Our Friend's Biggest Red Flags | Trash Taste

[@monobobotonto]

"I love casual games, because its a competition with myself" Yet another Connor classic

[@DekuMav]

Nah that's me as well

[@strawberryeyes3496]

On a serious note, if you have a friend with personal hygiene issues and/or living in a mess it could be a sign of depression. Check on them.

[@HopeIsADrug11037]

Yeah that's what I'm dealing with 😭😭 If I'm gonna be in public I'll shower and brush my teeth (usually brush everyday but sometimes i can only make myself shower every other day) but otherwise I can't bring myself to do anything at all. It's really stressful feeling disgusting because you literally cant make yourself take care of yourself

[@toby-kj4vv]

@@HopeIsADrug11037 you're doing great trying the way you are! I hope it gets easier for you

[@HopeIsADrug11037]

@@toby-kj4vv thank you :'D

[@popqueen9999]

Could also be disability! Please just don't judge unless you KNOW your friends inside and out

[@hellgod6141]

@@HopeIsADrug11037 Imma come wash you lil bro

[@ShinyaKougami]

18:28 I love how Garnt is talking, yet the camera is with Connor while he's yawning, completely needed lmao

[@erhanjpg1467]

Cutting to Joey sniffing energy

[@kaeju8]

I was just about to timestamp this moment lmao

[@ronmanvici8371]

This one needs to on trash taste award

[@Subird]

Thanks, Mudan

[@MrGazzles]

I mean, thats how everyone feels everytime Garnt starts talking. Dude puts the trash into trash taste

[@putsticker]

Agreeing with Conner about the shower thing. Going out to meet people in public? Pristine clean and make up. Staying at home on the computer all day? It's fine to not shower and not shave. I can still wash my face, brush my teeth etc.

[@humzahquadri]

joey peeking at garnt's board every round is killing me😭

[@kawaiikinomoto728]

noticed this too haha

[@chidoristaz6068]

bro i thought i was the only one seeing this and no one in the comments said anything about this except you. actual G

[@humzahquadri]

@@chidoristaz6068 dude i thought I was seeing things myself lmao, appreciate it🙌

[@LuisGuzman007]

IKR? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@NobitoKiritsuga]

bruh 💀 just have an opinion

[@LIT3NFLICK4]

About the shower argument, I agree with Connor and we are so often told to save water and by showering every day? Not so much water saving in my eyes lol. I understand that some people wants to shower everyday and thats fine, but there is no need for it. So just because you shower everyday doesn't mean you can call people stinky or nasty because they are not showering everyday.

[@iamincline]

Thank you for wording this perfectly

[@HelloyouTheSmiley]

THIS THIS THIS

[@Communistdaughter]

oh yeah fr

[@Alisa64740]

Yes and showering everyday doesn't mean you're clean, without scrubbing or deep cleaning at least once or twice a week...

[@abelpf]

That depends of the culture of the region you live as well. Here in Brazil people would find it really weird if someone does not shower at least two times a day. It's a social norm here to shower 3 times a day and brush the teeth after every meal

[@thatsallitismilesaleapoffaith]

joey's definition of the helpful neighbor thing was actually just him describing how one-night stands work

[@StevenGames]

Rarely agree with Conner, but he wins the shower argument. Don't need to shower everyday!

[@dead_pool7518]

The issue with the shower argument is that it’s so subjective to the climate, activities and what you actually do when you shower or don’t shower. Rinse off with just water or all cleaning products, no shower but with deodorant, personal sweat levels? Either shower once a day or once every few days it doesn’t hurt anyone just circumstantial and up to personal preference ultimately

[@Nescio_Gravissime]

Yea, there's also the aspect of the individuals skin as well, some people are more oily and/or sweaty than others naturally, and there's some that aren't. There's also people with varying types and degrees of severity of eczema and dry skin as well and showering every day can make dry skin and eczema so so much worse in which case every 2-3 days can be the ideal as long as the rest of their hygiene is also good

[@bakicci]

the issue is bad hygine, not routine frequency. if you stink do something about it

[@apakz]

I think i just take issue with them treating him like he’s never taken a fuckin shower before in his life. like boys, chill…

[@keifer7813]

@@bakicci Why? It's okay to stink when no one's around

[@ryana5435]

@@apakz those two are uneducated and don’t understand what is dry skin and cannot empathy with people who have dry skin

[@davidlopez2363]

Connor: cold start this, cold start that... Mudan'll cut it, we're not putting this in... Mudan: . . . .

[@kactus1889]

"To care about stuff is to be alive." Connor dropping some big brother wisdom

[@zombies_junkyard]

The neighbour question speaks to where they grew up. Connor grew up a bit more in a rural area where people knew each other so he's not as suspicious about it

[@zezanje1]

ur completely right. if anythinf i feel like that in slavic countries people think that something is wrong with you if you aren't really chatty and friendly.

[@thestablepirate]

Yes, I like that attitude more. Because Joey declining muffins is not ittttt

[@uuu12343]

Anf joey grew up Japanese/Australian, literally the 2 toughest to grow up in

[@zombies_junkyard]

@@thestablepirate like previous commenter said, dude may be australian, but he's also Japanese-German (and Hungarian) they do not like talking to neighbours unless they knew each other for years in a rural area

[@SnailHatan]

Bruh Joey grew up right next to a damn rainforest

[@liangabrielantipalavillegas]

connor's argument about having to think about whether to go on another hangout with a new friend validated me on so many levels. Like yeah i like hanging out with people but at the same time, i don't want to just go and hangout with someone i just met like 2 min ago. it doesn't feel right to me. could just be my introvert side and my lack of trust in other people so idk.

[@XaviXDJoR]

Im with connor on not showering every day. If you are in your house, no sweating, you clean yourself really good (bidet or similar) you dont smell unless you have some precondition. Me personally showering every day fucks up my skin and it gets really dry and have to use face products to keep it from breaking.

[@mentosvagabond]

Really depend on climate and temperature, if you live in hot clitmate like sea and not showing everyday, you stinky.

[@ripplecutter233]

Same... I used to live in a hyper polluted area so showering every day made sense. I live in a better area now so I don't need it.

[@jjtomecek1623]

I'm the opposite. If I don't shower, or more specifically wash my hair, every day, my hair will get SUPER oily.And then i just have a hard time falling asleep if I don't shower too

[@hotsauce0097]

I found the whole neighbour segment very interesting. I’ve lived in the same place for many years and have been neighbours with some people for majority of the time. We help each other out and give each other food. Not all the time but often enough. Community is built on trust.

[@alphakowaclips]

That convo comes from KZbinrs who keep moving places 😅 so they don't have the time to build trust

[@hotsauce0097]

@@alphakowaclips ur right but if I were to move right now, I wouldn’t have the same lvl of trust in my new neighbours but I wouldn’t feel off about them giving me a muffin lol.

[@balabanasireti]

​@@hotsauce0097 Yeah, that part with the muffin made cringe because it sounded so priviliged

[@keifer7813]

My family and I lived in a block of flats for 15 years and never knew the names of any of my neighbours. In fact, I only ever talked to one lady upstairs whose son went to the same school as me. I'm from London for context

[@ryana5435]

That’s cultural difference

[@jordith01]

In winter, I blow out both my neighbor's driveways because I'm the only one with a snowblower. I don't do it for any other reason than because shoveling sucks and it only takes me 10 minutes, and im already out there anyway. What I get out of it is my neighbors both know I'm not someone they have to be afraid of, even if I'm not really interested in being friends.

[@NexSicarius]

I watched this on 256x, certified banger episode

[@alexanderginger754]

256, what a nice round number

[@lifesahellofaride]

despite giving room for a lot of arguing this was very wholesome today. and somewhat insightful

[@outerwildsmybeloved4127]

@@alexanderginger754also a power of 2!

[@chikenman334]

showering every day if you dont leave the house is just stupid connor definitely right

[@skywarior01]

"A friend often makes fun of you" I would definitely say its green if its done in moderation. We talk about games, anime, politics, etc and often times joke about it. This also usually means they could disagree with me and we'll laugh over it. But when we're talking about a serious topic, we don't put each other down.

[@cheyennemoore8380]

This

[@keifer7813]

Serious topic like what?

[@wombat4583]

@@keifer7813 Anything not lighthearted - ie. things people want to talk about seriously. It's one thing to joke about serious topics as commentary or an outsider and another thing if they are coming to you to discuss something serious and give you zero inclination it's okay to joke about.

[@keifer7813]

@@wombat4583 Serious topic like what? Give an example lol

[@wombat4583]

@@keifer7813 illnesses/conditions, war, threats/dangers, relationship problems, abuse/harassment, anything that causes high distress/turmoil. You can make a pretty big list and there are both general serious things and personal serious things (which has a wider scope).

[@JAAMTheArtist]

2:01:58 *OMG THAT'S ME!* 🗣🔥Thank you so much for including my ridiculous fanart at the end. 😭 I don't know why Reddit makes it blurry in the screenshot; I promise, when you expand/zoom the image it looks way better. I've been a fan of this podcast since pretty much the beginning (since the 1st Figure Special), I cannot express how much this podcast has helped me through some hard times, *THANK YOU Connor, Joey and Garnt!* And also, Thanks to Mudan's editing team, whoever put my drawing there, I love you.

[@DynamicSystem]

Already on the first question, context is key. I agreed with Joey since my first thought was something work related but more interpersonal like complaints that the person is late all the time etc

[@Mrbody-tq9uc]

Typically when it says serious topic its meaning something like religion or politics like actual serious kind of loaded heavy topics not something like a work topic

[@PanRobak.]

@@Mrbody-tq9uc probably because it doesn't usually refer to work. It's not like you don't have serious work-related topics.

[@syu_min]

Yeah, I though that too.

[@akantorman1]

Garnt and Joey shaming Connor for 10 minutes for not showering when staying at home all day and not seeing anyone irritates me. They don't use logic or listen to his arguments but just speak out of conditioned principle lol.

[@khubz9190]

THANK YOU, i completely agree

[@animetwilight75]

it was irritating me too! i genuinely think they’re lying and just being elitist. showering every single day your whole life is bad for your skin and connor is right it’s OKAY to shower 6 times a week or not at all when ur lounging at home all day. that is a very normal thing to do and it annoyed me that they couldn’t admit it knowing damn well they do that themselves. sometimes they try too hard to appear perfect and we can see right through it 😭

[@HelloyouTheSmiley]

same 😮‍💨i wanted to sit in the seat next to him and help defend his point

[@heyumnew1401]

1:21:13 i thought it was very weird when Garnt said this bc here in Brazil there are zero occasions that somebody calls you by the last name, its always mr/mrs firstname during formal situations, most times not even mr/mrs is added

[@heyumnew1401]

@ofantasticozilus3584 really depends on the school and the relashionship between student/teacher, at my school first name was more common

[@victorhilmerssoN]

same here in Sweden. We dont call anyone by the last name and neither do we use mr/mrs, at least from my experience.

[@SheWhoWalksSilently]

I would like to inform people that when I tell a similar story that happened to me in response to a friend telling a story, it’s so I can communicate that I understood the story and understand their struggle. I find that way of communication comforting when it happens the other way, so I’m trying to give people comfort. It’s also definitely a feature of neurodivergent communication, as it is apparently common with ADHD folk, such as myself.

[@starfuryduck3446]

I have a friend that does that. I appreciate her gesture for doing that, but it grinds my gears to my core. Don't get me wrong, she's an amazingly talented person. But for me it doesn't help that people tell me that they have had a "similar experience" because often times one: it's not even the same and two: I cannot relate to that specific situation which was presented to me and it kind of makes me feel like my situation was being mocked for it not being a big deal, when I was basically trying to share something very deep. I never told her, but this is definitely a pet peeve of mine.

[@furuyawn]

when i got to that section i was like "oh wait shit do people find that annoying??" because that's exactly the reason i do it, too 🥲

[@lynda.grace.14]

It has been my repeated experience that the people who don't find it comforting or don't appreciate that you have shared a similar struggle are often narcissists who really hate that they are not the star of their own woes and complaints which are their raison d'etre. You're stealing their glory-time. But, as I read the thread below (@starfuryduck3446) I can understand how it would be annoying if the same person seemed to be demeaning their experience by sharing something they found unrelated to their original story. Ultimately, people experience the world and the responses they receive from others differently. Unless they communicate that--especially in a situation like a marriage--to each other, the relationship will likely fail.

[@zaca8845]

THANK YOU i almost wanted to scream at the screen ASD here and I always try to empathise by sharing anecdotal scenarios that are similar It also ties into the vulnerability question a few segments later. My close person is sharing something hard, I’m letting them know that they’re not alone, and I’m also opening up about something that was difficult for me I’m not making it about myself, I’m letting them know that they’re seen and understood, and grow closer because of it

[@lynda.grace.14]

@@zaca8845 E.X.A.C.T.L.Y. But it seems they want to own their woe without having to acknowledge yours or realize that their experience is common to many others. It seems--I always acknowledge that I could be wrong and welcome another clarifying point of view--they'd rather rather not you rain on their pity parade, but wish to revel in their singularity of experience. Others who have shared their grief/woe/experience do not count and they do not wish to know about it.

[@smashed_penguin]

2:02 They put it in.

[@mgauci45]

I love it when friends ask for advice. I have a pretty varied background, so it helps me scrape the rust off of old skills. :)

[@WolfWest-e8u]

It's nice when someone asks you for advice because it means they value your opinion also!

[@ceevo0520]

1:19:16 “First of all, I think it’s evil to make kids wear their own clothes” LMAO

[@dogdjinn]

it's true i wore the worst shit ever

[@line4169]

unfortunately true

[@ishtarinanna4478]

My mom picked my clothes , does that count ?

[@nastjuschechka]

Kids will find a reason for bullying anyway, it's a fact, uniforms don't eradicate bullying that's bullshit, they do eradicate individuality and creativity -_-

[@dachosens1]

@@nastjuschechkaschool uniforms are indicative of school meant to prepare and force students into a routine 9-5, not actually learning

[@andybeard3213]

The emerging theme in episodes like this is that Joey is very clearly a social butterfly and is iust comfy anywhere, and Grant and Monke probably had to go wash their hands a bit too often for no apparent reason when they were younger 😂

[@cheyennemoore8380]

Yes, but Garnt is the true introvert. Connor is an ambivert

[@xilymuffin]

The teasing at you expense thing is very true, my friends have a joke we make about a dark topic from my life and its honestly one of my favourite jokes and like Connor and Joey said it exists because I made it first.

[@XxGamer]

3:27 I interpreted that question as Serious Work Relation Conversations like Promotions etc.

[@clausbrink9316]

in terms of showering and sleep etc. if you wash your hair when you shower, you're only supposed to do it every 2-3 days, as the natural oils of your hair gets washed out and leaves your scalp dry etc. if you wash your hair too much, its fine to shower without washing your hair. Also, you do sleep better after showering. Your natural body temperature rises while being under the hot water, and the drastic change in body temperature as it goes back down is a sign for your body to sleep, so you have an easier time sleeping after a shower. Fun fact: If you drink a glass of water before going to bed, you have an easier time waking up earlier in the morning.

[@Pekara121]

Yeah that's because you have to take a piss 😂

[@starfuryduck3446]

Now that was a load of pseudoscience if I've ever seen some. I agree on the first point though (because yes that's correct), but you're giving alarming information without giving context on why dry scalp is potentially bad, which in turn can lead to a lot of unnecessary fear mongering.

[@lifesahellofaride]

@@starfuryduck3446 washing your hair too often can dry your scalp out, but that is a pretty individual thing, hes not completely wrong on that. i for that matter have a dry scalp and the only thing that helps are specific shampoos. and hes right on the sleeping part, your body does drop the core temperature when you go to sleep and showering helps on that. no pseudosience here bud. use the new found knowledge to your advantage.

[@balabanasireti]

​@@starfuryduck3446 Source: Trust me, bro

[@chazzergamer]

I genuinely believe that you don't need to wash your hair everyday and that is a bad habit of mine (I shampoo and condition every day) but if I don't do it my hair gets SUPER greasy and gross. Seriously if I leave my hair without washing it for more than one day it gets this super shiny, greasy look that just looks like I don't shower.

[@roxstar5088]

You are polite to strangers, with friends you have inside jokes and history. And you know where the friend is coming from and not do it out of disrespect.

[@JasSchMin]

lol 😂love how Joey is always stealing side glances at Garnt's answers...so funny!

[@ERFMXVCC]

"If I was your friend Garnt" CONFIRMED TRASH TASTE BOYS AREN'T FRIENDS ANYMORE DRAMA ALERT "The Trash Taste situation is crazy"

[@ryana5435]

Timestamp?

[@vanaboudiab2700]

@@ryana543544:01

[@syu_min]

We knew, they are just coworkers.

[@martianpudding9522]

I think sometimes it can be upsetting to talk to someone who is overly positive because it can feel like they're not taking your problems seriously

[@ToriKlepto]

Yes!!

[@Weebfox]

This opening bit was golden I feel like the barrier between a friend and an acquaintance is when you can make fun of each other and in my experience that is when I always start feeling we are great friends

[@MaZe_LaZeRGD]

4:11 Joey's look after realizing he and connor will be friends for life

[@alix7657]

I agree with Conner you don’t need to shower everyday nor should society mandate and shame those who don’t shower every single day. Showering every day does increase your chances of drying up your skin and so if you have a condition like eczema (which I have) it can cause breakouts. Even if you don’t have skin conditions I have yet to meet a single doctor that recommends everyday showers as the default if as Connor said you didn’t do anything to necessitate it. So I shower 4 times a week and if I happen to do something that made me dirty or smelly or sweaty then I will shower additional times but I don’t support making everyday showers the default.

[@Malphas_]

it entirely depends on where you live, if you live in a country that has good weather then yes maybe you don't need to

[@lynda.grace.14]

Plus you can target stinky bits with spot washing letting the skin in other areas or your hair (depending on what kind of hair you have) which don't need washing avoid drying out excessively. It also depends on the level of your activity. Some days you don't work up a sweat--say if you are writing all day.

[@flutterg1035]

Unless you're a healthcare worker or a person who deals with contaminates. As someone who works with the elderly, normally i wouldn't shower every day. But I kinda have to for work and safety reasons. 🤷

[@lynda.grace.14]

@@flutterg1035 Makes perfect sense.

[@Hezsta]

I was looking for this comment, someone had to say it already by now lol. Garnt sounds like he needs one everyday, he seems like the guy who sweats in every situation nervious or not XD

[@oomay1925]

I agree with Connor that you do not automatically turn into some filthy pig if you don't shower for a day. I feel like people who shower every day act more annoying about it than people who don't when the conversation is brought up, even though they would never actually be able to tell if someone didn't shower for one day when its presented in front of them lol (no hate ofc)

[@BigGomer]

It can fuck up your hair if you wash it every day since you are stripping the oils from it that protect it if you use something to put them back in it should be fine though

[@RuistD]

Its problematic to your skin to be under hot water everyday and the same to your hair, its also completly not needed unless you are leaving your house to do something that makes you sweat.

[@shadmanbashar6067]

@rickmel09 even then it's not good to wash your hair everyday. Using shampoo and conditioner everyday destroys your hair.

[@RuistD]

@rickmel09 dude, it take 5 mins to do some research, I said hot water not scalding, our skin doesn't deal well with hot water we just find it confortable.

[@donney3389]

3 times a week and do laundry every week. And always where deodorant.

[@SociaICancer]

This episode feels like it happened before idk why.

[@z0bi_]

they did it before with significant others, now they're doing it with all acquaintances.

[@cyoc]

the deja vu we all are feeling is creepy

[@SociaICancer]

@@cyoc yup same that's what i feel when i saw this episode rn

[@SociaICancer]

@@z0bi_ oh yeah but i feel a deja vu with the notification and stuff haha maybe it's just me

[@MNTNHMESMO]

I think they used that exact same image from evangelion on a thumbnail before. And the red flag green flag thing too.

[@starfuryduck3446]

The friend often making fun of me one is like a beige imo. I've had a lot of situations or specific friends who were just constantly not taking my opinion seriously and ridiculing me as if I'm an idiot and I've come to really dislike this kind of behaviour to the point where I don't even want to engage into the conversation and immediately change the subject if it happens. Maybe it's just a me thing, but if it happens too often then I don't consider them my friends and just people I know.

[@kairos_fluent]

I reckon if you have a friend who *only* makes fun of you but never shows affection or support then they're not really a friend but just a disrespectful jerk who probably doesn't like you very much.

[@starfuryduck3446]

@@kairos_fluent I mean where I live it's like very customary behaviour to make fun of your friends, I like to do it and when it happens to me fine. But there are definitely friends I've had in the past that went way overboard. Obviously they aren't my friends anymore.

[@kairos_fluent]

@@starfuryduck3446 I think nowadays a close friend who you regularly see is kind of a luxury, social isolation is becoming more normalized. People who have good relations with their sibling/s are lucky to have something to fall back on.

[@hashbrownsdraws]

18:24 Classic Mudan & Co. editing 😂😂😂

[@greywoolf-user]

man, i love joey constantly glancing over garnt's board, even tho he may have a different opinion.

[@adamhercik581]

Garnt and Joey and overplaying how much you have to shower. Connor is right. Sweating is also pretty individual. Skipping the shower one day in the week if you don't feel like you need it is completely fine.

[@Sornemus]

It's all about the washing stuff you use - just rinsing yourself with water after e.g. a run is totally fine, and you can do it as many times as you want. In summer it is literally the only way of surviving if you do some something physical. But yeah, washing with cleaning products should be limited - because they are the ones dangerously exposing and drying out the skin.

[@idontknow2yatube]

go take a shower

[@PanMat2000]

They are obviously to biased by living in Asia

[@ryana5435]

those two are uneducated and don’t understand what is dry skin and cannot empathy with people who have dry skin

[@grey_f98]

it's so crazy to me that they act like skipping one day would transform someone into a homeless man, when in reality they couldn't even tell if Connor showered that day or not

[@Topgunnder]

Garnts Sea heritage is the reason he has the mindset to shower every day

[@ryana5435]

those two are uneducated and don’t understand what is dry skin and cannot empathy with people who have dry skin

[@jonbaxter2254]

Is he from the sea lol, what is sea heritage.

[@Kar-th7ln]

@@jonbaxter2254 South East Asia

[@jonbaxter2254]

@@Kar-th7ln ooh, I thought you meant he was from a line of pirates or something haha

[@newbie4789]

1:36:36 The difference here is if they show the awareness that they're that person or not. The issue is when they just ignore the fact that they're not capable of paying back quickly and avoid the conversation. But if someone is open to admitting that "sorry, I am in a bit of a pickle right now, can't pay until I get the _some source of money_ " then it's completely fine. Mates also should be able to understand the different financial situations between each other

[@jejee413]

A friend keeps peeking at your board in every round of Red Flag Green Flag to copy your answers because they're afraid their answer might be different from the others. To avoid seeming like a red flag, they match their answer with yours so it aligns with the group. Red Flag or Green Flag?

[@HafidzMurshidie]

Answer : Inconclusive... How should I answer this without peeking at my friend's board first..?

[@Proutbedaine]

I call "attachment issues" flag. 👀

[@Gwen1661]

I leave one day in between showers because I don't do much on my day-to-day life, unless it's the Summer season. I agree with Connor

[@radekciosk7428]

I hate when everything has to be competitive. Im really bad at most sports. One time we played volleyball and everyone thought its a great idea to play with bear as a price. I said i don't want to play that way, and asked if i could just not be in that competition and play normally. My score at the end of the weekend was -12 or -16. Literally only 1 other person had less than -3. And everybody noticed that. After that it was just awkward. We would have more fun if we just played normally. After all nobody even mentioned the scoreboard and rewards because how depressing it looked

[@erikolusschwerikolus290]

I knew someone who always made everything competetive. Like we were all playing Minecraft and he startet asking stuff like "he build a bigger and better looking house than you. Aren't mad that you lost?" and stuff like that where he did not seem to comprehend that that was no competition and both of us did not care

[@gabip5977]

1:25:39 this HAS to go on a Joey and Garnt single brain cell compilation 😂

[@Jackie_Tikki_Tavi]

"connetcing bluetooth"

[@naufalnoorizan1763]

Soo true

[@Subird]

100%

[@balabanasireti]

Don't care

[@honkabazonka]

​@@balabanasireti you seem pressed going about every reply section and being pessimistic, grow up

[@keifer7813]

I used to shower everyday when I lived with others. Now that I live alone, I shower 3-5 times a week. I work from home and don't really go out other than running errands. And nobody ever comes over so no point

[@zerenVA9115]

53:13 garnt having a vietnam flash back

[@popedizzled_mywizzle]

😂😂😂

[@truth-seeker2]

1. Green - I don't need to know the life story of my co-workers just keep it to work related. 2. Beige - A friendly neighbor is great and super helpful and with good relationship you might develop team bonds when comes to mowing lawns, gardening or bins out on time and checking out if the other person is okay all without ever getting too personal or even stepping inside the house. Red Flag: Is from being too annoying or having a ulterior motivate for it. 3. Green - Friendly Banter is fine and hopefully they can receive it just as they give it. 4. Green - Somebody needs to take charge of the group but hopefully it rotates in time but if your submissive or care free you probably don't mind following anyway. 5. Red - Once your shift ends go home and have a rest and don't spend hours for unpaid work. 6. Beige - It's good if the friend cares enough to offer advice and hopefully it benefits you and makes your life better. Red is when it becomes a constant lecture and annoying. 7. Green - Open and honest is great and hopefully you made friends that respect and understand that information and will never treat it as gossip or something minor. 8. Green - Once again same as 3 - If you give it you have to expect it back. 9. Green - Lets be honest we hate getting our routine broken both in Life + Work but humans would be stuck in spiral of lacking invitation or evolve if we didn't have these Hit or Miss types of people that shake up the industry they often are either the Genius or the Failure but least they tried to change the system. 10. Green - It might be annoying having somebody act positive when your angry or upset in the moment but usually when you look back - The positive person was correct but its hard to see it from the dark hole you was in at time. 11. Green - This one bit complicated but hopefully you communicated the (Your Interests) so you can share activities so it evens out or better yet find a Mixed one that adds both. 12. Beige - Time and Place for competitive 13. Green - I don't care if these Brands want to post Memes and appeal to a younger generations 14 Green - School uniforms are for identification which still has purpose both for Missing People and Assisting the law against wayward youths easy to ID the culprit 15. Green - Fine with tone shifts. 16. Green - Fine long as i'm payed back eventually. 17. Green - If new friend want to hang out early that's great its better to learn about them sooner and truly work out the friendship with them are they possible Best? Good? or just Friend. 18. Red - Brush your teeth, shower, antiperspirant, clean clothes - Everyday when in public - However Connor is right if you spend all day indoors you can probably shower every 2nd day the roll on antiperspirant usually last 24 - 48 hours before you notice strong BO depending on how much you exercised.

[@Bobba_Ross]

Connor is right about the bodily hygiene. I’ve never showered every day of a week ever, and never have I ever been called stinky or thought of myself as stinky. Only times I’m stinky is if I also excercise or missed a day. People thinking you NEED to shower every day are the real stinky people. Also why would our bodies be made and adjusted to showering every day if you take the past and evolution into consideration? Makes no sense 😂

[@extralook1826]

yeah kinda privileged/ stupid take to shower everyday

[@verchiel_8295]

maybe because cavemen usually did not mind the stank

[@Dev_712]

Depends on the body type and the climate you're in. Try living in South East Asia during the hot and humid summer without showering at least once daily lol

[@enzostanful]

1:18:00 goated Joey moment. The most strict schools nurture the most outlandish behaviour. You can teach people respect without restriction. Don’t confuse abiding by rules as respect.

[@TSouL22]

1:19:18 Ideally, school uniform would prevent bullying like Connor says, but in reality, most uniforms are overpriced and certain families cannot financially afford it, which leads to even more kids being more of an outcast.

[@SundaraRamanR]

Which country are we talking about here? In my country, the uniforms are usually cheaper than equivalent non-uniform versions of the same clothing. The only exception I've heard of is where some expensive private schools have exclusivity deals with clothing manufacturers and require the students to buy from them. But that's pretty rare and kind of in the nature of those schools with many other things (eg. stationery) too.

[@cypher_2259]

​@@SundaraRamanRUK

[@nastjuschechka]

Also the kids find other reasons for bullying, it's not the solution, it just eradicates individuality

[@wombat4583]

@@SundaraRamanR It's not about comparing uniforms to clothing of similar style but clothing period. Hand me downs, thrifting, cheapest clothes or discounted clothes will almost always be cheaper. Also accessories and any kind of casual talk can usually give away differences anyway. Even more so when spending most days with the same group of people. This has been endlessly researched that it's not the benefit people constantly try to argue it is.

[@ryana5435]

@@cypher_2259 uk problem lol

[@sugarsenpai8432]

I don't know about others but I rarely had good relationship with my neighbors. whenever I do something good to them it immediately turns into "how can I use this person to my benefit". I got tired from people taking advantage of my family so I just don't interact with neighbors, because if I will I know it'll backfire immediately

[@JsonCh.]

22:44 i saw that boombastic side eye from joey lmfao

[@charlespaquin9474]

Agree with Connor, don't have to shower each day. It wastes a bunch of water and unless you stink or are dirty, showering every day is not necessary.

[@thesparky502]

I'm with Connor, YOU DON'T HAVE TO SHOWER EVERYDAY, if your inside all day not doing anything physically active there is no reason why you'd have to shower everyday

[@iiiiiiiiiiiiililiiiiio]

true. especially if you are a girl. gotta keep that primal smell encapsulated

[@starfuryduck3446]

Might wanna edit that to "physically". I'm just imagining you trying to lift a boulder with your mind now.

[@karimhussein3610]

Found Professor Xavier's burner account 😅

[@IceWotor]

depends how humid it is

[@Danboo21531]

try living close to the equator mate

[@cloudycloudi631]

"a friend can't stop offering advice." me and my friend groups kind of have a way to get around this problem. If someone is about to vent about their problems, they'll make it clear beforehand, or someone will ask, do you want a solution, or you just want us to be here.

[@basicwirdo736]

1:21:37 As someone from schools were we used the teachers first names, I still very much respected the teachers. I never thought of any of them as anything else than a teacher, I still felt like they lived at the school when we went home😂 I didn’t really even think about their personal lives (when they shared), so the line between student and teacher was still clear to me. Even now I think of them as authority figures for me.

[@serbobvegana8327]

Joey's sneaky peek 22:44 killed me 😂

[@aduboo29]

Only Joey and Gigguk could literally fact check that showering every day has no real benefits and can cause health problems and STILL keep shaming Connor for like 5 fucking minutes. 😂

[@TheLo5ra]

Nah...I'm with them. Shower everyday. Sometimes x2 for some people.

[@Sornemus]

It's all about the washing stuff you use - just rinsing yourself with water after e.g. a run is totally fine, and you can do it as many times as you want. In summer it is literally the only way of surviving if you do some something physical. But yeah, washing with cleaning products should be limited - because they are the ones dangerously exposing and drying out the skin.

[@NobleLaika]

Science is wrong man I swear

[@rossjamestobitt]

It's climate and genetics dependant for sure.

[@bonogiamboni4830]

​@@TheLo5raan acquaintance of mine literally got skin problems due to showering every day, his dermatologist had to give him special soaps and drill into him not to shower that much. Do you also pretend that your coworkers should carry a razor at work so they can shave during their lunch break to avoid the 5 o'clock shadow? It's not like not showering for a single day turns you into a swamp creature, it's very gradual and washing every couple of days if fine to stay above that threshold.

[@red2745]

I really can't agree with the opinion that 'you should be as open with your friend as they are with you', its a VERY varied statement; they may be incredibly personal about information and/or events in their life that have happened, but you shouldn't be expected to reciprocate that openess. I would definitely argue it not being green flag. I would feel uncomfortable if my friend expected me to open up just because they had opened up to me

[@leonschroder2970]

I'm with Connor on the showering. It’s ridiculous to shower every day if you feel fine and if you’re not being a burden to anyone

[@solacee4327]

Connor sounds like a gambling addict needing stakes to be invested LMAO

[@grey_f98]

they are so wrong about always being positive, imagine someone was sharing how they got sexually assaulted at a bar, and then that friend comes in like "but hey, at least on the bright side..." sometimes the vibe is to be sad or angry together

[@HeadCannonPrime]

Yeah you have to match the energy. It's psychology 101.

[@ToriKlepto]

Agreed!

[@laserbeam_]

I learned the term "toxic positivity" a few years ago and have lived by it since. I hate when people say "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all", nah bruv, context is key and sometimes people need to hear it.

[@konvron]

I think they were arguing different levels. Obviously you don't want the scenario you laid out. But a person can still be positive, assuring you, nurturing you, making sure you're taken care of with words or with actions. I would say that's positive.

[@YightLagami]

It depends what you mean, but I prefer people who are positive in terms of trying not to be down when upset. If someone shares something sad, showing support for them and being positive for being with them is good. The way you used it shows as bad.

[@basilez]

I'm standing with my boy Connor on this one, you don't need to shower everyday. Was hard hearing him get bullied for that

[@Rajivrocks-Ltd.]

People acting high and mighty about needing to shower everyday are just idiots man. Not saying you shouldn't shower, but you really don't need to shower everyday

[@iiiiiiiiiiiiililiiiiio]

true. I love when other guy doesnt shower. more girls for me.

[@Rajivrocks-Ltd.]

@@iiiiiiiiiiiiililiiiiio what?

[@funnynamelol3156]

@@iiiiiiiiiiiiililiiiiioyou are not a real person

[@ryana5435]

those two are uneducated and don’t understand what is dry skin and cannot empathy with people who have dry skin

[@Owjdnskoakansbskk]

You do if you live in a hot and humid region with a lot of air pollution that makes you feel grimy at the end of the day.

[@fuzzipink]

As someone with multiple friends with depression, sometimes providing positivity and optimism isn’t the best approach as it brings shame for the person suffering with not being able to switch onto their friend’s mindset so easily.

[@noopyyyyyyy]

Connor is the type of whippersnapper to give the best advice, but I completely have a mental breakdown every Tuesday

[@Byron418]

Cozy episode. Appreciate the frankness. Happy Friday everybody!

[@motii617]

showering everyday is a luxury in countries that suffers from drought so yeah it isn't a social norm everywhere

[@ryana5435]

What are you expecting from privileged KZbinrs?

[@ryana5435]

those two are uneducated and don’t understand what is dry skin and cannot empathy with people who have dry skin

[@Gsjsjdhkslsls]

56:46 Life should be balanced, it becomes toxic when someone is too positive. Some people who are too positive can also be suffering, they just refuse to process and accept it. I was surrounded by positive people during my teens and they're so positive that they don't welcome any negative thing. I don't think I'd even be friends with them if I didn't fake all throughout. I was in a long depression, almost a decade and being with them made me miserable.😐

[@phgamer4393]

isnt it weird how your expected now a days to be a stranger to your neighbor. like back int he day people would go door to door when they moved in and talked to each other. now we got strangers next door

[@kairos_fluent]

People are selfish, with their time, nowadays.

[@NoDFX_]

Back in the day, you were probably living with your parents. Parents actively talk to their neighbours still today, cause the kids can play together there is an incentive. When you're living on your own, there is no incentive to get to know your neighbour.

[@keifer7813]

My neighbours only talk to me when they want me to hold their packages until they get back. I'm fine with not getting to know eachother (despite trying), but I just feel a little used tbh. Sometimes feel like telling them no, but then I'm worried that will make me a dikk lol

[@jke680]

Connor: I have a lot of wisdom to give Also Connor: I'd compete over everything, there is no such thing as chill moments

[@jasonjasso666]

27:13 Although 100% of my close relationships are like this, I still disagree with the specifics that you’re “supposed to” make fun of your friends, otherwise you won’t be close. I haven’t met someone like this personally, but if for example I had a friend that was a lot more sensitive because of trauma or something like that (obviously a lot of people with trauma can still take jokes, but there are those that almost can’t) then although I may not be able to interact with them how I usually do with other people, it doesn’t mean our bond is lesser. Obviously they would be my friend for a reason. What if their life experiences closely overlaps with my experiences? We could bond about that, I mean everyone has parts of themselves that not even their closest friends can relate to on such a level. Also, you could easily just get that fix of mocking for laughs with the rest of your friends, it’s not like one person who can’t take such jokes will hinder your ability to do that entirely. All in all people are different, just ‘cause most of us act a certain way doesn’t mean it’s necessary a better way at being, the exceptions allow that to not be the case. I’ll end this by clarifying I’m not trying to attack the boys on this matter, this is just my take on the argument presented by them. EDIT - 27:54 If the friend group doesn’t mind that dynamic then all power to them, but I know people who sometimes act like this and gotta say, not a huge fan. I personally live by you give what you can take, with the people you know of course. Again, it’s up to others to determine the healthiest dynamic for their own friendships, my personal rules of friendship be damned.

[@kairos_fluent]

My two cents is that friends can make of you *IF* they also show genuine affection and warm feelings to you as well. If you're friends with someone and they just banter/sarcastic then it's not a very satisfying friendship because they don't let you get close and it's insulting/disrespectful.

[@OnchiBon]

In my friend group it's totally normal to make fun of each other but we all have different levels of "scrutiny" we can take or like to dish out with different people. There are people in my close friend group that I consider some of my absolute favorite people and with some of them we do make fun of each other and with others we don't. Us only being affectionate and supportive and rarely ever being mean to another doesn't make the friendship less than. In fact the friendships I value the most personally are the ones where the teasing is held at a minimum and we can just be open about our affection for one another. I take the largest step back whenever I get introduced into a new circle and they immediately start making fun of me or things I say. It takes a degree of trust for me to accept teasing and my friends absolutely know what I'm okay with and what I'm not okay with. Similarly I take note of people's reaction when they are made fun of and I make an effort to even things out when I feel like the teasing is turning into bullying.

[@robustanybody5138]

Sounds miserable

[@tristinsmith1220]

Connor is absolutely right expectation 9 to 5 get the job done while your there. No staying over. My boss literally tried keeping me over today they're horrible

[@alexnik9332]

as a scandinavian, it is wild for me how supportive all of them are over school dress codes and calling teachers by their surnames, that concept is basically nonexistent in scandinavia nowadays

[@taxelsquest6824]

It creates unconscious unearned respect in authority which is not needed since most scandinavians have it so good they feel like they cant really go against authority anyway.

[@djisacu4320]

Yeah it's kinda crazy hearing it as a swede.

[@fr4933]

in countries with more socioeconomic inequality than Scandinavian countries (e.g. the UK) school uniform really helps eliminate some of the judgement/bullying that happens regarding people's clothing

[@keifer7813]

Keep it that way. I'm from the UK and its considered very inappropriate to call teachers by their first names, for some stupid reason. And the idea that it's to highlight authority makes no sense because then we'd call our work bosses by their surnames but we don't. It seems to just be a customary relic of the past. Luckily I went to a primary school where the teachers insisted we call them by their first names and it made no difference to their authority.

[@fr4933]

​@@keifer7813Agree. If anything I feel like calling teachers by their first names can lead to a much healthier relationship with teachers.

[@Gender_Ascender]

1:59:46 SCANDINAVIA MENTIONED But also yeah, showering every day is personal preference here. I don't smell terrible unless I work out anymore, so I usually let it be between 3-5 days for each shower during any season that isn't summer. Others I know feel the need to shower constantly regardless of sweat, and others I think could use more showering and less body spray.

[@drearmouse9510]

Connor's right. Showering everyday is bad for your skin & hair last I heard. Washes off oils your skin/hair need to stay healthy.

[@michaelmaguire4147]

35:34 Having just recently left a job working at a supermarket chain; The problem is coming from both ends. On the one hand, it is very much a thing that most people really have no sense of pride in their work anymore. I personally have a hang-up about "doing things correctly," and so I was pretty much the only one in the department who cared about the quality of the work. Of course, the other end of the problem is that, in general, people aren't paid enough to care.

[@Steve-xo5pq]

People asking for advice is way less of a red flag than a friend who is way too eager to give advice.

[@sendxnoodles]

It's actually quite a red flag, if they KEEP ON asking for it then don't even listen at all. He/she doesnt learn. Unlike giving advice, it could be right or wrong, it's up to you if you listen to me or not. I did my part.

[@basicwirdo736]

⁠@@sendxnoodles sorry isn’t that kinda a little contradictory? If *I give advice, it’s up to the other person to decide to listen to me or not, but if *I’m asking for advice I should just listen to my friends regardless of the advice?

[@sendxnoodles]

@@basicwirdo736 Well that makes sense too. But I have friends who keep asking for advice, but don't learn at all and probably don't value my opinion. I don't mind them asking though. I'd rather have a friend who gives me advice.

[@basicwirdo736]

@@sendxnoodles ahhh I agree! friends should also value your opinion. In the case I’d also rather have a friend who gives advice

[@ToriKlepto]

@@sendxnoodles This!

[@Prometheusz99]

Connor is "damn bro i didn't know you were chill like that" embodiment.

[@DubhghlasMacDubhghlas]

On the strict code of conduct in schools. Both Garnt and Connor removed the strict part out of the statement to argue for it.

[@jackaldajjal6656]

I was watching TTP since episode 1, but around episode 80 ish I had to drop it because of life responsibilities and such, but it makes me happy to come in every now and then and see an episode when I can. Honestly really one of the best podcasts in the world.

[@N1l0]

I agree, you do not need to shower everyday because that shit is bad for your skin

[@_MaydayAlert_]

Rn going thru my first breakup and this has opened my eyes in many different ways ngl

[@shaunriordan493]

Connor said he loves Americans??? WERE BACK BABY!

[@nick_graphics]

about the self inserting thing i think it works on a case by case basis. ive had a scenario where i heard some stuff that made me assume a friend is not doing well, i knew most of the people around him were more on the toxic masculinity side of things so he didnt really have anyone to open up to, so i straight up told him that i know what hes going through and that hes not alone in this (we werent really that close before) and we ended up having a 2 hour conversation that at least from what i picked up seemed to help him alot!

[@Nakul22099]

53:13 add to Grant sudden sad compilation

[@smash096]

48:15 Bro just air guitared for absolutely NO reason LMAOOOOO

[@strgz5329]

says "same level of commitment is red flag" , proceeds to go competition is "needs to be same level of commitment" ,

[@notthatjack8348]

57:50 I agree with Connor on this one. I’ve had experiences in the past where I’m talking about something serious like my feelings of anxiety and depression and the friend I’m talking with will just straight up not get the vibe. It’s like you’re allowed to feel sad, you’re allowed to be mad, you don’t always have to always be positive because life isn’t always positive.

[@BlackReshiram]

bro this is like prophetic foretelling. i was watching the other red/green flags episode literally earlier today

[@saltysalamander8519]

I shower every other day, not every day.

[@Pekara121]

Finally. A normal person.

[@vocal02]

Yes!!!!

[@alphakowaclips]

Yes, the normal standard

[@StripofPaper]

Same

[@IceWotor]

I shower everyday (humid as f in sea)

[@Ang-dd3oz]

I have a neighbor below us and I always tried saying hi or wave hi and they just murmur under her breath and ignore. She also always watches us through her blinds and doesn't try to hide it. Also she flicks us off everyday.

[@t111ran3]

15:47 bruh missed the entire point of higurashi 😩😭😭😭 It teaches you to trust people more