PART ONE: What Men Need to STOP Saying

[@rmspace5787]

"WELL COME ON OVER THEN!" 😂😂😂That got me

[@a.therese7886]

I died😭 and his facial expression topped it off lmao

[@Caleb_Marlena]

Hahahahahaha yeah

[@geekchickaz]

He buckled under the pressure, too many women in the audience 😂

[@rachellinaaa]

@@geekchickaz RIGHT! They were all sitting there waiting for an answer 😂💀

[@sunrises8760]

Jojo Gideon I had to replay it like 5 times 😂 2:13

[@as19J01]

Loni: The gentlemen in the audience-- Adrienne: The 3 of you 😂😂😂

[@deem.4527]

Alexia Spiteri “the three of you”**

[@as19J01]

@@deem.4527 whoops

[@GothBatty]

Alexia Spiteri I counted 4

[@as19J01]

@@GothBatty well I suck at maths and I'm blind so idk lol

[@sallyibrahim9135]

@@as19J01 first screen 3 and then the turtle necks friend I just assume so 4

[@ms.beautiful]

Adrienne looks GORGEOUS; love her make up, hair, and outfit!! 💕💕💕

[@MaishaOnTop]

Same!

[@RuthieNurseLife0829]

Yes she looks so fresh & vibrant...youthful toi👍

[@MrBurkistan]

I was just gonna say!

[@BabyGirl-ut5kx]

Bruh, grew up on her I’m 23 now. I genuinely have always & will forever find her absolutely gorj and bloody funny ❤️ hope you see this on a down day A. We love you #PENGTING. #UK #LONDON

[@morganbrown6032]

She always kills it!👏🏾

[@jasmineila]

“WELL COME ON OVER THEN” looooool that needs to be a meme now🤣

[@sashaprayslay196]

Jasmineila 😂

[@kara7160]

“Laughing out out out out out out loud” lol haha

[@laniciastanley8262]

Bout time they talk to the audience instead of colleges across the damn country lol

[@empath3133]

Lanicia Stanley lmfao trueee

[@Diana-wk9qv]

😂😂😂😂

[@Diana-wk9qv]

Like what was the point of that 😂

[@kaylenejantjes8113]

RIIIGHT! 😧

[@amandarivasplata3017]

🤣

[@loved0128]

This is why I don't date men who don't know what they want. Either you want me or ya don't. Quit playing games and wasting my time.

[@thefactsaccordingtogabbie149]

Amen to that girl!

[@serealgurl]

Same!!

[@carisapeart8650]

Exactly!!

[@imanigordon6803]

Lol these woman so hypocritical only want the man that they want which is tall dark and handsome lol 😂 beat if he was ranked a 6.5 to you and was super brash you'd be calling him thirsty 🙄

[@paulinamalek1788]

Cue "Quit Playing Games with My Heart"

[@RicoLamar987]

TRUTH: if a guy says “if you want to”...it means that he is ultimately indifferent because he knows he has options & if you don’t come over, another chick is willing to come over. Or quite frankly, if a man says that either he’s tired, his house is messy & he doesn’t feel like straightening it up for you or he just isn’t in to you

[@lorettaknoelk3475]

All of that, yes

[@JennHayden]

@stryfetc1 exactly.

[@ZionBoss783]

Rico....this was one of the most honest comments I have ever seen.. lmao love it!!!

[@Silver-fk6yu]

That’s exactly why we eventually don’t talk to those men, PERIOD.

[@genericmace2271]

I'm a guy, and the "if you want to" part is true, but I'm not so sure about being tired. I get exhausted after each day, and sometimes I just want to have time to wind down.

[@PineappleJas]

“Cus now I don’t want to & I’m calling somebody else” lmao

[@MsLaRue]

Faaaccttsss lol

[@PineappleJas]

Felisha Willis 😂 BIG facts

[@samiekallen4442]

Jasmine Jajko and that’s kool to

[@fwh79FOXR6]

Of course... because you have plenty of guys "on deck". I'm sure you want dedication from a man as well. Yet you fail to display it yourself. Make sure you check his phone too... wouldn't want him to "call somebody else" on you.

[@honeymoney23]

Period!

[@jessiccaroonie7289]

I agree with Tamera!! It’s a soft rejection!! He doesn’t want you! Go find a man that does!

[@fwh79FOXR6]

That sounds like a great plan. The next video topic: "How do I find a man???"

[@juliannesharpe278]

YES!!!

[@speedygonzalez6824]

Be pretty and you're halfway there

[@arnavrawat9864]

A soft rejection means it's time to change partners? That's a disgusting mentality. Life isn't always a bed of flowers, you have to tough it out. If you're gonna leave your poor partner because of a message he's probably better off without you anyway.

[@funandgames714]

Yes. He gives you the choice to use your free will to come over or not and you assume it rejection.

[@valerieerivwode4003]

That audience member had me dying😂💀

[@CristinaRamirez-zj3jy]

Okay But I love Addriene's Hair.😍😍

[@tianamiller6820]

I feel like she looks so young and youthful in this segment😍

[@2centsfreelancer]

I can’t stand that phrase. Like just tell me what u want. Agree w/ Adrienne.

[@sydneysykes4312]

girls do that too tho. its both genders lol

[@sydneysykes4312]

Guys are indifferent and Girls are indecisive

[@2centsfreelancer]

Elc B exactly!!! Ppl be saying that just for excuses plus it’s like bih I don’t date females I’m speaking from what I experience lol 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@sydneysykes4312]

@@elcb845 no im good thanks

[@sydneysykes4312]

@@2centsfreelancer i dont care

[@lochnessxox9529]

‘Now I don’t want to, imma call somebody else’😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ItsMadeNChynna]

Adrienne’s makeup looks good!

[@thefactsaccordingtogabbie149]

To me her look/outfit be on point tue must.

[@BriaBarrows]

it does but her hair looks dry to me...but her makeup is gorg

[@balenciagalifestyle2361]

Always! She’s gorgeous!❤️🌸🌹

[@gnilanendiaye1212]

Oooouwww Taaaameerrraaa ! This red on her is stunning 😍❤

[@ultraviolet6989]

And the pointy shoulders too!!

[@MadiS1127]

Adrienne cracked me up.. "bring that ass over here" 😂😂

[@CristinaRamirez-zj3jy]

I want me a man thats gonna show me he wants me. I love me some affection!!

[@serealgurl]

Damn u dont like woman ma?

[@sashaprayslay196]

I know that’s right! WHO doesn’t like affection?

[@ultimatefirecracker1486]

Cristina Ramirez girl shut up

[@outsideworld76]

No men wants ran through cooch period, men prefer debt free tattooless virgins.

[@shahanab2975]

Adrienne looking so beautiful,loving her make up 😍

[@sitatheyoutuber]

nah it should be texting “wyd” every 5 minutes 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@SupremeDreamss]

Exactly.. it’s so annoying 🙄

[@milirodriguez8493]

Now that lacks interest.Just shows they are bored

[@tianamiller6820]

@@milirodriguez8493 yep shows that their bored and possibly lack conversational skills. Gets real boring and tedious

[@zaineb2310]

facts!!

[@EvaElyse]

terrible communication. I don’t even bother 🙄

[@hey2930]

That man got me dead! 😂💀💀💀💀💀 That was the most blackest southern older guy response. “THEN COME ON OVER THEN.”

[@vsperatos]

Lmao I almost got In the car! Lol

[@hey2930]

Mrs. pancake 😂💀Kmsl !!! Exactly

[@violinlove59]

I think they should include audience responses more often!

[@kennethabbott2391]

I'll stop saying if you want to when women stop thinking men read minds like we know exactly what you wanna eat

[@2436golden]

Okay, you youngins. If a man says, If you want too when you are asking if he wants company, It means exactly what it sounds like it means. He does not care one way or the other and he is "not that into you". Stop ignoring red flags and find someone who wants to spend time with you.

[@LovelyTranquility]

It's funny that y'all are talking about the young people, when it was Loni (the oldest one on the panel) who disagreed with you.

[@ofletcher6422]

Or you could actually say sure I will be over and not make trouble where the may not be any. Stop testing people with every conversation

[@2436golden]

@@ofletcher6422 I guess if you are that thirsty, that would be an option.

[@2436golden]

@@LovelyTranquility That's because to me she is a part of the young people, considering how much older than she I am.

[@2436golden]

@Oh Absolutely Not! Exactly!

[@claudiamontoya5687]

Yesterday my boyfriend if i was coming over, when I said yes. He exclaimed, Yay! and that put the biggest smile on my face. Show enthusiasm guys.

[@AbrielDelaney]

“Are you not that wild’n to see her?” ...Jeannie... that is not proper Ebonics. 😂

[@zaniyahjordan2657]

Abriel Delaney I was thinking that😂😂

[@EvaElyse]

Abriel Delaney for real lol

[@lizcontreras9781]

I LOVE audience interaction!! Please keep those coming for upcoming episodes😁😁😁 they make everything even more hilarious!

[@KimmiePie1]

"Bring that a**!" 😂😭 Adrienne stop

[@MizzBooSongz]

Me too movement and all these 30 years later jail lock ups got them scared. All is up to you.

[@sbella44]

...and this is (part of) why, their awards just keep on coming🤗😂💖

[@briannasanchez9554]

Adrienne needs to do a hair tutorial cause her hair always looks on fleek, the color and every thing !

[@phuketufc1746]

lmaoooo I liked that introduction "is that your lady ?" "That's my WIFE!"

[@KharisB.A]

😂😂😂 Adrienne's hand and facial exhibition towards the end cracked me up..lol

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

Loni is looking STUNNING! That hair!!! 😍😍😍 Adrienne looking good too!! That makeup and her dark lip!! Yaaaassssss girl!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@rickiiiboiii07]

Yassss Adrienne!!! Love the hair, make up and outfit! ONNNN POINT GIRLLLLLL! x

[@dappaflawless]

Next we need to discuss what women need to stop saying

[@Mannythedon24]

Davenel Richards it’ll never happen this show is about women

[@outsideworld76]

And stop doing like having children out of wedlock.

[@tiyichristopher9051]

This has to be my all time favorite look on Adrienne! She looks amazing ♥

[@Onur0547]

Ade rly looks amazing, her make up and her hair 😍

[@mimpj6346]

I'm loving the studio audience participation the real fam!!!

[@Archieopolis]

Coming from a guy, I also say “if you want to” because for me, I always want my bae to come over, but I especially want her to want to come over as well. Some of you in the comments need to stop acting like you have all men figured out. Everyone is different, and we all respond differently

[@mystique907]

So say "I always want you to come over" or "you know I always want u to come over". Being desired by our partner is sexy to us.

[@keiranmorrisart]

men desire n needy is a fine line

[@-SimonRiley]

@@mystique907 If you expect us to do so you need to start doing it yourself first. You don't have any control over us. It should be give and take, most of the time it's the guy who does most work but then we see we are not getting appreciated enough so obviously there's no point and quit. Y'all take it for granted and then complain about it, stop being so entitled

[@QueenOyinkan]

Tamera looks amazing! That BLAZER IS PERFECTION GIRRRRRLLLL!!!!!

[@Jahshona]

Adrienne reciting "if you want to" wheeew chiillle. The Chanteuse has spoken dah-ling!!! Love you ladies!

[@cheragirl]

Adrienne at the end is ME! 😂 I be so over it like you know what never mind, I’m not responding, I’m just mad lmao

[@aahre6lookss]

I love when they include the audience

[@Thekarlagalan]

I love the fact that they’re incorporating the audience more 🙌🏼

[@jordanmiller9533]

I like the fact that they extended the discussion for a prolonged time with the Audience

[@rustyhornzinstrumentalist-7596]

Bro Was Like, No, My Wife Ain't Callin' No One Else! LoL.

[@IwasDiana]

Adrienne’s makeup is POPPIN! ❤️

[@camilal.9595]

JAJAJAJAJAJAJA I think the same ! Hate the “if u want to” it’s less exciting and makes you feels like “ok whatever” and honey... I’m not a whatever ⚡️

[@demetrishoward7032]

"We are feeding the man BAIT"... Do women have any idea how infuriating and/or how much of a turn off it can be dealing with someone who all but refuses at every turn to be honest open and or direct?

[@keiranmorrisart]

Most don't

[@bluebellcrushedvelvet]

Well isn't the whole "well if you want to" the very same thing??!

[@candicelopez5535]

Topics from this episode soooo mind numbing

[@sosoh.6213]

I’m a woman, and I say it too. I’ve always assumed it meant “if you don’t want to, that’s cool and I don’t want to pressure you, but I’m totally okay with it!”

[@kelsiemarie3]

I’m LOVING Adrienne’s hair in this! 💕✨

[@biancalord488]

This episode had me and my husband arguing 😢

[@julieswatosh8472]

Aww why???

[@fwh79FOXR6]

Is it because he told you how ridiculous this video is?

[@youngmarriage5717]

Your husband married you for a reason, don't be silly. Sometimes men like doing their own thing, don't take it personally.

[@funandgames714]

@@youngmarriage5717 he saw what he didn't agree with and spoke out on it. I don't see what's wrong with that.

[@Lovebirdd]

See, I'd be offended if I said "I want to come over, what do you think?" BUT, if HE was like "you should come over, if you want to" then there's no offense at all. There ARE situations where a man saying that is actually giving the option to decline without any upset, and I appreciate that. It's not always a bad phrase and I feel like these ladies were treating it as such.

[@WACG615]

“My issue” is that they have all these fantasy’s on what they want men to say or do . Listen to how they all have romantic responses 😂 this isn’t reality

[@ultimatefirecracker1486]

Agility Lol how can a men respect their thoughts if they can’t have the same respect back that’s the deluded feminist think xD that’s why they stay single till their mid 50

[@GlendaTheGW]

Yea i hate a “you can come if you want too” 😒 like boy, ill smack you. 😂 You better tell me you WANT ME TO COME OVER. My man had issues with this in college but now he gets it that that specific response isn’t very welcoming.

[@funandgames714]

Yes, we as men are very sorry for giving you freedom of choice and not treating you like slaves.

[@mitzypineda9489]

“Well now I don’t want too and I’m calling somebody else” REAL

[@tainayahjackson519]

Adrienne yelling “ WELL BRING THAT ASS” makes my day 😂😂😂

[@Alexandra_K_]

It’s like it “cool” for people nowadays to have that idgaf, heartless attitude about EVERYTHING. It’s annoying af. Ladies, do NOT lower yourself down to wasting your time with a person who is too proud to openly want to spend time with you. And be straight up about it. Im married now but when my husband and I started dating he only tried that “cool guy” bad attitude ONCE with me and I told him “well honestly I’d like to spend my time and energy with a man who really WANTS to be with me so if you’re not feeling that, that’s fine but I’m looking for a real relationship. But it was nice meeting you.” And he changed his attitude REAL QUICK lol.. and if he hadn’t, then we wouldn’t be together today! This goes for guys and girls, I just only have experience dating men. Don’t waste your time with someone who feels too cool to act like they care. Those types of people are too immature for relationships anyways.

[@cookiegirl891]

Alexandra Exactly ! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@ultrararesabra6159]

Imma be real, y’all(women)started it 😹 I used to be mad excited when I would text but girls wouldn’t reciprocate. If u are mostly indifferent you get better results. So don’t hate the player, hate the game 🤷‍♂️

[@chantelleortiz6611]

Yaaaaaas

[@ultimatefirecracker1486]

Alexandra And men don’t waste your time on women who expect much and think they’re up and the man needs to fulfill them.. 😌

[@BrittanysMusicUtube]

Adrienne looking FLAWLESS here 😍😍

[@Tejfrumdevereaux4559]

“If you want to” simply means that if you come over THATS GREAT! 👏🏽🔥 But if you don’t we will not be upset with you Men just don’t show enthusiasm like that because it’s a sign of weakness to us (EVEN THOUGH IT ISNT) that’s just how it feels... when we show that we are giddy and joyful to see our women it feels too childish or overeager So we just try to be chill We are astatic to see our women on the inside But we just don’t like to show it on the outside as much But it is something that men need to change..

[@bluebellcrushedvelvet]

Sorry that is a bit childish. I understand what you are saying and it's nice to hear that YOU are ecstatic to see her but I think you are very much the exception to the rule. And if is a bit adolescent to not just say, hell yes baby, come on over and you can still be a man about it!! Expressing your emotions and INTEREST is never going to be childish! It's quite the opposite! It's very grown! As long as you are not like losing it like that.

[@-SimonRiley]

@@bluebellcrushedvelvet whatever you are saying doesn't apply to us. We are not the same. I don't understand why you guys get offended so easily at something so unharmful. If you don't like it, it's a YOU problem and maybe you need to change and stop being an egoistic person

[@kurtiouxs]

It depends on how the question is asked but if u want to come over you never have to ask. By setting up bait is playing games.

[@gabriellaILY]

Anything along the lines of “it’s up to you” or “whatever you want” aggravates my soul

[@antiisocial.s8937]

Tamera is ALWAYS slaying 💅🏾💕💕

[@mariadanae]

I Took that for GRANTED!!!!!!!! 😢😨😭 THATS why I HATE Texting ppl do not Understand Me I’d rather Face to Face. I H8 texting SO Much!

[@soul7touch]

Omg this is so true , I would never take a man seriously who just responds, “If you want to” 😑

[@funandgames714]

I would never take a girl seriously if they play mind games and expect a dream response

[@soul7touch]

Fun and Games That too. So both I agree with. Both should just be clear and open with what they want

[@natashajoyy4223]

The phrase I'm already tired of "are you lost baby girl! " 😭

[@a.bby4441]

or maybe they’re just not in the mood ? everyone has them days when you just tired of everything😭

[@micahwilliams1332]

a.bby44 Then that needs to be said. If she can’t accept that then she isn’t meant for you.

[@a.bby4441]

Micah Williams yeah okay, I can understand that

[@farrahlynn5605]

Adrienne said “ WELL BRING THAT ASS” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@alexyselysse]

Adrienne said, “Bring that ass”🤣🤣🤣

[@LoLo-rt7iv]

Depends on the situation and relationship. Also this is why there is such an issue with texting. Talk on the damn phone and there will be less miscommunications

[@adamhall7753]

Am I the only one that doesn’t think it’s that serious? People nowadays overthink everything when it ain’t that deep 😂

[@KRISTHYANVI]

When they say "I promise I will never do it again" I hate it 😭😭

[@titocantarero1330]

50% of the time I actually agree it’s a way of guys saying it’s your choice I don’t want to pressure or stress you out.

[@marysha6]

I really appreciated the interaction with the audience

[@vaniacastillo2465]

Adrienne looks amazing. You go girl!

[@joss1000]

Adrienne looks so pretty

[@mikejvevo3153]

i learn a lot from them seriously

[@EpicFandomVogue]

It depends on where it is in the sentence. "If you want to, you can come over," is asking permission. "Come over, if you want to" is indecisive and uncaring.

[@misskay_25]

Akure Phénix I agree

[@jonathanthompson7067]

That all depends on the type of female that is asking that question. The males response can be a reflection of which he sees females ulterior motives.

[@yasminmal6610]

Yes! I am so tired of hearing that!! I want them to show their feelings!!

[@yasminmal6610]

Thelondonbadger are you even a woman? Can you even relate? Because if you aren’t then obviously you can’t see it from the standpoint Im seeing it from. I need someone to be sure that they want to see me not second guess... just saying.

[@yasminmal6610]

Thelondonbadger you’re funny! Please don’t get defensive as if someone is attacking you. You must’ve not liked the title of this video to go ahead and feel the need to comment and belittle women. You don’t know me nor any other women that have commented and agreed with me so how about you shove the advice right back to where it came from. Thank you very much! 😘

[@ctropnas1]

Those waves flowing out of Lonnies scalp...SLAAAAYYY!!!😍😍

[@xocoolchickxo]

Sometimes I think "if you want to" works with friendships too. Like if they say "if you want to" when you ask to hang out or go over to their house it seems like they don't really care all that much.

[@raiethefantibae]

Aaaaall the ladies look GORGEOUS in this clip😍😍😍

[@KYESHAKNOWSSKIN]

I love Loni's hair like this I hope she keeps it like this for a long time.

[@quinceecamilleartistry3726]

How do you say don’t play games in relationships then in the next sentence say you’re laying bait for a man? More women just need to understand that men communicate differently and he’s not going to follow some script you made up in your head.

[@Angie-nb4pg]

Quincee Carter I don’t think asking someone if they’d like for you to come over is playing games, you’re literally just testing to see if they want you to come over or not, and if all they say is “if you want to” that sounds like they’re not that into you or don’t care one way or another.

[@quinceecamilleartistry3726]

Amazing Grace I’m referring to what Adrienne said about how asking that way is laying bait for them. But right before that Jeanie said that games shouldn’t be played in relationships. Either way, if you want something (not you specifically speaking generally), be direct about it. Beating around the bush is annoying for everyone involved.

[@marquisbryant]

Cuz it's okay for a woman to play hard ti get but a man cant in womens eyes. Like if a woman wants to have sex and the man has the flu he still has no choice but to say yes

[@Poopie22]

Nope , a man isn't gonna say "if you want to" to Beyoncé if she DMd him right now. Hes not that into you when says "if you want to"

[@AlesSpot]

😂 I used the "if you want to" on a guy before and I thought it was totally okay until I watched this 😂😂

[@averyjohnson7600]

“If you want to” work if followed with the right emojis it works

[@jaedinwatson7498]

We won’t stop saying it CAUSE we can do it

[@rebeccastovall7490]

Anyone can say anything cuz freedom of speech but some things just needed to be worded better.

[@awidda]

Cause NOW I don't wanna. And I'm calling somebody else... Damn fucking straight.

[@444malachi]

THE WAY LISA GRABBED THAT MIC!!!!! she was waiting her whole life for this exact moment

[@jvin8098]

Adrienne is so funny @2:24 😂😂💀 I’m a man. If I say “if you want to” that mean I’m not really up but I’m going to go with the flow but then again I’m really chill so I just go with flow anyway. I only make a decision or suggest something if it’s something I really want to do

[@alejandravaldes594]

Aayyyyyeee my ladies look lovely 😍 loving Adrian's glow! ❤️

[@workingonmyself]

“Don’t play games.” also “take the bait”.

[@neenaharris3496]

I’m loving this look Adrienne is wearing....

[@violettelovesjesus8888]

That dude better be like yes lord! My prayers have been answered! He better treat you like the queen u r and value every second of your time! Lol women r life we create life..... ooooooooh this second glass of wine got me going on a Sunday lmfao🍷🍷

[@Rae.Elaina]

Did anybody else peep Ade say, "Bring that ass"? Lmaoooooo!

[@queenchiomaofficial]

Yesss Adrienne!!! love that part at the end when you said ‘now I don’t want to I’ll go somewhere else’ lol 😂 btw you look stunning! ❤️💕I totally love it when a man is certain too! I don’t like it when a man is so-so.

[@shashavengesayi6055]

As a guy, I understand where you’re coming from ladies but in this era of MeToo and consent, it’s a bit intimidating to say what u want directly like “I want u to come”, “come”, “u better get over here” etc

[@cheyboo6699]

It's a lot more enjoyable if a guy is like " yea it'd be great to see you if you have the time." Versus " if you wanna. " It shows his heart is also in it and he does wanna see you . When guys say " if you want to" or anything like that it's like ofc IIIIIII want to that's why I reached out, but do you also WANT me there or does it not phase you whether you see me or not.

[@moniquemeads]

2:24 Adrienne: BRING THAT ASS! Lolol same😂

[@TuxedoJuinorPlayz2012]

No one has ever told me "if you want to". Like literally! They ASK you to come if they want you to! Point blank. I have actually never heard that foolishness. That must be an under 25 thing. Idk. lol