Pema Chodon - Relaxing with impermanence

A reflection on fearlessness from Pema Chödrön on her 80th birthday.

[@jfrancis]

I owe my life to this woman! She has saved my bacon more than once. 🙏🏻 A true bodhisattva of our time.

[@maximelagace]

One of my favorite quotes from Pema Chödrön: "When I didn’t resist, I could see the world."

[@frusciante2811]

For me she is one of the greatest Teachers of our Time. She just feels like the real deal. So much warmth, wisdom and compassion. Thank you

[@spensert4933]

Humility and humor! No ego or silly hippy vibe. Keeps it simple. She is one of us.

[@robertalipman1428]

She's just the greatest. My surrogate mother and the wisest most compassionate person ever. A true blessing in our lifetime.

[@tanjareutershan6610]

🙏❤️

[@busdrinker3734]

As a 24-year-old experiencing many of these "panicked gasps" at the thought of the crazy transience of my youth, Pema's reminder is much appreciated. She is so grounding and uplifting and absolutely indispensable, always, always.

[@nataliaalvim01]

I'm Brazilian, living in a very violent city, that is, Rio de Janeiro and thanks to mindfulness, to Buddhism I can cope with the daily shootings, crossfires without getting into despair.

[@TheGranti7a]

Natalia A ❤️❤️❤️

[@Eagle-bm6sr]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯

[@SuperStevien]

I am sorry to hear that... I wish your peace brings you joy and serendipity and to those surrounding you...

[@SStabi]

what neighbourhood? I visited Rio a few times and am intrigued about the beauty and violence that go together. It's hard to grasp. I always stayed in Zona Sul

[@Be1More]

pray you stay safe

[@liluhaas]

pema is our mother! i fuckin LOVE HER

[@caroledrury1411]

I live in Vermont and she has been my mentor since 1998 when I discovered her by accident. I bought every single book she wrote over the years and then did a lot of traveling. I’ve come back to her time and time again. I loaned my books out to someone who never returned them and felt devastated so it’s nice to find her on KZbin and to figure out if I will re-acquire all her books again because she does not have a weekly presence on KZbin. Thank you for posting this

[@magdahastings3181]

Thank you For this talk. I am now 83 years old so it resonates. I am so grateful to b e able to heat your talks yes I am ready and relaxed also now grateful for a difficult life full of mistakes it has taught me compassion

[@johntran3823]

Listening to this during the pandemic. Listening to her reminds me that everything is A-OK.

[@mcdonaldchump5804]

Happy 80th Birthday Venerable Pema Chodron, 2 years too late. You were one of my gateways into buddhism when I read 'The Wisdom of No Escape' in the 90s. A joy to find you on YT. Blessings to you and all beings ❤️_/\_

[@infinitejusticeone]

As i was flipping through music videos I saw this! I have never heard of her before but upon watching this I cannot wait to watch all others. This is really something I need, some introspection. At the age of 68 it is never too late to learn. Thank you!

[@BelfastBuddhist]

If you have just discovered Pema, you are in for such a treat. She is just brillant.

[@ericlanebarnes4266]

@@BelfastBuddhist Her books are gifts to humankind. I have read her 'Living Beautifully With Uncertainty and Change' four times - it is a great textbook for life. Pema Chodron really gets it, and really knows how to teach and share her true, authentic heart.

[@oldladybird8528]

I also have never heard of her but her voice is calming.at 66 I think about death everyday but not fearful of it.

[@aminazad22]

I wish I could experience just a teaspoon of her fearlessness. We are always trying to control and we think we can be free if we are in control but, it is in fact the other way around. The moment we realize we are not in control is the moment that we can experience freedom. Thank you for this beautiful video. Pema is such a blessing for all of us truth seekers.

[@wiredwithwalsh6282]

Pema is not fearless. She wouldn't confront rapists in her organization for decades and when a teenage rape victim came to her she blamed the victim. I am sure you are a far far stronger and more fearless person than she is!

[@dancewomyn1]

Pema has been a shining light in my life and in the lives of so many others. I discovered her not even 2yrs ago, but since finding her I have followed her work, and teachings. I don't know what it is about her, but there is an ease, a sense of humor, an overall lightness that just compels me to aspire to such heights myself...I'm working on it. Thank you so much for posting this.

[@dlxinfinite7098]

Happy Born Day, Pema! As a Afr. American practioner and teacher... I need to say we love you and your teachings.

[@earthamessenger3149]

Thank you ! Belfast Buddhist! for sharing light in this world ! This is so beautiful !! it brought tears to my eyes! When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. "When the appearances of this life dissolve may I with ease and great happiness let go of all attachments to this life like a son or daughter returning home... Wow! "Namaste"

[@8brightside8]

So much love and thankfulness expressed for this precious woman within these comments - yes, yes, yes.

[@sherricannon9407]

Dearest Ani Pema, I am deeply grateful for your teaching heart. Thanks to all you’ve recorded and made available so that I and others can practice learning to stay and developing friendliness with self and with groundlessness. Blessings to you.

[@ModemmeX]

I've had such a rough couple days, a broken heart and intense sadness. So grateful for this video.

[@48Johanna]

Thank you very much by a Christian from The Netherlands. I love Pema and i learnso much from her.

[@willowway42]

This is everything. Biggest love and immense gratitude to Pema Chodren just for being her ♡

[@yegwanihst1971]

Happiest 80th Birthday wishes for you ✨😊👍🎶🎻❣️🍓

[@wiredwithwalsh6282]

Why do you wish unapologetic rape enablers well?

[@cynthiaennis3107]

Wired With Walsh what??

[@angelagordyn9794]

Pema. Your book: comfortable with uncertainty, is the best book I have ever read! It has taught me to be fearless and I am so grateful for your teachings and I thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your gifts with all of humanity 🌸🌹🌷

[@mattycreative]

Reading 'Welcoming the Unwelcome', and just stumbled across this. Thank you. Love you, Pema....

[@melissarmt7330]

I'm one of those people who died and came back. I remember everything so clearly even though it was 36 years ago so death doesn't frighten me. I look forward to it. But life and how I'm going to do something or what's happening now, that's what scares the hell out of me. I make an effort to listen to teachers like Pema because their wisdom, compassion and kindness help me with the "living" part.

[@LO-bk4bv]

Did anything happen after you died? Is there something else or is there nothing? I used to be very religious and always thought there was something else. But now that I'm an Atheist it's hard for me to believe there is anything else.

[@melissarmt7330]

There's definitely something after we die. We go to a place and in my experience, there were no pearly gates or hell fire. It was beautiful. When I died, all the things that make me "Melissa" like my love for green teas and knitting and my dislikes and faults, that all fell away and it was like getting back to the business of being myself and also like growing up in an instant. The Buddhist descriptions of what happens after death were spot on and I was not raised to be a Buddhist. My religious training up to that point had been christian, although my mother was quite open minded. But I saw nothing that could be defined solely as "Christian". Being Buddhist is not about what happens after death. It's about how to live. I wish I could be a nun but I'm too old and the monasteries here in the USA are so new with few young nuns o care for the older nuns. That's what I'm told. So I study and practice kindness and compassion. It's alright to be unsure about what comes after. Being the best person you can here, is worth focusing on.

[@LO-bk4bv]

Thanks for messaging me back, Melissa. Thats good to know. Maybe with this practice of impermanence I can get over a fear of death and of never seeing my fiance again after we die.

[@injourney7147]

@@LO-bk4bv 😂😂.....ohh....it was cute....😇

[@LO-bk4bv]

@@injourney7147 Can you clarify?

[@nirvanokajjohnsson2473]

Thankyou for all you give! You are really a helping source! My deep respect and love! Nirvan from Sweden.

[@jessebernardo1989]

Pema saved my mind and soul at 20..that was 26 years ago. I was told this same truth by a member of vajradhatu ..the old order of Shambhala. It's so relevant in that I now, pass the truth of the fragility of this life, and the need to tame one's mind. That should be ones highest goal. That is why we train in seeing impermanence as it is. I hope all who see this great piece, by a modern master, 🙏 pema Chadron, I pray their minds are turned toward the dharma and liberation of self in order too benefit others.

[@sameerbhatia451]

Thank you for these words of wisdom. So grateful to hear you and read your books. Thank you.

[@sandiegopete4955]

Om swasti! This is from another of my teachers. His name was Michael. Pema saved my life years ago when I read some of her work when I was in a bad place and I am profoundly grateful. “ You walk toward your fear. You embrace your fear. You don’t try to hedge it. That a part of real living as a human being, as a spiritual being, is to embrace it- encompass your fear, your love, and not run away from anything, because that’s the life experience. And it’s in that richness I think we find the most beautiful art, the most beautiful music. We find the richness of what the human soul can offer. And I see all that richness buried under such bullshit. -Michael Ruppert Ningje Gyamtso

[@lindat1078]

Pema Chodren has changed my life more than any teacher. She has books and talks which have been with me for many years. I love her deeply. And as I head into my 73rd year of life her wise words on aging ring true.

[@katecone3576]

I’m listening to this 2 days before I turn 65, and it is so comforting. Love the prayer at the end. Thank you, Pema!

[@moderncontemplative]

Pranam Pema Chödrön!☸️ May you dwell in equanimity and total enlightenment.

[@heatherbauer2259]

I love her so much. Thank you for sharing this.

[@jbullets5964]

We love you, pema. I'm so happy and grateful to have found you and these teachings.

[@WWS322]

To live in the Eternal Now life can be very, very long. It eradicates the fear of death completely.

[@cristianebremenkamp8352]

Thank you so much beloved Pema Chodron

[@roughdiamond3123]

I've been working on feeling my emotions, as opposed to finding ways to soothe my emotions recently. So I love the advice Pema gives here about just relaxing into the groundless feelings. Thank you for sharing ☺️

[@deela262]

Feeling emotions vs soothing emotions❤ I just heard a dhamma sermon which said the latter is Samatha and the first is Vipassana... and that in vipassana we watch them in a non interfering manner, trying to understand their characteristics. Found it very refreshing. For me, trying to sooth emotions was very exhausting but repeated efforts helped to observe the pattern of the turmoil and slowly the devils are getting unmasked. Now it's almost fun to watch the show

[@sagebutterfly2]

What an amazing Being, dear Pema. So grateful for her teachings and her light.

[@camiladuarte6061]

Thank U Pema, you are AMAZING.

[@donnakirsh8847]

I love Pema. She is incredibly special. Stay with us and keep teaching us with your beautiful way.

[@keshiagitonga3862]

Shes the cutest.. Love the message

[@Restlessjosie]

Such wise words from one of the greatest teachers of our time. Thank you Pema for sharing. much love

[@albertotorreshurtado]

Thanks for sharing. Pema Chodron's warmth and tenderness are touching and inspiring amidst all chaos and egotistic social conversations

[@zacharyrowden7692]

Such a warm-hearted thanks for this.

[@ericlanebarnes4266]

You have given us so much, Pema. Thank you.

[@marshawoods4983]

The type of person we want to live forever! It’s three years passed your birthday I hope you’re still with us!

[@timharrington4470]

Happy 80th birthday Pema. You are a wonderful gift.

[@pungr]

thank you. I really needed to hear this tonight. Many blessings, Pema.

[@anareachi5229]

On the mark,, so magnificent and loving and authentic...........so kind of you to share this, thank you!

[@taoofnerd9813]

Thank you. Love you, Pema.

[@eleanorgully9753]

Love this teacher

[@niannabray]

Thank you Pema. So grateful for you and the way you have spent your life in deep inquiry. Thank you.

[@bonjakobsen]

Happy birthday mama

[@wolfster747]

Thank you for all that you do. You have had an immensely positive impact on my life.

[@Simplylisette]

Calm words of wisdom.

[@lopezulises2013]

oh Pema, you've helped me so much. Cheers from Texas.

[@ofelia829]

Thank you! 💛

[@trashvampyr8571]

Heck, crying. This Always hits in the right way. Bless Pema.

[@ktran4341]

This video is helpful for me. I feel like I'm still at the resisting phase. Maybe in time, maybe in time.

[@mastinch7]

Beautiful energy- jus found this awesome woman, and such good wisdom and teaching, the most important thing of all the wisdom and words coming forth, is how we Apply it to our lives, these are treasures, they serve importance to us all, especially that last little prayer:) thanks to pema and all light beings

[@jeffmccloud905]

love this, thank you for posting. Aloha from Hawaii :)

[@liluhaas]

aloha 'oe :))))

[@enricogallegos9402]

Thank you very much for this teaching and reminder

[@shizitoulink]

So beautiful!

[@glennkavanagh6266]

lovely listening to wise nun pema, thank you kindly....buddha, dharma, sangha. xx

[@sidonata]

Thanl you Pema Chödrön!-I love you so much!

[@mrtt7972]

just beautiful nothing else just beautiful.

[@venusnewhall6401]

Life is short when I’m happy and it feels like forever when I’m in suffering . I’ve been preparing for some years now . Thank you,

[@abbypisegna1575]

I love Pema!!!!

[@Theloneliestnumber]

Thank you for this

[@Yili2468]

Beautiful💖

[@liborsionko]

One could also say that preparing for that inevitable, temporary groundlessness is of no consequence as we can only truly LEARN in the moment - as it occurs. Like astronauts preparing for a moon landing. When the moment comes it is so total as to eliminate all that has preceded it. This experience 'will be' for everyone. No exceptions. I imagine it impacts all in the same way regardless of how much or how little we consciously 'prepare'.

[@autentyk5735]

My heart sank for a second at the thumbnail as I thought Poma was flipping us off.

[@lanascribe]

😄

[@goodnatureart]

yes. Takes a while to get the hang of it, but we are not alone. Watch our tree cousins leaves born and die every year. They teach us all the time about letting go's potential to be beautiful. Appreciate experiencing... always grateful for When Things Fall Apart.

[@tsampadi]

Happy Birthday Pema Dear ! Only you seem to have the astounding abilitily to Breath warmth into Death! May the coming years bring ever increasing fulfilment and succes in getting the message across to all those with ears,

[@MimiKiwi]

And just like that, it’s been 5 years since this video was posted.

[@didjesbydan]

Though an old soul, her spirit is young.

[@mikebramer2972]

Love this lady.

[@MariaJ1958]

Blessings Pema. Love you :)

[@carlasilveira4758]

Pema.... você é uma nascente.... quanta sabedoria, quantas verdades nesse vídeo. Obrigada por tanto... só em ouvir a tua voz, algo se transforma dentro de mim, parece que entro instantaneamente em outra vibração, mais calma, mais real. With all our love. Kisses from Brazil.

[@japplesin]

So honest of you to share your deepest feeling and face the reality of death.

[@neenasharma2304]

Needed to hear this

[@margaretcurran8956]

Beautiful spoken, prayers beautiful

[@vic82ism]

Such beautiful words

[@devinramos6317]

Wow!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@user_f1]

wise and precious words, it both touched me and made me very sad, I had to cry at the end. I'm not sure why, but death, since a very early age on, has always been busying me a lot...

[@juliend-b2710]

Thank you Pema

[@ElisPalmer]

Much love to you❤️

[@Chloe-ti6pb]

Love this woman so much ❤️

[@arthurterre1711]

Something about this lady is so familiar and valuable

[@kshitiztamang9573]

It took me a couple of weeks in hospital to undrestand.. before.. i was banging through out life like most of you all... its fucking scary to lay next to the death unless you have tht gut to relax in it.... and i did it with the help of her video...fear is where people have no ground beneath to relax.. and to relax in the groudless base is all it takes you to the reality.. tht naked spacious pristin clarity.. i miss it badly..

[@eloradanan1837]

lovely...

[@sandra4551]

Beautiful

[@MandoLarian007]

Tashi Delek, Pema la! 🙏

[@veloopity]

Much love

[@ingridborate1064]

Thank you 🎁

[@piedadg3679]

She is wonderful

[@mebailey8158]

Immense gratitude Pema

[@h1r176]

Happy Birthday!

[@kavitaluthra3104]

Happy Birthday 🍰🌹🎁🌟❄️💕

[@deepsfernandes]

Returning home. ❤️ Amen.

[@28105wsking]

Thank you. I need to start.