[Part 1] I quit homeschooling to be a better mother

[@WestCoastDIYMama]

I'm hesitant to send my boys to public school for the very same reasons. This will be my 3rd year homeschooling. I'm struggling this year to find the benefit in teaching my boys at home. I think my heart is telling me to get out of the way as well. I really appreciate you posting this video

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

I’m right there with you! I’m 92% introvert, AND highly sensitive!

[@herhomemakingheart]

Girl I'm so glad I found you. Everything you have said is so relevant to me and I feel like God is using this to speak to my heart.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

I’m so glad 💗 I knew I couldn’t be the only one !

[@AlwaysLime]

I so relate with you about the 70% introverted thing… it is all I can do to homeschool my kids daily. I crash after school. I absolutely understand what you are saying. It’s okay to say this. And other people need to hear it. I don’t have an extroverted kid, but I definitely get it.

[@_jillkay]

I feel like this is me. We’ve been homeschooling for 4 years, and it’s been so hard. We don’t even do that much for school but it’s still been a struggle all this time. I’m thinking my kids would do better in school, and I would be a better mom, too. Thanks for this video.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

Motherhood in 2024 is such an ebb and flow thing. What works last year might be horrible this year! It's all about hearing your intuition and heeding it. Trying something and adjusting accordingly. Most importantly, keeping your intuition audible--which requires caring for yourself! If mom feels uncared for, it's impossible to care for others. Modern mothering (the way our society sets us up for failure) is such an enraging mindfck

[@LaGueraGTO]

Uuuf, this doesn’t apply to me (I’m a bit more of an extrovert while my daughter is a very introverted), but boy do I feel this applies to a few people I know. You are so right, that we are called to see our children for who THEY are as individuals, not just projections of ourselves.

[@sarahhammond5693]

The problem for me was the fact that schools were teaching something entirely different to my beliefs. I too believe in a creator and its changed my whole outlook now on how I view the world and the things it teaches us. I struggled with this fact knowing when i sent my children to school they were being taught something contrary to what I had taught them. The only outcome of this would be that they would be left confused. What the world teaches is against the creator. My conscience would not allow this.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

I totally respect this and share the same sentiment… however, I’d personally be useless to my child if I were chronically burnt out and overstimulated. It leads to me becoming very unhealthy in all areas of life. We are addressing the issue of conflicting beliefs with many conversations and intentional school hours, talks with teachers, etc. the clash of culture and belief is something familiar to me since I am a Muslim convert who rejects cultural norms of being Muslim, my husbands family is from Pakistan and also I come from an lds family. Our kids are constantly exposed to varying beliefs and worldviews but I believe mine and my husbands are strong and consistent enough to cut thru the noise. And of course a lot of faith, intentional teaching and prayer!

[@kushtyler1614]

I thought the same thing. I now have a daughter who is 18 and is making so many bad choices. These schools are designed to keep our kids down and keep our kids in a working mind state. My two younger are on their second year of homeschooling. My 11 year old has created an idea for a business and soon God spare will start a club. They are more relaxed and less pressured with the ways of the schooling.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

@@kushtyler1614 I get that. The great thing is that I'm in charge of which school/program my kids end up at, so if a school/program proves to be detrimental in any way, I pull them out. I believe in my ability to tune into the success or lack thereof of any situation and thus, pivot as necessary. This is exactly what I did w/ the first school my daughter attended and I'm committed to doing so until she can make those decisions for herself. I fully believe that there is a way to not overburden stay at home moms WHILE remaining a radically intentional parent + provide kids w/ a great experience of the modern village whether that be 'schooling' or a different experience. This is what we have to work w/ in the modern village and we have to curate it to our liking. This is why I don't just send my kids to public schools; a generic, one-size-fits-all, factory-farming style environment isn't conducive to productive, creative, faithful individuals. True at the same time: kids aren't the only people in a family that are deserving of health, peace and fulfillment--we all are and their future success actually relies on us to demonstrate excellent self-preservation WHILE they are young, WHILE we are home w/ them, WHILE we are engaging in all of the parenting challenges.

[@eagleriver7863]

You are a very considerable mom. I also support the homeschooling parents, but I myself send kid to public school. But I don't put my kid to school teachers' hands 100%.

[@tiffanyalaine6516]

Thank you for this! It’s just what I needed to hear. I’ve been homeschooling since my 1st child was preschool age. He will be in 4th grade now and I’ll also have a 1st grader and a toddler. My personality seems a lot like yours. Introverted, low energy reserves for certain things. But also idealistic and natural minded. I was homeschooled myself as well and there was never a question in my mind that I would always do it for my kids. Well this last year, and even kind of since the start of Covid, I’ve just been really struggling. I’ve also had to work part time to catch up on some financial things, and I have adhd and the household stuff alone is hard for me to keep up on. It’s all just too much for me, and my kids have not been getting the time and education that they need. They’ve been bored and unchallenged and uninspired. I don’t even have time or energy to set up playdates and they have no friends. This year I have finally admitted to myself that I can’t give them everything they need. We are quitting homeschool this year. Both them and I are excited for the change, although I am also a bit anxious and guilty. We will see if it ends up being a long term thing, or is just a years reprieve for me to get my sh^# together.

[@litrugia]

I am experiencing the same thing, exactly, so easily distracted because of adhd and low mood part of the month. I feel so awful sending my little guy to school but I get so anxious about what were ‘not doing’, which is a lot. It’s making life so hard, and life is already hard for me.

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

I am so much like you, and my situation is very much like yours. I am so EXHAUSTED, and honestly feel like I should have sent my son to daycare and school, but I haven’t because I have been trying so hard to homeschool because in theory, I think it’s so great! But for some reason for me, and for our situation, it just feels like too much. I get so confused trying to figure out what God wants me to do. Sometimes I think, well not everything God wants me to do is going to be easy. But when is it too HARD?! When is God saying, this will be hard, but I want you to do it? And when is it Him saying, you feel like this because it’s not right for you and not what I want for you? Thank you so much for this. Honestly, I have looking at these videos in order to FIND someone like you. I watch homeschool videos and In like, how do these people do it?? I guess that’s a pretty good indicator, ha? It’s just that I don’t want to send them to public school either, but in order to send them to private school, I will have to go back to work, and I don’t even know exactly what I would do. I used to work at a daycare center, which I’m sure I could get back into, but honestly, I don’t really want to go work with kids all day if that’s part of the point of sending MY kids to school. All I really want to do is stay home all day, by myself and take care of my house and all the chores and meals, and errands, maybe find something to do to make money from home. But then I will have to send them to public school. Ugh, why does the public school system have to be so messed up??!! I just keep praying God would show me very clearly what is the best thing to do. Thanks for your honesty!

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

I guess we have to remember too that God is with our children and in the grand scheme of things, what really matters? That they are safe and that they come to know the Lord and have good character. THAT is what truly matters. Not having the BEST education. Yes, their education is important, but only for living this life. Not for eternity!

[@TheChan7]

Thanks for being so bold and homeschooling is definitely hard. Just subscribed. At times, I doubt myself and feel that I’d be a happier mom if the kids were in school. Thanks for sharing. I also have a channel and it’s about a mix of things. I’d love to connect and be friends here.

[@sarasparks561]

I agree with you. Homeschooling all my kids was too stressful. My kids are all strong-willed and high-strung making it very challenging and difficult. I have five kids- 4 boys and our youngest a girl. This year, I have one in college, two homeschooling, and my youngest two in public school. The older two, schooling at home, are very independent and require no help. That is a great option for you in the future! There are so many responsibilities as a mom that it is nearly impossible to stay on top of everything and also maintain a state of calmness.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

Thank you for saying that! It really is impossible w/ the sheer amount that we're expected to keep up with. That's exactly why I chose calm & peace over ambition here. I love how varied your kids' schooling is. Schooling should always be tailored to the person and not just whatever is most convenient for all the adults in society....or, shall I say, the economy!

[@Trekkifulshay]

I also have some kids in public school and some kids are homeschooled. It really is about finding the best fit for each child and what I can handle to ensure they have a good education.

[@herhomemakingheart]

I'm #100!! ❤❤❤ so glad to have come across your channel.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

Wow that’s so rad, thanks for being here 💜💜

[@herhomemakingheart]

@motherhoodempowerment7012 I'm currently considering surrending homeschool, because I've been struggling for a long time with it and feel like I just don't have enough practical support to continue. It is a difficult choice for anybody, but I am in prayer and trusting God with the outcome. How do you feel the choice has changed life for you all? Do you think it has been a positive change?

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

@@herhomemakingheart r u on ig? I feel like a voice note would be better :)

[@momandme16]

Thank you so much for sharing this video.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

My pleasure :) these decisions are not easy to come to, so I'm glad to at least start the conversation. I believe more moms need to practice trusting themselves and their instincts and stop trying to 'get it right'. This is my faithful step in that direction.

[@Youwonforever]

Here in 2024

[@LouieKaboom]

Said no one ever. Sending them to face that poison doesn't help them or you, no matter how much you try to convince yourself that with a KZbin video. This isn't empowerment, it's giving up. Good luck to your kids; they'll need it.

[@kushtyler1614]

I agree. Parents do get burnt out. But if one is believing in the created as she puts it, then she should be daily praying for strength. My kids are getting ready to join 4-H and other activities.

[@jessisblessed6689]

Homeschooling Mama of 6 myself and my days are BUSY. There are days I feel completely overwhelmed, but I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Sending our children to public school simply is not an option.

[@oliviamcneil3101]

If you ask me, you’re making your kids dodge a bullet, none of what’s being said about homeschooling is true on their own, for example, you might want to socialize your kids, but do the public school kids want to socialize with your homeschool kid?

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

Hey Olivia, could you expand on that? I think I'm getting tripped up with the sentence structure...

[@oliviamcneil3101]

@@motherhoodempowerment7012 I’ll try, in my experience, trying to play with other kids in my neighborhood resulted in them not being nice to me, sure being bullied when in public school is more common place than being bullied for being homeschooled, but that doesn’t mean the chances of the latter happening are zero. I have another example, but, I can elaborate on that upon further interest.

[@InvitationtoAmy]

Also trying to understand. Are you saying you were homeschooled and bullied by the other local kids?

[@oliviamcneil3101]

@@InvitationtoAmy I think so, kids aren’t very nice to each other, least of all those who are different, especially if those differences are rooted in how the parents choose to raise their children.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

Ah I see, so perhaps me sending her to some sort of school will be beneficial.