People pleasing and ADHD

[@euphoric1183]

İ usually people please or freeze in tense situations. But sometimes i choose the fight response. But maybe its because of the built up anger or ADHD emotional dysregulation idk, when i do get angry or choose the fight response, i go completely insane. Which is another reason why i refrain from it because when i get angry, i tend to get very angry. İm tying to learn positive and healthy ways to set boundaries. This video helped me :)

[@amarchhabra2175]

Great video. Terrific info. One thing that may help is if you get a mic. The volume is very low and a bit hard to hear. Thanks for the terrific info.

[@soupcastle8210]

I am so tired of having ADHD it is so hard to live with confidence and look to others for validation

[@verenaklumper3451]

I am with a man who has ADHD. He tries so hard to please me, that he disrespects my boundaries and knows better what I need than I. It’s so exhausting. For example: I am tired because I am ill and don’t want to see him. He is telling me how lonely he feels and that I can also rest at his place. I give in, and go to him. Then, he makes me tea with lemon (I can’t have lemon) I say no, he argues that I need the vitamin C. I am warm and push off the blanket and he covers me up again. He buys me a power bar full of sugar, I say I can’t have sugar, please ask before you buy something, he argues why I need the energy. Then he tries to please me again and asks, do you want something to drink? I say no! He goes and gets me a Coke Zero and is proud of him self for it being without sugar! I do have IBS and if I don’t follow a certain diet I feel bad! I feel manipulated because he wants me there and tries so hard to please me but doesn’t respect my needs and boundaries. It’s so exhausting, specially because I was ill and just needed rest and not constant discussions and questioning about my needs. Because he apparently only means well, I feel bad for saying no to all he thinks I need. I don’t feel heard , as he is always questioning what I know I need. And it feels like he desperately pleases me to achieve that I am with him, in other to fulfill his need to not be alone. That’s where I feel manipulated. And he is achieving the opposite, I am distancing myself, because I don’t get what I need. And when I say: that this behaviour is difficult and all I needed was rest, he is getting angry and says, there is no pleasing me. I don’t know 7:57 how to handle this!

[@BXLrules]

this was me in every relationship. talk to him about it.

[@myhairisbrown4893]

i was diagnosed when i was 7 years old and have been taking adderall since. i’m now graduating college and feel as though my adhd has gotten worse. now i’m trying to understand who i am by learning more about adhd and how it makes me feel

[@MyaPya_]

Hii!! I’m currently in the same boat🥲 do you have any advice?

[@violet9840]

I have always felt like I couldn’t possibly have adhd because I’m so quiet and anxious in a social situations because I people please so much, but everything always seems to point to adhd anyway especially when I am comfortable and in my space

[@alokkanswal4403]

Nice stuff.

[@rummykormersandassociates]

i just got my diagnosis at 35 and this information was really important to me. thank you for your help.

[@AnnStoneson]

You are very welcome! Glad it was helpful.

[@Annis874]

Thank you, you made me cry ( but in a good way 🙂) ❤️

[@17thVisions]

Thank you , been dealing with this for so long , I’m so tired

[@CyberWolfVR]

Thank you for this video x

[@AnnStoneson]

You're welcome! Thanks for commenting.

[@berkdeniz]

Thank you for the video.

[@JD-cz2ur]

how do I know this is real? I want to say you are describing me but how do I make sure?