Paying respect to the process - Transition is Hard

[@ElectricDade]

Wow, congratulations on starting your transition! I think I've seen you in some of Wes's fb photos. I'd love to hang with you all in Portland:) If you guys are ever down here also, let me know.

[@theshark2871]

i feel the same way !!!! no brother no father !!!! no buddy!!! i to had no male role model!! why do we have to live so far a way !!

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks - this is really kind of you. I feel so grateful to have the youtube community and all of the support they offer!

[@cucumberkace5570]

You're the first guy that has shared something so important to me deep inside that I have been questioning for a while. I've been pondering about this transition thing and this video really gives me a sense of strange comfort and confirmation of the process. Thank you.

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks:) I'm so glad that you both watch!

[@ELThenN]

Wow your change is Amazing! I just came out to my parents and they hate it, my dad said he will kick me out and my mom terribly sad.. I am nearly 21 years old and fear that that it will be late for me to take T, I am thinking to delay it for a while, how old were you when you start T?

[@Hunter80843]

I take for granted having my father in my life and having a brother, they are very supportive even giving me the rope i need to hold onto

[@korbench-pe9564]

Brother hood is truly the hardest part for me alone and sometimes wondering if any one understands me.

[@julielevesque6034]

Oh, wow, I'm really glad that I found this video. I feel this way too : the longing to have a kind of brotherly figure in my life, the need to belong. The feeling that the men who knew me pre-transition won't ever fully view me and treat me as male. Or at least not spontaneously. I'm still waiting for my first appointment with the psychiatrist so I don't have much experience, but I get the feeling that it will take years for male friends to fully adjust. In the meantime, there's our community :)

[@mrcameronandrew]

Thanks for this video man. I relate to selfishness aspect. I just started my transition, and I am so consumed with everything that is going on with me and the process. I'm trying to find the balance between this and all the other aspects of my life. It is just the beginning and already becoming very interesting in that respect. Hoping to find a way to make it smooth out. Come up to Portland and bro out with me and yourpalwes!

[@KingsNJazz]

LOL "can you look at me when i'm talkin' to you" (swivels spiderman head) hahaha! No, I totally understand what you're saying here and can relate.

[@ElectricDade]

Thank's for the thought. I have thought about a mens retreat of some sort. Part of my problem is finding time to pursue things like that. I'm really struggling balancing everything going on in my life right now.

[@ElectricDade]

Those are good points. Vulnerability is definitely something I struggle with. For some reason it's easier on here, though.

[@whiterottenrabbit]

Dude, if you'll ever come to Germany, give me a call - we'll get piss ass drunk and then piss off the side of the deck!

[@songriter1]

I have been enjoying and getting educated watching your videos. Have you ever considered doing a men's retreat? One that I used to go to is with Barry Vissell of Shared Heart Foundation. It's usually a weekend retreat in the Santa Rosa area of N. California. Joyce and Barry Vissell have been doing wonderful work with couples for years and I had the pleasure of working with them as a musician in their retreats and workshops. The retreat is usually in late November.

[@ElectricDade]

Glad you liked it Sam:) It was meant to make a hard thing a bit funny.

[@DesertForest29]

Awesome video Dade. Really. I know that lonely feeling, and sometimes bio-guys from before transition, almost transition with you in terms of adjusting to understanding you as male, truly. I've found that confidence combined with a willingness to be vulnerable about what I want guys in my life to reflect back to me, has helped with getting closer, in a male sense, to pre-existing male friends. Talk to them like you talk to spiderman, ; tap into their spidy-sense! Thanks for the great video -L

[@ElectricDade]

It's a hard feeling to shake and even harder to maneuver through.

[@samuelMarx73]

Dade this video was awesome. Not only did u hit the nail on the head for me, I was lol. Take care.

[@jppaiva13]

I feel you on this. I've actually never spoken about it with any other trans guys, I think it's something a lot of people don't want to admit to. I find myself worried around my cis male friends who knew me pre-transition, I'm just constantly nervous about whether or not they really see me as "one of them".

[@ElectricDade]

Just go ahead and message me your questions.

[@ElectricDade]

In Oregon you have to fill out legal name change papers and have a judge approve it. I don't know how it is in NJ - probably about the same though:)

[@ElectricDade]

I'm not sure about bottom surgery at this point. I feel like I need to get through what I already have going on before I even think about it.

[@ElectricDade]

I will. Same if you're ever down here. As for spiderman, ya he's pretty awesome!

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks Zane (damn that's a good name:) I wish all of us had teleporters!

[@TransMB]

We are all brothers in this journey. Thanks for being courageous and talking about the loneliness that comes with this. Keep your head up, I have been told that it gets better. :)

[@emQism]

dude your voice sounds so much deeper than the last time i caught up with you. lookin good, brahhh

[@TERM1011]

Look me up if you ever visit Carolina. Your life story is awesome, you would fit in just fine with us.

[@Joptrid]

Only spiderman understands. LOL. Love it.

[@ElectricDade]

They're not my friends man. Have you seen my coming out at work video, lol. It's rough for me there - wish I wasn't locked in. Spiderman will do, haha! Ps... you looking mighty stylish;)

[@ElectricDade]

I don't know how it is in Hawaii but I had to go to a therapist and get diagnosed with GID. Then I took that diagnosis to my doctor who prescribed me testosterone. As far as I know, you have to have a prescription to take T.

[@embersun.]

I love that you're drinking with spider man xD

[@Joptrid]

Also, the best response I have from guys is when they don't know I'm trans and its a seamless 'one of us' moment and I love it. Wish you were closer so we could hang out and be buds.

[@joanneiyang02]

Hey Dade. I've been watching your video lately. I just have a question about T. My gf wants to start on it but she can't seems to know where to start. She had been searching on the internet and other stuff but she still couldn't find more information about it here, here in Hawaii. Is there any way we can buy the T out from another state? What are her first options? Thanks.

[@Graziella2006]

I understand your point.It might be easier to connect to male guys who don`t know about your transition. I would try that, to fight loneliness.Good luck for a start : )

[@ElectricDade]

My Spiderman is pretty awesome - I love him, and he's a great listener ;)

[@barethebear1743]

I'm about 8 months on T and have had my top surgery, and I feel the same way. Like, how does "the tribe" see me?

[@carolemler4661]

Every once in a while when I'm feeling a little out there on my own I check out one of your past videos just to learn more about your world and your place in it. I am a bit awe struck over the stages of transition and this was so humanizing, a normal in the midst of the insanity of the trans situation. (I use "insanity" in the best way possible). many thanks.

[@theshark2871]

mn i love your blogs u rock !!! when u spek i feel like we r on the same page !! oh ? how did u go about name change!!

[@ElectricDade]

Wow, thanks! It's changing, slowly but surely:)

[@ElectricDade]

Thank you for the offer, but we try to only fb friend people that we personally know and hang out with. Thanks for understanding:)

[@ElectricDade]

That's a nice way to look at it... I do have "secret knowledge" that cis-men do not!

[@DanielIam02]

THIS I can relate to a lot! Welcome to the club of lonely men of the tribe of the lost men!!!!

[@SaelPalani]

A man that used to be female. What woman would not want that? You understand the female experiences and as a mature woman, I gotta say I love that.

[@anandbrien108]

Does testosterone effect a persons menstrual cycle?

[@yourpalwes]

i love this! hit me up if you can ever make it to portland, man. i'm jealous of spider man.

[@ElectricDade]

Sorry to hear about your parents - mine are not supportive either. I don't think you're too old for T... I didn't start until I was 29!

[@ElectricDade]

Glad you relate - and it's not just me!

[@ElectricDade]

That is a kind offer, thank you.

[@anthonyco4351]

Dade - I hear you and to some degree understand where you are coming from. I am a 59 y.o. cisgender gay man here in Denver Colorado. It would be an honor to be a father figure, etc. I have a 21 y.o. son who I adopted about 12 yrs ago. He did not connect with me. So now I am without a son. This may sound strange to you or maybe it will not, I would love to be a father to someone. And I would like to talk to u about filling that void in your life. Unless that has already happened for you.Take care

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks. Sometimes it just feels better to laugh at yourself.

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks - we are all brothers on this journey.

[@jdult]

I'm not trans ma dude, but i admire you a lot. i'm so intrigued by your videos and i'm so happy you're getting what you want.

[@ElectricDade]

Thank you for this comment.

[@aycarambaish]

ohmigahh, you have a ceiling fan in an open porch??? haha

[@TheSLOfox]

This is a great video! funny!

[@Fcf5063]

To begin, congratulations on your sucessful transition and the birth of your first child. I admire you with the utmoast respect for all you have done and for your courage. (2nd half of my message was "too long") So If you see this, messege me, and i will send you my email, I would love to ask you some questions if you are okay with it? :)

[@jjallen1976]

You're awesome man. Wish we were friends.

[@ElectricDade]

I'm glad you can relate to what I said i the video. Just knowing that, helps.

[@Graziella2006]

another way to go along with guys is with all kind of sports : )

[@ElectricDade]

I hear you. My dad's not alive either... not that I think he'd be okay with this.

[@ClosetTransgender]

I'm surprised dude, seems like you would have a brotherhood though work. I got ideas if you need more man time. Spidey is pretty bad ass, but I can see how his company is lacking.

[@gustavomayrandecastro9393]

That's one thoughtful vídeo.

[@ElectricDade]

Damn the distance!

[@ElectricDade]

Pacific northwest, in the US.... and does a cat count;)

[@frankthomas5814]

I never had a brother, I will be your bro.

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks Caleb.

[@loveobviously]

i'll be your brother from another mother

[@tangoexperiment]

My advice is to take up a martial art. You can't do anything to get your old friends to "let you into their tribe" If you want to be around male energy starting bjj or Muy Thai training will get you there in a hurry! Do you use a shewee?

[@Johnson210000]

I would like to be a brother! I find that FTMs make great brothers. I tried searching for electricdade (both as two words and as a single word on FB without success.

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks, my LA bro.

[@ealing26]

wish i was closer,we could have got on very well as friends

[@bloodyicecube]

Hey dude I live in the same area so maybe if you ever wanted to make this toast in person we could arrange something! :)

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks!

[@Maxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxim]

You're doing better than me, man. I don't even have a spiderman doll (action figure), I'm seriously jealous of yours. But I get your sense of wanting a brotherhood or some male companionship, I'm completely surrounded by women. Don't get me wrong, I love women but I just need some bros

[@Unfindablex]

You are hot. And keep doing what you need to do. We support you

[@Lohramc]

great video!

[@ElectricDade]

Awesome. I'll let you know!

[@ElectricDade]

Ya, I hear you man.

[@jessestransition341]

i know this feeling man!

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks:)

[@ElectricDade]

Me too... my boy Nigel:)

[@cypressfuhrman8692]

Hey man, 30 year old just beginning transguy here. You stole my name, just to let you know! :) I've loved that name since Hackers. (Not suggesting thats a reference for you) So, i thought i heard in one of your videos that you have a blog? I was just hoping you could hook me up with that, somehow? You have very in-depth content in your videos, you answer a lot of the questions I would ask. For instance, my testosterone levels are extremely high naturally as well....so much so that my estrogen is unreadable. Anyway, you talked about that and its important for others to know. Super props on doing these videos, my friend. I dont know where you live....im in Boulder, CO. The wife an I are always looking for good people to have dinner with....if you are close. Take care of yourself, man. Lookin good, lookin happy, lookin free!! K..... Or..... To Be Determined......

[@ElectricDade]

That would be great:)

[@queondasoyjesserex5098]

Jajaja eres mi ídolo soy de Mexico ojalá puedas ver mi canal y mis vídeos pero no están en inglés , algún día quiero tener una familia como tu y ser así de apuesto saludos. Compañero

[@GoldenSunkisses]

Fuck yeah. All the support!

[@ElectricDade]

ya, that'd be awesome.

[@Markperry123]

am here for you man, like to be that guy friend:)

[@ElectricDade]

Thanks man:)

[@anthonyco4351]

Dade - Please! Read my comments below. It seems like you live in a cool place. Chickens, the country, etc. Take care.

[@ChrysalysMoon]

It's not really your place to judge this man or tell him what to do or NOT to do. You don't know the full story here. Maybe it's a simple as the boy has a problem with Gay/Bi/Transgender and needs to mature.

[@maxpremiuntv]

omg i would be happy to have boyfriend like u!

[@songriter1]

Hey Dade:

[@Jayfindshisway]

Hey ElectricDade, check out my video "Journey to reclaim my birth gender." Brotherhood will be accomplished through being strong enough to reach out and your Brothers being strong enough to respond. You can consider me your Brother always because we are on a level that most people cannot reach or comprehend. In strength, Jené

[@chochibo]

Whoa creepy comments below me...

[@rarestcat]

voice drop!

[@ElectricDade]

I would make videos of Nigel but I'd be afraid someone would come to my channel for cat videos and get quite a surprise, lol.

[@anthonyco4351]

Dade _ Please! Read my comments under this video. FTM transition: One year on testosterone Take care.

[@whiterottenrabbit]

ROFL @ 3:03

[@ElectricDade]

No, I use a pee-cock.