People Are So Cruel...

[@brimasu]

You guys are misunderstanding the first post. She’s not upset that he locks the door, she’s upset that he then leaves the keys in the door making it so her key won’t unlock it when she get home so she has to wait outside for however long until he goes to unlock it for her. She even stated that she has discussed this issue with him multiple times so HE KNEW that this behavior was an issue but still refused to change his bad habit. They obviously need a new locking system, but if they’re renting they might not have the ability to change it… and it’s not that hard to remove the key and place it in a bowl or put on a hook when he gets home. It’s unfortunate she hit a boiling point and blew up at him, but it seems like she had quite a bit of patience up to this point and the husband is just being inconsiderate.

[@LunaVespertine]

Looking through the comments, I feel like a lot of people are confused about the lock situation. Where I live (the Netherlands) this type of lock where you wouldn’t be able to open the door from the outside when there’s a key on the inside is extremely common, I didn’t even know not all of them were like that. I’m guessing now that they’re not as common (anymore) elsewhere.

[@slothdance2020]

yea, this is a cultural misunderstanding. Where I live, you need a key to get in and out. THIS IS DIFFERENT FROM AMERICA. it is not a matter of the door being locked, it is a matter of making it so you can not enter the home with your key. If there is a key on the inside, you can not use your key from the outside. this works both ways. My husband took both sets of keys and I was locked in my apartment with no way to leave. I had to wait an hour for a friend to come let me out of my house and I missed an important appointment. It is horrible either way and I totally get her yelling about it.

[@fordhouse8b]

​@@slothdance2020 This sounds like something that would be illegal in the US. Fire codes will insist on at least one exit door, meaning a door can not physically be locked in such a way that someone on the inside is unable to open it. This would mean that this exit door would never require a key to unlock it from the inside.

[@nosey_the_cat]

are you da girl in that post?

[@daltong1261]

@nosey_the_cat this type of lock does exist, it's called a double cylinder deadbolt. I've come across them a few times

[@katia8136]

I think you guys misunderstood the first story. He's not locking the door when she doesn't have a key to get in. He's leaving his key in the locked door so she can't use her key to get in. She's not complaining about it being locked. she has another key. She's upset that he's making it so she can't use her key to get in the door.

[@DinoReject]

She can't use his key? I need diagrams of this lock 😂

[@Millencyne800]

Yea I agree let’s see them try and keep their composure if they get locked out while having to wait for gawd knows when to pee coming home from work

[@MYNAMEISBILLYBOBJOE]

OMG FR AND ITS OK TO SHOUT AT YOUR LOVED ONES THATS WHAT MAKES YOU CLOSER TOGETHER!!!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@katia8136]

@@DinoReject Could be a situation where the doorknob has a key insert on both sides instead of 1 side having a key insert and 1 side having something you can turn with your hand. I'm not entirely sure lol

[@DinoReject]

@katia8136 so they have to use the key to lock from the inside? Hmmmmm that's a good point... seems kinda like a dumb thing to have to do but xD I suppose in that case, yea that would super suck

[@Sakura2596]

First person is NOT an asshole. if that happened to you day after day after working a long 9-5, after you've NICELY asked your spouse several times to pay more attention about locking you out, you will eventually be pissed off enough to snap off. He disregards her to point he can't remember to do ONE simple thing? It's not a cute little trait or flaw after 3rd or 4th time. It's repetitive incompetence.

[@jaynec7499]

Yeah this guy is doing something he doesn’t want someone to walk in on.

[@melaniefletcher3217]

Exactly. And don’t get me wrong, I’m ALSO a creature of habit. And if this was a problem for me, where I kept leaving the key in the door, I’d figure out a solution like a thing to hang my keys on by the door or I’d make sure to keep a monologue in my head upon coming home for a couple weeks to make sure I don’t do that anymore. Because it’s not hard at all to be mindful of another person, especially if it’s someone you care about who’s expressed frustration over a habit you do that’s inconvenient to them. Like ugh

[@sweetmusicwoman984]

@@melaniefletcher3217could not of said it better. I did not think person one was the asshole

[@LaeLiHeart]

my dad leaves the key in the back door A LOt but he’s never locked my mother out of the front and my dad has diabetes and is FORGETFUL but my moms never once yelled at him or told him to f off just cause he forgets

[@KingOfThe850]

Yea nah, that guy has to be a dumbass, it’s not that hard

[@idalarsen2540]

I can't be the only one who noticed a shift in Kris' supposed opinion in the first story the second Caleb first said that she was the ahole about the keys? It did look like Kris was about to agree with the woman here saying that the husband was inconsiderate, only to take Caleb's stance as soon as he defended the husband so strongly. In no way was she malicious either, wth. That was a weird vibe. Like, it's okay to not always agree with your partner. Agreeing just to agree isn't good for anyone. I mean, imagine being locked out of your own home every day. Sometimes that could even be dangerous. Not only annoying if one rly has to pee or smthn, but there's been several times where I as a woman have had to get my keys ready QUICKLY and get tf into my door and lock it behind me ASAP to avoid some creep who's followed me home from managing to enter my apartment block building, esp when it's dark and nobody's up to potentially help. Hell, if he struggles THAT HARD with remembering to take the locks out from the inside (weird lock but okay), write a damn note right above/beyond/beside the lock to remember taking out your keys, to ensure your wife's safety and ability to get tf into her own home without chronic hassle every time she leaves and enters home ffs. Worst case he's malicious, at best he's careless. How she's the malicious one according to Caleb and Kris is beyond my comprehension. He's the a-hole here, it's not weird that she snapped after kindly reminding him so many times about it. Saying "for f's sake" also isn't as bad as they make it out to be, lol what. Swearing loudly does depend a lot on the context tho, that's for sure. He's clearly been careless and it doesn't feel good at all to be ignored over such a long time period, esp over something that would be such an easy fix, her talking and reminding him normally clearly never worked, so her snapping ever so slightly for once isn't weird or malicious, what the hell.

[@darlingfawn07]

Also her voice gets... Quiet... When he starts to talk louder. I mean he was straight up being mean about strangers having bad days and saying they should break up over ONE mean comment or bad moment. Especially with the first and second story. And he interrupts her and is kinda just... Mean?

[@alexisbuttram5844]

@@darlingfawn07 he is diagnosed Asperger's so the talking loud and interrupting isn't necessarily on purpose, or malicious.

[@sleepygirl8005]

No, this literally happens all the time I have noticed, I love Kris but I do feel like she doesn’t truly express her opinion when they do videos together. I feel he likes to be contrarion and she is often too agreeable. I can be a people pleaser too so I get it. I hope she knows she is a gem

[@eriknorman9422]

Kris is extremely passive to Calebs opinions. STOP PEOPLE PLEASING KRIS!

[@Noksus]

​@@darlingfawn07 That's just Caleb's thing. Also I think it's understandable here that Kris would agree so quickly if she thought she had misunderstood the post. I haven't seen anything worrying in their interactions, so you people are super duper overanalyzing it here.

[@marepungas624]

You've just unlocked a memory with the first story, the NTA one. My roommate used to leave her keys in the lock all the time. One time she had a friend over and they were inside chatting away while I banged on the door, called her cell (she wouldn't pick up) and finally went back outside and yelled her name under our windows until she finally noticed and opened the door. She played it off as nothing intentional and claimed she was too scared of the banging to come and see who's at the door. She also misplaced her keys a lot and one time left with my keys without asking. Luckily I had a spare set, otherwise I would have been locked in until her return. She denied having taken them but later I peeked in her purse and found them. I removed them quietly and lo and behold, she never said anything about it and used her own keys the next day. Guess, they weren't so "misplaced" after all.

[@bobbiellison4315]

@@marepungas624 that happened to me. I left a comment about that. A homeowner locked me inside their home while I was cleaning for them. I searched that house high and low for a spare key. Finally had to call the police department and try to explain to them. I need someone to retrieve the hidden key on the front porch to free me lol

[@mariab1429]

@@bobbiellison4315 Imagine in case of a fire! 😮‍💨

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

​@mariab1429 generally needing a key to exit a building is a fire code violation. Most jurisdictions have a requirement for doors to be operable with one hand, unlockable from the inside without a key, and for a maximum force required to open and hold them open, and some even have restrictions on force/speed of automatic closers.

[@Mt4evr]

​@@Cheesus-Sliced not everyone lives in the US

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

@@Mt4evr fire codes are not exclusive to the US. Almost every country has one.

[@laurwolves]

I can’t disagree more in the first one. If you want to be careful, you lock and take the keys out so your wife can get in later. Furthermore, if you ask someone something nicely several times and he’s still not trying, how are you the AITA for getting mad at the thousand time? Of course she yelled, she’s frustrated because she’s being ignored. I find it so manipulative that he got mad when he’s the real AITA who caused all of this to happen 😒

[@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077]

Completely agree. Their takes are so garbage on most of these. The wife had every right to be angry with her husband. I am angry for her sake. XD

[@MrsJolene-]

Exactly! Got a major Ick from Caleb on this one. Fixating on the "yelling at your spouse is wrong" but not seeing how the husband ignored her very reasonable request for years. And telling them to change the lock might make this issue go away be the husband is still an AH for not listening to her and being so indifferent to his wife standing outside in the cold so many times. If you imagine the husband locking the door, you can't help but think how easy it is to just pull the key back out, it's almost automatic, but he lacks so much respect for his wife that he doesn't think that this small action is worth his wife's happiness. And Kris just follows Caleb so easily, girl think for yourself, stand up for women folk! Educate this man instead!

[@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077]

@@MrsJolene- now you are just making this about men vs women and it really isn't. It is about one person making a reasonable and simple request and having it completely ignored. No offense. But talking about educating men folk and what not is just womansplaining from the sounds of it. If you don't want men to mansplain then don't do the same. Sit down and address it politely and logically. I don't disagree with the basic premise of what you are saying but I do feel you are putting too much on their gender as opposed to it being individual behavior. Be careful when criticizing lest you find yourself looking at a mirror.

[@MrsJolene-]

@@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077 I just experienced a lot of this behaviour with men before. So much so that I think it's something ingrained in men, to think of details so little that they absolutely ignore small requests. And we women recall all those times and it builds up to something way bigger than what the man thought it was. I do think this is a very gendered thing. We kind of need to make it a little more clear before it explodes, but men need to just listen more, pay attention to what we say and how annoyed we are. I'm not even a very stereotypical woman, but this is something I very clearly relate to with all of my friends. Haven't you ever experienced a woman getting very mad at you for past things you thought were insignificant?

[@catmandrinkscoffee1439]

I can see where he's coming from.But you guys also got to remember.He's playing up a character in his and her's videos

[@ellicurus]

I cannot imagine looking at your child and not seeing the most absolutely beautiful creature that could have ever existed. There is nothing at all average about any of my kids, all three of them are the most unique, ethereal, gorgeous, creative, and amazing humans I could even *try* to picture in my head.

[@eldritchbidoof]

right, but you have to understand that is an incredibly subjective thing to think about in terms of one's own children. Of course everyone is going to think that their kids are the greatest creation in the history of mankind, but answering from an objective perspective I think is what the daughter was asking for.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

I agree and I feel she should have said her daughter was beautiful anyways. I feel so bad for her daughter, especially since she is also a teenager which is a sensitive time in a person's life! I think the appropriate approach would to sit down with her daughter and explain how unrealistic beauty expectations are in society, media, etc. It's important to explain that there will ALWAYS be people who are better looking than us and that's okay as no one is perfect. Her daughter will remember this for the rest of her life and it could make her self esteem much worse and will be carried into adulthood.

[@ajwillustratorauthor]

Ok but no one else thinks that about your kid. You have to set them up for real life. The mother probably went about the wrong way. She should have said “I think you’re beautiful. Other people might night see it but all that matters is what you think.”

[@jasminecampbell469]

This comment made me tear up, everyone knows the world is harsh but having a mom give you confidence makes a world of a difference. It’s something I wish my mom had done

[@gay_girli171]

I think she could have said some things that she genuinely likes, like maybe her hair is rly pretty, or her style or smth, instead of straight up telling her shes average looking.

[@LordKyleman]

Rural Aussie here, Story #1 is entirely YTA to the husband. Some locks, if they have a key in them from one side, cannot be unlocked from the other. This was drilled in to me as a lil' squib in 1989+. I've lived 9 other places since then and only one other time has there been a lock like it. But they do exist. Husband is both an asshat, and idiot. Take. Your. Keys. Out. Of. The. Lock. When. You. Go. Inside. Very simple. Problem is solved. Dude's the dimmest bulb imaginable, or purposefully mean.

[@LaeLiHeart]

i kinda disagree what if the husband had mental disabilities and honestly forgets most of the time AT LEAST HES REMEMING to lock the door so no one breaks in

[@DirtyLillNeo]

​@@LaeLiHeartthat's a hypothetical that isn't applicable. And if he was that challenged, he should have a caretaker and this again would be a non-issue. If he cared at all he would just out his key on a lanyard or something thats attached to his hip so he wouldn't even need to remember to take his key out. There are so so so many simple solutions this husband can take to not lock out his wife constantly. So he is the ass and you are to

[@divinecrime]

@@LaeLiHeartSo sick of seeing your “I don’t really get it but I’m gonna argue with everyone anyway” comments all over this video.

[@LightPrevailsAll]

From what I know: if you have the key from the inside, it's super easy to open from the outside (easy to lockpick even if you ain't a pro at this basically) so I've been taught since a young age to NEVER live the key in the lock just from the safety standpoint. Maybe you can't insert the key into the lock when the key is in but it is easy to open the lock with just whatever you can insert even a tiny bit in to just turn open the lock basically, cause the mechanism itself is unlocked when the key is inside, no matter which side it's in

[@morgaphobic]

the one mom and daughter one hurts me. i’ve been/and still go through bullying about my looks ( thunder thighs broad shoulders acne etc ) and im 15, if my MOM told me i was “average” i would lose it. like thats the person you look up to the most and she’s saying ur just average, and admitting shes been lying about being beautiful 14 years of your life? what.

[@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077]

I think the issue is literally turning heel and being like "you ugly beach!" Also, not having a more healthy conversation earlier allowed this to fester. I think that one is a 50-50 because I think they were trying to save her feelings when they should have sat down and talked to her more about it sooner. Like I said above, it is like a bubble that grew too big and then they popped it. The negativity just grew. Not trying to be creepy but if that is you in your PFP you look really cute and if I were still 15, I would be interested in you. So please don't feel bad. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all. What matters more is your heart. A kind heart is the most beautiful thing about a woman and you seem to have that. Stay beautiful and stay kind.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

I totally agree with you and she will probably carry this through as she gets older and become an adult! She will never forget her mother said this to her. The mother should have said her daughter was beautiful, like most parents think their children are. It sounds like she never had a healthy conversation about vanity or her daughter's insecurities with her looks. They could have talked about unrealistic beauty expectations in society, media, etc and the fact that there will always be people who are better looking than us and it's okay. Maybe she has said these things to her daughter but there was no mention of this.

[@mariab1429]

I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder would have been good to say. Maybe point out how beauty standards have changed through out history and we should try our best to not worry too much about it. Once this ASMR person on YT mentioned how her mother never said anything about her appearance growing up, and she saw that as a positive. I agree with you guys so far.

[@EmoNightDragon]

Sorry that you're going through that. :S I hope you're experimenting with style and expression and taking care of yourself so you can be comfortable in your own skin. It's very empowering when you find the outfits, accessories etc that make YOU feel good! I'm in my twenties now, and what truly attracts new friendships and potential partners is that inner confidence/attitude, openness and being your own person. Someone to share interests, deep conversations and having fun with. In addition, when it comes to partners, the way someone smiles or carries themselves or how they gesture, tone of voice etc. plays a big part. I'd say more than looks alone, that's why it's much easier to know if you are truly attracted to someone when meeting in person vs seeing a picture.

[@violetsden]

I agree, my mom constantly called me ugly, and fat all throughout my life, constantly degrading me, it shattered my self esteem, and I just took any insult from anyone, and never stood up for myself. It took ages to build up the courage to even look in the mirror, and not feel gross. It hurts, and I think it's something people who are planning to have kids should think about.

[@itsLaura896]

Normally I agree with most of your takes on things, but the first one with the Keys, not really. The guy wasn't keeping the House safe, because he locked the door, he actually makes break-ins easier, because he leaves the Key in the lock!! And while he makes it super easy for intruders to come in, he makes it harder for the Wife to come in, because she can't use her Keys (and I guess she doesn't want to pick her own lock) and the fact that she told him often enough to just not do that and he does it anyways is just rude at that point. Imagine having a full bladder and not being able to get into your own home? Hell no dude, just get it together.

[@jordanhunnicutt3859]

Fully agree with you. I'm almost always in agreement with how they look at things, but saying she did something malicious... not even close.

[@thejellies5192]

I agree with this. I’ve had this problem a few times thanks to my husband or even parents (they no longer are allowed keys) and it’s incredibly frustrating.

[@itsLaura896]

@@jordanhunnicutt3859 yes! I kinda hated how bad caleb made her look, because he misunderstood the Situation (I'm assuming), when the dude was clearly in the wrong in this Situation.

[@WeatherBoyDesign]

If its super easy for intruders, why isn't it easy for the wife? If the keys are on the lock? I don't understand :D I'm sorry

[@Caitydid561]

@@WeatherBoyDesign It's not that he left the keys in the lock on the outside, it's that he left them in the lock from the inside, so when the wife comes home, she can't put her own key in the lock from the outside to let herself in.

[@heyyfirefly]

okay, no. Therapy 101 for you - impact matters, WAY MORE than intention. if you accidentaly back your car on my legs, it is still going to be hurt, even tho you didnt mean to hurt me. and if you do it again, and again and again... im going to think it is not an accident anymore, and i am going to be pissed. the wife repeteadly asked a very little thing from the husband, and the impact is her not being able to get into HER OWN home after a long workday??? and she is the asshole? nah, that is weaponized incompetence and the most self absorbed shit Ive ever heard.

[@divinecrime]

The problem is Caleb is a right-winged dingbat, and Kris can do better.

[@NeptuniteMM2]

@@divinecrimeyou dont even know them? 😭😭😭 I cant imagine looking at a couple and being like “she could do better” when I dont even know them

[@brendolbreadwar2671]

@@divinecrime she clearly agrees with him to some extent to be with him lol, if you call him that, you might as well call her that.

[@bananawammabama]

@@NeptuniteMM2 it sounds like they have more context than you to say he's right-wing, they didn't make that judgement based on looking at him.

[@DexPyles]

@@divinecrimeI’m sorry but what? You have no right to say what is good for her when you don’t even KNOW THEM.

[@aidendaniels4063]

I love how kris and caleb missed the entire point in the first one. He LEAVES his keys IN THE DOOR. so she CAN'T get in. That's the major thing in the first story. And he's been told to stop doing it more than once and STILL does it.

[@motivationalspeaker7145]

It was Caleb missing the point, not Kris. Kris tried to explain it but he wasn’t listening, and she felt like she couldn’t have her own opinion. I feel bad for her 💔

[@magdalenanaskret3508]

11😊😊

[@DonaldStamor]

To me the first one it's more sounds like he's leaving his key in the door which doesn't allow another key to be used to get it. So it's not the locking of the door persay it's the leaving his key so she can't get in.

[@itsLaura896]

YES, thank you, it really bothered me, that barely anyone talks about that, kris and caleb just got that Situation completely wrong and made the woman the bad guy for it, when its clearly the guys fault 😭

[@ChibiCorgisCorner]

Yes this!!!! I feel so bad for that woman she just wanted to go inside and relax😢

[@Dahliah]

Yup, this. Op is not the asshole. This is pulling a Pikachu face when someone finally pops off on something that has been talked about. Patience only lasts so long before it starts to feel like your partner doesn't care.

[@Callimoone]

I did this a couple of times, my partner asked me to not do it and now I double check. Not sure why her partner found it so hard

[@MForest90]

@@Callimoone It's ADD (ADHD) and maybe a little autism. I have a couple of annoying compulsions and has been told to change many times. Having a bad memory and being a scatterbrain, I default to habit and do things automatically.

[@pandapumpkin8610]

Okay after spending years upon years with the same adult human and having to tell multiple times the SAME DAMN THING, gets old....... obviously this only hits ppl with a decade in or more.... you will understand when you get here, like this is a full grown adult human and something like being mindful not to lock out your spouse shouldn't be something you have to ask OVER AND OVER AND OVER again, what if she had to use the bathroom really bad and it's her house too idk about yall but I don't like when my property of any kinda is unaccessible to me, I pay for the shit. Like I said one day when your with the same person long enough you will get it. She isn't the ass hole, being locked out of your own home more than once HE IS the ass hole😊💜💚🩵

[@TanyaRando]

I agree with you!

[@deeemarie]

Agreed! I was surprised at their take on this. I do not believe one of them wouldn't be upset if the other consistently was making it so they couldn't get in their own home. The "intention" doesn't matter after being asked so many times to do something simple to not make your SO's life harder

[@Red_Beast]

Have you ever thought that maybe, just MAYBE. Both can be innocent? Its honest mistake from the guy and reasonable response from the lady. He is NOT the asshole and nor is his wife. They just need to sit down and talk it through like adults thats it.

[@amandahakes2226]

@@deeemarieI think it’s important to note that whether it was an accident or not doesn’t matter because at some point the forgetful person needs to take accountability and make efforts to change. Here’s a detail that was conveniently missing: did the husband acknowledge he needed to remember to change that habit at any point? What efforts if any had he taken Bedford “the last straw” to change that habit? How long had it been between offenses? It’s one thing if she has to remind him regularly and he laughs it off, ignores or deflects. It’s another thing if he has been actively trying to break the habit and this was one slip up. The devil, and the asshole, is in the details.

[@SparkleLuna77]

Yep I absolutely agree. I know what they’re saying but after 20 years of asking someone to please not do something and they still do it even though they know it’s causing you issues then it can literally be the camel that breaks the camels back. Kris and Caleb are young and in love and I under why they wouldn’t get why this would be an issue. I’m also AuDHD so I forget stuff all the time but if I know it’s my issue that I keep doing something annoying then I will make steps to stop doing it.

[@Piiratekang.6823]

With the first one I disagree with you guys. The issue is not that he’s locking the door, it’s that he’s leaving his keys in the actual lock so his wife is literally unable to unlock the door with her own key as his is holding the lock in place. She has asked him multiple times to stop doing that so she can use her key and get in the house instead of having to wait for him to open the door. There’s a lot of safety hazards to him doing that and it’s also just really rude, accidental or not. He keeps doing it after being asked not to. Could the wife approached it better? Yes. And she realizes that but even then her approach does not make her issue invalid. It’s very much valid and I understand why she snapped as this has happened countless times.

[@maryjane4432]

Kris also felt this way but change what her response was after Caleb said what he said. She has done this a few times. I feel bad for her bc you can tell she feels like she can’t say what she actually thinks.

[@Piiratekang.6823]

@@maryjane4432 yeah at points I’ve noticed she kinda gets uncertain with her stance on something especially when it’s challenged by someone else.

[@dyllangames3592]

Why can't she just unlock the door with his key? If his key is IN THE DOOR

[@Piiratekang.6823]

@@dyllangames3592 I’m not quite sure how it works

[@FxyeL33]

@@dyllangames3592it seems to be a door where you need to use a key to lock and unlock it from the inside and outside of the door, therefore the husband probably leaves his keys there so he doesn’t need to look for them when he unlocks the door but by doing so makes it practically impossible to unlock the door from the outside unless you have the certain skill needed which your every day person wouldn’t have, then the wife need to wait for her husband to go unlock the door because her key won’t fit in the lock. Sorry for the long text just wanted to make sure I made sense

[@Cha-mo]

Try working as a cook, coming home being so tired and smelling like shit to find the door locked without knowing when you'll be able to come in every other day.

[@anticlaws4105]

I cannot with your take not the first one 😭. Please it’s so annoying when my brother leaves the key in the door after he locks it which means that, even though I have a key, I can’t unlock the door and get into the house. He does it almost every time even though I always ask him not to. Plus it’s not something that takes physical effort, only the mental effort to remember to do so for the sake of the other person, which you’d think would be at the forefront of a married person’s mind.

[@CrabtasticCrabs]

In their defense they probs misunderstood and thought she was mad at him for just locking the door

[@KatjeKat86]

​@@CrabtasticCrabs Yeah that's what I assumed they didn't understand the style of lock and what was going on that way. And Caleb seems like he might be one of those people that's extremely sensitive to the concept of yelling. If neither of them are yellars it will work for their relationship but a lot of people do when they get frustrated even if they feel bad about losing their temper afterwards and isn't necessarily an unhealthy relationship if it's an occasional thing.

[@mikepeterson764]

I don't understand, where is he leaving his key?

[@KatjeKat86]

@mikepeterson764 In the door on the inside so you cannot use a different key to unlock the door from the outside.

[@angelapplepie]

The first one is weaponized incompetence

[@female99titian]

Definitely

[@gay_girli171]

Exactly

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

The first one, the wife is NOT in the wrong at all. She has been dealing with this for a long time and he keeps making it impossible for her to get into her own home anytime he's in the house. No matter how many times she's asked him not to leave the key in the door, he keeps doing it. There's no reason why he can't take the key out especially since it's already in his hand. Even the most patient person will eventually snap and blow up like this. It doesn't sound like it's typical of her to blow up but she was so frustrated and upset by this point. I'd be furious if I kept getting locked out and can't get into my own home, especially after a long day at work. He is being insufferable and maliciously incompetent. It doesn't sound like he even respects her. If I was talking to her, I'd encourage her to ask herself if there are other red flags she's been ignoring.

[@ChefSarah4104]

The second story is nuts. I will text my husband on occasion and sometimes he'll reply right away, sometimes it takes him an hour, he's at work! He's busy, and my random question is not a priority.

[@AutumnBreezers]

#1 Not the Ahole, because when you INTENTIONALLY (yes, it was intentional, she has asked multiple times for him to stop) irritate your spouse, then at some point your spouse will lose it! I have a pet peeve that my husband likes to ride, he knows I'm not going to be 'cool' with it, but does it anyway - So, at times I too get bent & he knows why! P.s. I have been married for 30 years

[@tashachristy09]

FFS is a breaking point impulse phrase in my years of hearing it used. Something tells me this wasnt the first time she let her personal issues interfere with his work that day/ trip.

[@desensitizedaltruism]

Therapy lesson #1 impact is more important than intention. And the husband’s intention wasn’t even to keep the house safe in that first story. Yall make it sound like he locked the door and she could unlock it herself, but she’s sitting outside of her house with no way in because the lock is blocked. This is also creating an unsafe situation for his wife for not being able to enter her own home of her own volition, because her own husband has created a barrier that keeps her out. He sounds extremely inconsiderate to not care enough about his partner’s safety to leave the entrance of their home easily traversable to her.

[@maryjane4432]

Kris was going to say that but then did a 180 when she heard what Caleb said. I’ve noticed a few times she changes depending on how he answers. I hope she doesn’t feel like her opinion shouldn’t be heard

[@marilab6930]

​@@maryjane4432feels like she thinks she has to agree because she does it very often even when they're looking at memes or tiktoks. The only time she openly disageees and let's him have it is when he complains that she is competitive while he is extremely competitive with her to the point of yelling fuck you at her repeatedly and flipping her off. It's no wonder they don't post on non stop psyops anymore. what is sad is that she even made a tiktoks saying she was competitive after that....

[@purplepotato8669]

Agreed. I don't even like watching their posts together. I am worried about her. She gives into his opinion all the time.

[@jerikagiggey2828]

​@@purplepotato8669 She's fine. You guys are taking things way too seriously

[@KayKay4818]

Umm, they're both important. How both people feel is important in different ways. It is possible to address the impact and address the intention. It's understandable that she's upset, and it's understandable that he's forgetful. They need to meet in the middle instead of just expecting only one person to change, AKA COMPROMISE... also, I am currently studying mental health counseling and psychology...

[@altie85]

Wild how yelling at your partner for being neglectful is considered bad but locking another one out their own home isn't. (intention is debatable after being asked nicely for so many times) It's normal for your frustration to let go and yell in these circumstances.

[@marimarijojo]

Regardless of circumstances, the lady in the first story told him repeatedly she did not want to be locked out. By not caring enough to put her need and desire for safety and comfort before his ego, he is the only asshole in that scenario. I'd scream, too. You don't know where they live. Maybe they don't have a comfortable porch or property. Maybe they live somewhere that would make her a target if she was locked out of her own home. Regardless, it wouldn't matter if they lived in a mansion. If she said, "stop leaving me unable to enter my own home" then he should have done the absolute BARE MINIMUM and just not left the key in. Just because you wouldn't be bothered in your own lives, doesn't mean she isn't justified in her anger. It's probably scary and humiliating, and I honestly hope she leaves that loser. I wouldn't be surprised to read an update that he's doing something super shady when she can't let herself in.

[@TheSnisel]

Nah Caleb, you’re wrong on the first one. You could tell Kris didn’t really agree either

[@darlingfawn07]

"not in a mean way of course" BABY GIRL IF YOU ARE LOCKED OUT OF THE HOUSE YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE UPSET.

[@motivationalspeaker7145]

Ikr, absolutely ridiculous. So inconsiderate of her feelings and constantly interrupting her. We know he has autism, I have autism too, but being self-aware is something you can learn smh

[@gay_girli171]

​@@motivationalspeaker7145 I have noticed that. I dont think hes doing it on purpose but idk

[@eph2vv89only1way]

There is an aspect of the key thing that you probably didn't think of (a sign that you are not abusers btw). If he is constantly locking her out, it could be a control or dominance thing. Then making her wait to get back in on a regular basis emphasizes the control and dominance. And trivializing her not liking it is a red flag that he could be an abuser. One trait of narcissism and other personality disorders is purposely doing something that you know will piss the victim off then when they complain, saying things like "I just forget" or "I was just joking" or "You are too sensitive" or something else to minimize their abuse.

[@divinecrime]

@@eph2vv89only1way Or he’s just doing something he doesn’t want her to be able to walk in on, like having an affair. He could be rushing his affair partner out the back door/window/whatever, and then lets his wife in and tries to play it off like a dumb accident.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

@@divinecrime that too

[@CoverLuxe]

That's true, I've experienced a similar thing in my own life. I knew a narcissist boss who always expected me/everyone else to be on time every time, but he was always late. As in sometimes hours late when he said he would be there in 15 minutes. He purposefully did it because you weren't allowed to leave until he got there or else he would fire you. It was 100% a power/control move on his part, basically just to say that you have to wait for him. There was literally no reason to keep everyone waiting that much other than just to say FU.

[@darlingfawn07]

✨Weaponized incompetence✨

[@melaniefletcher3217]

The first story isn’t because he’s locking the door, it’s him leaving the keys in the lock that’s the problem. She can’t unlock the door with her keys if he keeps LEAVING THEM in the door. It may not be malicious intent, but it’s negligent and it’s the inability to be mindful of your partner

[@Becca123b]

As someone who has toxic mother, not quite as bad as she had, but you can cut that relationship off when you get old enough and realize that relationship doesn’t need to happen and that is better for your mental health somebody constantly putting you down like that. I just wanna give that girl a hug an tell her everything’s gonna be OK. My heart breaks for her.

[@darlingfawn07]

Especially because her mom said something about "her vanity" as if it isn't normal for teenage girls- and women in general to be obsessed with the way they look.

[@PeskyLentils]

The mother daughter one broke my heart, I asked my mom when I was around 5 if I was the “prettiest girl in the world” because I saw a parent say it to their daughter on the tv, my mom told me “of course not” and I’ve never forgotten, she never called me pretty growing up, and said it’s because she didn’t want me to be vain. Instead I struggle with self love and acceptance. I have a two year old daughter and I tell her shes beautiful every day and I’ll never stop.

[@KatjeKat86]

The puritanical values that make people think that a child who is told they are beautiful is going to become vain to me is in the same line as people who think that you are spoiling a baby create a brat by cuddling them and paying them a lot of attention. Your value is not based on your looks but that does not make someone not beautiful to the people that love them.

[@TheBlubunni]

You are beautiful! 🩷

[@Anya2014]

Yeah I'm gonna have to disagree with y'all on the first one. Was the wife a bit harsh? Maybe, but I don't think she's the AH. She has **repeatedly** (and likely politely) had to ask her husband not to do this. At some point it's just irresponsible, rude, and unsafe for him to continue doing this. It sounds like he is making ZERO effort to change this habit. Habits are hard to change, but you have to make it happen if your habit is harming someone else. My husband has accidentally locked the deadbolt while I'm out, and since it's rare I don't get mad. But if it was all the time? Oh, you better believe we'd have words. Not only because maybe I really need a toilet or whatever, but also because I (as a woman) feel **extremely** unsafe if I'm locked outside of my home. Woman is NTA, I agree with reddit.

[@maria-beatles2692]

My thoughts exactly!!! It's a recurring problem & the bf is just being ignorant on purpose.

[@divinecrime]

@@Anya2014 I think the husband is locking her out on purpose because he’s doing something he doesn’t want her walking in on. For instance he could be having an affair and keeping his wife locked out so he can quickly get his affair partner out the back door/window/whatever and then he lets his wife in and plays it off like a dumb accident.

[@kjbrasdas]

And some people don't listen at all until you lose your shit. Nothing is serious unless someone is yelling. One can't judge these stories assuming that everyone is logical and respectful.

[@LaeLiHeart]

ima have to disagree with you, we don’t KNOW the husband’s situation at all he could be forgetful for medical reason like mental disorders and even diabetes it’s not so cut and dry he’s doing his best AT LEAST HE REMEMBERS to even lock the door

[@mariab1429]

@@kjbrasdas This! She had already tried just talking to him and it wasn't working. Why would she do the same thing again?

[@ShilasSpellboundCreations]

The insecure daughter one pisses me off. My children are the most beautiful people on this planet.

[@rosebrunjes2885]

Ok so I can tell that the first story needs a bit of clarification. The couple likely has a double lock deadbolt( I.e a deadbolt that keyholes on both sides) that also locks when you close the door. I grew up in a house that had one and if there is a key in one of the locks the other one won’t work! Hope that helps😊

[@eriknorman9422]

3:20 She told that man countless times. He blatantly didn't respect her enough to not make it literally impossible to open the door. Everyone has a breaking point. Repeated neglect for her needs or safety is so rude. What if she was in danger, aka wildlife or a person trying to harass her. He can be a decent person and do the thing he was asked to do ALOT! Sorry, Caleb, you are very wrong. If Kris was put into a situation with a bear outside (since you live in Canada) and you repeatedly were told to not put your keys in the door. You would be liable in court for her hurt/ injuries. Yelling or not, safety is first.

[@sannegodijn301]

They life in texas

[@eriknorman9422]

@sannegodijn301 LOL 😆 She grew up in Canada, so the reference is definitely understood. Does it make you feel better if I say a poisonous snake because she now lives in Texas? Your level of petty has been matched.

[@sannegodijn301]

@eriknorman9422 you need look up the definition of the word petty because wow you are so dramatic im not being petty just stating facts sinds when is stating facts being petty your so ridiculous your level of dramatics has been matched

[@eriknorman9422]

@sannegodijn301 LMFAO! Did you look it up? The first part of that word defined is 'a topic/subject of little or trivial importance.' Your single useless comment is petty. The second part of the definition is 'a secondary or lesser important/ ranked information.' Yet again, your comment is coming secondary with no true affect on my original statement. So please learn how to spell if you are trying to school someone. Also when you tell someone to google something, you might want to do it yourself first. You just make yourself look bad.

[@shanac5404]

They live in Texas, so it would be a wild hog

[@ejmabrothers6743]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@fakiriayoub8087]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@BenjaminCanales-nn9gi]

Yes, steve_porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@yesyes-ew6hl]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@fakiriayoub8087]

Is he on instagram?

[@BenjaminCanales-nn9gi]

Yes he is steve_porassss

[@SacredSecrets43]

Number one isn't the Ahole If this happens on a regular basis there's a point of aggression building up, and then the final straw happens resulting into an outburst of anger, she even regrets what she did.

[@laurynholling2309]

10:03 obviously she should have said that her and her father have never lied about how beautiful they think she is. But beautiful is going to be different for every person. Say “you’re going to be beautiful to so many people even if you don’t look like scarlet Johansson” she needed to explain to her daughter that typically we aren’t our own “type” and that’s why we forget how beautiful we really are.

[@itsmeg06]

"We Love Auntie Kris" we all shout in unison

[@E-with-pawz]

WE LOVE AUNTIE KRISSSSSSSSS

[@Flora._.Idi0t]

WE LOVE AUNTIE KRISSSSSSSSS

[@sethbolton3545]

But oompa is daddy? Kris is mommy😂

[@eden.nd.]

An auntie that's younger than me? 😂

[@mizerybiz]

The first one is definitely NOT the asshole. Reminding someone to do something over & over again for them to still not do it.. & it's something where if it's not done, your spouse is physically incapable of getting into their own home everyday after work.... yeah-no that just seems like someone who just doesn't care enough to remember or to make a reminder for themselves. "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions"

[@destinyisjoy]

I don’t agree with the first one. She’s NTA. She wasn’t malicious for losing her temper. It’s not something you plan out - she didn’t plan to yell at him. She was frustrated and she could’ve had a bad day. With being locked out so often, I’m shocked she didn’t lose her temper. Her partner needs to be more considerate and intentional with his actions.

[@crwydryny]

That first one... I had a similar situation with a neighbour several years ago. The gate to our block would sometimes blow closed and lock. Normally I'd stay up late until I was sure she was home (around midnight) because more than once she got locked out. Though once i fell asleep woke up the next morning for work go find her shivering outside the gate. We laugh about it now but I couldn't apologise enough when it happened. To be honest I wouldn't say anynof them arebthe buttholes. Leaving your keys in the door is a common habit, (I usually do it myself) and her getting irate at him doing so is understandable especially after a long day in work. I'd suggest either changing the lock to a thumb turn (unless there's a letter box close to the lock which would be a security issue) or maybe phoning him when on your way home to make sure he doesn't lock you out

[@pizacrust]

Oh no hope she was okay😂 I agree with you though I’ve had similar experiences

[@amandacastillo8294]

Y'all are wild the first one IS NOT THH AH.

[@P_Rex66]

To the keys one: weaponized incompetence is a thing. What else doesn't he do or somehow seems obvious to others but he just won't do? I think there's more going on. 😊

[@darlingfawn07]

Also it's almost like he's purposely leaving his keys in the door on the INSIDE of the house after he's already gone in

[@LilMadiHatter]

Had me laughing and dying for 11:48 straight omg.

[@WhyHaveAName]

right I didn’t expect him to say that 😂

[@Shadows324]

The first person was more annoyed than anything but the husband was inconsiderate about leaving the keys in the door. What if something happened and she couldn’t get in or get a hold of him. She had a right be annoyed. The parent telling her child she’s average was stupid. Kids have a hard enough time in the world, they don’t need their parent telling them they’re average. Average is ok, but when a child feels insecure then the parent needs to make them feel secure, special, and beautiful. That child will always feel like her mom didn’t care as much because she wasn’t pretty.

[@bobbiellison4315]

Am I the only one confused about what kind of effed up front door lock these people have?? Is it one where there is a key hole on the inside to lock it instead of a button or turny thing? If so, why we he enter through the door....oh wait, I think I got it now. He comes in and locks the door behind him with his key but neglects to remove said key. It's all bringing back a memory for me when I was a housecleaner many years ago and the owners left for work and locked me in the house. I couldn't find a key to open it from the inside but knew there was one on the porch hidden for me to use to get IN. I had to call the police department to come free me. Yea, F that guy, he shouldn't keep doing that to his poor wife. NOT the a-hole ma'am.

[@maryjane4432]

You have to use a key both inside and outside to lock the door. So by him leaving his key in the lock inside she can’t use hers outside. My grandfather’s house that was built in the 1800’s had locks like this. Also find them in commercial properties

[@bobbiellison4315]

@@maryjane4432 yea I figured it out. But thank you. I always felt those types of locks could be a hazard if you need to exit quickly in an emergency. Hence why he might have been in the habit of leaving the key in the lock.This one was such a dumb argument that they could have resolved a long time ago by switching out the knob/lock 😃

[@divinecrime]

@@bobbiellison4315 Google image search “Night latch.” Obviously, the people in story 1 do not live in the U.S..

[@darlingfawn07]

It's almost like he's taking the extra step to leave his keys inside the door on the OTHER SIDE after he's already gone in the house 👀

[@ZarahJade1]

Locked out SEVERAL times? NTA!

[@motivationalspeaker7145]

I’m with you!

[@U-are-valid]

They have posted!!!!!!!!! Sound the alarms ‼️ 🚨🚨

[@wiaf8937]

bedooooo bedoooooo bedooooo

[@Flora._.Idi0t]

Weee wooo Weee wooo Weee wooo Weee wooo

[@narthdragon2237]

Why is that a bad thing

[@U-are-valid]

@@narthdragon2237 ?

[@wiaf8937]

@@narthdragon2237 the GOOD content alarm to insta watch :)

[@RDFozz]

Just as a point of clarification, for those who don't hzve that type of lock: I am assuming that the lock in question requires a key both to lock and unlock the lock, on both sides of the door. So, the OP's spouse unlocks the door to get in, then locks it again once he's inside. When they don't take their keys out, they prevent either the insertion of a key from the other side, or otherwise prevent the unlocking of the door from the other side. Perhaps, in that case, they should consider ways to resolve the problem that don't simply rely on the spouse's memory. I'd suggest putting the keys on some sort of chain or fob, so they're attached. You can't walk away and leave them behind then. (The spouse would have to remember to actually attach the keys to themselves, which could still be an issue).

[@Moo_Berr]

When I saw the dynamic duo I knew it was gonna be good, LOVE YOU KRIS, and Sherlock 💙💙💙💙

[@Mara_swiftiewholikescats]

Yassssssss

[@ItisJasmine27]

Yess

[@wiaf8937]

Kriston John, or Elton Kris!

[@Moo_Berr]

@@wiaf8937 yes, all of the above

[@jaynec7499]

The first one he is the AH. This guy is doing something he doesn’t want someone to walk in on.

[@MelishaMonhollon]

As an rh negative mother with two rh positive babies I am SO thankful to those that made it possible for them to exist. They are worth every shot

[@сесилияалександрова]

Now about the first case: my family actually lock the door and leave the key in! Yeah, when I ring the doorbell they come to the door and let me in, but just... Why?

[@JayEverdeenValentine]

"i told my daughter she's ugly, AITA?" Absolutely fucking yes, that is your own child not someone else's child. A real parent doesnt call their kid(s) ugly.

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

Average is not ugly. Most people are beautiful. Beautiful is the average.

[@gay_girli171]

​@@Cheesus-Sliced beauty isnt as objective as that

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

@gay_girli171 sure, but it is that simple.

[@gay_girli171]

@@Cheesus-Sliced not really, every person has a different definition of what pretty means, that's like saying there are rights and wrongs to favorite colors

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

@gay_girli171 pretty=/=beautiful.

[@monkeyz240]

Nah, if he continues to lock her out after multiple times of her asking him to please be more considerate. She had the right to snap and he should have seen it coming. I’ve been with my man like 8 years and never once have I had to snap at him because if something is important to me he will change or do whatever it is. It’s that simple. I have ADHD, he had a tendency to leave things everywhere, yet we still manage to be considerate of each other when it’s important. He has to be doing it on purpose at this point, he could have gotten a different lock, there’s no way after her being upset multiple times that it isn’t hitting him when he gets home like “oh yeah better make sure the wifey can get in” and if it’s not. He’s a pos that doesn’t really care. It’s her home, she should be able to get in, what if something happened to him, or somehow he can’t get to the door to let her in? It’s crazy. Replace the damn lock if you can’t be bothered to take your key out.

[@monkeyz240]

Also she felt bad which goes to show acting this way isn’t the norm for her, and he probably knows that. Most people have a breaking point and you can kinda snap without meaning to, and my guess is this isn’t the only inconsiderate thing he does.

[@JulietFaughnan]

Caleb and Kris are so good for each other

[@EvelynCole-pe4jx]

Yesss

[@marzin0mbk]

Indeed! 😄

[@brianassuarez2290]

@@EvelynCole-pe4jxNot Caleb saying to Kris: I wish your nippers were way longer😭😂 I can't-

[@Little_zoo]

Thats what I also told my mom I said “they fit together perfectly”♥️

[@chezmayhennessey1599]

I think Caleb looks rather dapper in the Sherlock Holmes cosplay❤

[@LunariusYoreh]

You guys remind me of my parents and I’m just loving this so much that’s it’s breaking my face on how much I’m smiling like a small child getting a pet for the first time ;w;

[@AcidBath-yg1yk]

WOOOO THE VIDEO STARTED OUT W A GRAMMARLY AD W KRIS IN ITTT, GET THAT BAG GURLLLLL

[@MTVParanormal]

Y’all literally have zero clue what watching y’all does for me!! I suffer from severe depression ever since my daughter passed away so I turned to KZbin to see if that would help and I found the two of you and Celina! All I can say is THANK YOU!!! I love y’all dearly!

[@prod.lululu8924]

Music and youtube.... Our escape from shit in life✨✨

[@ginamilligan9385]

Oh, wow! How could anyone ever tell another person - family or otherwise - that they are anything less than beautiful! Excepting identical twins/multiples, there's only 1 person on the planet who looks exactly like us. We're amazing little snowflakes - each different, & each absolutely perfect to behold.

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

Average means normal. It means looking as good as the majority of other people around you. Most people are beautiful, so beautiful *is* average. It's ok to be average, and people need to get better at dealing with the fact that most of us are just average.

[@janiexoxo]

A spare key wouldn't help in this situation. As long as his key is in the lock on the inside her key won't work on the outside.

[@Username_782]

THE TITLE IS SCARING ME IM AT 0:23 AND OMG HER HAIR LOOKS SO PRETTYYY!! How are you doing Kris??

[@Mara_swiftiewholikescats]

1 like? Lemme change that

[@Username_782]

@@Mara_swiftiewholikescats THANKS LOL

[@Ashley_xoxo_kisseshugs]

Only 20 likes? Let me fix that

[@Username_782]

@@Ashley_xoxo_kisseshugs lol thanks

[@Vi_Vi_1]

You guys totally misunderstood the first one. He leaves the door in a state that PREVENTS her from getting inside. He's not locking it for safety, he's being irresponsible and making it so that even with keys she cannot get into her own home. If you keep doing something terribly inconsiderate to someone, they're entitled to get angry that you're basically just ignoring their needs non-stop. It's a simple request, husband is 100% TA and the wife is reasonably at her wit's end.

[@gemmaward194]

The "ffs" comments made me remember my 2 year old daughter asking me last week "mummy, can I say ffs to my game please?" bc she's witnessed me saying it when I am frustrated. Now it's for fluffs sakes in my house 😂

[@gorgha3988]

I'm sorry but NO. The first woman is not an asshole. She's literally being locked out of her own home possibly on a daily basis with no way inside. Which is infuriating, and dangerous. She's tried to handle it the civil way but the husband just doesn't seem to give a damn. In her shoes I'd have exploded too. I think anyone would have reacted the same way.

[@LivinDeadGirl420]

Agreed

[@19justinlambert82]

It's dangerous just to be outside? Inconvenient yes, but dangerous?

[@gorgha3988]

@@19justinlambert82 Depending on the weather, and your neighbourhood, yes.

[@S.Uranus]

​@gorgha3988 Right. Heat stroke is serious, and human trafficking is too. A lot of people have a false sense of security.

[@gorgha3988]

@@S.Uranus When I lived in my old neighborhood some douche tried to mug me on my own front porch. There were 4 of us, 3 of us pretty large men, and he still tried. So a woman locked out on her own for who knows how long? Yeah, risky. Depending on the area.

[@rachaelbickel575]

it's just weird how you have your own opinion and then he basically tells you that you're wrong and then you agree with his opinion. When in all reality your opinion should always be your opinion yes he's right about not being able to shout your loved ones but if you're locked out so many times you're going to snap one day and the person should love you anyway even though you snapped. I know I'm reading more into this than I should. I'm an outsider but I just feel like things are different now when I watch you.

[@divinecrime]

@@rachaelbickel575 100%. Caleb sucks. He’s a right-winged dingbat.

[@mariab1429]

It's not only you that thought their interaction was a little odd. For the couple with the issue, the fact that she asked if she was the AH, makes me think she doesn't do that often, the husband needs to pay attention for sure.

[@rachaelbickel575]

@@mariab1429 also if you're going to live with somebody for the rest of your life, there is no way that you're going to not be able to yell for the rest of your life. Frustrations happen and people get out of control from momentarily even if it's just raising your voice. No one human on this Earth is perfect and no one human is going to be able to always calmly say honey we need to speak. I can easily see getting frustrated about the key thing that they did not understand that she couldn't unlock the door when the key was in the door. I would have gotten mad probably a lot sooner LOL

[@moyaxoxo5923]

@@mariab1429he set it up like that on purpose so it would make noise and give him time to put away what ever suss thing he’s doing. It’s that or he cares thst little about his partner and is super focused on everything but his partner. So still suss.

[@darlingfawn07]

Also he thinks it's reasonable to break it off with someone after one disagreement. And sees her people pleasing skills and says "you always try to be the best person you can when we communicate" even though she's likely defusing the situation and is afraid to actually express herself since he thinks ONE passive aggressive TEXT is enough to justify "blocking" someone.

[@Riverredpanda]

blond, ginger, brown or red and blue we will always love Kris through all her hair colours!!!!!!!!

[@culturallysignificantnickn7446]

The first one, when he leaves the key in the door just go somewhere else. Take a day for yourself, book a hotelroom, go for a spa. Let him worry about where you are.

[@dichromatism1681]

i think both the individuals in story 1 could use some growing up. in my house, if we forget to do something necessary enough times we write a sticky note and put it where we'll see it. prevents a lot of fighting and hurt feelings. either of them could have written a reminder note to see until the habit got changed. it sounds like their communication kinda sucks, in general. wow, mom in bullied daughter story could use a parenting class and therapy. that's not how you support your kid against bullies who say horrible things.

[@sannegodijn301]

She already told him many times

[@emy7973]

ive never been this early, but that last story is so heartbreaking and the mother is absolutely the asshole. i feel so sorry for the girl and i hope shes okay.

[@darlingfawn07]

And now she's never going to believe ANYONE if they compliment her. For the rest of her life.

[@Eevee-ks6cp]

I love you two together so much. We love having you both here!

[@Running_The_Shadows]

With the first story, she had her keys but couldn't use it because her husband left the key in the lock.

[@chronicallytired67]

Nah ya'll are too darn cute together. I love both of your channels, but my favorite videos are definitely when you two are together. It's so heartwarming to watch.

[@JerziTBoss]

First story is clear NTA. She has the key but because of her husband she can't get in. It's not like husband lock the door and left her standing out without the key, she just can't use the key because locks usually don't work with keys being inserted from both sides. So she's stuck outside because her dumbass husband prevents her from entering and she told him not to do that multiple times so he just doesn't care

[@oldanduncouth]

hey, um, IGNORING the person you're supposed to love by explicitly doing something they've asked you not to do is malicious. "oh well they're just habitual, they didn't mean it". yeah, they habitually disregarded your request to not lock them out of the house, that is disrespectful. Kris, on a personal note, it's no wonder your guy "talks" you out of being mad and feeling guilty when you argue with him or perhaps are the one confronting issues - please be careful for your own sake. the flipping someone off he just did 3:18 for yelling at being locked out of their house time after time is TA. I stopped watching this channel after that. going back to you doin solo, babe.

[@DirtyLillNeo]

They also super misread the issue here. The problem isn't that he's locking the door. The problem is he leaves his key in the keyway which is preventing her from using it on the outside so she can't let herself in. She has a key, she can open the door just fine. It's just he leaves his key IN the door key hole preventing her from getting in. This is so preventable it's malicious negligence when it's as simple as taking your key out of the door when you finish going inside. Idk what kind of lock, even when unlocked and the key is in the inside, it won't let her in but he should know by now. And I know I'm armchair relationship advice rn, but he seems to me to be an " I can make him a better guy" case. He seems nice enough, just has those "man" men moments way to often. I'm just glad he isn't abusive physically. I love the ama videos but wish you would do them as a collabe with a smosh member or someone else.

[@divinecrime]

@@oldanduncouth Caleb is a right-winged dingbat who constantly misses the point, and Kris refuses to have her own opinion apart from his like she’s afraid of not “keeping the peace” or something. It’s so lame. I’m definitely avoiding all videos with him in them from now on, and I’d rather die than give his channel any views.

[@Manadoodles]

as someone who is very anxious i would never respond to my other person like that for not responding right away. when my brain starts to spiral i repeat to myself that he is working or with his friends or family so it's more then normal that he does not respond right away.

[@willby722]

For the first one, he didn't lock the door. He left his keys in the lock, on the inside of the door, which prevents her keys from working and he's done this before. He's the asshole.

[@honey-zm7dn]

I'm surprised you DONT agree. This is a recurring issue, not a one-off event of him being forgetful, and she has asked him nicely multiple times to stop. At what point do you stop asking nicely?

[@roach8268]

Completely disagree with the first take. We don’t know how long this has been happening, could be years, could be months. You can break a bad habit like that one in a few weeks. They’ve discussed this multiple times and she’s been calm all those times. It’s unreasonable to think someone will continue to be nice when they feel they are being blatantly dismissed. She had a right to be mad. He is also not keeping the house safe at all by leaving his keys in the door, if anything he’s keeping his wife from being safe. What if someone was outside trying to get her? Would her husband wait till he’s finished with something to come help her? It sounds like the husband just doesn’t care about his wife’s concerns. I wouldn’t use any form of autism/OCD to excuse this behavior either. If it was that bad OP would’ve noticed, plus I have family members that have those diagnosis and they are reasonable. Might take them a few weeks to a month to change it but they don’t actively try to make someone’s life miserable. This is so avoidable too cause she told him “hey, if you notice I’m not home could you take your keys out”-he knows she’s not home and continues to do it. If he cared he’d certainly remember that especially with such a reminder. Cause the brain is usually like “oh she’s not home” which then triggers the previous convo to come back into your head. I feel that Caleb just doesn’t understand dealing with someone who disregards your feelings. He’s given similar takes when it comes to “feminine rage” (aka continually dealing with a man child or someone who has zero respect for you). He gives the guy the benefit of the doubt but not the woman, cause if she lashes out she’s immediately TAH, when that’s not fair at all. So many bad men use weaponized incompetence to their advantage so when the woman finally does explode she’s the bad guy. I feel grateful he doesn’t understand this likely because he’s never seen or dealt with it, but I wish someone would inform him about these things. (No hate to Caleb btw, I’ve watched him long before Kris, just something I’ve notice that kinda hits me the wrong way)

[@squalloogal]

I don’t agree with story 1 When the key is left in the lock you can’t use your key to unlock the door. She’s not being spiteful, she’s at her whits ends, locked out of HER safe place. She’s talked about it so much and he hasn’t changed his behaviour. So I don’t agree with Kris & boyfriend’s take.

[@gilajacobs-ch2rw]

Let’s appreciate the hard work kris puts into her videos and jay❤❤

[@msmarcie4120]

That first story would cause me to blow up if it happened all the time. It would hit me just right one day and i would do the same. The lock would definitely get changed to prevent that.

[@yolandasitembile3868]

Not gonna lie, I miss seeing Kris making videos without Kaleb.

[@sannegodijn301]

She makes solo video's on her main channel twice a week

[@yolandasitembile3868]

@@sannegodijn301 most of it is the serial killer series, I miss just her reacting to things, don't get me wrong, love them, but just miss her.

[@mialicious87]

Aaaaaaand why did you even need to comment this??

[@kibainuyaha]

I think you guys didn't understand story 1 as it's not about the wife not having a key but not being able to using it and also who leaves keys in a door!

[@goldkitty12]

THE ISSUE IS SHE CANT UNLOCK THE DOOR BECAUSE THE KEY IS IN THE DOOR

[@erikamasters9945]

So happy you 2 met each other.. you guys are a 100% match ❤ much love. ❤❤

[@Big_biskieplayz]

The king and queen have posted!!!!!

[@cberts92]

The nippers comment at the end had me 💀 😂❤ you guys

[@scottduke]

The woman in the first one earned an a$whole license which is awarded after multiple attempts to reasonably get a person to be considerate even if it means changing your behavior.

[@AlfieCantley-l2v]

That woman was clearly not the asshole. She was only asking for a small thing and after a bit you just snap because clearly it wasn’t working, just telling him to not do it, so she had to make sure he remembered. I can’t remember because I’m at the end of the video but I don’t think either of them are the asshole UNLESS he made a big deal out of it and was then unfriendly. That would then make him the asshole because he was the one in the wrong, being told to sort it out.

[@kyn.valeries.version]

Kaleb And u with the glasses and hat are so funny😭❤

[@sarahmango399]

You and Caleb are literally 2 cartoon characters and I love it don’t stop 😂

[@sannegodijn301]

I dissagree with the first one she is not the asshole because its very annoying to have to wait to be let in your own house because your husband forgets to unlock it thats ridiculous

[@Artsy_videogaming345]

“Aita for telling my daughter that she’s average looking?” Yes next question

[@neonte13]

I have no idea how a parent would get this across to their kid who's struggling with their looks, but I just wanna make these points: 1. Influencers, models, actors, etc. who look attractive to a very broad audience tend to look pretty normal, plain, what-have-you without all the work they put in. 2. A prominent facial feature isn't going to be a detractor for everyone. Konnie Huq has a smallish face and sorta prominent nose which make her face a little bird-like, but she's one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. Similarly, I've heard some Filipino women complain about having big ears, but every time I've heard this it works so well with their facial structure and looks really cute. It's incredibly easy to get hung up on one facial feature you have, but far-and-away, it works with the rest of your face and will even look really cute to the right people. 3. The girl in the AITA story was 14. She's a kid. Kids look goofy. You grow up, your face continues to change, stuff like acne calms down, you learn how to use stuff like makeup or beard styling to your benefit. By the time your brain's done cooking in your mid-20's, you'll have figured out your style and what works for you. (Or if you're like me, you'll have realized you're happier not giving a crap outside of cleanliness and basic upkeep.) At that point, you'll find a slew of people who like you for you and are attracted to you the way you look. It's not necessarily a fun journey, but you'll get there and you'll realize how cruel your emotions and hormones were to make you obsessed with s**t that so doesn't matter in the real world. I don't know if that helps, but it's my two cents... or given the length, maybe my two handfuls of pennies found when cleaning the couch.

[@A_Random_Stay]

Idgaf what people say abt you two, you both seem so happy and I think you guys are an amazing couple! Please don’t acknowledge those people who just talk negatively because they clearly don’t understand how awesome you guys are! ❤❤❤

[@lj0608]

Who does that? They are so beautiful together I love them together they are so funny.

[@A_Random_Stay]

@@lj0608 fr like idk why some people can’t see that

[@PossiblyAVampyre]

I love your positive comment...and also HELLO FELLOW STAY I am so glad to find another stay who likes kallmeoompa 🤣😂❤️❤️

[@A_Random_Stay]

@@PossiblyAVampyre thxxx

[@A_Random_Stay]

@@PossiblyAVampyre AYE DOMINO

[@TreeDweller_Storyteller]

Honestly, when I was struggling with my appearance, I just needed to accept that I’m average. I was 15, I thought I wasn’t pretty and that my parents were lying, so I seriously thought about and came to the conclusion that there are prettier people, there are uglier people, but the people who matter will think I’m beautiful.

[@jessicaholscher4097]

In the first post, she's not mad he's locking the door; she's mad he's leaving his key in the door on the inside, so her key won't work from the outside. She has a key too, it just won't work because of his key. She still went about it poorly by shouting and cursing at him, but a simple apology and heartfelt talk should fix it.

[@kierangillett-lammchen9758]

6:26 just reminds me of family guy. To the moon Lois, TO THE MOON! 😂

[@MamaCat956]

Aita: My gumdrop really knows how to hold a grudge. I had to take her to the vet hospital on Monday. It took 4 days for her to forgive me.