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[@origamilester706]

I feel like I overanalyze every word, emotion and action of every person, more than anybody else. It makes me very sensitive and emotional. Everybody else seems so blind to all these small details. I feel as though this is something that other INFP's can relate with, maybe? Maybe I'm insane.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+OrigamiLester Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@hammells1406]

Your not insane, it's exhausting XD

[@amos9001]

+OrigamiLester I feel exactly the seem, especially this "Everybody else seems so blind to all these small details", I wish I could be like them.

[@lunawolfe5945]

Me too! I am constantly analyzing everything and everyone! Everything from television shows (even the news) to abstract thought. I actually wasted three hours yesterday debating time travel theories and paradoxes. I can't seem to turn my brain off (unless I smoke something) and it really sucks!

[@lemonyjazmin645]

+OrigamiLester very true, i'm an infp female and the other day i was riding the school bus home sitting alone and i stared at this guy across from me, he had his back slightly turned, so i could see his face but he couldn't see me without turning around.. he had his headphones on and i just stared at this guy, i felt like i was reading his mind.. like i noticed his facial expressions and how he looked conflicted with something... then he turned and looked at me and caught my look and i was going to look away quickly (i'm a pro at this) but something in me told me to do different and i bravely gave him a tiny encouraging smile and he smiled back and looked away then i saw a tiny little twinge of happiness in him and i hoped he could surpass his problems or whatever he was dealing with.. (not attracted at all, just feeling empathetic with a fellow human being) i feel like a creep for staring at him haha, i do this with a lot of people, but it's always really subtle.

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

I just wanted to say another thing about being an INFP is that the worst advice you can give us is "fake it till you make it" it's something we just don't do. Our desire to be us is at the heart of an INFP more than any type I believe

[@juicylucy73]

+UnlimitedProdiction1 agreed. I am doing a poetry reading in a few weeks, and as much as I love writing poetry, I HATE public speaking (shock horror ;) ) I asked my professor for tips, and he told me to put on a persona. That feels so foreign to me (though I wish I could do it). If I'm not reading as me, I don't know how else to do it. It would feel unauthentic to pretend to be this outgoing, bubbly poet-type.

[@Based_Chameleon]

+UnlimitedProduction1 100% agree. I hate it when people give this advice. I want to be me. I don't want to walk around with a mask on.

[@jasminflower3814]

How did you poetry reading go? Was your authentic person accepted to a level that pleased you, or didn't you notice? Did you come out of your shell?

[@veganspace]

oh my gosh someone said that and i am like thinking to myself what does that mean, how can someone do that? if you're not truthful/authentic, then u will eventually screw up lol that was my thinking...

[@jasminflower3814]

Lily pad Yes the truth always comes out.

[@dreamchaser0524]

Can we creat a neverland so all the lost infps can live in there happily forever

[@noxiebobo]

Yes pls

[@cassieschafer4361]

I'm down

[@dreamchaser0524]

***** oh and enfp too!

[@sm0lkiwi989]

Count me in

[@Ken-S]

Yes please.

[@rachellejacksongaya]

Being an infp I have a really a hard time on school. I see school as being useless to me and I don't care about it, therefore I don't study and I have a lot of bad grades. I like learning but not in that way. I like learning for the knowledge, not just to pass on exams. I don't like being tested. I wish I could be free and learn things from experience. Also, I prefer to do research on my own rather than take classes. For example: I like history and I find it pretty interesting but I don't want to sit in class listening to a teacher talk, I would rather watch documentaries and do my own research, ya feel?

[@rachellejacksongaya]

Lauren Heighten Thank you so much!! It's my last year in high school and it's the hardest one too, I'll probably figure out a way to get through it and it'll soon be over. Hopefully college life will be a lot better, I'm excited experience it!

[@jellisquaredellis4481]

I'm an INFP and always loved school and learning.

[@valentinag.7633]

+Jellisquared Ellis that's because hating school or loving it has nothing to do with your mbti.

[@joshavenhouse3897]

I'm an INFP, and this is me hands down.

[@TechReviewTom]

School teaches you how to work hard, also how to listen well. It also teaches social skills. The better grades you get the more motivation you will have to keep it up. I understand though!

[@jrantorsvik725]

Are anyone else here kind of "reluctant" to being confindent because you fear you might come across as cocky?

[@jrantorsvik725]

+leilaruznic Glad I'm not the only one :) I mean I like who I am, but I'm pretty shit at expressing myself verbally, so I tend to hold back sometimes

[@ShyW0lf]

same here!!

[@Kooliow12]

Lol yeah man

[@ChioSuper94]

yeah, my friends are always sharing their successes on social media and I'm just like..should i even post this.. nah.. i just end up keeping everything to myself

[@jrantorsvik725]

Yep can relate to that

[@dannejoon]

"Hey! Do you feel unsure about yourself, but want to find out? Buy our premium pack!" As an INFP, I just instantly lose faith in that xD

[@serious7179]

Same here...I tuned out as soon as I heard that...

[@ErinDavila76]

ENFJ here and @danlore you made me laugh out loud reading your comment. I get your humor

[@serious7179]

@Drod Lol...You're not alone... I just started doing housework

[@imasjannah]

Me too

[@ac-jn1iq]

Same bahahahah

[@ceri1313]

I'm reading comments from other INFPs and it feels like I belong with these people

[@sonnyblonstein2007]

IKR

[@joelmarkwitt]

Glad you found your tribe.

[@SeasideBliss]

welcome to the club

[@sarahdayana7261]

love it here

[@h3llboyyy407]

It's truly amazing tbh

[@lexirey430]

I just want to hang out in this comments section forever. You guys understand me.

[@wizcyber1255]

I KNOW RIGHT?

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thanks for sharing.

[@dude7109]

I LOVE U

[@story1162]

That.... was a cool reply. This channel is pretty great, I can generate alot of ideas here and its all about positive growth.

[@Daniel-dl6cu]

Hello distant family!!!!:)

[@loveyaaxDLia]

1.I have always struggled with motivating myself. There are days that I just sit outside when its raining and just think about what is the point of doing things when they don't feel right. 2. I love writing, painting, and singing, but I'm too shy to share those things with the outside world. 3.I don't have difficulty talking to people (unless it's a big group) and I hate when someone's mad at me, I always need to set things straight. 4.I immediately analyze people when I meet them, I want to know what kind of person I am dealing with, I feel safer this way. 5.I can give good advice and present the situation in a simpler light for someone. 6.I am very diplomatic and rarely judge people, just give them advice and say what I would do in a given situation. 7.BUT when someone's view is completely opposite to my beliefs I do get very passionate and convincing. 8.Also, I feel like I can't stay alone for a long time cause I'm going crazy with all of my thoughts, but then again spending two whole days with other people would be too much for me, I need to recharge with my alone time. 9. I am extremely family-oriented, and like to have a small group of people around me, that I know I can trust. 10. I talk to people that I know I cannot trust tho, I hear them out, I just never open up to them. 11. It's a lot easier to hurt me than make me mad. 12. I take critisism very hard, but deep down I am the biggest critic of myself. Damn, that was really personal.

[@rachellejacksongaya]

I relate SO much to everything you wrote it's a little creepy

[@loveyaaxDLia]

Glad I'm not the only one tho c:

[@mpcc2022]

As an INTP I'm so fascinated and attracted to the private, sensitive, gentle, yet ferocious and emotional INFP.

[@PizzaAteMyCat]

I can relate to this

[@Turonrock520]

I am the same exact way, you're not alone

[@XavierCachon]

INFP: craves a deep emotional connection with people they can sense "get it" and tend to stay aloof and reserved around people they can sense don't.

[@spoon8113]

Wahhh

[@CartoonyPirate]

Wah- Well it's justified for me cus ppl on the internet keep talking about letting only a certain few of people inside their lives Since I'm in the exact same situation with a video telling me stuff I didn't know about me, I guess I can't deny that forever Er idk

[@spectre3671]

Haha yep. Said it as well as possible.

[@katherandefy]

I'm an ENFP and this cracks me up ...allll the comments by INFPs in this thread! haha Too funny. INFPs do not see what pied pipers they are, how charismatic they are when they're excited or just simply sharing knowledge which they think comes out jumbled up. heheh. And yet they are so to the point and eloquent and gracious even when very young. Very good with language and expression of feeling. gahhhh *envy* And so freakn humble. Every single one of them. Seriously ironic. I heart INFPs. *chuckles*

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks katherandefy for sharing the love and for the comments. Happy you are a part of the Personality Hacker community.

[@magnefficientfragz4005]

i know I'm an I n f p all introverted males can be very charismatic but when we live in such a extroverted biased society in America we have lost are identity

[@katherandefy]

nope you have an unusual charm.. that is the truth of almost every INFP i've ever known.

[@zain4019]

katherandefy That was so incredibly sweet. :)

[@zainabibrahim6600]

That was so sweet of you to say❤

[@five5x]

As an INFP, the one thing I lack is writing skills. I can barely communicate with language, but the funny thing is the less I have to think about it, the better I am with language. I can come up with lyrics to songs I write off of the top of my head, but the moment I am aware of what I am trying to say, my brain goes dumb.

[@Zuap]

+five5x I understand this very well, I am the same. If I could write everything exactly as when I first imagine/say in my head, oh boy... But 5 minutes after I already forgot it exactly, it gets blury, and can't express in words, and the worst, I don't have motivation to do it ("oh, this tought was cool and could do a great article/book, but I already know it, that is enoug, no need to take the effort to share it also, everyone has brains to reach the same ideas one day if they try"

[@anoopgopalakrishnan7823]

Same here bro. So what I started doing it. I stopped calling it writing and started calling it expression. Cuz that's what I'm really doing. To me, when I'm actually writing something that I'm proud about, it doesn't feel like I "wrote" a piece. But just that I expressed freely what I wanted to say or express. Am I wrong to believe it is same with every INFP ?

[@Ken-S]

Writing skill can be great for us infp. Maybe you should try.😆

[@nathalynchristine]

omg its funny at how i can totally relate to this

[@aureliekakou3752]

You should try and learn to play an instrument!

[@ch4rli3heart36]

Yes, it's true, I have a strong (secret) desire to be a leader, especially of something that promotes happiness and goodness in the world.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Ch4rli3heart for sharing your experience.

[@ruth7784]

+Ch4rli3heart Me too. :-) X

[@malin943]

Ch4rli3heart me too! 😊

[@lenisue2254]

Omg same

[@toastydoggo2313]

Dude I hate it when the attention is on me, makes me sweaty nervous and anxious. Glad to see people like you who seek out for leadership, gotta say thanks for stepping forward and leading others.

[@Scott6794]

I'm blown away by how accurate this is; especially considering how specific it gets. I want to add that as an INFP male, we are often seen as mysterious, intimidating, and sometimes off-putting. In my opinion, this is due to the fact that there are so few of us people simply don't know how to react. I feel like I confuse people a lot.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks ***** for sharing your experience. I'm an ENFP - so I don't feel like I'm off-putting as much. For me it's more like "Do people really see the real me - or am I just a 'performer' for them?" I think INFPs tend to be more in touch with the core values of their heart and can sometimes appear to be more serious/intense on the surface than they really are authentically. So people may be confused because you present intense - but deep down you have a fun and open part of you people won't see until they truly get to know the real Scott. (Of course I have no clue if I'm right on this - just speculating based on my own patterns and observations). Thanks again Scott for the comments.

[@Scott6794]

Joel Mark Witt Any time Joel. Thanks for the great videos. Your assessment is eerily accurate! This information is invaluable for INFPs who are still maturing as it can be a lonely and sometimes confusing existence. There's no doubt in my mind that you will help others like myself on the road to self-discovery. Subscribed!

[@mnnlzyi]

I feel the same dude

[@magnefficientfragz4005]

seanmessenger.hubpages.com/hub/Why-Beautiful-Women-Love-Introverts-Like-You introverted males are very strong we are just mid under stood take my advice when you do things let your skill grow naturally in an i n f p too when you let skills grow naturally you develop present moment awareness and your other skills will be effected positively

[@steviestagemaker417]

***** INFP male here. Was a mute in high school. The way out of my "mind prison" was and continues to be leveraging my persistent desire to question *everything* to see how I can contribute to the betterment of the human condition. Of course the day-to-day trials of having to make sustenance income at a "j-o-b" are an ever present struggle but I try to stay centered on how it's all part of the journey. Current culture/society is only antithetical to male INFP existence to the degree that you believe it to have power over you.

[@spongycat5366]

I am INFP and I have been told over and over throughout my life I am too emotional, sensitive and too nice to take a leadership role. I was given the role of leader in a uni group assignment a couple of years ago, the others in the group didn't know anything about me. Throughout the assignment I was told I was the best leader they had ever had, even in the workplace. I was thanked, and was told how I led the group was inspirational, and they wished that I could be their leader where they worked. I was shocked because I have always been told I am too nice but soft. I knew in my heart if I had the chance I could be a great leader. I just lead in a different way to the norm. I would say, that is the same for other INFPs.

[@mollybordonarohall6925]

Yes. I can relate!

[@AudioEpics]

As a freelancer I don't think I would make a good boss. It's hard enough to be assertive enough to get paid by my customers. But I like to dream about buying a big business as a millionaire, not having to worry about money and being able to focus on the wellbeing of each and every employee. I'd probably spend more on Christmas bonuses and extra days off than I would make, but at least everybody would be happy. Since I'm poor, I'll have to stick with writing escapist epic fantasy fiction. 🙂

[@solodolotrevino]

I think some of us INFP's feel like we're being groomed by the universe for leadership & sharing wisdom to the masses. Exploring every inch of the globe aids our experience

[@ruth7784]

+Trevor Estrada A lot of us seem to be 'lightworkers'. :-) X

[@TrollAxeThrower]

+Trevor Estrada can an " I " lead?

[@solodolotrevino]

Absolutely.

[@TrollAxeThrower]

Trevor Estrada never considered myself as a leading type. I have new ideas all the time but they are far from what people want to listen at all... :/

[@TrollAxeThrower]

Trevor Estrada as an INFP

[@sarahraindevine9102]

If we are talking secrets of an INFP, one ironically, is that we are very open people and sometimes don't get when we cross the line of what is too much information, or too honest (if your convictions say "the more honest the better"). I think this is why I fail a lot of my job interviews. Another, at least for me, is that some things become very black and white with trust. Example being when a person I respect crosses me, betrays trust, or does something out of line with my own convictions, it can literally haunt me, and occupy an enormous space in my mind, and in order to avoid that unpleasant experience, they will cut from my life as quickly as possible.

[@Greenvibes83]

sarah perez yes this is so true! I'm a parent who feels very strongly about gentle attachment parenting. when people parent in a mainstream way it goes against my ideals. I find it will literally haunt me. "how can such and such stand to do that it's WRONG." I'll get very angry in my head over it and turn it into something it's not, then struggle to see that person as Im mentally so annoyed by it.

[@natanmoreira1439]

Jesus, só glad you've written that. I've thought that I had problems with take people away from my life and sometimes a bit harder for their mistakes cause I really try not to hurt or screw nobody.

[@AudioEpics]

Very true! I'm relieved I've been a freelancer for 10 years and I don't have to handle the nightmare of job interviews anymore. But the nightmare of betrayal, that's still a very real fear...

[@Pat2789]

Sending my love to all my fellow INFPs :)

[@njish1109]

🫂

[@Kooliow12]

I'm can get lazy real easy but when I find something interesting I jump at the chance!

[@atidiaX]

Wait... did she just say that going for new experiences and interacting with people gave us more power to achieve our goals? I'm not exactly a party animal, I don't go out much (at all), for the simple reason that I hate hanging around with people I don't know (unless it involves close friends and alcohol), but at the same time, every time I force myself to get out of my comfort zone, I feel like I have a whole new perception of the world. I get home, feeling invincible. This feeling lasts for a few days, then slowly vanishes... and I don't feel like going out for a long time. It's weird.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+atidiaX Thanks for sharing your experience. It's your growth state to get out and EXPERIENCE the world. This allows you to get out of feeling "stuck" in an emotional/memory loop.

[@atidiaX]

+Joel Mark Witt This is so accurate it hurts. I use social events/new experiences occasionally as a mean to renew my inner world... they give me a lot of power. Thanks for the very interesting video and explanation!

[@joelmarkwitt]

+atidiaX Thank you for being a part of the community and sharing your feedback here.

[@rachellejacksongaya]

I feel that way too!! Sometimes when I socialize I start seeing the world from a different perspective and I think "oh my god, this is better than I expected, I could do this forever!" but after some days this feeling goes away and I go back to my antisocial self.

[@shinzantetsu]

+Primrose Panglea same here, I get drained alot... And need loads of alone time. Although I'm fine with a friend or two whom I'm comfortable with

[@mirandas4821]

I am a very young INFP and honestly, when I read the comments on this video I teared up. I have never related so much to anything anyone has ever said to me, I have always felt out of place everywhere i've gone, so when I get to communicate with someone like me I am truly happy. Thank you all. :)

[@areyvlogs8435]

Miranda Samuelsson i feel the same way :)

[@growcactus]

Me too

[@freddymensch4865]

Agh same!

[@KnucklesForSkull]

It's our pleasure mademoiselle xD

[@jlyng4385]

Same:"")

[@mitthrawnuruodo1730]

As an INFP I've always felt that i couldn't relate to anybody. Ever since i could remember I have always over analyzed and thought on a deeper level. I would hang out with friends but feel so detached because they talked about drama while I thought about why they think this and not about solutions etc. So nice to see this, I truly feel alone because of this. I think of trends and internet things and think, why do they act this way? I cant even focus at times because I'm so in my head. Its so crazy but i guess that's just me, haha.

[@PHE4_]

Willie Beckley I get you completely

[@TheGreenCheeseMoon]

It's not just you. I feel the same way, and always have. When I was younger I mostly hung out with older people because I felt that I could relate better to them. There are more people like us, but they're rare. There are however a lot of interesting people out there with different personality-types and walks of life to connect with and relate to if you look closely :) If all else fails, there's always the internet!

[@FentonFerrox]

It's really nice to see a video where the comment section is so inviting and caring and people who feel the same way as I do :)

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks for the feedback. We work really hard to keep this a supportive community of like minds. We'd love to have you join us over on Facebook.

[@ssamstory1]

Infps have the power of genuine heart. We aren't the 'social warrior' types who are motivated by power, social status or others perceptions.

[@prodesu8607]

Well, one could say we're social warrior types who actually are motivated by what we deem to be social justice, despite what may be the trending or popular opinion.

[@bena-n]

I love this in us it's the thing that makes sense for me

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

I'm an INFP male and a lot of this rings true especially not caring when I don't believe in something. I was originally going to school for engineering, hated it and nothing could push me to continue until I changed my major and now I'm making A's like its nothing. When I do something I believe in or for someone I love, I really can be unstoppable unable to see road blocks that doesn't really register when I'm on a mission so to speak. As a depressed INFP, I too shut off from the world when I don't have that feeling or passion for something. Even wanting to lead by aspiration sounds accurate

[@TypeTipsLeonTsao]

UnlimitedProdiction1 Thanks for sharing your experience. I enjoy reading your experience and it rung true for me too.

[@ammarahrais4546]

Can i know what subject u changed ur major into?

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

ammarah rais health education

[@ammarahrais4546]

+UnlimitedProdiction1 I am an INFP too and currently in 11th standard with Maths, Physics and Chemistry as my main subjects and i desperately want to change it to humanities with Psychology but my parents dont allow me to

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

ammarah rais Is there a reason your parents won't allow you? I understand your parents logic, because my parents pushed getting an education to get a career. So to make them happy I was trying to do civil engineering even though I hated it from day one... If you find your unable to push yourself to finish I recommend doing what you want to do and have a conversation with your parents about Psychology, what you can do, what you want to do, internships and other opportunities. I would tell you that your parents shouldn't control what you major in, but I understand how influential and important what they want for you can do for you decision. However it's really up to you what you want to do. :)

[@soakedbearrd]

Communication is both our greatest strength and our greatest weakness. For instance, sometimes I feel like I am not quick witted enough to articulate my thoughts in a clear and concise way (in a reasonable amount of time lol) yet most people I meet say that I have a great way of getting across my point, although in a non conventional way. We speak in symbols and metaphors, and because we see things in a "big picture" way (connect the dots), often we feel overwhelmed in putting order. For example lets say you are talking to someone about a subject matter that's deep and layered.Most people start with A - B - C - D - E etc... and explain things that way. In our minds we see ABCDE as a whole and it takes energy to dissect it into parts that easily digestible to a layperson. So we might start with telling C first and try to connect it to E only to forget that you need to start off with A LOL. Now I can't speak for everyone but I know that for me, I feel that language is very restrictive. This is the reason we speak in metaphors, love fables (or even fiction) and parables, and are often poetic. Because in all those ways of speaking, you can grasp the bigger picture and the whole is in fact greater than the sum of it's parts.

[@MrBiggiedean]

+soakedbearrd Steph Precisely bro! I think it's because as INFP's, we see the full blown purpose of most things yanoe or try to. And when explaining it through words, we'd have to dissect "purpose" not knowing what part to explain to someone first making a mess :( after the fact. Now back all that up, with not yet finding your purpose in life as yet. We go through a lot in our heads man. It's like having the whole alphabet in your head and instead of the whole alphabet the other person just wants to talk about the letter "I"......Well you see....(filler words)

[@ragc9553]

So accurate! Though I also believe we can train ourselves and get better at getting our message across. For me that's a major frustration, though I won't yield until I can do this at ease

[@Little_L1133]

soakedbearrd - ironically you have explained this perfectly lol

[@astrid2885]

It's because we like to explain our thoughts down to every last detail and although that helps others undestand fully what we have in mind it sometimes gets confusing to them, because it's hard for some to grasp the fact that if we do not analyze things thoroughly we are left with unanswered questions that drive us mad. At least me.

[@hubertdreamer3842]

As an infp, i can relate.

[@cats5649]

All this time I thought I was just lazy and a waste of life and now it all makes sense! I need to travel... I have never had the opportunity to due to trying to live up to the expectations of others and I have longed for it for a very long time.Any of you INFPs suffer from severe depression and social anxiety as well as hate being in groups because you always feel like the last pick of the group? Also, do you guys dream every single night too? I wonder if me dreaming every night vividly since I can remember and actually remembering them is because we are quite literally the "dreamer" type, not just because our heads are always in the clouds during the day.

[@lucemus1]

I have always felt an urge to travel, i think my destiny is to move to the US, if there is such a thing, the hardest part for me is dealing with high school right now, i am unsure if i have made the right decisions, (junior year). I always find myself lost in thought and completely unmotivated to do my homework, i like to find things out on my own and in my own pace.... But yes the expectations of others weigh heavy on me, and i have suffered from depression altough it is almost gone, and i have social anxiety, every morning when i pass by a train on the station i feel hard to breath and as though they are looking at and judging me, such is the downside of us, when it comes to dreaming, i rarely remember my dreams altough i know i have dreamed, your imagination is probaly more vivid then mine i bet.

[@OP3NGL]

Across my life I have suffered several periods of depression, 3 months ago was the deepest one. The reason was I spent 3 years struggling to achieve 2 dreams and realized I can't achieve it. The first one was to become a succesful game developer, but I have to give up on this dream, because my perfection and idealism was converting every single act in pure stress. Giving up was very hard but sometimes is better to lose. My 2th dream was to have financial freedom, I hate to work 9 to 6 but sadly again my perfectionism screw up everything and had to give up this dream too. I realise I was putting irreal goals almost impossible to achieve and was dreaming too much. For example I remeber one day I spent like 2 hours imagining how should be to win an IGF award (is some sort of Oscar in videogame industry) I even practice my speech LOL. During those 3 years I isolate from friends, because I didn't want any interruption (this was very stupid and irrational idea). In those 3 years I did like 25 projects (all failed), you can imagine how my self-esteem was, and I was totally depressed. The problem with INFP is sometimes we behave on irrational ways, usually idealistically and perfectionist, or asume "terrible" possibilities without foundation. Thanks to a friend I could move forward, he see life so simple that remembers me that life should be easy, and I decide to change my approach, embrace unperfection, embrace mistakes, embrace the "non-ideal path". Two months ago I started a new project related with financial freedom, and guess what, I'm starting seeing nice results. I hope in 1 or more years to be free from money, and be able to achieve my newest dream, travel to at least 10 countries before 35 years old. If I can give you an advice it should be to embrace un-perfection, and don't sink on negative thoughts. I found something interesting for each 10 negative though I had, after one week I reliase 10 was irrational stupid. Finally, I want to share with you a quote I found on youtube which became in my new mantra to avoid depression: "If you were 99 years old a minute to die, and the universe gives you an opportunity to travel back in time to today, would you behave in the way you are behaving now?". Do you want to spend your whole life depressed? I don't think so, right? Vibes +++

[@Daniel-dl6cu]

I can certainly relate to the strong desire to travel and not having the means at the moment and feeling the expectations of others and school which only caters to some people's dreams. Anxiety and depression is nothing new either. The way I see it it's like I'm constantly climbing and finding new mountains, I also have random strange thoughts and certainly have dreamed. You're not alone! :)

[@rachaelhope851]

Caitlin Smith YESS I am a "lazy, piece of shit, dead beat mom," getting hospitalized and meds changed twice a year for 15 years... & I can't count how many times Ive tried committing suicide. But now, yeah Im lazy and depressed... but my son is 3 1/2 yrs old, and I need to stay alive to at least be a positive influence in his life regarding passion, inspiration, morals, values, faith, truth, etc...

[@neeharavi]

Rachael Gardzalla hold on! You're worth this life

[@Lauralkke]

as an INFP, I'm in the stage of demotivation as I try and find my passion / cause. I like to shut myself off, and although I have lots of friends, I've begun to hate hanging out with them- I just don't know how to be myself or who that even is, and I end up annoying myself. I've become accustomed to the idea that I'll probably live a life of solitude, with maybe a few friends I see now and then but emotionally alone. I don't want that for myself but I don't see an alternative, and I'm realising now that it's actually been like that all my life.

[@azhar9680]

Relate :(

[@xWishinqOnStars]

God this is so accurate. I'm in the same place in my life.

[@Lauralkke]

Tiffanylynne it sucks. someone please make a cure lol :-(

[@shannonnegley9576]

I just said this today. I feel like everyone is tired of me, hell I'm tired of me. Being alone sounds so liberating and terrifying all together.

[@ShyW0lf]

Wow this has been my exact thought process as of a couple hours ago

[@sofialeanne9551]

It's hard for me to form sentences that people will understand. I feel like when I speak my ideas, my explanations just come from point A straight to point D. It's easy for me to small talk, and make acquaintances and not many friends. These days lately, I have been craving some sort of motivation, something to work on and achieve. So I decided to get a violin. I tend to keep quiet sometimes because I feel like my words will just confuse people and I'll be seen as stupid... I've been called weird and stupid many times, they've become words I find worse than many swear words today. I always fantasize and feel melancholy about magic, powers, kingdoms, battles, and just glorious... everything. I'm always gloomy whenever I hear about crime on the news, always on the verge of crying when I hear about stuff like that. I have so much to say, so much to explain, but I don't know how to do it right. So it's a hobby of mine to write poetry and compose songs, beats, some raps, and stories.

[@sofialeanne9551]

I'm glad that it is not just me feeling this way. I've been unknowingly craving for understanding from others, because no matter how much I show acceptance and my empathy, I never get the same back.

[@evanw3508]

+Sofia Leanne Wow, thanks for sharing this. This INFP girl whom I'm interested in does the same thing, she can say the most random things.. so it's hard to understand her sometimes, being an INTP.

[@sofialeanne9551]

Kitaini Yamini Yeah, just some advice... don't look at her or comment about her random outbursts in a weirded out way lol. From my experience, it makes me feel alienated and like I'm abnormal, haha. GL!

[@evanw3508]

Sofia Leanne I admit, I've done this a couple times, though in a playful way... welp lol. Thanks!

[@bethbuchanan2164]

i am exactly the same!! its so annoying, i want to say so much but when i try and articulate it the words turn into a mess and i sound stupid in front of people. As a result people just think Im dopey and stupid :/

[@Sagatta32]

as an INFP male, 23, I like being a 'mini-boss' to the younger trainees. I work in a store. simple but varied and rewarding job. you meet plenty of people and nice people to work with (most often). It is definitely a 'push-pull' behavior like she describes near the end.. you want to encourage, inspire and lead but not in a too controlled manner. so you give them time to think for themselves too. It is a powerful approach to make people learn fast and understand why things are as they are.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Ethan Michell This is great. What are some "biggest take-aways" that you've learned doing this?

[@Sagatta32]

as in lessons? well I stand by my principles as much as I can and that is exactly the way I described above. working in a store where we have practicants regularly coming there to get experience. I am interested in people, their personalities, how they behave, perform and what they value. I have learned that extremely few are like me or close to being like me, as in personality but that's life and everyone's unique and interesting I think. I treat everybody equally with extreme grace and giving them room to ask questions and think for themselves as well. I think that is almost the most important part about being a 'teacher' or guider. what I have learned though, is that some people practically want you to take charge of them and tell them exactly what/how to do things but I am not great at that. I want young ones to be free, ask and learn it their way, just the way I like it myself and that is the best way I learn. despite this, sometimes I have to 'control' them and tell exactly how to do but I don't like that too much. thumb-rules are completely okay to give, I give that all the time. It's just quick tips on how we do things and then explain as to why we do it. some youngsters have very limited patience and that is for me a tough duty to fulfill, to ask them to stop fooling around, sometimes I have to boom up a bit and say it as it is if they are being childish. but most young ones are respectful and behave great. If they are in a bad place in their minds, I try to soothe them the way I know I can. 'freedom is just a state of mind' and similar quotes can be used if you feel they are mature enough to understand it and I have used it one time. the teenage girl looked me like I was from another planet then she got really curious and asked what it meant. I think she finally understood it. It relieves your mind and body, to be able to reset and continue the hardships. sometimes though, if they are a little young and turbulent, I can let them simply 'suck it up'. It is my belief that those who are very turbulent and 'instable' if you will and those who act out, can come to an understanding by themselves if you just give them some time. forgot an important thing - Leading with example Is a strong principle I keep by. It is perhaps the most important pillar for letting others follow my footsteps or my style. I use it outside of work too.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Ethan Michell Thanks for sharing man. Good stuff.

[@srajansrivastava8021]

Ethan Michell would love to connect with you on fb

[@appletree6898]

Ethan Michell I'm a high school teacher and relate to everything you just said [infp too]

[@squali1930]

Am I the only one that has looked at a ton of INFP videos and felt vulnerable and weak in the body because people shouldn't know this stuff about me, like this is the stuff I try to HIDE from people, and here are people explaining EVERYTHING about me to me and it's scary accurate. Don't get me wrong, I love it , but it doesn't feel right lol

[@chardude36m12]

Each time I take this test, I get worried I won't be INFP which is why I retake them in the first place just to be sure even though this personality fits me

[@shannonnegley9576]

I took the test 3 times to see if it would change! Nope!

[@ikanadia3944]

i took it 5 times and the result are still the same

[@pukeyourguts]

same. i took a few different tests to be sure

[@bellatortiago1]

i did 5 test too...and i am not truuuuuly convinced yet...i guess i know i am infp....but at the same time i think it would be easier...not to be.

[@noxiebobo]

Took it twice, infp. I love this personality type.

[@sylvial1985]

I'm an INFP accountant, when my mother passed away, I felt this conviction to finish college, and I earned myself an accounting degree while working 32 hours and attending school full time. Simply because I wanted to complete her wishes. I was strong and could move mountain if there's a reason to do so. We will do so.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Sylvia Lopez for sharing. I think you illustrate a great point... when an INFP sets their conviction to something - it is nearly impossible to stop them. I think it's a super power.

[@joelmarkwitt]

***** Hey Cameron. Not sure exactly sure who you are wanting feedback from - me or Sylvia. If you want to be an accountant - go for it. Or property manager. Why not just do the thing you want to do? Don't worry about your personality type - just do it.

[@Feral_moonchild]

True. I have a desire to lead as an equal and to inspire the world in ways only an INFP could imagine, but unfortunately most of us happen to live like hermits, reserved and secluded from the outside world where our ideas are safe. I think the key to unlocking our true potential lies in learning to communicate effectively, especially with personalities who can put our thoughts in motion and implement our greatest visions. World peace lies in understanding one another and utilizing each personality's unique aptitude. In the grand scheme of things we are the dreamers, so dream BIG!

[@joelmarkwitt]

I agree. I think INFPs are great at inspiring others to make bold moves and big changes.

[@TypeTipsLeonTsao]

Great! This take on the INFP has not been emphasized enough. INFPs are often humble to the point of not admitting or allowing this questor side of them to take leadership, and instead talk about and believe how they are not good even if they accomplish a lot.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Leon for sharing your feedback. I believe there is a gentle power that all INFPs possess.

[@AaronMetallion]

Lol damn, that last part was accurate..."People of this type feel like it might be wrong to be in this position" "Secret desire to lead" That was totally true for me. I felt this way. and I acomplished this by teaching art at my university. I suppose Im secretly at a position to inspire and lead people by teaching away my talents, sometimes I feel like I'm showing off and that isn't right but that balances out with being a teacher and giving away my knowledge :). awesome video!

[@joelmarkwitt]

AaronMetallion Thanks for the feedback.

[@SnowfurOfAwesomeness]

Man, you guys get me. I'm just going to hang here forever.

[@Scsmitty]

I feel the same way this comment section rocks XD

[@soakedbearrd]

As an INFP male, life can be tough yet rich and vibrant at the same time. We are in a lot of ways a walking paradox, simultaneously holding what would seem to be conflicting ideas and motivations at the same time yet seeing nothing wrong with it. Finding our passion and direction in life is perhaps our greatest challenge because of our general somewhat shyness and also our indecisiveness. However, if we ever do reach that point....watch out! Great video, and thanks!

[@joelmarkwitt]

+soakedbearrd Thank you for the kind words.

[@PHE4_]

I'm an INFP, never related to so many comments so well in a comment section. I'm trying so hard to really write my book and write 1,000 words a day! Motivation even then is sometimes hard to find but so determined to publish this thing!

[@rikasalvador]

Sophia Martinez that's awesome! Not a word is wasted! take ur time girl! :-) with time and destined inspiration it will come ❤️💙❤️

[@jesusisapisces]

Have you written it?

[@LarryMarkel]

Do INFP's tend to get distracted very frequently? Or difficulty starting a task that needs to be done?

[@sofialeanne9551]

As an INFP, I'm a half asser.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Larry Markel Tasks that "need to get done" ... YES. Tasks that tie to a deep conviction in the INFP heart... watch out... because at this level the INFP is unstoppable. Only actual death can stop an INFP who is convicted about an action to take.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Mike Johnson Yep - I would say that mundane tasks are maddening for most of the INFPs I know.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Sofia Leanne You just need to find what you are passionate about. After that ... nothing could stop you. Also - I couldn't give feedback on your other comment for some reason (KZbin wouldn't let me) - so I'll let you know here that I'm writing an article that specifically addresses INFPs challenges with articulating what they think to other people. Hang in there... I sense some pain in your other comment and I hope we can help address that for you. Thanks Sofia for sharing your experiences here.

[@sofialeanne9551]

Joel Mark Witt Thank you for your words! Sometimes I feel "cursed" for being an INFP; our nature is just contradicting...

[@lmntsgames3848]

I'm an INFP and I struggled so hard with college right after I graduated high school.. I didn't know what I want so I ventured into engineering since I'm pretty good at math.. ended up throwing my life for it.. not until I went to grab a drink with a friend a he suggested I take psychology.. he realized with the stories i told him that a lot of troubled people come to me for help and I usually notice it at the get go without them actually asking for help.. after that conversation.. a fire lit up in my soul and I felt the need to pursue clinical psychology.. I realized that the people closest to me are really troubled people, those who suffer in silence because of the fear of feeling like a burden to someone else.. that inspired me to try harder in graduating.. I kinda stumbled last year, having low grades just barely enough to pass.. but now I'm really into this path that every time someone suggests I shift courses again I immediately dismiss the idea..

[@adamsred8860]

I am 22 and just recently discovered that I am an INFP. Growing up, I didn't understand why I was always having this desire to go explore other things. But I was always having doubts about myself. Last year, when I felt that deep urge to find my purpose, I decided to volunteer for an NGO miles and miles away from home. The things I have heard in this video were the things I felt during my year on mission. But the moment I came back home, I felt like a dying light again. And right now, I am having a hard time finding a career that will give me the same bliss my volunteer experience gave me. The problem is---I want to do a lot of things, I want to try so many things everyday that I end up getting frustrated that I cannot choose. Plus, the pressure of getting a job and my friends not getting my "hermit mode" are making me feel drained up. Good thing I found this video. Thank you. 😊 I am enjoying learning more about myself. P.S. The comment section is like a bowl of chocolates for me. I am enjoying discovering that I am not going crazy. LOL

[@well1234321]

This is so accurate. Especially about the leadership part about girls. I'm an infp girl and I feel the same way. I want to lead but don't want to offend anyone.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thank you for sharing :-)

[@natalie_nicole_w]

Growing up, I remember having this strong desire to do something that would change the world, so this video really resonated with that part of me. Thank you so much

[@NaziFaa17]

Hi INFP here. I am now studying medicine, and I really feel out of place here most times. I didnt know what led me to choose this path in the first place. I knew I wanted to help people, I just didnt know what sort of career I should dive into. It was sort of a mixture between this sense of confidence I had at that time but also not knowing exactly what I wanted to do with my life. But right now, most days I feel really unmotivated, my skills are pretty weak compared to my peers, i get distracted a lot, daydream a lot, I am basically blindly memorizing stuff just to pass my exams. Its a little bit late to back out now and I'm staying because its the right thing to do. But sometimes I question myself a lot on whether I can really make it through this and whether I made the right decison. My self esteem is at its lowest and I just dont know what to do to get my head back in the game.

[@TheSugaboss]

nazifah n I feel you mate ... just try to figure out your most desirable mission ASAP and find the connection with what you are doing right now. See it as the tool you have been investing so much time to accomplish your mission. It may work when you have a clear vision about the connection.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+nazifah n Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your real experience. I'd like to see if this INFP article is any help to you: www.personalityhacker.com/infp-personality-type/ Let me know in the comments under the article.

[@DaisyKahwenga]

I'm an infp and ever since I found out my type (our school's rcls did the Myers Briggs test as a fun activity to see what type of leaders we were which didn't help me that much (the leadership part) because I don't want to be a leader but I also don't want to be lead)) I've been more keen than ever to find out why I think the way I do and feel so much (even when I'm watching a movie I can feel the characters pain so much I feel like I'm the one going through it) and reading these comments I can finally say with a sigh of relief that I'm not alone. Especially with the communication part, I don't know if it's just me but whenever I try to explain something or give my point of view, I see the things I want to say visually and they're all random so it's a mission to connect the visuals together and try to translate it into words. Writing and reading are my sanctuaries because this world tends to get a little too much for me and it's nice to know I can escape it all in a land where people are free to just be themselves and that I can also create these places in my mind (I daydream a lot :)) sorry if this was too long but I'm just glad I'm not alone :') Oh and thank you for sharing your experiences and stuff, it really helped me a lot :)

[@Sick76Pack]

And im going to start explore the world.. ..tomorrow. :P

[@jessicaramos8593]

surprisingly accurate. The infp group feels like my family, I really do wish to travel and go out on missions, do something for a cause that resonates with my core but I haven't quite found it yet and external circumstances have prevented me from going out into the world, maybe even internal circumstances. I hope to have better financial circumstances in the future to travel, my position right now also prevents me from going too far, however, thats my dream. Hope I get to travel everywhere and help people and communicate with everyone. thanks for the vid

[@jlyng4385]

I can relate with you. I wonder hows your life been after 2 yrs now

[@njish1109]

👋 hello Hope things have gotten much better for you fella Infp

[@destielshiraz9205]

That is so true what they say about INFPs mostly being unmotivated unless they feel deeply convicted. So true!

[@vincentbedard4267]

Well, it looks like I'm an INFP but I havent found my inspiration yet. Gotta go out and explore I guess :I

[@anoopgopalakrishnan7823]

Same here..

[@Kooliow12]

I'm just sitting here reading lol

[@indigo4220]

I am also INFP and neither have I but I am sure you will find it somewhere somehow

[@anoopgopalakrishnan7823]

I continue to seek. And along the way, my understanding is deepening, that I just need to do what I must do in the moment that I understand in my heart of heart as true. And that is to make the sacrifice and take that risk to do what I know as right , in the MOMENT. And by doing that I can trust the moment to reveal myself to me and transcend me simultaneously. Also, even though I am defined a lot by my personality I am not confined by it. Every perceived hurdle is a path for me to understand myself more. Btw, if any INFP is reading this, please do not think of yourself as cowards regardless of how you have acted in your pasts. It may have become a cliche to you, but you have more opportunities to transcend your being through sacrifice and daring than many many other individuals. In almost every moment, you are standing in front of the door. Lean in to do what is right and just to your soul.. You are only feeling the fear of a caterpillar which doesn't yet experienced it's true nature and purpose.. Let life happen to you and take you forward. You are fine, more than you realize.

[@Alia-yc8fg]

Vincent Bédard mine is gender and racial equality i will fight wars for it give it all that i could .

[@xactruchvalley]

I just recently did the Myers Brigg system test and found out I was an INFP. At first I had a hard time accepting it but as I read more and more into it I can definitely agree. Learning about oneself is incredible, I can say it has helped me grow as a person.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Roque Vallecillo Great. What has been your biggest growth - Or your biggest take-away now that you are resonating with being an INFP?

[@xactruchvalley]

+Joel Mark Witt It has given me patience and understanding that things will not be as I envision them in my "perfect" ideal world. As my current profession is an Operations Manager it has helped me see that when it comes to conflict resolution I need additional help or time to visualize and plan for it.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Roque Vallecillo Cool. Thanks for sharing.

[@watsupchava3252]

I think I give the great advise. I very good at "managing" situations in other peoples life and solving problems for them. Im just shit at doing those things in my own life.

[@georginachirinos6208]

I feel so confortable in this comment section. Itñs amazinc i can relate to so much more people here than in most of my life

[@BleachH2F]

I'm an INFP and have struggled with low self esteem and depression, recently an old high school best friend of mine passed away and we had an argument just before she passed. I've finally stopped crying every day but have been more depressed than ever. everyday life seems immensely tedious and pointless and I've become annoyed with friends and family more easily and don't want to voice it too much because I know it will be an inconvenience others and I don't want them to think I myself am annoying. Its hard when you have so many strong emotions swirling inside yourself and you are afraid to voice them

[@jdk5126]

do things seem fake to you with friends and that annoys you?

[@BleachH2F]

Not really, I'm not very good at picking up on people's true intentions so I usually just assume they are pure, which is wrong because its not uncommon to be disappointed once they show their true colors

[@elizabethsmith9624]

INFPs can be very different from eachother because Fi is so subjective and personal to the person... enneagram 9 INFPs tend to be the ones who are more humanitarian, social cause-oriented. enneagram 4s tend to be your artsier weird bjork or fiona apples who really have no desire to lead anyone. I'm a 4w5 INFP and I suppose my mission IS authenticity... i'm always driven to become closer to myself in my work, and i hope people will relate but i don't expect it. it's kinda hard finding people who do embrace that kind of weirdness and it can be very lonely and frustrating. ENFPs tend to be more inspiring on a mass level (and with a stronger intention to inspire) from what I've noticed. I just kinda do my thing

[@joelmarkwitt]

Wemble Ton Thanks for the comment. I agree that Enneagram will influence how a personality type shows up to the world.

[@andthereisntone1]

Wemble Ton Joel Mark Witt I'm an INFP (male) + enneagram 5, with 4 wing. Any thoughts? Thanks.

[@joelmarkwitt]

andthereisntone Thanks for the question. I'm not sure I have all the info to help you directly on KZbin comments - but here is an article that may help get you started: www.personalityhacker.com/understanding-the-enneagram

[@andthereisntone1]

Joel Mark Witt Thanks, man. That was a great and elucidating read. Damn this stuff is interesting :)

[@zachariahussain9792]

We all infp's should get together sometime, maybe change the world or something :)

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Zacharia Hussain Good idea. You can start to unite over on our community at facebook.com/personalityhacker - we have a lot of INFPs there.

[@Skycube100]

I searched on famous people with INFPs, and discovered that a lot of them are authors and poets: if they can be great at poetry and writing, then we fellow infps can be good on a particular field (that we love)as much as they do, maybe even better.

[@jTiKey]

You hit me sooo hard with the "need to explore". I'm not a fan of going out and trying new things, mostly because I rarely truly like smth and at the end it's not worth the effort. But I notices that sometime I find a gem - mostly some tv series or video game - and I'm so obsessed with it that it lasts for ages. Thanks on this. This is something I missed. I need to get into the outside, find something I love and change the world :)

[@HoldupnWatch]

I don't know if this is an INFP trait, but recently I earned a 100% on an exam in one of my college courses (it's a Shakespeare class, so I don't expect to get 100s, as that is rare in Liberal Arts). When I saw the score, I felt super guilty about it, cause I thought,"what if someone else failed, or didn't do as well." :/ Then I went on and thought,"Maybe we should all help each other, and get an A on the final." But, I don't know, I get these ideas of helping, or saving people/the world, but am always too shy or not prepared to see it through. It's like my mind tells me yes, but my body tells me no. It's weird. Anywho, I also thought that I didn't deserve the score. Like, I thought/still think there was some favoritism and that it may not have been fair for someone else. I also keep thinking that my prof. just gave me the grade because, I don't know, because my thoughts are sometimes really jumbled and so they just skip over the test and "hand" me a grade without reading any of the ideas I shared. I don't know. Anyone else -- who has been classified as an INFP -- get these feelings?

[@magnefficientfragz4005]

yes skaespeare is an info too also start rapping or another form of music there is really nothing an I n f p can't master so let your skills grow naturally and everything you do will become easier spread the word to as many introverts as possible

[@AlleyAuroraVT]

pretty sure Shakespeare was an INFP btw

[@jens3098]

yeah, I often feel guilty and also criticize my own work way more strictly than my teachers.

[@kevinexperiences]

Magnefficient Fragz Sounds like Ni critic to me

[@Rebecca-pb7sm]

The accuracy of this is really insane! Listening to you explain your understanding of my personality type is the most understood I have ever felt. I am one of those INFP's that really struggles. To add to that part of your conversation, I also think so many of us INFPs struggle with motivation because it seems we are prone to depression. I am certainly not an MD, therapist, or an expert of any kind, and I could be totally off base, but every other INFP (myself included) that I have known personally has struggled with depression. Idk...just some food for thought.

[@Morbid_Ishtar]

I always felt like an alien. High School was a nightmare and I eventually shut down completely. I was always accused of being secretive or hard to get to know. I spoke a lot in safe spaces but revealed little.Even now I become a hermit whenever the woes of the world brings me down, but as soon as I heal the rose tinted glasses go back on. I have always described myself as a Misanthrope, but somehow have been happily married an ISTJ for 20 years and we have 3 wonderful children. Our son and youngest daughter are INFP's like their mum, our eldest daughter is an INFJ .Love to all the other dreamers out there, you are not alone

[@michaelmartin5177]

I had begun to think there was a lot of contrived and very narrowly defined categories in the MBTI thing and still do to a large degree. But the way you just described INFP, which is usually what test result I end up getting, was very interesting and a bit different than other descriptions. One part that resonated very much was the buried desire for leading and not wanting to stamp anyone down being a force that works against taking up any leading role. Wow. You two have something here. Thanks. I'll look into this more.

[@sophiafay9042]

This video is amazing, it really speaks to me. I think it's so true, that we secretly want to lead, but it's not the leadership itself, but only as a leader of a strong idea, you can show and feel the full devotion to it. It's all about the devotion for the cause. I with I'd know how apply this in real life, to achieve something honorable, however it can be really hard for an INFP to express themselves externally, in real life, not that I don't want to, I am just not quite sure how... it feels like wasting a potential a lot

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks inis mona for sharing.

[@mimikelly9374]

I have never read anything in any INFP articles, forums, etc. that has mentioned our fascination with leadership. But it is so very true. I will add to it though: another reason why I shy away from leadership (in a friend group for example) is because I know a good leader creates an environment in which the most friends in the group are happy. However, I am not like most people, so, it is difficult to lead when I know the group would be comfortable in an environment that is not an environment that perfectly aligns with how I am feeling at that point in time. And I also don't want to force others to be in an environment that doesn't perfectly align with how they're feeling. For example, if my friends and I went out to dinner and we come back to our apartment I know that most of them (extroverts) will want to sit around on the couches, drink, and talk. So a good leader would encourage and be excited about setting up this environment. But sometimes, after long periods of interaction, I just want to go to my room and hang out alone for a while. So in this situation, I either have to pretend like I am enjoying the company (which people can usually see through and get turned off by, which makes a bad leader) or go to my room (which people perceive as offensive, which makes for a bad leader...

[@foxyr4bbit]

"i also recommend the premium content" lmao

[@Lopez94621]

It feels nice to see so many people who experience the same feelings and thoughts I do on a day to day basis. This has made life for me a bit easier because now I understand why I do things and why I feel certain ways. I've gotten to some low points constantly tearing myself down and being afraid of change and taking risks but now I feel like there's hope for me.

[@SadBoyMP3]

When I heard the exploration part geez that's like my dream is to get out and travel the world, with a side goal of making humanity better( My Goals are high up there but not inpossible) Nice to hear accurate stuff about me its really spot on.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Soul Evans Great. Thanks for sharing what resonated. What's your next action step?

[@SadBoyMP3]

Joel Mark Witt Planning til I'm 18 then hitting the road I have things planned out in my favor, I just need to study and pass til I get there

[@thelight4340]

Hell yeah man. Let's become monks lol! Nah, I agree 100% I thought u was the only one to leave everything behind and explore every inch of the globe, gain full experience and use that to help others. INFP male here.

[@Sytara]

I just watched this and I cried with how true it rang. It made me realize how much I'm suffocating myself, how much I'm undermining my true potential. I mean, I have the potential of being a Joan of Arc, who was also an INFP! A real Hero, reluctant, but a Hero none the less! Thank you so much!

[@SafiiBox]

I've recently felt this 'conviction' really recently about pursuing a music career. I know for a fact that this is what I want to do, and I was trying to explain just how much I want this to happen to others but I can't find the words vocally. I know that through my music and who I am as an individual will make people realise what kind of world we live in. I want to be a force of social change. It sounds crazy to so many people, but I know I can make it happen.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks for sharing. I think INFPs are the best at communicating emotions through the arts. It will be awesome to see where this all takes you. Go for it.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Great advice andreagurrl - thanks for sharing! :-)

[@freyashipley6556]

Wow, this is so accurate!! I spent 20 years living in poverty so I could make art--winning awards and having great adventures and successes, but not making any money. I'm on the verge of homelessness now because of that, but at the time I didn't feel that I had a choice. It seemed like doing that art was the most important work in the world, the only profound gift that I had to give. Even as a little kid, I was deeply conscious of having just one life to live. It seemed to me like most adults settled and compromised way too easily, which terrified me. I promised myself that I would stay committed to what mattered. Now I'm trying to do something corporate to make enough money to live on, and it's hard to keep myself motivated.

[@Elvinauk]

To hear the stuff about leadership is fantastic, I struggle with my leadership role at times but I am at my best when I feel I am inspiring others, so yes, wow! Thanks so much!

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks for sharing this feedback. My guess is that Richard Branson (founder of Virgin) might be an INFP. His book "Losing My Virginity" is an interesting take on how he leads. It is a bit business focused - but still very powerful for me as an ENFP to read. Let me know if you read it and your thoughts.

[@Terrazona929]

Thanks for this... I’ve been struggling with my ‘lack of motivation’ or interest for a long time. I DO want to inspire others in my work. I don’t like meaningless superficial pursuits just to make money. This really helping me to take the next step of “exploration“.

[@mattschneider4473]

INFP = Master Race

[@commitmentphobe3045]

MattSchneider44 False, the ENTP is master race. Haha

[@username5026]

ENTP are cool, INFPs are ENTPs Supervisor type tho :) see socionics

[@KaraDep87]

Omg! Every sing thing was completed accurate. It is scary. This was so encouraging to hear!

[@christinamckibben1013]

am i the only INFP who cried watching this??? I have so much love to give to the world and i kill myself by isolation and being unmotivated (depresseded) I just needa get my ass up and do what I fucking do best and thats making art, singing, acting and doing what makes me happy. Damn.

[@BassistBob81]

I just found out today, that I am an INFP. My mind has been blown. It's really great to have all this information. To get a better understanding of yourself is an amazing thing.

[@yunahkwon6204]

To everyone who tells us to speak up, we’re screaming inside!

[@GlenfordSmith]

Antonia/Mark: The most on-target, brilliant articulation of the secret life of INFPs I've ever heard. Absolutely fascinating. Thank you.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Glenford Smith Thanks for the very kind words and support Glenford.

[@minusmimik8622]

I'm an infp and ever since I was 7 I had this world, it was my world and then my friend thought that it was really cool, so she helped me and now it's huge. my goal since the first year of high school was to become a games developer so I could make this world a game, so people could have the freedom to experience this world me and my friend had made. that's my passion and I'm so determined to make it a reality. do u guys think I would be able to do it one day?

[@MissRiuu]

As said in the video once you find something that clicks with your belief system and that you find really interesting, you will be unstoppable. There's nothing like an INFP to conjure up an imaginary world to improve other people's lives so go for it! Allowing people to escape through gaming is in my opinion really cool and noble. I hope that you reach your goal or that you discover lots of cool insights along the way :)

[@tanyacartwright5247]

I find the part about the leadership so accurate! even though i am a female leading is what im good at not so much coming up with ideas, but my personality type is interchangeable with INTP and it is most likely because i may have found a "mission" for myself. I've been told by a few people that i have the capability of eing a great psychic healer and that has triggered my exploration into those fields, i find that the habits and thought processes mentioned by both of you are so accurate! thanks for the help :)

[@fannymathers5295]

I'm an INFP and I was shocked how accurate this personality describes me. Like, in this video and on other sites it says that the INFP's can put all of their effort and hard work but ONLY ON THINGS THEY'RE INTERSTED IN. And WE DON'T CARE IF WE FAIL IN THE ONES WE'RE NOT INTERSTED IN. (For example: tomorrow I have an exposition and I have to make a 25 pages report but here I am reading and watching videos about my personality because I wanna know more about it) It also applies to my whole educational situation. I'm not good at physics, geometry, chemistry, precalculus, etc., and I always have to make recuperation tests on those classes. I know that I will but I don't care simply because they're subjects I'm not interested in!! it dies there. Even my classmates get really weirded out or even mad at this; they can't understand how can I be so chill knowing how bad my grades are. On the other handddd, I fucking love grammar and literature. I put my effort on those two classes (not too many effort actually because I'm really good at them hehe) I always get 90-100 on those classes and Ienjoy it! English is not my native language, I'm on a bilingual school. And guess what?? INFP's are really good at grammar, literature, linguistics and learning other languages! Plus they're really creative and guess who's really good at drawing? Yep, me. I fantazise way too much on class and never pay attention, I have my textbooks filled with my drawings. I'm a huge introvert aswell. Anyways, there are so many things that describe me ohmygod sorry I'm way too excited but it's just that I FEEL LIKE I'VE FOUND HOMEEE. HELLO FELLOW INFPS

[@DelphiSymbolicLink]

This is so me right here. 😮😅😂😂😂

[@Kms-kithy]

To finally know that there are so many like myself feels amazing!!!

[@kantui525]

What I find repellant about a leadership position is that I can't tend to the individual while leading a large amount of people. I know that everyone approaches things differently and would rather lead them individually. Also I don't think my idea of leading is the same as the commonly accepted term, I lead more through guidance because I want the person to figure things out for themselves so that those steps will perpetuate their own drive and confidence. I find it extremely difficult to handle more than two people at once, I lose focus and become careless with my advice. I can see it doing more damage than good. (I'm and INFP by the way)

[@joelmarkwitt]

Snail Thanks for the comment. One idea is to get really great at inspirational leadership. You cast a vision of something powerful and then let people take the action. Don't manage - just inspire. You could do this with crowds. Imagine standing in front of a crowd listening to your ideas. What would you tell them? You can inspire them to take self-leadership and action. You can do that. You can use words to get people into action. It won't look like it does for others - because you will be using your unique leadership style. Thoughts?

[@liv_eleri]

this whole comment section is incredibly relatable and understanding. i'm so happy i stumbled upon this

[@Lisa_Flowers]

You're right when you say we have a push pull relationship with leadership. I hate the idea of beating people into submission with management positions or structures and in an ideal world i would really like to lead from a basis of inspiration alone. Of course, realistically speaking, it is no where near that black and white: structures exist for a reason and if someone (preferably not me, because if i can, i want to 'lead' from behind the scenes) can maintain a balance between encouraging personal interest and investment into a shared goal with structure and management at play, i would be a very happy INFP.

[@ItsMrQuacker]

I found out I was an INFP yesterday, I'm extremely happy about this I always loved making others happy and I want to work with nonprofit charities in the future.

[@joelmarkwitt]

+Cwaiig Cool. Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@zzulm]

We have problems with authority figures, specifically if they are unfair. I'm still figuring out my way with big egos because they love praise and it doesn't feel right 😂

[@katastrophekris]

I'm thankful to both of you for sharing this knowledge and your deep thoughts on the matter. It truly has been helpful. I'm an INFP who has known about my desire to lead since I was a child. I've been SOOO frustrated with strict authority figures with rigid rules and expectations MY WHOLE LIFE. I turned my inner turmoil into palatable poetic verse in high school. Coming from a lower middle class blue collar background, I basically compromised with my ENTJ father and became a registered nurse AFTER I pursued my passion for feminist theory through a degree in gender studies. I didn't truly allow my artistic heart to fully breathe again until recently when I transferred out of med-surg to a psych hospital, as well as, signed up for a class in poetry at my local community college. Your podcasts definitely help me to feel more VALIDATED and not so teary-eyed-hippy-invisible-princess.

[@Ankara_Solaris]

I'm thinking, as an INFP myself, that we just want to be revolutionists of some sort. Hence the will to inspire and get the ball rolling without feeling the need to take charge in keeping the momentum going.

[@EliteSpartan906]

Kind of like planting a seed?

[@AliAhmed-te7tf]

Sonja Chisnall as a Muslim INFP , I was very well-known religious reformer in arabic social media.Changing the Muslim mindset from literalism to ( mysticism) .My motto was ( the self is a trap) , the famous Sufi Maxim , I read hundered Islamic books only to be able to be challenge the stagnant religious thoughts. Don't worry the INFP's do exist in other part of the world and we are relentless. the reason people loved my message of hope and change is precisely because I was always sensitive, considerate and able to manuvere ( theologically speaking) without hurting anyone's feelings.

[@macoeur1122]

Wow. This is the second video I've seen you guys do on INFPs and I'm so impressed at your understanding of them! As an INFP female, let me just say that I really have no desire what-so-ever to be a "leader" in the sense of identifying as a "manager", but as Joel Mark Witt said about "inspiring others"....I will often do this when I see someone "stuck" in one way or another....feeling it's the "correct" way (not to mention the easiest way) to help them get unstuck...and don't mind "leading" in that sense. I'm motivated by the discomfort of seeing people struggle unnecessarily, but don't want to be in any "position" where I'm expected to solve the problems of others...I don't believe that's even possible.

[@Galgus2000]

I completely relate to feeling unmotivated about things unless it is something important, or at least creative in a fun way. And the bit about cloistering, though I feel strangely bold when defending something on principle.

[@angelus_solus]

I hitch hiked 100 miles in the dead of winter to see a girlfriend when I was 17. At the age of 23, I hitch hiked 371 miles that summer and stayed up almost 40 hours to see my wife to be. I know about being unstoppable when “it matters”.

[@fen4554]

Always kinda rips you up inside when someone describes something you struggle with such clarity. Maybe its what I finally needed to hear to get exploring.

[@TheRealLXMason]

I agree completely with everything you said. As an INFP I have this desire to change the world and just bring about so much good but I also don't really like talking to others about it because I kind of don't want anyone to try to stifle my ambition or think I'm incapable. I just really want to help people and do so much good, as ridiculous as it might sound!

[@laxman12312]

Finding myself increasingly annoyed by people when they don't fit my ideals and its like so depressing sometimes. Constantly ask myself why I can't just be happy with their existence.

[@Daniel-dl6cu]

Yeah, I've been finding it increasingly harder to make friends because I feel like my standards for people are too high. We just have to realize no one is perfect...I can certainly relate completely to what you say.

[@LearnAccountingLightningFast]

I’m an INFP CEO, you both nailed it. Such a nicely produced presentation.

[@BakedUp]

INFPs, have you EVER thought that maybe you were an alien? From another dimension???

[@lauranoonan_]

BakedUp not gonna lie I’ve definitely had thoughts that I have some type of otherworldly imprint in my dna, the thoughts that pop in to my head would turn most people off to even considering trying to understand where I’m coming from. I feel most would think I sound crazy and just shut me down because they can’t grasp the fact that it could be real, maybe out of fear or just ignorance. Anyways I don’t even feel like I’m a product of my own parents since my values and the essence of what makes me who I am is completely different from what they stand for and believe in. I felt like a outsider in my own family let alone other people in the world. I’ve also been told stories that my grandpa has had a possible ubduction experience where he lost about 6 hours of time. Really makes me wonder... wouldn’t that be incredible though! My boyfriend is an INFJ and he’s pretty much the only one I can tell all my weird thoughts too and he gets me completely. He also believes he’s traveled to different realms when he dreams and meditates sometimes. I’m lucky to have him otherwise I can’t seem to relate to almost anyone.

[@ferreribabe94]

Nope, I just think that we are the ones trying to be true human beings, in a world where most people have clearly forgotten how to be true human beings.

[@acidraindrops27]

That last bit about leading, as an infp male, is very true for me. I was working at an automotive shop, and still am, as a technician and our service writer brought so much disharmony I could barely take. He constantly shifted blame around and made his stress everyone else's. He was later fired and I took over the position and it felt amazing! To be able to create an environment that I knew my fellow empoyees and the customers enjoyed. Also I love my boss and care about his future and his familys so that helps to make it into a personal mission for me. Great video!

[@hanyuuchama93]

Wow, accurate. I'm literally planning to be a career missionary and the conviction to do that is what drove me to graduate from college.