Patience, Love & Guilt is a Weapon Don't Be Dumb | A Life Styled with Danielle

[@genesisberry4962]

I used to feel guilty because I would think, “What if it were me? I would want someone to be there for me.” But then I remembered that I never project my issues onto others and expect them to pour into me while I give absolutely nothing. It’s actually the worst kind of people who do that so I don’t feel bad anymore lol.

[@DanielleLavirgo]

Bingo!!!!! Ppl underestimate other ppls manipulation because they are nice ppl. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@onlygood222]

My father often used my family members to reach out to me after his wife mistreated me. He has clear mommy issues and trauma but he projected that onto his young daughters including me when we were just kids. I am avoiding him for now but ultimately, he cannot do anything about that, you cannot force anyone to stay. I am in my early 20s, so I acknowledge that I have the rest of my life to keep healing from this overworking. 🧿

[@prettyqueen573]

This proves how much I have grown. Thank God for therapy.

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

two videos in a row really spoke to me your video on your surgery really spoke to me in dealing with my anemia and health issues like tmj. This one really spoke to situational problems that I've gone through also love your podcast

[@zakiyahamahad7404]

Literally needed this today! Had a discussion with a man who is still upset I said happy birthday to him a week before his birthday. A WEEK BEFORE!!! I even apologized and called again the day of. This was in March! He said that even thought I had other things going on (still grieving my dad passing) that was no excuse to be EARLY. I only fault myself for trying to treat people the way I want to be treated. Now, if they have trauma, I literally will walk away.

[@DanielleLavirgo]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@baddiebee1400]

Omgosh Danielle! Story of my life. 😩 I recently dated a woman who weaponized her trauma all the time. Since her mom died, she had to help take care of the family and essentially become the "head of household." I didn't feel like a priority because there were times where she would cancel plans with me to help her family. So I cancelled her. I don't have any kids, I'm working, etc. I need someone who can be here for me and do things for me.

[@DanielleLavirgo]

Exactly!!!

[@smilesforu92]

I *literally* feel the same way. Thank you for sharing!

[@domo5688]

Thank you for making this video. This was something I needed to see.

[@kdyall26]

I don't think that "you don't care" you are tired of getting energy drained and getting nothing of value is returned. You told no lies in this video. This is done by significant others, friends, family and oddly enough coworkers.

[@RickyManner]

You ain't saying a damn Thang wrong here.

[@jojoone1099]

You can't have a relationship with someone who's not ready to be in a relationship. This goes for friendships too. Some people view co-dependency and taking on other people's emotions/problems as a normal way of living because they saw it growing up.

[@MilitaryDoll314]

😩 girl I cut a guy off bc he told me he didn't cut grass. I'm so tired of these city boys 🥴. As a Taurus I'm a fixer too, esp. when it comes to family. Here recently I've had to tell myself that I don't have to jump to/offer help in every family situation & I don't have to feel guilty about it. My response now is "oh wow, thats terrible"....a long way from "you want me to do this/that" 🙌🏾

[@RickyManner]

You are on point!!! We are on the same page!