OUR SWEET BOY!

[@bryanna7408]

Avocado...grilled chicken...carrots...man J3 I need more vegetables!!! Good job Dee and Jerry. Habits form very early.

[@amandacoombs947]

My son is 4 and has autism. We have to calm him the same way by rocking him and humming to him. You're doing great and I know it's so hard to see but he is so lucky to have such a nurturing mother like you, Dee!

[@debbiedelight7988]

👍🏽

[@wii1245]

You could also tried prayers, if you're a Christian .

[@TheRedstoneTaco]

yes great idea ;) thanks for reminding me

[@pokemarnz6457]

Tantrums are to be punished whether the kid is mentally retarded like this or not

[@refre1998]

It will get better Dee, try keeping a journal of what takes place before the meltdown, so you can better understand what is causing it, it takes a while to pinpoint it sometimes. But think about the level of sensory that is going on around him, he may be overstimulated in some way. Also try calming music, changing the lighting... these are just suggestions that worked with my son. Keep your head up and be patient... much love to you and your family.

[@ohwhale.]

these are great ideas. I hope they consider them. @The Lavigned Life

[@ashleymolina7506]

Very helpful information i hope she sees this

[@polarBEAR819]

read the discription

[@refre1998]

+Polar Bear I didn't read it before, but if he went on for an hour there are different techniques to look into, and keeping a journal do assist with those things

[@TheNicoya26]

The cradle position always works most of the times but some kids need to be left alone till it passes then try to talk about autism is not the end of the world like they make it to believe

[@missvicw]

You're doing AMAZING, Mom! I have my master's degree in early childhood disorders& work at an autism clinic. I'm not saying I know what it's like to be a parent, but I do understand the challenges of what you're going through! You're so brave & I know these videos will be a great asset to other parents out there. Helping others realize that they aren't alone will help more than you know! Also, don't let any of these negative comments get you down! Just remember that many people out there will not understand. But YOU KNOW YOUR SON! Just like a parent knows their kid's hungry cry from a sick cry from a tired cry, you know your son better than anyone else. Of course you know the difference between all his cries, including the difference between a behavioral cry & an autism-related meltdown! All you can do is spread awareness & help guide others to understanding. Keep up the great work 💙

[@BrunetteAmbitionz]

I'm a Speech - Language Pathologist in an elementary school and work closely with the occupational therapist. I would suggest speaking with a professional to learn relaxation strategies, using visual choice boards, a timer, deep pressure, weighted vests/lap blankets etc. :)

[@OurAUsomeLife]

These help us! We've got 3 with ASD.

[@tan81112]

Same,4 kids,younger 3 have autism.

[@OurAUsomeLife]

+tan81112 do you have a channel? I love to connect with other autism moms! I thought I was the only one with multiple autistic children!

[@Andrew-ks8hx]

+Our AUsome Life do your kids like fireworks. sometimes loud noises get to me and sometimes strong smells

[@OurAUsomeLife]

+Andrew Mortensen my oldest can handle the noises but my daughters can't do the loud noises. So we do the pretty ones and not the noise makers. I'm editing our Fourth of July video as I write this 💙💙

[@TalkWithCin]

Dee, I could see the pain in your face as you held J3. As a mother I know how it feels when you wish to take your little one's pain away and end up feeling so helpless. You're a great mother and he's blessed to have you. sending you guys nothing but love and light.

[@rosewallace-brooker9124]

Been there with my grandson. I hold him and let him work it out. I tell him I will cry with him if he wants, but I would rather laugh with him. I tell him he will never be too old for GMa to hold him. Sending up prayers.

[@pwalker9757]

I love that! That's awesome! Thank God for grandparents!

[@sweetlikecaramel08]

Dee, you are such an amazing mom. ❤ The way you handle Lil Jerry's meltdown was so comforting. Love this fam!!

[@alexandrasargent6678]

Dee is legit mom goals though👌🏽😍

[@Tiaquisha]

Absolutely

[@courtney_ciaraa]

I read the description about people thinking that autistic kids are bad and just want attention, but even by me not knowing a thing about autism I can tell that scream was not a cry for attention. The look on his face was completely different from that. I hope things do get better for you guys because that hurt my heart to see him like that🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️💖💖💖

[@AddiTrials]

Good eye. He just has to work through it, the nerves are like a roller coaster, they start slow, build up steam, zoom quickly, then slow down before they stop. He was feeling all of that. It's not a good feeling. Good job to Dee and Jerry!

[@kristengann6864]

You guys are very lucky as far as an Autism diagnosis goes , in the sense that you can actually communicate with your son he responds to questions he eats normally, you can hold him when he has a meltdown lots of things 😉 my oldest is autistic he is 5 it was just recently that he talks and follows directions like pick that up or put this in the trash he still isn't potty trained, and up until last October the only food he would eat was oatmeal with other things mixed in it and also he couldn't feed himself, he is still considered non verbal .I can't hold him when he has a meltdown it makes it worse 😔 we have to have therapy every week he has to be in the special education program at school even though he is very smart and clever it can't be evaluated since he can't take tests he also can't color that causes meltdowns he hates it for some reason. And he is only considered moderately autistic. There are cases much worse than his also so I consider us lucky also.😊

[@fuseileter]

You are a rock star mom!

[@OurAUsomeLife]

Autism is hard on all involved. I have 3 with autism. Kristen do you have a channel? I love connecting with other AUsome moms!!

[@kristengann6864]

+Our AUsome Life yes I don't upload regularly but I do videos when I have the time/ feel like it lol but mostly it's make up videos and last week I uploaded my AncestryDna results lol 😊

[@OurAUsomeLife]

+kristen gann I just subbed you! I started daily vlogging one month ago I really wish I'd done it sooner! Going to watch your video now! I actually am curious about ancestry.com lol

[@kristengann6864]

+Our AUsome Life lol thank you I subbed to you also you can hear my oldest in most of my videos lol you can see him in my second and third videos he was 3 in those and they were filmed right after he officially diagnosed at the Marcus Autism Center. We have come leaps and bounds since then 😊

[@AddiTrials]

Thank you for Sharing, Dee. The meltdowns are hard (I have them too as an adult with Autism, but only when I'm overwhelmed physically or emotionally. Last time was when my bio mom died on leap day, it was hours long and very draining. My sons both on the spectrum had them daily as well. They don't have them anymore, just other issues that we will deal with as they grow up. One thing I want to get for my sons and myself are weighted blankets. I'm hoping they will help when I'm having my hard times with the neuro issues that come with our Autism. God bless you, sweet family.

[@BSOG3]

I think it's food related. When he eats healthy he seems to do a lot better. Dee is so good at healthy eating so definitely keep him on that regimen. As we all know, restaurant food is the worst because we don't have a clue how it's prepared. Most of it is highly processed so do your best to keep him strictly organic, gluten free, and gmo free. The pesticides in many foods cause symptoms, etc... I'd suggest that you start to keep a food log....log everything he eats and then log the melt downs. Over time, you may be able to see a pattern linked to what he eats and when he melts. Make sure he gets the rest he needs as well. The other thing my friend does is gives her kid a bath when he melts. A warm bath calms him down (he's 4) significantly. Warm bath, dim lights, and, believe it or not, classical music. You guys are doing a great job with you kids. Autistic kids are a blessing...so intelligent and, as they grow, they level out a bit. Hang in there!

[@karinajas]

I agree. They can also try a Himalayan salt lamp in his room. They are healing and soothing. I noticed they eat a lot of eggs which actually is not good. I am not trying to say anything bad or dictate. I am just saying eggs, especially a lot are not good.

[@umanyways...3110]

U know what your doing

[@TheNopeness]

Why aren't eating eggs good? If you're referring to the cholesterol thing, that's already been debunked. If you're referring to an ethical thing, then that's unrelated altogether.

[@kendallhenry8049]

I've always thought the same thing. When they were feeding him lots of eggs, he always had what is referred to as allergic shiners. It's something to ponder.

[@karinajas]

Eggs are dairy and too much is not good. They are also acidic which is not good. Again, I'm not trying to dictate. Anything you eat in excess is not good. You just have to have balance. I am not trying to tell them to not give their kids eggs or for them not to eat them...I am just saying what it can do to the body when you eat too many of them.

[@priscillaproud5900]

Having a younger cousin that has a Autism n with the meltdown at his age were just overwhelming n heart breaking its hard. I applaud u and every parent or person who is able to deal with it. Now that's older he doesn't have the bad melts downs. Praying for u n Jerry poor guy! Feel bad for him such a sweet boy! Love u guys!

[@courtneyf5497]

Jerry's meltdown brought tears to my eyes. I felt so bad for him and for you guys and I just wanted to hug him and tell him it's okay. You guys handled that very well. If you don't mind me asking, what triggers his meltdowns?

[@tawnayrigoyen1557]

Me too it hurts to see them so upset I hate when they can't tell you what's wrong all u can do is hold them and try to calm them down

[@AddiTrials]

Hi, hope it's okay if I answer this. Triggers are so hard to judge, hard to know because a lot of times, autistic kids cannot tell you how they are feeling, can't tell you when they hurt, adults either. I cannot give a run down of what I feel either emotionally or physically (I'm on the spectrum). Usually, my reaction to pain is "I burn." It's a nerve sensation that I cannot describe, other than a burning sensation, like fire. When I was little I screamed all the time. Found out later that I had chronic ear infections, also bowel issues, and the neuro issues that are common with autism. My son, also on the spectrum was like J3, he'd scream for hours, till he was just too tired to scream anymore. Sometimes the nerves get so overwhelmed NOTHING relieves them, except pressure, like a hug, or a weighted blanket, or believe it or not, swaddling. It looks weird for me to be swaddled, but I need it to stop the sensation.

[@TalkWithCin]

+Ashton Schwinn thank you so much for explaining. I'm not very educated on the subject so it was really eye opening and helped me understand, which I think is so important for all of us. Many blessings to you!

[@ashleycanas2080]

+Ashton Schwinn Wow thank you for your info.

[@Melathegreat]

I understand you have sympathy but don't say "I feel bad" because it's actually isn't terrible if you see it in a different light. Yes it's sad seeing a child suffer but you shouldn't petty those with conditions/disabilities. I have a physical disability and don't like it when people feel sorry for me for not being able to walk. I've been told this. Yes it's hard for every day activities but you learn to adapt. He will eventually learn to adapt and that'll be his normal.

[@LATASHASPEAKS]

You are doing a Phenomenal Job...I also Have a 7 year old Sweet boy who suffers from Autism...And He Used to have Meltdown Spells Almost everyday for years and it was the Hardest thing to watch...and your not alone I cried myself to sleep many night's and I would just ask God to give me the strength to endure and The patience to understand that these children are Gifts....So I applaud you for sharing this with so maby of us....

[@breonacarr8540]

I cant believe people get mad if you don't upload lmfao seriously, that's kinda pathetic to be honest...the internet is really fucking people up..and I'm not talking about kids but grown ass men and women.

[@breonacarr8540]

+Godz ComingSoon is that really your reason why lol these people need to get a life. Peoples priorities are clearly fucked up

[@sarahguzman7881]

I so agree with you! and yeah they get paid but people expect them to post all the time? Really? It's not like we're the ones getting paid. We shouldnt expect anything. But i do get where both of you are coming from!

[@larajensen229]

I've autism too it's very difficult to have even when it develops in a young age 😭 when I was your sons age I've had several melt downs even in school I even threw chairs in my classroom cause of my temper too several things I know what it's like I'm 15 now I still have my anger and other stuff but the meltdowns sometimes fade as you get older cause for me I don't have any meltdowns that I used to have when I was a child ❤️ head high guys it's okay ❤️❤️

[@EM1LL1E]

I am disappointed people have gotten on their, especially Dee's, back about J3. This is a scary and brand new experience to them. They have done amazingly handling it. They clearly have nothing but a world of love for their children and these "title" controversies.... y'all need to realize that they likely want to help and attract parents of autistic children. gha! You can tell disingenuous people from a mile away, this family is not one of them. Calm down.

[@tawnayrigoyen1557]

I agree I think they are doing an amazing job and they are involved in their kids

[@dannij7683]

They do a better job with handling their children then a lot of parents/single parent I've seen in my day. Soon J3 will get a lot better with dealing with it on his own. Even Dee and Jerry will get better as well.

[@lovestacy04ify]

I completely agree. My 3 year old is also on the spectrum and receives treatment through specialists and goes to elementary school during the school year for half a day (which he absolutely loves btw). Dee is such an amazing mother and Jerry is also a very doting father. You guys are doing the best and I salute you on this journey we have with our super special, one of a kind babies 😚🤗🍇

[@mayann0-0]

It's not brand new they've known about it for over a year

[@EbonyLCoe]

+Maya Holland thats rude - you don't know their story and you've obviously never experienced a person with Autism. Find another channel if you want to throw judgement about how long they've known.

[@911letty]

Aww poor baby it made me cry seeing him cry stay strong I know as parents we don't like to see our babies cry. Sending prayers for strength.

[@CarefreeMaya]

Hi Dee! I am very proud at how you are handling this along with Jerry. Baby Jerry will grow out of it eventually. He carries himself very well actually for his age. Does he have aspergers or was it confirmed that he has a higher form of Autism? He can speak, and is very responsive. He is going to be a very very smart boy. Don't be discouraged. Give him some math puzzles and mind games. I hear autistic kids can be very good at math problems. Keep going you guys are doing awesome!

[@CarefreeMaya]

Grow out of the meltdowns*

[@iceshayw]

You don't grow out of autistic meltdowns.smh.

[@CarefreeMaya]

iceshayw I guess I'm speaking from my experience with my older sister, she grew out of hers, as did many of the people who I've read about online. It's different for everyone. It depends on the degree, that's why I asked if he had aspergers or not.

[@CarefreeMaya]

Baby Bunch I never said he would grow out of autism. That was not the message. My statement is to say that the meltdowns will get better with time. I believe he will since he is ale to articulate himself well at this age.

[@BabyBunch]

***** they didnt grow out of the meltdowns they basically found a way to calm themselves or was molded from years of ABA therapy . You can't just grow out of autism..it's always there..go watch ask an autistic she explains it all in her videos

[@JourneyInParenthood]

My son was diagnosed with autism recently.The meltdowns are just so difficult and give us parents such a mix of emotions of frustration and heartbreak and helplessness.

[@nishani4337]

that inside joke was hilarious

[@ryoung1644]

Oh I remember those times! My daughter is now 7, and I remember those meltdown episodes! Thankfully she doesn't have them anymore. It is so funny now because people would never know that she is autistic which is a blessing since autism comes in many different forms. This too shall pass Dee, the older he gets, the less the meltdowns. Love watching your videos.

[@ralphmorales3739]

Ignore the comments Dee and Jerry, they're rude.

[@KenyaMilan]

Jordan is so patient with J3 and so loving. 💜

[@Jennifergagnon88]

My four year son is autistic. He was diagnosed over a year and a half ago. Lately my sons meltdowns have been taking a huge toll on me. I feel like I'm not strong enough and I end up breaking down right with him. :(

[@OurAUsomeLife]

You are strong enough! You wouldn't have been blessed with that beautiful child if you couldn't handle it! I have 3 with autism so I know how hard it can be. Hang in there!! 💙💙

[@ashrenae4889]

praying for you &him.!!

[@TalkWithCin]

You ARE strong mama! Sending you positive vibes.

[@Melathegreat]

It's very difficult because it's not just new to him to handle but you as a parent learning with him. I was born with a rare disability and my parents were scared at first too because so many unanswered questions. Now that I'm in my twenties they told me what they went through raising a disabled child in America with barely knowing English in the 90s. So don't feel like you're a bad parent being overwhelmed but you need to be tough because he needs you. All you can do is get as much professional help and use your mother senses. Love him even in his worse moments. View him as a "normal "child. Feeling sorry for him won't help your family. Acceptance and learning with love is all you can do.

[@Jennifergagnon88]

+Our AUsome Life thank you

[@maria22284]

Aww autism meltdowns are not only physically exhausting but emotionally exhausted as well. My son is 7 now and rarely has them anymore because he can communicate better but I remember when he was between the ages of 2-4 he would have meltdowns that would last HOURS. I would end up crying along with him because there was nothing I could do to help him. Now he can tell me that he's just really tired or wants to lay on the bed.

[@FloraNovax3]

Y'all really should seek case management and such for him. My daughter is autistic and it's not easy .. But she gets special therapy and such. It definitely helps a lot. I'd look into it if I were you.

[@OurAUsomeLife]

All my kids responded very well to therapy!! It has saved our lives!

[@AddiTrials]

He gets therapy, has an IEP and everything. Dee and Jerry are doing great with the team that works with J3. Just the fact that it has been so far between his last meltdown is evidence of that.

[@shakaylascott9911]

Yes my cousin goes to one it helps

[@AddiTrials]

Heather Hardge Do you have a child with autism? Are you a person with autism yourself? If so, please excuse this response. If not, take it and put it where the sun don't shine. I am a person with autism, and I have 2 children with it as well. You watch a 15 minute vlog and have summed up the entire life of this family? You have no idea what they go through. Jerry is not even past 3 yet, he's still in the beginning stages of Autism and anything that comes up along his journey. Do you live with them? Do you know that he isn't in therapy currently? There may be a period in therapy where he doesn't go because maybe his insurance isn't covering but a set number of sessions, and if he's not going, that could be why. We went through that with my son. It meant periods where he was not in therapy, and yes he did regress, but usually he caught back up quickly when he got back into the swing of things. Stop judging this family based on 15 minutes on a vlog, and let them handle J3's needs. They will go through many ups and down, and they will feel like failures along the way, and they will have good moment too, because that is the nature of autism. They don't need mean comments telling them how bad they are, especially when you only see a glimpse into what they want you to see, not even the whole picture. Good grief, I am so sick of mean people!

[@hjhbutterfly]

Let's see...teaching SPED for the past 13 years, 10 of those directly with AUT qualifications....but, no, I'm not qualified.

[@LolmeBIG1]

I just wanted to say that, to my knowledge, an autism meltdown can feel like scratching a bad itch. It's releases all of the pent up frustration that builds during the day. Remember that people on the autism spectrum generally get stressed and frustrated faster than those that are "neurotypical", and may find a certain day, one you might have seen as unusually relaxed, as a massive clash of discomfort and stress. The end of these meltdowns, and the minutes after, are often very comfortable for the person, although understandably not for those surrounding him/her. I find that an immense amount of relief and relaxation once a proper meltdown is finished is a common occurrence. You seem to be very understanding of the issue, something some parents sadly lack. He simply needs for you to be there for him, and allow him to finish properly, although I'm sure you know that. Love, an aspie :)

[@BreLee003]

Have you check out Sunkissalba? Her son also has autism and she has done videos on it. She changed her son's diet and it helps ALOT. Read some more books on it. Stay encouraged God wouldn't give you something you couldn't handle.

[@brittanyrocket]

Yeah they were talking about changing the diet a few days ago in a video.

[@brikhouse22]

I am guessing all that ketchup has a lot of sugar in it, which can't be a good thing.

[@pwalker9757]

+brikhouse22 I was thinking also the ketchup may be a trigger for his meltdowns.

[@pwalker9757]

+brikhouse22 I was thinking also the ketchup may be a trigger for his meltdowns.

[@sheisheycoco]

I asked them if they watch her videos on a previous video. They said that they do talk with Alba and that she has been helpful to them. 😊

[@naturallysunny091]

aw baby Jerry 😞❤️. & jordans little dance is so cute !

[@TheOnly24th]

damn it's crazy that dude used to be so funny and "savage" for youtubes sake I think it sucks but good for him being a family man

[@DistressedAndImpressed]

Yep. Those R.I.P days!

[@ebonyrobinson7272]

b

[@aroundNYC]

Thats what happens when you're unhappy.

[@TheOnly24th]

+aroundNYC what?

[@pokemarnz6457]

Kason it’s not that hard-the dude lost his personality and soul due to having to parent a subhuman creature.

[@Ch3lRae]

Awe poor baby, my daughter has autism also & I understand how difficult meltdowns can be sometimes, especially when everyone in the world thinks it will help if they offer some "advice" so without any "advice" from me, just sending you love because I know it can be hard, not just as parents but also for sweet little Jerry. You are a wonderful family 💗

[@wildboy700]

6:20 Dee, it's a black thing women do.😂😂😂

[@bbnaturalcurl]

uh no its a thing Women do if they have weave it's not a black or white thing

[@aroundNYC]

at least you had time to explain it

[@bebekid1292]

Dee I just want to say that I love seeing how patient and gentle you are with J3 when you showed his melt down. You could really feel the motherly love!! I don't have children but when I see this type of love watching my boyfriend and his daughter it touches my heart!! As a person looking in from the outside I can feel how powerful it is!! One day when God bless me with my own I want to give my children that same power of love!!! You and Jerry are AMAZING parents and I love you guys and your family dearly!!!

[@brikhouse22]

"can I get my ginger shot please?".......Dee walks over to fridge, opens it and take it out....like his grown ass could have. Did he break his legs and I missed it?

[@MUNROECHRONICLES]

Nothing wrong with catering to your man and I'm sure he does the same for her. :)

[@ohwhale.]

No he didn't.. this moment is clearly what makes the difference between wives and girlfriends. He didn't demand-- he asked and she obliged.

[@brikhouse22]

+Mrs Munroe lolllll yeah right. nothing wrong if you wanna be a slave to a lazy ass man and be a doormat the rest of your life. It's one thing to be nice and do something for him but to cater to him because he is just being lazy, not.

[@brikhouse22]

+Angie . that's bs, it's the difference between a lazy man and a grown man. Dee has her hands full caring for the kids 24/7 with what's seems like lil help from him, she doesn't need a 3rd kid, a 160 lb one, to also care for and wait on hand and foot.

[@brikhouse22]

Charlene C because I think a grown man should do for himself especially when his woman takes care of the kids most of the time? Did my comment change your day? Did it effect your income? You sound like one of those women who love to be the servant and doormat. I care about it about as much as you care about my comment. See how that works?

[@kaylakiley3282]

I love how you let J3 just feel it out and held him.. he needs his mom and dad and you guys are 115% there for him. I love your family 💜

[@donayre21]

What if it was a normal meltdown....

[@Findinglelo]

If you read the description they pretty much told you the difference. Also, they are the parents so I'm sure they are well aware of when it is a "normal" meltdown versus a meltdown common with individuals that have autism.

[@OurAUsomeLife]

There's no normal meltdown. It's either a fit, a tantrum, or a meltdown. When they are acting this way on purpose to get a reaction is different. A meltdown is out of their control and they are overwhelmed in every sense.

[@LoveOnlyMe13]

Well Jerry has autism so... What if you comment was unnecessary

[@awach1]

+dondreharrison you are so right..

[@donayre21]

I don't know the kid but kids are usually just kids.

[@trulyblessedmick2292]

I know a couple of people who have children that are diagnosis with autism. They we're first in shock and in denial. Once they were over the shock they got the boys the help that's needed. Dee you and Jerry are wonderful parents. Baby Jerry is going to be just fine. God bless you!!

[@briannab8619]

Y'all complain about EVERY DAMN THING !!!!! y'all mad about the title and not paying attention to the content

[@KenyaMilan]

Right lol

[@aroundNYC]

I did pay attention and I see divorce on 3-4 years.

[@pokemarnz6457]

Aroundnyc lol that is great. And probably true. Annoying tard baby meltdowns...id bail in 5

[@jasmineaviette7026]

The kids crying breaks my heart every time,hugging him and telling him that it's going to be okay was the best way from what it looks like, of course I don't know anything but what you guys want to share. You guys are strong and I love that.

[@DAViDD767]

what's up with all these autism cases, is it the gmo's or the crap they put in them vaccine shots, and I don't mean to sound like a conspiracy nut, but look it up people

[@kristengann6864]

My so is autistic it's not from a vaccine we noticed it before he was vaccinated , we noticed something was off at about 3 months. I think the inflation in diagnosed cases of autism is because of better medical research and actually identifying autism as a separate disorder my son back in the 1920s would have been diagnosed as dumb and mute and put in an asylum. Later on he would have been diagnosed as mute and bipolar with severe add. I just think it's better medical research and a correct diagnosis. And a better understanding of the brain. Also what about all of the children that don't get vaccines that are diagnosed with autism??? There are a lot of those.

[@Ebizzill]

there's something in our food. My friend is doing autism research and she is noticing that a lot of autistic patients have intestinal problems. Which lets me know that something isn't agreeing with them. ...aka.... food has poison in it.

[@rareintuitions6111]

Honestly, I got a shot for school I'm Aug of '11 in Dec "11 I started to develop seizures a result but these vaccine are "safe".

[@randirsbaby]

Awe Jerry's meltdown broke my heart :( Such a sweet boy, you're a great mom. Continue to take good care of him!

[@wholeelotta_josh]

I don't think this is something you share with the world but hey what the fuck do I know?

[@kaylajackson9568]

They'll do anything for a dollar ....

[@crissyjones1547]

+KayLa Jackson right

[@wholeelotta_josh]

+KayLa Jackson look at the thumb nail today lol ...un real

[@kaylajackson9568]

Ok I'll have a look 😭😭

[@kaylajackson9568]

Simple ass always crying I'm still not gonna watch ... I only commented cause I saw yesterday's thumb nail on my feed

[@ZanderFoster]

The first video I saw of yours was the one of you guys talking about his diagnosis. And as a future parent and a former care giver to autistic children, these moments of honesty touch me and warm my heart. You are such great parents. God bless.

[@patriciacox2343]

I am so glad you shared this . I have to say that you handled it so well. I don’t normally begin every sentence with “I” but simply put this video took my breath away. ...... I loved the strength it took for you share this video. Most people wouldn’t have done that. Much respect from Brooklyn.

[@Yella1697]

I cried seeing J3 crying. Dee and Jerry are such strong parents. And Jordan is gonna grow up to be an amazing little sister and help comfort him. God bless your family 💜💜

[@rayne927able]

I have a 5 year old that was just recently diagnosed with autism as well as adhd. All of this is so new to me because my oldest didn't have to experience this, so any tip that you all have would be helpful. Just recently getting back into watching vlogs when I have free time so please keep them coming!!!

[@simplykayg]

I bet the meltdowns tire him out physically too. You are handling this effortlessly Dee. The only people with autism I know were my cousins growing up and they were mean and abusive because they never got any kind of intervention until their mid-20s. I remember being 13 (they were 13 and 15) watching them have similar meltdowns but they would lash out on top of it.Thankfully they have been officially put on the spectrum but now it is too late considering they are in and out of prison and don't want the help.

[@21Vaneh]

I work with kids with autism! I'm not sure if you guys already have the behavioral instructor/therapist but they usually guide you through the reasons why they have a meltdown and what the "consequences" are. If he's unable to to express how he feels visuals boards/icons can be very helpful! But meltdowns are very common and there needs to be a behavioral plan this explain what to do when he has a tantrum/meltdown! I'm sure you guys know all this since he's had therapy before but just know that it gets worse before it can get better! You're doing a great job with him

[@OurAUsomeLife]

Not being able to explain what's wrong is the number one cause for meltdowns here. I cry als it's so very hard to see your kids in pain! I have three kids with autism and it is very hard when thy can't explain what's wrong.

[@rachellenicolejoseph7568]

Dee, stay strong girl. You are right, this too shall pass. Things will get better. Thank you for sharing such a private moment.

[@ilovepickles3838]

I relate to J3, I have had meltdowns like that. Where I couldn't control myself. Where I felt so out of control to the point where I couldn't stop. I can only imagine how he feels though. I don't have autism, but I do have other things that can make me switch within seconds. It's become easier to control it over the years. When I was younger it was bad. But, my mother stayed patient and loving. I am currently 15 and I have my moments but I can't imagine what he feels. When I was little my mother would have to sit on me and hold me. Dee reminds me of my mom. How she stayed calm and rocked him through it. I have much love and respect for your family. Because I personally know what's it's like to not be able to control it. I love you guys. Stay strong.

[@arianabgray]

I'm a school psychologist in Florida and I work with young children with autism daily. I've been watching your channel for years and I really appreciate you guys being so vulnerable and sharing such private moments with the world. You guys seem to be doing an awesome job with getting J3 the proper supports he needs and that will pay off big time. I can only imagine what it's like feeling helpless in moments like this but be encouraged and know that God never puts more on you than you can bear. God bless your family and I pray you all continue to be a blessing to other families.

[@roxanneworld11]

dee, you and jerry jr. are doing so well with jerry 3!..and yes, cry when you need to..and please don't feel guilty about anything at all as, even if it's difficult to see, there is a bigger picture.. and the 2 of you were the ones assigned to be mom and dad to both of your amazing children.. remember that.. love from the pacific northwest, USA..(and thanks for providing us with a daily..or a weekly, dose of cuteness! the babies are angels!..and because, even if i miss videos, i almost always watch at least 2 or 3 whenever i come back to your channel - which is one of my favorites!)

[@karenmonterroso-brooks]

You as a mom to have a full schedule & a kid with autism must be really hard, you are such a blessing to your son. You have so much patience & I haven't seen that in a mother in over two years. I work with kids in all age groups with autism & I can definitely say I never seen a mother with so much patience ❤️ It breaks my heart when I see a kid crying or the parent frustrated & they take it out on the kid .. May god bless you, your husband & your two little blessings soul.

[@griselramos426]

First time I am going to comment. My nephew which is 14 years old has Autism watching this today reminded me of his melt downs. Which where difficult for my sister. We would hold him until they passed. As he became older and was able to tell us what was the problem we began to work with him. My sister treats him as normal as possible. One thing he doesn't like which was most of his melt down is change. He remembers everything, how his rooms looks like or your home and if you move something (it could be the smallest thing) that would trigger the out burst. As he became older we started speaking with him about what changes we where going to do so it would not surprise him which helped a lot. Now my sister has him in boxing which he loves and he is a gamer. He interacts with his classmates and is more verbal. I say all this to say, it will get better its a learning process and baby steps. You hand this beautifully and yes tears will flow but that's ok. I will keep praying for you and your beautiful family.

[@candy52495]

Keep keepin strong, y'all are doing so good!! Also the way Jordan tried to help Jerry was so adorable ☺️

[@KatRicoSandra]

Thank you for sharing your family story with us viewers. I totally understand how you feel. My little girl have shown me strength through her struggle with dealing with autism. I am learning everyday. I watch your other vlog where you talk about how blessed we as parents should be to have them in are lives. I too would never change anything about my child bc she's so unique and special to my husband and I. Stay strong and I'm so happy to hear someone talk about their experience on such a sensitive issue. Thank you..

[@LovesSunshine58]

You are to be congratulated for making people such as myself aware of autism. It has to be so hard on you both letting us see the personal sides of your life and J3's. Prayers sent you all of you.

[@cameronmartin157]

Dee, you're doing an amazing job...actually both of u! You show so much love & patience and thats displayed by the affection your babies have towards each other. I've already cried today bc of the shooting of Alton so that clip made me even more emotional I commend you for having the courage & strength to share such personal matters to be a blessing to someone else. Stay strong & positive!! God will never leave nor forsake u To all the mothers dealing with autistic children, Be of good cheer...😄😚

[@debbiedelight7988]

I feel you

[@simplyshade5515]

I work with kids that have autism and kids that have down syndrome all the special needs I love working with them they're so special and they are totally different than other children you get a totally different Outlook and their world and how they think and how they act and how they see things and they are such a blessing and they can teach you many things and it just opens up a whole new world I love them I love being a daycare teacher especially one that works with special-needs children

[@trubbledmind]

My autistic son is now 10, but he used to have these types of meltdowns when he was younger. Now, my son never has meltdowns and is very social and verbal. Jerry seems to be a bit more verbal than my son was at the same age. Hang in there guys!!!!

[@lexiepickles9153]

His crying sounds like my life day and night. I'm a sahm of 3 ages 5,2,10 months. They all fight, cry and scream at the top of their lungs its sooo stressful. I literally discipline them all day long. It feels like drowning on dry land! I couldn't imagine having to throw autism in there as well. Stay strong mama! ✊🏾

[@lenaBesos]

My brother (he has Asperger's) used to have those all the time. Now that he's older, they come in a different form but are few and far between but it definitely is something that you have to readjust to because it's still a thing where you know it's because he can't express himself and can't help his reaction and the build up. Stay strong. You're doing everything you can and you're doing it right. Much love to you and your beautiful family.

[@CherryPieTime]

Being a parent is serious business. There's so many needs that a child has and to be able to cater to them is a true gift. It can be stressful but I love the way that Dee and Jerry handle things. Good job to all the parents out there doing what it takes to be active and understand their kid(s).

[@tiffanykelley4646]

My nephew has autism. Its hard for my sister at times because she is young an feel embarrassed. Ive shared your videos and I work with her to help my nephew. We take him to therapy. An his school does alot for the awarness as well. Its rough at times but does get better especially with strong support behind you

[@SnazzyJazy0719]

My little brother has autism and he's 8.. He has his meltdowns when he doesn't get what he want, but I try to sub with his favorite tv show or playing with his learning stuff. He goes to therapy so he can work on his communication skills and also learn how to be more independent. The crazy thing about him being autistic is that if he is in front of a any type if electronic he can spell just about anything especially with KZbin... He love sensory over load. He will have the tv on with no volume, watch KZbin tv commercials on his tablet and old android phone. So Baby Jerry isn't alone, it's great that you guys keep the positive reinforcement.. Frustration from you (which I'm sure never happens) would only make him more frustrated when he has his moment of distress.

[@MzMontana69]

I just want to say I love watching you guys and seeing your family !!! I gotta say Dee I admire you mother to mother. Seeing your beautiful kids and family just make my day better. Seeing lil Jerry have his melt down just broke my heart i just strted to cry. I cant imagine going what youre going through in that moment so for that i give my hat to u girl. Stay strong

[@melissaayala3978]

ive been watching for about a year now and I've never commented but i feel like today should be the day. i love how real dee and jerry keep it. they put in the good the bad and the ugly and i love it. i send all my positive vibes your way💜

[@beautyxbrandy]

I work with a young boy who is autistic, so I feel I will always have a special place in my heart for autistic children. I will say from my experience with meltdowns you are def mommy goals. Good luck and stay positive!

[@Shiv-vd3fi]

Dee and Jerry you guys are doing an amazing job with the kids ❤️

[@blueeyedgojo689]

i used to work with 1-3 year olds with autism, in early intervention. and it's not easy. i never could grasp that i'd be exhausted from 8 hours a day with 4 kids (generally 2 hours each kid) but the parents don't get to "go home" like me. you're such a strong momma, Dee. :)

[@broch09]

Adorable kids. Great parents. One of my favorite KZbin families. Keep up the AMAZING work!

[@labellavita12]

New sub here. Found your channel just now.. your family is an inspiration.

[@jessica0144]

Literally Cried 😭 because stuff like this just makes me so sad and it makes me remember how blessed we all are!!! Sending Love To Your Family!!💗💗

[@mariejayy4708]

wow I'm glad I came across your channel I myself have a 4 year old with autism and it gets hard at time but many times I have a hard time explaining to them the difference between a meltdown and a tantrum but I hope your channel helps me in some sort of way your a great mom

[@SJANELJ]

i know how it is... C.J is 9 he was diagnosed at 2.. but i knew before then.. and the meltdowns can be pretty tuff on me so i can not imagine how it is for him.. These little precious kids are amazing and they tech us so much everyday.. they are soooo much more then there Autism.. you guys be blessed and have a HAPPY NEW YEAR :)

[@hannabee4899]

I used to watch all the videos as soon as they dropped but because of my new work schedule, I cant do that anymore. Its been so long since I've watched a video and everything and everyone has changed so much!! Jerry and Jordan have gotten so big and you have gotten a new house; kinda miss the old house but glad to see you guys progressing in life

[@Staceyleighfromthesoul]

Thank you for sharing this, ah I felt so sorry for him. My son is getting assessed for Autism and I've been doing updates on my channel. The whole process is so hard. My son don't eat very well at all, your son eats so well xx

[@HelloKittyFreak96]

I've been watching Jerry LaVigne since he had 11 videos. I'm not gonna lie I have not been keeping up! I ran into his channel again and OMGGG this is such a different Jerry he's so family oriented and the way he respects his wife is jaw droppingly beautiful! I grew up in a house where women didn't talk back and the men wore the pants and that was final. ive never seen so much teamwork in a marriage. i finally understand the beauty of it all. ♡ he legit looks so happy and I'm so glad to see that! best of wishes to you guys!

[@danni-ellelindsay5629]

both Jerry and Dee, you two as parents are an incredible team. its awesome to see how you both are with each child and also them together. i love how you both teach Jordan about Lil Jerry's Autism i think its great keep up the good work

[@Spooky_gucci1213]

Jerry's meltdown made me so sad and it reminded me so much of my boys I have two ages 3 and 4 and they both have autism I have found that occupational therapy has helped a lot and keeping notes of what triggers it before it happens has helped us a lot my boys can actually go into target or Walmart now without having a horrible tantrum they hated the lights in there and I would never understand now they use dark glasses when we go into stores with bright lights.

[@susanvelez6534]

Blessings to both of you as parents I worked with autistic children. It is very hard darling, and yes cry, it's okay.

[@darrylbrandl3524]

Have you tried out the weighted blankets, they help my nephew with autism so much. They are amazing for providing comfort.

[@reesee9669]

Dee N Jerry, u are doing a awesome job with everything 😃

[@kendrawood7963]

My dream job is to educate children with autism. You guys are great parents to both Jordan and Jerry

[@jessicalee422]

you are doing an amazing job! i am a teacher for students with autism and its channels like yours that allow the barriers / differences to be broken for a bridge to be built! So glad I found your family!!! praying for you all! xoxo

[@roblecai]

My brother has Autism so I definitely understand this. It's something you learn about and work with day by day. It's always gets better. Not easier, but better. Keep your head up!

[@NailzCreativityLife7]

Love you guys..they way Dee handled J3's meltdowns is awesome and it shows a lot of patience which u have to have having kids period. 😙🍇

[@LinneaAnn01]

My name is Linnea and I have autism as well. My form of autism is aspergers and I wasn't diagnosed with it til my teenage years. You should be proud of yourself the fact your son seems happy and doesn't have melt downs often means you are doing the right thing. Trust me if you weren't there would be more than just melt downs. He would probably go through secures caused by overload. I just wanted to say this in hopes that you see it and know what I think you guys are doing is amazing.

[@denitapcaldwell]

Bless you Indeed! Mommy and Daddy, Mom I know how you feel from a mother's perspective, while I do not have a child who suffers with Autism, I can empathize with you as a mother who never wants to know or think your child is hurting and there is nothing you can do to make it better. I pray your patience is strengthened, your strength is sustained, and please know you all are wonderful parents to beautiful children. thank you for sharing, and for understanding the plight of others caring for and keeping children with Autism. Continued success, and many many blessings!!!!!

[@Savage_Queen90]

awe, I cried. poor little man, God bless you guys. I hope things continue to get better.

[@telmaneves946]

My son is 4 and he has autism. He used to have meltdowns every single day, now he hasnt had one since july. And yes I cried a lot, still do sometimes when he is not watching. I feel helpless, he is my everything and sometimes I just dont know how to help him.

[@MissBrandi4Ever]

J3 crying like that broke my heart Dee. You are a strong and beautiful mother.

[@AA-kr9nr]

My sister was diagnosed with autism and my parents always made her feel like same as everyone else and never made her feel like it was a " problem". She was treated as equal as everyone else in the family and got awarded and Punished the same and yeah she use to have melt downs and has her corks but you can barely tell she has anything and I always forget he has it and so does my parents and even her. We didn't pamper her because having autism doesn't limit anything ! If you really look at the symptoms it's best described as more of a personality thing. Hard to explain but yeah :)

[@EmbraceNaturals]

that's sad. jerry meltdown. as a parent I would cry after my child had a meltdown until I got better at dealing with them as well. I hope all y'all are doing ok. I feel helpless and upset when my kids are VERY sick.I feel sad and bad for them so I can kind of understand how u feel about Jerry's meltdowns. I love you guys and blogs. keep it up. Queen Dee pls try to upload more exercise videos. u are my inspiration and motivation

[@dadyzheart92]

J3 & Jor cam💜 Dee you & Jerry are doing the best you can with your children & although many grapevines give plenty helpful advice, you know what's best for them & you heed the advice as necessary & apply what you believe will work. life is about taking risks but you are both becoming more & more educated on what works & doesn't work for you & i have the upmost respect for y'all 💜

[@autumnkaulitz2585]

my son has meltdowns too it is definitely different from tantrums thank you for making people like me see we are not alone much love to your family support to your baby I know what you go through from one single mom to both of you as parents much love and support for you and your beautiful family