Overcoming the Obstacles of Infidelity (Part 2) - Dr. Bob & Dr. Audrey Meisner

Bob and Audrey Meisner have a dramatic testimony of having a "perfect" marriage and family of 17 years that was almost destroyed by infidelity. At the time, the Meisners had 3 wonderful kids, were in full-time ministry and leading a church, when Audrey became infatuated and had an affair with a family friend.
Although no one knew what happened, Audrey felt convicted by God to confess to Bob, and thus they began a long recovery process, dealing with their pain, shame, anger, and uncertainty about their marriage’s survival. Add to this crisis of the unexpected and unwanted news of Audrey’s pregnancy by the other man. The Meisners share honestly and with emotion about Audrey’s repentance, their slow and painful reconciliation, and Bob’s sacrificial love to claim this new baby as his own son.
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[@wordsofgod24]

You are such a godly man Bob! Sister Audrey, none of us can pick up the stone and throw it at you. And what the book author and the pastor said to Bob was powerful. All of this magnifies the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ!

[@bernedeeerica3735]

Thank you are very encouraging to us it was not easy at all .

[@johncowhig7196]

This was an incredible story! I love you Bob and I love you Aubrey! My wife cheated on me 11 yrs ago. I have never gotten over it we are still together. We have 3 children and 2 grandchildren. I am very affected by this act of cheating. I've been to counseling. I've been on and off medicine to cope with this act of infidelity and other problems in my life. I met a friend at my job who has helped me cope and who sent me videos like this one about other couples who have had infidelity in their marriage mainly done by the wife like me. This has enlightened me into seeing another person going through what I am going through and it has greatly helped me. I thank you Aubrey and her husband who have given their testimony. Thank you so much!

[@hariharankarthikeyan3604]

This is just you feeling telaxed to know that someone got hurt like you. In Christian, there are sins that can never be forgiven. Infidelity is the main sin and she has a baby with the affair partner. This is just worse to the core. Don't encourage and forgive infidelity. I pray for your wounded heart, but it can never heal, because you are a MAN and biology wins.

[@jennyor867]

Jonh 3 16.

[@LiveWelll]

@@hariharankarthikeyan3604a woman’s heart never heals as well

[@LiveWelll]

The marriage bed is the hardest pill to swallow. Forgiveness I get it but the reunion of the marriage bed and all the thoughts flooding in the mind.

[@baryl3969]

I can still hear the pain in his heart bleeding from her unfaithfulness, yet I can also see his strength from his faith in Jesus and forgives her again in the midst of sharing this grief.

[@emmahammond741]

I have tears in my eyes listening to Bob talk about this baby. Wow.

[@florencemutesasira5846]

If Bob’s words match his heart he is truly manifesting Jesus.

[@jillwade4586]

What a man Bob is. He has truly shown the love of the Heavenly Father.

[@PropheticHighlights]

I am in tears as I listen to Dr Bob share his side of the story. This is what it means to be Christ like. To walk in the steps of our Father. A Father who resembles love regardless. Hoping that Dr Bob’s side of the story could be shared more often. He is challenging us Christians and the world at large that walking in the full understanding of the redemption found in Christ is possible and that’s how we should view God’s people.

[@Uptegr]

Very powerful. This is what true Christianity is supposed to be. So much humility, unselfish behavior and love between these two people. Thank u for having such people on your show. So touching. Very beautiful story of two courageous unselfish and humble human beings.

[@arlyneickholz5350]

Made me cry it helps me restore my marriage after my husband infedelity😭😭 i am having a hard time releasing the pain, hurt and sorrow in my heart after all the stress and aggravation my husband put me through😭😭

[@ASbslLoves]

🙏🏼🌻

[@lorenaballou4513]

What a beautiful testimony of redemption and just pure love❤

[@kingstonlion73]

My mom told me the same thing. She told me to grow up. I couldn't believe it, why do I need to grow up. I wish I had the heart and faith of this guy.

[@sundayschoolmusic2498]

Bible verse: ‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,' says the Lord’. (Zechariah 4:6) Thank you sharing your testimonies and for Focus on the Family. This was a very humbling message of redemption, supercharged grace and forgiveness. Truly empowered not by the power or might of men but by the power of the Holy Spirit that shine Jesus and glorifies Christ when we make room for Him in our hearts! 🧡🕊️

[@felixarnold7589]

One of the best episodes on the Focus on the Family. Thank you so much.

[@pattytoscano9569]

I'm loving Dr. Bob. Strong in faith and character. A real man.

[@ninasandranatashangowi3078]

Ooh my goodness..I cried deeply... Bless this family. I have been reminded of God's love through that baby when Audrey prayed.. I prayed that prayer when it happened but God loves. Plus Audrey's husband oohh my goodness.you are an amazing husband. Bless your heart. I have learnt much from you. Im out of words of how you dealt with everything! That's what God requires of us... Oh Lord forgive me and give me a heart of obedience wherever you speak. Bless you focus on the family. I believe this has been a turning point for me in my marriage

[@zaidahernandez5203]

😭😭😭😭 this literally made me cry. Wow extremely powerful 💖💖💖💖

[@Lucianppl]

Yasss. Especially as I am struggle to my decisions in an unfaithful marriage

[@ASbslLoves]

@@Lucianppl 🙏🏼☝🏼🙂

[@loisnwokocha704]

While we were yet sinners Christ died for us _ period! I cried alot over this story.

[@saraz9017]

Bob is my new favorite guest

[@anaeliza5361]

What a powerful interview, full of grace, wisdom, redemption, hope. Everyone should hear this.

[@laurarahz12]

Awesome interview with them!!! Thank you!!

[@bcarosilva]

Thank you for the openness Powerful🙌

[@bernedeeerica3735]

You are a strong family satan has lost against you amen.

[@sunithayesodha8921]

O my Lord...You are sooo powerful. Amazed by your work through this couples life. And their obedience in You over their freshly responses. Thanks for sharing!

[@preciousrushwaya4640]

THIS…wow wow wow. I listened to it again after some time and have been super blessed all over again. How can I fail to forgive another after hearing their story… talk of being Christ-like ❤🔥🔥🔥

[@thewatcher4552]

😭😢 Powerful beyond words

[@kdan6908]

😢😢😢 God's Grace and his love.

[@yeseniadiaz5146]

Such a heart of a Father . thank u for sharing ur story . your words bring such healing and hope in my heart . thank u

[@sallyooko1464]

I am in tears watching this.

[@TigstLemmatg]

This makes me emotional thank you so much for sharing

[@abigaledavis1223]

What a beautiful story. So much love and grace . I’m in tears. Just beautiful!!! Thank you!! What a testimony to all of us.

[@livingfireministries5529]

Thank you Brother Dr. Bob & Dr. Audrey Meisner. I needed those words to encourage me and give me hope in my own marriage. Lord Jesus Christ bless you both and your ministry. And thank you Focus on the Family Channel for this experience. Lord Jesus Bless you as well.

[@Svijolo6097]

Yhooo this is powerful. I'm crying over this story. From South Africa

[@janefuller4783]

Thank you for the hope restored for me today 🙏🏻💕

[@SusanSummer]

To hear from a man with big heart like Bob heals wounds in me. Thank you 🙏

[@tiffytoo]

Bawling rn will you be a father to the fatherless.... And he's my son. To give him his name that's so powerful on so many levels. Your testimony hits sooooooo close to home for me. I felt every emotion your describing right now.

[@juanitahoffmann8074]

Thank you for this encouragement!

[@garygary4146]

LORD THANK YOU FOR BEING OUR LORD WHO SEES BEYOND OUR FAULTS AND MEET OUR NEEDS 🙏 PLEASE LORD ANOINT US ALL TO BE WILLING AND ABLE TO DO THE SAME

[@mchristr]

Christ has persisted in His love for us even as we've neglected and denied Him. How could we not share that same love with those who have hurt us?

[@herbydee2316]

Amen!

[@shellygreen759]

Thank you.

[@JessicaNoelle.]

We can do all things through Him who gives us strength! What an amazing testimony 🥰

[@regondi]

Could we do an interview with Bob Without Audrey? She is very distracting with her constant hijacking of the conversation. I’m sorry but committing the selfish act of infidelity and getting forgiveness and moving on is not miraculous. What is miraculous is Bob’s ability to deal with it in a manner that goes against every worldly instinct. THAT is the true story here. BOB is the hero here NIT her.

[@mrjayrelationshipcoach8044]

Profoundly powerful.

[@tom1catt]

Thank you so beautiful!

[@Onyiiiiiii]

Powerful. He is not a mistake. He is divinely entrusted. I like that name Theodore. Hmmmm, the message in this video is sooooo deeeeep.

[@mahlatsimoroka1500]

He is still broken

[@deejay7759]

He is. I bet it still eats at him everyday and he’s stuffing it down. It will take him years to recover from this. It will break him. One day he may decide he can’t take it anymore and that he made a mistake staying. Likely when his kids are all grown and have lives of their own and the two of them are left alone in the empty nest. The drive up stay together for the family won’t be there anymore because the kids are gone. And when those kids get older and begin to understand what really happened they may find disgust for their mother.

[@mllevanessa4100]

❤️❤️wow❤️❤️powerful testimony❤️❤️

[@anoushkaarmstrong7673]

it is indeed quite powerful: grace, forgiveness, adoption- with that i can't help and think of the young man, who's baby it is, hears one day that he has a child somewhere and he wasn't told ............

[@SusanSummer]

This couple is well known thus the other person shall find out about the child

[@Uptegr]

I wish I could have been so unselfish and Christian like. Jesus is manifested here. I just see the love of Jesus.

[@lomue007]

Awesome programme

[@raquelacevedoreyna3003]

The part about the blanket 🥲😭😢

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

I know I too was thinking “what a doormat”😭

[@ileanahernandez5284]

Me too!😢Very touching!

[@deejay7759]

Most spouses aren’t remorseful and the innocent spouses aren’t told about the affair. People usually find out about the spouses affair in an accidental way. The cheater is not sorry, wants his paramour, finally feels free to be free with his affair partner, he’s choosing the other woman over his wife. These principles discussed here can’t apply in those situations. Most cheaters are mean and completely drop their spouses and children and run to their paramour.

[@Czibs111]

Their marriage will NEVER be the same- period

[@andrearojas5084]

Yes that is true. It will be better than ever. Period

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

Shut up Andrea!

[@johannalopez7414]

Is going to be better

[@joannawert3095]

She didn't have a three week affair. It was emotional for possibly years before.

[@Coachcammiej]

So beautiful!

[@florencemutesasira5846]

Audrey truly enjoys telling the story.

[@inovermyhead2988]

Yes she does. Something about all this feels performative and opportunistic.

[@lizzylove488]

It’s apart of her testimony

[@mabelrodriguez012]

Wow! That testimony was powerful.

[@deborahrouse7856]

Such a beautiful couple!

[@bradterry9207]

I been blessed to have been married to my wife for almost 35 years but I don't think I could come back from from something like that because I don't think I would even want to salvage my marriage after being betrayed like that

[@ellenmashburn6837]

WOW! Bob is so loving and forgiving! What a Christ like mature example be is!

[@joshuasaenz1930]

Justice would have been if the husband had grown a pair, forced her to give up the sin and then divorced her, an affair is not a mistake as SO many love to call it, its a choice!

[@joannawert3095]

I hate when people call it a mistake! A mistake is something unintentional. You're right, it is a choice.

[@summerjoy247]

You never made a bad choice and realized it was a mistake? I have tons of regrets!

[@joshuasaenz1930]

@@summerjoy247 No, whenever I’ve made a bad choice I’ve known fully what I have done but I don’t go around saying it was a “mistake”, I take responsibility for my actions.

[@miltonacevedo2412]

So powerfull

[@crcb4]

Please pray for my marriage

[@electric5hadow]

The real tragedy here every cubic inch of oxygen that gets used up by Audrey’s lungs.

[@SusanSummer]

Amen Im in loss of words

[@martinasirleaf4959]

Thank you Lord Jesus for mercy

[@georgehart8989]

I’m wondering if the biological father has any contact with his son.

[@Disappointment12907]

Audrie got everything she wanted and no consequences. Bob got pain and blame. She isn't even remorseful.

[@danielleg1504]

I don’t think that’s true at all

[@JaxPeterson-di8tn]

Rationalize (v.): to try to find reasons to explain your behavior, decisions, etc.

[@manuelvalencia1543]

Sorry to disagree with all but her adultery made me sick.

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

Finally someone with sense.

[@darrellyee7260]

Why does this ministry always protect the female and challenge the man?

[@mainchannel1566]

8:00 this is part of why men are leaving the church. A woman sins, and people search for a reason to blame a man. Female hypoagency.

[@samcashdan1255]

Exactly. The church has become a feminist institution that promotes hypergamy. This man has been cuckolded and then forced to raise a kid who's not his own, or else be put to shame.

[@agentad6845]

True

[@laurens8623]

Doesn't his biological father have rights too in usa to know his son.

[@drivnpodcast2495]

I just want to know how the relationship with the guy Audrey cheated with is. Is he involved in his child’s life? What happened to the child father? I think you guys left that out and it plays a huge part in all of this. It would be terrible if they do not let the father interact with the child he had with Audrey.

[@Patriot-ki4rd]

I was wondering the same thing. I wasn’t sure that naming the child after Robert was a way to alienate the other guy, if he even knows about the child at all. Even though I feel their story is interesting I have some conflicted feelings about it.

[@mama.ashley]

I wonder this too…

[@samcashdan1255]

I mean, the guy is obviously aware of this book coming out and their story. More than likely, the wife and the guy knew about the pregnancy, and THAT's when they decided that she would come clean and that he needed to leave town. She might've paid him off to do it, probably got help from her extended family.

[@revahart]

Father to the fatherless

[@NdukuWambua]

Only God. Only God.

[@Steve-hs5le]

What about the biological father? Both of these people are selfish and disgusting. The lady for sure is disgusting,I don't hear any remorse or a repentant heart. The husband should divorce her and find a woman that doesn't cheat and lie.She will commit Adultery again it's obvious.

[@m.l.5230]

John 8:7

[@nancymackinnon3318]

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. John 8:7.

[@revahart]

Wow.

[@Marpolo14]

Ese es el verdadero amor de Dios y ser maduros en Cristo, el de 1 Cor 13, yo los veo y veo su perdón y amor

[@darkknight1938]

I couldn’t have stayed with her and raised her kid. Yes, he needs to forgive her but that doesn’t mean he has to stay with her. Her husband is biblically free to divorce and he should have.

[@emmahammond741]

Bob is an amazing man. Audrey, she just annoys me. My heart goes out to Bob.

[@sarahlynnbaxter2225]

That is so hard for both parties. Wow

[@vincentgan81able]

Yuck

[@Catt.marie.meow7]

We need more Godly men like this 😭

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

You women would love that wouldn’t you?

[@Catt.marie.meow7]

You women? I'm a woman. And we need more godly women too just like that man. More forgiving people to represent Christ and more repenting people as well.

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

No you mean “we need more men like that man” to go off and bang and get knocked up by the guy y’all really want and pin the kid on the “Godly man” like this spineless fool.

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

Don’t have anything to say now huh?

[@Catt.marie.meow7]

@@ronnyespinosa1833 That's not what I'm saying.

[@JaxPeterson-di8tn]

Rationalize (v.): to try to find reasons to explain your behavior, decisions, etc. While Bob demonstrates uncommon courage, compassion and forgiveness, Audrey receives an abundance of the attention that she so desperately craves from those who apparently cannot think for themselves.

[@mariaseppi]

is the bio father in his life?

[@mangao4334]

I thought we are not supposed to pray to the Holy Spirit but only the Father and the Son.

[@ThePolarOpposite]

8:07 I'm out

[@cissacs1]

Wowwwwwww!!

[@agentad6845]

Everyone got something but him.

[@jeupshaw]

She would have kept it a secret if she didn't become pregnant. Also it took her 3 weeks to figure our it was wrong? What a joke.

[@Lambdamale.]

Thankyou. Everyone is fawning over her. Thìs affair happened years ago, and she is still dragging this poor guy through the mud, and enjoying every minute of the attention. I read their book when I was newly married over 10 years ago, I was disappointed with her. She left me with a bad vibe. She still does...She talks incessantly, and has all her excuses and presentation very refined. She was an attention seeker back then and she still sounds like one now..

[@samcashdan1255]

@@Lambdamale. Thank you. Listening to her speak made me sick to my stomach.

[@rosserscott4376]

So where the host got it wrong, is when he said she broke the covenant. Only death ends the covenant of marriage. She violated it but did not break it. Adultery, despite popular belief is not grounds for divorce. Don't believe that lie. Jesus says whosoever meaning anyone who divorces commits Adultery. Not one person will see heaven without turning away from any sin you aren't willing to put an end to. I hope everyone can repent.

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

So if this happened to you, you would be Bob 2.0?

[@siz4sean]

You break the vows = you break the contract. A broken contract is null.

[@music0326]

Adultery and physical/mental abuse are grounds for divorce. The victim gets to decide because like others wrote - the covenant has been broken. This is biblical, it's not a command, because there are Bob's in this world.

[@hmmm2564]

You are wrong

[@joannawert3095]

Desperate to save face!

[@ferporras25]

They wanted to change the world... and THEY DID!

[@zakiahart3919]

Wow she got pregnant ...😢 they will need counseling forever.

[@Lambdamale.]

Call me cynical...I know everyone in the comments seems to love this story,, but I believe she thrives on this positive attention just as she did over the attention of the other dude. Bob needs to put his foot down, stop sharing this story, move forward, and lead a quiet life. He clearly keeps reopening a wound every time they do another speaking engagement. She made him look weak, she destroyed his reputation. He probably feels he's owed a free pass. Now that he's raising another man's child, he probably feels he is being stolen from financially every day. She had all the fun, and he got all the risk and responsibility. I've never been impressed with their story from day one..

[@focusonthefamily]

That is an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing!

[@Lambdamale.]

@@focusonthefamily I love you guys. Been listening for 20 years. Just not happy with this one. My wife and I both never liked this story.

[@focusonthefamily]

We appreciate your honest feedback, and we recognize that it's informed by your longtime familiarity with our radio work. You may be assured that we're bringing your points to the attention of the appropriate staff members for their consideration.

[@Lambdamale.]

@@focusonthefamily My wife and I read their book "Marriage Under Cover", must be 15 years at least? This poor guy STILL cries when he talks about it. He is dragged through the mud everytime he comes back on the air. He's looked at and judged as a "simp", "a beta male provider, "low status male", etc...I know it shouldn't matter what the world thinks, and I believe him a Godly man; but as I see it, he should be able to move on quietly, as should his wife. No-one will convince me she's still not an attention seeker., but she has replaced the affair with media attention. This is the last ill write about it. Thx for the interaction. I appreciate it.

[@mama.ashley]

I think I agree with you…

[@ByancaisMusical]

The dislikers are going to be sorry!

[@glenhanley9918]

You should of divorced her.

[@adriekins]

And what testimony would they have today if they divorced? Bob was counselled brilliantly and made him a noble and Godly man.

[@ronnyespinosa1833]

Who cares about the testimony, the man would be happy with some one who is faithful. Some of you brothers and sisters irritate me with your closed mindedness.

[@glenhanley9918]

@@adriekins he's a simp

[@electric5hadow]

@@adriekinsWhat testimony would it have made? That there are consequences to a woman’s sin. Wow! Look around you. Look around the freaking church. We ABSOLVE ALL WOMEN of sin and chalk it up to a man “not stepping up and leading.” The church is in a lesser place because of this.

[@michaelpatica5949]

Some, not all, of the comments are judgmental. Who is without sin?

[@phillipjoy4820]

So, why did Bob and Audrey have to drive the biological father out? They could have had him in that boy's life.

[@keithachrem2872]

She only came clean because she got knocked up by her fantasy boy.

[@hmmm2564]

This is horrible Christian theology

[@joannawert3095]

?????

[@hmmm2564]

​@@joannawert3095 it is