Our First Time | Sex In Marriage | Part 3

[@JustineTeeVee]

I do believe that sex in a Christ centered marriage can be holy and not dirty and not perverted. I'm 26 and never have had sex and I'm proud and secure in that and in who I am in Christ as a single woman. God doesn't give a man a wife to fulfill his needs, He gives a man a wife when he is already fulfilled and ready for covenant. I may be single but not looking for anyone because I know and believe the man God has for me will pursue me no matter what. And I'll know as well when God brings him to me, I know my spirit will just know. But in my young age I'm still not ready to be a wife, and God is still growing me in my singleness and my relationship with God needs to be much stronger before He can trust me with one of His sons. I'm grateful for your videos on this topic. Your boldness and honesty was much appreciated. It makes me more content and secure in who I am as a virgin and a woman in God in waiting. I'm grateful because since I've never experienced sex I don't find it a huge temptation in my life. I don't lust after men or lust in general. I'm just focused on me and my relationship with God and when I have Him, I don't lack a thing so I know I'm not lacking I'm gaining in my journey in Christ.

[@jessyjonas4988]

Jay4891T this is great faith. Continue in your faith and trust in God. You are truly experiencing the abundant Life the Lord promised. Give your testimony to those around you to help and strengthen others in the faith. " The blessing of the Lord makes one rich, and he adds no sorrow to it" Proverbs 10:22

[@melaninpoppies5709]

I RESPECT YOU IN A TREMENDOUS WAY!!!! YOU JUST MOTIVATED ME.

[@elmamumbib]

Wow ❤

[@auntieemmy6549]

God bless you

[@nkenglefacasonglefac3655]

Keep up girl

[@carlisaburt6348]

I have been married 16 years this year and I can't believe how wise you two are so early in marriage!! I learned important lessons from listening to you two. I can't believe it. But I'm going to implement the ideas and feelings you discussed. I realized from this video the areas I'm falling short in sex with my husband. I will truly be praying for you two, because the enemy is going to try to tear this apart so he can tear up others following you two!!! Thank you so much for your honesty, transparency and wisdom!!!!!! Cheers

[@BlessedLPT.]

Thank you for being a Christian couple who can be so open about something that people wanna keep as a taboo. God bless you x

[@muthelle]

"Sex is undervalued but overrated" . Yes. Well done guys. And Thank you

[@Piniada93]

"real intimacy is a place of vulnurability" -big words, Gabes!! :)

[@marie-nyskassi5556]

keep up with the video. you are the only couple on youtube that actually have relevant, matured, grown-up things to say and share

[@Jamaican_queen25]

Marie-Nys Kassi ?? Ashley empowers ..... there are so many people on KZbin. Still discovering people on KZbin.. I like makeup mainly though.

[@RubySuze]

yep! you speak the truth. it's really true that people don't talk about the reality of having sex on the first night. I think people should sleep the first night...You've got 25 years to perfect your art. brilliant video!

[@rolaine733]

So much better when you understand why it was created, and when your connected through the Lord. I really believe it's a level of intimacy so powerful that when it's done right you want even desire another person. I definitely loved this one, Amen guys! 💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒💐💒

[@GabesandAnna]

Truth! Couldn't agree more!

[@msgrandeur]

I completely appreciate you guys honesty and transparency! and now desire to continue to be celibate and wait for the beauty of sex in marriage.

[@carissa813]

so glad yall are being 100% honest and sharing your journey. I actually want to show this to my teen ministry at my church. I'm 3 months away from marriage to my fiance and I'm so excited. We've been waiting our entire courtship and I know God will bless us on our journey as well. blessing to both of you.

[@nubianjoi9511]

May I commend the two of you on (another) great video series! The authenticity, content, clarity and maturity for which individually yet collectively navigate through your experiences are captivating. Please give some consideration to other media forms (IE: print, webinars, seminars etc.).The Christian (Education) Community, especially from an ethnic/cultural perspective would truly benefit from having access to relevant teaching materials for adults students. Meanwhile, what a blessing you've both been to me! It's such a joy to see how your love for Christ permeates all you do. I'm proud to see your channel upholding the standards for Christ namesake! Peace & Blessings

[@GabesandAnna]

NUBIAN Joi' thank you so much Hun! We appreciate your support. Who knows where God will take this lol thinking about more is a little overwhelming! What we do know is, whatever journey He takes us on...we are taking you all with us 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@MsLee1123]

I totally agree with NUBIAN Joi'. Btw, I am a new subbie.

[@msgrandeur]

preach!! especially about the intimacy being genuine and deeper than just physical! Truely blessed by this video

[@JHL751]

one of the most influential couples on KZbin!

[@tjoseph9835]

This was excellent! Thank you guys for being so transparent with us. I was really blessed by the video. And seeing sex in marriage as an act of giving yourself was eye opening. Thanks​ again. keep the videos coming, I'll keep watching. God bless

[@aliheisey7899]

This is so good! I'm not married but this is so encouraging and inspiring and I can't wait to have my own experience with my future husband. Thank you guys for making this video and being so open. I just read a book called "Swipe Right: The life and death power of sex and romance" by a pastor named Levi Lusko. You all should check it out on Amazon, it is so awesome!

[@marchaleemarsh2496]

Thanks for being so transparent with your topics.

[@angel02134]

this is FANTASTIC. Especially for us Christians who don't have these conversations

[@daneshacook08]

You guys have opened my mind to things that I didnt know and things to look foward to in marriage. Seriously yall are a blessing. Btw not just speaking on sex, but marriage that is blessed by God.

[@MissSmallz1]

QUESTION: I'm 22 and I've never had sex because I'm also waiting till marriage :) When I explain the security that you have with sex in marriage to my friends (vs having it outside of marriage) they respond "well you're husband can cheat on you and leave". I don't know how to respond after that. It actually hurts and makes me feel a little defeated. What would you recommend I say?

[@judgeright2292]

If u marry a man of GOD, a man who constantly pursue God, he will be convitected by GOd's word and wont cheat on you as he takes the instructions of GOD. thats why its important for you to pursue God first personallly and for him also. so the two of you would share God's value and make your decisions on the word of GOD. as human we are full of faults but with God we can be made perfect. it depends where you fetch your husband from and what it is enstil in them. im 22 too. i have taken 2 years to get to know myself and to pursue GOD. anyone who doens not pursue God does not stand a chance considering dating me

[@JustineTeeVee]

The Model Artist Don't worry about what others say. These days it's almost impossible in people's mind that a marriage can be a good and lasting marriage. When you get enlightenment from videos like this and share it with others who don't understand or won't understand, their responses will reveal their hearts and show you where their minds are at and what they're excepting to be THEIR reality in lives but it has nothing to do with you sweetheart. Don't let people rob you of that hope. Don't feel defeated. What kept them secure and strong in this journey was Christ. There's so many men out there but there's only one that God has made and is preparing especially for you. Having God as the center of a relationship is the most important thing. It's the only reason why they were able to wait til marriage. Is it possible that cheating can happen in a marriage, yes, but that's why it also depends on who you're marrying. Not all men and women cheat. It's a fear that shouldn't even go through your mind because if you have a relationship with God and put Him first above all things, He'll take care of you and will send you the RIGHT person, someone who will wait for you until marriage. Who won't rush you or pressure you. Who will honor God and you in that waiting just like they did. The greatest test to see if the person is for you is to have them wait until marriage with you. Just like Annabelle said, when she chose to stop having sex in her previous relationship, it ended. Clearly because that man had no value for her and just cared about one thing. But after God brought her, her now husband, when they made the decision to wait, he was also in agreement, and waited for her and made it til the end and fought for her. You're worth to be fought for. If no one is willing to do that for you, they aren't worth your time. And that's how you'll know they won't cheat on you in your marriage. Because if they're willing to practice self control before marriage and actually get to know you and fall in love with you and honor you before marriage, they've proved that they ain't going no where. Usually they show their true selves before heading to the altar one way or another. It's just setting those boundaries and if they're willing to wait for you. Because you're worth it. So if you've found hope through their videos that it's possible to find someone who will do the same for you, hold on to that, and know your worth and your value and don't let anyone, not even your friends steal that from you. Because like I said, if that came out their mouths that means that they have no hope for themselves and have accepted that reality for themselves. But don't accept it for yourself. What ever they say has nothing to do with you. They shouldn't have that power over you to take joy or hope from you like that. Don't live out of some else's happiness or anger. You live your life and hold on to the treasures you've found after watching the videos. And just know that not every one is going to receive well when you share these things to them because not everyone will understand that there's such thing as a good and faithful marriage. It's sad but, this is how the world has trained some people's mind because of what they've seen or even experienced. But it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. So just as an advice of wisdom be mindful and careful of what you share with certain people. If you feel as though you can be easily discouraged by someone's response if you share something like this with them, it's best to not even bother saying anything. I've had to learn over time that I can't even share good things with certain people because they just shut me down and make me believe that what I'm saying isn't reality. No it's their reality, not mine. Not God's. Whatever comes out of people's mouths reveals what's in their heart. So don't take any of that personal, it's just something their dealing with. Don't let other people get you to think like them. It's good to stand out and be that light of hope, even for them. So just hold on to that hope and I hope and pray that you yourself will be that example to them that it's possible. Simply because no one stole that hope in you, and it now became your reality💜 I know I'm not the KZbinrs but I hope it helped a little bit. I usually don't reply like this but I had it in my heart to share with you and to give what was in my heart.

[@MissSmallz1]

@Jay4891T I am copying what you wrote me and saving it so I can read this again. You have no idea what a blessing you have been to me! May God continue to bless you in everything you do, because you have a heart that truly reflects Christ. Even though I don't know you, I have so much love for you. God bless you hun!

[@MissSmallz1]

@Judge Right Amen! I for sure want a man after God's own heart. That is my prayer everyday, not just for my future husband but for me as well. The best thing about us having a relationship with God, is that we won't have to worry about the other person. Like you said God will be able to convict us. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me :)

[@rolaine733]

Jay4891T this was really good what you said here. Amen.

[@lindiwe30]

Your guys authenticity is really refreshing,May God bless you 2

[@OyinHunnieTV]

Found this helpful, I'm Celibate but I've secretly been dreading the awkwardness that I know would happen when I finally get to have sex when I'm married. Good to know everyone experiences the awkwardness cos I've not seen many people talk about it. thank you.

[@Nomad332]

"Sex is overrated but at the same time it is underrated" 👌🏿

[@MelissaKrystal]

ayan ali Undervalued*

[@erikaasen4081]

First comment on KZbin ever. Such an educative Chanel.I feel so blessed subscribing to your Chanel #GabesandAnna.

[@GabesandAnna]

Oh, wow!! It's a privilege for your first comment ever to be on channel. Glad you liked the video and welcome to the #DekuFam

[@erikaasen4081]

Gabes and Anna ,happy to be part of the #Dekufam🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@CollegeDollface]

Thank you for being honest and sharing your thoughts/experiences with us!! Love watching y'all

[@thebeautifulway8290]

I swear I love you guys. Thank you for your honesty, transparency and realness!!!!!

[@semire11]

I don't want the series to END !!! #Sobbing

[@theloveandlipstick]

thank your honesty...I know it's a difficult topic to talk about but you did it so well. God bless

[@yandia77]

Thank you for sharing and being so transparent, this truly spoke to me, and gives me hope.

[@fajon2]

This was so encouraging. Thank you for your honesty and transparency.

[@PhileceaCerise]

this is so awesome! The way you all broke it down was so great. Thank you so much

[@LIZKINS85]

You guys have really motivated me to keep hope alive. I feel like I am on my way to giving up on love. You make me excited to meet whomever God has for me.

[@aminor_vessel]

Thank you guys so much for this series! You don’t know how much you’ve helped me, but may GOD bless you 100 times more than I have been blessed by the truths you’ve shared. Again, thank you.

[@sabrinaspence1644]

Thank you so much for being so open and sharing words of wisdom with us

[@alexmclean6539]

This was such a blessing Thankyou so real and direct and ultimately steered by the Truth of the Word👏🏾

[@chandamukupo5240]

I enjoyed this series. Thanks so much Anna and Gabes ❤️

[@daughterofYeshua]

Wow what a REVELATION!!! Mucho gracias. Stay blessed ❤

[@Nordiaaa]

Thank you both for your transparency, you've been SUCH a blessing to me and many others!

[@Tina2tu]

This series was so helpful!! Thank you for the blessing 🙏🏾❤

[@mariktavon]

This was extremely helpful! Thanks for being transparent!

[@soniadaniel6295]

the way you explain this is exactly the way my pastors did when we have conferences

[@binacawahaca9406]

There is so much wisdom in what you are saying

[@jenibo]

I knew y'all would keep it real and be tasteful 👏 👏Enjoy watching your vids

[@rolaine733]

Indeed I loved this, much respect. 🙏

[@dilaz3081]

Good on you both! Your attitudes not only showed friendship, discipline and respect for each other but also, love and trust for each other. As for women, we can stay till Adam but ??men! I for own admire this guy - to wait this long??? He is a nice guy so, lady - hold him tight!!! God bless you all!

[@AfricanCocoa12]

This is so powerful. Thanks for your transparency. I really enjoy watching your videos!

[@danaedmund6496]

Well said guys. Bravo!! Well spoken and wise. Thanks!

[@iam.mariejen]

I was afraid to watch this episode of the series no lie. I'm glad i watched. I am single but for 2 years of my single life that nervous feeling Anna described after the reception is what I've had and even avoided thinking about, but recently I have talked to God about it and I spoke to my sister in Christ about it and she sent me some bible verses but I wasn't reading them properly so I still was praying and being disappointed when praying to God. Well yesterday I actually spoke to my sister in Christ instead of texting and I brought up dancing with our husband etc and she explained the Bible verses with me and we looked over them again I felt so secure. She shared with me Hebrews 13:4 (for those who need bible)

[@chichipeachie2171]

very great video guys,love the content xx

[@pixelsofpassion]

thank you guys for this!!!really inspiring!

[@itssharmmaine]

The amount of times Gabes said "sex is a beautiful thing" LOOL.. Loved this series guys xx

[@daphneypierre1046]

i love the transparency you guys laid it out .

[@DerrimilkPE]

Your transparency and honesty is soo refreshing and beautiful to behold. I love this video. God bless you and your union :)

[@mosaletswalo7764]

When Gabs said God looks down...... 😅 WOW !!

[@bdow3955]

#FINALLY PT3 #YAAAAAY!!

[@JudithSerwaa19]

hey Gabes and Anna... I must say I love you guys...just subscribed to the channel and I'm about finishing all the videos already uploaded. I love you guys from Ghana and may God continue to bless your union

[@jubilee9937]

Thank you, Anna & Gabes!

[@olayinkaa3680]

You guys are so right.. animals are even better than them. This video is so great lesson. God bless and keep you too together forever.

[@Mayrows]

You guys have did it again! Marvellous video x

[@amybethea6187]

very good conversation. insightful, tasteful, and wise. thanks for sharing.

[@emmaahiable9583]

Thank you for sharing! Definitely encouraged and inspired me😊

[@ElegantStyleAndVlogs]

Great video guys! Love how open you are ❤️

[@semire11]

Uhm....uhmm...hhhmmm....u just gave me a REVELATION Anna.."see sex as its an HONOUR for my husband to need me" Whhoooo!!...a whole new level. #Renewingmymind

[@semire11]

LOL !! Gabe that was CUTE...."God looking at them 2 while they're doing it & saying lovely, mushy things"

[@journeywithjesus]

Wow!! So nice of you Gabes to say that when we are open with our husbands we are naked and then in sex it is intimate and powerful union.. God created sex for marriage and for us to enjoy one another..

[@giftydoh3507]

God bless your union😘😘😘😘😘

[@lajoycemorales1482]

1 Corinthians 7:5 speaks on what God say about that topic for husband and wife. It's so true you have to have a strong spiritual, physical, emotional and mental connection. This is why God say "Don't be unequally yoked with a man or woman". I love when I see couples married 50 years. It's so beautiful to me. It's a sign 2 hearts can love each other/beat for each other forever.

[@thevisualboard]

Gabes is actually so funny lol. Good video guys

[@semire11]

Gosh.....I wish I can " LIKE " this video 100 timessss

[@Tronytron]

Beautiful three part story. I love u guys. God bless

[@lamifujah4061]

Loved the honesty of this video

[@ludysaintil925]

great video

[@Shespeakshistruth23]

I really loved this. Thank you for opening my eyes even more about Sex in marriage. God showed me safe is only safe inside of a God ordained marriage. He even opened my eyes on certain things/ views about sex that has been promoted by the enemy. Such as masturbation, porn, oral sex, and anal sex. I used to think that was sex and normal until God revealed to me that was not apart of his plan for sex. Thank you so much for this series. I pray God will continue to use you both mightily. God bless you both. Big Hugs

[@GabesandAnna]

Amen! Thank you we receive those blessings! Sex in a marriage is definitely the safest and best (i.e. most intimate) environment to have sex. In regards to oral sex, why do you think its bad? Whats your reference point?

[@romone93]

Anointed Beauty Hey I've just come across this comment the bible doesn't actually strategy what is allowed or not allowed within a marriage as long as there is no other parties/people involved or pornography then there is no harm, porn of course is not good because of lustful thoughts etc... in regards to masturbation it doesn't necessarily talk about it but the bible does talk about refraining from the appearance of evil and what I take from that is that it could lead to lustful thoughts and what not, it also says many things are lawful but not profitable, hope this helps God bless

[@mommyofdaza4877]

@Anointed Beauty wow Wow am glad God as open your Eyes About those things as he also did with me alot of christian Dont know that May God Bless You Girl

[@Jamaican_queen25]

Romone pornography and masterbation is a sin. Trust me!!

[@etdailytea]

You two are beautiful. Thank you am inspired

[@catriniasmith8009]

I must say that you and Your beautiful wife have so much wisdom and understanding beyond your years. sometime you both remind me of Abraham and Sarah. in that you are birthing a nation to get back to what a courtship is and marriage itself. love you guys and praying God keeps using you.

[@christinetimothy5805]

I love you Annabelle and your husband. Christine from Tanzania.I love you so much.

[@emmanuelaleone1933]

ahhhh be blessed guys, totally true!!!!!

[@laurene7273]

Can u uploaded your traditional marriage video

[@laurene7273]

Upload*

[@GabesandAnna]

The cover photo is from our main wedding and not the traditional. We're not even too sure if our traditional was recorded, lol.

[@manLoLothegoddesslover]

Let me give it to him This right here hits my soul

[@giftydoh3507]

I want a man like Gabes in future,

[@siVertueux]

You both are awesome!

[@damitolaoluwa]

You guys are awesome!!!!

[@andyGrace2023]

you guys are amazing. thanks

[@gc9246]

love this video!

[@carrenapolonio1124]

Great topic

[@michellebutler9492]

His whole facial expression changed immediately when she mentioned sex with ex.

[@marilynasiamah1614]

Hehe

[@rosemaryshafack5310]

I love you guys!

[@purposetoprayer5617]

wow a young single Christian lady I have learnt so much through watching this video but you guys should give us bible scriptures to read 😇 but great video

[@iam.mariejen]

Style& COTV you should pray and ask God to show you. I am single but for 2 years of my single life that nervous feeling Anna described after the reception is what I've had and even avoided but recently I have talked to God about it and I spoke to my sister in Christ about it and she sent me some bible verses but I wasn't reading them properly so I still was praying and being disappointed when praying to God. Well yesterday I actually spoke to my sister in Christ instead of texting and I brought up dancing with our husband etc and she explained the Bible verses with me and we looked over them again I felt so secure. She shared with me Hebrews 13:4

[@chosebyGod1]

you guys are so cute together

[@ritah_ndlovu]

Love you guys:)

[@laurene7273]

First to comment yayyy

[@rolaine733]

Lau Rene And I'm bout to be the last, why am I just getting notification so late. Smh oh well u got it. U first lol 🚩

[@faizanganso8199]

guys I love youuu. God bless you

[@mobrown7594]

Ay3 Gabe’s preach it

[@kibeume9422]

Where are you guys????

[@sehlapimoyo5015]

l thought you are talking about abstaining completely (pure virginity) sealed bigtime.

[@sehlapimoyo5015]

Once its open you're an adult darling even if you stay 10years after opening you're already an adult.

[@coolgirl3200]

I love you guys so much Xxx

[@godgirlsharon]

Nof gang 🤗🤗

[@kingk6400]

It's key😂😂

[@thecreativexpro]

What are your thought on the use of condoms in marriage?

[@ladee169]

Javier B. Edwards but why use condoms in marriage tho? 🤔

[@seguntebrise]

La Dee because you don't want to have children

[@mende72]

Condoms are forms of contraceptives, preventing pregnancies (and STDs as of late). In christian teachings, God is against anything that distorts His original plan for us that to reproduce and fill the earth( this includes ejaculating outside). One just have to be wise (and respective partners as well).

[@Nadaadizer9099]

Good questions

[@leticiadonnan9086]

@@mende72 God is not against wisdom to produce.i was praying with a sister after I gave birth to my son .nd the message was to be careful if not my son will pull his brother.nd the sister was telling me the Lord is is letting her my body is very hot lol meaning I can conceive fast. Nd is very true about me...

[@lifeofsharif]

you guys are actually great. Binge watched you vlogs and subbed. Gabes feel free to swing by my channel when you get a chance, perhaps we help each other out with vlogging, editing etc

[@graceudoh5268]

thanks