. He definitely works more than me but I pay every bill in the home which can add stress on my part.

[@cassandrasan144]

I might see him as inferior bc he doesn’t pay the bills.

[@sarahill4408]

@@cassandrasan144 that's my struggle

[@wassuhmufusaLOL]

I really want to get married soon

[@almaencinas9360]

I know I need to be a Godly wife and I try my best but it’s so hard when I can’t speak my feelings and my husband puts his addiction before his family emotionally and financially so how can I help him in a respectful and loving way ?

[@AlanaL3]

Addiction?you may need to go to elders for counseling. :/ I’m sorry

[@juliamarciniak3167]

Leave him

[@mohbeenh]

My wife will never take advise, never listen to any counseler, she believes she knows it all & no one can teach her anything. What can i do?

[@AlanaL3]

Pray for her...have her read proverbs. Being unreachable is a trait of a proud fool:/ the wise love knowledge, insight, counsel. I’d encourage you to pray Unceasingly for her. The Lord can do mighty things. :-) Love her with a Christ like love and help her to see your grace even when she acts wrong.

[@mohbeenh]

@@AlanaL3 Thank you Alana.

[@glitter2664]

Hi Alana, I would like to ask you a question. I was reading my Bible the other day and was studying 1 Corinthians and I noticed 1 Corinthians 11 states very clearly that a woman dishonors her head if she prays or prophesies without a covering on her head and the title for chapter 11 in my Bible says "INSTRUCTION FOR PUBLIC WORSHIP" it is very clear.... is that something women are supposed to be doing when they are at church? Or should they be covering their hair every time they pray? Just want to know what your thoughts are on this?

[@AlanaL3]

He is speaking to the corinthians about specific situations there, not the church as a whole, even in those days it only applies to the corinthians.

[@glitter2664]

You know alot more than I do about the bible .....so is there any proof or anything that tells us that he was only speaking to the Corinthians?

[@AlanaL3]

Well, the first clue to that is that the letter is titled Corinthians. It is a letter directly to the Corinthians and then 2 Corinthians is another letter directly to the Corinthians. There are definitely truths about our salvation and our faith in Jesus that apply to us even if they are in letters to other churches, but there are also specific things that were occurring in those times that he addresses that can’t apply to us because they have nothing to do with what we are going through. There is no commandment in scripture for women to cover their heads. We are absolutely free in Christ. We are commanded to love God and love your neighbor. The danger with adding “law” to our lives is that we start to think that what we do is actually what saves us. It also can creep in to our hearts to judge others that don’t “see” what we see as a commandment in the Scriptures, making us puffed up or self righteous, also we may become puffed up if we can actually live up to the outward law, or we can feel exceedingly discouraged if we can’t live up to it. That’s why the gospel is so freeing! The law, which is referred to as a burden by Paul, is released from us. Now it is by grace through faith no longer the law that we are saved. We are free! Jesus fulfilled it perfectly because he is the only one that could! :-) We must cling to the fact that what Jesus did on the cross, believing that, having faith, And as a result God giving us the free gift of salvation is what saves us. Nothing that we do. But, as believers we are given lists and lists of instructions on how to live a godly life throughout Paul’s epistles. They are all pretty much summed up to walk in the spirit, love others in everything that you do, honor God with your body, mind, soul, avoid/hate evil. I hope this is helpful. Don’t get tied down by outward practices that will only cripple your faith or make you judge others for not doing the same.

[@glitter2664]

Yes that makes perfect sense and your right thats my problem is that i keep trying to find a list of dos and dont and even though I don't want to feel this why there is still a part of me that can't get over the fact that we have no control over our salvation...... and it is really hard because every time I mess up by getting aggravated at my husband or being too hateful towards my children and not having any patients I feel condemned and I read my Bible and pray but I don't really know how to stop that feeling.......

[@livingunashamed4869]

Dale and Veronica Partridge did a great video on this......kzbin.info/www/bejne/p2rZnqJ4l5adh7s I do believe Paul was talking to all the saints. Not cultural. Goes back to creation.

[@jasonherring]

This is what is wrong with our society today because so many don't believe in it. God made a woman so a man wouldn't be alone and have support.

[@kennethfok]

Sadly, there are many women in developed nations who are doing very well in their careers. And their mentality is to deliberately avoid marriage and childbearing. Like they rather remain single and spend time having high tea with friends, shopping and gossiping about their bosses and colleagues. Any thoughts about this? Because I feel that God made women stronger than men when it comes to childbearing. We men have it much easier than women and I don’t deny that. We just have sex with the woman and ejaculate inside her. A woman’s journey towards womanhood and motherhood begins right at the onset of puberty where she begins having breasts and needing to wear bras which some would find it annoying. Also, the monthly menstrual cycle starts and she has to deal with the bleeding and cramps. And from the moment of conception, she carries the weight of her growing baby inside her body before dealing with more pain during childbirth. And when one thinks it’s over, it’s not true. Breastfeeding becomes the next set of struggles and the cycle repeats itself with the next child or she just have to deal with her monthly cycle. God has His reasons for allowing things to happen so I’m wondering if many women today have lost touch with God’s intended purpose for their body.

[@withanjali4470]

Women can be doctors, teachers politicians too

[@AlanaL3]

Yes

[@kennethfok]

I would like to know if God said that one of the roles of women is to satisfy their husband’s sexual desire when he feels like having sex? Is it wrong for a woman to always deny her husband of sex just because she’s tired? I feel that the world is full of sin and the devil always tempts a man to look for sex elsewhere. Which is why I feel that it is important for a woman to always be there to satisfy her husband. It’s a way to protect the marriage and keep him faithful. Any inputs on this?

[@AlanaL3]

Yep. 1 Corinthians 7 but not just women, men too. It is a weapon to use against the enemy and it’s not just for men, wives need sex too

[@kennethfok]

@@AlanaL3 I think I’m having a much higher sex drive than my wife. She’s always complaining of being tired and refusing to have sex with me. We are only married for slightly more than a year and we only had sex a couple of times. I’m really not sure what to do? There’s always a temptation to look for sex elsewhere though I have not done that. It seems like what she’s doing has caused me to end up with frequent masturbation to satisfy myself. I just can’t help it because men produce so much of semen everyday and it’s a natural urge to want to release it on a regular basis. Any advice?

[@ApostlePatrikWiedemann]

Kenneth Fok look into semen retention and try fasting, ask god for guidance in this issue. Get your flesh under control and never ever cheat or even think about it.

[@deeeew100]

I did everything wrong in my marriage and it broke, my husband divorced me.

[@princess-cd5zg]

What does a helper even mean... Like what do we have to do...

[@AlanaL3]

I think it depends on what your husband needs help with. :-) There may be things my husband needs help with that other husbands do on their own with no problem, there may be things my husband does not want/need help with that other husbands do you want help with, etc. Every wife has to know what her husband’s needs are so that she can help him best. Sometimes they don’t know how to articulate what they need help with and we need to look for the areas in their life that we can be of service.

[@meerav2268]

I wish you were my mum, my mother doesn't let me live like this

[@AlanaL3]

Are you still under her roof?

[@lea4777]

This is an awkward question sorry but my husband insists on doing certain sexual activity (I think you know what I'm referring to). Should I submit to that?

[@AlanaL3]

Not if you don’t feel comfortable:/ he needs to know you don’t like it, and love you and be sensitive to that.

[@livingunashamed4869]

@@AlanaL3 Slippery slope. Submission won’t always be comfortable per se your flesh will resist. I would advise her to ask her husband why he wants this and ask herself why she doesn’t and see if they can find some common ground. If there is harm involved don’t for sure but if not she needs to pray and give it to the lord.

[@lea4777]

@@AlanaL3 Yes indeed. Thank you for the reply. I actually would want to submit to him, but my main problem is that I'm unsure whether sodomy is biblically moral.

[@Moana_moo]

That’s why i ran away from church and never came back. Like i am too proud to be in anyone’s shadow. My father is an extremely Christian man who’s very mysogenistic and he believes if women lead we go to hell and i’m like:”fine”. (Add Eastern european to that).Like i always had the need to make my own choices and have always been really independent and my grandma and some ppl around me who are again very conservative are like i’m Gonna die single since i am “too bossy” for a woman. And i’m like i don’t mind being single like i feel good in my own skin. Like my biggest fear have always been being controlled and feeling trapped. I just feel like society pressures women(i’m almost 18 anyway) to need a man and to not be independent

[@AlanaL3]

If you don’t need a man make sure you aren’t sexually impure then. That’s only for marriage. I hope you get to see better examples before you deny Christ is the answer and only hope to life.

[@Moana_moo]

@@AlanaL3 Look i don’t need a rule book to tell me how to live my life. Like there ain’t one size fits it all and i think i know best what suits me.It’s not that i don’t need relationships it’s just that i don’t want to depend on a man plus marriage doesn’t sound like my thing. Like i’m just proud and independent by nature and the thing i value most is freedom and hate feeling trapped or controlled and if i’d ever feel controlled in a relationship i’d most likely end up cheating.

[@Moana_moo]

@@AlanaL3 Like i just know how i act with my strict and controlling father. Lie to him 24/7 do things behind his back say I’ll do as he says and then i do what i want. Like even career wise i opt for something where i’m my boss and can make my own decisions bcuz i just hate feeling trapped. I view marriage and relationships as bussiness deal. Like i compromise as much as the other person compromises.

[@AlanaL3]

@@Moana_moo I can relate. I’m a very independent, confident and self motivated person. I’m self employed for same reasons you’re stating, but I’m super honest and loyal. I love my husband and want to be with him forever. He likes that I’m a strong woman and not super clingy and needy...maybe you’ll find a good match one day. The Bible isn’t a rule book by the way:) it’s Gods word to humanity to help them know him and fall in love with him for saving us from hell by providing a way through his son.

[@Moana_moo]

@@AlanaL3 the thing is everyone’s different but my way of showing love to ppl is by being bossy around them bcuz while i’m very independent i’m not actually bossy at all unless i’m comfortable with that person. Like otherwise i’m usually the type to just pretend i listen say I’ll do as they say and then do how i want. Like i decide my role in relationships and life not the Bible or anyone else It’s not that i don’t believe in God but i don’t consider myself Christian and i don’t regret it

[@user-ne1ob6os8e]

I wish I can make you a personal question

[@AlanaL3]

You can:)

[@Phoebe907]

What if your husband struggles in areas, but he refuses to allow you to help him? I agree with you about this, but it’s not always just a complaining wife, sometimes it’s a man who doesn’t allow his wife to help because of pride. What do you do then?

[@AlanaL3]

I know:( pray is first. Sometimes the perfect moment arises when we are patient. I also have seen God fight many battles for me. Prayer is powerful:)