What is RIE parenting? - Respectful Parenting explained

What is RIE Parenting?
RIE stands for “Resources For Infant Educarers” and is often known as Respectful Parenting. RIE was brought to the U.S. by infant-development expert Magda Gerber in 1978.
Magda Gerber, born in Hungary, had previously worked closely with paediatrician dr. Emmi Pikler and from that experience she framed the RIE approach that refers to giving babies more independence, allowing their natural abilities to flourish with minimal intervention and respect.
RIE is a whole world of principals, concepts and approaches. Some we might resonate with straight away while others require a change of mindset and a bit of an effort to grasp to be able to apply in our daily life.
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If you would like to educate yourself further on this approach I highly recommend these books: ‘Your Self-Confident Baby’ & ‘Dear Parent: Caring for Infants with Respect’ - Magda Gerber,
‘No Bad Kids’ & ‘Elevating Child Care’ - Janet Lansbury (www.janetlansbury.com)
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[@finnmccool7543]

This changed my life! Like 22 years ago! My son is the best human in the world because I went through some RIE training. Then I found a charter school that was based in John Dewey's philosophy. I loved watching my son learn! He made choices and was given choices! THE CHILDREN ARE ALWAYS GOOD!

[@RespectfulMom]

I so relate! It is such an incredible gift to go through the mindset change that RIE and Respectful Parenting calls for. Truly life changing and like Magda said, once you see infants with new eyes, you can never go back*** Thank you for your inspiring comment!

[@michellebellau762]

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[@motherofbeagles8532]

As an Early Childhood Special Ed teacher, this theory resonates with me. A lot of these concepts were part of my personal teaching philosophy when I taught in the classroom and in my parenting (my sweet son is now a teen). Now that I do home-visiting with young children and their families and daycares, I would like to learn more about RIE to show/coach parents and caregivers.

[@tanjawade4724]

Wonderful video and summary of the core principles of RIE. Thank you.

[@sheepyleepy..2806]

respect them they will respect you

[@gingerl3146]

Great summary!

[@RespectfulMom]

thank you!

[@Lily_and_River]

Nice video! I subscribed right away. Hope your channel will grow!

[@RespectfulMom]

Thank you so much for the support, I really appreciate it!***

[@unitymomentum]

Thank you so much!!!♡♡♡☆ These styles are against corporal punishment of any kind, right?

[@celestecinege7086]

Hello ! Very nice summary ! I am all for RIE - how do you recommend I tackle the fact that I was raised exactly the opposite way, and now that I explain to my Mother that I want to do things completely different, she gets offended. I am so connected to my baby, and I really want to be a safe place for her.

[@scrumptiousjdp]

I suggest acknowledging to her that you know she did the best with the common wisdom of her time, and with the tools available to her at that time. That you know she worked hard for you, loved you, and you appreciate that.

[@youniqueworth5483]

How can I start using this rie method on my 5 year old son ? I have been studying up on rie method for a little while now and I don’t know how I can shift my son now he is older. He is use to tablets, loud colorful toys , etc. please help !

[@RespectfulMom]

I know it may seem harder when they are older, and in some ways it is because there are habits in place now and "how we do things" but I wrote an Instagram post on exactly this a little while ago, I'd love to just share it with you here because I think it really answers your question well!:)

[@yustisyaamarin2689]

can you put the english subtitle?

[@le_th_]

Valid for most...not all...children. To say "all" is an untrue, sweeping generalization that is neither logical nor factual. Some children are born psychopaths...never neglected or abused...simply psychopathic due to the MAO-A gene and their brain's inability to process the body's hormones normatively. That's not my opinion or perception; it's largely accepted as fact. Psychopathy (not to be confused with sociopathy, which is about neglect) runs in families, but may or may not skip a generation, and not every offspring from the same parents will necessarily inherit it; it may only be one child out of 3-4 siblings. Most infants are naturally good. Psychopathic children are the exception to that sweeping generalization. It's more logical and true to say that all infants are vulnerable, and they need to be gently and graciously guided along so that they eventually learn and respect the social contract and laws and rules of society so that they will grow into conscientious, respectful adults who can work well with others and raise healthy offspring of their own, should they choose to become parents. Children naturally model the behavior they see around them. So BE the person you want your child to grow into. Treat your children the way you would like to see your children treat other people, including YOU. Be mindful of what you say to them and around them, and who you treat them and others because they WILL model your behavior.

[@krissamall]

Thank you for the very valid point! It is important to keep this in mind for sure! I think you are absolutely right about how modelling is really the best way to teach any lesson. Be what you want your child to grow into - I couldn't agree more. Stepping into that kind of awareness that you describe to really become conscious about how we show up in the world, how we talk, act, say to and around them.. It truly is the most important practice of all!

[@le_th_]

@@krissamall It is refreshing to come across at least one other person who recognizes the importance of this. Thank you for caring enough to know what modeling is and that it's the best way to teach empathy to the little ones in the world.

[@mahjabeenmalik5306]

what is the ratio of teacher and child ?Twelve two years old biting,hitting crying with one teacher is not good.

[@Klistern2]

How can you make a comparison between what an adult would think, compared to what an infant would think. You are kidding yourself if you think they are the same, in fact this is just absurd.

[@aveejones]

I see what you are saying, children's minds are not developed in the same way as an adults - but i think there was a misunderstanding....see it from the perspective that adults and children are humans that feel. We all feel emotions. Babies and children feel and experience the full range of emotions that adults do, and we need to treat children's emotions and feelings with the same respect we would an adults.