Parenting Highs and Lows: February 2018

[@balisandra94]

Ruth, i can only hope that you know how incredibly special you are. It’s hard to find words that might comfort you right now, from one stranger to another, but still, you must know that you’re one of a kind. I hope your heart stays as kind and gentle as it has always been, and marvelous things happen to you soon. Thank you for sharing this video with us, take care x

[@caydenlance396]

you all probably dont care at all but does anyone know of a method to get back into an instagram account? I somehow lost my password. I appreciate any tricks you can offer me!

[@marzipanpig196]

Thank you, Ruth. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I'm so grateful, too, for what you wrote about your experience, and for this video. You make a difference in the world with your writing and your vids ~ with your candor and your unique perspective. I feel ~ and I know your readers and viewers feel ~ warmly towards you, especially during this time. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. You are generous to do so, and it means a lot. To me, to the whole lot of us! *hugs*

[@irenethompson4076]

Ruth, I am speechless. I am so sad for you at this time. I am 54 and do still have both my parents. But I have lost my oldest son to a car accident in 2004, Eric was 17 at the time. His death totally changed me forever. I know the loss of a parent must be just as devastating. If I may give you advice, I would say let out every emotion you feel, when you feel them. I call them waves. They will come, stay strong, remember every moment with your dad and grieve. It will be hard but it will make you stronger. ❤

[@sophieelwatson6702]

Hi Ruth, I've only just seen this but just wanted to say what you have said has really struck a chord with me about social media and how much you can now find people you relate to. I have found so many of your experiences similar to mine, with the children, trying to conceive, etc. We had a little girl about 6 months after you had had Angelica and now a little boy as well with a similar gap to your two. I lost my Dad last August, two months before my little boy was born. Anyway! I just wanted to say thanks really for giving me someone to relate to about so many things, and to say how sorry I am about your Dad and that I know how utterly pants it is. X

[@margyslater4985]

Oh Ruth-I so appreciate this sincere and heartfelt video,. It’s so true that because of social media, you have a whole community out here. I do feel like I know you and your children and family, as I’ve had a window into your life via KZbin. It may sound crazy, but since your dad died, I find myself standing in line at the grocery store and then I think ‘I wonder how Ruth is today?” Much love and respect from across the pond.❤️

[@Elexsaria]

I am so sorry for your loss Ruth, may your father rest in peace. You have a bigger family than you know, we are all here for you too :). I look forward to your videos and have been actively following this channel and AMR for years. You're my favorite. Thank you for always being genuine and real. You inspire me.

[@scienceandstuff5450]

I am so sorry for your loss. I am a teacher and we’ve been discussing the “smallness” of our world thanks to social media recently, and how different it is that we mourn with people around the world we never met before.

[@loril1121]

Ruth, the thing that helped me most when my Dad died two years ago was to accept that the tears would continue to come and still do and that it’s okay to miss him so much. I would not have wanted to love him less. In so many ways I think the Victorians had it right when everyone in mourning wore black as a sign to strangers to be kind to them. Hope that you feel unexpected kindness as you mourn your Dad.

[@FoodieForce]

Loosing a parent is the worst, it is your anchor point. Despite knowing that they are not invincible, you feel like they are so when they die it makes you feel lost. Really sorry, be kind to yourself and remember he lives on in you and your children. The generations don’t die you will see him in your children, a smile, gesture, a look they throw or the way they say something. Much love x

[@gingerelf24]

I teared a little when you talked about baby's Ted little milestones and the new things he's doing. My own boy is almost 9 months old and I am suddenly feeling sad that he's growing up so fast and if I don't pay attention, many of these firsts will just pass me by and I won't get to experience them again :)

[@Louisepentland]

Such big loves to you xxx

[@Louisepentland]

Also, I need your nanny xxx

[@gniewugar]

Ruth, I’ve been following your websites and YT channels for years with much interest but somehow had never commented nor reacted with more than ‘thumbs up’ - till now. However, I sort of feel sincere connection and inner sympathy for yourself. I just wanted to give you a big virtual hug, say I’m sorry for your loss and to wish you strength and fortitude. You’ve got this girl!

[@veritytill7542]

Aww Ruth gutted for you. So sorry. Lost mine 16yrs ago and that feels like yesterday. You’re such a trooper and thanks for sharing with us. Be kind to yourself as well. Annoyingly as everyone says time is a great healer but also a new memory maker. Little people put it all into perspective and help us appreciated what a blinking good job our parents did and help to see them in a new light. Huge digi hugs xx

[@yas_makk]

Along with everyone else, my sincerest condolences. I just want to add that I didn't find this depressing in the least or that you were spreading negative energy. Obviously it wasn't going to be an upbeat video (but things don't always have to be) however you came across as honest and authentic and in my experience when people are speaking from a place of truth it resonates in a way that brings people together and that in itself is a positive. I think it's amazing that you have the courage to address your grief in public, when you're under no obligation to do so. xxx

[@MickJaggerLoveChild]

Awww Ruth you do seem to be going through a rough patch with things at the moment - hope things get better. So sorry about your dad. Me and my sister are big fans of yours - we met you in Cardiff at a Colab event in 2015, and a year later our mum died from bowel cancer....she was diagnosed in February and died in June - no one saw it coming. Your right life is so short, all you can do is appreciate and make the most of what you've got xxx

[@tillydown3358]

Sending you love Ruth my dad died 6 weeks ago and it hurts like mad.I miss having a laugh with him ,and my mum is lost, I wish there was something I could do to stop the pain.xxx keep strong.

[@sarahsavagehanney3485]

I'm so sorry Ruth to hear about your dad. Our thoughts are with you. xx

[@Miss1Trisha]

I agree with what you said about social media opening up our access into so many people's lives, giving us insights into so many different ways of living life, that formerly we would probably never have ever 'met' or come to know of. It's wonderful in many ways, and even though we do get to hear not just the best bits, but the reality of the sad and difficult times of daily life, I feel somehow that the sharing of their experiences, and how they have dealt with them, are a gift to us that get to see these snapshots of real life. Even though you are remarkable in being brave to share your news with us, I can see that the 'brave face' doesn't hide the deep sadness in your eyes, the windows to the soul, and that is completely understandable and to be expected. As I said in my previous comment on your last video, take time to grieve, and be kind to your heart. My own experience of losing my 6 year old son has taught me that lesson. Listen to your heart, make sure you rest, sleep as well as you can, eat and nourish yourself as best you can, and just surround yourself with loving care until your heart can begin to recover, get stronger and learn to take a breath at a time, and a day at a time. I feel blessed that social media has given me the opportunity to come to 'know' you, and all the lovely chats you have with your viewers have enriched our lives. I hope that the caring comments and outpouring of care towards you at this time, is of some help and comfort to you, so even as a complete stranger, I send much love to you Ruth, and will keep you, your lovely Mum and your family in my prayers. May your Dad Rest in Peace xx

[@Barborinn]

oh my dear Ruth I am really sorry to heart about your loss, my heart is with you.love you

[@Mairwyne]

I love the chat; despite the sadness it was lovely to watch.

[@saspridham8850]

So sorry to hear of your news thanks for including us in your loop we are all here for you 😘 be kind to yourself

[@HousePetMarla]

I love your sense of humor. I'm so sorry about your father.

[@janemilroy2667]

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[@elinat.8841]

You are such a charismatic person Ruth. I've always loved your honesty, sense of humour, your general attitude and perspective on life. Now I feel I love you a bit more. So sorry for your loss, I hope time will heal all wounds. xx

[@sophiemorley7732]

So sorry to hear about your dad. Sending you lots of love xxx

[@aoifehickey6295]

Ruth, my deepest sympathies to you on the loss of someone so special .. he must have been extremely proud of you as his daughter and the amazing Mum you’ve become xxx

[@Ruth_Heasman]

I'm so sorry about your Dad Ruth. I lost my dad suddenly at age 32 myself and and my mum died last year. Their absence leaves a big horrible hole in your life, there's no way around it. We carry on but are forever changed, a little sadder and a little more grown up. Sending loving virtual hugs. Glad you can still appreciate the positive though and it's wonderful to hear about the bulk cooking that your nanny is doing! Hang on to her for dear life! Lol.

[@jbananafish]

Hang in there Ruth. You are doing a great job. Being a parent is so hard. Take care of yourself too.

[@ruthhands7028]

Thank you so much for this video Ruth, I found it both moving and tremendously reassuring to hear someone speak so candidly about loss. I can only imagine what it would mean to others who are in a similar position to you. Take care x x

[@angieguest8903]

Hang in there Ruth, grief has no time limit I lost my lovely Dad 50 years ago and my absolute rock my dearest Mum coming up 11 years, and some times it still seems like only days/weeks ago...we have our lovely memories to see us threw each day...lovely to hear how Angelica & Ted are growing up so quickly..Best wishes xx

[@ginnyburley9552]

It's so important to share what is real in one's life. I have never done it publicly like this, but I must tell you that it is important for me to hear what is true about another life. When my husband died in 2014 after a year of battling cancer, I envied his daughter who, although devastated (truly devastated), had her two children to make sure she had a connection to life, to the messiness and force of life pushing through. I'm glad you have your husband and those two lovely children, especially now.

[@traceynewbold9149]

Very sorry for your loss Ruth I lost my father 2 years ago and I have a big hole in my life now . Thank you for sharing your pain I think it is important to do that because it is a part of you . Take care lovely xx

[@emilyday7956]

Oh Ruth, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing and I’m so pleased the children are so wonderful. You are truly lovely xx

[@Cashmere4500]

So courageous, Ruth! Thanks for the encouragement to keep family close. Sorry for your loss and hope you and your family find love and courage through this season. Xx

[@irishjen1110]

So sorry for your loss Ruth. Thank you for talking out loud about something so many experience but rarely talk about. Big hugs to you and those you love. Xx

[@jackiem9175]

So sorry, Ruth. You're so young to lose a parent. Yes, social media has changed who we "know". I appreciate the way you put things into words. My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your father.

[@chipchar5180]

My condolences to you and your family. Xx

[@SilverliningsJoni]

Much love from someone who has been there too. Please give your beautiful Mum a hug too, thinking about her.

[@MsOhicks]

Sending hugs and love. I lost my dad when I was 18 💔 absolutely devastating. Think of the good times and know he's always with you xx

[@ThanksToFashion]

Dear Ruth, really sorry for your loss. We stopped breastfeeding 🤱 in January after more than one year and I was so sad and depressed. It is sad but also good to have my body back. Xx

[@rosemaryedusei7058]

I laughed and cried through this video. Sorry for your loss. I lost my father 22 years ago and I still miss him and it makes me especially sad that he never met my kids.

[@DoctorAnne]

I am really sorry to hear about your dad passing away. Such sad news always serve as a reminder to keep our loved ones extra close. Even though we are strangers despite the fact that you welcome me and many others to share parts of your life, I want to express my support and send you a virtual hug.

[@meshallbe]

So sorry for your loss. Things will Get better. Hugs those babies and enjoy the small stuff of daily life. How wonderful you have a great nanny who makes life a little easier for a busy mom.

[@MyKspencer]

Oh Ruth. No words but honestly huge hugs sent your way.

[@sarahfraser5648]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thankyou for sharing so much with us. Its lovely to hear the real stuff of life as well. I weirdly find that we have had the same thing happening to us over the last year. I've got a daughter about the same age as ted and I just finished BF her....ohhh the hormones are real!!! And make you feel like a weepy hormonal mess. I also moved twice last year (face palm...why!) and my mother in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Sometimes life is just a bit rubbish but its comforting to hear that other people are having the same highs and lows. It makes you hug those loved ones that little bit tighter.

[@Debkuwait]

Thank you for all you do, your are helping tons of women by sharing this free content. I am a woman and a mother, 14 Months daughter and I appreciate all you do ! ❤️❤️ PLEASE share how you stopped breastfeeding, how was Ted reacting, what helped ....? I an thinking i would like to stop soon but no idea how to...?! Thank you xx

[@crisrajic2709]

I'm deeply sorry Ruth, it's he saddest thing in life,I lost my dad almost 3 years ago and I remember him every single day.

[@helenmurphy9786]

What a wonderful video, really honest and relatable. I am sorry for you loss xx

[@luciademiguel5866]

Sending a virtual hug. So sorry for your loss Ruth

[@Dawn797]

So sorry for your loss Ruth, I cannot imagine how you are feeling, but gosh you are so brave managing to talk about it here. Lots of love x

[@ArtificialPerson]

I'm sorry for your loss, you're so strong to keep working even with everything happening. You're an inspiration to me! Hugs!

[@sarah_hedges_creates]

So sorry for your loss Ruth xx Loved this video as it was really honest and that’s why I love all of your videos x

[@stephaniestyle91]

I’m so sorry to hear about your father. I love your honestly in life especially when you talk about your children. Xx

[@gemmakilleen2513]

Soo sorry for your loss Ruth xxx

[@rebphil1254]

I find you a brave woman. Thanks for doing what you do and sharing it.

[@angeliquadanielsson8694]

I lost my grandma 3 days ago. It’s really hard to smile, but my son keeps me going. And also Agnes in my tummy 😍

[@bryonyedmondson1965]

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. Take care and be kind to yourself over the next few months xx

[@Teardrop362]

Ruth, you are truly wonderful to watch. I love your honesty and your strenght. I am also sorry to hear the loss of your father. Keep up the good works with your KZbin channels x

[@HelenPullen23]

You are so lovely 💗 and I love your channels. Grief is never easy you just get better at dealing with it.

[@tinachambers5841]

Lovely advice. Hope you’re ok. Sorry for your loss. Big hugs!

[@kirstyleigh2757]

Thinking of you all at this sad sad time xx

[@thealphabetist]

Such a honest, smart and just lovely video Ruth, as always.. that's why I appreciate and like you very much. I am so very sorry for your loss. 💙

[@ElizabethYateshair]

praying for you sweet lady , Thanx for the gentle reminders xoxox

[@Sundaridrishti]

I’m so sorry for your loss Ruth. Sending you big warm hug, all the time at from the other side of the pond. And, it’s so great to hear the kids reaching more huge milestones. Take care!

[@Sundaridrishti]

Sheesh, typos and autocorrects. I meant to type “all the WAY from...”

[@mahriy2226]

Big hugs and all the best xx

[@ruthwarner8986]

All the love Ruth xxx

[@LavenderJergens]

You’re awesome. I love you as much and as non creepily as any internet stranger/subscriber can do. *internet hugs* ❤️🌻

[@iamellamella]

I'm so sorry for your loss Ruth :(

[@markifly611]

so so sorry for your loss!!!!

[@tessabrugge4758]

Awwww bless, so sorry but I fully loved seeing you, and you did handle this extremely well, it's not easy xxxxx

[@CharlieBrookReads]

Sending you lots of love xxxx

[@Barborinn]

have I mentioned I love your video? I really like honest, real life, chatty videos like this one!

[@emmalawn5441]

I’m so sorry for your loss. X

[@fjoppis]

so sorry for your loss. rest in peace

[@joannebyrne1976]

So sorry for your loss 💐💐💐

[@FunkyMankey09]

Sorry for your loss Ruth. Xx

[@johoheneenflesmetrum]

My condolences Ruth

[@sandraloughman1961]

Wishing you the best. Plenty of love ur way. I absolutely love what u do

[@karinvandongen]

Sending you and your family #love

[@hoooooolley]

So sorry for your loss x

[@bluedogonroad]

I lost my father unexpectedly in February as well. It was a shitty month. I miss him.

[@wemol1]

So sorry for your loss. Hate how that sounds but what else can you say?! Felt I couldn’t just watch and not say anything. Big hugs xxx

[@denbeesewswhat9841]

big hug coming at you xx

[@TheSunnySideUp85]

I loved this video so much!

[@aliciamcknight5946]

So sorry to hear about your Dad. You’re in my thoughts.. loss is never easy. Also, can I have your nanny? She sounds like a ray of sunshine.

[@claresharkey8130]

The sadness is oozing out of you. Please be kind to yourself, let it all out when you need to. Cuddle with your family, physical touch is so important at a time like this, it grounds you. Xxxxx

[@NinxyNoo]

You are doing well holding it together - but take a break if you need to. Loving the snot on the shoulder comment. Looks like snot rather than sick - I can see a light sheen that you don’t get with sick. Anyway, as you say the luxe brands will be loving it! 😆 PS miss seeing you and the fam around the village.

[@LabNYorkie]

You're so well spoken. I'm sure loved ones including friends have said all that can be said. Loss is so personal and we all deal differently. I am very sorry. The words feel insufficient. I read your blog post and, though I don't know you personally, I believe your father would be very proud of what you wrote and the heart behind it. I noticed that my niece hit milestones sooner than my nephew but I think it's common for girls versus boys. He's more easy-going than she is and a daredevil (gravity is only a theory as far as he's concerned). Frankly, he scares the hell out of me and I do think maybe he should wear a helmet and bubblewrap at all times. My mom used to wish for my brother to have a child like himself. And boy, did she get that wish. In spades. 😊

[@noreenosullivan7589]

Sorry to hear about your dad I love your videos 💄

[@linazent5593]

I love your videos 🙏🏻 so so much ❤️

[@daniellereid01]

I’m so sorry for your loss, Ruth. I lost my parents when I was a child, but age doesn’t really matter when you’re talking about loss, does it? It hurts to lose the most important people in your life, full stop. Please accept my sympathies xox

[@FelineRM]

you inspire me :) thats all i wanted to say.. love u

[@gorgeouss79]

❤️

[@mariebl8709]

Very sorry about your dad...

[@soniauk4284]

💕 💕 💕 💕 💕 xxxx

[@vickykk7929]

💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@Pumpkintiti]

Yikes, footage of this video keeps freezing up. I'm terribly sorry for the loss of your Dad.

[@susanppereirasr7283]

❤️😘

[@jaimeyeliza]

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[@jennifermartinezfdez8793]

❤️🌹

[@ANTONIA197]

😘😘😘😘😘😘😘