Parents Never Noticed I Moved States Away But Now Dad Calls & Demands I Visit Them Or He'll Stop $$$

[@LilDevyl17]

I love how the one Commenter said, "You can't turn back on family" yet they somehow missed the part of the Family turning their backs on OP until they needed OP b/c that's when they remembered, "Oh yeah! We have another son that can save us, right?"

[@c16621]

It is a narcissist comment. Only users and narcs use that line. When THEY WANT SOMETHING.

[@MsStevil]

If you are old enough to have graduated from college even if it was just after 2 years you're most likely over 18. Your father can not unenrolled you as you are an adult and clearly has no authority over you.

[@TellTalesRedditStory]

If you graduated from college, even after just 2 years, you are likely over 18. Your father cannot unenroll you since you are an adult and he has no authority over you.

[@toysruskid5074]

​@TellTalesRedditStory Sadly, we have a few states that still run on Bible belt rules that are kind of ridiculous. For instance, while most states have (fairly recently) updated the laws to keep kids under 16 from being married off, but Mississippi's statutes set the minimum age at 21, but allow males aged 17 and females aged 15 to marry with parental permission. And here, financial aid and such depend on parents until 23.

[@BrentMcFarland-w3m]

That's not true, when I was in college there was a 10-year-old that was going to graduate in one year

[@kathytompkins5391]

I would repay the tuition your father paid after you graduated and then disown them.

[@deborahyoung1873]

​@@kathytompkins5391I wouldn't repay the loser.

[@angerainbow9200]

Finally an OP with a strong backbone. Well done OP for changing your circumstances for the better.

[@sheilaclemett4353]

Favoritism is seriously toxic and Karma got the parents. Living well is the best revenge.

[@jaguar.dragon]

I TOTALLY agree with OP cutting his parents off. The only differing action I would suggest is OP to reimburse the "school funding" his father had been sending after OP had graduated. Not only was the $ received under false pretense (which I understand the reasoning behind), but OP doesn't need it at this time. With the $ not being used for its intended purpose & the family presently being in such dire need, returning the $ would be the most morally ethical thing to do. Not to mention, this could be used as an arguable example that OP isn't acting as the petty & vindictive "child" his parents r accusing him of being.

[@karenchristinewise7833]

Some people should never have become parents. I should know because my parents were one example. I left home when I got engaged. I never went home except for a visit. My parents are now dead and I did not attend their funerals. My family is my husband and children. They ignored me for decades. They stopped visiting and sending presents for my children. My adult children know that they were bad parents and grandparents. This is the possible future for bad parents. I chose me and my family for our well-being.I have no regrets.

[@christarood6084]

Family is not always what you where born into, but the people you choose to be your Family. You don't need people who treated you like crap!

[@jaguar.dragon]

Blood may be scientifically thicker than water. Yet philosophically, the heart is strong enough to beat fiercer than toxic blood & overshadow its poison.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

So glad OP did what was right for him. The only thing I think he should not have done was to continue to take college tuition money from his father after he graduated. They could technically sue him for fraud because he made them believe they were paying for his college for a whole year. At the least he should return that money.

[@janrandle2896]

He didn't

[@cjenkins6587]

OP, great job on making your dreams come true!!!!!👏👏👏👏👏

[@stephaniewilson3955]

OP owes his parents nothing because nothing is what they gave him. He suffered emotional abuse all his childhood so why would anyone expect him to help his torturers?

[@FruitandNutcaseOK]

I would have suggested he repay his father the tuition fees and then get restraining orders against his family that way he owes them nothing and they have nothing more to ask from him.

[@GregBarron-gf8wn]

I probably would have put it into a separate account when I started working so I could give it back when they started there rubbish.

[@carmencarlton3240]

Why are people always so worried about what family things when they don’t care about you I mean in life as an adult you can freaking choose who you want to be part of your family I have a lot of family and for whatever reasons that they have problems with they want nothing to do with me, but I’ve managed to get an aunt a grandmother and mom everybody that I need my family by the people who brought into my life and that’s a hell of a lot better than what I gotfrom being born

[@randycarter2001]

When you have a toxic family you have to get out ASAP. After living without the toxicity for a couple of months you'll come to the realization you feel much better now.

[@janeshaw5867]

Was OP using the name Jonas or Jason? Agree he should give the 3rd year money back then totally cut familial ties.

[@maxinebaker4281]

I LOVE TO HEAR YOU NARRATING YOUR STORIES.

[@RedneckRealist]

People need to start reporting parents like this to child protective services. Being a parent is a privilege not a right.

[@denisephillips9588]

Dealing with toxic parents isnt a good thing at all. My mom use to treat me like I wasn't part of the family too and one day I asked her if I was adopted and she told me no and then I asked her if I could be adoted and then she slapped me so hard that she busted my lip. So I told her that I hated her for not acting like a mother and more like a bully. So she hit me again and I told her if she did it again I was calling the cops on her. she didn't hit me anymore that night. But I was kicked out of my mothers house when I was 14 years old and didn't live with her for a lot of years after that. But now I am 55 years old and I haven't lived with my mom in a lot of years and I am happy about that. But no one should have to put up with toxic parents at all and I didn't either.

[@dasha.andrews4919]

My opinion, you should give back the 1 years worth of fees for college you didn't need as a refund and wash your hands of them. Seems fair to me. The 2 years you were in college you use that money as your means of support.

[@gmac1653]

I can picture a lawsuit for taking that money under false pretenses and demands that he pay it back in full. Shit People world do this

[@janbell609]

I love these Reddit stories. However. This is total B.S. about the college giving out information. I have a kid in college. Had to get HIS permission to pay his tuition. School wouldn't tell me anything. They wouldn't take my money until he told them to do so. Can't view his grades even though I'm paying.

[@keithbarton9499]

I like the background on this video.

[@henrymix861]

To hell with those sponges and that's is all they'll be. If they honestly treated you crappy when you were a kid, you owe them nothing! I think the college switch was brilliant...I understand how you feel. Live your life, have a family of your own and don't give your parents and brother second thought.

[@dbevry3424]

They're not your family, they're your relatives. Big difference

[@lbauer51]

One never becomes fully adult until you come to a realization that the incredible societal pressure to support family does not supercede your own right to protect yourself from abusers looking to use those same societal obligations to their own advantage at your expense. A favorite saying of mine is that while it's certainly true that blood is thicker than water, it's also true that bullshit is thicker than blood, and that claiming special privileges based on random family relationships is said bullshit and as an adult you are under no obligation to cooperate or play along with their shenanigans. I would add that relatives are a matter of genetics and DNA but family is something one gets to choose, honor, and hold close.

[@suebethiantexas2475]

Tell them you are coming and at the last minute call and say you’re too sick to travel! Tell them to send pictures.

[@dionne4091]

Good job OP if they cared they would known you was in another state in a whole different school

[@user-cx1pb4bf9j]

Most colleges will not let parents cancel enroll of a student. Only students can cancel enrollment unless there are extenuating circumstances, like the student has passed away..

[@johnkearney2513]

No one should have to put up with toxic relationships (family or not). They will only bring you down. OP deserves some space on this one. It’s time the family learned to deal with the consequences of their actions. If down the road OP wants to mend fences that should be his decision.

[@stephaniemcclain5335]

The moment they showed up at my door I would call 911There wouldn't have been no second visit

[@roxiepoe9586]

It might be a vibe to send his parents the same amount of money they sent him on the schedule they sent it to him for the same span of time. They probably need it. He can be as bitter as he likes and still not have to have regrets if he changes his heart later.

[@topangagirl128]

I’m fine if it’s not animated, as long as the voice isn’t AI.

[@maxinebaker4281]

I LOVE YOU BEAUTIFUL BACKGROUND IN YOUR VIDEOS. I MISSED SEEING 👁️👀 YOUR WORK.

[@maxinebaker4281]

I LOVE YOUR FORMAT; PART 1 2 3 AND SO FORTH.

[@campbellstewart7965]

i'd calculate how much money was sent since your graduation and send it back to your dad with the info that you are doing well without the manipulation , just don't tell him where you are !

[@jasonperkins2211]

Tell them take a hike and get on with your life

[@maxinebaker4281]

IF THE FAMILY WASN'T IN THE MESS, THEY WOULD NOT HAVE CONTACTED THEIR SON. COME ON PEOPLE. THE PARENTS AND BULLY BROTHER DIDN'T CARE ABOUT HIM; ONLY WHEN THEY WERE IN TROUBLE DID THEY CONTACTED THEIR SON. READ WHAT THE LORD GOD SAID ABOUT THIS. LEAVE NEGATIVE PEOPLE, PERIOD ALONE.

[@Svensk7119]

This story sounds just as likely for OP to be a sociopath, as for his viewpoint to be the absolute truth.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Two wrongs may not make a right, but you do not keep sitting idly by while your parents, who SHOULD have your best interests at heart, continue to walk all over you.

[@francoisseguin772]

As much as the Parents were toxic, I think OP is no better for one reason. The father was sending him money for his college, which he thought took 4 years. It only took two. So for one entire year, he was sending money that OP didn't need. It's worst when you hear that the Dad was having financial problems at the time. At the very least, OP should have paid back the money the father sent him in the last year.

[@kengolder1615]

Fuck that the patents were trash and got what they had coming

[@francoisseguin772]

@@kengolder1615 , Maybe, but depending on the laws in that country and with a good lawyer, the father might sue him for misappropriation of funds or something.

[@serpentinious7745]

Probably isn't over. OP took their money for years on false pretenses. Karmically justified or not, legally he's in the wrong. So the parents can, and likely will, sue him to get it back.

[@pjgumby]

OP needs to cut a check for the two years of college funds he received that he didn't need and let his parents know that are even now and this is all that they will get from him.

[@martyez2348]

2nd comment definitely op is creating bad karma for himself out of hate

[@Svensk7119]

Nice to know that your voice is real! Always thought it was a good AI.

[@toomuchsauce5599]

Op could’ve at least paid back his college fund, especially because he can afford it.

[@amandlockhart5844]

I would at the least give them back the funds the old man gave while I was in college.

[@lenellamaxwell6934]

I think he should have at least reimbursed his dad for the money he continued to send to him after he graduated. I mean once he graduated it was wrong to continue keeping the money. He should have at the very least saved all of that money knowing that one day he would tell his dad the truth. For the three years he was in collage, that money is different and he didn't need to pay that back.

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

Any time abyone say " once in a life time" absolutely run away

[@jackiehenry3372]

Just send them back the money they'd sent you. Yes they owed you an education, but you don't need it. I mean they did nothing for you when they were responsible to do.

[@tyffanypoudrier6610]

I would at least retun the money they spent on your education .

[@94Tomekm]

Absolutely not the last one if one is pushed long enough one will cut the off or outright disown one owns fily just to be healthy.

[@trinity6180]

How incredibly shady to take money from you parents as an adult and lying to them about what he was doing. They darn well cared enough to help OP out going to college by sending home money. When you accept money you should never go do something that was not agreed upon as to use. I kinda hope he gets treated the same way by his future kids because there are no perfect parents or families. Some are just better than others. He just comes across childish.

[@harleyquinn5774]

He sought a better education than his parents thought he deserved.

[@maxinebaker4281]

WE REAP WHAT WE SOW AND THE PARENTS AND BROTHER ARE REAPING. THAT WAS DIRTY OF THE PARENTS AND BROTHER. EVIL 🤢 PEOPLE. USERS!

[@elainekilgore1352]

Not defending any bad actors in this story, but the main character is rather petty.

[@judysuber4262]

I would at least give back what you're father paid for the school fee.

[@kerrischuh8000]

You basically stole your parents money. If you wanted to cut them off because they favored your brother that’s your business. but you taking their money under false pretenses makes you no better them.

[@katrinakee726]

If you had attended Roman's wedding they would have somehow blamed you for all of their financial woes. So it really was for the best that you didn't attend that non-wedding after all. Roman and your parents thought he was marrying a wealthy woman no doubt. She turned out to be a scam artist. They probably only wanted you at the wedding to show off the rich bride that Roman had snagged. Well it backfired in their faces lol!

[@richardnguyen6919]

The father provided OP with consistent financial backing even though OP was already on a scholarship. Even with the broken emotional ties, it would at least have been fair for OP to toss the family a financial lifeline in kind.

[@sondragonzalez6155]

Where is the animation? Repeated pictures don't make animation!

[@jenniferhenrich2852]

Jonas, Jonas....a fancy university and you still say expesially?

[@everydaylifewithtamantha2341]

I think it's only fair that you help them by giving them the fee money for that year you didn't need it..... just a suggestion

[@susannedeumig6556]

I can nderstand OP's feelings of not having had a loving childhood, but that doesn't make OP's dishonesty right. He lied to his family for years about where he was and he took money from his father that was specifically meant for the local College, not the school he acually secretly went to. That is FRAUD. If I had been in OP's place, I would have told my parents the truth that I'm going to the better school on the scholarship and I woud have financed the other expenses myself by working a part-time job. Taking money from your father a year after graduation is even worse. I put myself through Business School in my early 20's and Law School in my 30's. I also worked at the same time. Why take money from somebody you don't even like? Seems morally very wrong.

[@georgeluthy6512]

Return the money and go no contact

[@judiththompson2423]

I would have returned the year after graduation funds and said have a nice life.

[@AdamDuffy-l2l]

If I was The OP of this Story I would have GIVEN THE MONEY BACK ! Ok it’s not what you want to hear BUT This Money was given on a Fouls Pre-Tense and even if it was only 30% of the Money that you needed over the 2 years don’t forget that Technically you ripped them off over The Year that you were not at College ?. Them Finding you Out Years Later is Scary BUT the Money wasn’t your at least Not for the Last Time ?. I mean if it was you Small Sum of Money then you Losing this Is what they GET FOR THEIR EVIL TREATMENT OVER YOU AND THE YEARS THAT YOU WERE A BACKGROUND CHARACTER ?.

[@michelleeliasen2856]

What happened to the animated videos I fell in love with. I'm sorry but that's why I chose you to listen to the same stories others also read. I might just go to others. You were an original and I loved it. Now what do I do?

[@AndyJamison-m2o]

You could have least returned the money you continued to collect after you started earning.

[@jannadin9769]

OK, who are you ? Jonas.....or Jason ?😂

[@user-cf2xo6po9n]

Don’t go back

[@wvscotty2055]

Not really animated any more.

[@philliphobbs5092]

He got them mixed up. Animated is story and story is animated.

[@Danarchy3]

I left this channel for a bit and somehow wandered back here… when did the animation stop? Kinda kills the channel name

[@John-f6z6g]

Out him

[@veldasnyder2144]

I understand him. But in my mind I think he should reimburse some of the money from school.

[@deborahyoung1873]

That's what he is owed for their precious neglect.

[@pyrthiank2514]

Idk...something seems off with this story. Ai?

[@dianafrazier2830]

I totally side with OP. Funny how the toxic people always miss you when they want something from you. Well done OP. 😻😁😻

[@danielrobles3668]

The last commenter all his mother called crying yeah cuz they broke

[@harleyquinn5774]

OP needs to change his number after blocking his toxic family.

[@panda-wk8mv]

Too many adds dude

[@israelgonzalezjr2816]

Wish the reader got to the point I can't continue listening I'm out

[@verdaleonard2728]

Good Story 😅

[@lajoycestewart7528]

👍💣👍💣👍💣👍💣👍💣👍💣💣

[@Nobody_important_at_all]

Pay your father back for all the extra money he gave you after graduation and nothing more. Everything up to that point, you graduating. Made you the successful person you are today. Everything you took thereafter, taints the success you became both despite and because of your parents. It's a life lesson that you'll need to learn and the sooner you do so, the faster you'll learn to grow as a person. The ability to let go. That extra money is a physical manifestation of your anger and resentment and you hold onto it as the worthless trophy it is.

[@rachelmap100]

REDDITOR: "You can't turn your back on your family and leave them on their tie of need." POSTER: "Watch me."

[@ninaross211]

ALL WHAT MONEY ? IM SURE HE WAS ONLY SENDING THE BARE MINIMUM ! ONLY SENDING THAT 4. TAX. PURPOSE ! NOT A DIME WAS FROM HARD WORK ! YOU HAVE ALWAYS ! ONLY. BEEN A. TAX CREDIT !

[@John-f6z6g]

Take check book pay. Dad back leave 12:33

[@John-f6z6g]

It's a. Coverup JJ just for looks 11:18

[@RedneckRealist]

People need to start reporting parents like this to child protective services. Being a parent is a privilege not a right.