Parent cuts sons locs as discipline!

[@orangezest5501]

Dude he robbed the identity of the cancer kid he bullied at school. Father is absolutely right correcting his son.

[@esthers9122]

Absolutely right punishment!

[@theindomitableblackman]

@orangezest5501 that's... that's not what happened yall doing too much. Kids pick on other kids especially if they have parents that do it as well. And judging from the fact that the dad mocked his son and recorded it, the kid def got his bullying behavior from his dad... the fact that yall can't understand that is baffling to me.... especially as someone who was bullied all throughout school.

[@Insaenz3318]

So bullying a cancer patient is fine cause this has been around and he was legit bullying a kid with cancer and you’re saying that is doing to much? Say it was your child who was the patient he picked on would you still have the same stance, honestly?

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@Insaenz3318 if that's what you think I'm saying, then believe what you want. If my child was being bullied, I'd still hold the same stance because I understand behaviors. It's my job. I'm educated in this and experienced in this. Bullying behavior is a symptom of something deeper. Cutting his hair won't fix that.

[@ha.6215]

​@theindomitableblackman if that kid was bullying those who suffer because he thinks it funny, Lil bro needs some character development anyway.

[@RobloxGab983]

He was insulting a kid with cancer in school, that is why he was making him bald so he can feel what the kid that has cancer feel

[@theindomitableblackman]

Right... and it's still a dumb consequence...

[@NOTTApro142]

​@@theindomitableblackman what would you rather do? Cut a kids hair or make them go through chemotherapy as a punishment? Kid made fun of a sick kid with cancer, if they really wanted to hurt him they would make him go through chemo without having cancer

[@theindomitableblackman]

@NOTTApro142 I have this really awesome thing called a brain and it allows me to do other cool things like create, teach and learn. I can teach my kids through non violent methods on how to treat people. I could make him use his money to buy the kid something and make him give it to him in class. I can explain what cancer is, Cuz odds are, he probably doesn't know fully. At the end of the day, two wrongs don't make a right. You can learn how to teach kids differently, regardless of what they've done

[@sarebear1592]

Guys a meat head his kids are probably menaces to society lol

[@Themostdef100]

@@theindomitableblackmanyou’re the epitome of being pathetic.

[@kittydiann7043]

That boy wasn’t having no damn breakdown! He was having a tantrum. He was bullying. Good job, Dad!

[@TheRhonda1974]

Well said.

[@ocodeskamcdbsm]

Don't say that, apparently we can't hold kids responsible for their actions because kids will be kids. This child knew exactly what he did and understood it was wrong, so good on Dad. Filming it to show others that bullying should never be tolerated and brushed off as kids being kids. Too many people are letting kids away with bad behaviour because they did it as kids. It wasn't acceptable when they did so why should it be acceptable now.

[@GioReyes-yp7sj]

Your so wrong you don't even know the story

[@StizzyDeMf]

@@GioReyes-yp7sjalright then tell us the context, I’m trying to defend the dad, and if you say there’s more to the story I’d like to read it

[@GioReyes-yp7sj]

@@StizzyDeMf well the boy in the video wasn't bullying a cancer kid, another kid was bullying the kid in the short the kid defended and hit him and the bully acted like he fainted so he got in in trouble the school checked the cameras and the bully got in trouble L dad through it wasn't the kids fualt

[@donnadonovan2790]

I bet he won't bully cancer children again.

[@AndyLechner]

Father absolutely right

[@carloslopez-er2yj]

That's what bullies get

[@theindomitableblackman]

Bully behavior is usually rooted in trauma or an unmet need.

[@Levi_Ackerman12200]

@@theindomitableblackmantell me with no excuses. Does usually mean 100%

[@relaxfarms6627]

@@theindomitableblackman Let me guess... you have a child who bullies people, this is why you accept this child's horrible behavior?

[@mermaidwanders240]

@@theindomitableblackmanor a really spoiled child who always get what they want or has never been disciplined right.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@mermaidwanders240 uhhhh... most bullies come from structured environments. Stop assuming the symptom and look for the root cause. Bullies don't have to be from non disciplined households. As a teacher the bullies on campus had bully parents

[@NOTTApro142]

Nah, this dad was conpletely in the right here. Parents nowadays don't do shit worth of disciplining their children. This kid made fun of a kid with cancer. This guy argues thay cutting this kids hair "takes away part of his identity" but whos Idenentity was damaged more when then kid with cancer, had to shave his head, and couldnt do the things he loved because he got cancer? Add insult to injury then they get bullied because they have cancer. This kid got it light. If I got caught bullying the kid with cancer I would be put through chemo regardless if I had cancer or not. This kids hair will grow back, and he will learn his lesson so he doesnt turn into a peice of shit like the rest of this generation

[@theindomitableblackman]

And when his hair grows back and he still makes fun of the kid... what now? Gonna cut it again? He probably won't care. What if he makes fun of other kids. What then? This kind of punishment isn't sustainable and doesn't teach. It just makes you out the victim feel better temporarily, but doesn't fix the issue.

[@NOTTApro142]

@@theindomitableblackman maybe you are right, he might not care, he may go back, but when he goes back to school he'll be laughed at, maybe even shunned for a little bit. That may keep him in check for a while. I work with horses. Big, strong, proud creatures. They have a herd hierarchy, if some horse started picking on an older and weaker horse, that horse won't get to eat for a while unless he is the biggest baddest horse in the field. But eventually, he will earn his spot back. This could take as little as 15 minutes, or months. Similar with children. I can already tell this kid ain't tough, because he has to pick on the the kid with cancer. Any decent kid with good virtues wouldn't let that happen again, and once enough kids catch wind of that, he won't get to do shit. He won't get to sit in his spot, he won't get to play on the playground, he won't get to really do anything fun with anybody. Dehumanized. But this will help the kid learn a lesson, I've seen it throughout my years. He will regain his spot in the school, and people with forgive and forget, besides the poor soul with cancer, but along with the fear of being outed by society, and getting his hair chopped off, it may help him learn that actions have consequences, not only at home, but at school. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong, I am open to opinions

[@theindomitableblackman]

@NOTTApro142 I work with kids... I specialize in behavior modifications and students with disabilities. I can tell you definitively, what the dad did will not do what he thinks it will. Many wish to fight fire with fire, but that doesn't work in this case. The kid probably doesn't even know what cancer is. Teaching him is better

[@NOTTApro142]

@@theindomitableblackman I agree.

[@MrArron1357]

​@theindomitableblackman if the kids continues to do it after his hair cutting then we proved our point nothing else worked so off to prison with the little fckr or untill he meets a bully that ruins his face for it

[@Beauzesta]

This kid was throwing a tantrum. That ain’t trauma. That’s a kid dealing with consequences. That’s why the men in my family grew up right - they got disciplined

[@theindomitableblackman]

Yes, he was throwing a tantrum... he was getting a 3yr commitment cut off... I would do similar. And the men in your family probably just learned how to suppress their emotions... and now this isn't to say that I'm not advocating for discipline, just not hitting

[@Beauzesta]

@@theindomitableblackman ha. Respectfully, you’re wrong about the men in my family.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@Beauzesta I'm also indifferent...

[@supernek0]

​@@theindomitableblackmansir where is your brain???

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@supernek0 in the same place where yours should be...

[@susanh1447]

That wasn’t a breakdown, it was a tantrum while still lying. Kind of like people when they get caught driving drunk.

[@TheGODISWarrior]

Exactly.

[@sienkiewiczmonika1161]

That wasn't trauma, it was temper tantrum.

[@theindomitableblackman]

It was a traumatic event, and his reaction was in response (that you call a tantrum) to that event

[@spikegamez4715]

@@theindomitableblackmanthere is such thing called a over reaction, getting you’re haircut while not wanting it too get cut won’t make it a traumatic event.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@spikegamez4715 sigh... sure

[@AW-ln7us]

​@@theindomitableblackman again the kid made fun of a classmate fighting cancer. He's lucky he didn't catch a wooden box. Take this video down and if you don't know all the details, keep your mouth shut.

[@Jahtutson]

He's going to grow his hair out again and this will be forgotten. Trauma is remembered and damages people. An @ss whooping will elicit the same reaction, and the child will think twice about acting up next time. Not a trauma.

[@knightrayjack]

That kids was being a POS to another kid with cancer, if you think this was ruthless to him because of how he reacted its cause he fucking needed it. his father recognized that fact. His hair will grow back., the cancer kid may not live to see next year. Kids need a large measure of discipline to learn about life. this kid needed what he got.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Cuz cutting his hair will teach him... instead of ACTUALLY teaching why this shouldn't happen. How tf you gonna bully and bully and think that's gonna stop bullying? Yall thinking is so backwards. Imagine walking around with unhealed trauma that you pass on to your kids... couldn't be me

[@oceaniamonarch5404]

Thats not fvking bullying...Thats discipline ​@@theindomitableblackman

[@LambChop92]

@@oceaniamonarch5404 no, it's weird...even more weirdo type stuff to put on the internet where people love to hate our hair and probably get a kick out of seein a child cry while his is forcefully cut off...use yo brain fool...we live in a world where we have new laws protecting our hair, because it's part of who we are...people love to tear us and our culture down and it's some people dumb enough to give them what they want all on video to see...unfortunately our own people love to see us hurt seems like just as much as the rest 🙄🙄

[@Soulsmusic1931]

​@@theindomitableblackmanTraumas only exist if you identify with something, if you identify with your hairstyle, let's say something happen to you and you are not able to keep your haisrstyle or don't even have any hair left, that would be act of God, would you say then life bullied You, you are only ebing bullied cuz you identify with something that is not permanent, even our lives are not permanent..

[@jweezytrick666]

This whole generation is soft as newborn baby shit. Thats why this new generation of kids think they can do whatever want with no REAL reprecussions. Kids nowadays think discipline is taking away your phone or taking away video games. Making them do chores? Please, thats borderline child abuse already.

[@pjras9361]

Dad was absolutely within his authority to cut that hair! Perhaps they can use the clippings toward a wig that can be made for a cancer patient.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Or make him work extra chores for people and use that money to give to the kid with cancer

[@Kylefromairdrie]

​@@theindomitableblackmanso he can just pay his pay out of anything? That seems like a great thing to put into the mind of a child. 😂😂😂

[@theindomitableblackman]

@Kylefromairdrie give the money... to the kid with cancer... to pay his medical bills... so the kid is sacrificing something they worked hard for... to make up for an offense... you're... you're not that bright, are you?

[@Kylefromairdrie]

@theindomitableblackman you aren't either if you can't see that it just shows him he can pay his way out of things

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@Kylefromairdrie... no... that's not what would happen. I swear it's like arguing with flat earthers...

[@Vixen2a9]

Correct me if I'm wrong here, but did this dad not do this because the boy was bullying a kid with cancer that had no hair? If this is true, I'm all for the "factory reset" dad is instilling, that hair will grow back and hopefully a respectful manner too 🤷‍♀️

[@theindomitableblackman]

Let's assume it's true. What happens then if this same boy goes back to school and makes fun of that kid with cancer? Immediately, the punishment he received is invalid. Why? It didn't teach him anything. It punishes but doesn't teach. The goal should be teaching empathy to make him, within himself, not want to make fun of people. But past that do we ACTUALLY know he did it? Or is that what the dad heard without hearing what he had to say about it? In which case, this punishment would be invalid. In essence, all consequences should be sustainable, ethical, teach a lesson that deals with the root of the problem and related to the offense.

[@ijvylvillaflores4711]

​@@theindomitableblackmanI think after experiencing that the kid probably will not bully again if the dad had a talk with him while going home

[@ijvylvillaflores4711]

But that's just my theory

[@Fireflies-ly1xn]

​@@theindomitableblackmanonly the devil , a soulless person would be punished for hurting someone and they go back to do it regardless of the punishment.. that's a psycho..a sociopath..

[@Fireflies-ly1xn]

​@@theindomitableblackman we need strong black men to discipline our children so they stopped ending up in prison but your softness troubles me and I wonder what kind of discipline occurs in your house? Does the Golden Rule apply ?

[@KiTA-]

Bro st.fu, that kid was BULLYING a cancer child. That kid's imagine is being taking away from them and they are fighting for their life, going through something traumatic and this child had the balls to bully them for that? His hair will grow back but that cancer child's road will be way more life changing than a simple hair cut.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Oh yall, just wanna see revenge. Not healing... oh ok...

[@TheGODISWarrior]

@@theindomitableblackmandude this kid isn’t old enough to make his own decisions on how he chooses to wear his hair. Thats the problem with kids today, they get to make to many decisions on their own. This dad did just what he needed to do to teach him a lesson about bullying a sick child that lost their hair to cancer treatments. I see you didn’t speak up for the child being bullied…..You’ll raise a child to run all over your sensitive ass. Grow some balls and stand up like a man.

[@garysmith2413]

Listen to me young lady, he's totally a good dad, you sir are the reason that our black people in such a bad condition. His hair will grow back or not. Let's see if the bullying stops.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Young lady... lol that's rich. I know this may go over your head, as most intellectual things might, but the concepts and principles that the colonizer passed down is what's keeping black people in such a bad condition. Not me telling parents to show empathy, compassion and teaching instead of always punishing with non sustainable punishments. Because, guess what, THE SLAVE OWNERS DID THIS! It didn't work. We still ran away. We still fought back, we found ways to do it behind their backs.... but don't take my expert word for it... I'm just a young lady... 🙄 lemme know how that retirement home treats you

[@fosterck13]

Hasn't he disgraced his heritage and culture by doing what this child did?

[@borke42]

​@fosterck13 maybe if it had ANYTHING to do with culture or heritage, then yes. But in this regard, no, its just hair

[@fosterck13]

@@borke42 I think you missed my point

[@cowgirlkaylyes]

​@@theindomitableblackmanThat kid was bullying a cancer patient, idgaf that shit was probably the best punishment he could learn a lesson from

[@pree2507]

Mad respect for the father.

[@michaelmiranda4615]

He was bullying a kid with cancer. He had it coming, and the fact that you don't see the logic in this punishment a sad. That child may be gone in a few months. This boy may live for 60 years.

[@theindomitableblackman]

The fact that you're OK with doing this to a child further proves my point that yall just wanna see people in pain. Yall don't care about ACTUALLY seeing change. Just pain. Imagine being so sad and full of trauma that you wish on kids. Couldn't be me.

[@NicholasShannon-pr3ml]

“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves them is careful to discipline them.” - the child wasnt physically harmed, and the fact they are having a hissy fit over it is because they dont like dealing with consequences. The child doesn't need to understand what cancer is as to why you don't mock someone going through cancer treatment, in the same way he doesnt need to really understand what murder is to know not to murder someone. Better the Dad administered the consequences of the kids actions to him than someone else. or no one. Discipline and consequence have their place.

[@theindomitableblackman]

All harm isn't physical. Correction SHOULD be administered, but this wasn't it. It was a slapshod attempt to satisfy the dad's own desire to be seen as a good father while causing his child emotional and mental harm for something kids do normally. This was ineffective and won't stop him from picking on kids

[@oceaniamonarch5404]

I bet you it will​@@theindomitableblackman

[@CJM7373]

This isn't trauma, this is a tantrum... and something that will not be forgotten when he wants to bully others.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@CJM7373 it's a stress inducing situation... which is called trauma. Learn about the brain before you say things

[@Bubbygumfly]

Man , that kid wasn't traumatised he was having a tantrum , spoiled rotten to the point he makes fun of a sick kid for being bald. You right , he might still make fun of the kid but he sure as hell gon be doing it with a bald head also. You wanna act like a nasty little scumbag? Get treated like one

[@chrysallis2014]

His hair will grow back. The child with cancer he bullied may not live for their hair to grow back. He wasn't having a traumatic experience, he was having a tantrum. But I bet he never bullies another person again. Dad of the century.

[@shelleygibbons1065]

So the child who had cancer and no hair deserved to be made fun of . That is not their identity Dad wanted him to empathize and learn

[@ElevatedwomanofGod]

He TRAUMATIZED THE CHILD WITH CANCER! Actions deserve consequences and this will teach empathy…walk a mile in the child with cancer shoes! WAY TO GO DAD!!!

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@ElevatedwomanofGod and so traumatizing a kid will stop that? Maam... that's not smart. Literally, two wrongs wrong make a right.

[@angelsuafel3576]

​@@theindomitableblackmanJohn Wick: CONSEQUENCES!!!

[@flipkickzzz]

Lmao if you think this dad is wrong then you are part of the problem. Kid makes fun of another kid for being bald due to cancer... So you cut his hair so he knows what it feels like. That's just justice. I bet the kid won't do it again.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Ah yes... justice... something the west does well... cept or concept of justice doesn't correct the issue, it just makes people more sneaky. I'm interested in stopping it at the root, and cutting his hair isn't the root, it's the symptom. Teaching him what compassion is and showing him another person's perspective, is... cuz bullying a bully, or getting revenge doesn't stop bullying

[@bryanelliott6679]

He was insulting a kid with cancer for being bald, you are absolutely a good dad for letting him see what it feels like. Dont have kids bruh 😂

[@tabitha9636]

It sure does! Good job dad! That kid will never again fix his lips to talk about someone else's hair. Pain is not the enemy, it is a teacher.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@tabitha9636 yall clearly haven't worked in a school... he'll be alright for like 3 days

[@yo-yo9663]

Good thing it’s not your child and it’s not mine.

[@Dajosada]

You are internalizing because you ARE traumatized watching the locs being cut off. This father was absolutely correct.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Actually, no... its not comfortable to hear or see. However, objectively, this was dumb and it isn't sustainable

[@LifeOfAnAwkwardOreo]

Dude it’s been months and no one agrees with you. Seriously. If everyone is telling you that you are wrong then you are wrong. Stop replying to everyone and just reflect on yourself.

[@Maizie_hepburn27304]

Ok so a kid who lost all of his hair from CANCER was literally BULLIED for his decease that he cannot control which that alone would feel like someone taking away from your identity, and I think this dad was trying to put himself in the kids perspective of the cancer kid by cutting his hair, and yes it may seem like it’s apart of your identity taken away and it may be apart of YOUR culture but this dad does this to HIS kid because HE feels it’s right…. Like if u agree 👇

[@theindomitableblackman]

Right... and it was wrong and stupid. Both things can be true at the same time.

[@mustytophat2307]

​@theindomitableblackmi know u aint got no kids

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@mustytophat2307 you ain't read the other comments in this video...

[@itsmecelinau]

Imagine that same reason for the child he bullied for cancer. He males fun of someone eho lost thier hair to cancer so now he loses his hair for being a bully. Hes a cry baby

[@theindomitableblackman]

Cuz bullying a bully works... 🙄 God forbid we look deeper into a CHILD'S behavior to see why he was bullying him to begin with and fix that. Nah let's just inflict the same damage on him. That'll teach him... yall need healing before yall have kids.

[@dozydoe5245]

@@theindomitableblackman Kids now-a-days are too tough for the "feelings" talk cause that's corny as shit, especially when this one is so far gone that they make fun of a kid with cancer. Gentle parenting isn't gonna help when the kid'll just make fun of you too. Kids have so much potential for evil and cruelty and its even worse when its the trendy thing to get clout for being an asshole. At the very least this bully learned two important things. There's always a bigger fish punching down and he's not the hot shit he thought he was.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@dozydoe5245 you're making a lot of assumptions without looking at a few things. All ALL behavior is communication. Behaviors don't exist in a vacuum, something always preceeds a behavior. And children aren't evil, they're learning and react to the stimuli in their environment. I am not telling anyone to get down and be all permissive and give them a feelings talk. I establish boundaries, expectations, and related consequences. But my consequences deal with the root behavior to end the tree of offense they have. In this instance, I would take him to a cancer ward, introduce him to people with cancer, we would go learn about cancer, so he can see exactly what he's doing by making fun of it. Then I would make him work by mowing lawns, doing extra chores or whatever and make him donate that money to the kid he bullied's medical bills. I taught him a lesson, he learned compassion, and he did an action to correct the harm that he did.

[@weiyang6417]

offended soft people crying abuse.

[@Fireflies-ly1xn]

I couldn't have said it better .

[@tedsavage3850]

For real it's fucking hair like get over it you big baby

[@TalesoftheRescueRoad-gf9fm]

what?! identity comes from character not clothes or outward appearance .. hair grows back... he is making him understand what he was teasing someone else about, being bald ... the difference is he isn't dying, just acting like he is

[@theindomitableblackman]

@TalesoftheRescueRoad-gf9fm he's 12... his identity is being formed by the experiences he has. Please, yall study childhood developmental milestones. It's available online for free. Cutting hair is not an effective means of correction. I would ask who's teaching yall this, but I have a clue

[@ameiliabarrett7840]

Please don't bring your rastafarian religion in this plz, Children grow locs for reasons outside of being a rastafarian, get with the times please.

[@theindomitableblackman]

I'm not rasta... I grew my hair reason outside of religion... way to treat us like a monolith

[@junior9526]

I’m terrified of what your children will grow up to be if you think this was abusive/excessive. I’m all for what the dad did and applaud him for his actions. Not only would I cut his hair but fun of any kind would be a thing of the past for a very long time. Don’t like consequences? then don’t be a shitty person, pretty straight forward..

[@theindomitableblackman]

You have to TEACH kids how to be decent people. Tf are yall on? And teaching includes instruction and practice not just punishments. That's why prison doesn't work. Yall are weird

[@Lemonboy2001]

@@theindomitableblackmanYou have a point people do just want to see pain. Revenge that will bring them temporary pleasure without thinking about if it will actually benefit anyone in the future beyond that. It’s hard to explain but I get what you’re saying.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@Lemonboy2001 Thank you! Like bullying is def bad, but so is the revenge we want. If we want to ACTUALLY change it, we have to deal with the root

[@Enigma_files_]

He was bullying a cancer kid for losing hair he got that coming

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@Enigma_files_ I would say I'm surprised by these comments, but I'm not

[@TheGODISWarrior]

@theindomitableblackman You have a problem and that’s why nobody is agreeing with. So if a man is bullying your wife, you gonna try to talk to him and let him disrespect you as well? Yeah, you will. Oh soft ass

[@glutenfreesandwich]

Him screaming "I didn't do nothing" shows he clearly saw nothing wrong with bullying someone with cancer. Sometimes, it takes an act of cruelty to understand and realize your own. One of the kids who bullied me into transferring schools ended up killing someone in high school, their victim took their own life because they couldn't take the cruelty. They're no longer allowed to be on social media as a result. Pretty sure he lost an appeal claiming his first amendment rights were violated, but it could just be small town rumors. If his parents had appropriately punished him for what I reported he did to me, maybe that girl would be alive today. What I'm trying to say is, if approving of this punishment is abuse, consider me a monster.

[@theindomitableblackman]

No.. no it doesn't. You can teach people without cruelty. Yall are just so used to cruelty being the normalcy. It's not normal. You have to teach, and be consistent

[@glutenfreesandwich]

My apologies in advance. I know a yappchino wasn't ordered, but I felt like it might be a different perspective worth sitting and sipping on.

[@TheDevilmade]

Theirs no excuses for what he did to a kid that bullied a kid with cancer so as far as I'm concerned I'd have done same so you do better and stop your kids from bullying like this dad in the videos did

[@theindomitableblackman]

... so violence stops violence? That's crazy...

[@TheDevilmade]

@@theindomitableblackman no he didn't beat his kid nor mentally idk who taught y'all but you want violence be raised getting a spike belt to your backside

[@gage4g]

Now he's going to know what it feels like being bald. His hair will grow back.

[@Soulsmusic1931]

If your identity is based off of hairstyle, you need to learn a lot more about life, taking everything for granted is not good.. What if aomething happens and you are not able to keep your hairstyle or let alone have any hair left what would you do then, we can't even guarantee our next breath.. Creating identities only divide people not bring them together..

[@siggishwiggish]

kid's lucky he has a dad that cares.

[@theindomitableblackman]

I reckon yall don't know what care looks like...

[@siggishwiggish]

@@theindomitableblackman with all due respect, that is care.. so many kids lacking a father who is even there at all, let alone willing to do the hard work of disciplining them. kids will scream bloody murder to avoid punishment. Stevie Wonder said it right: "doin' my best to bring the water to my eyes, hoping it will keep her from whippin' my behind.." That dad knows his kid way better than me or you. His hair will grow back, and if he's smart that will be the last time he acts the bully.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@siggishwiggish that's called trauma... the craziest thing is about it is that we relish and glorify hitting children and harming them. It's like this weird right of passage like hazing. There's a much healthier way to do teach empathy

[@siggishwiggish]

@@theindomitableblackman I agree, it is trauma from the kids' perspective. anyone who knows anything about kids knows that something interfering with him getting his way will be considered trauma on some level. his dad knows him better than us, and knows what he needs, and knows what it takes not only to get his attention, but what it will take to restore him as well.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@siggishwiggish I was saying this earlier, as a teacher in a public school, as a registered behavior tech that's worked extensively with parents, they don't... its actually very sad

[@terrellspain5118]

Man every comment I read everyone saying that's abusive how in the hell hair don't define you especially if u acting up u ain't got no business doing

[@TheGODISWarrior]

I haven’t read not one comment yet saying that was abusive, oh except for the guy who posted it

[@kaylarobison8254]

Read about half of these comments and the creator of this video is not getting it at all which makes me so mad

[@theindomitableblackman]

I get why yall are upset, yall can't see how what you're upset about and condoning WON'T change his behavior. It's a waste of time and energy as soon as he makes fun of someone else. Yall can't fathom that the issue isn't that he made fun of a person with cancer, it's that he made fun of someone as a result of his own upbringing as kids model behavior. It's lost on all of you that you can't use violence to stop a bully... they thrive off of chaos because their own mind is chaotic. The only thing you can do to effectively stop bullying, is to teach him empathy. Educate the boy on what cancer is, how it affects people, make him earn money from doing chores, and donate that money to the child with cancers medical bills or to buy the kid things. THAT is how you can effectively teach your child something different. The fact that yall can't conceptualize basic concepts in behavior makes me mad... yall will look up ANYTHING ELSE except stuff that can ACTUALLY help you. It's ridiculous

[@vectwon9797]

Homie thats a 5 year plan. He got his point across in 5 mins. Aint nobody got time for that

[@theindomitableblackman]

@vectwon6767 aaaaand that's the problem. Yall don't wanna invest in your kids. Yall just want immediate results at all costs. That's why kids are a-holes now. No consistency, no training. Just punishment and abuse.

[@vectwon9797]

@@theindomitableblackman you say things like you know it for facts. How do you know he hasnt already tried to teach or doesnt do that along with this immediate discipline? Its like grounding or taking allowance away. Its a form of discipline but whos to say he didnt also talk to his son to explain? Teaching comes in different forms. You should know this. Not every kid is gonna learn or be disciplined the same way

[@theindomitableblackman]

@vectwon6767 Actions speak louder than words. I can look at a person's actions and determine what led them to that do that action. The dad recorded his son's humiliation. I get how this LOOKS effective, but it's really not doing anything but breeding contempt. And he's going to make fun of other people.

[@AguiarMelwyn]

Didn’t know the child’s ancestors were Danish?

[@veaton77]

This child will learn that there are REAL consequences to his actions/decisions. This gentle parenting BS has created a generation of entitled kids and this father has given a punishment commensurate with the crime of bullying a cancer patient child with no hair. If the child does NOT learn his lesson in actions = consequences after this then further counseling or teaching may be necessary to correct this behaviour and increase levels of empathy. If nothing works, psychological examination would be the next step.

[@VINOMUSIX]

he made fun of a kid with cancer at school…

[@thomashong3005]

Do you have a child...if so, what would you do if your child has cancer and some kids bully him everyday... that father did the right thing in my opinion.

[@gavinsnook4071]

I bet your kids are bullys

[@katiehiggins68]

I get you think bullying a kid with cancer is perfectly okay - he was bullying the other kid because he had no hair and kept going and going and going, and he kept not caring so the only thing that would get him to see what he was doing was wrong, was to basically give him a taste of his own medicine. This wasn’t a “he bullied once and this is his punishment” thing. This was after a very long time. Hair grows. His hair will come back. The kid with the cancer might not ever grow back. You can’t defend bullying if you did not see the original post and judge someone when you don’t know all the information. This kid literally made another kids life even more miserable!! If you really think someone who has cancer and is going through chemo can also live with someone who is bullying him then I’m sorry you are not a nice person. This kid was told to stop. This kid didn’t care and he continued to bully him because he had no hair. He didn’t stop. So he got a taste of his own medicine and had his hair cut off once to know how the kid he bullied feels. His hair will grow back. The kid with cancer? He may never have hair again. Stop defending bullying.

[@theindomitableblackman]

As an ELA teacher, I know reading and listening comprehension in adults is often that of a 7th grader, but yall really gotta do better... if you think me saying that bullying a bully is defending bullying, you lack critical thinking skills and really need to do some self reflection on your last 12 years of school. I never once said being a bully was OK or that the child didn't deserve a consequence. If you watch my video and read the comments I've written, you'll see my only issue is the way the boy is being punished, which will not fix the issue...

[@katiehiggins68]

@@theindomitableblackman As a registered nurse, saying I am basically dumb makes you extremely shallow, especially for an “ELA teacher”. The fact you made the video COMES ACROSS as defending a bully, specifically this bully in the video. You are defending the bully in this video. For an “ELA Teacher” you seem very illiterate. You made the video to defend the bully. How would you punish a bully who bullied someone who was already going through a tough time?

[@theindomitableblackman]

@katiehiggins68 Ma'am, what YOU took from what I said doesn't make me shallow. It just shows that your comprehension could be lacking. It's ok, though. Most adults have a 6th to 7th grade comprehension level. We have interventions for that.To your point, I'm not defending him. I'm focused on a long-term, sustainable solution. The boy is being bullied by his dad, who went out of his way to record him being humiliated and posted it online. That is bullying. That would imply that this boy's bullying behavior is a learned behavior. To correct it, first, the dad would have to not be a bully. Second, if it were me, I'd take him to an oncologist so they could explain cancer and cancer treatment to him. Then, take him to speak with survivors or those undergoing treatment. Then, I would make him do chores to earn money, and that money would go to that child's medical bills. This gives a consequence as well as builds compassion. Yall are hell-bent on punishing a child instead of teaching a child. If I had a brain tumor and I complained about headaches, you're not gonna give me Tylenol. You're going to get rid of the tumor, which is causing the headache. In much the same way, as a teacher AND a behavior technician, I deal with the root that causes the behavior to either change or extinguish said behavior.

[@DollHouseMadam]

You are seriously overusing the word trama. Kid is a brat and lucky he got off easy.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Or maybe you're used to trauma so you can't recognize when trauma is actually inflicted. You chalk it up to being considered a brat because that's what's normal to you

[@DollHouseMadam]

@@theindomitableblackman well the crocodile tears, lack of acknowledge of wrong doing and that he was actually screaming like he was dying .. yes brat seems to fit. And when it comes to trama, getting your arm blown off in war is trama. Getting your hair cut off doesn't even come close. People are just soft overall anymore. So any hardship is seen as trama.

[@borke42]

​@@theindomitableblackman Life is trauma. Existence is trauma. The more you deal with something, the better you can deal with it. Trauma is inevitable. You can either be prepared or get rocked by it. If he's this traumatized by getting his hair cut, it tells me he has a cushy, untraumatizing life

[@theindomitableblackman]

@DollHouseMadam imagine calling a child, soft. What sort of normalized trauma have you been exposed to as a child? Smh

[@theindomitableblackman]

@borke42 well yes... he's a child. We shouldn't want a child to be exposed to that. If we can help it. But we certainly shouldn't be causing it. ESPECIALLY if there are other, non traumatic ways to teach.

[@barrythechopper]

His hair will grow back; don't be so dramatic. He made fun of a kid with CANCER!

[@theindomitableblackman]

"Don't be so dramatic" says the person ok with cutting a kids hair for making fun of a kid... with cancer. Cuz that'll teach him not to make fun of kids and get caught. He's gonna do it again.

[@kobeshaq1320]

bogus asl...he gon end up hating them

[@daniellegodinez6648]

He made fun of a cancer kid. They probably can’t get their hair back but this kid can. It’s not abusive he better be glad he wasn’t slapped or whipped.

[@theindomitableblackman]

You saying it's not abuse, doesn't make it not abuse. The brain cannot differentiate. So... you're wrong. And if you want to teach a kid compassion, you have model and be compassion. He probably learned bullying from his dad

[@daniellegodinez6648]

First, you can’t just assume his dad is a bully. Bottom line is don’t bully and he learned his lesson. If I got my hair cut off because I made fun of a cancer patient, I would never do that again. We have different opinions but don’t tell me I’m wrong.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@daniellegodinez6648 it's not an assumption... its evidenced by the fact that he's humiliating his son, mocking him and posting it online... he's, by definition, a bully... you're objectively wrong.

[@daniellegodinez6648]

@@theindomitableblackman I’m not wrong. I can see where it’s humiliating for the kid to see this but at the end of day the kid still bullied a cancer patient. Bullying is serious and if you think the dad was bullying the son then you don’t know what bullying is. I have bullied. I have been slammed into locker and made fun. I have been betrayed and bullied from my best friend and that sent me to a dark place and I WISH I had my hair cut off instead of all the things I went through. That kid is a bully and a bully is going to be treated like a bully. That’s it.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@daniellegodinez6648 I also have been bullied... incessantly. I also grew up with those bullies and knew why they were bullies... then I specialized in behavior and noticed a couple things. 1. Bullies don't exist in a vacuum, as bullying is a learned behavior. 2. Most bullies are bullies by their parents, first. And again... do we want the kid to not make fun of cancer patients or others in general

[@ashb7514]

Why do people keep getting on the internet humiliating and invalidating their children's feelings. We often forget children are humans with emotions just like us. Cmon dad. You could have just given another punishment that doesn't involve traumatizing your seed, like 100 push ups, squatting against the wall for 30 minutes, taking Electronics and special privileges away for a while. But this wasn't it. He should be ashamed.

[@milklander847]

It takes a hard lesson for this child to understand, such wimpy methods don't help

[@cosmokramer7009]

Imagine that kid reacting to hospitalization and chemo.

[@AvoidConfrontation]

Nah cs cutting his locs off is crazy

[@TheGODISWarrior]

A kid on a wrestling team had to cut his hair.

[@connieunderwood-moore7006]

How do you think the little boy who had cancer felt. That's not abuse. That's the consequences. Hair grows back

[@D3ViiANT]

That was absolutely disgusting. That's not a punishment... Thats horribly abusive. What lesson did he learn exactly? That his dad is a garbage person? Smh.

[@leroyjenkins6809]

Literally shut up, that’s not abuse. He’s just cutting his hair.

[@charlievalentine2220]

So bullying a child with cancer laughing at the fact the child is bald because of cancer is ok the dad it to show hes child how it feel to be the way that child with cancer was with no hair its not abuse it holding he son accountable and I bet you hes son will never bully someone with cancer again its not abuse at all

[@clarenzlerios8203]

Should the dad praise and tolerate what his son did?!?! And not correct his ways?!?!?!?!!!! He did the right thing inorder for his son to learn to respect other people!

[@theindomitableblackman]

No he didn't ... it was trash. You don't teach respect by being disrespectful. You correct by modeling and TEACHING compassion and respect

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@TheGODISWarrior Thank God we have our kids in controlled environments so they can be trained BEFORE they get into society proper. You sound ridiculous...

[@TheGODISWarrior]

@@theindomitableblackman you sound ridiculous. You can train a child love but once they get older, some will choose their own path. Right or wrong? It’s called self will….

[@theindomitableblackman]

@Time2Talk618 obviously, however the way human behavior is set up, if you can meet a need, they won't seek to get that need met through anti social behavior.

[@TheGODISWarrior]

@@theindomitableblackman 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@suzipc6228]

Good on the dad for teaching his son a lesson. Some people thinks it's abusive but the child's will grow again and the child has been taught a lesson

[@ladym2398]

OMG! How horrible! Take his Playstation for a while but his hair? 😥

[@ijvylvillaflores4711]

He bullied a kid who had cancer

[@Habitation2023]

You don't trade a trauma for a trauma. Plenty more ways to discipline this child.

[@TheBlackJello]

Bro out here acting like hair doesnt grow back

[@theindomitableblackman]

So then why cut it off right in the first place?

[@Gunni4091]

This is absolutely the correct way to discipline him. He bullied and harassed a cancer patient who lost her hair due to treatments. If you're gonna make fun of someone for being bald, you need to walk a day in their shoes. Your actions have consequences, and he found out real quick. He told him why he was getting the hair cut off, and what he did wrong. He addressed the root issue wonderfully. That kid FAFO'd real quick.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@Gunni4091 And so if he goes to school the next day and says, "At least my hair will grow back" what then?

[@Gunni4091]

@@theindomitableblackman That's when you take all of the things he loves most in life and you get rid of them.

[@Gunni4091]

Does he like games? Toys? Favorite show he likes to watch? You ditch 'em.

[@theindomitableblackman]

​@@Gunni4091 I mean, better...? But let's focus on preventing it from happening, initially.

[@shegocodes5006]

Bro he’s didn’t “not do well in school”. He made fun of an innocent cancer patient 🤦‍♀️

[@theindomitableblackman]

... so he should get his hair cut? I'm trying hard to get yall to see that all behavior communicates a need or learned behavior. The kid's dad is a bully, friend... that's where he learned it from. He probably doesn't even know much about cancer

[@shegocodes5006]

@@theindomitableblackman well looks like everyone in the comment section agrees. Good day bro 😎

[@theindomitableblackman]

@shegocodes5006 and the majority of adults in the US has a reading comprehension level of a 7th grader... I teach 7th grade... It's bad. So an ad populum fallacy is still a fallacy...

[@BHamela]

Find out the story before you speak! The only thing tantrum and traumatized have in common is they both start with T. Learn the difference!

[@theindomitableblackman]

Take a developmental psychology class and gain 10 years of extensive experience working in childhood behavior before talking to someone who does.

[@peng_edits]

In this case its lesson need to be learned! Its not abusive, his hair will grow back while the other kid may die! The only abusive thing is to post it online.

[@theindomitableblackman]

... and to cut his hair... both of which are ineffective as punishments

[@hoitlygtlio]

He cut his hair because his son bullied a bald cancer patient for being bald. Maybe you should do better?

[@mustaphaabid3602]

i like how most people here agree with the dad and i do to

[@theindomitableblackman]

Too*

[@Laura-yj4ql]

That was a full blown tantrum, not a "breakdown" bc he was losing part of "his identity. "

[@Fireflies-ly1xn]

Thank you.

[@melvinwilliams6951]

He's his father him having long hair is a privilege given by his parents it's not his right. At his age his parents control his appearance that's what's wrong with children in this day and time and gives them a false sense of entitlement. In my day just for questioning and acting out with the screaming would've got me a whooping! We have to teach children that they're are consequences for every action NOT DOING SO IS SETTING THEM UP FOR FAILURE! IT'S HAIR IT'LL GROW BACK!

[@skyedouglas9843]

Bullying a kid with cancer isnt just not doing well in school Its being a horrible human being Imagine how the child with cancer feels facing death, facing toxic medication, facing life threatening surgery and then going to school to get picked on by someone who knows better but just wants to be cruel. Cutting this kids hair off like this is hard on him, but not as hard as what the other kid is going through and not as hard as it would be if this kid caused someone to unalive themself

[@theindomitableblackman]

.... the kid is like 10-12... do you really think he understands the ins and outs of cancer? He probably just saw that he didn't have hair and made fun of that.

[@heathercmarie3]

Do not agreed with you! it will grow back. The cancer child HE was making fun of for having no hair, prob won’t! Props to the dad!

[@theindomitableblackman]

And if he goes to school the next day and makes fun of him again... what's dad gonna do? Cut his hair again? Seems counter productive. Yall just sound like yall were bullied as kids and want revenge.

[@0-..Shameless..-0]

The amount of people that think that this is the right way to discipline a child is baffling to me. Humiliating a child on social media and shaving their hair is such a strange punishment. There are better ways to punish a child. This child is probably only going to be angry and fear their father, there will be no empathy and compassion learned.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@0-..Shameless..-0 I would say I don't get it, but I do. People don't critically think past their experiences or trauma, so this seems perfectly appropriate

[@oceaniamonarch5404]

🤷‍♂️.....Mind you I bet the only reason his hair is kept is because his parents pays for it......Its alot places locs are not permitted..... Soooo what are we saying here?????? ...Its privilege if your parent allow you to grow them under their roof.........Now let him become a grown man without putting dignity in him now,HIS DADDY WON'T BE ABLE TO SAVE HIM FROM ANOTHER GROWN MAN WHO DONT GIVE SHITT ABOUT HIS LIFE BECAUSE HE LACKED HUMILITY AT THE WRONG TIME....

[@mattmeadows6568]

His dad IS his history. It was a fair punishment. Kid sounds like he needs more punishments.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@mattmeadows6568 No... no he doesn't. He needs guidance. Teach your kids not to hit below the belt. Kids make fun of people. Teach them consideration, compassion (which so few of yall have), and empathy so if they do make fun of others, it's out of fun, they can recognize when it goes too far and how to apologize so it doesn't happen again. It's all about building skills

[@mattmeadows6568]

​@@theindomitableblackmanoh I have compassion. It's why children need discipline. They need strict and fair punishments. This is so they don't grow up to be gangsters and thugs. Kids do not mean it when they are forced to apologize. I can agree that recording it was wrong but the 24/7 recording of life is just how things are now a days.

[@ricksanchez-qx5zz]

Ain’t this the kid that bullied a kid with cancer ?? If so then bang on

[@musica3958]

Play stupid games win stupid prizes. Kid was so damn prideful about his own hair he bullied a fucking cancer patient… not even abusive aint nothin hurt but his pride. Good job dad!

[@theindomitableblackman]

@musica3958 it's def abusive and ineffective, and the dad is also a bully.

[@dannymac3806]

Well better teach you kid about action and consequences early before they get in to the real world

[@theindomitableblackman]

That's the point

[@loziaussie123]

Daddid really well. That was a tantrum.

[@dadbodnsquad7780]

He made fun of a kid with cancer. He got off light. And that’s coming from a dad. Good job Dad!

[@theindomitableblackman]

@dadbodnsquad7780 is it that he was bullying? Or bullying a kid with cancer? Cuz isn't the plan to get him to stop bullying people period? And since when does bullying a bully stop a bully? Cuz he's just gonna talk about someone else and not get caught... then what? Cut his hair again?

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@dadbodnsquad7780 like if he made fun of a person that lost a parent, are you gonna take one of his parents?

[@dadbodnsquad7780]

@@theindomitableblackman bro you’re making hypotheticals that have nothing to do with the video. The kid was bullying a kid with cancer. So he got his hair cut off. The punishment fit the crime. The dad isn’t traumatizing his son, he’s teaching him a lesson.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@dadbodnsquad7780 that isn't sustainable. Are you gonna cut his hair off again if he does it the next day? This hasn't taught him anything. I literally change kids behavior that do way more than make fun of people

[@dadbodnsquad7780]

@@theindomitableblackman The other kids aren’t his problem. His kid is his problem. So yes, it’s is sustainable for his household.

[@efrijim700]

Shut up. That's not at all abusive.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Sir... not only did I post this video a year ago, but I've shut up numerous times since then... also... make me

[@losangelz5047]

This kid’s hair will grow back .. but the child with cancer may never grow his again.

[@muneybravo7419]

My dad did that sht to me back in the day only difference is yall didn’t see it on the net yall getting soft out here that sht will grow back he could’ve done way worse some of yall don’t have kids 🤦🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️😂

[@theindomitableblackman]

@muneybravo7419 he shouldn't have done this. Tf is it going to do to change his behavior? Homie could go to school the next day and Crack on the same kid. What you gonna do then? Cut his hair again? What if he makes fun of other kids? What if yall at least, AT LEAST, teach him how and who to Crack on? Like for my generation, we had limits, teach him limits, teach him what cancer is, there's so many other things you can do that would ACTUALLY change his behavior for the better. This ain't it. This some slave master bs

[@TheGODISWarrior]

Exactly. Kids cry all the time when they are getting their hair washed, blow dried, combed, braided or cut. This kid is just use to throwing a tantrum to get his way but dad didn’t let him have his way. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@muneybravo7419]

@@theindomitableblackman I feel what you saying I got all types of beatings including cutting my hair always gotta find other ways to punish kids than what I got or most of us got but I turned already mentally not stable but I’m managing 💯

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@muneybravo7419 I got shot by my pops... but I don't want us to manage. We can do so much better than that. We can thrive. Instead of punishing, how can we prevent that behavior from the jump?

[@muneybravo7419]

@@theindomitableblackman sht that’s fkd up bro but that’s a good question I need to know cuz I’m raising kids now and I don’t beat my kids or nothing like that only told them they couldn’t have a snack or something but yea idk

[@celi412]

Life is about making choices and learning to live with the consequences. Either he educates his child or the world will.

[@TasteBuds0213]

So bullying a cancer patient kid is ok and disciplining is abusive? We are doomed!

[@theindomitableblackman]

If that's what you think I said or implied, yes... we are doomed.

[@JohnathanShellhouse]

Bro he bullied a kid that's fighting for his life against cancer

[@nrdas8912]

After many years of my 9 year old son having shoulder length hair I punished him by buzzing off his hair on the #1 setting. It backfired on me. He rubbed his head and said wow this is great. Then for a week he was telling everyone he wished he had known how good this was. Now three years later he self buzzes his head like clockwork on the first of every month. His mother hates it but he loves not having to think about hair.

[@theindomitableblackman]

That's kids for ya

[@borke42]

Did it really backfire though? Thats one less head of hair to worry about. Bet he can shower much faster

[@delanorrosey4730]

I shave my hair on #1 setting for summer and #2 for winter. And yes, it does feel great. If I want long hair, I'll get a wig and style it. I can change colors with different wigs and not have to worry about all that hair care products.

[@ArmandoG2013]

the bully got bullied & learned a lesson, better now than ass kicking later, if that child can find no empathy for a another kid suffering from cancer then a lesson must be learned and if you believe a haircut is trauma, your the problem - Vote for him as father of the year

[@theindomitableblackman]

You're* and you have to teach empathy...

[@Jahtutson]

What does this child know about his ancestry? Did you even find out what he was being punished for? You are doing a whole lot of putting a parent down, but what is the whole story?

[@lmaree200886]

This boy made fun of another kid that had no hair because of cancer & this is him having a tantrum. This content creator is so rude and arrogant to anyone who doesn't agree with him that this is trauma & not a punishment induced tantrum 🤷‍♀️

[@_Everywhere_everything_]

Okay, theres a part you are not understanding, That kid was getting his Head shaved, because he bullied a kid with cancer, and his dad taught him a lesson! The reason he was having a tantrum or as you call it “a breakdown” is because he didn’t get his way. thats not a breakdown, thats a tantrum, And Taking a part away from him? Thats pathetic. Literally pathetic, a part of you is your personality, That kid could grow his hair back, but that kid with cancer, Might not and might die, You cannot throw sand at a kid and cannot throw a tantrum when you Get in trouble, And also you and me have different opinions on what “Abuse” is, Abuse is hurting someone, Physically and mentally, And leaving them with trauma, what the dad did was Nothing abusive, it’s called keeping your kid in line! The kid was throwing a tantrum because he wasn’t getting his way, While you say what you want, I’ll say the facts.

[@theindomitableblackman]

Oh my friend, I'm very VERY well aware of what happened. It does not justify cutting off his hair and that consequence is ineffective as soon as he makes fun of someone else or he grows his hair back. It's a pointless endeavor. Just teach him compassion

[@_Everywhere_everything_]

@@theindomitableblackman Teaching doesn’t always work. The kid got taught a lesson, and the dad made him feel how the kid with cancer, at least shaving his head he’ll think twice before making fun of someone who could possibly die from a deadly disease, it’ll teach him that “Hey! If I do this again, I’m probably gonna get the same consequences!” And he’ll stop doing it. It’s tough love.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@_Everywhere_everything_ kids are naturally impulsive... he'll do it again... then what're you gonna do? Cut his hair again? Are you only upset that he made fun of a kid with cancer? What about other kids? If he made fun of a kid that lost a parent, should you take one of his parents to teach him a lesson? What's another way you can teach him compassion without causing the same trauma?

[@_Everywhere_everything_]

@@theindomitableblackman can you please stop trying to slip away from the conversation? He made fun of a kid with cancer. And paid the price! Please stay on what he actually did instead of slipping away and saying stuff that hasn’t happened, i want to talk about the subject, not any other, this subject. And yeah, kids are repulsive, but they all get their punishment! And like I said, THIS ISN’T CAUSING TRUMA!!! This is teaching a lesson, And are you so sure he’ll do it again? maybe He’ll actually think before doing it. You didn’t listen to anything I said. That is very clear.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@_Everywhere_everything_ trauma is any stress inducing situation. My friend, human behavior and childcare is my field of study and area of expertise. I work with kids worse than this and changed their behaviors without hitting, yelling or causing any form of harm. You're getting to justify abuse to end abuse which doesn't actually work in the long term. Get your healing before you come talking about things you know very little about.

[@champcee7]

Bro you are so soft. It’s hair, it grows back 😂

[@theindomitableblackman]

So then why cut it?

[@pamelarudinsky8208]

lol “I didn’t do nothing” imagine if he really didn’t.

[@AnthKdd]

WTG Dad. I bet that child will never make fun of someone again....

[@massiepro8392]

Great job Daddy, every parents in America needs to know how to teach their kids a lesson rather than beat them up or yelling.

[@theindomitableblackman]

... yyyyesss? But this also doesn't need to happen. Yes, teach a lesson, but what's another way we can teach it.

[@hawkspirit8021]

This isn't a way to treat a kid, if my wife is upset with me, that give her a right to cut my hair? no. same thing with kids

[@theindomitableblackman]

EXACTLY!!!

[@MamiTT237]

You! Are not a child… although! You all tend to act like that sometimes. Sometimes a child don’t wanna take a bath, brush their teeth, do their schoolwork… does that mean we should not intervene! My husband is a barber.. he has plenty of these kids… they are just fine when they leave his chair. Walking off happy with an ice cream cone. They forgot all about it. Shutup lol

[@hawkspirit8021]

@@MamiTT237 not all kids forget about it though

[@MamiTT237]

@@hawkspirit8021 A haircut??? I can think of MUCH more traumatizing things! Oh my GOD! What in the weak World is going on!??

[@hawkspirit8021]

@@MamiTT237 that's called gaslighting and if you do it too much to your kids it could affect the relationship, and that won't be their fault

[@ryanvalley7018]

Bro your the problem. You do better. Dad was in the right.

[@theindomitableblackman]

You're* Also, the father was wrong. There's a better way to teach your kids.

[@heavonliisoul]

If you have no clue why they did what the did is your issue. This child shamed another child who have cancer is the biggest issue. Dad may not have recorded this but someone else may have for their personal enjoyment or likes. This dad saw that his son loved his hair more than respecting those that are unable to defend themselves. This dad did the right thing because I'm sure they had this conversation before this extreme decision had to be made. The child is merely crying while lying about his behavior and why this is happening. I guarantee you this child will never bully any NE again! Great job dad and the guy talking please hush and raise your own child how you see fit!

[@theindomitableblackman]

@@heavonliisoul so behavior is behavior. It doesn't matter who the victim is. If you want to end the behavior, this isn't gonna do it. He's going to do it again to someone else and do it in a way to not get caught because the root issue wasn't addressed. And as I said on other comments on here, the dad is also a bully and is modeling bullying behavior

[@masonn111]

🗣️I’m pretty sure he won’t be bullying no one again as long as he’s living under his father’s roof. That’s what you call a mental wake up call when you hold a child responsible for his actions, and not let them get away with it. Great job Dad!!😠

[@theindomitableblackman]

@masonn111 can you think of anther way to teach him the same lesson without cutting their hair, yelling, shaming, or hitting?

[@masonn111]

@@theindomitableblackman NOPE!! That's why children are so out of control nowadays because of discipline tactics that parents do not do. Another reason why our boys are so soft especially since spanking your child has been taken away. Like the Bible states " SPARE THE ROD AND YOU SPOIL THE CHILD." Also, boys that age should not be throwing a tantrum...that shows discipline has been spared in that household, so maybe that explains his bullying~~Just my opinion!🤔

[@theindomitableblackman]

@masonn111 As a former Bible teacher, biblical Hebrew scholar... the Bible doesn't say that. That's from a poem called Hudibras... which was written in the 16th century and it's about marriage. The scripture you're thinking of is in Proverbs 13:24. He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently. The rod is a shepherds rod that wasn't used to hit, but to poke and guide and to pull the sheep to safety. And discipline in Hebrew literally means instruction. In other words, guide your kids, not hit them... Furthermore, Kids are out of control today because parents are usually very authoritarian until their kids stop responding to their aggression, the parents give up and become permissive. Not knowing the way you have to raise your children is by literally teaching them and getting them to think critically about their actions... but clearly since half of yall are having a hard time with that, based on the comments in this KZbin video, I can understand why others can't do it... smh. Discipline isn't the problem in this house. It's ineffective discipline. You can't bully your child into not bullying. He'll only model what he sees.

[@masonn111]

What I said is in the Bible, it's just not word for word...same meaning just elaborated. You show love to a child (that goes without saying) and with the combination of love and discipline I feel you won't have as many problems with that child. I received one spanking in my life along with love from my Mother and Father and never ever received another. The Bible holds true to the word.

[@theindomitableblackman]

@masonn111 ... no... no it's not, friend. It's from a poem written in the 16th century... they're not even related in context. Also... Proverbs is a book of poetry... it includes exaggerative language. For instance, it says an immoral woman's words are sweeter than honey and smoother than oil but her feet go to sheol. It's not meant to be taken literally. The scripture you're referencing is referring to instruction. The very word for Rod, shevet, is used in psalms 23. That same rod comforts. In reference to a shepherd, as it's used, it's talking about a staff used to poke sheep and guide them or pull them from dangerous position. A shepherd wouldn't hit a sheep. The sheep wouldn't even really feel it anyway. Please read scripture with a historical and literary context. Each book of the Bible is to be read on a certain way due to different authors using different literary devices and in different historical time periods.

[@user-ux2qt3hi3d]

Cutting off the vanity off the child, cause he was bullying another child's hair loss due to cancer. It has nothing to do with heritage or identity, but everything to do with his hair, locs or whatever getting to his head and causing another person more trauma on top of trauma.

[@megane376]

Dads have their own way of giving Life lessons.. And his way may not be cool but doesn't kill the kid's humanity or confidence. precious locs vs bullying isn't a fair trade.. To him it's a big deal but to life it's just a memory. Like this vid .. it will be just another clip ❤.

[@donnaprince9109]

Man it's not that serious. He bullied a child who was bald due to cancer. That wasn't trauma, it was a tantrum.

[@theindomitableblackman]

It was def trauma. Your definition vs the brains definition are 2 very different things