Balancing Your Identity in Alternative Fashion

[@PrinceOfCloudCity]

This video makes me so happy, you don't even know! I fluctuate between wearing all black and wearing all pastels. I'm dipping into both gothic and sweet Lolita, and I've been told many times that I can only pick one. Screw that! I'll wear what I want, when I want!

[@jessbellis9510]

This is my exact idea. People always ask me "where do you wear lolita?" and my response is always "wherever the hell I want"

[@margaretsheahan4930]

Yes. Be yourself

[@EmbroideredDoll]

I agree with this. Alternative fashion is meant to be fun, it's something someone should feel happy wearing.

[@Pixielocks]

I struggled with this really badly about this time last year! I felt like I needed to perfectly represent one specific style, and especially as a fashion blogger I felt like I needed to perfectly brand myself. I wish I heard this a year ago! It's really important for other fashion enthusiasts to hear this, clothes are just clothes and they don't need to stress you out

[@RambleMaven]

Wow I was a new subscriber to your channel at that time 😱!! I can't believe it's been a year already lol you have such a sort period of time you have become one of my fav✨🎀💕✨

[@Scriblip]

It all depends on the mood im wearing it all depends on the mood im in ♪ A good quote a bout fashion from Jem

[@11shelbz]

Pixie and Peachie! I love you both! You give me the inspiration to wear what I want to wear and feel confident in being me.

[@McLeanAmy]

Very inspiring! I don't dress as Gothic as I'd like because I have to try and maintain a professional appearance when I'm around colleagues or clients. However, dressing Gothic - or in any other kind of alternative fashion - shouldn't ever be considered unprofessional, but simply creative. Maybe one day it will be seen like that!

[@TheDailyDaysAndGuns]

Isn't there a thing as corporate goth? Maybe you can look into that?

[@jessbellis9510]

I'd like to hope so, I work as a receptionist for a podiatry clinic and I like to wear my J-fashion and especially lolita. Because we have quite a lot of elderly patients, they really love my outfits. :)

[@isakigoboom]

Hi! I'm both a Goth and a lolita. It's quite easy to wear both in a professional atmosphere. Check out corporate goth as one person above said and just tone down the lolita co-ord :)

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

Hey folks, in regards to my "a-play" comment in the video- apologies if it sounds like I'm throwing everyone in that fetish under a bus. I was actually considering removing that clip. So let me explain why I decided to keep it in: I'm aware that a-play is not always a sexual thing, but in regards to the pervertedness I'm bringing up in the video I'm actually refrencing a major issue particularly on Tumblr where people who wear cutesy fashion such as sweet lolita and fairy-kei get preyed on by sexually predatory members of the a-play community; what's worse is there are at least a few thousand cases of this happening and a lot of the time it is towards underage teenagers (mostly girls). Most of us who wear kawaii fashion, including myself, want NO part in this fetish- but unfortunately our blogs are often approached out of context by perverts because we like cute things and looking cute. They really don't stop to think if it's appropriate. Because of this, the vast majority of us into these fashions who have been approached by these people have ONLY experienced them as sexual predators. So this was a shoutout to people who have had to go through that. I know the harmless people in these fetish comunities don't like to hear things about that from a community they're part of, I mean who would? We want our communities to be kind and safe. But it has become such a HUGE, ugly problem on places like Tumblr that I felt like it was important for me to reference. It really has affected a lot of people who wear cute style fashions. But on a positive note! One or two a--players on the past have very politely messaged me and asked if I would be comfortable with them following my blog and reblogging my stuff to their own blogs, and when I said I wouldn't be comfortable they simply understood and kindly said goodbye. I wish more of those people would treat us like that. :')

[@smittywerbenjagermanjensen4181]

I think it's sucks that is a often occurrence for people who like the fashion that they have to go through.

[@Zzzk23]

That's one of the reasons I'm afraid to wear Nymphet fashion. I don't want people to think I'm romanticizing the novel, "Lolita."

[@jessicanewberry4806]

+agizzy23 what is "nymphet" fashion

[@Zzzk23]

jessica newberry It's fashion usually inspired by the 1997 remake of "Lolita" (based off the novel of the same name). It's very 1940s-1950s inspired, only slightly more revealing. The problem is the story is in the first person narrative of a pedophile who becomes obsessed with his stepdaughter. a lot of people assume people who are into that fashion think the story is a romance and have a DDLG lifestyle, but in reality I know the book is a drama about obsession and his step daughter didn't feel the way the narrator portrayed her to.

[@zazhands8866]

That's not it at all. Lolita is a Japanese fashion based off of English Victorian and Rocco fashion, with western and Japanese influences. It's supposed to be more doll-like and (sometimes cute). It is not affiliated in any way with Nabokov's novel.

[@thenekomimi3856]

I often feel this way too. I'm on the "gothic" side (liking more morbid things, loving horror, ect.) but I also love sugary sweet pastels and cute things. There's times where I've often felt bad for not committing to one style or for even dressing in "normal fashion". My closets always been very mixed. Something that's helped me was a poem called "The Rules of Lolita" by Novala Takemoto. Particularly the line "Even when wearing a jersey, a princess is a princess".

[@goodnighttheskye]

Honestly, I think this issue stems from branding. Everyone, given the way social media is so ever-present, has the tendency to present themselves as a brand in the way celebrities do. And all the most successful brands have an instantly recognisable "look" or "thing" that makes them distinguishable, like Dita Von Teese's make-up or Marilyn Manson's contact lenses and lipstick, and we think we need a "look" to be memorable too. In attempting to do the same there's often a removal of nuance, we forget that Sia isn't always in the wig and Slash isn't always in the hat, and so when we deviate from the brand we've created for ourselves it feels like a betrayal, or an indulgence, that goes against the online persona we've created. KZbin/Instagram culture hasn't helped this, as everyone is attempting to sell themselves to some degree, and it almost always ends in people reducing themselves down to seem less complex and more appealing to an audience. I also think the external pressure becomes more heightened in J-fashion, as for the most part it doesn't have a grounding in other aspects of culture the way other fashions do. For example, goth fashion goes hand in hand with goth music, goth films and goth ideology - and so the fashion becomes less important because goths can bond over other aspects of their subculture together. Due to the language barrier, relative newness and the comparative lack of history/music/media surrounding J-Fashions like lolita/fairy kei/mori kei, the importance of getting the fashion right becomes much more heightened. This is especially true also given the emphasis of certain J-Fashions like Lolita on perfection, whereas goth and punk origins are very D.I.Y, anti-establishment and rough around the edges. It can feel like there's no room for mistakes in J-Fashion, especially given the tropes of lace monsters and etta's and Bodyline being looked down upon. Great video, I have a lot more thoughts but I'll stop now aha.

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

+GoodnightTheSkye Wow, this was a really cool theory! Thank you for contributing to the discussion. I feel like you're really onto something here. :)

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

Thank you so much for all the sweet responses guys! :) I'm really touched knowing this video could help a lot of you. It's quite amazing just how common these pressures can be.

[@RambleMaven]

I agree with this completely I work in the fashion retail industry and my manager always say " Your closet must be everywhere lol " . It's because I could come looking Goth one day dress like a hippie, then do a Kylie Jenner inspired look, then wear vintage clothes, then be wearing Japanese inspired street fashion. It honestly doesn't matter. I absolutely LOVE having my closet in a miss mash of fashions and styles because that way the combinations are endless.

[@abbyo8733]

to be completely honest i would much rather watch/follow someone who is constantly growing and expanding their tastes and being unique than someone who conforms and is consistently one unchanging thing!

[@Sleepystardrops]

Don't Feel this way! I was into hippie fashion in middle school for 2 years, then emo for 2 years, then goth for a year and then I wore normal clothes for a while until grade 11 when i went into full on sweet lolita for two years and finally for the last 3 years I've worn classic lolita/morigirl/hipster? I wouldn't classify it like anything except that it is a mixture of all my favorite elements from all the styles I've worn my whole life. When you feel like you might not want to where a style any more you can always switch to something new and try everything until you find what makes you happy! You don't have to stick with the same thing because some people do. Switch to new things as much as you want so you can find your fashion identity.

[@ExperimentalAthenian]

I'm glad you made this video Princess Peachie. I will admit, growing up, I felt the need to become "the perfect, intelligent, tomboy." So I would always avoid anything that is associated with "girly girls" so no one would think that I'm destined to become a mom or a prostitute. However, as I got older, I learn to understand that there's no such thing as being super masculine or super feminine. Just being yourself should be good enough. In all honesty, I could go on for hours about this, but for now, I'm just gonna keep it short and sweet. Again, nice job! :)

[@Namelesssu]

I'm the type that really like switching between styles, because I feel comfortable in different things on different days. And the best comment I have ever gotten was a classmate who said "I love how you switch between styles, it's so much fun". It just made me feel really good and less insecure, because like Peachie says, you sort of tell yourself that you "have to" stick to one style. But the fact that someone else said they thought it was fun, and that they liked me not just sticking to one style, was the best thing I could ever hear~

[@wotutu8499]

Thank you so much for this video. I wear lolita yearly at a convention called Qcon (it's dangerous to wear such lovely things looking after a young child of using markers 90% of your time). I've a chronic illness and skeletal abnormality that have been getting worse and I'm going to have to attend in a wheelchair so I don't suffer badly like last year.. when friends asked me about dressing up I can honestly say I dreaded the thought and a wee bit of me is scared people won't want to see me because I'm not my usual spectacle of a person. Your video put me more at ease and helped me remember that lolita is something I love and I don't want to do something that makes me resent it :)

[@Ana1347]

I have been in lolita for 2 years now but i feel like that "wear lolita all the time" phase kinda went by, I'm already at the point where i wear more fairy kei than lolita and at first i felt really pressured to wear lolita to join the community but now that i have lolita friends i feel fine only wearing it when i hangout with them. This video honestly made me feel better about myself thanks!!

[@vlst8715]

I think the whole point of alternative fashion is not letting any social groups' expectations, real or perceived, define you, and staying true to yourself no matter what. Even if it means not fitting in, or not belonging anywhere at all. I personally see this trait as the one and only requirement for being alternative. Not in the gatekeeping kind of way, god forbid, but because without cultivating it you probably will give up on the idea sooner or later, since it is a bit of a tough path. You really need to have what it takes. And it takes lots of motivation to fight for your personal boundaries every single day, even in the smallest ways. But at the same time it's the coolest part, because in the long run it tempers you and makes you unshakable.

[@xcrimsonstarx]

I agree 100% Personally I have had these thoughts but I got into Gothic Lolita and Visual Kei fashion at the same time (upon the discovery of VK music) So Ive always had the two styles interchanging for 10 years, though around 5 years ago I added Gyaru into the mix so I guess my style has always been kind of eclectic. Personally though, I love having a choice of styles that change with my mood and thats the fun part!

[@QueenJellybean3]

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I'm at the stage in my life where my style is changing. I need to think about what makes me happy

[@noheelii]

this happened to me when I was on my 19-21 years old. I used to be a "skater girl" and I catch myself thinking "ohh this is to girly for me.... but i really like it". I was sooo scare about what my friends what they would think about me?... and one day i did it... I change my style. But the change was not to another fashion... it was more like "ok today I want to be a princess" or "I want to wear my jeans". Now Im 23 and I just figure out that my style it's more like cute but rocker at the same time? And I didn't force it... I just saw a pattern in my closet and it was like "ohhh so this is who I'm" And you feel very happy you know? Because you can understand your self little bit more and you can see how much you are changing.

[@neko1onna]

This was obviously a very heartfelt video you made after grappling with your own evolving sense of self. Regardless of whether you end up leaving Lolita entirely, or just take a break to "freshen" the wonder, know that your videos will continue to inspire sweet Lolitas like me who find your style and sensibility so fun. I love that sense of joy you bring to what you wear. In a community that sometimes gets bogged down in labels, it was great to see you concern yourself with only one label- kawaii. Your total lack of concern about the cachet of a piece, and total focus on your enjoyment of that piece is what Lolita should be about. May you find equal joy in whatever kawaii endeavours you may pursue in the future, and know that you have helped many find their look and their confidence in the world of alternative fashion.

[@Ueruchan]

I've gone through so many phases of fashion in my life. Just trying to find out who you are can be fun in itself. For me, it wasn't so much stressful as it was fascinating and fun. People will label you and there's nothing you can do about it. But this doesn't have to affect you, and in fact it shouldn't. I now wear very comfy oversize shirts with pastel colors and my jewellery ALWAYS has some element of food and sweets. I have no idea what style people think I am, but I'm enjoying being me. Lol. :) Love your videos, Peachie. Rock those cute clothes!

[@missnikkirainbow]

Very good video, Peachie! I agree with everything, and you gave very helpful advice

[@jessicanewberry4806]

I'm going through this now so thank you for making this video I discovered lolita a couple years ago but now I'm discovering Goth and I've been questioning whether my interest in kawaii culture compromises whether I can be Goth or not but I'm trying to over come it so thank you

[@isakigoboom]

I feel ya :) maybe check out some of my videos? Not to self promote; but I'm a Goth who also loves all things 'kawaii'. I stand by the belief to never limit yourself and to just do what you love! Also check out the youtuber Toxic Tears :)

[@jessicanewberry4806]

Isaki Tahashi I already have! Haha you did a video for me once before about dressing lolita for the work place

[@isakigoboom]

jessica newberry Oh sweet! :D

[@shimmertails]

Thanks so much for this video, Peachie! To be honest, I haven't really started my alt fashion journey yet and I was already feeling those pressures...but I have met some lolitas recently and I was relieved to find out that they don't wear lolita all the time, and they still look amazing when they do wear it. They've invited me to come to meetups too ^u^ I also know I will never stick to one fashion, as I'm interested in so many - both sweet and gothic aesthetics, as well as super feminine and masculine looks. Hearing this is just so reassuring. I've tried putting less of this pressure on myself, but hearing it from someone else really helps. Off topic, but I think this also applies outside of fashion; to any group, like you said. Like, I'm a writer even if I don't write every day. Getting writer's block or having no time to write doesn't mean I can't call myself a writer c:

[@RossanaPiccolaStar]

Always struggle with this xD But then I decided to do and to wear whatever make me comfortable, regardless of labels

[@PinkChaDesigns]

You said everything :) !

[@sparklewink]

Amazing video, Peachie! I could relate to everything you said and have been through that struggle but it's how you said: that pressure is self imposed! Just do what you love, love what you do, and don't mind the others

[@jekaclover]

Over the past few years, I've slowly stopped wearing lolita. It wasn't a conscious decision, I just found myself wearing it less and less, and now it's probably been over a year. It's kind of weird at first, phasing out of that part of my identity, which was so important to me for so long. I don't think of it as a phase though. My sense of style has just grown and changed. I still love lolita, but its not a central part of who i am anymore.

[@TreClaire]

God, I've missed your voice. It's so soothing.

[@bluedreamer6564]

i'm so glad you brought up the topic of identity in relation to style.. i've always loved lolita fashion, but never thought i could be comfortable in it, because i'm such a tomboy, and had begun to identify with a certain style; but identities tend to hold people back. when you become consumed by an identity, you forget to express all other aspects of yourself. people aren't mere identities; they're complex and contradictory creatures.... furthermore, i've come to realize that, while style can often be reflective of personality, it doesn't necessarily have to be... sometimes, clothes are just clothes... i can wear pretty things, while still carrying myself in the boyish way that i do

[@licoriceskittles]

You practically read my mind! I've been starting to wear lolita and kawaii fashion less and less and it been making me feel really down about myself. Thank you for making this! It really made me feel a lot better about where I am right now ^w^

[@syowawolf9711]

Thank you so much for this video. I have always struggled self confidence issues when it comes to trying new styles or fandoms. This video really puts things into perspective and has been very helpful. Keep it up!

[@jeremywiggins6023]

Really well done, I appreciated this video so much. I've been thinking a lot about self identification and how that works with fashion and presentation. With with my depression and anxiety there is often only so much effort I can put into it.

[@thejemgirlchannel1585]

Great video and I think this can help a lot of people trying to stick with particular styles that maybe should be mixing it up a little. I Love seeing people mix fashion styles together to make it their own, there is no need for fashion rules, do what ever you love :)

[@MeshyaNightingale]

I really enjoyed watching this video. Everybody has to find their own path on alternative fashion. I, for example, had to stop wearing frilly, lolita dresses for four years, just to fall in love with them again. Now, as I am working a lot and moving all the time, I cannot wear lolita everyday. But whenever I have a chance- I feel very happy and it makes my day great.

[@RaesAnimes]

Thank you so much!! This is exactly what I needed to hear! I have been dressing punk for almost 5 years now and have been finding myself slowly straying away from it. It makes me sad to think something I once treasured, I might be moving on from. At the same time though, I have also pressured myself because everyone I know no's me as the punk girl. But I am realizing that at the end of the day that it doesn't have the same magic as it used to. Hopefully, I can overcome this and only dress punk once in a while....

[@LaureliStudio]

I love lolita and i'd love to wear it. But there are a few reasons i don't; one i'm on the bigger side, i'm tubby and i have a very masculine body structure; broad shoulders ect and it is soo hard to find lolita fashion in bigger sizes that isn't extortionate in price. Then there's that, the price.. its rather ridiculous at times and i understand clothes likes lolita are normally made with loads of details and that costs alot to make. But i think with fashion after all its just clothes its not you. Like you say you don't have to just be 'Sweet Lolita'. I couldn't choose one label.. i love Classic loltia, Gothic Lolita, Sweet is adorable but it wouldn't suit me lol.. i dress mostly Gothic/Punk, i would love to wear classic lolita but the cost and my lack of confidence prevents me.

[@nicbonhomme9877]

Consider finding a friend who is good at sewing. I am also on the heavy side due to medications and health issues. I make my own clothes. Sewing for yourself doesn't have to be difficult and it can bring a lot of joy to do.

[@rainwitchansy]

Hey Darkhart. I feel for you; I’m petite with wide hips and shoulders, so it’s hard finding things that fit me right, too. I’m sure you can pull off lolita if you tried maybe longer skirts with more poof/petticoat; that can balance out your shoulders. A lot of Asian fashion runs small, so you may have to improvise (or like Nic said, sew), but it is possible! Don’t be afraid to live the dream!

[@smellydonut5088]

TYSM for making this video! I used to feel very conflicted between various alternative subcultures I fit into, because I felt that I had to choose just one. But overall humans are multifaceted, we aren't made to just streamline one specific style! We can wear whatever tf we want depending on how we feel :)

[@curlygabie5878]

+PrincessPeachie Thank you very much Peachie, you really helped me a lot. I've always been into alternative fashion, I never felt comfortable in "normal clothes" I'd say because I felt that something was missing. And then I discovered your channel and lolita fashion and I totally fell in love with this style! But unfortunately when I showed pictures to my mom she said "what is that? Are those girl crazy dressing like dolls are something? Don't you ever dress like that" I was so sad but my wish is to dress like this too one day and that my mom accept me as I am. You're just like a KZbin sister thank you, really I love you

[@aramiran2734]

Thank you! Very good. It’s funny, I feel like I’ve kind of had trouble with this problem, but also not really? I’ve had this trouble, but usually I just end up doing whatever I felt like. Like somehow, I ended up liking two extremes in style. First extreme being unnatural, like bright or pastel colours contrasting with black, plastic jewellery, big shoes, short skirts that exaggerate your figure, heavy makeup, I like this in dark themes like gothic, cute like fairy kei, and I love cyber goth but I usually dress similar to yamikawaii. Then I also love the opposite, being a very natural theme. So essentially, bohemian, hippie fashion with comfortable natural clothes, bags thrown together from scrap fabrics, lots of recycling, and wooden beads. How did this happen? Well I basically have lived two different lives before. But I just went with it, and now I go through stages where I feel like I want to make things out of clay and I want to wear pastel clothes and platform shoes, so I’ll do that. Then later I want to make bags out of scrap fabric, so I put on my harem pants and big wooden earrings, you know? And it’s kind of just benefiting me really, because now I have two Etsy shops, I’ve one dedicated to each. And sometimes I find crafting techniques in one area that I can apply to the other side of things when I get back there. If I never made recycled bohemian bags from scraps, I would never have thought, or known how to make fluffy, fairy kei phone bags with lace and ribbons. On the internet I don’t usually tell people I like two things, but the people around me irl tell me they find excitement in guessing what I’ll come out wearing this time. There are too many amazing aesthetics and subcultures to only take interest in one lol.

[@tutotuto8309]

i love every studd the shirt, skirt and most especially the necklace.

[@princessalpaca6642]

I'm so glad you uploaded this kind of video again!!! I'm so happy that you're getting back into it~ I missed it

[@jessbellis9510]

Really great video, Peachie :) I have never given much of a shit about what other people think of my clothes, but quite a few of my friends struggle with going out alone in their fashions, even when it's less noticeable than lolita.

[@lucyroze1934]

I'm really glad that you made this video! I've been, idk, I wouldn't say struggling, but definetly thinking, about how I wanted to present myself as far as fashions go. Some days I wanna dress like a total tomboy and others I wanna be super cute and girly and It's nice to hear someone say that both is okay! Even though neither are really alternative fashions (though I've been considering those as well) I'm glad to hear someone say out loud that it's alright to not commit 100% to anything.

[@Gummybunnybearsmiles]

I love wearing sweet lolita and fairy kei, but I just adore classic lolita and mori kei. The thing is my bright sugary pastel wardrobe would take so much effort to replace with mature and natural colours and I just don't have the room or funds to own both XD

[@May-vf4mh]

Thank you Peachie! This really helped! I've been struggling with things like this for quite a while now~

[@EvilQueenofHearts]

There's a lot of good points in this. Things I'm going through right now. Certainly food for thought.

[@pumpkinpurrs1]

Wonderful video!

[@luperciocacerolo5788]

Hi from Mexico Peachie. I'm glad to see another of your videos. ✌

[@twinklytus1358]

you're such an inspiration. Im so grateful that you share your insight!

[@lovernumber7]

I really needed to hear that today! Thank you so much!

[@ConswaMcGaga]

Every time I go and watch a bunch of your old videos you upload a new one a few days later :O

[@babs_the_bat]

I'm wearing many different alternative styles and am not part of any special group. My friends dress all more or less normal, at least they are not into alternative fashion, so I think I'm the one who stands out most of the time.

[@rebecca_bracke]

Accurate i really like goth style but i really like to combine it with sweet details and stuff and i feel like i Will never “fit” in a group but this helped

[@girlwithacomputer51]

I've been getting into alt fashion recently, and I just realized that you're the same lady who's videos I watched when I was thinking of getting bunnies. what a small world lol :)

[@triplehearts914]

Thank you so much for making this, peachy! ^^ I really love cutesy fashion, and I also really really like gothic fashion, so for a while i was like "W H A T A M I" It was tough but now i just wear both lol

[@milkytales]

Awesome vid as always! I always felt I was a horrible lolita for many reasons - but one that gets to me is that I haven't been to a meet up and there is this unwritten rule that lolitas have to be super social. But the nearest community is too far away for me and I have a chronic illness which makes it hard. It's nice to go to meet ups, and I'd love to go to one one day, but I'm not in a hurry to do so. I have a close friend who wears lolita with me sometimes anyway.

[@kaitlynhayes5401]

I'm mtf trans and hope to start hormones by the end of the year also I go for a rocker chick look when not in gothic lolita

[@nicbonhomme9877]

I am not trans, but may I please say that I have huge respect for trans people and people undergoing transformation. It seems to me that being trans means you unfortunately live with the threat of abuse every moment you walk out your front door, and that saddens me. I wish for you a satisfying and fulfilling journey! For those of us for whom alternative fashion is simply a choice, I feel for someone for whom it is integral to one's identity. I do know what it feels like to take abuse for a non-standard appearance.

[@ommaya549]

I love how you said new people to this and i was like "okay so me" and then you said "one or two years"

[@aliciab6378]

I'm a very eclectic person all around. I like to add little pieces from multiple styles (alternative and not) into one look. I can dress pretty differently from one day to the next, it all depends on my mood. I would love to start an Instagram that is based on my style (or styles if you will), but I don't think it would be received well. Especially given the need for themes and aesthetics in social media, something that I absolutely hate. Humans are complex creatures and we almost never fit with just one thing. Hopefully one day we will all be encouraged to embrace our individual uniqueness instead of just trying to fit with a single style, identity, subculture etc... I honestly can't name my style or even attempt to come up with a solid mix of names for it. I struggle to find true head to toe fashion inspiration anywhere on social media because it just doesn't fit me. The pressure others put on people and the pressure people put on themselves to look exactly right in a single style is quite sad. In my opinion it hinders individual creativity. People need to be able to present as their full, true selves to be happy and feel their best.

[@rjohanns5819]

Hey Peachie! Thank you for this video it is exactly what i needed right now ^^

[@ashton5784]

whenever i try to wear a style i think i like and then go out it. i regret it and get upset because i dont feel as confident as i was when i left the house.. so thats why im having so many problems with my identity... i honestly needed some help and this video kinda helped but i know that soon im going to loose my confidence likei always do..

[@saskia105]

This video was actually really relaxing! Your voice always makes me comfortable peachie. 😆

[@RambleMaven]

It's called ASMR. It's because her tone was soft spoken. If you want to find someone that is into kawaii fashion that does ASMR you should try ALBinwhisperland.

[@saskia105]

oh I know what asmr is and most the time I don't like any types I hear (whispering, rubbing, crinkles, brushes and the like), so what I find relaxing is just listening to people talk consistently. XD

[@IonIsFalling7217]

Okay, here's a topic I'd love to see addressed because I can't find it anywhere: I need a tutorial on print names because I'm so lost! Btw I love tour videos!

[@SodaVampire]

Really glad you made a video about this! ^_^

[@StrokeMySitar]

This is a very important video and I enjoyed it very much ~

[@lysithea3420]

I love you, you are my remodel for lolita. I've been follow you for about 4 years now through 3 different account but as part of a dd/ lg and a little it's kinda heart breaking seeing this. I did read the comment but it still feels as tho I'm being look down on. it's not a sexual thing for us but I don't kink shame those who are. idk you have the right to feel how you want I just didn't expect it and was saddened by it.

[@1027395]

I always get so excited when you upload ahhhhh ❤️

[@lovernumber7]

I love you SO much!!! You represent me in so many ways!

[@hanito294]

People need to stop getting so obsessed with getting it right and just wear what they want. It's a fashion.. it only becomes problematic if it becomes a lifestyle. I've not had this personally but I've heard some people can be quite nasty in the j-fashion world if someone isn't dressing correctly. Can't people understand its just clothes? I'm not a j-fashion wearer per se, but I get inspired by different styles like lolita, cult party, fairy kei, so try to find clothes that match them.

[@miyamuni]

"Thank you for waitin'" XD It was cute the way you said that.

[@hammy1449]

Hey peachie, can you do more ott Lolita makeup videos? I love them very much. Big fan of yours!!! Bye peachie!!!! 🍑

[@NataliePixel]

could you make a video about darker skin ppl in lolita? i don't know if you already have but it would be cool to watch that, you're very articulate!

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

+WhatKiko While I think that's a really important idea, I don't think I'm qualified to do that! That style of video would be much better made by someone who is actually dark skinned. :) If you're running low on references, I remember this really cute video by Kawaii Pateen: kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3Onp4iNZ693mpI

[@NataliePixel]

thank you!!!

[@Raeleen]

WOW I was looking for the same!

[@QueenJellybean3]

I would like to try and make a video like this 😊 I'll try and do some research as well

[@NataliePixel]

+Queen Jellybean3 yay!!! :D

[@secretlyanalien4031]

I wish Peachie would do another wardrobe video.

[@Scriblip]

Ahhh your back peachie your fans have missed you ^-^ ♡

[@OtterSpacecast]

I wear visual kei most the time but I do love lolita and fairy kei when I want to be really cute

[@victoriafigueroa4157]

Are you gonna post any more bunnies videos??🐰

[@theblanketfortcohort7332]

I'm really into vaporwave fashion but there's not a lot of resources out there, not a lot of influencers :/

[@xDucksSortOfFlyx]

I've missed you!! 😭😭 I like your bunny videos though

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

+Cay Casey More bunny videos are coming ^^ My channel will have a mix of themes.

[@mengfengzhang1806]

You r back!!!!! Love you!!!

[@요멍-e7f]

i enjoy aaaaall your vids peachie

[@babilambs5513]

i ran to this video im so happy you are amazing! 😄 😄

[@laiselia429]

How do you make your pigtails look so full?

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

+Tamara Webster My hair is just naturally very fine and fluffy, not sure what else I can suggest lol! Because this is them after STRAIGHTENING them, lol.

[@VixxieVamp92]

Wait a second.......... Princess Peachie.... are you the one who has that Deviantart account of all those super freaking cute pics and they have big eyes and everything is shiny? I never figured out that that could be you until recently. If it really is you then I have been watching you on DA forever!!!!!!!!!

[@lottielovegood]

I relate to this so much.

[@neurotic_werewolf_83]

fetish and age play are two different things. age play is not perverted. fetish is sexual. age play is, for me, non sexual And a lifestyle choice. using perverted and age play in the same sentence makes understanding of the lifestyle for non sexual littles that much harder...

[@pamelajohnson5859]

Your shirt is amazing!!!

[@gillianh4184]

Yay you're back!

[@eccentriccalico9488]

I want to start off by saying that I agree with most of what you said in this video. But there's one thing that bothers me: You referred to ageplay as something 'perverted' and 'fetishy', and while some people do incorporate sex into that, ageplay is not a strictly sexual thing. Granted, you may just be unfamiliar with the overall concept, but please don't label it as just a kink. Ageplay is no stranger than being into alternative fashion.

[@KawaiiKandikidPLURR]

Very well said!

[@TimeMovie93150]

Well said!!!

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

+Eccentric Calico I appreciate your courteous message! I'll copy-paste what I just commented: Hey folks, in regards to my "a-play" comment in the video- apologies if it sounds like I'm throwing everyone in that fetish under a bus. I was actually considering removing that clip. So let me explain why I decided to keep it in: I'm aware that a-play is not always a sexual thing, but in regards to the pervertedness I'm bringing up in the video I'm actually refrencing a major issue particularly on Tumblr where people who wear cutesy fashion such as sweet lolita and fairy-kei get preyed on by sexually predatory members of the a-play community; what's worse is there are at least a few thousand cases of this happening and a lot of the time it is towards underage teenagers (mostly girls). Most of us who wear kawaii fashion, including myself, want NO part in this fetish- but unfortunately our blogs are often approached out of context by perverts because we like cute things and looking cute. They really don't stop to think if it's appropriate. Because of this, the vast majority of us into these fashions who have been approached by these people have ONLY experienced them as sexual predators. So this was a shoutout to people who have had to go through that. I know the harmless people in these fetish comunities don't like to hear things about that from a community they're part of, I mean who would? We want our communities to be kind and safe. But it has become such a HUGE, ugly problem on places like Tumblr that I felt like it was important for me to reference. It really has affected a lot of people who wear cute style fashions. But on a positive note! One or two a--players on the past have very politely messaged me and asked if I would be comfortable with them following my blog and reblogging my stuff to their own blogs, and when I said I wouldn't be comfortable they simply understood and kindly said goodbye. I wish more of those people would treat us like that. :')

[@gheistlyghoulie449]

+Princess Peachie I see a lot of fairy kei blogs rip littles into shreds about nicely asking to follow them. Maybe I'm just lucky, but I see a lot more of an issue with the way fairy kei bloggers treat people than how littles treat fairy kei bloggers. I've seen fairy kei bloggers call littles pedophiles, and disgusting. Which is stupid, because a lot of fairy kei revolves around childrens clothes, toys, etc. But it's fine for fairy kei, just not age players. I'm not saying it's fine for blogs to steal and pervert pictures of fairy kei bloggers, but obviously the solution is not to demonize other peoples lifestyles.

[@KawaiiKandikidPLURR]

Great point!

[@GamerGirl727LovesMinecraft]

Peachie I would like to let you know someone is using your pictures to make a fake profile on a website called MyLOL... they are luring other people and I fear that it is not you... if you'd like to know more about it I can give you the link to the profile but it's very scary and unsafe that they are using your pictures

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

Thank you for the heads up, that's really creepy!! Looks like it's a teen site?? x__x;; How would I report it?

[@GamerGirl727LovesMinecraft]

I have no idea! Maybe contacting some authorities? It's illegal soo...

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

Sorry I meant reporting the fake account to the administrators of the website. Could you please shoot me a message either to my inbox here or my facebook page (facebook.com/princesspeachieofficial) with a link to the profile you saw so I can report that profile? :) Thank you!!

[@GamerGirl727LovesMinecraft]

Can't access either so here it is www.mylol.com/profil_view.asp?uid=2483541

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

Thank you!! Hopefully it will get removed soon. It's odd to say but I am used to people stealing my identity and pretedning to be me on social media, it's so strange! :P But this one is particularly creepy.

[@Lunaius]

Meh I don't feel too much stress about it. But idk I guess it's cause I'm Christian so I don't put much of my identity on the way I dress.

[@taehyungschicken]

OH MY GOD A NEW VIDEO I DIED

[@Jojo-gf1el]

The two things I love the most. Lolita and Kpop. I love you xD

[@derpcherry1770]

Happy birthday, Peachie from Peachy

[@PeachieAngelPrincess]

AWWWW thank you!!! I had a great day in the sunshine with lots of friends ^_^

[@derpcherry1770]

your welcome and im a big fan of yours. And You're the reason I started Lolita Fashion. And my dream dress is actually Melty Ribbon Chocolate

[@cat-yj2vd]

I'm an emo but I really want to be a sweet lolita too

[@lauraeblanco]

You look so cute ! ♡

[@pinkglitterbunny6484]

wow this is so relatable. i watched the whole thing. so interesting. also i have bunnies too ! lets be friends💗

[@premingergang1099]

I missed you

[@kaylanmcgee6488]

princess peachie you look sooo kawaii

[@whimpydemon]

YAS NEW PEACHIE VIDEO MY FAV

[@KawaiiKandikidPLURR]

Ageplay isn't always sexual/a fetish.