PARENTING ADHD Tip #6: "ABC" Parenting Hack for ALL Your Kids || Homeschooling ADHD

[@daniellemnvlogs]

I NEEDED this so badly today. It's been a rough week or two in our household. I love your advice!! ADHD is so hard but I am very thankful for it. My son and I are both growing and learning patience together :)

[@ProjectHappyHome]

+daniellemnvlogs, I feel the same way - nothing has helped grow ME more than my son's ADHD. Thanks for the support, my friend!

[@pradnyabhagwat1505]

Dear Tanya, Can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve done and shared with the world. God bless you.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Aw, what a kind message. Thank you. 💚

[@cassandraschultz1231]

This might have taken me 5 years to watch this, but wow was it at such the perfect time !!!!! Thank you thank you thank you!!! It's been so hard and you've honestly been the most helpful I appreciate you so much. You went through it and could have kept all this to your self, but instead are helping me and my son and thats the best thing I the whole world to me so I just want to say thank you again and I hope you and your family stay blessed !!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Aw, thank you so much for this kind message. It made my day. Happy holidays!

[@loriobrien1246]

I have two kids with ADHD, and one of them (my red-headed Irish lass) is also very strong willed with dramatic diva tendencies. Needless to say, basic every day things here are a challenge. I battle my own frustration constantly. This will help! Thank you!

[@AR-do1rr]

I have a grandson that has been diagnosed with ADHD... Thank you for your insightful tips. God bless you and your family.

[@MomofTwo]

Wish I had words to convey how greatful I am for this video... specially the thought that they will grow up soon ..they will learn ..we just suddenly expect them too behave as adults n hence loose tamper ...we need to remind ourself that they Re still kids n one day they will get..the adult stuff .

[@ProjectHappyHome]

I agree entirely - I keep reminding myself that they are brand new creatures, just feeling their way through this incredible yet often frustrating world. Patience, patience, patience. I wish I had it always, but alas! At least we're all trying our best!

[@HeatherNations]

This is so needed. This week has been so hard. My child with anxiety/spd (pretty sure ADHD as well) and I have been butting heads a lot this week. I should know these tips all ready since I myself have anxiety and ADHD! But when my anxiety and his anxiety meet it can be not so relationship-building as I would like it to be. Not. At. All. Thank you for the reminders!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

+Heather Nations, I hear you!! I have a little ADD and a lot of anxiety, and I often chastise myself for my harsh behavior toward my son when he has a meltdown. Adult meltdown meeting kid meltdown makes for ugly interactions. But owning up to our momentary failures and apologizing goes a long way. Thank goodness! I’m becoming an absolute pro at apologizing. Which reminds me to do more self-care so I can do better next time. It’s a daily, ongoing journey towards a more patient heart. I loved that you took the time to share - helps me feel not so weird! Thank you!

[@from1mom]

Just found your videos and they have been a great encouragement. We just got an ADHD diagnosis for our 5yo and it's been HARD. We are doing it and getting better systems in place, but I'd be lying if I said there weren't lots of tears...and not just his!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Hi and welcome! I hear ya - I feel like I'm on the same journey of a few steps forward, a few steps back. I'm learning to embrace the notion of imperfect progress - so long as we keep moving the line forward, hurray! And, belive me, I've cried so many tears. Mostly over my own inability to control my emotional reactions to his emotional reactions. Mature, right? But we're all trying with love in our hearts, and that's the important thing. I wish you the best on your journey with your child!

[@AshleyDawn5871]

This was a wonderful video, Tanya. I needed it more than you know. We are on our mid-morning break right now and I feel better equipped to get back to it now. Also, thank you so much for being honest about your struggles. I have woken up everyday for years wanting to be a positive/peaceful parent and I fail so often; I almost never hear other parents with this outlook admit to their failings. It is SO refreshing to hear another parent say that this is a decision they have to make over and over again, every day, every interaction. I sometimes feel like other parents portray that they decided to be peaceful, and so it was. Which leads me to feel like more of a failure than I likely am. Thank you for validating the experience that I think most of us have.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

+Ashley Miller, I am sorry it's taken me forever to respond. I so appreciate your comment! I agree, sometimes I feel as though I must be the only mom in the world who loses her temper and lacks patience. Honestly, though, I think a lot of us are in the same spot - wanting to parent peacefully and consciously, but being human at the same time, darn it! I've only just recently come to the realization that this is an ongoing process of growth. I hope that all this practice makes it easier to maintain my balance and calm, kind of like riding a bike. Always great to hear from you! I hope this year is going well!

[@CreatingEssence]

Thank you for this beautiful, gentle admonition and encouragement. Such good advice. I am totally guilty of the, 'Quick, quick, quick,' flow that gets my sensitive kiddo really in a funk at times.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Yes, curbing my own impatience is one of my biggest challenges. There's the healthy deep breath and the annoyed one, and I'm still trying to master the healthy one. On day at a time, right? Thanks for watching!

[@RosalindWilliams]

So helpful! Thanks for being transparent. I AM THERE..strong willed child. I'm doing the ABCs

[@ProjectHappyHome]

I was a strong-willed child, and I think mine have all learned from me, lol! I'm reading a great book to my kids now called "A Guide to Understanding Parents" - and I love pointing out how parents have issues! We need the kids to do ABCs with us as well. :)

[@wendy8617]

So helpful! So nice to hear someone talk about exactly what we are finding difficult and positive ways to manage. Thank you

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for taking the time to leave a sweet comment!

[@danielleblakelydesigns8619]

I just recently discovered your channel and I am very grateful for it. All of the information, advice, etc is so wonderful. Thank you.

[@badkitty3169]

Thank u 💜. I feel nothing has really worked with my youngest, I so needed to hear this.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

You are so welcome. Progress over perfection - and all the tiny shifts count.

[@courtney8911]

Love your approach and realness

[@adrianaraina5505]

Omg! This hit home for me SO much! Thank you for being so honest about your struggles, and for sharing your acquired wisdom. I have tried these methods individually, but never all together. Our oldest has ADHD, and Asperger's (he'll be 17 in a few months), our daughter will be 13 in a couple of weeks, and she has ADD and also has sensory issues that I would consider very similar to Asperger's. And our youngest who is 10.5 yrs old has Cerebral Palsy and developmental delays. Sometimes it's easier to deal with the medical differences that I can see versus the ones that I cannot. *Lol... I hide in my walk-in closet when I'm feeling overwhelmed by my kids. They would just come and find me in our pantry as it is also our laundry room and garage entry. Thank you for the tips and support!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

+Adriane tntzmom245, closets are good! Actually, brilliant. I think my kids might think I was abducted by aliens. I'd love to hear more about what works in your house for maintaining calm and respectful interactions. I love how we all learn from each other here on YT. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment!

[@PamelaFletcher]

Lol yes we are all weird in our ways. Great video, not just for parents with kids with ADHD, but parents in general, good job mama! 🤗

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks so much!

[@jitkumarikhatri6630]

Yes... This is Very struggle time... I have son adhd he is 3years...this video is knowledgeable mam you are great...

[@ACommonLife]

Great advice, Tanya!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks, my friend! Loved your last video!

[@melaniecolwell4933]

hey love this video! my daughter has ADHD and is 5. and i totally hear you! one of the things you mentioned was the hyper emotional we are struggling with this especially during transitions (like leaving a friends house) do you have any suggestions for this?

[@ProjectHappyHome]

It's funny that you ask this! My middle child has similar anxiety with transitions and new experiences, and I just posted a video on some games that have really helped calm her anxiety about this. Check out my video on My Early Learning Box games. I also find it helpful to give them all time countdowns - like, "15 minutes to getting in the car," "10 min," "5 min," "2 min," etc. And I usually announce at least 5 times to get them good and prepared. It's silly, but it works! Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment!

[@tanejapreeti]

You are my lunch time companion Tanya. Your videos help me to deal better with my son.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks for the kind words! Check out understood.org for more helpful articles - it’s my lunchtime reading. 🙂

[@TicketToLearning]

Thanks for sharing this!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

+Balanced Vitality, Thanks!

[@srinivasaraovandavasi4218]

Hello Tanya, thank you for helpful video... one technique i can share is never resist any request from ADHD child. you can say either it is not available at this moment or give a rationale. It works...

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Good tip! Thanks for watching and taking the time to share!

[@rebeccaclark5652]

Definitely need to remember this.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

+Rebecca Clark, thanks so much for watching! Me, too, lol!

[@TheCookingChronicleswithIngrid]

Great Advice Tanya!!! Thanks for sharing! You also look very pretty ;)

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks, Ingrid!

[@Anchorhomeschool]

I wish I could give this video 10 thumbs up 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼. I love everything you said! This is the best most inspirational video I've seen in a long time!! 💜💜💜💜💜

[@tonyameadows9042]

Anchor Homeschool, Me too!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks so much - this totally made my day when I first read it, and now again! We're all in it together with our mini-incredibles!

[@Serramar0984]

I needed to hear this ....thank you

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Sometimes I listen to it myself when I’ve been more ornery than normal, lol. Thanks for the kind words!

[@thycauldron]

You are just so wonderful!

[@juantao846]

Great tips! Thank you!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

You are so welcome!

[@ClassrooomUnbound]

Thanks for this! I am going to try your parent hack for my kids. I have tried the hand on the shoulder thing and have found that to be very effective. I just need to remind myself to do it!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Ditto! It's my responsibility, and I forget so often! Thanks so much for watching!

[@Lelybee85]

Great advice!

[@suzannegundlach]

This is really encouraging...thank you, it's been a rough day. :-)

[@divert4abit86]

Great video. Love the advice.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment!

[@donnaharwood3925]

Thank you again!! So helpful. Bless you.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks so much for watching!

[@tiffany7698]

Thank you!

[@stevestevens9203]

You seem like a nice person and I appreciate how you opened up this vlog talking about how you look at things differently for all your children. Can I ask - how is it that smart people think this is some sort of brain disorder when there is nothing biological that points to that? Or should I say tenuous at best? Why do we persist on advancing that when there’s nothing that proves that?

[@ProjectHappyHome]

You’re mistaken. There is ample evidence to support physiologic differences in ADHD brains. But far more significant than the cause is the way we approach children with differences in cognition and behavior. If you don’t want to label it, that’s fine - if you are adjusting your behavior and expectations to meet the child’s best interests.

[@MaryumRiram]

Thank you for advice

[@ProjectHappyHome]

You're welcome 😊

[@Investigativebean]

Boy am I glad to have found your channel!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Aww, thanks!

[@Lovingmeintheinbetween]

I love this so much! Thank you for this. My husband, my oldest daughter, my youngest son, my sister and mother have ADD. I have tendencies that I believe I must have had it worse when I was younger. I am reading the book called "Scattered Minds" by Gabor Mate. It's so good. Free at the library on audio. If you can you must read this book. Thank you for your videos

[@faithturcu8980]

This is awsome..thank u

[@ProjectHappyHome]

You're welcome 😊

[@pujagupta2044]

Thanks I really need this..

[@ProjectHappyHome]

You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching.

[@cotx79]

I’m new to your channel! Awesome video!!! Thank you so much for sharing this!!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks so much for watching!

[@raafiagulzaar6583]

Thank u i deal wid my son better than ysterday

[@kumudsinghal9672]

How to improve spellings of ADHD child?

[@ProjectHappyHome]

If you review my language arts section of videos, you may find some helpful resources. 🙂 Making review into a game is always good - particularly if you incorporate movement and rhythm into the recitation.

[@bink9694]

🙏

[@raafiagulzaar6583]

What is the meaning of chug itor chuck it.

[@ProjectHappyHome]

To let it go and forget about it. To move on from that moment into the possibility of a better one.

[@raafiagulzaar6583]

Thank u. But it come back after nxt mistake

[@stacy6994]

I thought adhd was an excuse parents gave their child for poor parenting of a more energetic child.... ha ha 6 children later and having a 6 year old son that is full adhd and not understanding why the heck won't this kid do as I ask on the 50th million time and why won't he quit jumping on my couch or the neighbors... my other kids mind. Now I know this is what it is, and I need to stop being the yelling mom, I'm so sad being the yelling mom at him. He has such a sweet spirit and is so sensitive. I wish I was more calm and not get triggered.

[@catlovercatlover6977]

😻😻😻👌👌👌

[@AdopteeHonesty]

Thank you!

[@ProjectHappyHome]

Thanks for watching!