Pain Identity ❤️‍🩹

[@Sonicfan1661]

Oof this kinda hits home for me. I'm so used to people invalidating my struggles that I find it difficult to ask for help even from people who I know will 100% take me seriously, and I've realized that I've come to treat many of my problems as jokes/talk about them in a joking manner to cope with them, or I guess nonchalantly just mentioning something that can be considered heavy in a very much not heavy setting. Idk how exactly to 100% take my own problems seriously while not getting caught in the pain of trying to manage them. It can be rough sometimes, especially when you feel the weight increase every day while no one cares to take you seriously. Thank you for posting videos like this Milo, it helps to feel less alone in these struggles, even if there's no immediate solution in sight, just simply knowing someone else out there can grasp the nature of your pain is immensely important. I wish you the best Milo. ❤️

[@littlealphapup]

A lot of times, the things we naturally do to cope can help for a long time, but when we no longer need to cope the way we used to, those methods become detrimental-I can’t give you an answer on how to let those coping methods go, as I often still relapse into my former coping methods myself, but I will say just being aware, and wanting to change things, helps. It’s the first step in going back to normal. When I understand the rest of the steps I’ll let y’all know, but for now, I’m learning with you-I don’t have my stuff together yet, but that helps because I know others are going through it too ❤️‍🩹

[@Sonicfan1661]

@@littlealphapup Yeah the journey of learning how to not only find yourself but also manage the pain and various problems is a trek isn't it? Can get very frustrating at times not knowing the answers. I hope we all can find those answers someday, or at the very least get closer to finding them. I do believe we will someday, even if that hope isn't as strong as it might have once been, it's still there and I'll hold onto it as hard as I can.

[@MIDNIGHT_Marve]

u got this I'm cheering u on👍

[@arvurebantra7639]

I was abused for a large part of my life, and many times during that abuse, I was never allowed to express the pain it caused. This has, unfortunately, lead me to a place where I now feel I have to over act and be overly dramatic to express the hurt I've been put through. It's a terrible feeling knowing that the years of abuse put me in this place, but I also know that I am learning better coping mechanisms. One day at a time!

[@littlealphapup]

One day at a time 🫂

[@patrickfarleyii3048]

I am crying rn I needed to hear that u just made my night so much brighter. ❤️

[@TheF0xGamer1]

For everyone that is going through this I have an few things for you You are valid You are amazing And take care

[@pozhiloy_d-class5192]

There are so many motivational speakers who can't convey even a half of what Milo conveys in a 1min video, over the course of a multi-hour speech.

[@littlealphapup]

Wow thank you 🥺🫂

[@Level_Foxtrot]

I have a friend who lives in the UK and is autistic, he has told me that he gets bullied by his family and people at school, and he doesn't have a dad to be with him, only his mom and brother who both bully him everyday. Today, he told me "i don't know if I can go on like this", he told me it was too much for him. I talked with him telling him how much I do care for him, he was crying the whole time. He does have one irl friend at school, he says that they both get bullied at school. It's sad for me to think that it could've been the last time he talked to me, but he eventually settled down and stopped crying and hanged out playing and watching some stuff online. He thanked me for talking with him.

[@Finn_that_trans_therian]

You’re so inspiring. You’re the reason that I get up in the morning. Thank you so much for giving me all these motivational quotes ❤

[@ZevSkyfall-de7hp]

Sometimes when I’m struggling to do things I think about how issues are affecting me, but then I think about the stuff some of the people around me are going through and it just makes me feel like I’m making excuses for being lazy or whatever, and it makes it a lot harder to accept the fact that I have a valid problem. Also, thank you so much for being a source of hope and inspiration for so many people. You are such an amazing person ❤️

[@Alastoraltruice]

For me its always me who tell myself that my problems are not valid so i am kinda ruining myself by myself and i dont know why am i not able to stop it

[@little_winter_star]

that was... deep... man i wish i know the pain of the other, so i can help them, and cure this damn feeling ; - ;

[@TheDragonsDarknessGaming]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today so thank you very much Milo

[@gamerwolf209]

your videos like this really hit me in a good way, making me feel better in ways that videos like this that are from others dont, probably because of the type of music and your voice, they just help make me feel safer and more comforted. keep up with these type of videos because im sure that your making others feel better too

[@IorekByrnison086]

Best and heartwarming message. Thanks. Happy 2024.

[@Ace_Valley]

Thank you I've been struggling and this, your videos help me with my pain, to tell me I'm not the only one, that I, that we can get through this, and thank you so much Milo really I mean it, your an amazing person, and I know that you are going through some pain as well, and I hope that all of us can heal and get better together, thank you Milo

[@Lanndadwella]

Thank you for this, agh crying burns ngl xD

[@cybernetic-ram]

its rough. i cant say much more than that. my arms still burn.

[@UpTheIrons12]

You’re right

[@Nowhereman-dk6ew]

Thank you.

[@travisretriever7473]

I wish you the best in your healing too.

[@possessivekiller6337]

Thank u milo my friend 💙 as my father has said u cannot look at the past, as a car furry I am he put it in a sense that I'd understand "son, stop looking the the rear view mirror that's your past. Pay attention to what's ahead of you and never look back cause it'll hurt u if u do, what infornt of you is what matters not your past."

[@Lightning_Wolf567]

I never talk about the amount of pain I'm in until someone starts getting close to me, problem is they normally leave after that

[@FluffinWolffox105]

Damn, I needed to hear that. I do that way too often

[@offender0]

I used to cure my pain by drinking. My diet no longer allows me to do this :/

[@Kalel_The_Protogen]

this is so sad to happen to people

[@keeshuunedited5678]

I caught myself kinda doing this recently. Growing up was kinda bad. used to just shove it all to the side to pretend it didn't happen and completely forget it all so I wouldn't overthink it for hours becoming more depressed. It made bad habits, so in 2023 I was feeling really great feeling like nothing could shatter my emotions anymore because I was so happy, so I figured I'd try to tackle all the bad habits, and realized a lot of them were from childhood stuff. Then kinda accidentally "broke the dam" of emotions I was hiding for a long time, and it was very very hard to shake off all those feelings. I'm just glad I recorded so much footage of hanging out with friends I care about and they care about me now to force the emotional part of the brain to realize that hey, it's not bad like it used to be. Though as I was getting over it, I realized I kept bringing it up quite a bit since I felt the need to vent it out. Still not 100% vented out, I forgot how much hate and distrust I had growing up because of the people I was surrounded by growing up, really feels like a different world compared to the good times with friends the past few years before 2023. I don't think I've ever needed to vent a single topic so many times before. It's a one time thing to remember why all those strong negative emotions were around, so I feel like I'll be very strong emotionally in the future. I will definitely remember this experience when talking to friends about their issues in the future.

[@Voltagenix]

Yeah its understandable why people magnify the things they go through to even sometimes extreme lengths just to get a point across because you feel like if you didn't they wouldn't give the same respect or care you really need

[@codaman127]

You are a wonderful soul. I'd love the chance to share a good conversation with someone like you, it takes bravery to speak up about one's struggles in life in such an open way, and I look forward to seeing how things look up in your future. Pain is a burden tailor fit to everyone. While understanding the pain another feels is often a difficult task; Empathy is something we can learn to have for someone struggling in their life. We don't need to walk in each other's shoes to help shoulder each other in times of need, and in time, the burdens of life grow a little lighter as we carry more of the life we've lived in the meantime. It takes time, but it gets better.

[@SkyTheWriter90]

Our pain is not what defines us, it is only a part of us. What has happened in the past, should remain in the past and not let it consume us. It took me a long time to apply this to myself We can hurt, we get hurt, but we can make ourselves stronger ❤

[@BrandonCroker]

Bless this wise bean

[@bloosher03]

I mask everything, I don’t show emotion, and don’t tell anyone about my pain, I just put on a semi happy face in front of everyone meanwhile there’s a war inside my head, I don’t know if its good to mask it or not, but the moment I’m away from everyone I just breakdown in anger

[@GooseGooseYT]

Thank you. I love you so much. You help me feel better about myself every day. Thank you.

[@kaidenbenavidez1629]

I'll try

[@gabriel_wolf2007]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@primaldragon240]

I cope with pain thrugh venting and mooving on but i hold onto the past im trying to look more into the futer and the furry fandom helps alot i used to hate new year now i like it i look forward meeting new fursuiters vra and more

[@H3RM3S_The_Proto]

Well I have a personality, but I have a lot of unresolved issues. Lot of them. Unfortunately I don't think they'll ever go away completely, the knife went to deep, and broke me. Sometimes I feel like a broken doll, people are interested in me because I'm "scary" and because I can understand they're pain, but one day they throw me on the side like they found me I'm sorry Milo, you didn't deserve me dumping this on you, hope you can forgive me, because I feel so much better.

[@SliverFox2027]

Love you too bro.

[@BaumatronYT]

It’s always a good day when my boi uploads

[@dotter8]

Okay, thre's my New Year's REsolution for 2024.When smebody talks to me, I will open my ears and shut my mouth. I will pay attention to what is being said to me, even if I don't like it. And then I will try to hear what is meant by what was said.

[@SarneyIsTrying]

Honestly, all my problems seem like first world problems to me. I always want to make my mission to help others first cause it seems their problems are a lot more difficult so I help them out the best I can. Then I get burnt out and feel like my problems are coming back. I just feel selfish for thinking of them in the first place.

[@memesalldayjack3267]

I've had my pain invalidated a few times, I've been pushed away when talking about it, so i started acting as if i wasn't in pain to be fair, some people really will complain but not put any effort towards getting better, i don't wanna be one of those it's easier to change when getting help yes, but you can still seek help without showing that you're in pain, specially now with KZbin and stuff, but even without it, it just takes some creativity to get people to say what they really think not everyone who talks about it actually gives good advice tho, but when you see so many different sides talk about it, giving so many different takes, you should be able to have a good understanding

[@spyninjaxDEATHWOLF]

This is a cute little video ❤ ❤ = LOVE ALL FURRYS

[@mioleokan110]

Well sometimes i think im re#€%€d but i think i can't move on from that

[@Súby_Official]

This is hella true

[@Freakyminosprime]

Dawg if I could go back in time and prevent myself from going through pain identity I'd do it without a 2nd thought. That shit sent me into a case of insanity until some communist revolutionaries bless their souls came in and gave me the support I needed and let me form other relationships other than parasocial ones.

[@johndoe-nf1ty]

:hug:

[@crimsonfilliu]

I call myself a loser

[@n0etic_f0x]

This is true, I kind of just leaned hard into the irony of it all. If I am going to be called a demon then I will just be a demon... who bakes cookies and chili and gives it to needy people... even though I have nothing. But I know the power went out and "stole" all this ground beef some store tossed out, and now I have 47 lbs of chili... what am I going to do with that? I could just give it to other hungry people... yeah. Don't overthink this. I could just give it to hungry people. that is why I have it in the first place.

[@JustFoxingAround]

I make my pain into jokes

[@Atlasandvicinadoart]

I cried it was so meaningful than you Milo ❤

[@salmanbaig3983]

Thanks, now i thrive as a developer, feeling the needs to go

[@WeebsArePathetic]

Hmm honestly extremely solid advice and I'm curious how you developed your emotional maturity since you sound like you're in your early 20's or something. That being said I can't really get a sense of someone's psyche from one or two videos alone, but it's always refreshing to see things on the Internet that are actually correct especially when it comes to mental health issues.

[@DarkWolf-lz5xf]

My boyfriend and I get bullied by a group of kids at school because we're gay and we're furries. They call us homophobic slurs and stuff like that. It has been going on for three years now and it's only getting worse. Him and I have talked to counselors about the bullying but the school just doesn't care. Last Saturday my boyfriend and I were at the park just minding our own business and the bullies saw us and started to call us homophobic slurs. We ran away because the bullies were preparing to attack us. My mom reported it to the police and they started an investigation on the incident. I just don't know what to do anymore. My boyfriend and I are tired of the discrimination that we get from the bullies.

[@MIDNIGHT_Marve]

So pain identity is basic exaggeration and the need for others? I never heard of this but thank u for letting me and others inquire of its existence so we can point it out (Edited)

[@ЕгорБорисенко-с5я]

What IS "making pain your identity"? I heard that a few times and tried to google it, but i wasn't able to find the definition...

[@crimsonfilliu]

There's something wrong with me

[@KimThompson-o1u]

What game is this

[@greasycheese8095]

Ahhh too late :3

[@ludwigquegnet5220]

too late

[@MarkS-i5k]

Thank you my friend 🙏 I always sit there and give me answer that's pretty happy😊🫂❤️‍🩹🐾😇

[@MarkS-i5k]

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[@MarkS-i5k]

💯🫂♥️🥰 my name is blush ❤️‍🩹🐾

[@MarkS-i5k]

😮 wow hey could read my mine he's really good that's why I like to talk to him he just like a friend 🌠👍❤️‍🩹 thank you Alpha pup

[@MarkS-i5k]

😮 wow hey could read my mine he's really good that's why I like to talk to him he just like a friend 🌠👍❤️‍🩹 thank you Alpha pup

[@MarkS-i5k]

I am so sorry I didn't know to be a stupid how to cook makeup to you Alpha pup I made myself an idiot can you set my apologize I am sad and I tell you I miss you I'm trying to get the thing so worse than it does make sense stupid person p hope you can never understand I'm not going backwards I try to go forward onion person is you Milo😢🙏☕☕❤️‍🩹🐾