Part 1: Did Mom Trade Me For Drugs? | KARAMO

[@huntgangadventures3400]

This is the way a mother should receive her children telling her they were hurt by her actions. She’s didn’t make excuses, she told her truth, & took full accountability.

[@obtainuniversal]

👌👌👌

[@Armaria2203]

For real 🥹

[@mxmiii4]

i feel like the mom was r@ped and was being taken advantage of poor woman i hope she stays strong

[@bellamocanaturalsllc]

I'm hurting for baby girl... she doesn't realize that being raised by that stranger was a blessing... just saying 🤷‍♂️

[@thehoneyeffect]

She’s still really very young, &very much in pain she doesn’t realise that was the best thing that the mum could’ve done

[@bellamocanaturalsllc]

@@thehoneyeffect absolutely... I pray that she finds peace and understanding 🙏

[@juanitaevans2715]

Yes we do realize that being raised in a different home/environment was best, but it does not erase the pain, questions, trauma. There is a plethora of things we deal with and is easily triggered by when we've lived through this level of abandonment. Trust me, it looks/feels much different looking from the outside in as opposed to the inside out.

[@bellamocanaturalsllc]

@@juanitaevans2715 that is so true❤️

[@juliebowes3977]

16 kids all screwed up,all because she did.nt believe in giving her kids away...Which is what she did anyway...She chose drugs over her kids..and because she has been clean for 9 month...All is forgiven,in her eyes!! So sad 😞 😔

[@perryrand876]

In my opinion her mom was a wreck and entrusted her in the hands of a good person who treated her daughter well. That’s love actually

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[@catherinesmith263]

Love would have been for her to get off the drugs and be a good mother. Her mother took the easy way out in my opinion

[@UnicornFamilia]

@@catherinesmith263that’s scary that you believe that’s all it takes to get off of drugs. You have to learn more about addiction and how that works. Nobody (who is on drugs) just wakes up and becomes clean cuz they “love” someone. Come on na 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@cianialfordhurt6956]

@@UnicornFamilia right 👏

[@kiravideos.5353]

She had a good life with those people based off luck. Those were strangers not even family, she can keep saying it was a friend but you NEVER really know people and she didn’t know those people. They could’ve been monsters

[@pshceluver2899]

Seeing the mother actually be sorry is so beautiful my mom is like her and would never show that she loved us this much

[@LeshaFBaby]

Same

[@IloveJesus777j77]

​@@LeshaFBabyJesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.For it is written, As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God [acknowledge Him to His honor and to His praise].❤

[@Sdlewis89]

I have mixed emotions … I feel like although she feels abandoned , she still lived a better life with her adopted mother than what she would have ever lived with her biological mother . I think she’s not trying to understand that although it’s awful what happened to her , the mom was deep in drugs ! DEEP! The most traumatic could have happened to her . I think her mother thought of someone who she trust at that moment without completely being in her right mind 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@zooked-rl6jq]

She can understand all that and still be angry towards her mother for making those decisions cause at the end of the day all of the moms decisions impacted her positively AND negatively, through a grown ups perspective she can understand why her mom did it but that doesn't erase the hurt it caused

[@Sdlewis89]

@@zooked-rl6jq : I definitely agree with you on that . That’s why I mixed emotions . She has a right to her feelings for sure 🙌🏽

[@serenitypowers]

She's not really appreciate from where she's coming from. if she's really appreciative, she will understand her mother's situation.

[@juanitaevans2715]

I too lived a much better life with my adopted family; however, dealing with the abandonment as a child runs deep especially knowing you were treated differently than the others. The trauma, triggers, reminders, emptiness, etc., is real and painful.

[@juanitaevans2715]

To greet her mom with a hug shows that she is trying and that she cares. It's painful and a pain that is indescribable.

[@toxicmeiaa1910]

I feel like she’s so angry it’s clouding her judgment. Let’s not forget that your mother was HEAVILY addicted to hard core drugs. That’s not easy. She’s been on them since she was a little girl. Over 20 years of abusing drugs. So she made a decision she thought was best instead of getting high and not being able to provide and protect. As a mother I totally agree. It’s messed up but it’s time to get a understanding not be angry and yelling why not give me to a family member. Shidd she gave her to someone she trusted and she knew. Not a total stranger.

[@neikasworld9513]

This the comment I was looking for.. I believe that if she realize how drugs effects these people then she will probably be better off.. They steal, lie, kill and don't think about NOTHING ELSE.. I know it's not right.. and I wish she realize that it was 16 to get divided.. I'm sure it wasn't that many family members around.. and she went to someone her mom knew and trusted.. Mom, made a good choice in her head..

[@doneeshacunningham2949]

@@neikasworld9513 drugs or not that's not an excuse. She has the right to still be mad and hurt. You gotta think about the shit she was already exposed to before her actually getting adopted. Not just that but not having your mom throughout the years especially those teenage years and when she first starts her period. She has every right to still be angry . Black folks always want someone to forgive and forget, and sweep it under the rug. Life don't work like that and she deserves at least an explanation of the truth and not excuses

[@neikasworld9513]

@Doneesha cunningham I'm agreeing with you because you are absolutely right, if you look back I said it was wrong.. you commented on my comment and it was my opinion under someone else's comments.. black folks always come for others because of their opinions.. why? I have a right to my opinion... As A child that grew up in the system because my mother was addicted, being split from my other 2 siblings, I just said if she came to realizations of how drugs affects them and how many it was, she may be a little better with her mom not having a real answer.. Not everyone is the same, but for me, I NEVER questioned ,got angry, nor was disrespectful about the situation I was put in.. not by my choice... I NEVER said she shouldn't be mad nor have questions..

[@neikasworld9513]

@Doneesha cunningham These videos that are posted on KZbin have sections for comments, which gives EVERYONE access to their opinions and THEIR facts.. don't know why when people say things that others don't agree with or like, they "come for " that person.. kinda like a bully if you ask me, this is why I don't comment much or just don't respond back to people that's trying to start something because of my opinion

[@BeautifullyT]

@@doneeshacunningham2949 your really rude. I know these videos could make us frustrated but you don’t have to be rude to other people who share their opinions. This whole situation is sad I hope it gets better for the whole family

[@Mortis33-o4b]

Her mom and I grew up in an era where everyone had a bunch of kids and didn't realize the impact of kids having kids.

[@prettybrowneyes8565]

Most of us that had children young didn’t realize that fact I’m 45 and I had 4 children by the time I was 24 I made many mistakes but drugs wasn’t one I have 5 children now and I’ll say I did a damn good job even though I had no idea what I was doing I tried my best and stayed as focused on them as I knew how I showed them good work ethic I held them accountable I told them I loved them showed them how to be self sufficient I didn’t put them in bad situations knowingly etc that made them turnout to be descent young adults we can’t always use the times and environment as a crutch for bad parenting and bad life decisions my heart goes out to this woman and her children but putting her ignorance to the side common sense plays a big part in a lot

[@Mortis33-o4b]

@@prettybrowneyes8565 I don’t understand how the truth is a crutch. I’m in med school and don’t mind admitting at all I could have made better choices. Life is objective in many instances and not subjective. People need to quit making excuses and admit having several kids, that’s on the man and woman, and not being prepared to give them stability, spirituality and connection isn’t healthy! It’s one thing to raise kids and another to parent them. My mother was an addict and didn’t allow us to be abused either, but her toxic decisions and lack of accountability affected us..so it does make a difference. I know this is a uncomfortable subject, but it needs to be had, that’s why Karamo had the show.

[@highlyvibrational4700]

@@prettybrowneyes8565 my mom left me and my 3 siblings at 22. im the youngest and i have no hate for my bio mother simply because as adult i realize that she had pain hurt trauma and struggles because her mom didnt raised her but raised her other kids. we were also split up when i was 3 . they went with their dad and i went with the family that raised her, that eventually gave me up to the system. i understand her hurt and frustration personally but she has to heal at some point.

[@rizzyreel777]

No excuses

[@rizzyreel777]

Y'all grown n should know right from wrong or just don't have kids dumb ases

[@jamesgibson3716]

This young lady is suffering from serious abandonment issues. She needs prayer AND therapy. Wishing all involved the best...

[@ablacksquare]

Can we get angry at addiction , too? It’s like the thief of all thieves.

[@stevionmikayla6548]

the mom is truly trying……. wow im heartbroken 😔

[@chantillyfrazier1740]

Her being with the stranger was a blessing in disguise

[@shayshayman3369]

I already see how different she is. However, I think she should be thankful to God that she is still alive to build a better future for herself.

[@IloveJesus777j77]

​@@shayshayman3369Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.For it is written, As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God [acknowledge Him to His honor and to His praise].

[@jazminepatton5649]

It was absolutely a blessing and I don’t think she’s discounting that she did have a good life but it it is still hurtful, wanting someone and knowing that they gave you away or wishing for someone and they can’t be the person who wish they were.

[@MocaMami66]

Addiction is real. This woman is only 9 mos sober, which means she is still vulnerable. The mother does not have the capability or capacity to give her what she wants. The mother/daughter relationship has sailed. Woman to Woman they need to heal, build, forgive and grow. Thank God the stranger didn't expose her to the addicted lifestyle of her parents because the outcome would have been different. Every Saint has a past and every Sinner has a future.

[@Rejynah]

Imagine your mom dropping you to someone you don’t know illegally and keeping your older and YOUNGER siblings with family. You never know them or they never look for you.. tragic! Thank God! She is OKAY! ❤

[@brittanyhunter3331]

That’s a special type of rejection…two betrayals-the mother and the family-all in one.

[@naniduarte8540]

Exactly idk how they can be anything but quiet when she’s expressing herself, she never got to do this before, she didn’t even know y’all let her get out her years of pain so she can be open to hearing your thoughts smh

[@startinajackson606]

She’s actually not okay, she is in torment and filled with anger and her feelings are valid. It annoys me that someone can just say while I was on drugs and you have to accept that and yeah it ruined my whole family but I was on drugs people we need to do better OK

[@rahjhaneyarbray8034]

That’s understandable because if the kids are spread out who has room for all of them

[@dartist81]

I understand how she feel she was alienated from the rest of the kids but they all was giving away because of her mom drug habit I just thank God she was with a living family and this bring them all together and they get the help like counseling because as we all know the mom was in drugs so they had to be born with drugs in their system

[@finnthehuman7159]

I understand that's she's hurt and angry, but she has to understand that mom did what was best for her. She gotta let that go, especially since she ended up having a wonderful childhood

[@SpontaneousVirgo]

Exactly and stop asking why when she already knows the why! The mother was on drugs for over 27 years. She knows full well that she didn't want to experience that life of going without due to the mother's drug usage. She was blessed to have a wonderful life and she should be grateful for that. Hopefully one day she can let go of all that anger and start creating memories with her mom and siblings so that she can start the healing process.

[@lolaispure4296]

You have your mom. It shows. As someone who grew up without a mom that gap will never close for me

[@catherinesmith263]

@@SpontaneousVirgo she doesn’t need to feel “grateful” how disrespectful of you to ignore her pain and try to justify her moms lazy trifling decision.

[@SpontaneousVirgo]

@@catherinesmith263 she does need to feel grateful! She was the one blessed out of the 16 kids. She had a wonderful life so what pain? For the record it’s not disrespectful to verbally state how I feel about the situation. However it is disrespectful of YOU to think that YOU could come for ME DISRESPECTFULLY!! She needs counseling and I’m sure her adopted parents feel disrespected with all of the sacrifices that they made for her!

[@michellechapados7257]

@@lolaispure4296 yeah honestly i feel you from your comment alone i can tell your like her becuase you said you never grew up with a mom but it really does sound like you do love her and wish you could have and that's exactly how this girl is like when it comes to people like her and myself (even tho i have my mom ) no matter if your mom was crazy or on dugs it wouldn't have taken away from her daughter loving her and she said her self she doesnt care that she had a good life because she just wanted to be with her mom and people dont get to choose their parents so i think she was fully accepting of her moms issues which is valid the only reason people are saying shes lucky for being given a good home and should be grateful because she could have gotten trauma staying with her mom its a double edged sword either way there would have been trauma she just wishes it was from her family real family if its going to be anything and she has her own experience but at the end of the day she just wanted her mom to at least come looking for her and to let her know she just wishes it could have been with her regardless i wouldn't say shes ungrateful id just say her experinces are different and shes trying to say she doesnt care that her mom was on drugs she just wanted that connection not to be given to someone else that she also got trauma from that she stated when some of the adopted extended family didnt accept her but coming from someone who do has a mom but my mom did stuggle with abusing vices i can tell you that just because she did drugs and my life wasnt perfect doesnt mean i dont love her or blame her id never want to live with strangers or anything like that even with the hard life i was delt so i dont think shes trying to be a victim either i think shes just telling it straight but also bless the mom she just wanted the best for her even if she was on drugs she could have kept her and subjected her to way more unnecessary trauma but decided to try and get her a better life even if it wasnt with her again a double edged sword

[@CcBeautiful94]

16 kids?! I think she has to understand it’s also the family members choice on who and how many kids they can take in. Unfortunately with that many siblings you can’t keep everybody in one household. One child changes everything let alone 16. Poor girl I get her frustration though for feeling like the black sheep and was the only one adopted but honestly sometimes you get a better life there than with family and Vice versa.

[@annemx.]

16 kids must have required some thought at least?

[@rubiana2.0]

@@annemx. it’s possible she could’ve had multiple kids at once like twins quadruplets quintuplets sets of children that’s the only thing I think of that would possibly allow her to have the equivalence of 16 children

[@nozizwefulela3403]

I understand her frustation. I was aldo the only given to relatives. I got a better education but even it nags me why I was the one. I never expetirnced groeing eith my mom. Never called anyone mom. I don't know how it feels to call anyone mom. There's a whole in my heart. People don't understand. They downplay my hurt saying I had a better life. True but I hurt for my mom.

[@CcBeautiful94]

@@nozizwefulela3403 Awwh 💜 I’m sorry for you! I had both parents in my life but they were pretty shitty so just remember love and care don’t always have to come from a parent or blood relative. Hope you’re thriving & living your best happy life 👏🏽

[@kiravideos.5353]

She gave kids that were born after her to family members though.. and it wasn’t even a legal adoption she just gave her daughter to strangers frl

[@ebonyalston8399]

I didn’t realize that my mother did the same thing to me. I wish I could go on this show to reconnect and get answers.

[@Sabrinablackwell2024]

Go ahead I wish I the best

[@beautifulwithin292]

Definitely try

[@ayonnaharris1983]

God loves y

[@KaramoShow]

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[@startinajackson606]

Try sweetie

[@Desh1717]

Her sister is absolutely right regardless if she was the only sent to someone who was not a family she was not the only one who was given up .

[@MzMillionDollaMillz]

My father is an active crack addict. He'll say I've been clean two months, and I'll look at him and roll my eyes so hard they damn near roll out of my sockets. I know he'll be back out there any day after he says it. Addiction is a life time battle and she has to really be dedicated to staying sober 9 months is not long enough. I pray God gives her the armor and strength to stay clean.

[@lungienxumalo3244]

Abandonment is so painful, i know, my dad did it, i went out looking for him, found him, his wife was nicer than he was. Always allow someone to express their pain, just be there for them, don't argue, have answers if you have any so that they can go through the pain easily with your support, it helps. I have a relationship with most of my siblings and that's enough for me, i'm content. I hope that they all find peace and happiness in their hearts. Always a pleasure watching this show, i love it.

[@teresa_chosen]

Her mom is clean she owned her addiction and what happen. This daughter is angry and need therapy so she can heal. I wish them so much happiness.

[@fazekatrinaroberts3911]

I don’t like how she trying to make her siblings feel bad even after they were abandoned, knowing she lived a better life than any of them

[@SpontaneousVirgo]

Agreed and that's my issue as well

[@brittneyberry4934]

Yeah i was feeling this way as well. I understand she's hurt but.....yeah

[@brittneyberry4934]

Its rubbing me real wrong.

[@WYNTER_RAYNE]

I didn’t like that either! Seems like a jealousy for her siblings when they were abandoned also! And she seems to have lived a better life than them!

[@Spyrodelta]

I really don't like that shit

[@Desh1717]

I love how Chrissy listens to her and doesn’t critique her and acknowledges her wrongs . She just does not understand how bad of a predicament a mother was in and I know it’s hard but Chrissy really does seem genuine

[@yomajestytoyou2565]

She’s asking a crackhead to provide her for reasons why they did what they did when they were on crack! I can’t tell you how to feel, but baby girl you’ve been around enough to know your approach is pointless. I’m the daughter of a crackhead father. Trust me, it’s pointless. You’re just going to have to start a relationship from today

[@ErickaJ954]

Yeah. It's the little girl in her asking the questions

[@srae7658]

Like...come on. I was also adopted, my bio mom was heavy on drugs and all us kids were given to different people. Like the girl In the video, I had a great upbringing with a loving adoptive family. I just recently found my bio family last year and learned about all the drug use and mental illness. I'm GREATFUL that I was given up for adoption and adopted by a stranger, because consider the alternative!! Family is not always the best place to be. She could have been with her family and ended up messed up. Maybe she'll understand it better when she gets older her mom had her best interest at heart when she gave her to her friend.

[@summanelson5523]

I Like Karamo!!! He understands quickly the emotions going on inside his patients!!!! Big up Karamo.

[@jajabootygin]

I'm glad I watched it all the way through. My initial thought was like dang she was on drugs and you yourself said you grew up loved, so why this level of angry. But, when I heard her reiterate the fact that all the other siblings were with family and she was the only one out of the 16 to go to someone who wasn't family. I 100% understand how she feels singled out. Yeah moms was on drugs but she literally didn't want me all.. not even a lil bit to put me with family like the rest of them? I get it and I empathize for this young lady. I hope she gets healing and realizes how blessed she is and to be forgiving. It will only help her heal more. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mollyshaj.3888]

but unless she knows all 16 which even the sister said they don't she doesn't know for a fact they were all with family. then you have to factor in did she give them to family to did family take them. because she said she was done with child services it sounds to me like her kids were taken from her and given to closest of kin

[@BigTash]

it was a blessing that she went a stranger over family.

[@Myztic71]

Right now, I don't think that there is anything that anyone could say that will be okay with Lex because she's equating being in close proximity to Chrissy or being placed with relatives with having it "good" - when it actually sounds like she is the one who had it good because she was in a loving and caring home. I do understand and empathize with Lex's feelings of abandonment, yet I think she's too caught up in her own pain to realize that ALL 16 of them were abandoned. Their mom didn't have custody of any of them & while they may have been close to her in geographical location terms, the emotional distance and abandonment were still there. Just because they may have been with family members doesn't mean they had a good life - they could have been mistreated, molested, malnourished, impoverished, or have had bad things happen to them. I feel that Marquita has made peace and forgiven their mom - not so the mom can feel better, but so she can move forward in her life. Once Lex realizes that holding onto that pain and anger will kill you inside, she may be able to start the healing. I hope Karamo is able to help them get the therapy they need to build a relationship.

[@ms.m7764]

I concur! She equates being with family as living a better life, because she's lived a good life she doesn't know how much worse it could have been. She clearly needs therapy, and she needs to sit down with some of her siblings, maybe that would give her the wake up call that she needs.

[@labrea654]

Well said except the last part. How is he going to help someone when he's lost himself.

[@kirascullark5224]

Exactly!

[@starlitbeautybrand2435]

From a woman in a very similar dynamic, her feelings are soooo true and valid.

[@5luelight726]

I hope the daughter gets to the point where she can overcome that anger and forgive her mother. For her own sake and for the family’s sake.

[@sonhg7951]

Hitting the target, Karamo!! I won't go into details...but, YOU are on it! 🙏🏾🙏🏾 I want her daughter to forgive her Mother in her own timing of course. And try not to hold resentment.

[@yaisa111]

As an adopted child whom was nearly 2 at the time of adoption and having been on a deadend search for my own answers you cannot imagine alll the lies we get told (and have no choice but to believe )about our stories our pasts and truths we will never know truth…its such a lonely and never ending journey ~ this breaks my heart for her and NOONE will ever understand…i pray for her peace. The abandonment is everlasting and therapy helps tho the trials of trusting other is so deep you gotta be strong and trust God ~ Blesssss her and her journey. 🙏🏽✨🌬❤️♾❤️ They’re so lucky to have found each other … i pray they can find peace and healing. Proud and praying for all of them💕 #lovereflections

[@alisayoung]

Chile... The lies are the hardest.

[@TrinaWitDaRedLips]

All parties have been traumatized. I’m praying for all parties 😢❤

[@vanessashaw2159]

The mom who raised her did a GREAT JOB! She has class and seems very well adjusted.

[@jacob_gang]

Karamo I need sleep Sir I’ve been on a binge 😂I love this man and don’t even know him. He’s the bestie we all need. I love how he connects and asks questions without asking the question. The guests just come and open up without even knowing it.

[@niicole_tv03]

Girl you were raised not only by strangers but LOVING CARING PEOPLE WHO TOOK YOU IN THEIR HOME💕🫶🏽 you had love girl you had everything

[@lolaispure4296]

Thats a VERY insesitive comment. As an orphan it offends me. NOTHING is bettrr than a mother's Love. No matter how good and amazing your adoptive parents are. I know about it.

[@summersifysummers4702]

She had everything except her biological mother. That's a pain that is unfathomable to a child. You feel lost and confused when you're not given explanations and answers..Trust.

[@ms.m7764]

Some people are just sperm and egg donors. Not because you gave birth to a child, doesn't mean that you're the best thing for that child. A drug addict doesn't care about anything or anyone other than getting the next fix. Her life would have been a worse tragedy than it is now, If her mother had kept her with her. God was good to her even though her mother was out of her mind, he made her give her to the right person he knew would take care of her. And that's a blessing in itself. 🇯🇲

[@teresamarie7460]

@@lolaispure4296 NOPE... You're romanticizing bio parents. There are billions of people who have lived with a bio mom and have never received and felt "a mother's love".

[@brendafaulkner5183]

It wasn't her mom. Every child want their own Mama's love.

[@tawandabell64]

I'm proud of the mother for humbling self and ask forgiveness .

[@veronicak6665]

When an addict say they have been sober for as little as 9 months, and they "don't think" about using anymore, is a person in denial or/and straight up lying!

[@leftypirate]

but it's not, i was a fentanyl and crack user for 11 years and i celebrated 9 months clean jan 4th. you're spewing bs, thanks :) i don't think one ounce about it

[@1014aef]

was thinking the same thing

[@___asia]

What, people are diff

[@srae7658]

Yeah. I'm wondering if she is using

[@ashontepryor8824]

That part!!! My thoughts exactly

[@deborahwilliamson5655]

Beautiful daughter!!! So sad that her mother missed out on her child's young life. I am happy that the mother is doing better. I pray that good things happen for both of them, and in their relationship!!!

[@pansieximines4354]

What is it that u want. Have u tried understanding drug addiction just try to understand that we cannot turn back the hands of time you are destroying yourself with hatred

[@karenm.2185]

Where in the hell is part 2?? I need the rest of this story!!

[@sabrina21clark]

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[@kagisomamabolo6775]

Karamo did so well in articulating Lex's pain, overall I hope this show gets renewed.

[@msnaturalunique8340]

Her mom was ill. She wasn't in her right mind. Drugs were in control.Try to understand that. I understand you are hurt but count it all joy and realize you are blessed. Alot of children get dragged through it as their parents are on drugs.

[@ms.m7764]

I know that this show is about Lex, but I can't begin to imagine what some of the other siblings have gone through, and is going through.✌️🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

[@lexci_pooh2305]

Man everytime i watch this show i wanna go up there more and more … blessings to these families 😩🫶🏾

[@Chase_Dapremont777]

The daughter needs to understand that her mom was on drugs. Giving her up for adoption was a better choice and even though some siblings went with other family members, it’s really up to those family members if they wanted to help. She can’t blame her mom for everything. The daughter’s life was great. I understand the daughters feelings though. She has a right to feel how she does.

[@CcBeautiful94]

That’s a good point

[@admindigitel8728]

Her mom having been on drugs does not negate her hurt at being given to strangers as if she was not worthy.

[@celestecruthird7842]

She Can Blame Her Mom! Her Mother Chose Drugs! 😒😒

[@sophiebutler5684]

Are you serious you must be a mom like her because is no way in this world you blaming the daughter for the lady supposed to be mom, because no child chose to come into this world that’s the mother choice, is nothing in this world would make me give up my kids and am a mother of 8 and I know it’s hard but the love I have for my kids makes me fight even harder.

[@Chase_Dapremont777]

@@sophiebutler5684 Where did I say I’m taking the mom side... I’m adopted and had to go through understanding as well. All I’m saying is that she has to see the bigger picture. The daughters feelings are valid. I never said otherwise...

[@guyweale5014]

I really appreciate the mothers attitude. She wasn't making excuses or trying to make light of any part of what she chose to do. She was visibly remorseful, and that's a great place to be. I'm praying that she and all of her children will be able to reconnect and love each other for the rest of their lives.

[@kanethamorris9882]

Both of my parents were on drugs and it was hard for us growing up.

[@MsVictoriaWolfe]

I just wanna hear a reason like “I gave you to that friend because your dads family was bad” or something like “no one would take you” or “because my friend offered a better life for you” like any reason even “I was on drugs and don’t remember”. That’s all that girl wants. Won’t be easy because her mom probably don’t remember

[@sabrina21clark]

There's a thing that we don't address. This thing where the mother says "I'm having ALL my kids" but yet can't take care of them physically, emotionally or financially. Is that a mental illness thing? What is it? I've been hearing it a lot lately.

[@lolaispure4296]

Mental illness.

[@sophiem1599]

It’s called being irresponsible and selfish.

[@Byjadamarie]

I don’t know. This is really hard for Lex because people are looking to her to essentially be the “bigger person” since her mom is seemingly helpless. People are missing the point. Her mom gave her away to strangers which was different than what she did with her other children. 9 months clean is commendable. It is. I’m so happy for mom. But she spent Lex’s entire life on drugs- over 27 years of drug usage. Mom has no idea the true impact her actions made on her daughter and other children. And her sister sticking up for her mom is really sad because she can’t understand what her sister has been through. Karamo gave them really good advice.

[@lotusxinception3475]

I get what the daughter is saying. It's triggering so much abandonment, however there's only so many siblings that a household can take in. As well as her bio mom did the right thing by dropping her off with this "stranger" because she even said she had a great life with her adopted mom. Bio mom was in no position to be a mother sadly.

[@simeonlynch-prime4439]

Yes she wasn't raised by any 'blood relative' but, she's alive and she she lived a better life. Nobody wants to have a drug addiction but things happen in life. Her life would of been been worse than it is. I am glad to see the family is reunited, life is beautiful. Well done to the Mum as well, 9 months sober.

[@andreacarter2108]

She wants to be a victim instead of being grateful that she wasn’t tied to that mess. Girl, it’s time to get some healing and be thankful that someone loved you.

[@tionnashepherd7934]

I understand this young lady had a better upbringing than she probably would have had with her bio mother. But having "family members" say you don't really belong to us or this person is not your "real" parent is the most contemptuous, ignorant and insulting shit ever. And for those who do so- it's usually not even their story to tell. I wish good luck to her.

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[@cdubb8185]

Yeah that’s very hurtful. It would make you think twice about why so they keep saying things like that.

[@rororidley5829]

I think all mom can say is “I’m sorry”. Now the daughter can choose to move forward or not.

[@10lees]

Daughter will still beat her with words

[@melaninsun4238]

😢❤My heart goes out to this woman thank God she was raised in a good home. I hope that her mom continues to stay clean so that she can be in her children's lives for eternity.

[@BeauTCravez]

Two truths can exist at the same time people. This baby still has every right to be mad and angry and upset inspite of the mother doing her best and giving her to an amazing family.

[@amyspicer7395]

Lexi..we all understand you are hurting. But God was there when you needed him by putting you in a great loving home.

[@_threeplusme_]

She needs to look at it as a blessing that she was given away. She had a better life than all he other siblings.

[@JESUSLOVESYOU219]

She’s an adult now, she herself said she grew up in a loving home. Many kids are adopted. But now she should appreciate the fact her mum tried to give her a better life. The pain is of course real and valid but in my opinion, there’s too much anger directed at her mum.

[@baylincoln7264]

She should be so grateful that her adopted mother did an excellent job on her you had a good life if she would have put you in the system ain't no telling what would have happened to you and you can see by your other sister how she was brought up so you was blessed and move on and go on with your life

[@ebbashanyenge7010]

Did she say she was not grateful? it doesn't mean when her mom left her with people that are not her family did not hurt. She is allowed to feel exactly the way she feels.

[@cierad.249]

I understand and feel deeply for all parties involved. Lex just wants them to understand how displaced and set apart she felt. For all your other siblings to be in the homes of family members and you’re the only one who was given to a “friend” it hurts. She just wants to understand why she wasn’t “worthy” of being with family. Marquita is saying that we have all suffered and that even if we were together you would’ve been in a much worse situation. Maybe Lex and Marquita understand each other on the surface level, but it isn’t registering emotionally. Lex wanted to feel community. Marquita is saying what community, there isn’t one. It’s kind of a catch 22 and they both struggle to see the others viewpoint. Only thing I can say about the mom is that I’m sure she still struggles with her addiction but I pray she stays clean and mends her relationship with her children.

[@nieshastancil4639]

I’m literally crying cuz my mom left me too so I definitely get it

[@antoinettejohnson2188]

The sister is not listening I see why homegirl is upset

[@jadynnewsome390]

Right

[@tateannalang7135]

She is listening but she’s trying to tell her sister ALL of them went through the same pain from their mom.

[@SpontaneousVirgo]

@@tateannalang7135 Agreed and the sister doesn't want to hear that. She doesn't know how to have a conversation without all of that aggression.

[@MariesWay2]

Awww this epidode is touching my heart 😔 I'm onl6 half way. She seems so sweet. I hope they fix their relationship. Not to mention she's beyond gorgeous

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[@DhamaniAlexis]

I like the sister💯

[@kiera6288]

me too. Her vibe seems real chill like she understands the sister but is also gonna defend her other siblings too

[@zooked-rl6jq]

@@kiera6288 imo the sister kinda needs to shut up cause she really is down playing her pain she saying "well we all went through stuff" okay?? This is about the sister that wasn't kept close like the rest, and the sister further proves the point by saying "yeah MY mother cause you wasn't around all of us" like girl u can't take away from her trauma but then contradict urself by saying she wasn't living with them like obviously duhhhh that's why she's hurt!!

[@shantecannon]

@@kiera6288 thank u im the sister kita

[@heathab...._-_]

I'm an adopted child myself, not all adopted people feel this way but you feel abandoned like you wasn't good enough for your mothers love an if not loved or shown love by the people who raised you you feel abandoned an your angry at your birth mother, but this girl just feels like she's not good enough because she feels her mother only just gave her away even though she was loved properly so I kinda get it why she's mad, but this is how some adopted kids act when they were abused an adopted homes so idk

[@SpontaneousVirgo]

Good point! How has your life turned out by being an adopted child? :)

[@ladygamer6969]

I went through the same thing and to this day I have no relationship with my siblings. I went into completely different placement while they all stayed together. I was the baby of 6. I am the only one that was in group homes and foster homes. They grew up together and one brother was adopted to one of our cousins who had him since he was a baby anyway so he still had family. I had nobody and still don't. I feel her pain

[@litespeedway6538]

Sending blessings your way🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾. You know who has always & will always be there - in your heart right? Your real father/mother in heaven, seek, you are not alone.❤

[@TheREALQueenJay]

My mom abandoned me with someone we met the week before and my dad came and got me at the end of the week. I met him the year before. I'll continue praying for us. 🙏🏿

[@msmakeupbiz]

Dear God, I need that part two yesterday 😩😩😩😩😩

[@sabrina21clark]

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[@cookiedon101]

Lex needs a lot of help because it’s clear what’s happening here and what happened back then. While looking for validation for her own trauma she’s dismissing everyone else’s trauma.

[@jillysunkins2300]

Nahhh she gotta understand all 16 kids had it bad! Period!!! Not just her or make her feel special, thank that woman for doing RIGHT!!!! I applaud her for making sure her kids didn’t get abused, addicted to drunks like her, or anything else that comes with addicted parents. Stop feeling like just you were adopted cuz it’s not facts, her pain isn’t anger or valid, is disrespectful and selfish.

[@brittneyberry4934]

A little louder please. Thank you. My fuckin point exactly.

[@Spyrodelta]

No for real though she has sixteen kids we don't know what them other 15 going through to be honest she probably had it the best she the one that had a pretty good childhood what about the other ones

[@daritykane7]

She was me I see myself in her. My mom was on drugs and had 7 kids we all back to back we were all taken away except for my youngest brother she was clean. 3 of us went out of the city in foster care .3 went to my grandma and my oldest to his dad. She got everyone back but me for soooo many different reasons my adopted parents did a lot of lying a lot of things came out I was 17 when we were reunited and I was extremely mad and aggressive to her and anyone who defended her but now that I'm 33 and a mother I love her I understand she went through a lot as an adult but as a mother I could never chose drugs over my kids

[@shantecannon]

let me Put this out there this is kita btw me and my sister understand each other very well and i believe that we will break the cycle no matter what it takes to be a family my sister was hurt and so was I but we love each other and we can call on each other now and im so grateful and happy at the point we are at with each other so all the negative comments yall can keep sometimes a disagreement can help you better understand a persons way of thinking and thats ok we might not agree with certain things but we will always support each other if we are mad at each other or not we went through this and its people out there that are watching that can relate to us and say i am strong and im going to be okay some of yall comments just shows how judgmental and one sided yall really are if i knew the show was just about her before i came on set then maybe i would of had a different narrative i thought it was for us to get clarity as a whole and meet and for her to figure out who her father was i have respect for my sister and we love each other and since the show we have been alot closer we want to thank everyone who is sending love payers and support we are trying to maybe get to spend time with each other for a few weeks if anybody has any advise on how to maybe set up a vacations with us mom and other siblings it will be very helpful ......Love kita Godbless

[@goodpeopleprosper635]

Honey i agreed with u the entire time while still understanding where she was coming from however i just can't act like yall all didn't go through the same or worse

[@Ericechild1979]

Congratulations on reaching out to us in the comments and giving us insight to what the show was really supposed to be about prior to you coming on set .Also it says ALOT about you being there for your Sister and your mom as we all know TELEVISION can be deceptive especially for ratings and those watching from afar I sincerely doubt for the most part people were being negative or judgmental I do know a lot of us particularly people of color in different generations can relate to y’all story it was very hard for some of us to understand or even comprehend what “appeared” to be the level of disrespect and anger towards Mom🤷🏽‍♀️ I definitely didn’t understand but prior to reading your comment I did comment and it may be abrasive from what I “SEEN” moving forward thanks again for shedding light and CONTINUOUSLY spreading love ✊🏿🫶🏾💪🏾🙏🏾 Eventbrite has tons of family or group events in your area for gathering and festivities, A cruise there’s tons of packages and group deals try a local travel agency and let them know the reason for the cruise they may cut a deal, also renting out a room at a hotel or tourist destination for family gatherings they sometimes will provide all of the logistics or better yet speak with an event planner have a spa/pampering/mani-pedi day at a rec center with fresh fruits flowers and “Mocktails” just some ideas then there is good ol Go Fund Me and Social Media to help get the story out to bring awareness and you might get sponsorship last but not least because I’m writing a story😩😩😩 I make accessories like bracelets, necklaces, and anklets and I would be more than happy to make one for you your mother and your sister just my way of saying thank you.

[@goldieluxx9356]

Mom you are forgiven.......congrats on the 9 month sobriety

[@tennislibra]

Brother, I absolutely love your show. You approach with so much compassion and empathy; and you tackle real black experiences. Blessings to you. 🤗

[@calipinay]

The problem with siblings is they don't step back and listen to what their one sibling has gone through. They always want to pull the attention to them and what they went through instead of respecting and hearing the one! Stop doing that! The one sibling felt discounted, disrespected, dismissed and was nothing to their parents and those siblings whom they had tried for years to connect.

[@arialejones6318]

I really wish she could see her mother made the best choice for her in this situation the one she kept close had to see the ups and downs of addiction it's hard being given away but she was placed in a better situation

[@alexisp9561]

Crazy thing is my name is lex as well I felt she was speaking my story I was given away by my biological mom when I was around the same age to the system and was raised by a Forster family and adopted at 3 I met my mom dad and siblings 3 years ago I found out I was adopted at 25 I’m 29 now my mom still doesn’t show up and I feel like I’m begging for a bond I’ll never have with her and my father says he loves me but doesn’t communicate much at all. Y’all pray for me 🥺🥺🥺

[@abundance3148]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@margaretkirkland8965]

🤔SIXTEEN CHILDREN,!!!!WHERE WAS THE CPS IN AMERICA SURE MUST HAVE BEEN HIGH DURING PREGNANCY, THANK GOD THE MOM IS NOW CLEAN 🙏🏽SHE REMAINS CLEAN.

[@TeeaLynn]

Whew this was emotional!!!

[@kamyafoster-f2x]

i love how karamo show is doing what he got to do

[@Sharrial55]

I feel like unless youve been adopted or in foster care u really wouldnt understand.

[@lolaispure4296]

EXACTLY. It breaks you FOR LIFE.

[@deannawalton5552]

My heart aches for BOTH siblings. Just because you're with family doesn't mean they're taking care of you properly. I felt the sister when she said you wouldn't have wanted to be where I was. She said I was raised aggressive. That alone let's me know that it wasn't all good. Then, wanting her mom to be close to her sounds good in theory, but imagine the mental trip those kids took with their mother popping in and out, seeing her strung out.

[@MzTwEeT1989]

I understand the young lady's pain. I hope she understands the effects of drugs and irrational decision making. The mother did what she thought was the right thing at the time. God bless everyone involved.

[@joyrosalinewangondu8580]

It so sad to see this kind of sadness

[@deevillarreal9475]

She sure made some beautiful daughters, with beautiful shapes. 🙏🏽🌹👍

[@insomniacriv8409]

I understand her pain though . She said that she found them and they weren’t looking for her. That must be so hard . I think she has a lot of abandonment issues

[@annmariefuller9020]

Sounds like her mum was addicted to drugs, for well over 30 years. She's been clean for just 9months. She should be thanking her mum for loving her enough to give her to a family that loved her and took care of her. Imagine if her mum kept her, she would probably be on the show, saying she ruined my life. Hope this young lady can move on, and find peace, and forgive, and be happy for the family she was raised In...

[@sandrareyes987]

God bless you! I love this show real talk

[@Patricia-uz9sj]

Drugs are the damn 😈devil

[@lakeofalltrades]

Sister sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders 😊

[@beverlymitchell7973]

In tears right now, if nobody understand you baby girl, I feel your pain I went through the same thing, my mom move out of town and left her 5 kids behind

[@lifeoutsidelife9394]

Young lady, don't take your mother on a guilt trip. She's come so far

[@teresamarie7460]

Nine months "sober" in thirty years of addiction is nothing.

[@2muchofdev]

@@teresamarie7460 what? at least she’s putting in effort to change? wtf is you talking about.

[@10lees]

@@teresamarie7460 it’s a start though

[@10lees]

@@2muchofdev nothing, just being a b itch

[@jbranner84]

I like her mothers willingness and transparency.

[@dejenaelatrice9364]

The story of the girl in burgundy is exactly my life bro ! It’s like you can’t tell your truth or express your Experience without everyone else feeling hurt or offended! It’s like damn why tf can’t I TELL MY PAIN ! Let me tell you what I EXPERIENCED tf why tf is it that me telling my experience and my POV of what I’ve been through has to be downplayed so no one else feels uncomfortable 😢 I identify with her soul to my soul ! 💯

[@msveee4553]

Lex must feel rejected on three levels. Firstly by her biological mother, and then by the extended family she thought were hers. I cannot imagine how devastating it must be to find out that the woman who raised you is unrelated, and you are the last to know. THEN to find out that your siblings were treated differently?! I feel for Lex and hope her bio mother and siblings can appreciate that she has had the carpet ripped away from underneath her MULTIPLE times. I also feel awful for her adoptive (true) mother, this must be devastating for her.

[@samariperez4297]

Feeling like she doesn't belong anywhere 😩🤧

[@lb1798]

Did they say 16 kids....16....while on drugs. 😳😲🥺

[@charmainefrancis2009]

I love this show!

[@friedrice7727]

Her sister did prove her point. Can you imagine not being raises by your own mother and then your own sister saying this isn't your mother, it's my mother because I was raises by her. She's dismissing her sister's anger about being thrown put of the family like trash in her eyes. Even though the rest of think she's lucky.