Parenting: Emotional Acceptance. Why It's OK to NOT be OK. Respectful Parenting

Avoiding negative emotions seems like a good idea. It isn't.
Should we say "It's OK!" to our crying child? Is there a way to offer even deeper and more connected comfort?
"It's OK to not be OK" is a mindset shift that brings more clam and more ease to our household.
To stop being responsible for fixing our children's feelings or changing their reactions. To just be, hold space for true empathy, be patient and replace "It's OK! you're fine!" with "I hear you" is in my opinion the ultimate comfort.
“Babies have a right to cry and feel what they feel with the knowledge that a kindly adult is there to help if possible. Accept the feelings of your baby, positive as well as negative.” - Magda Gerber
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[@laurdoane]

Yes! Also, before I always felt like a failure when my kiddos would cry a lot (like somehow I measured how I was doing as a parent by that?! Lol) and now I no longer fear the meltdowns bc I can “do” more and be a “good” parent by doing/saying less & just being there to support their emotions. It still doesn’t come naturally, so thank you for the specific examples. I actually practice saying certain phrases you use so that when I’m in the heat of the moment it’s less of a muscle memory to automatically say “it’s ok”

[@RespectfulMom]

Wow I relate to this so much, the feeling of having to fix it all, that it is our responsibility to keep them happy all the time. Such an incredible relief to realize that we were focusing on the wrong thing that whole time! and to understand that actually the greatest gift is to hold space for the expression of all emotion, not fix it,, ahhhh I get goosebumps just thinking about it, it's so amazing! And yes, it takes practice and constant reminders because it is indeed such automatic response for most of us to say "it's ok!"

[@HighImpactClub]

Thank you so much for this enlightening video. You are right, sometimes it’s ok not to be ok. I get it why many of us tell “it’s ok” to our children all the time, it’s because we don’t want them to be in any pain, we want to make it better right away. Sometimes what we are not aware of is that by doing so we are denying our children’s feelings, which it could lead to confused children thinking “there must be something wrong with me because I feel terrible and mom said it’s ok.” We could use those moments to work on our children’s feeling literacy and to just be there for them.

[@RespectfulMom]

Thank you for this amazing insight High Impact Club, I couldn't agree more!***

[@themellowmama]

Finally, I got a chance to watch this one! Love your content so much... So inspiring, so beautiful and pure. XO

[@themellowmama]

I saw a quote from Mr. Rogers today that touched my heart on this topic... "People have said, "Don't cry" to other people for years and years, and all it has ever meant is, "I'm too uncomfortable when you show your feelings. Don't cry." I'd rather have them say, "Go ahead and cry. I'm here to be with you." - Fred Rogers Ahhh he truly GOT IT. My heart!!!

[@RespectfulMom]

I love that quote! thank you for sharing it*** and thank you for the kind words, I love your channel and everything you do, my ultimate favourite youtuber, so inspiring! - XO

[@syamckck6787]

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[@19maruzinha]

I don't agree with this in so many ways